yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, that is, and here there is no element of resentment, there is a theme, and we already communicate on this topic, the second point, i really love what is called cases, in psychology, this is a whole topic, child, let me not educate you, let us look at other people's situations and discuss how we could have acted in them, i very often do this with my child, when we see, for example, here is a real case, we ...

even more likely, it helps to begin to study three, the game good-bad, when we take one situation or optional situation, we can take an object, candy, a phone, what is good about it, what is bad about it, and there is also a cool version of this game, when we take some situation, name some situation, here is an obviously bad one, a child smokes, for example, a child smokes, what is good about it, nothing, no, so this answer is not accepted, what is good about it, he will get negativity.

consider guilty, cover us with bad words, that we came up with this game for you, because it is necessary for the parent to be a little bit one step ahead in this situation, in psychology there is a similar methodology, it is called projective methods, sometimes it can be a little easier, because in a teenager, if we can offer small children drawings, modeling, therapeutic fairy tales, teenagers respond well to therapeutic stories or as they sometimes call therapeutic tales, what about that guy who smokes.

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continue, today our guests are evgeniya gin and petr pavel surkov and we are discussing. does a child need a phone? very often from children of any age, especially before the first grade in the first grade, as soon as school appears, you can hear an argument that is very difficult for parents to cope with, a child comes and says: and everyone has one, the parent's maternal crown slips, oh my god, i'm a bad parent, what should i do? like i against, and i don't want to, and i understand everything, and the wounds are all, but i don't want to be a bad parent, i want to be a good one, so what?

next, what options can there be, everyone has one, i don't have one, yes, and everyone has textbooks, everyone has one, you have one too, you have one too, all the kids get excellent grades, a's, or someone gets twos, someone gets twos, someone gets a's. so what do you want to be, do you want to be the best or do you want to be the worst? well, and in this way you can get to the point that now you can even show it, there is there was an experiment where they took students, sat them down with a phone, those who had their phone on the table had the worst

exam results, well, not an exam, but a test, those who had it in their school bag, they were average , roughly speaking, they got c's, those who had their phone in the next room. in psychology they say that it doesn't matter, that it's not the main thing, again a dead end, well and yes, i really don't want to say that your classmates are somehow worse than you, because in psychology we don't compare people, like i have here - if there is this problem with a child who

comes and says: everyone has it, i don’t, yeah, i think that parents watch this program, why, because now it worries a lot of people, it’s a conflict in a lot of families, “let’s solve this problem as adults, and not shift it onto our six-year-old children, our six-year- old child should realize, like, i’m ready to be different from everyone else, all this, that is.” we talk about it, we show the pros and cons, but we don’t shift responsibility for it onto him, he’s too young, one of the solutions here is to involve the child, to give him an understanding that he is becoming an adult without a gadget, without a tablet, how, i want to say, send him to the store for groceries, but we already buy groceries through gadgets, but here again we are at a dead end to give, and what to give? here you can just give a gadget to say: here is your phone, order groceries. maybe teach how it can be used productively, that is, of course, we

talked about the fact that this is a tool to show how it can be used differently regarding how to demonstrate that an adult is generally very good question, how is an adult different from a child, which is worth discussing with children, everything does not come down to the fact that i bring money into the house, and you do not, and what are the criteria, how can you check yourself against me, i am also a child in some way, but that is, and different adults are different. only you need to somehow prepare for this conversation, i also wanted to say about the topic with gadgets, i see not only the problem of sticking, but if we talk about adulthood, this is a kind of infantilization in what, children who have a phone in their pocket, they are used to the fact that for any reason you can ask your parent for help, yeah.

we are talking about practicality, my son and i have this formula, when he asks me a question, to which i know that he will strain himself a little, he will answer himself, i say: son, you can answer this question yourself, and there is a game called danetka there too, which is great for teaching this, namely, to analyze, i can answer this question, or do i really need outside help, so if a child comes to me with a task that is feasible for him, don’t help, and here important for the child like. let's think, and if this is a problem, then on the one hand

, answer less ourselves, son in the store, yes, you can now make this decision yourself, make it, and here of course it is important that the more responsibility the child has, the more problems will arise, that is , where they will make the wrong decisions, and here again for the parents, yes in this there are pros and cons, the cons you will have well, not everything is so smooth, neat, pros. knows, sometimes it is even easier not to strain, he just say: "styopa, tell me this girls, or remind me of this." this,

firstly, increases his self-esteem, it is very important to him and he is pleased that we appreciate it, almost every child has it, you can find his strong side, his strong point, and turn to him for help, he will be your home search engine, on this or that problem, on this or that issue, for him this will be a very important place, a manifestation of his maturity, no matter how old he is. if you know that he knows the multiplication table perfectly well at 8 years old, then coming with him to the market, where they are trying to, perhaps, deceive you, you can offer him, say how much is 7:6 son, and the son gives the answer, the seller is not very happy, the parents are very happy, the child is happy that they turned to him for help, therefore all the tools, all the exercises that we are talking about today, must be used in a jumble, otherwise the child will understand, and it will no longer be interesting to him, an important topic is also why ...

we kind of look at what delights the child, stretch a ruler back from this somehow basic things, that it turns out that everything you like in this world cannot be done at all without this... the multiplication table, for a start, somehow realizing it in your head, and therefore emphasizing, extolling the knowledge that a child has, letting them use it, it's super, someone brings magnets from travels, someone gifts, well, someone as a keepsake of a new family member, we have a dog, she is such a coward, they spent a week looking at each other, now they have gotten used to it, a master of martial

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continue, and today we are discussing whether a child needs a phone, i also wanted. for each of you to give our viewers some kind of recommendation, some advice, as much as possible, maybe trizovsky or non-standard, one that they will not hear every day, like in general, they should live with their children, happily, interestingly, cheerfully, with humor, solving certain problems in an unconventional way, and i have such an exercise, write down what you consider problems, we parents have a lot of problems, be sure to ask your children what they see as problems, is this possible?

i only suffer from a problem, it is impossible to solve it, because this is a certain description of a situation in which i feel bad, and the task appears when we add to this i feel bad, the goal, how exactly i want it to look good, that is the very final the result that we see, with the problem, there the child is stuck in the gadget, there can be very different goals, yes, why does this bother you at all, maybe it is not a problem, maybe he is studying in this gadget, self-actualizing.

forms the habit of seeing the task in place of the problem, because at school we are given only ready-made tasks, and such rather smiley ones, which do not coincide with life, and

there is no such skill, and after training there is no one patris, this is tris about solving problems, and of course he is about tools, but before that to use some tools, it is important to see this task, here is my recommendation, do not just go and suffer, you can do this for a very long time, you know, people have been wearing like to suffer for a very long time. and often children themselves offer a solution, when the task is, yes, you will see something, you will see that it is not important at all, yes, it often happens when you start thinking, why does this bother me, yes, i am not normal, for example, with the same cleaning, instead of forcing the child to clean the room, you can, let's say, he is now a tutor in english will work for this earned money will find someone who him. gladly takes that room, and there is no such conflict, yes, as soon as we set the task not to force the child, but a clean room, our number of solutions increases, and more nerve cells

are saved at this moment, that's for sure, your some parting words, well, since we are talking about gadgets, i also want to give semyon as an example, at one time he liked to watch unpacking, how toys are unpacked there to watch, i say that you you watch, oh, stepan, too. i tell him that you are watching this, let's better film your unboxings, every week i bought him construction sets there and we assembled these construction sets, i say, let 's film this, you will have your own videos and you will not have to waste time looking at these videos, yes we started filming after some time he did not want to watch these unboxings, he got tired of it, yes we filmed our own everything became clear, how it is all done behind the scenes, why it is interesting, why all this happens and so on. he is also a blogger we tried to become, he also started his own forbidden gram, a huge number of women poured in on him, asking what to advise their teenager,

what to do, he lasted for a week, he said, this is terrible work, i am not ready to do this, and he stopped doing it, here i want to add too, yes, this is the path of the consumer-creator, it is important, and about the dream, i want to be a blogger, also a very cool case and ... here you can tell the child the survivor's error about the fact that very few of those who started actually achieve success, and you only see them, only these spotlights, the majority vegetate, yes, those who studied mathematics at school well, the majority prosper, well, that's how this world is arranged, yes, that is, you can earn super money there, but there are very few of them, yes, that is, this is such a path where you need to be prepared that you are going nowhere, and secondly, there is such a technique in 300 the other way around, that's how it was with you. to look, and unpack, i know that in some, here it is rather to be not a consumer, but a creator, yes, yes, of course, it's super, and there is such a technique, and i know several stories and

in no way am i saying that it always works, yeah, but sometimes it can work when a parent suddenly changes from a ban to go ahead, go ahead, that is, i will pay you for the time on the gadget, on the first day the child is like, wow, it's totally cool, and there is no, but the accepted phrase, it is

universal, look, it often happens that we hit a wall, there is such a technique here, to realize that i am hitting a wall and ask myself what i can do differently, great, i think this is a very good point in our conversation today, and we were talking about gadgets, can they still be not to harm in... favor and how to do this not only with the help of psychology, but with the help of tris methods. thank you for coming, it was the ask surkova podcast, thank you for being with us. all episodes of the ask surkova podcast are available on the channel one website in our social networks. let's get started. oh, they can't. play for rvoehala, hello, hi, welcome, we waited.

they're having lunch here!

and we in semenov sing semenovna to others couplets and preferred, and we love nizhny novgorod region very much, nizhny novgorod region. and we in semenov sing semenovna, sing semenovna, but not her alone, still different, we will hear songs, and there will be songs, oh interesting,

on the russian side, cut the scales field and grief, red call my fate, hear your accordion, interruption, and you sing accordion sing, the heart asks for music, sing to friends girlfriends, cheerfully and heavy, and you hoy accordion fight, managed with a song, kindle someone's hearts.

russian hormone, how many roads you accordion have passed, how many friends you accordion have found, in ocean of grief and worries, we were more cheerful with you, and you hori goromosh hopoy, all who ask for music, here to friends and on the roads oh, cheerfully and sadly, and you sing accordion sing season. udaloj, kindle hearts on fire, russian harmony, eh, hey, hey! well, the golden khakhloma festival

in the city of semenov continues successfully, right, friends? yes, yes, for example, there is a village not far from here, it is called diyanovo, so, and you are from there. so nikolai konstantinovich koryashkin, koryashkin, let's greet, they say, a famous germanist, the best here in the area, or we were lied to a little, well, it's people, most likely they know the people, your accordion is of the nizhny novgorod level of production and unusual russian system russian system non-chrome, not everyone can do it, yes-yes-yes and it's many years old, good. 70 there is a good accordion 80 accordionist good festival good now there will be a good tune there will be some local volga or sormacha daimmachnu ringleaders i will try

to sing along and we will try. to hurry to sing, where there was no walking, where there was no hooliganism, do the soldier, and i was dealt with,

we were having fun, lab hotiki. thank you, kolyazhkin is the best, oh, he takes it, he takes it back, mother sold the cow, and he still takes the siege, on the korkoshku nikolay, come on, come on!

my family ruined me, damned osiki, we don't like anything, rich girls, oh op! well, here we are in semyonov, let's go, kolya, let's see what they sell there, you can play the accordion, and a little, maybe

they'll give us something, now, you do this, make such a pitiful face, hello to you, hello, where are you from, oh, what toys do you have, you make them yourself, you make them yourself! we make carpets vladimir region, carpets, great, good sales, thank you, hello, do you give out gifts today, play harmony or not, is it to play or to slurp up the fish soup, well , we talked, let's move on, kittens, little kittens, tsap tsap by the heels, the cat is watching, actually persons, your gingerbread is good, honey, honey, and if, for example, in the form of an accordion there is in the form of an accordion, so

the child, don't be afraid, here are all your own, apple, lemon, this is the filler, necessarily, bird cherry, we have seen it and we have seen it, it smells delicious, well, you don't give gifts, right? and this is as a gift will be, oh, the first one is, thank you, well done, things are going, opa, op!

spoons they say disappear here oh brother take it off him and look at me here we will have books with a pen. with you they did not tie the handles, the handles do not disappear with that, here look what, if here are more treats, oh, we have had enough, brother, look what is here how else is it possible , here is a sturgeon and a crust, well, what, the queen wants to eat, wow, look, what a boat, well, what can be more beautiful in this world, golden, echo, and nowhere else. no, only in our russia ours, ours

trade, our happiness, distant fires are burning, the moon is bathing in the river, and a guy is saying goodbye to a sweet girl on a bench, and a guy is saying goodbye to a sweet girl on a bench , the guy's eyes are clear, like hot coals, not that beautiful, but generally suitable, not that beautiful, but... generally suitable

pa-parapa to slow down with parting, he tries with all his soul, he is looking for a tender word, he sits with a heartfelt mayaka, the girls are loud. sang all the suffering, you can't hear the end, heartfelt sighs, and you can hear the ends of the heart sighs.

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olezhenka is not afraid of anything, he's such a brave boy, but alyona, he's afraid of pigeons more than anything in the world. is there any competition? for some solo parts, of course, there is always competition, because everyone wants to solo, well, what age, that's what it's about, actually in the whole series, wonderful, i'm starting be, podkast lab, tomorrow on the first. what is this, andrey, a vase, yes, a sugar bowl, and today we have a big order with matryoshkas, well, yes, long live,

the city of sironov. let's lie on a spoon, think a little, oh, now would be okroshka, wait, accordions are waiting for us.

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