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today to say that you are not engaged in self-development. it's like confessing that you don't brush your teeth is not a crime. but it seems, as it is indecent, is it good to constantly pump yourself up or is this already a sign that you are on the hook of self-development, will we deal with this today? hello for example 10% i invest in self-development of earned money. you will be wasting your time, your money, your resources. why would you let it be? if you want to be a baker, it didn't work out. take it off here a little money and go further than the shore, ran to the nearest office, the police wrote a statement to dad. uh, that's how daddy taught me how to write

the feeling that it should be different, that my life should be different, that it should be realized in a different way, there were crises. something did not work out upset. wait, what kind of inner core is so powerful where does it all come from? what is the danger of the race for self-development and how to get out of it, we will talk about this today as our guest gestalt therapist victoria kavitskaya, who will help us figure this out, good afternoon victoria, once the name of the winner. do you always count for victory and you know, i would always like to count on victory, but, unfortunately, in life it doesn’t always happen. so everything is perfect when it works out, and to defeat the craving for knowledge and self-development, in your opinion, the view of an expert , is it good or bad? and in my opinion, uh, the craving for self-development is something very natural for a person that uh leads him

to improve his life, his position in society. i don’t know about some material embroidered benefits of achievement, a and e, but at the same time sometimes this lies, of course but such things when it is impossible to stop in achieving and more and better more and more grandiose grandiose. it's bad when it stops being fun. but rather it becomes ordinary, or something, a process a process for the sake of a process, then this, of course , is bad. because at the same time, a person will most likely lose more than gain, what is behind the desire for self-development with such a question. we turned to minsk residents. let's find out what they think, they are self-development,

again, this is naturally a need person. this is a test of something new. it's growth, it's moving forward. and up behind self-development is the desire to become better yourself, never stand still, never try to move somewhere in terms of work in terms of emotions of relationships. i think it's aspiration. eh, souls, and purpose is a buzzword that everyone is talking about now, that is, we came here to get some kind of experience. we always want to go to the novelty. reading books, communicating something else, accepting new information, this is self-development. i had no self-development, but here they died long ago, like dinosaurs. according to victoria’s last statement, there would be no self-development, we would have died out long ago, and you know, i think that most likely it would have been so, because, but the desire for some kind of novelty is a new acquisition. eh, emotional eh, acquisition of professional acquisition of

social is, of course, some very important thing and part of our civilization. yes, we are civilized people. that's why the dinosaurs became extinct. maybe they haven't fully socialized yet. and what is behind this desire for self-development, how rule, what is it? ah, behind the aspiration is, in fact. this is dissatisfaction, dissatisfaction, however, if, for example, a woman, she is the mother of three children, she is absolutely happy in this, she has enough emotions in this space. somehow she gets some a responses. yes , there from the children of the spouse of relatives. she has a good social life there. actually, why not. and why is this self-development there, yes, and if she is happy in this, well, that is a very important

component for me, some kind of quality. yes, as a person, uh, this is what it feels like . hmm, it's behind it, i think. still striving to develop. yes, someone is running there and i need to hurry, yes, here, but there masha met the entrance. yes, but i don’t know there i learned how to do it, i don’t know there, and i also know how to stand on my head. yes, and then, of course, it creeps in. this one here, uh, some kind of feeling, mm, when it nibbles. yes, but i don’t know how, and then it’s more like this. eh, very good feeling. yes, when i can also improve something in myself yes, there is such a modern hmm the concept of becoming the best version of yourself. seems kind of crazy to me. true, because masha knows how to sit on the twine, and the acquaintance speaks five languages, and someone embroiders beautifully. if all the time striving to become better, is it possible to go crazy? it

seems to me that even so to speak, your life can be turned into hell. yes, therefore, there are also two extremes with which you need to be very careful. i want more to join our conversation. a charming girl, she is a blogger, she is the author of a youtube channel, an organizer of various events made with love a person who develops himself and tells how others can do it yulia there chuchuk evolution is the engine of progress the main credo of yulia tomchuk. these are not just words. this is the meaning of her life julia runs her youtube channel done with love organizes tiktok media conferences. in general, it keeps up with the times and does not stand still, how does she manage to tell today? hello. julia tell us about the very development that you are striving for and how you also draw others into this story. hello, i would say not self-development of self-knowledge is so, because in

childhood, we probably forgot all this, who we want to be. well, someone was lucky, someone here has this left. this is the internal support, this rod, and the rest, i would say the majority. they forgot who they want to be, what they want to do. yes, everyone wanted the astronauts. and so i would call this process of self-development, as self-knowledge of oneself. you recognize yourself. uh-huh what do you like, what do you like. it doesn't like this way. tell us about your youtube channel. it's all from the same story. yes my youtube channel, i interview experts who are doing their favorite thing, and it turns out that they are also engaged in various methods of self-development that help. here is such a technique of karmic management, too, how to improve your life. help someone else first, and then it will all come back to you. yes , there is a more modern one. here is the technique now than the constellation. this is a master of parsing even more. so i take such interviews from people,

they tell hour-long interviews. hmm, and now their eyes are on fire. that's always important to me so that a person does his favorite thing, and then he can talk about it with love. he helps others with love. well, i've been looking for this for a long time. and found something to do, right? by education, it turns out that i am a pharmacist with a higher pharmaceutical education. yes, i worked in medicine for 6 years. uh, at first i had an average nurse who worked for 6 years , then also worked in pharmacy organizations for 5 years. and she said it wasn't for me. i do not like. in general, i'm afraid of the sight of blood, how they found their own, how they found their own by enumeration, i first went to courses with stylists who deal with clothes; i finished the courses in a bunch, too, i really wanted to help here. she also studied to be an event organizer. well, somehow it

didn't work. for some reason, i was upset every time, but i moved on. and i wanted to say so much to julia that it’s very cool that it’s not a waste. and i think it was important here that you were definitely able to somehow assimilate this knowledge. well, that is, to think somehow, well, the truth is, it didn’t work out not mine here little money go no further. yes? it sounds so beautiful. these were big crises. here and here. i’m the next one, i’m just such an admiration, probably there was some kind of environment that i was able to support. no, that is, this is your kind of turnover. he supported it, no one supported it, where did the forces come from then no one supported there were crises. something didn't work out. wait, what kind of core is not so powerful inside. where does all this come from? well, here's an inner feeling that it should be different, that my life should be different, that i should be realized in a different way, to deal with others and receive. here is more joy from life happy to be. they are there to endure suffering so go to an unloved job. hmm

why do my parents definitely not support me? they have a blue dream so that i continue to work in an envious pharmacy and that's it. more then the pension will be good. yes, i know this story very well, but there was a husband nearby, yes, who, probably, endured and supported it all, and he sent you to these courses. but go ahead. well, try it the other way around every time, when i came, i found this course. help him pay nightmare and you know, if no one is supporting you nearby, many turn to various motivators, a coaching trainer, yes, to people who, well, whom you see that very hope, they will support you, they will help. this is a story about a very famous coach. tony robbins says the phrase grow or die, tickets to his trainings cost about $ 7,000, but people are ready to give this money. well , because they see it. i do not know any panacea, he will tell, as you know from the series of self-development for the sake of self-development, in order to be in this process. let's think about it. we

will return to our conversation very soon. self-development is good or bad with it. we'll try to figure it out. today ilya ermalkevich joined our conversation. a time management specialist, an organizer of business courses , is a person who is constantly engaged in self-development. hello ilya good afternoon ekaterina and what kind of self-development are we talking about? well, the topic of personal self-development, therefore, in first of all, and then development, which contributes to personal growth. well, specifically , i was reading there, yes, well, uh, from the point of view of my background, this is coaching, training and consulting - this is also time management. there are a lot of different practices . but here i was listening to your conversations. the stories that were told to yulia victoria really resonated with me. i just took a slightly different route to

it. and i clearly understood my goal, where i want to go and therefore i chose training that contributes to the achievement of my goals, and therefore i need a lot less hmm experiments. and suddenly it will go, suddenly it will not go. still, life has a little end and i would like to spend my time more efficiently. therefore, at first i determined the goal, what i want, and then i systematically moved towards this. well, this is a very reasonable approach. to be honest, i also believe many of my acquaintances. went to receive. higher education, why ask them? well, let it be. well, wait, you'll be wasting your time, your money, your resources. what for so be it, if you want to become a baker, and you are studying to be an economist, maybe i need to talk about time management, and about competent planning of your time. here's how to plan the time correctly so that i don't know how to do everything. so wait, which of us is tied up, but everything is very simple again for me, uh, i have, uh, a clear set in my head that it’s impossible to do everything. and if you

set yourself up to live very comfortably, here is the desire, just to be in time for everything, it interferes with life. and when you know for sure that everything is in time impossible. you begin to prioritize those things that are closer to you more comfortable. money brings pleasure to you, everything that is distracting to you. and then it’s easier for you to prioritize and, of course, you don’t have time to do something. well, the main thing is to catch what you have planned important, that's the whole story of development. people started who just wanted to get another crust or another knowledge. you kind of winked at them . listen to something. to do or in principle, you are like a business coach, but the money has come, let him do it. that's very very, uh, straight to the point hit. eh, when i started consulting, it was to provide consulting and services. that is, this consultation on business administration on time management was attended by many business owners, who generally have consultations up to the lantern, they are constantly studying somewhere. they are constantly off my

course. there on the other from the other to mine and i knew that my services would be just, well, inefficient. and here, just the question of money was not, because always after e hmm, let's say, so the services rendered, the second moment comes. these are recommendations. e and some got a win didn't get a win for that very reason. i went to coaching courses in order to help people psychologically cope with certain difficulties, and often, they didn’t even reach the end , because they were just solving problems. and why did they come to study figured out what they wanted to get? it turns out that this is not at all, therefore, in this one i close on both sides. and the consultants are so , uh, my task is to show how to do a coach to help figure out what to do? i think so, i just want to brag. well look, i have a whole shelf with 74 diplomas. and some of my friends even hang it all on the wall. you go to their house, such a house-museum. i say that because of this, he

says, nothing, self-esteem rises. yes , i can tell cases, in my company a neighboring office went out and threw out a lot of waste paper and the employee saw that there were so many certificates, and there were certificates. nah, furniture of such and such a certificate for a surface of such and such a level, just a furniture certificate, and he hung them up there are so big ones on the wall and about thirty pieces, as if the clients would like to look and say, wow, how many certificates we have and vitalik said that yes, this is it. and everyone admired for about a year and more than once , uh, the client took something and stood and began to peer, and he saw something written there on the utility panel in the detergent there is such and such a surface. here he looks and says, wait. here is some furniture. and vitalik does not get distracted from the workplace, he says. well, probably one mistakenly hung the other and the client did not even twitch. well, it happens

and even others have not tested this and that is, this is how it really worked. we all laughed. and i really liked this wall, the craving for self-development. even here the truth is manifested, in desire somehow look. well done, i want to introduce you to the heroine from the dark room. her name is ksenia what she sees as the reasons for her craving for development itself, we will find out right now that the freak is dependent on constant study. more precisely, i would not say that it is an addiction. i just got hurt. from craving for self-development it seems to me that it all started from childhood, because even now i'm working with a psychologist coming back. uh, in moments of some kind of childhood there is adolescence. and i was an excellent student, well an excellent student. maybe i didn’t want to

be, but my parents built everything in such a way that i would enjoy anything, and they gave gifts with or without reason only for fives, but for them it was a reason, not stimulated me to study. and for me it was a joy, but at the same time a responsibility, well, thanks to this, i graduated from school, and it turned out perfectly for all fives. i enrolled for free in the universities were very proud. i myself am actually a dog to do. and always although that i had, well, let's say everything is perfect, so it was in the university in the first year. we met my future husband, we learned together on the same course and the fourth year. he already proposed to me. that's what i wanted until i was 25. uh, get married and have a

baby after university? i got a job. we lived wonderfully. that is, we had a family full of love, a small child, and my first daughter. she absolutely such an accommodating child, there were absolutely no problems with her, she went to work, but work. like any lawyer, she was not associated with some kind of creativity, constantly working with papers, working with people's problems, and at that moment i find out that i became pregnant with the second child of our second child. well , he was born not quite a healthy boy. uh, he has autism. he needs to pay much more attention than ordinary children. although i believe that any children are happiness, and, unfortunately, i had to leave work

finally and take care of the children. wanted to help. although also contribute a penny to the house. i looked. e, there were mommy's work on maternity leave, but that's all e did not inspire confidence. and just there was such a boom, and you work crazy. that 's instagram work, uh targeting, uh facebook is work. and where can you sit at home? it’s not necessary to go out about it, it’s not necessary to meet with customers. i completed one course, then i completed the second course, but it still seems to me that this is not enough. i don't know yet for my services, but it seems to me that i still do not match the price that i put, uh, for my services, so i

want to get more knowledge and finish the courses. i am finishing the course. and still knowledge is not enough, the trend is changing. such a man is a maniac, i also need knowledge. that's interesting. this is you as knowledge, perhaps, from childhood it somehow manifests itself already in adulthood. that such a constant desire is not entirely healthy. yes, i listen to the story so sad a little, of course, yes such. the truth is not quite an easy one with the fate of the girl. and here is the truth. it's true, almost everything that happens to us has some echoes of the roots. eh, from our childhood it so happens that when a child is born, the first person who

is next to him must survive. these are his parents. well, that is, if there are any situations, parents or not, then in any case, this is some kind of adult . uh-huh and the child just really needs some positive reinforcement. yes , he was waiting for him there, he is needed and capricious and not capricious ill. yes and all sorts of these here hmm words hmm uh, not receiving, which i do not hear, which the child then. it forms within itself the so-called emptiness, and then this emptiness then, over time, there is no such direct dependence. yes the more injury. e was a child. yes, at certain stages of its development, the stronger the pernicious independence will be, or there will be more of them, as if, i have not met anywhere yet, but for sure, dependence, they will develop in such a child who has not received enough love. uh, confessions

received less, and did not satisfy some basic needs. i think, now, if a child is of the earliest years, then he sends it to one circle, then to another, then there to some seminars, then there to defend some abstracts and give birth to it. this is the desire to constantly learn something. is this good or not? just even following the example of his son, who does not want to go anywhere. he has a classmate who i just don’t know either herself or under the influence of her parent’s finger pointing constantly goes to ne i know that we do not have some kind of small scientific conferences for sixth graders. she's already sitting in the front row. i think this chiku-chok to knowledge. and what, probably, parents form it or there are people who are born and right there, and you know, i think that it happens, that it is born and it happens that the truth is influenced by parents. it's more like something. true specific cases. yes, you need to consider, uh, but actually parents, but hmm, now uh

, there is a lot of information about how to be with children, yes, how to help them or trends anti-trends, of course, there is everything. but, and the truth is, if listening to themselves first of all, parents can ask themselves such a simple question. this is what i want or want my child wants , and here, probably, there will be this root and the point of departure for the fact that my child is really so talented that he can attend, and there are conferences, yes, to participate in them, to express his thoughts . either this is my desire, but to show what kind of child i am, what a good parent i am. how well did i raise or what kind of family do we have? that there is a need to really, a hmm look, but it may also be that the child is afraid, yes, and parents. uh, it's quite normal he has more information environment. he understands more, but in self-development. yes, some way has already been passed, and he can say that there is a symposium. here is an exhibition. there is,

you know, there is a competition, we will go. yes, there is a story when, on the contrary, you know what you thought to remember this same girl, she goes to a music school and dances. some sports go. and all these, it means, they write their scientific works there in the evenings and draw some cards and that's it. this is then again a question for tm management. oops, the parents uploaded the child. yes, not a minute of peace there per person. no. well, look at our heroine. she said from the key phrase of everything. let's put it this way, there is a key phrase in speech, i am learning, because i think that i am not worth the, er, money that i declare, this is a key moment in general, and this is what you need to work with. and this is a story about a song, that is, it devalues ​​itself, but from the point of view that it is underestimated. they say so doesn't match anything. and this craving for one's knowledge is to prove to oneself or others that i am worthy, i can, i made

the key point here from childhood or not from childhood. for this reason, for example, i didn’t go to a course in psychologists, but to coaching, because coaching is more about goals and forward. and psychology is to be. yes, that is, this is just a little bit, the polar thing. i still like to look ahead, but i was and was yes to do what i always do, because i meet a lot of theorists. it therefore, this is there, this is here, but to do what is here is the key point, by and large, what? uh, they asked catherine a question about ah? is it possible that they are parents or are they parents right away? well, i have some experience in this, in my opinion, not to guess absolutely not to guess from parents who did not study much. children also want to learn from parents who have learned a lot. children do not want to learn from rich parents. lazy kids, lazy parents. children mind. it’s not at all possible to guess my opinion in this, that the task of parents is create opportunities for their children to create an environment. i really liked it. like

, for example, julia says she tried this , this, this, this, it’s much better to try different sports in childhood, that is, not to drive a child for one year after a year. give an opportunity there fencing. give it a chance. uh, basketball, that is, there are different options to play the same thing. the older a person gets, the more attempts. he will take it in different directions, the less he will be upset or offended later, and since childhood, of course surprise. but when we talk to a lot of people, uh, who want to quit their jobs and change their lifestyle. they most often remember what they once did, what they once liked. and there , realizing that, why not give the children the opportunity to develop to the maximum right now, so as for our heroine. i 'd tell her. hmm. i'm not a fan of giving advice. let's just say there was a plus or minus to this situation, and it helped me a lot. it's more practice often people who learn a lot. they make

very little practical use of this knowledge, that is, learning for the sake of really learning. if you start to apply this temporarily, the theory for learning becomes many times less, this is just an axiom, so the heroine would be more comfortable trying it. it's just more practical skills. and, of course, the more she knows, the more she doesn't know. this is the logic in this, therefore, practice will replace these thoughts with her. what will be busy business, we just er more to explore. that she already u knows, and this will give her the opportunity to let go of this attention or just a story about you. yes, when you find what you like, you have already stopped constantly improving yourself. always in a new business, practice is needed. do i speak correctly? you need to practice and you will become more confident. let's say. here, when at my first interview, if i look now, i was much less sure there, if we compare the interview now, but about the heroine. well, well, i felt sad and heard that her parents stimulated

her studies, that they paid her for it for five. that is, they did not find those resources in themselves. yes, they found those words to support their child and did not come up with anything other than to bring money, yes, or i'm in theory, everything is great. sounds real, but i know that you have four children right and how do you use all your knowledge in practice? this is how it is used. in general , one phrase, one phrase of a very strong businessman helped me a lot at one time. he said. uh, kids don't listen, they copy, and i liked it so much. and with the first child , we were just taken to circles at the age of 5 already there i almost thought she wrote and we, uh, wanted everything better better bigger bigger, but then we ran into a situation when she came to first grade. she was significant. eh, let's say i studied better than my peers. it became boring to eat, and therefore, in the second grade, she was already studying, in general, the third fourth went with a creak, and one of the

key reasons we could not maintain a constant regimen that would be comfortable for her, or well, or it’s wednesday, and with the second child we are already er, on the contrary, decided to let go of the situation, no household did anything with him himself, like, you know, like, daddy brought me to the lake as a child. uh, threw it into the water to swim. uh swam as far as the nearest shore ran to the nearest branch. the person wrote a statement to the pope. uh, that's how my dad taught me to write. so here's the story, so we did n't study at all from the point of view until the fourth grade. teacher. there is a school. there is a teacher, there are programs, and he is a significant child, the best and easier to adapt to meet, another situation. i'm very interested in what happened in the third. uh. so he absorbed everything that they did older, because they always i work with him are older. eh, they have their own methodology for explaining

older children to younger ones, by the way, it is much more accessible than parental and therefore younger is even faster. everything will seize even more noisily. even louder, but at the same time it is already absolutely calm . there's multiplication in the mind. there in the second grade. history. just what the key point is, how to show it in practice with your own examples. if you want to teach your child to read, then you need to sit and read yourself. if you want to show your child that learning is cool. and apply it yourself practice and show that you applied it thanks to what you learned there. if you communicate with interesting people, take your child with you. let him also listen and communicate with interesting people, therefore, my thought is also very simple. demonstrate your values ​​and the children will absorb them. if parents strive for self-development completely, perhaps the child will also follow in his footsteps. but as you yourself said, even at the beginning of our conversation, there are no guarantees at all. oh, by the way,

oil also said that only one percent people, the rest really feel the need for self-development, apparently they most likely experience some other needs, but they just hide behind this, and sometimes someone pushes us to this very self-development, in any case, there is something to think about. so don't switch. and we are talking about dependence on self-development today and right now we will find out the continuation of the story of xenia from the dark room, new programs appear new photo processing new trends should know everything, everything unfortunately, it costs money not so long ago i found implementation courses. they are very cheap. i

asked my husband to help me financially. that is, there was already some kind of esotericism going on there. manipulations with our dreams wish cards, how to guess? how to set the right goal? i wanted it to be easier for us, that is, not just we would work like at work, but, perhaps, our dreams that we did not realize during this time. and hmm so that they help us increase income. i do not know why. i fell for this offer. now even i am telling. it sounds silly, but in fact, when i saw a huge hall that comes to these lectures, how do they send balloons into space there? ah, they imagine that this is a dream and sent it to the sky at that time. i got

so excited about this idea. well, that's it, that's what i need. well, the courses turned out to be a scam, it's all not true. unfortunately, only the consequences. we can understand. uh, what's quality education, what's not quality education. is it soil? we are very strong quarreled with her husband. he said that i gave some money for you to just release the balls. here's to me in my opinion. yet he had to support me, but i told him casually. if you don't like it, then you don't like what i do, but my desires. if you don't keep up with me, then we're just out of the way. to be honest, i said it, everything, well, in the heat of the moment. unfortunately we evolved, maybe it was just an excuse. so i think now, because i did everything.

well, i finished some courses, then i finished other smm courses. anyway, it seems to me that i'm not perfect, and we are knowledge and as complete as they can be every time a new program appears, a new photo processing, and this is just a little ferry, it seems that i am this squirrel in a wheel. i study i study i study i study and all this is still not enough, that is, to calculate the amount of money that i spent on courses and the amount of profit that i received, but it is incommensurable. that is, i spent much more on training. it's my husband, i don't understand. but me it’s a pity that it was on this basis that our relationship collapsed such an interesting topic, yes, when you and your partner live

together, but your desire to develop is different, however, in a couple more often someone alone more often it happens more hmm, so to speak, one partner responsible for the development more. yes, that is, he has more desire to develop family relationships. this is such a fact, one of us is more active, the second one pulls up after him. if you want, if you want, but it happens, and so that the second partner does not see the point in this, right? or like, for example, our of the heroine, i definitely hear that just hmm, the husband is probably tired, perhaps he financed it there, and heard, uh, in her reviews about these courses, yes, or their insufficiency, just depreciation with her, well, with her help , contributions. yes, there i financially help corny there i am with your children. so far, yes, our family there is suffering for you. no. you are constantly learning, and also saying that there, for example,

uh, just something is enough for me, and so on. it ’s true, some kind of conflict is unbearable, and how in this case there was a break in relations, oh what we said, yes, that every problem has two sides. here is one of the sides of self-development. it's just the same damage that can. well, i don't know, i would always think that in a divorce, there are always two to blame. that's always. this is a wife and mother-in-law. what the heroine said to her, but you know it's mixed mixed, mixed everything, well, sort it out, here's the tangle . you figure it out there, well, the two components of the first - what's that? i heard? this is again learning a lot learning little application. this is after the first conclusion we have been and usually always learning only makes sense in in the event that it is applied practically only if it is practically useless to use it, it is better to implement 10% from the completed training

than to go to the next one, that is, it is better to re-read the same book a second time and precisely for this reason. i go to courses much less, but they study more carefully what has already been before, it seems to be given to me. here is the second point about the relationship with the spouse and the different reality, that, probably, this is not the point, and the problem, um, does not arise when she went to courses somewhere in i looked at the new goal, but the whole problem arises that initially the couple did not have a common goal. initially, the man has no woman , what are they going to. how is a family when they unite? here is the main gap. and when one wants to develop, and then the second one comes off the couch, this training is generally unrealistic for him, because the goals did not initially coincide. by and large. people who live for years don’t know each other, don’t know each other for decades , and then they say that we didn’t get along in character, it was immediately clear

or some notes. just be patient, love it. uh, paperclip kids. well, as if they are fastened, then the children grow up and as if no one is holding anything, so i definitely lived through this. you need to constantly communicate with the second e with the second half. today we are talking about dependence on self-development, and we have questions that our viewers would like to ask, but maybe, for some reason, they are embarrassed to do so. i work with a professional and learn a lot of self-development. but i feel that the work has become a burden. maybe i'm tired or i 've taken on too much work. courses. how to avoid burnout, but it's worth noting here i will start uh, i'm sorry review no but sometime in 2019. the world health organization has included emotional burnout in the list of diseases. that is, it is not, but something

so ephemeral. this, however, is already some kind of direct diagnosis, yes, and a disease. that's why . at this point, for sure. you need to be very careful and start exactly. hmm, it's probably worth asking. yourself a question. what is happening to me? yes? why am i doing this for myself or for some other another important thing for me is that they think well of me there, or there they don’t face shame that i’ll become some kind of bad person there. if i don’t, uh, but also, probably, such an important thing as appropriate some of my merits, probably, but small ones, but, because when self-burnout occurs, it’s faster, but some kind of increase in speed begins . yes, in such m-m rather unconscious performance of some tasks. there, of course, it is very difficult. ah, to catch yourself, yes, and to praise yourself, even more so. uh-huh look ya uh,

i can just give a step-by-step algorithm, how can the author of comman significantly strengthen his position, and no matter what position you are in, the first thing to do is write out all your duties, all your positions in uh-huh, that is, if there are a lot of them, write everything right , me and char, i'm a frame, i'll go out, with documents, i'm working. i'm hiring. well, let's go, let's go, that is , write out all the positions, and the second thing to do is write out all the tasks that a person does during the day or week. if there is a plan for these roles, that is, how much i do, how supervisor? how many subordinates how many, that is, write out the third block - this is opposite to each task, write the time spent on this task, preferably per week in hours, that is, 2 hours a week for this 2 hours and sum accordingly. how much time is obtained, if the figure is more than 35 hours, this will definitely lead to burnout, everything will lead to destabilization. and you need to see. what posts or positions need to be

delegated. what to distribute, maybe some duties are not hers at all initially, but she will draw the soulful beginning to do. so start bringing your schedule to this order, because ideal is a forty-hour week. why do i say 35 5 hours for some kind of force majeure to chat ? that is, it is the norm. and so, doing just 1 2 3, e in the first week will already release a certain amount of attention or see. what, uh, to pay attention to in the second week of doing. the same exercise either fills the plate and has even more time to be free, and there are always two options, or its leader hears, sees that i need a subordinate for some positions. either redistribute or not hear for such a duty to some functional, if he hears everything will be a happin, if he doesn’t hear, i sincerely recommend finding that leader who will hear that’s because this task is not so much a subordinate. how much of the manager, with

whom the employee will outplay, this is his tool. this is his asset, so my question is not so much to the bowl, which leader and one more question is very short how to increase self-esteem? one simple tool to record at least 5 daily successes for the day, well done for example, that is, anything. it may be success is i drank coffee success. i met a man success yes overwhelmed nogo the author of the comment it could be success for the day. i could have coffee and there was nothing and nothing burned, so about children about work absolutely problems yet. something else i didn’t think about was the pool, that is, everything that for hmm a person will be considered in his criteria for success. and when it will fix, daily. these successes will be significantly

increased by self-esteem. i would even say in direct proportion, because the reason for low self-esteem, when we do not see our positive results, it seems that we have not produced anything during the day everything is gray. everything is bad. zdeobraznoe in life is changing and off we go. therefore, this is the first such tool that draws us out like a diary of success, success. don't be afraid to praise yourself. there, even for some small ones of their own, but success, well done, well done, not even for a minute. well, that is, as if to give more life. and in that in the manifestation of oneself, well, that is, allow yourself. ah, how not to reproach myself for the fact that i was mistaken. ah, what did you do wrong, but rather understand that yes, i was wrong. yes, it happens. it 's normal, there's a normal experience. and, for example, to conduct some kind of analysis and think about what i can do there or how i could do it in a different way

. this is very a great topic that how to raise self-esteem. love yourself. love yourself. i will not talk for a long time, but recently i had a consultation and another one. well, there is the formula of the soul, and the girl told me if they ask you who is the most beautiful woman, i should say i ah, listen, it’s wonderful to watch a movie and first to watch a movie, the most charming attractive we are talking about self-development about self-esteem. perhaps we already have all the knowledge and skills. we only need to scoop up some information somewhere, and we are already starter and it is absolutely not necessary to go to some courses again and again to the word ah, one financial consultant, he is considered one of the best bodaschefer, he once said that if you have some kind of brilliant idea, and you don’t did not take a single step towards

its implementation within 72 hours. and, therefore, this idea failed, and it has never been implemented for three days. let's say to ourselves, if suddenly we have planned something on the topic of dependence on self-realization, we are talking today and we will be back very soon. today we are talking about craving for self-development and hear the end. stories of our heroine from the dark room, i remember the course of our photographer. he is quite famous, so i will not name, of course, names. this is a very good photography course. they are expensive. but see how many photos i took during the time i studied. i did not, let's say conditionally,

work out the investments that i brought to these courses. yes, i went to school. i bought a camera. yet again. well, this is a fly apparatus. that is, it turns out that all the forces are those investments that, uh, i gave away. they are not payback at the moment. i got so badly burned with this internet scam. that is, before they appeared. here is a quick online learning courses were more informative indeed there was reliable information that helped me in my work. even though it still seems to me that i am not perfect in my profession, but these courses were at least in place and to the point and they were applied. because now there are

courses on the internet that the stars offer you weight loss is conditional. yes, it is no longer beret. we do not take into account the professional course, but the number of fraudsters in education that has appeared at the moment. and it scares me, i was seized by such an esoteric approach to education there, and if you make a wish, you will have everything, of course, at the moment. i don't want to get involved with education on the internet yet. but if i see a course worthy, i'll take it again already connected with vocational training. ah, about work. i keep running instagram i keep targeting. and it brings me a good income. yes, it’s

hard for me because i would like more money in the family. i wish my husband was here. and then my picture of the world crashed, but i want to be connected with education. i won't leave him. if it's considered an addiction. yes, i’m addicted, yet i heard this thought that, of course, it’s like, as i have already finished the courses, but if i suddenly see something that i like and will be useful for my profession. i will definitely go there. how to get out of this race for self-development is my most important question today. practice putting into practice what has been learned again has been answered already. i bought a camera. i went to courses, but did not work. that is, i didn’t practice, i didn’t, so practice practice practice again . eh, there is a simple recommendation. this is to allocate a certain percentage of the money earned for self-development, how much? well

, for example, i invest 10% in the self-development of the money i earn. and if i come across a course there for 1,000 dollars. and i only have 300 dollars in this piggy bank. i can't imagine allow this course. so, earn more to get on this course, that is, well, more than 10% of income. i don't spend. and that solves the issue very seriously. and i'm here in the same manner, i treat my training. that is, if i have not yet earned for that training, ok, if i have not yet worked, the old ok here. everything is a reasonable approach victoria and i think that well, our heroine definitely has informational overeating. yes, and rather some kind of dependence, but from new knowledge not e for application. and for their presence , which, of course, this does not improve the quality of it life, but here in your question, and it was on my mind. answer. eh, the race needs to be turned into a process. e where e hmm

to integrate, and some kind of real life, yes, and that's how you say, i'm exactly hmm my real income look, yes, how much i can afford for this education. can i afford it or do i have it there, but do i need to pay money for housing? yes and it's true to embed this reality of your real need, and then it will not turn into some kind of race, but the truth is a process with some possible stops. possibly since some rethinking somewhere more speed somewhere. well, that is, as if more than life, because self -development is inevitable. it is necessary again , let it be a process. julia, well, i was thinking, just, well, i always have a non-trivial question. it seems to me that she does not like everything about what. she is engaged in

forcing herself makes they enjoy. she then condemns herself for this and she would now get into an environment where they will say everything is all right with you, where they will hug her, just hug everything is in order, and so that she then she felt what she wanted to do. now she's just making her need to buy a course of professional hugs. sports languages ​​new knowledge is certainly good, but when the goal is clear and there is a sense of proportion, the excessive workload of studies and hobbies create only the illusion of meaning and success and, as a rule, lead nowhere. keep balance and don't get hooked on addiction. katerina bardo was with you, see you.

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prophet. elijah's picture of the day will be complemented by my colleagues. they are always ready centenary pioneer movement and a meeting with the president, how modern timurov octoberists live, we will tell in a panorama in a couple of minutes. a year ago, a feat of dull life, but it takes from a tragedy a hundred times larger in baranovichi , a monument to the pilots of the heroes was opened, we will tell about it in the panorama. in the focus of energy development, one of the advanced projects , the mogilev 330 digital substation, will tell in detail about its advantages in operation. to unlock the potential of the region, the festival as a result of croc to olympus, started in rechitsa, the attention of the guests was master classes, a sporting event and rich historical and cultural heritage details in the panorama. the main handball battle of the year, where they agreed on completely different sports philosophies, minsk vs brest pukhovsky vs aylupov. today, our

grandees of suit bags, determine the fate of the national title, but who will win, we will know the panorama? it has turned 100 years old and only the best memories and associations come up in memory about this most massive children's movement, belarus carefully preserves the traditions that we inherited from soviet times, the only tie. the pioneers are no longer red, but the red-green color of the state flag. now in belarus there are more than 600,000 children who participate in the pioneer movement. these are the pioneers of the timurovites and the octobrists. they take care of the older generation of veterans participate in projects and competitions they are the embodiment of true patriotism. today, on the occasion of the anniversary date of the most active guys. the president invited to visit the palace of independence met with a positive conversation turned out to be no restrictions in terms of questions and proposals. head of state told about his pioneer childhood, and

the guys, in turn, and the current pioneer, how the modern pioneer lives now, ilona krasutskaya will tell. this is such nostalgia, look at these guys and remember yourself at their age. everything is just beginning. so many plans of ideas and all were the same white top, black bottom and definitely a tie since then, of course, a lot has changed and the children themselves are other active advanced all the possibilities, as young, when i was in the second grade, my elder sister was in the fourth grade. i saw, that it squeezed me out so much on pioneer, because i saw it. she has been involved in various projects. she very often took part in competitions in promotions. i liked it very much.