his first coach in yekaterinburg to some more professional, for example, another coach, also in yekaterinburg, then i somehow considered it some kind of betrayal or some kind of lack of faith in my current coach, then it was in yekaterinburg that my very first, in any case, everyone still thinks that this is long and sila, this is moscow, no way, sorry. so i moved to petersburg, no, well, well, in dancing, indeed, yes, in dancing, absolutely right, of course, moscow, then a plus for us, we are yekaterinburg residents, we are special, well, well, then i was still small, i did nothing i didn't really know anything about the world of figure skating, what it really is, i only knew that moscow is in moscow, yes, moscow has power, and then, based on this stereotype, i ... moved to moscow, of course, now

that i've grown up, having seen a lot, i understand that there are amazing specialist coaches all over our country, in fact. for those who have just joined us, with us in the podcast is a free program, sofia leontyeva and daniil gorelkin. and how did you find each other already, that is, you are from two different ural cities came to moscow at different times, somehow fate brought you together, how did it happen, when? i came to see rina vladimirovna alexander vasilyevich, dania had been skating for a year and they only had another partner, it so happened that this partner got sick she could no longer do figure skating, and i came to see him with my former partner, so we are oh, it's just a boy, well, no longer famous, andrey, hi, just if he doesn't skate now, no, he doesn't skate. no,

no, no, here, and we skated with him alone day, after training, the coaches called, there to my mother, they said, could you please stay in moscow for one more day, only only me, now without a partner, accordingly, the next day i go out on the ice, and andrey from kirov is with you, yes, yes, i go out on the ice and there the coaches say, here dania, sonya, skate together. and what, what was dania's first reaction? well, i was sick for 3 weeks then, it was my first day when i went out on the ice, and i still felt pretty bad, then i had a fever there, with everything else, some kind of virus grabbed me, and then i went out, and i look at sonya, i'm like, who is this, oh my god, just don't touch me, please, let anyone skate, whoever wants to, don't touch me, that's it, and then i also found out that... and my partner

, my former partner, got sick and most likely won't go out anymore and won't be able to skate due to her health, when the coaches call us and say, let's skate together, i'm like, with her, with her, what are you saying, i would have skated with anyone else rushed, just smashing the opponents ' faces, such a partnership, so then we were young and youthful. and stupid and stupid, here's the plus , after all, we looked completely different then, we were so funny, we were, we recently looked through our photos and we were just like that, i don't know what else to call it, not barbie and ken, not yet barbican, i 've been like that since childhood, excuse me, nothing like that, excuse me, excuse me, but i went too far, i really got angry in vain, now you'll fight, no, no, that's it. that's our classic, in general then i

like that, well, nothing special, nothing special, okay, but no, i appreciated the fact that a tall, beautiful girl, stately, plus a blonde, i'm such a blonde, but you don't like blondes, all the blonde fans unsubscribe from me to you, no, well, it's a matter of taste, for example, i never liked it, well, how could i not like it, well... i liked another type a little, there's a dark one, yes, but my wife is a blonde, it 's like the heart, you can't dress it up, no, but let's put it this way, the fact that in any case, the heart, yes, there 's nothing you can do about it, but then i'm just like that, to me, i was still little then, and i was like, blonde, stupid, of course, i thought in stereotypes, i thought then, after all, i matured quite a lot, plus, when we started communicating with sonya, i realized that i was terribly.

wrong, that's why she's not stupid, and the kirov accent didn't bother you, it's just that when i came to petersburg, my first partner didn't want to skate with me, she said, he speaks like a fool, she just said so, no. something no, there was no such thing, but even then, when we just became a couple, i completely accepted who she was, in general, that's it i didn't try to change anything from the point of view of what kind of person sonya is, that is , i even have this principle that i won't change people, because if i like a person, then i like him the way he is, because well, i myself have also encountered many times... things when people tried to change something in me, and i treated these people completely differently, yes, as i thought then, and despite the fact that we were no children then, and some quarrels, in any case, she is an amazing person, and i know her

such as she really is, and i am completely satisfied with everything, sonya, well, and you saw dania, a handsome man, a muscovite, i don’t know what else... he’s from yekaterinburg, i saw dania, i thought, well, okay, if i need to skate with him, then of course i’ll skate, the coaches told us there, please ride, a lap of runs, and we stood in a pair there and he was like, yeah, who gives who a hand, that’s who, that’s where it became clear who the leader in the pair was, no, no, she just beat you here, yeah, the funniest thing on the ice, when we skate, it’s always like that. they said: please ride, there is a circle of runs in pairs, we stood in a pair, went and dani was like, the crossing over jackson, he said it somehow on the ponats, i was like, my god, that was so rude, who am i going to ride with now, but literally

10 minutes pass, everything, we were already riding there, laughing, discussing, what are you there, where are you from , yes, yes, we were chatting, oh, yes, okay, you are from kirov, we were talking about each other, yes. yes, well, that is, we started communicating quite calmly, immediately like, well, we accepted the fact that we now we skate together, well, has anyone forgotten their passport at the airport, for example, or a dress for a tournament, we are not very responsible in this regard, this has never happened, that is, you are the most boring couple in russia, no, we are the most cheerful couple paint, prove it to the audience, you can’t fool the audience? you have to prove something to someone, because you do sports, my dear, this is a fact, this is the most incorrect answer of an athlete, why should i prove something to someone, because an athlete even has to prove himself every training session, no, this of course, as an old man, you know who you had a very original free program this year snow white hunter,

everyone remembered it right from the test skates and it was discussed a lot, and what to expect this season, something new again? we won't say anything yet, that's exactly it. at least let's do it this way, so as not to say, but open up a little, maybe some kind of hang-up, it will again be some kind of characteristic music, that is, it will be you will play some roles, or, for example, it will be like papodaki cizeron, yes, there is such contemporary music, this is the music that suits us very well, okay, this is the music that suits us very well, which we really want to show on the ice, he answered so bluntly. and let it then be the dance and the music that will lead you to the long-awaited medals and the podium, maybe the russian championship, as you said, even first place, thank you for coming, it was really interesting, it is always interesting to talk about dance, because it is quite difficult to understand it,

thank you very much, only success, thank you. hello, this is the ask surkova podcast, and i am larisa surkova, a psychologist and mother of seven children. in this studio, we discuss the most pressing issues for absolutely every parent. anna, i am very glad that you came, i want to agree with you right away that this is not a classic psychological consultation, that is, here i can give you some advice, recommendations. the main thing is to use your example to help many viewers, for whom i am sure your topic, your question will also be relevant. tell us, what did you come with? hello, larisa, i have a situation that is probably quite unusual: my child, he has parental control on his phone, eh, we don’t allow him to play for a long

time, only an hour a day, and even then, if he does his homework, he also takes his mobile phone to school, but how old is the child, he is 10 years old, but almost no one at school has this parental control. everyone plays during breaks, everyone plays during after-school programs, everyone is on their phones, but he can’t do this, so since the third grade, he is now in fourth grade, we have constant disagreements like this, constant arguments to the point of screaming. yes, hysterics, mom, why are you forbidding me, everyone has everything, and i have one hour, it's not fair, unfair, we talked and discussed everything, that it's bad for health, and in general you shouldn't sit on the phone at school, but still, here we have this and his main argument, everyone doesn't have a real troll, i have one, and how to convey to the child that we don't want to harm him, but want to benefit him, bring his life, i already. i don’t even know what you said, i don’t have a completely standard situation, what’s unusual about it, in parental control, in parental

control, because i don’t communicate with anyone, with mothers, yes, at school there, with others, with parents and in general in different ones, because my child is still involved in sports, no one has control, so sometimes i feel like i’m the only such evil mother who is so vigilant over her child, what’s wrong with that, if he plays for 3 hours, for example, in games and these, but i don’t i want this, i don’t want my child to be dependent, i don’t want. parental control, the phone is accessible from morning to evening and that’s it, and so that

when he plays on the phone for more than an hour, he has to send me a request so that i allow him to play for 15 minutes or some other amount of time, accordingly, if he has played now, i say, no, dear, you will not play anymore, this makes him angry, he is angry that he is interrupted when he is playing, he does not keep track of time, and he is carried away in the game and bam, here it is. you have such an interesting school, where the use of gadgets is allowed, because now in principle the law has been adopted at the federal level, everything is quite strict, but you allow it, we don’t really allow it, before classes children must, if they come with a phone, hand over the phone to the teacher, and after classes the teacher has the right to kind of give it to him, he goes to after-school, he doesn’t hand over the phone there, that’s why and sometimes of course they all cheat, and i know this, and like well the child comes, the teacher tells him: let's hand it in...

that's it, you won't go anywhere from this, and you waste a certain amount of time, not only that, you also start to approach everything very aggressively, that is , you play, you don't always succeed in everything, and you start to be very negatively emotional towards your loved ones, towards those around you, then we also had such a situation that we sometimes allowed him to play on weekends, it all started with us, that the first class no phone, only a watch, because i i have to find out where my child is so that i can call, in the watch, so

there are no games, he didn’t like it in the second grade, because like this, mom, i have a watch, and the other one has a phone, i say, well, it’s okay that the others have it, not everyone walks the same way, he’s like, okay, in the third grade he already says: mom, i’m a good student, yeah , i can walk with a phone, i say, okay, purely theoretically you can, but only on fridays, because he has a lot of time there. yes, they don’t assign homework on the weekends, and he he waits there for almost 3 hours for his training, i say, okay, you can play, but only for another hour, he’s so good, then already from the third grade, when these games started on fridays, it got to the point that he was sleepwalking, that is, he didn’t play there for 5-6 hours, no, he sometimes played there for 2 hours, yes, we’ll let him, but no more, anyway , at night he either gnashed his teeth, or the moon. it scared me a lot, then i felt like he became like, you know, well, a little

aggressive, so i said: maxim, you you see that even in terms of health, well, you are kind of addicted to these games, you become emotional, he seems to be like, yes, i say, then look, maxim, you are constantly like this on the phone, you are ruining your eyes, i say, you want to wear glasses, he is like, i don’t want to, i say, but you lead to the fact that you will wear glasses, you look at other children, that... they play, but you don’t know how their life will turn out in the future, maybe they will ruin their eyes so much that they simply won’t be able to walk without glasses, and he is like, well, yes, yes, yes, so, wait, lost the logical chain, you have a child, you gave him? a phone, happened, happened a clear deterioration, yes, sleepwalking appeared, tension appeared in the form of bruxism, that the child clenches his teeth very tightly, we hear a creak, that is, you saw a sharp deterioration, yes, but the phone did not disappear from life, did not disappear from life, because to deprive him of a phone in general, we did that too, yeah, and he

becomes angry at us that we deprive him of some pleasure for how long does he become angry at how much you enough? i'll ask the question like this? for a week, yeah, i see, well, naturally, but you couldn't stand it, he kept coming up to me and saying: well, mom, i got an a, well, mom , please, well, it seems like the kid is really trying, he's studying, i would gladly deprive him of all games, because i don't see any useful basis in these games, in this phone, but well, i would deprive him of them, but i'm not in the way, yeah. i'll tell you, and you'll switch roles, and you'll ask questions, the first most interesting mistake is, well, i'll call a spade a spade, because this is really a mistake, which most parents probably face, children

are absolutely brilliant, smart, they are strategists, they know everything about us, they... they know our weak points very well, what they can put pressure on, your maxim, the first 2 years, carefully studying your attitude to studies, to his achievements, i realized that this is important for you, it brings you joy, this is normal, all parents like it when their child is successful, when he studies well, but he is in the third grade, so here is a trump card for you, says: mother, my studies are good or my phone, mother, naturally, yes, because it is important to us. we are pleased with it, we see in it a certain kind of achievement, our child is successful, wants to keep the result in place, she enters into this bargaining, so a little bit we find ourselves in a bargaining environment, not monetary, but a bargaining-gadget environment, the child tells us, look, i study well, pay me, mother hesitated, probably consulted with father, but decided that yes, okay, we will

pay for the fact that the child also continued study well, not with money, but... in this case, the stage also came out as a method of payment, a method of compensation, labor costs, successes, skills that the child gives us in the form of his good studies, a very big, of course , such a failure, a very big mistake happened at the moment when you saw health problems, this is what complex specialists are already afraid of, it is clear that we live in a time when you can’t give up gadgets, of course, sleepwalking is one of the most common manifestations, this is not only in your... somehow, now we’ll figure it out, as for those who we are watching, if you understand that this is such a situation, but you have already lived through it, the only problem that the child has is that we reduce the time , we transfer everything to the first half of the day, because

when a child plays a gadget or watches, it is not necessarily playing, someone communicates in chats, just on ... a phone, a tablet in the evening, his nervous system is very mobile, it absorbs everything, the brain absorbs everything, some events happen there, he has shot enough, time is up, he turns it off, closes his eyes, and his brain continues to shoot, because these 2 hours before sleep are generally a critical time for a child's psyche, everything they absorbed there, they digest at night, and of course, the nervous system screams, i'm so overexcited, i can't stop, i... the entire line between virtual life and real life has already been erased, he shot in the virtual one, but left with it in the literal sense, he left with his eyes closed at night to continue playing this game of his in real life, this is dangerous, this is a dangerous signal, of course, you went the right way, tried to ban, couldn't even withstand the basic time, because of course

, in order to form the necessary habit, you need time to live without a gadget, this is the first thing, you need parental time, because when we deprive a person of a tablet, deprive him of the internet, deprive him of a game, we must give him something in return, this is also often a weak link for parents, because you need to spend your efforts, you need to think of something to captivate, you need to give some emotional joy, emotional reinforcement, this also requires forces, but somehow we have already experienced it, apparently we have reduced the time, am i right in understanding, well , when we did not give him a phone, we played tabletop all the time in the evenings.

or something, that is, i single him out, that he may not be worthy of this phone, although he is worthy, this is the line that may be, well, yes , i understand that this is my mistake somewhere, but

still i do not know how to balance this, so that it would be easier for me, so that he would understand , it would be more convenient for me, it would be more convenient for me that a phone is bad, and he did not take it anymore, well, of course, he himself will not understand, he is too small for this it is very sad that in principle the phone as such is yours... in his life so early, it is 10 years - it is still early, this is the thought that absolutely all specialists come to now, that it is very early, at this age it is easy to form an addiction, and you said at the beginning such a phrase that we give only for an hour or a day, because we do not want him to form an addiction, unfortunately, everything that you say further tells us that the addiction has formed anyway, it does not care what time it is, 5 minutes 10, if it's not enough for a person if he wants more, it's like with sweets, you know, like... you ate a piece of chocolate and you walk around and suffer, because the rest is in the fridge, winking at you and calling you, and you, if you don't have this addiction to sweets, you

brush it off, think, well, okay, but if you do, you'll walk around the fridge, get angry, get irritated, it 's the same here, those symptoms that you're talking about, they scream at us so that you know, maxim has problems, he most likely dependence has formed, but it will be very difficult for you to undertake any... concept, why are we doing this, and in order to make it easier for you to answer this question, i will ask you another one, what are your plans, you probably talk to maxim, your

husband, about his future, what he wants to do when he grows up, or maybe you think, it would be great if maxim were this, no, maxim himself expressed a desire, he has such a goal, he wants to enter moscow state university in the physics and mathematics department, he is now i spent a whole year in a club at moscow state university. at the small faculty of mechanics and mathematics, he wants to further connect his life with mathematics. at the same time, he really likes floorball. he plays floorball. he goes to competitions and tournaments . he gets the best player. and then he wants to further develop this in sports. and mathematics is his goal . it's not just to get a diploma in mechanics and mathematics. what does he want in life? he wants to further develop programming. he is also learning chinese. and a fairly large number of research, which is interesting and maybe even funny, at one time they were sponsored by a person like bill gates, a person

who is categorically against gadgets for children, his children, as they grew up, got gadgets very late, and this is actually not accidental, this applies to most successful people in this world, such serious billionaires, successful with names, they do not give their children gadgets for a very, very long time. why? because there are studies that prove focus groups, usually three focus groups, how the research is conducted, there are many of them, it is not a problem to find them and even show them to maxim, as a thinking person, so that he can see these real results, diagrams, schemes, just like a person with a mathematical mindset, usually as three groups of students of the same faculty, approximately equal in their mental abilities, conduct. the first group leaves their phones outside the classroom, sits down, takes their seats. the second group takes their phones with them, but they you can't take them out of your bags, the third group takes their phones with them, they are turned off, but they are lying on their desks in front of them, and they are given

some kind of test. the results are always the same, no matter how many of these experiments are conducted, on different target age groups, schoolchildren, students, the first group, which writes with gadgets outside the classroom door, writes these papers as well as possible, the second group, which has its gadget in its bag, what do you think, by how many percent worse does it write, by 30-40 percent, yes, you guessed it, exactly right, they write 30% worse, the gadget they have it in their bag, the third group writes twice as... worse than the first, because the gadget is in front of them, yes, it is turned off, but it actively winks at them like that chocolate bar, in children very quickly, in children, in teenagers, in young people, why do they take students, because they have accumulated experience, they usually, by the time they reach student age of 10-15 years, some more, live constantly in a gadget, they have accumulated experience of anxiety, they have a feeling that without them virtual life flows

and flows very brightly and... that if you do not you take a phone, something very important will happen there, it’s as if you can influence the events that happen there, this applies not only to children but also to adults, these experiments, they prove that children, teenagers, they are in a very excited state from the mere thought of being close to a phone, in this case it’s always phones, this is very harmful to studies in general, this is also a proven fact, perhaps... this is the argument that makes sense to bring to maxim, that son, maybe you are so successful precisely because you have a phone limited, let's look at other options, we're already moving on to the question with the word all, let's look at other options, there's vasya, petya, seryozha, yes, some authorities who have as many gadgets as they want, as much as they can, no one controls them, let's look at their life, what is it like,

we just heard about your boy that he studies well, he has... sports, he has chinese, he has a minor in msu, that is, this is such a serious load, and i really want for her, i can already say that yes, our child deserves an hour a day, despite the fact that anxiety has already formed in him, this is such a borderline form, yes, whether it is an addiction or not, but anxiety that he may not be able to do something, he has it in one form or another, but our task now with you is such a big job will be aimed at ... breaking the myth associated with the word everything, that is, we will try to correct his constant society, this is school, this is sports, this is the street, yes, that is, where he communicates with children who also have a gadget at hand all the time, the first thing we do is look at their personalities, do they have anything in life at all, besides gadgets, yes, okay, he doesn’t have parental control, he can do anything, how he studies, does he study at all, yes, maybe, it’s all over there, in fact, statistically it

will be so. perhaps single parents, they just don’t have this resource, yes, to devote time to their child, that is, it is very important to change the degree from the focus you are talking about, that you might think that my son is unsuccessful , so we deprived him of his gadget, like it's a gold medal, but the fact is that it 's not a medal at all, it's a bag of coal and maybe, when it's a lot, it 's not because you're successful, and you're great, and you're

cool. but because there's no strength for you, no time for you, of course, we, as adults, won't go and tell this child about this, you know, my friend, in fact, your parents don't have time for you, so you're doing well with your gadget, yes, naturally, no, we won't do this, but we'll try, you will try to maxim, change the concept that a gadget is not always an encouragement, this is the other side of the coin, that it is a wall between a child and a parent, that he is not very involved with the child, this is the first point, the second point, a large number of studies show us that when a person has a very strong influence from the opinions of others, there is such a word as comfortable thinking, yes, that is, he is very dependent on, he wants to be like everyone else, he wants to be no different and not stand out, then he has no chance of becoming a leader, well, he can sit with them in a row, instead of going to throw even maybe one ball into this

goal. but at the same time he understands that he is developing his muscles, he is improving in the sport he is doing, you can sit with them in a row, here in a row, at recess in a row, everywhere in a row to sit with them. row, but again, what future do these guys have if we found out that they are playing a game. of course, the internet is not always evil. the internet is a good place for development. many educational films, another form of presenting educational material. not everyone children feel comfortable at school. sometimes there are frankly uninteresting, boring teachers. the material needs to be mastered. and there they can find a comfortable way for themselves. for some it is a video sequence, for others it is some audio, some favorite, maybe a voice, just interesting films on any topic, which you like an animal, technology, mathematics, it does not matter that programming, many children are successful in this they start doing it from

a very early age, perhaps this is the path for maxim, perhaps he will be interested in spending his hour not on a game, and we know that games many, we will not say their names now, so as not to make... in no case additional advertising are a place where special bad adults sit down, who catch children there for themselves, who become their victims, our real life breaks into their virtual from a very bad, from a criminal side, a game is always a risk zone, perhaps, yes maxim will be interested in doing programming in one form or another already now to spend his time on the internet, firstly, it is not causes addictions, because it is a completely different to...

"the main theory of the development of the world says that man developed thanks to gossip, because one, one family slaughtered a mammoth, went to another family, washed the bones of a third family, and so in general we stand on that, nothing has changed much since then, but we must communicate all the time, it is very difficult for us, this is part of our pyramid of needs, but perhaps the environment does not necessarily have to be this, perhaps this environment can be offered other conditions." perhaps, if you want to be successful if you have goals, if you don't want to be a cog, but you want to be a leader, someone who manages some processes, you will offer them something else, because in fact, why do children

sit in gadgets at after-school programs, on the football field and so on, because there is essentially no alternative, yes, you can go play football, but they have a strong feeling that this football has been here for 20 years before us and will be here for another 20 years after us. and this is almost always in their understanding, yes, that is, 20 years at this age is, your whole life is ahead, they they are in no hurry to implement this opportunity, because where will it go, the game will run away now, you need to play urgently, because it will run away, and so they are lured there, yes, these are also networks, but if he offers them something, maybe, if he has such a desire, something, that the action is only today, only today i can show you some.

it is clear that he will not be this mosovik-entertainer, he does not need it every time, sometimes he can also play on his phone, and sometimes he can surprise them with something, and i am sure, listening to your the child, that he definitely has something to do with, at this moment his rating increases very much, because he is not like everyone else, everyone is sitting playing on their phones, and he, i don’t know, brought two turbo inserts showed how dad played in the insert as a child, also yes, a feeling of the possibility of the presence. get additional contact with his parents, this, by the way, is always a very working scheme, bring something that later or tell something that they can then discuss at home, because as we have already found out, when a child is unlimited amount of time on the gadget, this tells us

that contact with parents is broken, i understand that our viewers now generally have such a topic that is scary, i'm already scared of what will be in the comments, but our viewers now can have just such a rebuff. emotional, especially for those who have a gadget for small children uncontrolled time, they are now right there in their shell or vice versa in the comment, and this is surkova talking nonsense. i spend a lot of time with my child, but at the same time, it's true, another 8 hours he spends on the phone, well, it's funny, yes, that is, simple mathematics does not add up, my friends, let's agree with you right away, if something grabs you, this is a reason to think about it, maybe think, and not immediately go into deep defense, because a gadget is an escape, it is an escape for adults, it is an escape for children, a child is the same person as we are, if we constantly take the phone in our hands and try to hide in it, this is very clearly read,

yes, we are in some kind of stressful situation, once, a phone, i'm in the house, everything is mine, or we bored, once on the phone, everything is mine, or we are tired, and tired, bored - it's almost the same thing, we also once, op, hid, of course, we show this scenario to children, here too we must be frank, but we must not be shy about admitting it, that is, if your child ever returns this argument to you, he will be the next after. i assure you, yes, at first they say: everyone has it, we seem to have destroyed it a little, he will come and tell you, yeah, and you mom and dad, you take a lot of phones, so at this moment we say, yes, firstly, we admit, if it's true, we always admit it and say: yes, you're right, let's sort out this situation, what am i doing on the phone, we justify ourselves all the time, we definitely do it for some benefit, when we start admitting to ourselves that no, not always and not quite, and it's unfair, then it also makes

sense to apologize to the child and say, yes, you were right, not always, which means that here we can already introduce new family rules. larisa, you know, we had another situation like this, my child just in the third grade got carried away with the rubik's cube, he assembled it in a minute, i don’t understand how this thing can be assembled at all, but no one from his circle did this, of course he did. your parents don’t have money for a phone, yeah, yeah, that’s when he stopped doing this,

he was somehow squeezed by this whole situation, and he was like: mom, well, i have a phone, can i bring it to school, and i don’t know, how can i offer him this mechanism, yes , you have a phone, so you put the phone on the desk and assemble a rubik’s cube, well, that is, you are already a level higher in your mental even in an emotional outburst it shows that yes please for those? no, our dad is a military man, we are strict

with this, as if dad is practically never on our phones, well, that is, they can call him to work just like me, that is , well, so we don’t play games there, we don’t even really correspond there, but yes, as you said, you need to start with yourself, i am most often on the phone, because my work consists of writing something on the phone and sending something to someone, and i understand, i catch myself thinking, ah, well, here’s work we will have to standardize, that is, at the time when we want to help the child , again a simple parallel with food, if we have a child with allergies and we are now treating him and removing all the allergens and no one eats them in front of him so as not to irritate him, here is the same story, that is, and we need to emphasize this, that look, now we have family time, as i understand it, there are also children, yes, i have two more children, yeah, maxim the eldest, maxim the eldest, then comes my daughter, she is 7 years old and the youngest son, he is 5 years old, yeah, that is, look, we have now is family time, we spend it together, i'm not... working now, my phone, you see, is lying there, i follow all

the same rules that apply to you, although i'm an adult, i can naturally do it differently, because my work depends on it, our well-being depends on it in many ways, probably, it's important, but i respect you, i do it for you and for our family, in fact, anya, you know, i'm listening to you and i want to give you such, probably, i don't even know , feedback, a compliment, admire , say that in essence... you are that rare mother, which problem is so strained, well frankly, yes, we have a wonderful successful child who studies well, who clearly has a lot of workload. emotions and i understand that the only difficulty that you have today with maxim is not even the gadget as such, it

is precisely his communication with the outside world on the topic of not being like everyone else or being like everyone else, yes , such a choice. to be or not to be, perhaps he will also have to make this choice, and for you it is very important time, you will have to spend it on giving him this support support, to admire, to say some good guy, to offer some simple solutions, you must always remember that 10 years is a very small child, especially a boy, he will not even begin to experience teenage changes for three years, he is a very small child and he cannot... communicate with some kind of unnecessary aggression, with what is not typical for your family, what he is not used to, what he does not see at home, yes, for dad to kick him in the ass or something like that to happen, so he really needs this from you support with simple phrases or solutions, okay, good, yes, phone,

success indicator, let it be, well, let it be behind the classroom door, yes, if we remember this experiment, because... that it does not lead you to success, it drags you to the bottom. anya, now i have a question for you, our analysis of your situation is ending, what did you hear today, what did you take away for yourself? well, i heard that my maxim needs help, in terms of, how can i put it, in terms of giving a point of support, uh, that he is not that different from everyone else, but he, let's say, he will be different. we are all children, all children are different, but - if you want to become a successful child, a leader, then you should not be offended by the fact that they are teasing you there, that they are there on their phones, but you do not, you have it all, on the contrary, get

them going, show them something new, if you create a trend, as children say these days, but do not give in to pressure, so to speak, do something new, attract them, because you are sociable, outgoing, and if you want to achieve something in life, you should not look at external factors, and go and achieve, and even though they will still tell you that you are not like that, perhaps, but you know what you are, that's probably what they will still say in your back, and you go forward, focus on those who are ahead.

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