the eu border fence could not survive after the injuries received, to which there is not a single mention in the western media about the death of wild animals, the border area, especially about the causes of such incidents, although scientists from all over the world and primarily from our country for several months. they are trying to reason with the governments of neighboring countries, who are building fences primarily in belovezhskaya pushcha, contrary to all international obligations. it will become easier for ukrainian citizens who fled the war to get a job in the medical institutions of belarus in accordance with with his qualifications, the ministry of health issued a new decree for admission to a position , it is enough to have a document on education, a certificate of its recognition in our country, as well as internship certificates. at the same time, the absence of a work book is not required, and there are no obstacles to registration at the workplace , but in the absence of a diploma in education, ukrainians can only be accepted for the position of junior medical staff. we will admit medical specialists who have a 20th

year specialist medical diploma. they will be recruited doctor specialists under the supervision of our experienced doctors work for six months, then pass exams for fittings and continue to work in our country if they graduated from an educational institution in ukraine after the twentieth year. they will be accepted as internship physicians. physicians with specialized secondary education will also work for the first six months under the supervision of experienced belarusian colleagues 6 ukrainian citizens have already applied for help in finding employment 10 are already taking patients in medical institutions our country, we will respond and the task of helping ukrainian refugees and not leaving them in trouble was set by the head of state. to hear everyone and not leave the reception and citizens with a problem helps not only to control the situation on the ground, but also to quickly and effectively resolve issues that concern people. so tomorrow , an on-site reception of citizens in the minsk district executive committee will be held by olga shchupress, the deputy head of the presidential administration will begin a meeting at 9:00 in the morning at the capital’s address, olszewski, 8, they will listen to every request or proposal on

opportunities will promptly provide assistance. the festival of national cultures will gather a bouquet of 31 flowers. this is a novelty in the presentation of all diasporas that will take part in the thirteenth forum. grodno, this colorful procession will be full of not only state flags, but also national flowers and flower headliner installations. belorussian. cornflower in the collection with him russian chamomile and azerbaijani pomegranate flower against the background of flower video content will be held and a gala concert by its authors unites belarusian pop artists and representatives into duets national diasports. the premiere of the evening is officially the song of the festival, the composition of the creative duo yevgeny oleinik and anna selo to belorus is one for all. as an innovation , for the first time we are doing the accompaniment of the gala concert hmm with the help of the presidential orchestra of the republic of belarus of the full composition, which will give both status and power. and most importantly, what we are talking about is that this is unity and belarusians are always open, and x from creativity and to

dialogue there will be a lot of interesting features, for example, a we all know what an orchestra conductor is, but we know that he can only to conduct the orchestra, but we will have one number in which he will demonstrate his choreographic abilities and so we are going to unite, but one of the interesting numbers. this will be a number performed by representatives of the ukrainian diaspora - this is an ensemble of bandura players, verbichenko, who live and work in the vetka district of the gomel region, and they will have a duet with our famous. composer evgeny oleinik, who will answer them in a duet, say, on the button accordion. the gala concert will end with festive fireworks, and after the main stage will host a solo concert by ruslan alekhno recalling the festival of national cultures. it will be held in grodno for the first time after a break since 2018, it will unite

31 nationalities in the poster of fifty events. improving the sports infrastructure, as a contribution to the future, a new football field was opened today in the capital on dauman street near the dynamo sports complex; now pupils of local sports schools and representatives of other football schools will be able to train here, and one of the best players in history, belarus alexander gleb this autographed ball was presented by the ex-midfielder of the belarusian national team to the players of the dynamo school, including the funds for the transfer of gleb to barcelona were used in the construction of the field. in total , about 700,000 belarusian rubles were spent, in fact, such an advanced football school, and it never had such a site, because after all, the dynamo stadium is, as it were, our central republican stadium, and there, as a rule, , played the main team. odessa sports school. she, uh, was involved in various fields. not a single

penny has been invested here from the state funds. here , only money earned by doing business day activities. and the money from the transfer of alexander gleb, our school three gave a lot of such significant football players in the history of belarus, so i 'm sure that this is the place, as they say. this impetus will also give such a revival for the future of this school and the future of belarusian football. and i'm sure this is just the beginning of this small playground. i am i am sure that this school will grow and develop in the future. i think that there will be another field where almost all years can train. clear. yes. the fields are not completely non-natural sizes, but still for children. i think when it is its own and good quality. this is a big plus. and here you can prepare children well at any time, in winter or summer. that is , there will be nothing to distract. the main thing is to train and god forbid that we children grow up and go further in the construction

of an object of use exclusively belarusian materials and all works were also carried out by our specialists. the size of the new site in the very center of the city is 59x40 m, and it is equipped with a modern sports drainage system. he will continue my colleagues' results. do not look in the panorama at 9:00 pm. i say goodbye and goodbye . at the start of the black sea ice hockey cup in sochi, the youth team of belarus lost to the russian team . the hosts threw twice final third russians. added another goal. belarusians lost 0.3 tomorrow the wards of sergei stas meet. with the first youth team of russia beginning at 13:00. where to go for the first uefa cup league cup history to italy or the netherlands titles the trophy of the new club tournament, the third most important in europe, will be argued by roma

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you may have noticed that in families where there are, drinking people constantly repeat the same situations, a performance with the same roles with the loud name alcoholic will be played. why it happens? and is it possible to get out of this vicious circle with this we will try to figure it out today? hello

, i lived in the stairwell for 2 months, these are the masks that, uh, we can easily put on at one moment at another moment. we can take them off. i am i really can't say no sometimes. and i ca n't say that this is an unconscious matter in this system. yes, you played an alcoholic in this scenario. you already have a certain role to suffer. i, because at this moment take care of me. i'm sitting. well, i don’t bother anyone when i don’t understand what happens then in all my states. and others the topic of our program today is a social game alcoholic. our guest expert master of psychology is a person who knows exactly the answers to many questions, because katerina gaykova specializes in just such problems. katya hello , the second one, it seems that in this program he is associated with alcoholism, everyone plays some kind of

social role. is it really so sometimes it feels like we are all tied up to some kind of pre-written script. an interesting question, because if we consider it this way, then in general, we all play some social roles and not only there, but scenarios related to alcohol. yes, that is, we are now also playing a certain some role. we are now in this studio. yes, here we are at work, for example, well, if you take me, there i am a psychotherapist or a psychologist, i sit with clients in the same position. here i am trying to apply an alcohol roller. yes, that is, with a smart look, i answer some questions at home. i am a mother. yes, but these are all, uh, social roles that are healthy, let's say. so. these are the masks that, uh, we at one moment can easily put on at another moment. we can take them off, and there are masks that grow on us and sooner, but the problem is. there is that m-m there there is also some secondary benefit, that is, a

person gets used to it so much that he lives only in this, boils only in this, then it turns out such a hmm running in a vicious circle, yes, from which those people are. who are involved in this performance can not escape. and this theory is one of the theories of the view on alcoholism. yes, transactional analysis burn once developed it, and, in particular, one of the games is called an alcoholic, and there, and there is a certain number of roles, that is, besides the alcoholic. there are four more roles. wait, wait, i just wanted to interrupt you to keep the intrigue and find out what ordinary passers-by of the city of minsk think about this, how they imagine this social game of an alcoholic for themselves. let's see it will be the main alcoholic. the one who drinks the rescuer is the one who will want him there to help him somehow and that's it. i have never heard of such a game as a victim, for example, yes, that is, there is an aggressor. well, i don't know on it, as it were, two types, or here they are, uh, they should be pitied.

either they themselves act as tyrants there. well, there should be a third of them, but i don’t even know. i thought about it when i thought about it, alcoholism is some kind of negative lifestyle rather, i can’t even call it a game, but it starts small. but if this is not controlled in some way, then it will, of course, move to some other stages and cause, of course. oh yes, addiction. i am very negative about this. although i myself used alcohol, but alcoholics for me are just the last stage. i don't really understand at all how can you allow yourself, in general, this is for me. it's just not people. yes, firstly, it seems to me that belarusians do not really understand what kind of social game an alcoholic is, on the one hand, and on the other hand, they are somehow rather negatively disposed towards people who experience such addiction katerina , tell us, after all, what kind there are videos here. well, yes, unfortunately, this

negative is present here, therefore, it’s true, it can be difficult to start recovering even for an alcoholic, because there, uh, in everything in the world, everything is considered as a disease. we have it like promiscuity, rather, yes, but if we talk about games, then this direction is considered not as alcoholism, not as an alcoholic, not as a disease, like this social game and here, but they said more according to such a simplified, concise version, which burn's student cartman made . uh, for all addictions, this is suitable where the victim is the persecutors of the rescuers in this surprisingly, so, in principle, the victim is enough of the persecutors of the rescuers or the persecutors of the rescuers live here yes , this is when already and if you touch on those roles, oh, whom we started talking before the interrogation, then this is the main role is the alcoholic. yes, that is the man the protagonist, the protagonist. yes , the main character. here there must be a rescuer yes, who saves him. well, before that, there is still a pursuer, that is, i have someone

to give him a scolding to scold, criticize , evaluate, devalue him there. yes, then he must cry somewhere and someone comes to his aid. and this savior who will regret taking a sip. well, in the situation further it could be a doctor. it could be a psychologist. in general, it can be employees of a whole grouse, yes, that is, these are the people who ah. well, how would he look for them in order to save him and then more eric, uh, bern suggests. uh, such roles as instigators, a simpleton, a leaker, this one that let's go and have a drink with him. yes there or that, maybe some kind friend who doesn't really get drunk himself, he doesn't have this problem. well , he incites all the time. uh, comrade just go for a drink and and another role is a simpleton. this is the one that lends, for example, in all the time it can be, by the way, sincere. pardon the souls. yes, but also, because he does not know how to build boundaries, he does not know how to say. no, again, he wants to be good in the eyes of the

one who asks him. money and it can be a neighbor friend, anyone, it often comes out. mom, for example, if you already have a wife and a family, the wife is there, then the pursuer is the rescuer and the mother is such a simpleton, who, well, what about her son, well, don’t give, but you said about the fact that the wife can play two roles at once they can really do somehow intersect and flow from one to another. or maybe, in general, there is an alcoholic as the main character, and all other roles are performed by one person next to him who is like that, maybe they all flow over these roles. but when else about let's say we'll say a little more later, maybe we'll already say. there, it is clearly visible, when the victim is the pursuer rescuer yes, already an abbreviated version. but even then, she may have started, so her husband came, she had a good fight , yes, then my yes, tomorrow he will save you. she gives him broths unsolders. uh, calls to work, solves problems for him, so that he doesn't get fired. well, it clears it by giving money for a, then it can give money, but more often it still happens so differently,

but it can be and yes, it’s the same, maybe we have today the main character a person who has experienced for himself one of the above roles is definitely a person who says that he is an alcoholic quite openly and a person whose story we are extremely interested in knowing how it all began. i invite you to our studio the main character valery is not a mirzhets photographer with twenty years of experience, he captured a wonderful moment in the lives of others, but he himself almost fell out of the frame, only a miracle helped the photographer valery return to the lens of life and he is ready to share his story. hello valery hello you know, well, you seem to me, a very brave person, really, because to admit it is in my opinion. the most difficult. first first step. especially considering how everyone around reacts. yes, they somehow perceive it immediately negative, as a rule, the story. where did it all begin? it all started the way it all

started. everything started as usual. it all started with some holidays , i don’t know, with some events, unfortunately, probably, any event is a solemn or mourning event. it is mandatory, as a rule, alcohol is present up to a certain point. it didn't give me any problems. that is, it was some kind of episodic libations. well, everyone drinks. well, yes, that is, there is some kind of period, for example, studying at well, in an institution. yes, this is it was like a game in general. yes, that is certain. that is, we were there, as in the suvorov school, roughly speaking, yes, we were rattling, yes, and for us it was like that , like a quest there, yes, or there at the academy, for example, that is, it is forbidden for this, maybe, right? well, yes, yes it is, well, of course, not immediately, but

some time has passed. i realized that i needed to succumb. here we have made such a decision in the family. first time when he screwed up. 20, probably about five, then a young man. well, this is well, well, true, but in my opinion young. and who are we, we accepted decision. who are you family council? we made a decision that yes. alcohol is already starting to hurt. i realized that yes, and e we went, er, that means to a medical clinic. i filed for 3 years and paid money. hemmed it and everything, as if it were so wonderful. i realized that yes klass is all sensation. that is, they told me that if i drank alcohol, i, respectively, or something would happen to me in terms of health, my legs would fail there, i would go blind there, psychological work. and yes, i don't

want to die. so how would i stop drinking and didn't drink. i'm somewhere around 2.5 years old, and then suddenly, and then suddenly i thought, everything, this is nonsense, then suddenly. there were people who told me this is nonsense. you can do it yourself, i mean, you can not drink yourself? so i say, well, how, well, another six months left 2.5 have passed. that's six months later. it's ok. we drank and tasted. will there be a continuation a little at first, that is, at first they drank, well, a little, yes, and then i realized that, well, as it were, well, since i drank, nothing happened ekaterina, what is it connected with? that's what it is fearlessness, or at first a person was inspired

that something would happen to you, and then some kind of toggle switch works. why is this happening? why are they breaking down again? well this i have, uh the disease is alcoholism. yes, that is, if a person himself does not change, nothing changes. well, if we look at an angle today. ah, the position of the victim, yes, in this situation. that is, he will repent of it does not come out. that is, there, in any case, we hear some kind of responsibility on the family. advice man. well, an adult. yes, i understand already decided, but not what the family decides on its own yet yes, because it is in this, let's say a triangle or in this performance an alcoholic. and er next. that is, here we see a clear role of salvation. yes, it was the family, and then there were instigators, who well, that's all it should be. it why it will act like this endlessly, until a person begins to change himself. yes, that is. well, i think that we will come to this today in the course of our conversation, how and what should

change in it, but until this scheme starts and will work. he will go from one breakdown to another to the third. that is, if there are no internal changes, then these disruptions will still occur. and i just have more interesting questions. these are the moments when you say, uh, well, let's encode, then you broke down, how you felt you were someone. or did you feel sorry for yourself? what happened to you all around, of course, everyone is to blame, except for me. yes? i'm a lazy drunk, all of you are to blame, of course, i want to say a little more about it. that fear of death, right? what's hemmed yes, and there, as it were, why do you drink, but there come periods when i talk to myself, and, as it were, i talk to myself all the time. only they don’t know me, like others, when you want to die, you can’t drink and not drink, you ca n’t, and this is this state. but this permanent hell in which you live, and that

is, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter. uh, the time of day doesn't matter the day of the week, that is, absolutely nothing exists. you're only looking for alcohol. and it doesn't matter what kind of alcohol. absolutely also not absolutely alcohol-containing liquid, yes, then there is absolutely any. that is, i had a pharmacy year, that is, i just sat at the pharmacy for a year, this is corvalol hawthorn valerian. there lamivite was still such a wonderful remedy , that is, because there was no money to take them to be, where i stood near there. well, or i went to some locations where there are people and just shot a trifle in order to buy for 80 kopecks. a jar of valerian, and all the time i think why different people really ask me for a trifle arguing. yes , i lost my wallet for bread on the road, but i immediately see that it’s not on bread is not on the road. i i give sometimes i if i see that with a person, really ill

prepared. it's just that a person is a person in such a state. and he, maybe i remember myself. he can easily die, but he can die if i want to say a little, of course we have a show, yes. that is, it is somewhere a little lightness of some kind. yes, there is in the program, but in fact , any dependent person. uh, well, initially there is some kind of program on self-destruction. yes, that is, that's why it is, of course, such a deep, theme and it's an unconscious thing. but man uh, everyone forces no matter than drugs and alcohol. there, overeating or programs simply kill friends, even the great writer william shakespeare also had an addiction to alcohol. moreover, he died of a fever after another attempt with colleagues. and one would think that he wrote such a role for himself and is to blame. it’s just that he could n’t get off the hook of alcohol

addiction in time, i hope that you can do it . if there is such a problem, do not switch. metro of belarusian music behaved very modestly never boasted of his talent, but deep down he knew what he was worth. yes, i'll still have papers. i'm not a professor for you. he's like that, and what do you think, as a result, he spat and left the conservatory with amazing facts from their life and work. he is a happy person, because he left behind such a melodic consonance. i came to work. he himself was there and i realized that everything is in order there, because oleg is present there silently, which he should know and these are the songs

glorify our belarusian song culture, watch the belarusian composers project on our tv channel. everything changes very quickly time passes imperceptibly minutes days of the year we never have enough time to stop and think about those who are waiting for us at this very moment it is worth remembering those without whom we will be so lonely on this earth it's time to say, you know , i miss or listen, dad, right now, without delay, you need to say, i'm here, i'm around. appreciate the time you spend with your loved ones.

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we continue to analyze the scenarios of the adult game of an alcoholic and another expert has joined our conversation - a consultant of a rehabilitation center. healthy youth. nadezhda filippova hello nadezhda. good afternoon. here you are as a person working as dependent people. sometimes i can be and always get involved in this game called alcoholic for sure. ah. you see, in general, helping professions, they, well, involve some involvement. and uh, i even do it sometimes out of readiness, but it's just good when it's consciously happens and at the level of some kind of empathy, the interaction of sympathy , at times it really happens, like salvation, and at times it’s some kind of merging, uh, hmm, i remember well that at the beginning of my journey. and i had a lot of

kinks because hmm. well, again, i'm a recovering person myself. and it seemed to me that i could get, and approval. love and relationships are some interactions. only if i 'm good, that's, if i help save, in addition, there was some kind of element, you know, mm, some kind of omnipotence. it turned out that i urgently need to give back what i have acquired, that i can somehow directly force a person to do it. cause him to welcome that 's but really it's not that way. well, of course, you know, but hmm, while i was growing up in this counseling experience of mine, huh? i have had a lot of personal disadvantage therapy. these things can influence it when you do not see yourself and do not understand. oh disadvantage. e experience. and now, i don't know, there's some kind of professional competence. uh, hmm notions of their roles as a psychologist. yes, here it is well, maybe just some kind of low

self-esteem flaw. a healthy relationship, when all this is normal, then, in principle, everything is fine. here you are, when you share all this, you helped here ; but you give yourself your emotions at work, then there is no feeling that listen in my way, me and sakkla you know, uh. well, like this, to make it happen a single moment to no. well, i i try to follow it. even when well i'm straight schedules have some rest for myself time for myself, but i'm very wise. from here, if some personal stories to share, oh, i generally tend to recycle. uh, i really can't refuse sometimes, and i ca n't say that i do it unconsciously. this is proactive behavior. i, well i consciously agree there helps. yes, but, uh, sometimes i’m already sitting here doing nothing, either i’m consulting there or just doing something there. now would

get sick. i know very well that this thought means that i have been here for a very long time. yes, yes, and i am a very wise organism. well, the next day i have 37.1 and i have formed, as if to lie down, but not a very good reaction. true , in order to relax, you need to get sick absolutely . seriously. and i had such cases. i already know this story in myself, so uh, well, i really introduced a lot of analysis myself about i go to therapy a lot. i directly allocate days to myself consciously in order to rest, because otherwise i do it this way, well, you too do you feel that you are in this system? yes , in this scenario you played certain roles to the alcoholic of the east, one another, that is, you are in the absolute, well, in our mini-theatre. well , yes, but according to the specialist, i find a lot of this in my life, even when there is no dependent on the character nearby, when there is no adita nearby. uh, me, it's all very cool. i reproduce in my family situation. when i went to see you today, when i could n’t find a studio, at first you were to blame, because you have a bad picture then, and

then i had to find, i don’t know, kind, well done with whom he will give me call urgently, because i need a phone in the cold sat down. here's but me really. yes, it really seems that in different situations we perform completely different roles. now i want to introduce you to the heroine of a face that you will not see, she is in a dark room, but she also takes part in this game called an alcoholic. what role was assigned to her and how she felt in it, we know right now the problem is taking. uh start of mine parent family. my grandfather also abused alcohol. now i'm founded by an adult. i clearly see the behavior patterns that my grandparents had in my family, yes, as she told me, how they communicated, how he was aggressive , abused, how they once ran away. here

uh in my parental family. in general, there was some kind of similar scenario, because when dad used it, he had to be aggressive, well, they were afraid personally, but he couldn’t say anything against him even in general and in chair condition, because it was some kind of screams. a conditional statement, in general, to knock on the table, and so on, when dad came drunk. you know, even by moving the key in the keyhole, i could tell whether he was drunk or sober. and if he 's drunk, how long did he get out? i learned that i need to be patient a little bit, and then it will be very good. here is my behavior such patience. yes, that's how i would call myself a professional. eh, suffered as a victim, or something, yes, but it was formed

and fixed, uh, and not only in the family. i'm this behavior of mine began to spread to all spheres of my life. here i am, for example, an employee of some kind of work. i really like it there, but i’ll put up with it for work, yes, but globa, for example, well, my grandmother has to endure something, but uh, but i still have to endure my mother. and now, well, it's okay to be patient , everything will change. yes, when i failed to make my dad so i then at some point decided that i definitely would not marry a person with alcohol problems. that's where i got married. my husband at that time doesn't really drink. he doesn't smoke now, but his parents consumed my husband. and at the time, it didn't bother me. for me. it

did not seem to be any kind of problem and was not seen in it. it's ok. i think it doesn’t hit anymore, but i, too, everything. well, after some period of e time, beer appeared. but at first i didn’t notice, i would put some kind of problem in quotes, because well, it would seem to me that this is beer, it’s okay. then there was more beer. that's what i didn't see either. haven't seen this for a long time. here and somehow i must have seen how you already became very ill. that's all my attention. i remember here, it was so focused on my husband's use. i didn't see anything around at all. that is, it seemed to me that if he stops using e. yes, i didn’t want to either save him, or help, or , well, that’s how yes, just like that. well, something similar. my mother, well, do

something so that he does not drink when we all have it. well, somehow happiness friends. so it would seem that even some kind of line can be traced, my grandmother endured. my mum suffered our heroes. i didn’t want to endure a dark room, but anyway it turned out that i get the feeling that in this e girl they experience some kind of i don’t know, joy or something, maybe even some kind of benefit, maybe i ’m wrong ekaterina what do you say, yes secondary benefit each of the participants in this game has it, but i also want to emphasize here. here it is very clear in this story can be traced. how it works? that is, she was a girl, and in general, this role was already predetermined for her. yes, and she there, like a mother, like a grandmother, she must endure, she must suffer. yes, in general, this is the secondary benefit of suffering, and all participants have it. yes, what is the benefit in suffering? i can not understand. it’s bad for you that there is some kind of unhealthy, so to speak, attracting attention and love. yes, that is, if you take, and

plunge somewhere further into childhood, then let's say where does it come from? that is, a child could, but receive love with care , attention only suffers, for example, failed. yes, how is the temperature, how will it suffer? i am because at this moment in me to take care. well, in this case, i will probably take care of myself, or maybe. someone close will take care. yes, and this is a familiar pattern , that is, i'm used to it, my parents were busy working there. well, here we see that dad drank and there they had a confrontation between some child in the family, it turns out that somewhere there is no lot without attention, and well, his way of attracting attention. well, it will at least suffer so that mom and dad feel sorry there and sympathize further when a person grows up, he does not realize that he attracts suffering. uh, hmm wanting to get that attention is love, but in adulthood it doesn't work anymore. yes, that is, there is a person, well, he drank, for example, and he makes it unpleasant for others, and this is how we saw the request. yes, people will not give him what he is looking for, but he does not realize that he is looking for it. that

is, on the surface, it turns out, sort of, like pleasure, and the secondary benefit is obtained. this is, firstly, to throw off the responsibility for everything else. that's how hope you are she said, i'm tired, but i'm a responsible person today, but if i get sick, then, well, then i can be an irresponsibly little child, because we can all be there, well, really, allow yourself to relax a little, and in fact for a lifeguard . yes, that is for him. uh, on the one hand, this is an increase in self-esteem. well, because i'm so good. i do care. i put all my strength there, yes, that is, this is an increase in self-esteem, but again, this is a victim, because as a result it becomes a victim, because if i don’t need your help. well then, of course, i will start to aggress doing something. yes, and besides, then i helped so much, he still drinks. that is, again you fall into the position of a victim, the poor unfortunate woman has spent your whole life. i'll save you all my life. and you still drink. that is, again, this is the position of the victim, yes, well, in the same way, the aggressor achieves this position of the victim, because by the fact that another person attacks. there begins

to rescue as well. uh, let's say an alcoholic, if we take this structure, but as a result, then comes and gives catching up aggression. yes, that is, it also becomes in the position of the victim. and in general. here is such a cycle. yes, such a cycle, which is final. the search is actually the position of the victim, that is, well, as if at the expense of the other, such destructive relationships are obtained in this valeria experienced something similar, such emotions, different or no longer remember. yes and no. here i don't know how it is. you see, hmm vicious circle, this one is endless, this is the race washed down. asked for forgiveness for some time you hold on again, but this is what they forgive you for as long as they forgive you, as long as they help you. as long

as you have at least the slightest somewhere, somewhere, here is some piece there, some opportunity to drink. yes? well, as long as people here help. here is this circle yes, for the time being, they regretted everything to say. get out the issued money. let me not give. yes, you see, i don’t want to call the police in such a state and send me to an accident. and it happened 2 years ago. so uh me actually, that is, i lived for two months at the entrance. at the entrance to the attic in the basement, wait, you were kicked out at the very moment when you get out of here, yes, and there was nowhere for me to go, and i, as it were, well, here is march, the month they gave me a blanket. yeah, they didn’t give a blanket, they gave some. yes, it’s very cold. well, here, i walked with this blanket over there in the area of ​​the komarovsky market. here and here already. well, you should have slept somewhere

good. neighbors started calling the police. i was like, uh, well, i was furious, just, well, how is it at all? well, how? well, i'm sitting. here is my apartment. i'm sitting here on ponezh, no one i touch. well, yes, i smoke. well, yes, i'm dirty, but it stinks from me, but i'm sitting. here, i'm not bothering anyone . yes? quietly taken away once, the second was dismantled, the third was dismantled, but in total . i'm probably hundreds i was sitting somewhere for about a month. and accordingly, the ltp court in the year awarded the ltp and, probably, a labor dispensary, so a dispensary yes, a dispensary. so, i thought that everything, that is, this, well, for me at that moment, ah, there is a minimum of information, yes, that is, people, apparently, who are in the lp they don’t write anything on the internet on their tv not show. here it is for everyone. well, it's

worse than prison. yes, i have not been to prison and i understand that it is bad there. i understand that if it's worse than in prison, it means that it's just everything that is, well, you get there. yes, i get there and i don't understand what's going on. i do not understand what is happening, because i studied at the suvorov military school. i understand that at times it was more difficult at the suvorov military school and i don’t understand why everyone is so afraid. why is it wrong? well, mode. well, work, well, work. yes, well, well, some there, well, clean up, well, clean it up. i was isolated from society because i interfered with society. yes, and as if i had time to think, in general, yes, what i do, what i do in this life, in principle, plus, uh, the specialists who work there. yes, this is a

psychiatrist, a narcologist, this is a psychologist, that is, i have. they have done a simply colossal job with me, that these people have actually saved my life. i don't know if this is a miracle or not. i don't know, well, here's hope, judging by your experience. uh, what is such a catalyst such a starting point here here in the case of valery. it became an institution where he was isolated for a year , work was carried out with him. i nodded straight as i listened . yes, of course, a person needs to be from this environment. move somewhere. yes, but very much to me, but hmm, the yearness responded, just here is the cycle, uh, i don’t know my opinion. yes, but what, just about as much is needed to, uh, well, reorganize. uh, some psychologists compare it to the experience of loss, the biggest loss. this is how the death of a loved one is experienced for a year, but for an alcoholic and

a drug addict. eh, this is the real loss in fact, the biggest in life, which is, because all areas of his life are connected with this. well, in general, uh, and uh, i am very grateful that somehow inside it became the people who helped, but because, well, there is an opinion that there is not a lot. there are few psychologists, but some kind of social work. of course, e. uh, if just a person, but don't know, move to argentina and leave the change of place does not change anything. he will bring only himself. there must be some drastic changes. basically, it's important to think about more about why, in principle, a person needs to drink? yes, and here i understand, and what eh? well, let's say i had problems. yes, with use. i couldn't live sober. i didn’t understand at all what was happening when i didn’t understand what was happening then others were to blame for all my states. you are the source of what bothers me or annoys me or, on the contrary, pleases me, but i am not the reason. and you are some kind of emotional

immaturity. this is some kind of irresponsibility that, in principle, is very suitable for the position of the victim. it's clear that i'm in other roles will fall in too. but, when i say the source of everything that happens to me, i am not me, but someone else , someone already in a sacrificial position. here. and then, when i already open myself as a feeling person. i understand what happens when. these are the events i do. here are some things, for example, i blame, as i gave an example. there is an event going on right now . i think and feel in this way, what do i start doing? here it is. i probably notice cause and effect relationships, and then i take responsibility for it i may not act reactively. really. i feel angry at this moment when i cannot find it. here is the studio, how i feel today, i do not deny, but this does not mean that i will call, the clock will yell. listen to your picture some kind of incomprehensible curve. i choose my own reaction. i am responsible for my feelings. here it is. well , this is some kind of fundamental starting things recovery. i take responsibility for the position in which i am and choose my behavior,

agreed. now we are talking about emotions. yes hope she told about hers, how it sometimes happens and consciousness can be in an aggressive state, or you, by the way, alexander the great, is also a drunkard, but somehow drinking with his comrades. eh, everything, like a very peaceful atmosphere, was then suddenly experiencing some kind of tide. i do not know the energy of aggression of some kind of negative perception of the world and could easily stab any of them. and it was considered absolutely normal. that's it. eh, this is to the fact that how often there are drops, but our heroine from the dark room had such drops, she experienced whether she was aggressive in connection with all the circumstances that developed, we will find out very soon. without leaving home. you will plunge into the atmosphere of culture and creativity in the

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psychological game of an alcoholic of which peak in her emotional arousal reached the heroic dark room, we will find out right now. the most interesting i also tried to do everything, how did my family do, how did grandma do? my mother is here to drink a loved one, that is, i persuaded. i begged, i threatened. i screamed, i cried, i manipulated. nothing worked out for me , just as it didn’t work out with her grandmother and mother, well, if you talk about relations with your husband, yes, that is, i periodically save or you want some kind of psychotherapists there. i tried to take him somewhere there, maybe i tried to convey some information to the doctor there, said something. well, i saved when he refused.

save yourself. i got very angry. i wanted him and not good for salvation. as i put my hands in oh, so, well, that's it, i could be offended not to talk. well, in those moments i was the aggressor. here, too, i understand that the hardest thing for me and so bright is that i yelled at my children, and i hit him because he didn’t turn over here. that's what it is for me. i got scared myself. i was afraid of myself. yes, that is, to be honest, i was, uh, ashamed to tell someone about it like that, because i also considered myself an educated person there. no, no education. yes, i thought that cultural is something else, but when i

entered it shocked me myself, because the trunk is real. which did not take off. well, that is, he is so good there that he creaked and there was such a crack. well, in general, and the eyes of children are somehow big. this is what scared me a lot. well, of course, i am ashamed of that act. and i always then caught that, in general, just like a business dad. yes, that is, he shouted, there somehow insulted there when he was not tress, that and so on. and i realized that i was doing it, well, without using it. let's put it this way, yes, that is, i was cut off at that time, but this is a completely abnormal act. so i realized that when at some point i copied my mother's behavior, and then i completely took over. well, probably the video, probably, i don’t

know. i suddenly saw it so strongly that everything repeats simply and something needs to be done. i didn’t know that i didn’t know then, but i realized that i would be looking for something. how to find some way out, because this is a setting, a repetitive pattern of behavior is just stereotypes with family belts. and this is what i saw. i understand that i will teach this to my girls. now, if i don’t change something, because , well, an example, as i understand it, is the best way to teach my children something superfluous there. an example they tell only to take away correctly. there are people who feel such a problem or understand that it begins to appear, turn to the internet or to

specialists. sometimes even incognito so, uh, some of our viewers wrote to us in advance with questions that worry them very much ekaterina these questions. today we will draw for you. let's start with the first one. how to understand addiction? am i on alcohol or not? by what signs it can be determined the first is, of course, the loss of control over the drink that the person wanted, for example, how to drink everything, a glass of beer in the company. and everything has long ceased. he still continues. maybe somewhere already under the fence or there in the kitchen alone. yes, that is, this is the loss of control. and then there 's the hangover syndrome. it's when uh man wakes up, even if he's overdone, he knows what's for him to work. he goes to work there, he cuts anything in the oven, a fizzy pill, and a person, if he is addicted, if it is already developing, then, well, he will get a hangover, yes, that is, he will find such a way, alcohol. then, a change of mood. uh, that is a man let's say. so, if he is not yet at the stage when he does not think about whether to drink

or not to drink to him, well, he still restrains himself and does not drink, for example, from monday to friday, but for some period, then this interval , which is until that very friday. he he may want to walk in some kind of depressed, apathetic state; in his hand , he is a so-so worker. yes, because well, sort of, well, that life is interested in this or are you from another no? i now have this treasured dose, uh-huh, and at the same time, there is a change when that same again comes, because friday is even moreover, it has come. he knows that he is drunk in the evening, but he can do everything, which he did not do all week, yes, that is, the best is called that. yes, friday drags on, yes, and one of the important signs of this is the denial of the problem. that is, everyone around sees. it's not even because he's just there, well, he doesn't want to admit it. he may not even admit it himself. he comes up with a bunch of different excuses for self-divorces. there, well, maybe there, to say all the brilliant people there. here, if here, given the photographer, yes, a creative person, all creative people drink. i don't know

what kind of stuff you have there, maybe some of your own. yes for example, yes, yes or power. uh, if uh, if the actor doesn't drink, then it's self-activity, yes, yes, that's why he finds it denies. and this is the trouble, because the first step, because to start recovering is to admit the problem. that is , when this denial goes away and, well, and of course, when there is already any reason to drink, that is, it does not matter that all the days are marked on the calendar there. first this week, than well, katerina, let's move on to the question, my husband, an alcoholic, endured for a long time. but when he started destroying everything in the house, i could not stand it, called the police, left him for six months, like that i realized i stopped drinking. i gave him a chance, but now there are doubts, did i do the right thing and will everything return to normal? maybe, and so and so that they can no longer drink. we are already there, apparently, an example is sitting right in the studio. yes, and everything will return to normal too, maybe also depending on whether the

person is recovering or not. but in general , it's probably there. uh, the only sane solution. she accepted, that is. in general, she left this game. she did not win water for him. she didn't go there to save him. she called the police the same the same as it was our hero yes was also called. well, he got kicked out of the house. it was such a stress for him. this stress, just when a person is deprived, and when he already wants to do not want to have a comfort zone, he has to take responsibility. we must already take some action, even if only to save the family. and when a person stops, if he begins to change internally, again, i say, it doesn’t matter, it will, in my opinion, work with a psychologist there. this will be work on the 12 step program of the ref-center. there is a monastery anything. ah, but if he keeps changing, really, then there's a good chance he'll stick around in this mission game, and for life you said. you know, family values, uh, the writer stephen king was already a drunkard by the age of thirty, yet for some reason he believed that without alcohol

he would not be able to create anything. he will not be able to and everything will fall out of his hands. well, then his wife said, it means that either you are packing your things right now and getting out and then doing what you want, or you don’t drink, and you and i are still together, in general, it took me two weeks, he gave up alcohol. and, of course, he began to lead a completely different lifestyle . but did she give ultimatums to her husband the heroine from the dark room. we 'll find out very soon. today we are talking about alcoholism as a process, a kind of social dependence of such a game in which everyone has their own role, because our heroes will find out right now that they are non-semantic rooms to get out of this vicious circle. i once again went to my parents. she began to complain to poke me, maybe nailed it. here is such a situation. what an unfortunate some poor. in general, have pity on me, and

there do not know what to do. and to which my father replied. you know, he says, you come and say, that's the same thing you need to fight to listen to how bad he is, some kind of good. how are you doing this. well, he says, i'm already tired. maybe you don't want to get bored anymore, basically, so to speak. so what is he doing? i don't understand what to do. he was looking. try to leave. on the 12 by 12 steps program there are such groups to help relatives, friends. well, friends of alcoholics. here, maybe they can help you at that time, my father had already entered the 12 step program. he worked on it for some time and changes began. that is, he began to change, he stopped using. and well, i would probably say that this experience that he appointed becomes different. i never thought that he would

ever change in his life. it somehow inspired me to go try it for the first time . for me, the most important discovery, probably, was that i was not the cause of the disease if i did not treat it, that i could not change another person at all. i'm so used to that, well, me it directly seemed that my purpose to rescue there was to help. well, for a person to get rid of this disease, but now i clearly understand that a person can get rid of his problems. only if he wants it and the second was the discovery that i also have, it turns out to be a problem, that is, under my stereotypical thinking and i wanted to change my behavior, it was hard for me to change. uh, well, it still creaks with creaks, but it was really worth it, and i continue now the meeting also went to bed. so it was called very uh one

phrase in the program you don't want to sacrifice lifeguard. here i am on the one hand. well, if i really want to save someone, that is, i know for sure that i will fall into the position of a victim. that is, this is unequivocal, or if i don’t find myself, as it were, some kind of support, i don’t take care of myself, then no one will take care of me for sure. i had one, you know. upside down was the overthinking that, uh, if i take care of someone, someone else will take care of me. here, instead of thinking that if i take care of myself, then i will be fine. so i came to the conclusion that it turns out that i can protect myself. it turns out i have a choice. i can, if i don't like something, i can do it for you. i can express myself and say that i will not do it, for example, i do not like it. and when you go

there so-so, and if you continue like this, then, well, i taught me to set some boundaries that i didn’t exist at all before. that is, there was no more patience. and now i no longer feel like a victim. you know that i have a choice. and even if i choose some maybe. not the best choice, but i still understand that this is mine choice. no one is forcing me to behave. so at some job. at least don't like to be. uh, in some relationship that doesn't suit me. i began to get high to get high in my life. that is, if i used to hate, and now, when i was talking about how one word, i began to get high on life from myself there, right here, with it. that is, i like what i do. it became tasty for me to live, after all, there is a way out. well, at least, as it seemed, the story of our hero of the non-semantic room is friends, new experts, however, each has gone his own way. yes someone to practice the most. eh, having plunged into the process, someone understands what to

do with it, how to break out of this vicious circle, well, first of all. this is, of course, the most important. for everyone, it's, well, awareness. first of all, you need to realize that you are. here in this game that you are involved in this system, right? it's the first step to being honest to look at the problem, what it really is yes, and then the most important thing, well, it's about responsibility. this is in principle, if we speak for the victim, and since we spoke with him that the victim accept all participants in this game one way or another at some point, that is, to collect responsibility for themselves for their lives, if you take the main character and alcohol, who if i drank a glass? yes, i understand that later it is possible that the fifth, second, third , tenth will follow, whether i want it or not. there i lay responsibility on someone, or i will try to do something myself, go to the same alcoholics anonymous, yes, or knock on the door at the rap center. help me please. yes, there , and, if it’s about the rescuer, if we’re talking about roles, well, then stop saving

it's to start building up your self-esteem and uh, well, it's important to understand that, uh, if the person isn't asking you for help. yes, this is understandable. maybe, yes, that is, to take a quick look at myself there, which i really need, that is, to take care of myself. and in general, it's possible. stick to the aggressor, that is, this position once you know the series don't tell me there that i should, i won't tell you where to go. yes, that is, rather, draw attention to yourself, understand, do not try to change someone, criticize, demand something, someone should rather think about it. what can i do without this person? yes, and it is important for everyone to learn. well, if it ’s about the simple, then it’s very important to learn to build borders in order to speak to a person. no , you know, i will not give you money, i understand where you will spend it. hope you add something. e. well, you know, uh, in any case, well, in one way or another, there are situations in life when , well, let's say someone messes up, someone gets angry.

it's a part of our life, but any of these roles, and any of these. well, i don't know, there hmm well, yes roles, but it can be in some more constructive direction translate here quite obviously. why, when i don’t know there, my dad teaches with me. that is, childhood examples there recalls. yes, he can be like an aggressor, or maybe a mentor, and i can be a victim who whimpers to run away to the toilet and complains to my mother, or i can be a student , and each of these roles has a more constructive adult healthy option of some kind . yes, that's where the responsibility really is taken. that's great. of course, it will only start when i realize that i am constantly delegating my responsibility, or pushing me in, or something else. well, they will start trying to take it. i think that one 100% way does not exist, in general in nature in the world, just as there is no pill for alcoholism? how different are we all? yes,

each one has each individual person. this is a separate universe to someone. eh, coding will help someone, filing will help someone , a grandmother is some kind of whisperer, but to someone, but anything to someone. ltp help, but i do not recommend to go. yes, there, of course. but in my case it helped me. i'm happy i have my life she's after all. i, as i said, the heroine of life, she is cool and amazing and worth it to live, each of us always has a choice. we can continue to live in a world limited by certain roles, or we can take a risk and find a way out of a destructive game, outside of which there is a lot of bright and beautiful katerina bardo was with you before we met outside the circle of illusions.

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