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this is bbc news, the headlines: health officials in gaza say four palestinians have died during protests to mark the first anniversary of the weekly demonstrations along the border with israel. tens of thousands of people attended rallies organised by the militant group hamas, throwing stones and petrol bombs at israeli forces. the anti—corru ption candidate, zuzana caputova, has won the presidential election in slovakia, making her the country's first female head of state. ms caputova defeated a high—profile diplomat, marosh sebjovich from the governing party.
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the british prime minister, theresa may, has been looking for ways to bring her eu withdrawal agreement back to parliament after it was defeated for a third time on friday. mps meanwhile will test support for other options during a second round of so—called "indicative votes" on monday. now on bbc news, does society really accept bisexuality? to find out, radio 1's newsbeat has spent a year following a group of friends as they try to hold the uk's first major bi pride march. this programme contains some adult themes. lgbt pride events, the perfect place for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and loads of other people to come together and celebrate who they are. well, not according to this lot. these events are often not fully
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inclusive to bi people, so this is an opportunity for us to say actually, we're going to create our own space. they have decided to try and do something never before done in the uk, to organise a pride event specifically for bisexual people. it can be quite difficult trying to fit in within the lgbtq community. definitely a lot that i have heard about just wanting everything. for the past 11 months, we have been following the campaign to get a bi pride. can they do it? along the way, we have been trying to find out why, whether it is mental health or sexual violence, research suggests bis are having a tough. bi people have to move through every dayjust living in a world that doesn't get you. i don't get how lgbt people can be both sides, straight or gay. curious people, like they don't know
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what they want in life. we have also been meeting people who say their lives have suffered massively, just through being bi. bisexuality is seen by a lot of people as just a type of porn, two women and one man, and that definitely influenced what happened to me. why would you not want to date a guy that has been with a guy before? like an insecure thing because i'm quite jealous, and like a lot of people would be jealous of it. what are we doing today? so we've got people gathering today to match with us for pride in london.
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we're going to have 100 people in the parade and we're selling these absolutely lovely silicone wristbands, one in the bi pride flag colours and one in the pan colours, and then we're going to be off marching and having fun. yes, pride in london, one of hundreds of pride events that already go on all around the country, celebrating the entire lgbtq community. so if bisexuals can happily take part in this, why do they need their own pride too? it is absolutely incredible to see the amount of people that have come out to show their support. you are probably feeling like why do we need our own pride? we get to come to these prides, and unfortunately there are still rather a lot of stigma in the lgbtq community. lesbians saying that you are untrustworthy, that they don't want to date bisexuals. it happens across the
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whole bi community. so we will have people turn up and celebrate their own individuality. it is going to be wonderful. as a bisexual, i have felt prejudice when i am in lgbtq spaces and within the lgbtq community from gay men. i get comments like that's not a real thing, and just... bi now, gay later. and just being with my girlfriend, i sometimes can feel uncomfortable in spaces that are specifically for gay men. bi pride! now, because i will be there next year. i have kept like four prides myself. this is so amazing, the atmosphere is so happy, everybody here is so amazing. we all know that love is love, but to have such focus on us as a group would just mean the world
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to so many people who feel the same way as we do. it would be, you know, it would just be fantastic. there's not a great deal of large—scale, credible research out there about bisexuality, but what research there is suggest bisexuals don'tjust experience prejudice from the gay community. a lot of bisexual men reckon they are treated massively differently to bisexual women, so how does it feel when so many members of the opposite sex would rule out dating you before they've even met you? to find out, we've enlisted the help of a 22—year—old bisexual named ryan, from huddersfield. i think there's definitely a huge difference in the way that male and female bisexuals are viewed in society and just one example, like, how glamorised lesbians are, like on porn, you see lesbians all over the place and bisexuals, female female, you don't see
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the same relationship when it comes to male bisexuals and girls watching porn. there are people out there who have a problem dating bisexual males, for sure. i've never had any problems, but i know that it's a problem for some guys. to open ryan's eyes, we're packing him off to glasgow on a date with a girl called sophie, except it's not really date because they're both already in relationships and sophie told us she wouldn't date a bisexual. i'm excited to meet sophie, i think she'll be a regular person with some slightly backwards views. i wouldn't hold it against someone having an opinion, but i do think it is very much worth them trying to take a more open—minded view. there's a very good chance that sophie and i may fall in love.
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so ryan's feeling confident, what about sophie? i'm nervous, i'm really nervous. we found sophie after putting up a very unscientific poll on facebook asking women whether they'd date a man who had had sex with another man. most said no. it's not my preference, but it has never, as yet with anyone that i have dated, so it has never been something i've had to think about as of yet, until now, so this will probably be a bit of an eye—opener to me. i will understand a bit more than what i do, really. well, afterfive long hours, ryan is nearly there. here goes nothing. hey, sophie. you 0k? how are you? so far, so good? thank you. cheers. thank you.
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so, the reason we're here is to talk about sexuality and specifically dating a male bisexual. i think for most people, for me as well, it is like an insecure ything because i'm quite jealous and most people would be jealous of that. you would be like they like that girl's or actually like that person's picture, they are liking everyone's picture, you are like oh god, like... theyjust have more to worry
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about than if you are with someone that's straight. i don't know, surely we judge that person by their character, so if i was like a known player, like someone who would sleep around a lot, withjust women and ijust slept around with a lot of women, that could play on the girlfriend's mind. yeah, that would put me off personally. but then, if it was like i would only sleep with people that i find interesting, whether it be guys or girls, surely that would be fine, if you could trust them. yeah, i know that they are interested in both sexes, so you would find that you are never able to give them everything that they want, but at the same time, from what you are saying, it is not just about that. i think it's straight people, there's an assumption that they can only be with other straight people because that's what's stereotypical, and it's a shame.
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i mean, this has opened my mind a lot. i have never been in a situation to have this discussion with a bisexual or gay person. now that i have, i probably wouldn't care going forward. yeah. me and sophie and hanging out with sophie was really cool. i think the thing i've taken away is the reason she gave me for not wanting to initially date bisexual males were less malicious than i initially thought they would be, less prejudiced. it is very logical in the way she thinks, but it also seems very personal. i feel like i have learned a lot
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from him and that i shouldn't be so quick to judge and assume what i would be interested in, without getting to know the person, rather than just going off what society tells me to go offjust because i'm straight. so if ryan wanted to, would you go on a second date with him? i would, yeah. hey, i'm salli owen. i'm a bi activist and i work with the lgbtq community, and i know how sexual violence affects the community because i was raped
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bya hetero couple. this is the first time salli has spoken about the attack publicly. some of her memories of that night took weeks to come back to her. they were just giving me loads to drink and i was drinking water because i'd had enough, i didn't want any more but i kept finding vodka in front of me, not water. i was just hoping they would say soon that they were going to sleep because i was so tired, but they didn't. so eventually, i asked them, i said "can i go to sleep now? i am so tired." and i had so many drinks that i couldn't speak properly, i couldn't walk straight, and then they suddenly seemed really nervy around me, really edgy, and then when i stood up to go to bed, they stood up as well and they grabbed me and... that's when it started and it went on for hours and hours, and...
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it was, a lot of it i don't remember but, i remember, i remember the pain and i remember bits of it, like being smacked so hard around the head that everything went white and i couldn't see. it was really scary but i was too scared to say anything, and i think even if i'd tried to, because i was so out of it, then i'm not sure i would have been able to say anything anyway. i was there for maybe six hours in total and the only reason they let me out in the end was because they had work to do, so... i went home then, passed out for a bit, and then when i woke up, i went to a&e. salli says before the attack,
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the couple repeatedly quizzed her on her sexuality. bisexuality is seen by a lot of people as just a type of porn, meaning two women and one man, and that definitely influenced what happened to me. despite the violence, it was not until later salli started to think of what happened as rape, but because only around 2% of reported rapes in england and wales resulted in conviction, she was put off coming forward. you decided not to go to the police? although i fully support people who do go to the police about sexual violence, bi women are seen as greedy, slutty, asking for it, if i had've even got as far as having it taken to court, which wouldn't happen anyway, it would have been dropped long before that, there's no way i would win.
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so, historically, the reason why bi people face this kind of prejudice is that society has been really invested in the idea that sexuality is you're either straight or you're gay and there is nothing in between. on the lesbian and gay side of things, it has been helpful to them politically, and whether or not it is actually the case, to say we were born this way and we cannot help our sexuality and, therefore, we ought to have the same rights as everybody else. and then bisexual people are kind of muddying that message a little bit and making it a little more messy because if you can be with partners of more than one gender, then maybe that suggests that sexuality is not something born into you, but for some people, there is a level of choice. and so because society has historically been incredibly homophobic we have people here who are invested in not being gay and a bunch of people here who are really invested in not being straight and not being able to be straight
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and then you have bi people in the middle who are kind of unpopular on both sides because they mess with the messages that both sides are trying to put across. over the summer, the bi pride team have been going to as many existing lgbt pride events as they can to try to drum up support for their own bi pride. it is september, and we have dropped in on a fundraising event they're running in london. just setting up for bi lights, which is a bi visibility day fundraising event. but we've just had a bit of a slight stress on our committee. our production manager has just resigned, unfortunately, and that was the person who was going to be responsible for basically arranging the main event. so, we're all kind of pitching in at the moment and desperately trying to plan for march and this has just been at the top of my mind because i have been focusing on this for the time being. and this is a bit of an indicator. if you can't get people here, then you don't stand much
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chance next march. i know, i know. don't remind me. it's weird because basically we had the whole summer. we have had loads people come up to us and to our stand and telling us it is great what we are doing, that we need a bi pride, we need a space where we can be celebrated. and then you put an event on and you ask people to come and you just don't sell tickets. i don't know if it's because it's a paid event or what the issue is, but we just haven't sold enough tickets, really. i don't know. so i am a little stressed! how many tickets have you sold? about 30. to be honest, if we sold out, we could have raised somthing like £3,000 towards the event and would have made so much difference because we just have no money at all. at the moment, it is like £250, which is not ideal. but, hey... so this is like the most despondent i think i have ever seen you. are you worried about next march? i am so worried, yeah. all the optimism of earlier this year is dwindling. there is still so much to do.
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we don't have a venue yet. we don't know if there will be a march, we don't know if we can close the streets, we haven't got acts confirmed. all we have is that done is advertise the day. like, we have flyers with the date on it and stuff. so, basically everything. but we've got flyers. so. ..great. i have never seen a man put a condom on so fast.
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so we just finished and the acts were absolutely incredible. how many people do you think you got in total? probably about a0 or 50 people. not to put a damper on it, but if you want to put on the uk's first major bi pride event, 50 people won't be a major event. no, absolutely not. we are looking for 15,000 people, hopefully. i'm hoping that when it is an unpaid full and proper pride event hopefully we will have more people. sam is putting a brave face on it, but she is clearly worried there may not be as much appetite for their pride as they'd hoped. she might well be right. we met lulu and herfriends at a gay bar in sheffield. for me, as a bisexual person, another event to celebrate the lgbtq community cannot be negative. it is a good thing.
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but i wonder if we're going to end up separating all of these things and eventually there will a pride for every sexuality every weekend of the year. and then, will we lose our momentum as a minority? as people who. .. exactly. i think we are better together. the more we get together, the stronger we will be and the better we will face the future about all these things, all these issues and all the stigma. the pride that we have now is enough that i don't crave a special occasion just to represent my part of the community. i'm not opposed to it, i'm just not sure if it is the number one thing on my agenda with my sexuality. it has been a bit
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of a tricky time lately. we have had some financial issues. basically, we had a massive issue with the bank that we were setting up an account with, they took three or four months longer than expected to set our bank account up, which meant we could not apply for grants, we could not get sponsorship and basically could not get money in. so we have had to postpone our march 9 event. really, really gutted, to be honest. do you mind reading us one of your poems? i don't. what sort do you want me to read? i have loads of different ones. what you want it to be about? i guess, one that touches on your mental health? ok, yeah, i have one called i'm fine. "when i say i'm fine, i mean i'm tired. "i'm tired of waking up and feeling
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like i'm not in control of my life. "i feel like a puppet, my body on loan. "i'm tired of my mind's thoughts cutting away at me like a knife." i have had mental health difficulties ever since i can remember. when i began going to the gps about it, they were hesitant to give me any sort of diagnosis. they basically told me i was a teenager and i'd grow out of it. i even self—harmed and stuff like that, and for a 12— or 13—year—old to be going through these things, it is really really difficult to get across to people that you need help without kind of feeling like you're attention seeking. so, at the moment, i'm on mirtazapine. it's an antidepressant and it basically just releases serotonin
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in the brain, it'sjust like an extra chemical. i do think for me, definitely, bisexuality has had an impact on my mental health because i constantly feel like half of myself is missing. if i am in a relationship with a man, i feel like i can't really talk about my attraction to women, and if i am in a relationship with a woman, ifeel like i can't talk about my attraction to men. just because i'm meant to be in a committed relationship and it should not matter who else i'm attracted to. so i do feel like it has had an impact, just because i feel like there's always a part of me that is not being true to myself and a part of me isjust kind of being left and forgotten. "so, when you ask me how i'm doing, know that i'm tired. "know to just stop asking because i know i'm getting there. "and i know i'll be ok.
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"so i'lljust say, i'm fine." really good. thanks. so this is the venue that we would have been in today. this would have been full of food trucks and people and flags with people coming in and out of those doors. our main auditorium in that big building there, but, yeah...it‘s all a little empty today, which is sad. there will probably be a wedding or something like that later. but, yeah, this is where we would have been had march 9 still been happening. we were looking at closing the roads and having a big parade and everything, so that would have been pretty amazing. it's a bit sad it's not got flags
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or cheerful pride people. we haven't been here since 6am, which is also sad but... it's actually not raining. yeah, according to the weather forecast, it looks like the hours that the event would have been open today, it actually will not rain. amazing. so, is this the end for bi pride? we have now booked the same venue on september 7, in pride visibility month, and we will do this epic event. at the end of day, this is the first time this event has ever happened in the uk, so as long as it happens, it is happening at the right time. a 6—month delay is not the biggest deal. so if we had done this event now, today, it would not have been what it should have been. how do you reflect on the last year? quite a roller—coaster. yeah, i'm thinking of the best times
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and the stressful times and it is... yeah, it has been all over the place, but in a very very good way. every time we hit a bump, we come back stronger. so, yeah, building a dynasty. it will go on for years, forever. this isjust the beginning. hello again. we've got quite a change in our weather compared with yesterday, when temperatures reach 20 celsius in kew in greater london. temperatures in the capitaljust ii degrees. a drop of nine celsius. the changes brought about by a cold front, this area of cold that you can see here. a few spots of rain across wales, midlands, parts of
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east anglia and south—east england. not too cold given the cloudy weather. further north, a widespread frost. temperatures as low as “4 in the countryside. in scotland, parts of northern england and northern ireland, i think we will have the best weather with plenty of sunshine. further south, more best weather with plenty of sunshine. furthersouth, more cloud than we had yesterday but still a lot of dry and bright weather. some sunny spells. a lot cooler, especially with those easterly winds. you will notice the change in the feel of the weather. through the night time, we will keep night clear skies. the wind staying light, so we will see some frost developing. a chilly start to monday, but a gloriously sunny start. should be bright enough for eastern scotland with some sunshine here for a time.
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in the north—west we will see the cloud thickened, out breaks of rain even. that terms heavier in the afternoon, accompanied by a little bit of snow in the scottish hills. in the south, 13 or 1a degrees, temperatures rising by a few degrees, but that will be short lived. it will be much colder on tuesday. a cold front swings across the uk, bringing cold north—westerly winds from the r stick. we will see some sunshine but 20 of heavy showers. a wintry flavour, we could see a bit of snow on the hills. it will feel cold, six degrees in northern scotland. it will be a cold day. that is the latest weather forecast. if you have not already done so, put your clocks forward as we head into british summertime. that is your latest.
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