england. it could be a touch cooler than saturday in devon and cornwall and those temperatures pegged back right on the coast with the onshore breeze. a lovely evening if you're heading to wembley for the football on sunday. but once the sun goes down we will find those temperatures falling very quickly. perhaps not quite so low, because on monday there will be a bit more cloud around, especially moving northwards into northern england and southern scotland, northern ireland. still a lovely day across the north—west of scotland. for most of england and wales there will be some sunshine. not as windy in the south. temperatures still 16—17 degrees. not as warm where we have that cloud. we'll find things gradually change as we look towards the south—west. we push away the area of high pressure that's keeping it fine and sunny and we'll introduce some showers perhaps across northern ireland, across wales. more western parts of england further east it may well be dry and across scotland it is largely dry, but more in the way of cloud here. that's the slow theme

we will develop over the weekend. cloud increasing. the chance of some rain as well. but we will have the winds more from the south, so with the sunshine it will still be on the warm side and it won't be as cold at night. the latest headlines from bbc news. i'm lebo diseko. the united states military has admitted that aircraft from the american—led coalition did strike part of the iraqi city of mosul where a large number of civilians were killed. it said it had opened an investigation, but accused islamic state group fighters of using civilians as human shields. the new leader of hong kong will be chosen shortly in a vote dismissed as a sham by pro—democracy activists. the territory's chief executive will be selected by a specially—appointed committee of nearly 1200 people, most of them loyal to

the chinese leadership. there are three candidates. european union leaders have stressed the need for unity at a celebration in rome marking the 60th anniversary of the organisation's founding treaty. 27 leaders signed a new declaration, but the british prime minister was absent. the uk is set formally begin the brexit process this week. now on bbc news, we're taking to the stage for a special programme all about love and relationships, from the perspective of performers with disabilities or mental health issues. the show is produced by the bbc‘s disability strand ouch and it contains some strong language. ladies and gentlemen, please welcome your host for tonight, sofie hagen. thank you.

thank you very much. hello and welcome to bbc ouch: storytelling live. the stories we're going to be hearing tonight are about love and relationships, and i do have a very long—lasting relationship with my psychologist. am i right, bbc ouch people? high five, high five! i've been seeing my psychologist for ten years, now. she's always trying to help me get me out all of me, you know, mental health issues. and there's quite a few. ah, we have depression, we have, uh, anxiety, and binge eating disorder — which is the cool one. don't know if you know about that. it's where you eat so you can't feel anything. right? because it — there is a lot of pain inside, because, you know, you can feel the bones, and you want to swallow them, and — so there's a lot of pain right

in my throat after a good bit of chicken. my psychologist is amazing. she's a very, very good psychologist. for those of you who can't see me, i'm fat. and that's not a bad thing. it's not a bad thing. i like being fat. i love my body. i think everybody should love my body, because... cheering yeah! why wouldn't you 7 and, uh, so — but that means that sometimes people give me advice on how to lose weight. people will be like, "oh, you should stop eating sugar," and i'm like, "i can't stop eating sugar, because then i'll feel... i'llfeel!" and that's the reason that i eat, is to not feel all the feelings. i've got depression and anxiety, i don't want to feel my feelings. my psychologist once tried to fix it. she went — we were trying to deal with some of the feelings that i don't know how to show, for example, anger. i'm very bad with anger. i don't know how to express anger. so when i do express anger, it kind of explodes, right? she tried to fix that. so she — she said to me "you know, next time you feel angry,

"just try and express it." i said "oh, no. "no, i don't think that's — there's not enough "food in the world for me to feel angry. i'm sorry, that's not going to happen." she said, "listen, this is what you do: next time you feel anger, say the words ‘i am angry‘." i said "ok, this is on you". i went from that session — i was very, you know, pleased with what i was about to do. i was like, i am going to go out and try and feel my anger, and i'm gonna try and express it. i was practising the sentence "i am angry". "i am angry." so the next time it would happen, i can say it out loud. and i met with friend, my best friend, her name is ina, like she's always smiling. like, she believes in things like love... what an idiot, right? and she met me the station and i hugged her. and she said "oh my god, i'm so happy to see you." i said "i'm so happy to see you!" she said, "do you want to go for dinner?" i said, "i'd love to go to dinner!"

she said "let's go for dinner — what you feel like eating?" i said "oh, i don't know... "i feel like having pasta." she said "oh, ifeel like having greek food." and then i punched her in the face. i punched her in the face. i saw this happen in slow—motion. i wasjust like "oh, no!" and i could just see, and my fist was like, "we're expressing feelings," and my heart was like, "don't do it!" like, "this is what we were afraid of!" and i saw my fist, like, just hit her, like, stupid smiling face, and she never once stopped smiling. she wasjust like, "ok, we'll have pasta. "i think you're too passionate about this!" ifelt so bad. and i didn't know what to do. i'd hit my friend. i don't want to be the kind of person who hits a friend. and i felt bad and she was looking at me with her big, blue eyes. i didn't know what to say, so ijust went "i am angry". then i stopped feeling feelings for the rest of my life. that's, uh, somewhat of a fairytale.

i would love to introduce you to the first person on the stage. are you up for being very, very nice? crowd: yeah! of course you are! please give it up for your first guest of the night! everybody‘s taken all the good disabilities, so i got left with dyspraxia. it's a developmental co—ordination disorder. it's sort of the less sexy cousin of dyslexia, which you'll have heard about. it largely affects motor control and speech and memory and information processing. so what generally happens is i fall over a lot and cock everything up. so this is a warning. watch this space. so i love living alone, because people. so my favourite activity is sitting alone on the sofa in my pants, watching the telly. all about that. so i can't actually keep pets or houseplants alive, so i certainly can't keep love and affection alive. it's far too much commitment generally.

i did a bit of online dating. and it then — it plays on your insecurities. it's a terrifying thing to do. because you're waiting there to meet this date, and you have written your profile, and you're thinking, well, maybe taking ten years off my age was a bit much. and the — i did use flattering photos, and i did pretend that i wasn't actually mental. so i was a bit worried about what they're going to think. so you're waiting to see him, and you are thinking he'll be all right. because people are better than that. and the mainstream media would have us believe that — that everybody‘s shallow and obsessed with how you look, but i find in my experience that real people, real people will be able to see behind the mess that you really are, and realise you're a beautiful person, you're a real person, and i like that. so i was feeling buoyed up about it. so i see him come out of the station. i clock him and i thought, "oh, you minger." so i thought — and with dyspraxia, i come over as very loud and sweary and scary. if i don't know people especially, i get a bit overpowering and overwhelming.

and people do get nervous around me. this is what they've said. obviously, it is nonsense, and i will fight anyone that says otherwise. but so — and this is just a classic apparently dyspraxia symptom. i didn't realise. i used to think i was this fascinating personality with all these quirks, and i'm so interesting, and i discover that i'm nothing but a list of symptoms. and i was very upset that i'm nothing below it. i'm entirely 2—dimensional. i'm just a condition. so this date looks nervous already. and that is before it all comes out. just the presentation alone is scaring the guy. so i thought, well, we'll go to the nearest pub. traipsing along. i go along as i usually do, stumbling over, talking loudly with my arms out, hitting lampposts. and then we try to get into the pub and the bouncer bars me. he said, "no, you're not coming in." and i said "what?" and the guy says "no, no, you're obviously too drunk, you can't come in". no, i do get this a lot. not always when i'm drunk, obviously. but so — so i turn to the guy and i though, you know, i'll argue with him.

because, as we all know, arguing with the bouncer, is obviously — you obviously always win. you're never going to lose that argument, talking to bouncers. so i say to him, "mate, come on, this is because i'm scottish, isn't it? you assume i've been drinking all morning." so i got — i'm not being gracious in defeat. i'm just wearing and stomping off, having a go at him under my breath, and generally vindicating him. you, just, i shouldn't be allowed in. but i was thinking i'm looking quite good because i'm in my heels. i'd put my high heels on especially. so — i can't walk in high heels. cannot. can't barely stand in high heels. but this doesn't stop me. i'm in complete denial. i imagine it makes it look like some girly delicate little flower, all sanguine and sexy. when — not like the angry tractor that i usually look like. inevitably, right, we're going along and i fall. and i don't fall in the way i would think i would fall in my head. like, oh, oh, ifell, oh... that's how i — that's how i'd like to fall. no, no, no, no, no... i come along, i stack it on the pavement. it is just this terrible mess of everything. everybody is aware of it.

and my top tip for this — i've got an m0, because i've fallen over so many times — is don't style it out. just stay on the ground. because otherwise, everybody just mocks — everybody‘s like "i'm filming it for youtube, it's hilarious." you stay down, they start to worry. they think, "oh, hang on. "might — might actually be seriously hurt, and then how bad will i look for laughing?" stay on the floor, listen to what's going on around you. you've got your pride, stay on the ground. so i get — my date picks me up off the ground. i'm quite galled he didn't prevent it from happening in the first place. so i'm already resentful. fortunately, this has taken place outside a pub, so obvious course of action. so, inside the pub — so i go in, and the landlady sees me coming in, bleeding everywhere, and she comes over with rolls of toilet paper to try and stem the bleeding and save the furniture. i'm sitting there with blood and tissues, because that adds to the ambience of a sexy date. the smell of tcp. who doesn't love that? so at this point, i am covered in blood, drinking and crying. and i am just asking "why it is happening to me?" this part of the day,

you're meant to chat, smalltalk conversation, which i can't do. i don't understand. i had written cues up my arm, and tried to pass it off as a tribal tattoo. so i'm chatting away — "what do you do? where do you live?" pause for response... oh, shit, no. every bit as scintillating as you might imagine. so we decided to leave, i think we left of our own volition, which is always a win, not being asked to leave. top time, can't ask for better than that. so just get back home and try to forget all about it, watch cartoons, sit on the sofa in my pants, watching television. equilibrium is restored. then a few days later, the date texts me and wants to see me again. why? why would you put yourself through that? what sort of person would want to experience all that again? what sort of self—esteem problems do have, lad? that's absolutely ridiculous.

i think, "god, i don't know anyone who wants to go out with me again, what a loser!" and that will be one of the many, many reasons i have been single for ten years. and thank you for laughing at my misfortune. i'm very glad you did. applause oh my god, that was herfirst time ever on stage. i have slept with worse comedians than that. that was amazing. we are about to have another storyteller on the stage. are you ready for that? crowd: yes! yay, please give a warm round of applause for the amazing mick scarlett! now, when i first discussed with the bbc ouch team what i'd be talking about today, i said, "can i talk about how i met my wonderful wife," who's sitting just there... hello, wonderful wife. about the romantic story

of seeing her across a crowded dancefloor, and how i immediately knew that she was the one for me. "no", they said, "no, that's really boring." "what we want is something edgy — something that's going to push boundaries. " and then i thought, "i know, i'm going to talk about my willy, and sex. "because that is edgy, isn't it?" i woke up one day before my german o—level. i found that my legs hurt, and my back really hurt. and every time i tried to stand up, ifell over. and so, of course, an ambulance was called. i was rushed to hospital. and it transpired that my spine had collapsed. yes, it is true, folks. you can break your back in your sleep. ijust thought i would tell all you bipeds that, just to make your day. so, eventually i came out of hospital, and, as you can tell, i had lost the ability to walk. there was no more standing for me. and there was also no more standing to attention down there. i had lost what the doctors call erectile function.

i knew that would happen: complete silence. so i thought, that's it. game over, man, game over. i thought that was it. i got really down and depressed. ithought, i know, i'll become the best male friend. and all my girlfriends would come around and i'd do their hair and do their make—up, and i'd dress them all up, and then i would send them out on dates. normally, with blokes wearing leatherjackets, which is why i now wear leather all the while, that owned mopeds, and if they were worse, they owned a ford capri. when i was young, that was a giveaway sign that it was going to be bad. and then what would happen is, that night, she'd come back round the house and cry on my shoulder. she would say he had sex with me, and then he dumped me. why can't they be like you? i, of course, did not see this as what i would now obviously recognise as a blatant come on. what i thought was that they would never want to be with me, because i can't do it.

so i would be like, oh, yes, don't worry, you'll be fine. one of my best female friends came to me and said, look, i've met this girl, and i think she is great. will you come to a party and meet her and all of the her friends? and i said of course. and i arrived, and of course,i was the one wearing the most make—up in the room. we are all getting along all famously, and then, as was the fashion, back then, we played a game. truth or dare. we played it at every party. i don't know why, because it always ended with a row. normally because we were always truthful or too daring, normally too truthful, but i thought this could be it. this could be my chance. i could tell my secret. up til then, i had kept it quiet. my brother did not know, my parents did not know, even my doctor didn't. i was going to admit to mr floppy. it was going to be great. were they sympathetic? were they caring? not at first. you know, when people laugh a bit too much, and then it is hang on a minute, it is not funny any more. i'm actually really hurt. it was that.

but eventually, my friend wiped away her tears, got her breath back, wiped her tears away, and likely across the head. she said "we're girls, we don't have willies. we make love to girls and do it well." "yay," they all cried — of course they did. i obviously had not worked that out. which kind of shows how innocent i was as a teenager. so, at the time, lesbianism and feminism were very, very closely associated, and very radical, these girls were. and they truly believe what was wrong with the planet was men and their erectile function and penetration. all penetration was bad. so suddenly, i was this new type of man, a man who... the next revolutionary leap, according to these girls! they thought it was great! i really liked these girls. cool and they took me under their wing. and they even made me an honorary lesbian. and i used to go on lesbian marches. there was me and a load of girls and just this bloke wearing lots of make—up and looking like boy george on wheels. "down with men, men are bad!" right? and they also taught me how to make

love to a woman like a woman. now, i wonder how many people out here are imagining a weird pornographic thing. no, i'm still a guy. they still wouldn't go near me, but they just taught me, told me, with words, not actions. sadly, but there you go. and when i was telling the bbc about this, they said "are you going to tell anyone? "are you going to tell us what they said? "please tell us!" well i won't. no. i'm afraid i will not let you know, because that would be betraying the sisterhood. so girls, if you want to know it is like, you will have to make love to a woman. thank you very much, and goodnight. give it up for mick scarlett! that was amazing. i think everybody could learn from that story. everybody. everybody! if anybody wants to buy me a pint

i will be at the bar. ready for another storyteller? put your hands together and give it up for the amazing sean lucas. hello. so, i grew up with hearing loss. moderatley severe. it means that essentially i cannot function in society without my hearing aids. i have these small devices. the funny thing is that i didn't wear them until i was about 20 years old. so for the first 20 years of my life i didn't hear much. so how did i get by? i essentially hung out with a lot of lovely people. literally. i grew up in italy, so, i mean... you have heard some of those people over there. i come from a family, we are 11! people. everyone is really loud. you can't really understand

how loud they are. every time i go back for christmas i have to take my hearing aids off. it's just crazy. so, i had a girlfriend. her name is elyse. she is british, from newcastle, but she does not have a geordie accent otherwise i would not understand what she is saying. she speaks very loudly and moves her hands a lot. as an italian i find this very attractive. the only thing is, she can speak quite fast. when we moved in together, communication was a little bit complicated. because she is not used to speaking to somebody who has hearing loss. so she speaks to me like i had perfect hearing. even if i have my hearing aids, i cannot hear ioo%. to give you an example, if i'm in the kitchen, cooking, and you walk

into the room and start talking to me right away when i'm not seeing you. i cannot hear, very likely, what you just said. even worse, if you speak to me from a different room. so i had to tell elyse, when you speak to me, don't cover your mouth, don't mumble, and don't speak to me from another room. but elyse will forget about this. so i had to come up with a new strategy. so my strategy was dog training. i was going to train elyce as if she was a dog. i thought that was a good idea. so every time i could not hear how i would interrupt her and tell her what she did wrong. elyse, you didn't speak while facing me. elyse, you are mumbling. and i'm annoying myself now, so imagine how annoying i was to her. so obviously i thought this was a great idea and i kept going. i took it one step further and introduced the marks on the wall.

we had a chalkboard at home and i said, elyse, every time you make a mistake, we are going to make a mark on the wall. which didn't work out, because believe it or not, i realised one day that she wasn't a dog. what really worked, we decided on a couple of ground rules. the first rule was that we would always speak in the same room, no exceptions. the second rule was the attention rule. elyse would always try to get my attention first and i would always give my attention to her, so i would stop doing something and tune in. this worked because we were both relaxed and we were open to accepting criticism. it wasn't like i was trying to interrupt her all the time, which was really frustrating. elyse came up with ways of getting my attention instead of calling my name all the time. what she did was start using filler words.

so before starting to speak to me she would start saying, by the way, or, you know what? this was great, because it gave me the time to tune in. i miss much less now, but i still miss things, but a beautiful thing is that i don't get frustrated any more because i know that she cares. thank you. applause amazing. that's so good. we have one more storyteller this evening. are you up for that? cheering you've been great, everybody has been great so far. this next storyteller is somebody i am very proud to know. you will love him. you will love her. please start cheering and applauding for the amazing harriet dyer. i am wearing an outfit that sums up metal health, you're welcome. that's my thing. i've got bipolar and it has caused some mayhem in my relationships. i've got a boyfriend at the moment

and he is proper the one, it is absolutely lovely. i doubt you wanna hear about that. before this understanding boyfriend, that guy i was seeing before had a problem with me doing stand—up comedy, beakers, i think, he thought it attacked his manalinity. i don't think that's a word! he kept telling me that his job was more important and all of that. one day we were in bed and he was telling me how good he would be at comedy. so he was pretending there was a front row of women, they were women in the front row, and he was like, if you do not laugh at myjokes, you're obviously lesbians. that's who i was dating. and then he has seen my medication when i was taking it by my bed, and he asked what it was. i am an open book so i said what it was and he goes, does that mean you're

going to kill me in the night? it didn't mean that, but if you carry on talking... the first time i thought i was in love i was at uni and this guy, ijust couldn't believe that somebody like him would be interested in me. he was so good—looking. there were signs that maybe it was not to be. here was a sign. once in the bad i woke up in the middle of the night with a very wet back. and i thought, why is my back wet? he said, sorry, babe. i dreamt you were a urinal. wee‘d on my back. that is not a keeper, is it? at university there was this girl, i worshipped the ground she walked on. i thought she was wonderful, really strong and independent and funny, i really liked her. so she became my best friend. after a while, going out with this guy, i said to my friend,

something doesn't sit right with me. i don't trust him. there's something not right. she is my best friend, so i opened up about stuff and all of that. she said, no, this isjust your mental health telling you this, it's all in your head. so i thought, all right. when i spoke to him about it he said the same thing. so i said, ok, that's what happened. they were together, right? they were getting together. how bad's that? and when i properly caught them, they were doing the whole, yes, this is because of your childhood, harriet, this and that. it was not even what they had done, it was the fact they using that against me. i was livid. they were lying at me, and i punched them both in the face, but, because i'm not a fighter, i have punched them both in the forehead and i've broken both my hands. honestly!

and then, because they were such horrible people, that was not enough, i have gone home and then she's rang the police. so the next morning i am in my residence, and i get woken up why the police and they arrest me. so i have then been carted to a prison cell, theyjust put me in the cell with this guy, and he had one tooth, and he was just chatting nonsense at me. he told me he invented toothpaste, right? i said, what are you on about? it made me laugh, after all this nonsense. i have gone, mate, i don't think you did invent toothpaste. and he's gone, no, if you think about it. if somebody with lots of teeth invented toothpaste, it would be called teethpaste. and i thought, you can't really argue with that, really. and that is, honest to god, that is on my record forever. i used to do teaching, and that is just so sad that is on my record.

thank you ever so much. cheers. applause harriet dyer! give it up for all the storytellers you have heard tonight. you have all been lovely. have a good night! hello, good morning. 19 degrees in one or two places on saturday but it's turned cold very quickly. perhaps not quite so chilly across more southern parts of england and wales where that easterly wind is still blowing, but across northern areas, no wind, one or two mist and fog patches perhaps, and cold enough for a frost in quite a few places once again. but it will warm up very quickly

in the sunshine on sunday. there will be lots of that. quickly close to the area of high pressure, the winds are lightest, still a bit more cloud coming into shetland, possibly orkney. further south, that nagging wind, that easterly wind quite brisk across southern parts of england. that'll take the edge off the temperatures. generally we're looking at around about the mid—teens, a touch cooler around about the eastern coasts of england. highest temperatures probably across western scotland, western parts of northern ireland and west wales. again, 18 maybe 19 degrees. but some changes on monday. a bit more cloud around taking temperatures back across northern england, southern scotland, northern ireland but to the south, not as windy and there'll be some more warm sunshine as well. welcome to bbc news, broadcasting to viewers

in north america and around the globe. my name is lebo diseko. our top stories: a new leader for hong kong is being chosen right now, as thousands protest against the lack of democracy. the us admits that coalition aircraft did strike an area of mosul, where many civilians were killed last week. hundreds arrested in belarus, as protests continue against a tax on the under—employed. and on landmarks all around the planet, lights go out for earth hour — to raise awareness of climate change.