so he asked, he says, for you, he says, probably this film opened uh, a window into cinema, i say, you know, a window into cinema was opened for me when i was a child, our great directors, began to include her, including your dad, vladimir minshov, well, well, well, and so on, i say, so when... he asks me, how did this idea come about? i say, this idea, it sits in us, this idea of ​​humanity, i told him then that jim, the world is tired of murders, of violence, of the blood that hollywood splashes on screen, show life, show love, my words were one to one, and he spent the rest of the time, then we flew to... sat

and was silent, thinking all the time, that is , this spark, it was planted then, and then it began to develop, and what kind of world do we see on the titanic, is this a model of the ark, on which there is a third class, that is , the poor, there is a high society that controls everything, are these echoes of marxist ideas, or vice versa, this is according to the interpretation of the late 9, in that jim, so to speak, was with us on this topic of conversation, he tried to show, generally speaking, what was happening then, as close as possible to that situation, well, he studied the archives, everything there, he had people working there, he had a special firm, where historians sat, there, computer scientists, etc., so, they dug up different facts, on this very basis, that is... as close as possible

to bring what people will see on the screen to what was happening then in the twelfth year, well, i was at the premiere, well, and after the premiere i flew to memphis, in memphis i have my son was studying at the university, my youngest son, well, so, uh, i didn’t fly, i say, you say , have you seen the movie titanic, no, no, i haven’t, i just came out, i say, well, let’s go, we went to the movies, the movie theater... it was absolutely full, everything was packed, well , we bought some tickets there, i bought tickets later and sat down, we watched this movie, the movie ended and no one gets up, people are sitting and crying, it was the first time i saw americans like that in the theater, the whole theater was sitting, then they turned on the lights, i look, everyone’s faces are tear-stained, everyone they cry, "look, look what jim did with

the american people, the movie is designed for this, for emotions, yes, but it was done so masterfully that it, so to speak, evoked such emotions in people, then we had another conversation with dim, before we started filming, the thing is that at one time the titanic was made, well..." an object for demonstrating technical capabilities, that is, when they found the titanic, it was in 1985, bob balar found, well, there was new equipment, new ones there hydroacoustic search equipment, everyone was going to the titanic, so they were looking there and demonstrating their work, well, it was a kind of advertising. so, when jim and i

were talking, he says: well, he says, my task is to break this point of view, that this, well, this is an object, the titanic, this is an object on the bottom, which everyone knows and which attracts everyone's attention, and that with this equipment you can detect such things, that's what it led to, but after the film it all ended, but it began other: we were the first with the worlds that began tourist diving, actually the general pathos of cameron's films is the technology of how to dumb down humanity, is it so or not? i would say so, yes and no, on the one hand, it is indeed a fairly harsh assessment of civilization, of course, but moreover, cameron every time, no matter what material he works with, translates it to the level of high tragedy, almost ancient.

the films that you listed, he gives this hope, how does it end, i repeat, titanic, reunification of lovers in essence, defeat of those who wanted to profit from this love story, if this is not hope, then what then let's look at strangers, not at strangers, at strangers, it was very difficult to shoot after ridley scott, but the transformation happened, and there is the same thing, remember, because what are the secret pitfalls? excuse the inevitable metaphor after titanic, what are the secret pitfalls, that one of the heroes is going to bring alien larvae to earth, and this does not happen, because there are people who make a choice, this is about that, not looking at the desire to make money on dangerous

experiments, and we remember in this case already the wonderful avatar, which also begins with an absolutely dystopian, almost post-apocalyptic picture of a dying earth, a dying world, it turns out that the worst thing that is on our planet is going to conquer a completely different world, to spoil, remember all these terrible careers, as if everything is for the sake of resources, everything turns out for the sake of, excuse me that cameron, who so convincingly shows us military actions on the screen, is actually a pacifist and anti-militarist,

these are the films that we wanted to discuss today, this is truly the best there is, and no matter how you look at it, but his ability to draw us into his story, to saturate it with details that make us believe from the alien, to the avatar and the titanic, to make us rethink ourselves, formally, as you rightly said, within the framework of mass culture, entertainment cinema, when all this, all this is like... this wave subsides, you are left and think, what am i left with, who am i, where are we heading, he takes us through absolute zero, he poses, in essence, existential questions to us, what is called the liminal stage, symbolic death, he takes a risk,

he succeeds, remember not even albbek terminator, in principle the opposition of a supermachine and a girl, and a very fragile human. there, firstly, clearly appears what we talked about cameron avoided in his best films, he created his own idea, he never adjusted to ideology, and here we see such a short course in a new ideology, some elements of a new ethic and

as if some topical statements were built in, in my opinion, yes, forgive me cameron, whom we certainly respect, but our amphibian man was more beautiful, here - in my opinion, a very beautiful picture, unbelievable, i understand why he returned to the water, because the ocean does not let him go, the heart of the ocean, if you like, cameron's heart is in the ocean, this is very much felt, there is no escape, but in my opinion, the second avatar lacks what was in the first. the persuasiveness of the world, the detail and awakening in the audience and the desire to enter this world and the desire to empathize with the heroes. thank you very much, today we talked about james cameron, and this was a special edition of the podcast cameron 70, dedicated

to the anniversary of the birthday of director james cameron, director of the films avatar, terminator and, of course, titanic, which we talked about today with our guests. thank you. hello, this is the psyche podcast, my name is natalia losyeva and we continue to tread the paths to happiness and harmony for our heroes, and your life, dear ones. our today heroine christina came with a problem that is familiar to many women, she thinks that she is not beautiful enough, well, not elegant enough, maybe some parts of her body are not good enough, that's how it seems to her. we will figure out how to live with this and how to love yourself, and we will figure it out with

the expert of our today's issue , clinical psychologist nikita yanychkin. hello, christina, hello, what a wonderful smile you have? thank you, well , tell us, what did you come to us with? there is a feeling of insecurity, which is accompanied constantly, so it turns out that... this has some echo even in personal life and not only at work and everywhere, that is, there are some complexes that most likely were born in childhood, as in many of us all this appears in school - in relationships between classmates, maybe there at the institute between classmates, so there are moments that are quite sensitive for me, that is, this mainly concerns appearance and maybe a little concerns some internal qualities, that is... there are some strengths, yes, which i know, but there are very few of them, and rather i

see them, that is, and when they tell me, others may see them, but when they tell me some compliments, instead of it somehow raising my self-esteem, on the contrary, it makes me feel, yes , it makes me feel some kind of awkwardness all the time, sometimes i just want to , like, you know, fall through the ground for a while, it just always seems that... there is some kind of catch, that is, well, it can't, i can't be so good, i can't to be so beautiful, when people laugh at some joke in the room, you always think that it’s as if they’re laughing at you, well, well, i’m exaggerating now in general, the situation as a whole, there are some aspects of appearance that don’t quite suit me, to put it mildly, but honestly, resorting to some kind of surgical method, this is not about me, because i will understand that i’m deceiving myself, because it’s not my genetic. yes there, and i will understand that i’m deceiving others, because it’s not my genetic, in general

in fact, i am completely satisfied with the way my life is going, i love my husband very much, we have a small child, that is, in this regard , everything is fine, but there are situations when i still feel somehow not handsome enough, not with a good body, not intellectually developed enough. are they enough for whom, for you or for someone? well, and for myself, probably, first of all, that is, looking in the mirror, i am not satisfied with everything specifically for me, that is, as i imagined, and what, for example, does not suit you i am satisfied, i am not a little satisfied with my legs, for me they seem too big, that is , these long beautiful legs you can’t eliminate are long, they are quite dense in the hips, so i tried to lose weight, that is, i lost quite a lot of weight in 2 months, somewhere around 12 kg. that is, but at the same time i was all like a skeleton, and my legs were still almost one to one, as they are,

that is, i realized that by losing weight, i will only kill my health, but i will not bring what i need exactly to the form of the picture that i imagine in some ideal, this is you are not satisfied, you are not beautiful enough for yourself, and your husband likes everything, well, in any case, i have not heard that there is something he does not like about your appearance, but it always seems to me that something is still a little bit wrong, because... it often happens that people around you say that you have small breasts, but he is a man, already an adult, he is an accomplished man, you understand that at some point he will want to have a woman with beautiful big breasts nearby for a moment, who tells you this, yes, nikita, figure it out, because my brain has already exploded, i see in front of me, i see in front of me, well, rather familiar, but there were moments, wait, let's do it this way, before i hand you over to the expert, after all. i will make my interim conclusion, yes, i see in front of me a beautiful, harmonious, bright

young woman, who has the feeling that she does not look in the mirror at all, in a normal one, or looks in some mirror with a distorted coating, because what you describe from the point of view of your dissatisfaction, that, what i see before my eyes, listen, well i'm a grown woman, you know, i can be objective, it's absolutely incompatible and doesn't work. well, in general, the problem of self-esteem is a problem of our past, because a child, when he is born, does not yet evaluate himself in any way, that is, everything that he takes as an assessment, he takes from significant relatives, first of all, this is our mom and dad, this is a basic figure in the psyche that forms our attitude to ourselves, other people, to the world as a whole, then these are grandparents, brothers and sisters, teachers, classmates, and the quality of our

relationships, the nature of the messages they sent us. depends - in many ways on our perception of ourselves, that is, if, let's say, our loved ones were, as they now say, toxic, yes, that is, so poisonous, critical, overly demanding, if they compared us, let's say, with our brothers and sisters to our disadvantage or with some other people, well, from the category look over there, there's your mother's friend's daughter, yes-yes-yes what a... she's great, yes, unlike you there, then of course, this one the experience is traumatic, and the psyche is overwhelmed in these places and that means - these so-called intrajects are sent, yes, these casts, these imprints of this experience are displaced

to the lower floors of the psyche in the unconscious, from there they then break through in the form of, let's say, these neurotic symptoms, on the contrary, that is, if, let's say, significant loved ones were loving, accepting, that is , they gave a sufficient amount of unconditional acceptance, that is, unconditional acceptance is when i love you just like that, not for that, what you are, not for what you do, not for how you look, but simply because you exist, in this matter, concerning appearance, here is the upbringing of a girl, the perception of her appearance. here, of course, the father has a big role, it is much bigger than the mother's role, that is, dad has enough, well, especially adolescence, yes, when a girl becomes a woman, when she grows up, this feedback from the male world is very important to her, the representative, the first representative of which is dad,

this feedback is important, when he sends a signal to her that she is beautiful, that she is smart, here he says: daughter, look at your eyes, your hair, your legs, your hands, then she grows up to be a self-confident woman, that is, she understands that she is beautiful, she has it all in the subcortex there inside the foundation of her psyche, she does not doubt it, so i have a question for you, what can you say about relationships, about the nature of relationships with your parents or other... loved ones, no, the relationship is very good, that is, i have a very good relationship with my father, trusting, that is, we can directly entrust something very-very-very close, in this regard, i definitely can’t remember at all that there was any negativity on his part, but i always perceive that close people in almost 90% of cases will

say that you are handsome, good, and so on, and i really was exactly. like love, just like you said, and it just seems to me that well, these are relatives, they won’t tell you that something is wrong with you, and you lived with parents, or maybe there were grandparents, aunts, uncles, some others, i lived with, well, sort of with my parents, elementary school, preschool life was with my grandmother, with my grandfather, because well, my parents , by their profession, they simply couldn’t physically, they were constantly running from one city to another, military personnel. and so that i wouldn’t be tormented like that , constantly going back and forth from school to school, from school to school, they decided that it would be better for me to finish elementary school normally, and when they get housing, i’ll be fine from the fifth grade middle school and high school in one place, please clarify, here is the period of being without mom and dad, how long was it, when he started elementary school, it turns out, well, somewhere around six years old,

approximately so, but it could be there, for example, for months ... four to five, sometimes for six months, that's it, but in the summer i kind of saw them, i already went here to the moscow region and lived here, accordingly i saw them more often, namely when the school year, i saw them mainly on new year's, and do you remember how you explained their absence to yourself, i knew that they have an important profession, which they physically simply cannot, because they work hard from morning till night, and they work hard not only, well, not for themselves, but also for me. and do you by any chance have a feeling that you can be abandoned, abandoned by someone? well

, there is such a feeling, yes, yeah, who is this someone? well, who can leave you now? well, at the moment, probably, if we talk, then probably about my husband, well, if so, well, for me now he is the closest person, it is clear that already , as if i have already grown up, the thought arises that mo...

it means i'm not good enough, because i see the children around me, how they frolic with their dads, moms, this childish explanation arises, it's very common, that if they are not around, it means i'm not like that, because if i were like that, then they would be around, and since they are not around, it means something is wrong with me, it means i'm guilty, and... look, you mentioned that today there is this idea, yes , that i can be left by my husband and it doesn't just arise like that, but it was

obsessive, it tormented you, a nightmare she said, a nightmare, yes, and a constant nightmare, in general, most likely, it has to do with the trauma of rejection that was in childhood, now you and i understand that they worked, that they would... that they loved you, but then the conclusions were completely different, most likely, so such a traumatic event, as i said, yes, it can be displaced into the lower layers of the psyche, and from there break through in the form of symptoms, these fears, these dreams, well, how does such a transfer to a husband occur, that is, i was once abandoned, it was painful, and today i'm waiting for this catastrophe to happen again, this... condition again, it haunts me, that it will happen again, so that means there is such a transfer to the figure of the husband. this is a psyche podcast,

and we continue the conversation with our heroine kristina and the expert, clinical psychologist nikita yanochkin. are you jealous of your husband? well, jealousy , yes, does exist, and i think it is all connected with self-esteem, that is , as i understand, that you can't be a man...

unhappy alone and so on, that is, so that this doesn't happen, that is, so that i remained a personality, remained a strong personality, but i can't quite do it, because again, all these low self-esteem, these complexes , mostly coming from... school, that the chin is not right, there are no breasts, there, the legs are thick, there is something else, all this sits , it turns out that it seems to me, who needs me like this then, kristina, wait. are

you discussing with your husband such a hypothetical possibility that you will live separately? well, there were moments when, due to some emotions, there again, against the background of my jealousy, i need to keep everything under control, it is clear that since he is an adult man, but i think you can, yes, he is older, i think you can understand, yes, when there is no personal space at all and you need to control everything everywhere, so that every step, this is how you do it, well, yes, i am that kind of person, he gives reasons, huh? honestly, no, it's just that he is very, very sociable, that is, very communicative, objectively there are no reasons , and what triggers you, can you tell us to say something to describe the situation, when just once bombed, sometimes, sometimes somehow emotions, that is, here i came up with it myself, i lost everything myself, here i already got all the results, i already cried myself and i’m already sitting like this, everything has already changed life, everything is different already, well, that is, these houses.

i’m just not such an open person, well, not so much, and maybe i have some feeling of envy that i can’t be as open, well, or, for example, not that i can’t, but i don’t allow, it turns out that as if i i compare, yes, i can’t allow myself to, but he was always like this, that is, right from a young age, and i’m trying to overcome this in myself, because i understand that well, i liked him exactly like this, and if he changes, accordingly, he will already be

a different person, well, there was nothing really tough, because i could give in, that is, i’m quite a feisty girl, there, yeah, i could hit, so there were yes, moments when, that is, it was like, the class was always divided into two parts, those that, on the contrary, caught on because there there was some sympathy, and another part of the class, which was hooked, because it wanted to somehow cause some pain , bring to tears, so pick at it

, that is, say that, well... in appearance, is there something that you like, well, nails, probably, nails and everything, but they are very strong, they were inherited from dad, they are very strong and well, in principle, there are never any problems with them, and that's all, well, maybe hair, but it has lost a little thickness since childhood, well, well, maybe hair, yes, the main nails, hair in general.

there is a color that suits me, a little dissatisfied with the asymmetry, probably, i also got to the bottom of it, in short, in general, from everything that has been said, and i can highlight two large main lines, two problems, that is , this is a problem of self-esteem, low acceptance, so-called, yes, self-acceptance , the second problem is jealousy of the husband, this fear, and the supposed betrayal of the fact that he will leave, leave, and i want to emphasize that ... there are no objective reasons that he will leave, that he will cheat, in general, they are not there, that there is most likely a neurotic nature, this problem has, in general, which is generated by low self-esteem, this low

self-acceptance, that is why it is necessary to develop self-worth, as they say today, and this is a process of will, that is, you need to do it, it will not arise by itself, that is, you need to do it. to do this, firstly, i would still recommend entering personal therapy in order to work through all these things with a specialist, and therefore, to sort out past traumatic experiences, with parents, with this story, when they left, with the nature of the relationship with grandparents, there we also need to look at what was happening there, and of course, of course , this story with classmates who talked about... the chin, which now pops up periodically, yes, that is, this is their job, most likely, so we also need to go there and put things in order there, but this is all within the framework of therapy, as for now, what we can do, let's

imagine a situation that there is a girl in front of us, her name is christina, she is, well, let's say, 14 years old, so we look at her and you look at her look, first of all, she... is crying, she is upset, she thinks that she is ugly, that she has some defects in her appearance, that she will not be accepted with these defects, that she will be rejected, here she stands so upset, does not know what to do, so let's imagine that you are next to her, and you are such a good fairy godmother, such an adult woman, which you are now, very much do... loving her, what would you say to her about her concern? well, i would probably say don't be upset, it doesn't matter there is no point in listening to the opinions of others, that is, from the point of view of support, it is difficult

, to be honest, because you have not done this with yourself, that is why it is difficult, you need to learn to do this, look, it could look like this: my dear, you are... a very beautiful girl, i love you very much, you have such beautiful eyes, you have such beautiful hair, you have such beautiful hands, legs, you are generally a very beautiful girl, and do not believe what others say about you when they criticize you, because you are a reflection of divine beauty, we are all a reflection of divine beauty, each in our own way, and you are beautiful in your own way, and i consider you beautiful. and i will always consider you beautiful, always, and no matter what happens to you, no matter what you look like, for me you will always be a beauty and a smart girl, i really want you to know this, you can always count on me, i love you very much, i will always be

for you, something like that, you understand, this part of you, this attitude towards yourself is something you really lack, you have an emptiness there, you need to grow this fairy in yourself. turn it on more often in such moments, and as for these kids who made fun of you somewhere, yes, criticizing your appearance, let's imagine these kids, such a collective image, in psychology it is customary to say an internal critic, such an internal critic, who is dissatisfied, he is always like your legs are not like that, you have this there, this, he is always starting this song inside you, that is, there is a little girl, and a fourteen-year-old, and there is inner critic, so toxic, who is constantly dissatisfied with her appearance, let's try to imagine how this fairy would talk to this critic, what would she tell him, well, she would probably

say that - get out, so that i don't see you here anymore, she is very beautiful, she is smart, she is a beauty, she is a wonderful girl. and you are toxic, poisonous, a ghoul, so you have nothing to do here, so get out of here, so that i don't see you here anymore, and as soon as you appear, i will come and knock you on the spot. got it, that's it this is how you need to react to the appearance of these ideas, drive them away, do not accept them, that is , there must be some discipline of the mind, you understand, you do not need to accept everything, what i think, because there is a lot of garbage there, so you need to sift through such a sieve, learn to recognize this critic,

that is, as soon as he starts his favorite song about how ugly you are, you immediately send him far away, or rather, the devil sends you, and you will feel, you will see that he will leave, that this state, it will pass, it happens sometimes that you stand there in front of the mirror, yeah, it seems like, well, it seems like nothing, it seems like nothing, and then you think, oh my god, you're like a narcissist, you start to immediately bring yourself back to earth, and you shit, well, you can't tell yourself, it's the ghouls who are dragging you to earth, nikita just told you everything, who is this? so don't worry, you're biased in that direction, you still have to get to zero to go far into the plus, you still have to get to at least zero in this matter, so don't even worry, you won't spoil this porridge with this butter, i assure you, it's just right for you once again this is missing, that is, you are not saying that you are the most beautiful, yes , narcissism is the most beautiful person, so what? you are smart, beautiful, you are a reflection

of divine beauty, you reflect it in your own way, like every person. this is a psyche podcast, and we continue the conversation with our heroine kristina and expert clinical psychologist nikita yanochkin. you can watch all the podcasts on the website of the first channel 1tv.ru. now about comparing yourself with others, about breasts, about all this, right?

questions that i am working with today, now there is some experience there, tomorrow, i hope, if i develop, god willing, then somehow i will also become even cooler in this matter, so at each of these stages, at any one, there will definitely be someone cooler than me in terms of profession, that is, there will definitely be people who will be more erudite, more well-read, more prepared, yes, they will know more techniques like... some techniques of everything else, at each of these stages

there will always be someone who will be inferior to me, therefore , comparing yourself with others is generally an extra category in the consciousness, it is not needed, it is poisonous, it needs to be thrown out, that is , what do i need to do, why do i need other psychologists when it comes to me, and i can, for example , ask myself the question, yes, what do i need to do to be cooler, what kind? i need to read books, what additional education to get in order to better understand my profession, that is, i generally don’t need other people for this, in order to develop, the same thing applies to appearance, why do you need this world of these models of some kind, that is, some artificially created stereotypes, when there is you, here is your vegetable garden, roughly speaking, here god gave you your appearance, your body? your soul, here is your hair, your eyes, here is yours, here is yours

, develop this, decorate this, because, you see, it is not her appearance that makes a woman ugly, it is precisely these outbursts of jealousy that make her ugly, this hanging on a man, because it gets boring, it destroys relationships, when a person is dependent, when he is essentially in such a stuck slave state, he becomes uninteresting, because the personality is erased, and the personality is freedom and reason, in a dependent state we are crazy and not free, therefore such a person, he gets boring over time. that's why this self-fulfilling prophecy happens, absolutely right, when he really leaves the husband from such a woman, who has become too much, that's why - a woman is painted, if she takes care of herself, if she respects her man, if she takes care of him, if she is affectionate, then in

general this is quite enough, yeah, well what, christina, has there been some light at the end of the tunnel or some highway. about the comparison of jealousy, there were some very good trigger hooks, i will try to work through them, i am sure that you will be happy, i am sure that you will really appreciate yourself, no matter how cliché it may sound, and let go of those shackles on your legs from your childhood, from your adolescence, which still prevent you from being happy, well, and we in the psyche podcast will be and...

an accepting, caring adult, that's in such questions of self-esteem, this is a very useful thing and i think that everyone should master it, well, that is, when you remember some episode from childhood, at that moment you can use this technique, yes, that is, go down there to yourself

as a child as an adult and protect, calm, explain, first you need to acknowledge the feelings that a person experiences, that is, i see that you are afraid. i have never done this with myself, yeah, so it takes time to get used to this attitude towards yourself, and this will bear fruit, when it is possible to harm with such a technique, only when we support our infantilism irresponsibility, when well , there you are suffering, well, suffer,

as if passively, i allow you to suffer, i suffer, i allow you to do nothing, to suffer, as if and in no way to take responsibility for your life, after all. for harmony, such a harmonious state there must be a mother, an internal one, this affectionate, caring one, and a father who motivates for activity, when mother has worked off consolation, but at the same time you let's go get up and do certain things there, that is, this is already dad, and as in the case of christina, we can see that seemingly unrelated things between your current adult problem and what happened to you in childhood suddenly turn out to be connected and therefore and... yes, of course, that is, as if you don’t even understand, perhaps, how it works, but your current adult problem can submit, as if by itself, in fact, because you went down into your past and the root cause, the root cause, solved it.

hello, dear friends, in religion there is a concept of ecumenism, it is a movement in christianity, and now in the world in general, when its representatives propose, well , stop dividing into sects, into movements, there is one god, so let's serve him, christ, there is also musical ecumenism, this is shulkoper, arkachy, gentlemen, this is the bolshoi theater, this is voltorno. bolshoi theater, and this is a jazzman, and this is a folklorist, it is fantastic, how can there be one, the only moscow person, to be the personification. ecumenism, he is here, of course, not alone, but let's first get you interested in the sounds, and then we'll slowly unravel the whole

story: arkady shilklopper and his friends, hold on.

first of all, arkasha, what is this? ordinary alpine rock, ordinary, ordinary, well, as usual, there are also unusual alpine

horns, a little longer. yes, well, of course, tv viewers are interested in the question, how did you bring it here? it's being sorted out, it's being sorted out, fortunately, this is my sixth alpine rock, which consists of eight parts, my first consisted of two parts, amazing, then alpine appeared. from three parts, from four, this one is the most convenient, the most comfortable, in the sense that with it you can now calmly that it is of such length, this is an extremely important characteristic, the length determines the tonality, that is, the overtone system, well, you noticed that there are no valves, no valves, pumps , holes, no, a hole, now even the last name sounds like an important mechanical component. yes, but in the jewish tradition, shilklopper was the housemaster in the synagogue, that is, he was responsible for the candles, to