tv Fatal Distraction BBC News March 4, 2017 12:30am-1:01am GMT
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12 iraqi civilians have been injured in what appears to have been a chemical weapons attack in the city of mosul. two shells were fired into the government—held east of the city from the islamic state—controlled west. the campaign manager of the french presidential candidate francois fillon has quit, in the latest sign that his support is collapsing in the face of a corruption scandal. a man has appeared in court in the united states in connection with threats made to eight jewish organisations. prosecutors said juan thompson was also charged with cyber—stalking his former girlfriend. with most votes counted in northern ireland, it seems the dup and sinn fein will remain the largest parties. now it's time for an inside out special, featuring teacher meg williamson, who comes face to face with the driver responsible for her boyfriend's death.
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my boyfriend was killed lastjune on the a34. one car was travelling northbound. it was the southbound car that hit, smashed through the central reservation and hit gavin head—on on the other side of the road. i was on the phone to my girlfriend at the time. i was scared of losing her and they were emotional calls. shouting calls, emotional calls. shouting calls, emotional calls, raging calls, but
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shouldn't have been made that night. i will live with that forever and ever. at 24, lewis stratford is lucky to be alive. he never imagined his frantic calls to save his relationship would end a life. gavin was an australian through and through. he used to make me feel safe. we talked about holidays, we talked about potentially going out to australia together. the plan is that we had were exciting. something we we re that we had were exciting. something we were both really looking forward to. gavin and school teacher meg met when he moved to swindon. his work as an electrical engineer involved long shifts on the railways. he was
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working on the electric occasion of the railway and he would work nights mostly. and then just before the accident it was his last night shift and he was due to work days in the office, so he wouldn't be making any will late—nightjourneys. office, so he wouldn't be making any will late—night journeys. he was office, so he wouldn't be making any will late—nightjourneys. he was on his way to work. and then he was about six miles or so from work and just didn't make it. i don't remember the incident. my only memory of any of it, which i don't want to remember it, but i can't rememberany of don't want to remember it, but i can't remember any of it. in swindon, meg was woken by a call from a friend, telling her that gavin had been in an accident. from a friend, telling her that gavin had been in an accidentlj
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from a friend, telling her that gavin had been in an accident. i got the hospital just gavin had been in an accident. i got the hospitaljust after gavin had been in an accident. i got the hospital just after 8am gavin had been in an accident. i got the hospitaljust after 8am and he was just completely connected with tubes and monitors and ijust remember sitting next to him, begging him, praying for him to wake up. i'd give anything to swap places with him. lewis was rushed to the same hospital. doctors told his family to prepare for the worst.|j read letters that were sent from the hospital to my gp that night and it said that i would probably deteriorate through the night. the doctor told my family that i had a 70% chance of dying that night. but gavin's family and meg the news was even worse. the consultant came into the room and told them that there was nothing they could do and ijust remember my legs completely giving
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i remember my mum grabbing hold of me... and walking me through the intensive care unit and it genuinely felt like a dream. it felt like i was watching it happen to somebody else. and as i stood up, i kissed him on his forehead and told him it was ok to go. i told him not to be scared. and that he could still look after me. lewis wasn't told gavin had died until after he was discharged from hospital. he sat me down and just
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talk me everything. i cried. we were all in tears. i didn't want to get better. i was like... i didn't want the physio, the treatments. i didn't ca re the physio, the treatments. i didn't care about my injuries. lewis has already pleaded guilty to causing gavin's death by dangerous driving. now meg has asked to meet him. i wa nt to now meg has asked to meet him. i want to ask what possessed him to pick up his mobile phone behind the wheel. i want to know how he's feeling now, how it might affect him and to let him know how i'm feeling, hal gavin's family feeling, what we've had to go through. when i had the message that she wanted to meet me,| the message that she wanted to meet me, i felt upset because i'm guilty andl me, i felt upset because i'm guilty and i feel like i'm a bad person,
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like i'm hated everywhere and i thought she would hate me and i was just... i felt, um, thought she would hate me and i was just... ifelt, um, why would thought she would hate me and i was just... i felt, um, why would she wa nt just... i felt, um, why would she want to stare at a murderer? meeting will clearly be tough for both of them. do you know what the first thing you will say to lewis might be? we thought about that? and hoping he is going to start the conversation. —— i'm hoping. it's the morning of the meeting. lewis is first to arrive. i'm really nervous. scared. shaky. i
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can't keep still at the minute. playing with my kind of elastic band to try to focus my mind a little bit. just how he's going to react when he first sees me. i suppose how i'm going to react as well. i going to freak out, or be able to just sit down and have a normal conversation with him. and also what questions i'm going to ask him, because i don't want to miss anything out. i think ithink i'm i think i'm thinking about how he's feeling. not so much what he's done, but how is he feeling seeing me so close and knowing that i'm going to be asking him the questions? yeah, i
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don't know, it is so difficult to describe. i know i've caused a lot of pain for a lot of people. it's something that will stay with me. i know what i've done. the lives of ruined, yeah. i've ruined a lot of ruined, yeah. i've ruined a lot of people's lives, happiness. and i deserve everything i get from whatever comes i'iow. deserve everything i get from whatever comes now. hate, anger... lam i am sorry, but i can't keep saying sorry, because i know you don't want to hear. so we won't —— sorry won't make anything better, ever. what
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we re make anything better, ever. what were you arguing with the ex—girlfriend about? were you arguing with the ex-girlfriend about? she was due to come up to me on the friday night, but she said no and then we was arguing all day saturday. we were going to leave it until the sunday. i got going to leave it until the sunday. igot in going to leave it until the sunday. i got in the saturday night and i just drove down, angrily. she was on the phone as the crash happened. she said she heard scraping and brakes screeching. and obviously the impact was quite loud, she said. she said it was quite loud. he wasjust minding his own business that night. that's what i think about all the time, what he must have seen. i
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don't know. just who was going to work. he was probablyjust going to work. he was probablyjust going to work and it just work. he was probablyjust going to work and itjust makes me feel horrible. before the crash, lewis worked as a painter and decorator. life revolved around family and friends. i'm just around family and friends. i'm just a normal 24—year—old guy whojust works, lives at home with his parents, can't afford a place on his owfi parents, can't afford a place on his own yet. i'm nothing special. i've lived here for nearly 20 years with my family, grown up around this
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area. i used to play football on the fields over there with friends. this is the way i walked to the foot all match. —— is the way i walked to the foot all match. — — football. is the way i walked to the foot all match. —— football. this is the stadium, the way we walk in. it's usually obviously easier than it is fiow. usually obviously easier than it is i'iow. “— usually obviously easier than it is now. —— busier. my grandad likes to keep quiet, so we sit with him in the south stand and keep him happy. he brings the sweets. this is where we go into our seats. you can go in any of them, really, but we tend to use any of them, really, but we tend to use three and four. that leaves us out onto our seats, front row. it's a good thing. —— seat. if someone
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gets convicted of a crime, or an offe nce, gets convicted of a crime, or an offence, you know you get to see what that person is like. —— you never get to see. what background that got. everyone assumes that they're bad. iwent that got. everyone assumes that they're bad. i went to work five days with, came home, made dinner, played dark in the week came to foot or on the weekend. love the family, love friends, i've obviously lost by job, lost my car, i've ruined lives. you don't know what's around the corner. you don't know what's coming tomorrow. knowing how much gavin met the others is comforting for meg. today she is meeting his workmates. gavin was definitely amazing. he was
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really, really good at his work. he was one of the ones that, you know, you can depend on. it is rare that you can depend on. it is rare that you see a high level engineer with such a good sense of humour, you know. he was a funny guy. one of the best guys i have ever worked with. this is one of the engineering trains that was named after gavin in his honour and it is so special because it is one of the only trains that have been named after somebody in the last 100 years. it is so important for me to be able to remember him by what he used to love and the job that he did and how much ofa and the job that he did and how much of a difference it was making. i can't stop on the a34, i can't pull over to one side and remember him and see where it all happened. i lay flowers shortly after the accident with a police escort, rightjust to be able to pass by this engineering train and smile is enough to meet a kind of feel something and be happy that he is close by.
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ijust felt like i hadn't done it, i was like, and my capable of something like that? i didn't think i was going to be... i couldn't believe that i could have done it, but i had, and i have to accept it and... face it. what injuries did they tell you that he had?|j and... face it. what injuries did they tell you that he had? i don't wa nt they tell you that he had? i don't want to like tomago on about it, 'cause. .. want to like tomago on about it, 'cause... he had a stint fitted in the aorta and some internal injuries, they had to put me in a coma to keep me breathing because my
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levels were quite squashed. my auntie told me that i took my oxygen mask off and i said to her, it was my fault, it was my fault, and they didn't tell me what happened. but i knew i was in trouble. because the police were bringing my stuff from my carand the police were bringing my stuff from my car and the bags and... are you angry at me? a little bit. yeah. but then so many people do it, so many people. it was a stupid mistake. i don't want to hate you for ever. i am not that type of person. and eventually i will probably be able to forgive you. but ijust needed
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some questions answering first. to be honest, i expected to hate and abuse. i don't know what you like. i don't know. i expect it from anyone who sees me on the street —— you're. if they want to have a go, i will listen and accept anything that people want to say. like, i was scared to meet you. so, you've got all your stuff together that you need? im going to go over it again. asa need? im going to go over it again. as a first—time offender, prison is a daunting prospect for lewis, so he and his stepmum have been looking at what he needs to take with him. steps. comfortable shoes, cash. i feel like i have been kept here to pay for this. have you got all your toiletries and everything?” pay for this. have you got all your toiletries and everything? i feel like i have been kept here to pay
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for the mistake i have made and punished, really. my dad, grandad in the middle, fa cup, and me with the premier league. while fatal distraction paxman and toes of the family he will be leaving behind, gavin is never are from his thoughts —— mementos. gavin is never are from his thoughts -- mementos. i feel like i know gavin is never are from his thoughts -- mementos. ifeel like i know him. i feel like i -- mementos. ifeel like i know him. ifeel like i met him. -- mementos. ifeel like i know him. i feel like i met him. tell me about those dreams. just being in the car, raining, it wasjust those dreams. just being in the car, raining, it was just darkness those dreams. just being in the car, raining, it wasjust darkness in the car. his face, his picture, isjust there. do you think that will ever leave you? no. what do you think the public‘s perception of you is? leave you? no. what do you think the public's perception of you is? um, murderer, stupid idiot. iaccept a
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stupid idiot. i murderer, stupid idiot. iaccept a stupid idiot. lam not a murderer. that is what i am coming. i won't accept. because i didn't mean it. and i didn't mean to end his life.” was so angry, so angry. and i didn't mean to end his life.” was so angry, so angry. and it was gavin's mum, really, that showed the compassion and said that we have to remember there are other people involved. and at that point it was more of a realisation for me that somebody‘s stupid mistake has caused something so traumatic for so many people. after the accident, meg took solace in writing down all other thoughts from the time with gavin. this was not our future. we
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thoughts from the time with gavin. this was not ourfuture. we had plans, paris, brugge, northern lights, australia, graduation. i wrote to him every day. ifilled lights, australia, graduation. i wrote to him every day. i filled a book with letters and notes just so that he knew what i was up to, what i was doing, what i was thinking about. you say you wrote to him, was that while he was here, or after he had passed away? no, i wrote him once he had passed away. it was easierfor me to once he had passed away. it was easier for me to talk to him like that. why is it so important to you to have this box of memories?” guess because i'm scared i'm going to forget him. you start to have days where life feels normal and then you feel guilty because you're still here.
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and i've been suffering really badly with my anxiety. getting onto that road is really difficult, but i have sisters that travel on it, friends that travel on it every single day. so, it probably adds to my worry. i think i am more conscious when i'm driving mostly of other drivers on the road now, and if they are on their own, you know, ijust think that they don't realise. and a lot of people just don't care because they don't think it is going to happen to them. no one thinks it happens to them. and they shouldn't ta ke happens to them. and they shouldn't take something like this for them to
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think, like tom 0, let's not be on the phone, people should know before. —— like, let's not be on the phone. i learnt the hard way, but he shouldn't have to be this way. so, what now going forwards, what happens? every time i look at my phone, i don't want to... i look at this phone and i'm thinking, i don't wa nt this phone and i'm thinking, i don't want to answer it every time... and ifi want to answer it every time... and if i could live without a phone, i would, i wouldn't use one again. i will never drive again, ever. what would you say to somebody who is going to pick up their phone behind
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the wheel today without even thinking about it? don't do it, 'cause picking up a phone, no matter how nice or good you are, accidents like this can happen to anyone on the road by using a phone. something i've got to learn for, something i've got to learn for, something i've got to pay a price for, and i will learn from it. thank you for agreeing to meet me and answering my questions. i know it has been hard. ijust want questions. i know it has been hard. i just want you questions. i know it has been hard. ijust want you to know that i am sorry. like, when people hear about this, they assume automatically that lam some this, they assume automatically that i am some person that hasn't got on with life and just people that has caused trouble day in and day out. i know what i am like. i have been brought up. i have no bad upbringing. i have no excuse for
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what has happened. ijust want to say sorry for everything and thanks for making me, yeah. —— meeting me. at the end of a gruelling 50 minutes together, meg get some fresh air, leaving lewis to reflect on the meeting. it is hard to get across to her how sorry i am, because something so tragic has happened like this, sorry is not enough. and isaid like this, sorry is not enough. and i said that it was a cheap way really just to i said that it was a cheap way reallyjust to keep saying sorry. there is no other way that i can think of that would make it up to people. i think he was a lot softer and a lot more open than i expected him to be. he was really forthcoming with his answers. and quite happy to talk. he was very apologetic. i am pleased i have done it. i am pleased
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i have had the opportunity to let lewis know how i have been impacted. but also to hear him say that it was just a stupid mistake, you know, and that he is aware of what he has done, he is upset in how it has affected him at his family, has given me a little bit of closure, i think. i am happy that i have met meg. im happy that she wanted to meet me. and i hope it provides closure that will help them move on and help me get through this as well, the next chapter of serving punishment, but more importantly, hopefully she finds a way that it can help. good morning. for most of us, friday was a miserable day but, for the favoured few, it was glorious. if you don't believe me, look at the weather watchers picture. not a cloud in the sky hardly.
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a beautiful day across the far north of scotland. but for most of us it was grey and grim. a lot of heavy rain around and this poor old garden in barnsley, well, that tells the tale, doesn't it, really, and it could be a soggy affairfor some of us over the weekend. but not all the time. there will be some rain around but some of us could manage to get some dry weather in there as well. particularly when you look at where the low pressure is. it's centred to the north across scotland and circulating around that low on the outer edge there will be some stronger winds but further inland we should get a decent slice of dryer weather. so do try to put that in context. it looks as though scotland, you will have a different day today. there will be a lot of cloud, rain around, snow to the tops of mountains, it will be cold as well. showery outbreaks of rain into northern ireland and a fair amount of cloud across northern england. just head a little further south and first thing on saturday morning it's not a bad start for wales and much of central and southern england.
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into the far south—west it will be windy and that at times. into the far south—west it will be windy and wet at times. the strongest of the winds circulating around the outside edge of that area of low pressure. but a central and eastern parts of england, for you, not a bad day. there should be a decent slice of sunshine coming through. and, with a little shelter, some sunshine, those temperatures will feel reasonable at around ten or 12 degrees. not so the case with the cloud and rain further north. but it does mean for many of the premiership matches it looks as though it will be a largely dry affair. we could see some showers for the liverpool—arsenal evening kickoff there. now as we move out of saturday, we were talking about the potential for the stormy weather across the alps, still the risk of snow, significant snow to come, but for us a frontal system pushing into the far south—west brings a different story on sunday. for many it will be a pretty grim start to the second half of the weekend with some heavy rain moving its way steadily north and east as we go through the day
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and the winds increasing as well. so it'll be a dismal start but a slow improvement, so i suspect for the tottenham match hopefully the bulk of the rain will clear away but sunderland—man city could be a soggy affair. hello, this is bbc news. i'm alpa patel. the red cross has condemned the apparent use of chemical weapons during the battle to drive so—called islamic state out of the iraqi city of mosul. doctors have told the bbc that at least 12 civilians were injured by an attack, with several suffering blistering to their skin. our correspondent, wyre davies, reports from northern iraq where thousands of civilians are fleeing from mosul. an 11—year—old boy rushed to hospital after his house was struck.
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