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can't come here maksim marchenko, who took second place in the race, was taken to the hospital. after the races , he saved his friend, auto mechanic mikhail bardin, with carbon monoxide and was himself hospitalized. now maxim is in the hospital in serious condition. how are the races? and that's it. andrew said it was great. i was even able to get

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still a long time to go for another hour and a half, the temperature rises.

pashka will not have breakfast. locked up in the room. how are you doing? everything is fine with us, construction has resumed, security has been strengthened and cameras have been installed. this is the first time such a large object has been received. know how to strike next time?

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the news is fear, caught up, as you can see, he is alive. i hope they patch up. for you. how do you? i'm glad you think we deserve happiness, i

'll never forgive myself for that. and you tried, i did not deliver. he is good. i don't think. but if you're with him, then we're really good. i love it when you smile. your dimples on the pike, i miss them. take care of yourself. next time when? you want to scare me. he was nothing, he was watching us with

help. you will have almost done everything. we will have a child, this is igor's place maxim, i don't want to have been talked about this 100 times already instead of igor, yes, there will still be betrayal. yes need a child to save the family died there is nothing to save. i tried to forgive us, i tried, but no one can replace igor, we will blame each other for his death all our lives.

well, open the door, please. we are late for school.

hello hello here i am very glad that you have him. and i don't even know. what to say in such cases did not think that we would meet? so i don't know what they say in such cases either, listen in max's apartment, your photos and your son hang everywhere. i don't even pretend. what have you been through pass the? it seems to me that at the maximum it will be much easier to go further. if the past remains in the past and you do not remind him of the tragedy that happened with your visits. there are things that cannot be forgotten. and you

karina will have to either accept them or someone else will take your place in maxim's life. and medicine truth it will be necessary to buy some more. how are you?

does anything hurt? i'm not ready to become children. it seemed to me that i could be a dad again when it turned out negative. it's like i lost my child again, everything will be it won't be good. become young beautiful want children you need to make a decision?

hello papa

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you may have noticed that in families where there are people who drink, the same situations are constantly repeated. so performances are played with the same roles with the loud name of an alcoholic. why it happens? and is it possible to get out of this vicious circle with this we will try to figure it out today? hello , i lived for 2 months in the entrance of the mask, which , uh, well, at one moment we can safely put on at another moment. we can take them off. i am i really can't say no sometimes. and i ca n't say that this is the case unconsciously you are in this system. yes, in this scenario you played an alcoholic with horror, a certain role. i because at this moment

take care of me, but i stink. well, i ’m sitting here, i don’t bother anyone, when i don’t understand what is happening, then other programs are to blame for all my states. today is a social game alcoholic. our guest expert master of psychology is a person who knows exactly the answers to many questions, because that katerina gaykova specializes in just such problems. katya hello , the second one, it seems that in this program he is associated with alcoholism, everyone plays some kind of social role. does it really feel like that sometimes? we are all tied to some pre-written script. an interesting question, because if we consider it this way, then, in general, we all play some kind of social role, and not only there, but scenarios related to alcohol. yes, that is, we are now also playing a certain

some role. we are so in this studio. yes, and we are at work, for example, well, if you take me, there i am a psychotherapist or a psychologist there, i sit with clients in the same position. here i am trying to try on a roller of alcohol. yes, that is, with a smart look, i answer some questions at home. i am a mother. yes, but these are all, uh, social roles that are healthy, let's say. so. these are the masks that, uh, we at one moment can easily put on at another moment. we can take them off, but there are semashki that grow to us and sooner, but the problem there is that, mm, there are more some kind of secondary benefit, that is, a person gets used to it so much that he lives only in this boiled. only in this it turns out such hmm running in a vicious circle, yes, from which those people. who are involved in this performance can not escape. and this theory is one of the theories of the view on alcoholism. yes, transactional analysis burn once developed it, and, in particular, one of the games is called an alcoholic, and there,

and there is a certain number of roles, that is, besides the alcoholic. there are four more roles. wait, wait, i just wanted you interrupt to keep the intrigue and find out what ordinary passers-by of the city of minsk think about this, how they imagine this social game of an alcoholic for themselves. let's see it will be the main alcohol. the one who drinks the rescuer is the one who will want him there to help him somehow and that's it. i never hear about this game for the victim, for example, yes, that is, there is an aggressor. well, i don’t know, she’s like two types to her, or here they are, uh, they should be pitied. either they themselves act as tyrants there. well, there should be a third one, but i don't know even. i thought about it when i thought about it, alcoholism is some kind of such a negative way of life rather, i can’t even call it a game, we start from small things. but if this is not controlled in some way, then it will, of course, move to

some other stages and cause, of course . oh yes, addiction. i am very negative about this. although i drink alcohol myself, alcoholics are just the last stage for me. i don’t really understand how it is possible to allow now, in general, something for me. it's simple, firstly, it seems to me that belarusians do not really understand what kind of social game an alcoholic is, on the one hand, and on the other hand , they are somehow rather negatively disposed to people who experience such an addiction. katerina, tell us, after all, what are there are roles. well, yes, unfortunately, this negative is present here, therefore, it ’s true, it can be difficult to start recovering even for an alcoholic, because there, uh, in everything in the world, everything is considered as a disease. we have it like promiscuity, rather yes, but if talking about games, then this direction is considered not as alcoholism, not as an alcoholic, not as a disease, like this social game, and here, uh, they said already more in

such a simplified, concise version, which burn's student cartman made. uh, for all addictions, it is suitable where the victim is the persecutor of the rescuers, it’s surprising that in principle, the victim is enough of the persecutors of the rescuers or the persecutors live here rescuers yes, this is when already and if we touch on those roles that we began to talk about before the interrogation , that is the main role is the alcoholic so, that is, the person as the protagonist, the protagonist. yes , the main character. here there must be a rescuer yes, who saves him. well, before that, there is still a pursuer, that is. someone should give him a scolding to scold him, criticize him , evaluate him, devalue him. yes, then he must cry somewhere and someone comes to his aid. and this savior who will regret taking a sip. well, in the situation further it could be a doctor. it could be a psychologist. it may even be employees of the whole ryabtse, center, yes, that is, these people who, uh, well, how would he look for them in order

to save him and further eric uh, bern offers. uh, roles such as instigators simpleton instigator this one that today went to drink. yes there or that, maybe some kind friend who does n't really get drunk himself, he doesn't have this problem. well, he incites all the time. uh, a friend couldn't go out for a drink, and and another role is just some kind of one that lends, like, uh-huh. and all the time it can be soulful just those soulful ones. yes. well, also, because he doesn’t know how to build boundaries, he doesn’t know how to say. no, again, he wants to be good in the eyes of the one who asks him. money and uh it could be a neighbor friend, anyone, it often performs. mom, for example, if you already have a wife and a family, the wife is like that, then the pursuers, that rescuers and the mother is such a simpleton, who, well, what about her son, well, don’t give, but you said about the fact that the wife, maybe two at once to perform roles. they really can somehow intersect flow from one to another. or maybe, in general, there is an alcoholic as the main character, and all

other roles are performed by one person next to him who is like that, maybe they all flow over these roles. but when else about let's say then a little more, maybe we'll already say. there it is clearly visible, when the victim is the pursuer rescuer yes, already an abbreviated version. but even right there, maybe at first our husband came to us, she scolded him well, yes, then here is mine. yes, it saves everything for tomorrow. she gives him boils the broths. uh, calls to work, solves problems for him, so that he doesn't get fired. well , as it were, it expands it, giving money for a, then it can give money, but more often it still happens so differently, but it can be and yes, it’s the same, maybe we have today the main character a person who experienced one of the above roles is exactly a person who says that he is an alcoholic quite openly and a person whose story we are extremely interested in knowing. what did it all start. i invite to to us in the studio of our protagonist valery, not a mirzhetsky photographer with twenty years of experience

, he captured a wonderful moment in the life of others, but he himself almost fell out of the frame, only a miracle helped the photographer valery return to the lens of life and he is ready to share his story. hello valery hello you know, well, you seem to me, a very brave person, really, because to admit it is in my opinion. the hardest first step. especially considering how everyone around reacts. yes, they perceive it immediately negatively, as the rule that started it all. it all started the way it all started. everything started as usual. it all started with some holidays, some events. we do not know, unfortunately, probably, any event is a solemn or mourning event. it is mandatory, as a rule, alcohol is present up to a certain

point. it didn't give me any problems. that is, it was some kind of episodic libations. well, everyone drinks. well, yes, that is, there is some kind of period, for example, studying at an institution. yes, it was like a game some. yes, that is certain. that is, we are there, as in the suvorov school, roughly speaking, yes, and for us it was like that, like a quest there, yes, or there at the academy, for example, that is, it is forbidden for this, yes, yes. mm this, well, of course, not immediately, but some time has passed. i realized that i probably need to hem. here we have made such a decision in the family. first time when he screwed up. 20 must have been somewhere around 5. why a young man? well, it's like this. well, really, well, young in my opinion. who are we ? we have made a decision. who are you family advice? we made a decision that yes.

alcohol is already starting to harm, that is, they told you, we somehow decided together already. i realized that yes, and we went, er, to a medical clinic. i filed for 3 years. so they paid money. hemmed it and everything, as if it were so wonderful. i realized that yes class is everything. well, the feeling, that is, i was told that if i drank alcohol, i would, accordingly, uh, or something would happen to me in terms of health, my legs would fail there, i would go blind there, psychological work. yes i will die so yes and as much as i don't want to die. that's how i would not drink and did not drink. i'm somewhere around 2.5 years old, and then suddenly, and then suddenly i thought, everything, this is nonsense, then suddenly. there were people who told me this is nonsense. you can do it yourself, in the sense that you yourself can also not drink.

so i say, well, how, well, another six months left 2.5 have passed. here are half a year, nothing terrible and tried. will there be a continuation a little at first, that is, at first they drank, well, a little, yes, and then i realized that, well, as it were, well, since i drank, nothing happened ekaterina, what is the reason for this? that's what kind of fearlessness, or at first they inspired a person that something will happen to you, and then some kind of toggle switch works. why is this happening? why are they breaking down again? well this is us , uh, the disease is alcoholism. yes, that is, if a person himself does not change, nothing changes. well, if we look at an angle today. ah, the position of the victim, yes, in this situation. that is, he will repent of it does not

come out. that is, there, in any case, we hear some kind of responsibility on the family. advice man. well, an adult. yes, i understand, i already decided, but not what i myself decided to decide - the family is still yes, because it is in this, let's say a triangle or in this performance an alcoholic. and er next. that is, here we see a clear role of salvation. yes, it was the family who performed, and then the instigators appeared, who, well, everything is being investigated. well, why would you act like this endlessly, until a person begins to change himself, yes, that is. well, i think that we will come to this today in the course of our conversation, how and what, uh, should change in it, but until this scheme starts and will work. he will go from one breakdown to another to the third. that is, if there are no internal changes, then these disruptions will still occur. and i just have a very interesting question. these are the moments when you say, uh, well, let's encode, then you broke down, how you felt you were someone. or did you feel sorry for yourself, what happened to you blamed everyone around, of course, everyone is to blame, except

me. yes? i'm a lazy drunk, and you are all to blame , of course, i want to say a little more about. that fear of death, right? what’s wrong, yes, and there, as it were, why do you drink, and there come periods when i talk to myself, and, as it were, talk to myself all the time. only i don’t know how it is with others, when you want to die, you can’t drink and you can’t not drink , and this is this state. but this permanent hell in which you live, and that is, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter. uh, the time of day doesn't matter the day of the week, meaning nothing exists at all. you're only looking for alcohol. and it doesn't matter what kind of alcohol. absolutely also not absolutely alcohol-containing liquid, yes, that is, absolutely any. that is, i had a pharmacy year, that is, i just sat at the pharmacy for a year, this is corvalol

hawthorn. hey, valerian. there lamivite was still such a wonderful remedy, that is, because there was no money to take them to be , where i stood near there. well, or i went to some locations where there are people and just shot a trifle in order to buy for 80 kopecks. a jar of valerian, and all the time i think why different people really ask me for a trifle arguing. yes, there is a need for i lost my wallet for bread on the road, but i immediately see that it’s not for bread, not on the road. i i give sometimes i if i see that with a person, really ill prepared. if you give, who is ekaterina just like that, a person is a person in such a state. and he, maybe i remember myself. he can easily die, but he can die, if i want to say a little from excess death, of course, we have a show, yes. that is, it is somewhere a little lightness of some kind. yes, there is in the program, but in fact, any dependent

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we continue to analyze the scenarios of an adult game of an alcoholic. another expert has joined our conversation - a consultant at a rehabilitation center for healthy youth. nadezhda filippova hello nadezhda. good afternoon nadezhda here you are as a person working as dependent people. sometimes i can be and always get into this game called alcoholic, uh definitely. uh, you see, the helping professions they, well, involve some inclusion. and i even sometimes do it out of readiness, but it's just good when it happens consciously and at the level of some kind of empathy of interaction. sympathy at times it really happens, like salvation, and at times it is some kind of merging. i remember well that at the beginning

of my journey. and i was strong. for because hmm well, again, i'm recovering myself and it seemed to me that i could get, and approval love and relationships are some kind of interaction. only if i 'm good, that's if i help save, in addition, there was some kind of element, you know, mm of some kind of omnipotence. it turned out that i urgently need to give back what i have acquired, that i can somehow directly force a person to do it. cause him to welcome that 's but really it's not that way. well, of course, you know, but hmm, while i was growing up, in this experience of counseling, and hmm, i had a lot of personal therapy lacking. these things can affect it when you do not see yourself and do not understand, but a lack. e experience. and now, i don't know, there some kind of professional competence. uh, hmm notions of their roles as a psychologist. yes, that's uh, well, maybe just some kind of low

self-esteem. the rest of a healthy relationship, when everything is normal, then, in principle, everything is fine. here you, when you share all this, helped here, supported here , often turned on, maybe not only as a specialist, but just as a person, what you were talking about, feeling sympathy, and you don’t feel any kind of exhaustion. but you give yourself your emotions at work, then there is no feeling that listen in my opinion, i and syakla you know, uh. well, like this, to make it happen a single moment to no. well, i'm trying to keep an eye on it. even when well, i have straight schedules, there are some rest for myself, and time for myself, but i have a very wise body. here, if some personal story to share, oh, i generally tend to recycle. uh, i really ca n't refuse sometimes, and i can't say that i do it unconsciously. this is proactive behavior. i, well i consciously agree there helps. yes, but uh, sometimes i'm already sitting here

i don’t do anything here, i consult there or i just did something there. now to get sick. well, i know that this thought means that i have been here for a very long time, yes, yes, and my body is very wise. well, the next day i have 37.1, i can take a picture, i can lie down, but not a very good reaction. true , in order to rest, you need to leave the hospital absolutely . seriously. and i had such cases. i already know such a story in myself, so and i, well, i really introduced a lot of analysis myself and i go to therapy a lot. i set aside days for myself consciously in order to rest, because otherwise i do it this way. well, do you also feel that you are in this system? yes, you played an alcoholic in this scenario, you also have a certain role one another. that is, you are in the absolute, well, in our mini-theater, well, yes, i agree with the specialist. i find a lot of this in my life. even when there is no addict nearby, the character, when there is no dictation nearby. oh, i'm very cool myself. i reproduce in my family situation. when i came to you today when i couldn't find a studio, first you were to

blame, because you have a bad picture, and then, and then i had to find it. i don’t know, with a good fellow who will give me call urgently, because i got on the phone in the cold. here's but me really. yes, it really seems that in different situations we perform completely different roles. now i want to introduce you to the heroine of a face that you will not see, she is in a dark room, but she also takes part in this game called an alcoholic. what role was assigned to her and how did she behave in she felt know right now. the problem goes back to, uh, my family of origin. my grandfather also abused alcohol. now i'm with that adult . i clearly see the patterns of behavior that were in my family. here at my grandparents, yes, as she told me, how they

communicated, how he used aggression, how they used it when they came running, uh, in my parental family. in general, there was some kind of similar scenario, because i used it. he was also aggressive. we were afraid, we were afraid personally, but he couldn’t say anything against even in a general condition and a chair, because it was some kind of shouting statement. in general, here on the table and so on, when dad came to let me out. i could even tell by the movement of the key in the lock well whether he was drunk or sober. and if he 's drunk, because he got out. i learned that i need to be a little patient. just a little, and then it will be just fine. here is my behavior such patience. yes, that's how i would call myself a professional. eh, patient victims,

or something, yes, and it was formed and consolidated. eh, and not just in my family. i now this behavior of mine began to spread to all spheres of life. here i am, let's say, we are working on some work. well, i've highlighted myself. i really like it there, but i'll be patient and, uh, they'll work there. yes, ema, for example, well, my grandmother endured, but my mother can still endure. and now, well, you have to be patient, everything will change. yes, when i failed to make my dad not drink. i then at some point decided that i definitely would not marry a man with alcohol problems. that's where i got married. my husband at that time, though he didn’t drink, smoked, he doesn’t smoke now. but his parents consumed my husband. and

at the time, it didn't bother me. for me it did not seem to be this problem and did not see it. it's ok. i don't think it hits anymore. well , i, too, of everything, but also later, as some period of e time, but beer appeared. and here i didn’t notice at first, because it’s a problem in quotation marks, because well, it would seem to me that this is beer, it’s okay. then there was more beer. that's what i didn't see either. not at all seen this for a long time. so somehow i probably saw when it became very bad. that's all my attention. i remember here, it was so focused on my husband's use. i didn't see anything at all. that is, it seemed to me that if here he is, but he stops using, yes, they wanted him, either to ask or help, or , well, somehow, yes, just like, well,

something similar. my mother, well, do something so that he does not drink and then we will all have it. well, that's happiness friends. here it seemed would, yes, some kind of even a line can be traced, my grandmother endured. my mother tolerated our heroes. i didn’t want to endure the room, but it still happened. i get the feeling that in this, the girls experience some kind of i don’t know, joy, perhaps, maybe even some kind of benefit, perhaps i’m mistaken ekaterina what do you say, yes, there is a secondary benefit each of the participants in this game, but i also want to emphasize. here it is very clear in this story can be traced. how it works? that is, she was a girl, and in general, for her already this role was predetermined. yes, she is there, like a mother, like a grandmother, she must endure, she must suffer. yes, in general, this is the capital benefit of suffering, and all participants have it. yes, what is the benefit in suffering? i can't understand. it's bad for you that there is some kind of unhealthy here. there, let's say, attracting

attention and love. yes, that is, if you take, and plunge somewhere further into childhood, then let's say where does it come from? that is, a child could, but receive love with care, attention only suffers, for example, failed. yes, that's how temperature, how to suffer. i, because at this moment take care of me. well, in this case, i will probably take care of myself, or maybe. someone close will take care. yes, and this is a familiar pattern, that is, the parents were busy working there. well, here we see that dad drank and there they had some kind of confrontation in the family, the child turns out, somewhere there is no lot without attention, and uh, well, his way of attracting attention. but it ’s at least to suffer, so that mom and dad regret there until they sympathize and further, when a person grows up, he does not realize that he attracts suffering. eh, wanting to get. here is the attention love in adulthood. it doesn't work anymore. yes, that is, there is a person, well, he drank, for example, and he makes it unpleasant for others, this is how we saw requests. yes, people will not give

him what he is looking for, but he does not realize that he is looking for it. yes, that is, on the surface, it turns out, sort of, like a pleasure. and the secondary benefit turns out to be, firstly , to throw off the responsibility to everything else. that's how hope you said i i'm tired, but i'm a responsible person today, but if i get sick then, but then i can be an irresponsible little child, because we can all get sick there, well, really, let yourself relax a little, and actually for a lifeguard. yes, that is for him. uh, on the one hand, this is an increase in self-esteem. well, because i'm so good. i do care. i put all my strength there, yes, that is, this is an increase in self-esteem, but this is again a victim, because as a result it becomes a victim, because if i don’t need your help. well then, of course, i will start to aggress doing something. yes, and besides, then i helped so much, he still drinks. that is, again you find yourself in the position of a retro victim, the poor unfortunate woman has spent your whole life. i 'll save you all my life. and you still drink. that is, this is again the position of the victim, yes, well, in the same way, the victim

seeks aggression in this position, because another person attacks by the fact that he is attacking. there begins to rescue as well. uh, let's say an alcoholic, if we take this structure, but as a result, then comes and gives catching up to the aggressor. yes, then there is also the same becomes the position of the victim. and in general. here is such a cycle. yes , such a cycle, which is final. this is actually the position of the victim, that is, well, as if at the expense of the other, such destructive relationships are obtained in this valeria experienced something like this. here are the emotions, different or no longer remember. yes and no and yes and no. here i don't know how it is. you see, a vicious circle, this endless one. this is a race, but he washed it down. i asked for forgiveness, i forgave you for a while, you hold on again, but this is it, and they forgive you until as long as you are forgiven. as long as

they help from here, as long as you have at least the slightest somewhere, somewhere, there’s some kind of opportunity for some kind of drink there. yes? well, as long as people help here. here is this circle yes, while here they are neighing to do everything they say, i won’t give money to the izmumu. yes, you see, i don’t want to call the police in such a state and send me to the ltp. and it happened 2 years ago. so uh me actually, that is, i lived in the entrance for two months. the entrance to the attic in the basement, wait, you got kicked out that very moment when you get out of here, yes, and as if i had nowhere to go, and i, as it were, well, here is march, the month they gave me a blanket. yeah, they didn’t give a blanket, they gave some. yes, it’s very cold. well, here, i walked with this blanket over there in the area of ​​the komarovsky market. here and here already. well,

it was necessary to sleep somewhere kind, the neighbors began to call the police. i was like, uh, well, i was furious, just. well, how so in general? well, how? well, i'm sitting. here is my apartment, i am sitting, but on the floor i am not touching anyone. well, yes, i smoke. well, yes, i'm dirty, yes, i stink, but i i'm sitting here, i'm not bothering anyone. yes, they took it quietly once, dismantled the second, dismantled the third, but in total. i'm probably hundreds i was sitting somewhere for about a month. and accordingly, the ltp court is ready ltp was awarded and, probably, a labor dispensary, so dispensary yes dispensary. so, i thought that everything, that is, this, well, for me at that time was information, information was the minimum. yes, that is, people, apparently, who are sitting in the ltp. they do not write anything on the internet, they do not

show anything on tv. here it is for everyone. well this is it worse than prison. yes, i have not been to prison and i understand that it is bad there. i understand that if it's worse than in prison, it means that it's just everything , well, you get there, and i get there and i don't understand what's going on. i do not understand what is happening, because i studied at the suvorov military school. i understand that at times it was more difficult at the suvorov military school and i don’t understand why everyone is so afraid. why is it wrong? well, mode. well work, well work. yes, well, well, some there, well, clean up, that is, exactly a year. changes society because i society interfered. yes, and as if i had time to think, in general, yes, what i do, what i do in this life, in principle, plus the specialists who

work there. yes, this is a psychiatrist, a narcologist, these are psychologists. that is, i have. they have done a simply colossal job with me, that these people have actually saved my life. i don't know if this is a miracle or not. i don't know, well, here's hope, judging by your experience. uh, what is such a catalyst such a starting point. here is the case with valery. it has become an institution where he was isolated for a year, they worked with him . i nodded directly while listening, but of course a person needs to be from this environment. move somewhere. yes, but very much to me, but hmm, the yearness responded, just here is the cycle, uh, i don’t know my opinion. yes, but what, just about as much is needed to, uh, well, reorganize. uh, some psychologists compare it to the experience of loss, the

biggest loss. this is how the death of a loved one is experienced for a year, but for an alcoholic and a drug addict. but this is the loss in fact , the biggest in life, which is, because all spheres in his life are connected with it. well, in general, uh, and uh, i am very grateful that somehow inside it became the people who helped, but because, well, there is an opinion that there is not a lot. there are very few psychologists of little social work of some kind, of course, e. uh, if just a person, but don't know, move to argentina and leave the change of place does not change anything. he will bring only himself. there must be some drastic changes. but in principle, here it is important to think about why, in principle, a person needs to drink? yes, here i am i understand that, uh, well, let's say i had problems. yes, with use. i couldn't live sober. i didn’t understand at all what was happening when i didn’t understand what was happening then others were to blame for all my states. you are the source of what bothers me or annoys me or, on the

contrary, pleases me, but i am not the reason. and you are some kind of emotional immaturity. this is some kind of irresponsibility that, in principle, is very suitable for the position of the victim. it is clear that i will also fall into other roles. but when i say the source everything that happens to me is not me, but someone else, someone already a sacrificial position. here. and then, when i already open myself as a feeling person. i understand what happens when. these are the events i do. here are some things, for example, i blame, as i gave an example. there is an event going on right now. i think and feel in this way, what do i start doing? here it is. i probably notice causal relationships, and then i take responsibility, for this i can not act reactively. really. i'm in this moment i feel angry when i can't find. here is the studio, how i feel today, i do not deny, but this does not mean that i will call, the clock will yell. listen to your picture some kind of incomprehensible curve. i myself further choose the reaction and be responsible for my feelings. here it is. well, this is some kind of fundamental starting things recovery. i take responsibility for the

position in which i am and choose my behavior, agreed. now we are talking about emotions. yes, hope told about hers, how it sometimes happens and consciousness can be in an aggressive state, or you, by the way, are also a drunkard, but somehow drinking with your comrades. eh, everything, like a very peaceful atmosphere, was then suddenly experiencing some kind of tide. i do not know the energy of aggression of some kind of negative perception of the world and could easily stab any of them. and it was considered absolutely normal. that's it. eh, this is to the fact that how often there are drops, but our heroine from the dark room had such drops, whether she experienced aggression in connection with all the circumstances that developed we will find out very soon. we will tell you about the unique miraculous icons, therefore, turning to the minsk miraculous icon.