tv 100 Women BBC News December 7, 2018 9:30pm-10:01pm GMT
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this is bbc world news, the headlines. a top executive from chinese telecoms giant, huawei has appeared in court in canada, on charges linked to breaching sanctions on iran. meng wanzhou is accused of conspiracy to defraud multiple financial institutions. germany's christian democrats have chosen annegret kramp karrenbauer as their new leader. she's a protege of angela merkel and is now a strong candidate to take over as chancellor too. us president donald trump has announced william barr will be the next attorney general, a job he last did 25—years—ago. he'll oversee the muller investigation into allegations that russia meddled in the 2016 election. there's been violence between french students and police as the country prepares for more anti—government protests this weekend. at ten o'clock fiona bruce will be here with a full
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round up of the days news. first, women that volunteer to give birth to a stranger's child and receive only expenses in exchange in 100 women: the surrogates club. i'm creating not just a child these gentleman, but i'm also creating a legacy. his dad's, it was their faces. it was very very raw of motion. if you're in this, you have to be in this for the love of giving. i use my body to help people build decks and chairs, i don't feel it is any different. women are not paid to be surrogates. it's a tenured jail term, or $500,000 fine if you purchase your surrogate a gift. that said police, before i could stand up, i had a gun to my head. hope you like to see this.
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i will make as many babies as i possibly can, until it gives out on me. it's not your genetics. it's somebody else's. it's an extreme version of baby—sitting. did you tell my suitcase? yay. so today we are anticipating between 50—60 surrogates. we run these retreats, every couple months across canada. it's an opportunity for women to come and connect. this space is our sacred space. surrogacy can be very difficult. women can struggle with
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miscarriage or loss. the honouring of these women is what's the priority. they will come in, in this moment is a moment of self reflection. everyone thinks we're in there over there, over like their self up to the place. i don't know how to make it more clear. hey guys. hey hot mama. help the people with their bags. in canada, surrogacy is alturistic. women are not paid to be surrogates. it is a reimbursement of expenses given to the woman carrying, by the intended parents who will eventually, hopefully, if all goes well have a baby. there is no employer,
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and there is no employee. it means that it's a connection, and a commitment that two parties make in order to build a family. so ladies, as you come in, let'sjust get settled. for those of you who are new to our retreats, at the beginning of each retreat we start with a meditation. i don't have a whole lot of time for meditation, and i imagine many of you don't. the ones that do, i applaud you for creating this time for yourself. you know, we will stay up until ten o'clock at night making cupcakes for the class party, but can't find three seconds to take three deep breaths to centre ourselves, and that'sjust mum rules. angie is going to lead us in the meditation. now please place your hand on your abdomen. we're wound is or has been. 0n of the depth, the life, and the
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connection to our mothers. the cycles, the rhythm. i'm currently pregnant. we cannot yesterday that the baby is stuck. my intended parents are from montreal. there are two guys. they're absolutely fantastic man. they will make amazing fathers. we have been there and we remember that feeling of judgement. 0h, does that mean she is a different dad? yes. do all of your kids have different dads, well most of them. i love pregnancy. after my five kids i didn't want any more of my own, so five kids i didn't want any more of my own, so i got my tubes tied, but i still can be a surrogate, and i can still produce and make these babies for people, and as long my body will allow it, i will be a surrogate. i will make as many babies as i possibly can until he gives out on me. —— until it gives
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out on me. i am pregnant with a little girl. for me, i see a lot of americans surrogates, they get paid 16- americans surrogates, they get paid 16 - 120,000 just to americans surrogates, they get paid 16 — 120,000 just to get pregnant, where in canada we don't do it. so to me that is more special. —— 60,000 to 120,000 just to get pregnant... you know receive feedback how could you give up that baby? what are you going to do to your children? you're giving up your life for your, you're giving up your family life, and it's nine months. i don't have to worry about my period. it's your body, it's your choice. there should not be anyone that takes which you do to your body, evenif takes which you do to your body, even if it is your spouse, because i received a lot of negative comments for my spouse just because he is
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frustrated. he just doesn't understand. he doesn't understand why i am doing this, because only i would understand the full extent of this. one of my biggest supporters was my itiuiti, this. one of my biggest supporters was my mum, and she just passed away oi'i was my mum, and she just passed away on wednesday. she has been the one that told me to keep going, and even though i have had negative criticism, she just, she though i have had negative criticism, shejust, she was though i have had negative criticism, she just, she was buried there for that for me. she definitely made sure other people did not talk badly about it, and she informed them all the time that i am my own person, and i know i have always lived outside of the box. i live a different life than most. so this is my firstjourney as a
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surrogate. i'm trying to be more disconnected in a way so i don't get attached to the baby. way that i am just worried about afterwards and my emotions, so i am detecting my emotions. i chose a single father. that was important to me, because men have no way of having children. he is french, and i am french, and so he is french, and i am french, and so he is a teacher. as a teacher myself i connected to that kind of world, and their understanding of children. i'm 23 weeks with a french european baby. i'm glad to be here because i have had a really easy pregnancy like everyone, but not an easy relationship. i've got to be people that are not him. he knows that he is anxious, and i am not at all, and i struggle with being with people, not being, helping people who are anxious. i would not do it
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ifi who are anxious. i would not do it if i new who are anxious. i would not do it ifinewi who are anxious. i would not do it if i new i was getting paid for it. that would feel like a job to me, andi that would feel like a job to me, and i want to give somebody that gift. i have used my body to help people build decks and sheds, and i don't feel it is any different although it is inside my body. i feel as if he know that it is empowering to me that i can make this decision for myself. i'm going to come around with more colours, don't worry ladies. 0ne, to come around with more colours, don't worry ladies. one, two, three. but it has sparkles. you boys, complete this table. played it now, and cleaned it up. ——
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come the stable. don't walk on the table. 0k, do you want me to read you the renewals? what do you do with the green monsters? you rate so that he ripens. right? so it goes, spencer, the jacob, zachary, chloe, and riley. sol spencer, the jacob, zachary, chloe, and riley. so i have more surrogacy journeys arty planned out. one done, what in the middle, maybe i will find peace after that. —— one in the middle. this is where i keep my receipts. you get reimbursed for groceries, lost wages, and any medication. anything that is directly related to the circuit city is reimbursable. —— surrogacy without my consult this time is 2450 a month. sometimes i reached a
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barely, and other times i reached it and so much over. so here is my medicine collection. my daughter does not like this. you have your morning and your evenings. being a surrogate you do have to take a lot more medication. you need to take shots once a day. until 12 weeks of pregnancy. it's so well because you need to do it so often. —— so will because you need to take it so. what i take for being a surrogate is the pleasure of being able to give somebody what they've wanted for who knows how long. it's a very thick oil. it does take some time to get
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it in. i'm proud, i oil. it does take some time to get it in. i'm proud, lam very oil. it does take some time to get it in. i'm proud, i am very proud that i am able to carry that this child for somebody. you tell yourself, it's not my baby, i don't need to get attached, and actually works. i know she is not mine, and i was completely 0k works. i know she is not mine, and i was completely ok with that. i have five kids of my own, i don't need any more in my house. yeah, my daughter plays violin, and this is my son's tiny viola. he plays that, i know it is little. that is my son's cello over there, but that is a big one. it is on a stand. hello. we are making a train downstairs. i love it. how are you
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making this, like what are you going to do it them. i am finally in the third trimester, and i'm starting to feel that i am pregnant. i'm starting to feel tired, and the baby is moving a tonne. i am principal of two orchestras. i am principal cellist without any of my babies, or any of the babies i have carried have reacted differently to be playing the cello. sometimes i can feel the belly go anywhere because i don't want them to begin the vibrations, and another would push out so they can be read against my cello. this one seems, the seems to fall asleep whenever i am actually playing. my main concern is to protect my children, and to protect my family, like our feelings that i wa nt my family, like our feelings that i want things to say the same. hi gabby. hi. we're just talking
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want things to say the same. hi gabby. we're just talking about the baby. 0k. are we keeping gabby.- we're just talking about the baby. 0k. are we keeping the baby afterwards? no. how do you feel about it? good because we don't want for children. for children as a lot, and because it's hard to handle a lot of people. it is hard to handle a lot of people. especially when you get a baby. do you ever have doubts or reservations? my reservations with it were, this kind of thing is it available to everybody in the world. i do going in that we're going to help a person get what they wanted, because they were able to afford it, they had the means, and i think i got past it for the most part, i mean there have been a couple of incidents with intended fathers was acting entitled, the
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attitude was basically i am paying for this, i deserve these things. no, because we have a humid here is that she is entitled to her own health, details. even in the ultrasound, i didn't want to send the full results. that is my cervix, i really don't feel comfortable with people knowing about that. i think the fathers used to having a lot of control in his life. what i've come to realise is that he is really excited. he is a first—time parent, he gets to have a baby. ijust cannot be as excited as them. i have three children already. i don't know ifi three children already. i don't know if i would pick somebody else, but i would make sure that i would talk about my expectations before even going to the whole thing. there are other circuits that have different relationships, and knowing that i am not being mean to, or selfish by not wanting to talk to him all the time, thatis wanting to talk to him all the time, that is how to meet the most —— that
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is the most. is 0k to the database. —— to need that space. is the most. is 0k to the database. -- to need that space. so we can just let san diego know they're going to get bassano, note commitment on transfer was that if you want to cct that, organised in the next week. i started cfc ii yea rs the next week. i started cfc ii years ago. it was myself and one tea m years ago. it was myself and one team member which has now turned into over 30 staff in three offices. in ourfirst yearwe into over 30 staff in three offices. in ourfirst year we had ten surrogates. right now we have just over 500 active surrogates in our programme it is illegalfor intended pa rents to programme it is illegalfor intended parents to pay our agency or any other consultancy agency in canada to find a surrogate without the matching is done in our programme for free. if the
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matching is done in our programme forfree. if the intended matching is done in our programme for free. if the intended surrogate decided to work with is on the coordination side of things, we will manage that for them. six years ago, the day started as any other day. there was a bang at the door, and they said police, and before i could stand upi they said police, and before i could stand up i had a gun to my head. fast—forwa rd, went to stand up i had a gun to my head. fast—forward, went to court, pled guilty to regulatory defences. it was paying surrogate and egg donors without receipts. we now know very clearly that we require a receipt, and we as an industry struggle, with what constitutes a payment. is it a necklace, or gift at birth is that a payment? this leg is dead. there we go.
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created a family. that's crazy with the it's not my own, it's someone else's family. that's crazy. good. i thought i was going to get more tea rs thought i was going to get more tears out of you. or are they still coming. when she is very gorgeous. —— well and she is very gorgeous. so today, i'm going to go down and see the guys, and i'm going to bring some them syrup. this isjust
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overnight, which my classroom is still coming. i'm going to take that down to them, and then give her formula. it's better if ijust pump, because the baby will have to get confused, and none of the breast but the bottle and be the connection helps them with my emotional mental health. hello. you guys set this up to. so cute. i don't know how to work that went. he knows how to work it. you can probably smell my milk as
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well. i'm sorry, no. i know at the retreat i had spoke of my fiancee not being very supportive. he is really struggling with this process. my really struggling with this process. my kids of the other hand, love it. they realise it's not our baby, but they are going to be a part of our life for a very long time. my my mum, she now passed, she really encouraged me to keep going, so not having herjoin me during the birth was really ha rd.
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having herjoin me during the birth was really hard. my dad, having him there, and he was holding a picture of her the whole time. itjust made me feel like she was there. she would be very proud of me, because she has been very proud of me this whole process, so completing it successfully without totally losing my mindi successfully without totally losing my mind i think that, i think that's what really got me through knowing my bra mum was proud. hello there. 0ur week's been dominated by wet weather with some wild westerly winds down in there as well. now friday's storm is now moving off into the north sea, but it is going to be replaced by another frontal system that will bring some showery outbreaks of rain from the west today. and this westerly flow will continue for another 2a hours, at least. so, showers merging together for longer spells of rain into northern ireland, northern england, down to the midlands. to the south, a few showers but it stays a relatively mild
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with 11 to 13 degrees. to the north, a little bit quieter on friday, and a little bit cooler that is because the winds are starting to swing around to more of the northerly component. so the front clears up into the near continent. we see the isobars swinging more to a vertical direction, driving in a cluster of showers through the night, and to clear through the early hours of sunday morning. they will do so across england and wales, in the middle part of the day, it's a bright and breezy affair, but a noticeable difference in the feel of the weather. a cooler story into the afternoon. 6 or 7 degrees into the north. we might scrape into the double digits in the southwest if we're lucky. we see this little ridge of high pressure building through sunday into monday morning, keeping things largely fine and quiet, but a little bit cooler so we could see low single figures and a touch of frost first thing on monday. that cooler component stays with us on monday, but it's worth bearing in mind that the mild air is always knocking on the door out in the west,
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and with that they could bring some wetter weather as well. well for monday, yes it will be a chilly start. we will have some dry bright weather in the story. still that northerly component, plenty dry for most of us, touch on the chilly side is certainly down through the north sea facing coast with 5 to 7 degrees. out to the west we got a little bit of cloud and patchy rain here and there. as high—pressure drifts off to the near continent, toppling across the high is this week's weather front. i suspect on tuesday there's going to be a lot of cloud around. the winds out of the west start to swing back up to south—westerly, which will drive in a lot of cloud and bring moisture from time to time. a little bit damp and drizzly allow those west facing coast. not quite as cold on tuesday, 8 to 12 degrees the high. as he move out of tuesday into wednesday, we see the high—pressure drifting off into scandinavia, allowing for a weak weather front to push in. as it bumps into the high,
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it will be quite a weak affair. bits and pieces of rain across west facing coast, a little bit murky as well there. and in terms of the feel of things, we will see double digits out to the southwest, six to 9 degrees elsewhere. so this is a pattern as we go through the week really, high—pressure moving off into the near continent, and potential for this south—westerly flow to try and return, and sandwiched inbetween the two, the battle ground is the uk. and the jet stream is fairly light, and undulating which means at the beginning of the week, it's not much happening. that is the theme. but as you go through the middle to next week, thejet stream re—intensifies, becomes less undulating, and that could potentially drive in more wetter weather in off the atlantic again. so it does look as though from sunday onwards we will see chillier but drier weather. however, it is not expected to last. it could potentially turn wet and windy again.
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a warning of disruption at channel ports for up to six months if there's no brexit deal. the government describes the delays at dover or folkestone as a worst case scenario. meanhile, ministers criss cross the country to drum up public support for the prime minister's brexit deal. they will hear those voices saying, "we want this sorted", "we want this deal accepted", because we need to move on as a country. and, theresa may insists the vote for her brexit deal must go ahead next tuesday, despite the criticism from all sides. also tonight... one of the bosses of chinese telecoms giant huawei appears in court in canada, charged with breaking us sanctions against iran. an emotional appeal for the british backpacker missing for nearly a week in new zealand. grace has never been out of contact for this amount of time. she's usually in daily contact with either her mother,
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