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if you have a constant desire to control and save others, you are afraid that your child will go astray. although, while he was still in kindergarten, he probably fell into the hook of codependence, how it manifests itself in the family and where to look for a way out with this, we will try to figure it out today. hello, the problem is somewhere in the depths of me , the bunny, maybe even black. suddenly it suddenly got dirty. on the sport enjoyed how to defend one's strength. i don't know, they were deceived into this trap. i felt that he already absolutely not. help give a magic wand. and i feel it, i have it myself. today we

are talking about codependence in the family and our guest is svetlana yarumchik, who works with relatives of dependent people and conducts trainings and seminars for them. hello svetlana. please tell us in what case under what circumstances people contact you and what happens at your trainings, mostly people who have such a concept. uh, addicts hit rock bottom. yes , they reached the mark. well, they are co-dependent, they don’t drink, but emotionally their psychological the state is already in such on such a day at such a limit that, ah, but they do not understand. yes, what to do and, well, of course, hmm, it's basically there that they somehow find out there through acquaintances. and well, they come with a request, help so and how do you

help? well they are with a request help give me a magic wand. do it on 1 2 3, and so that i recover and so that my loved one is still dependent, if the family is dependent exactly where there is an addiction , too, somehow. eh, i didn’t recover at all, but at first he recovered even when i was still working in the psyche of narcology. here is it about what when e calls a woman and says hello i will come. eh, i'll bring you the baby. and i say, i am not an adult working with children. she was in the deck. and she has a pause , and my child, uh, 28 years old, and i have a pause, and i say, i say, what is your problem? yes, your child. we drink, they do it to mom. you drink too. yeah. well, she doesn't. well, and this is direct, even here in

how a person says, already the merger is no longer the area of ​​responsibility of my and my adult son, and not a child. it's in progress, of course. trainings. there they are precisely created, and in that context, rus- first tells about the dependence of different types of dependence on the family, but on the family system. where do we all come from, and then what is the psychology of the victim negative thinking that is codependently present that's what is helplessness, uh, what is border control? how to arrange and finish? he generally values, i have about myself, my beloved and unconditionally accepting myself and my loved ones. well, first of all, should all participants come to your trainings? this system or maybe? someone alone, well , you know this system. yes, if the family is also

a system yes, a mini-system, and if you take, uh, for example, associations with watch mechanisms. yes , it’s complex, there are a lot of memes, if one screw mechanism breaks down, the corresponding mechanism breaks down after itself, if everything is repaired, and here at least if at least one participant has already come, uh, will take the path of realizing that something is wrong with him then it starts to work. and from my work practice, i can say that for each system, someone may have a slower movement in someone faster. well, the movement will go to the whole system. uh, the family is in recovery. e. well, each of the seven systems goes their own way, but it's very cool. if everyone goes, uh, they will start studying trainings for specialists, yes,

uh, with and there, if there are small, small children under 18 years old, then there is this family consultation of this self-help group. that is, this whole system is coolly involved, but if at least one, then this is a start. we asked the residents of minsk and guests of the capital, when care turns into dependence, what do the townspeople think we will find out directly now, perhaps, when this concern is not particularly paid attention, that is, there is a lot of it. you want to give it more, but the person does not accept it. and you want to give it even more. you give it, you give it, and you already become obsessed with this work, probably, somehow some mental deviations begin. it seems to him that he is actually saving someone, but in fact he is simply lying from reality from what he has in his family today. yes, they are trying

to close some of their needs by caring for another. that is there is still, for example, failures in studies. he comes and let's take care of everyone at home, at least some success, such as having it. although they may not be there, or here parents of their children are there, they make amends for my moments there, then it turns out when a forty-year-old man comes. with mom. so she says, change it, please. there, panties and care greatly affect a person, and a person should, well, show support to the maximum of his care. i believe that addiction is really what they say. they said, well, everything is on point. yes viewers hmm it's all about dependent relationships in the family. but when in the position of rescuers that is, i know what it means that a person co-dependently begins to do for another what he can

do himself, i answer you sugar, i’ll throw in, i’ll stir how many three spoons i stirred. e. well, excuse me. well, already a child and at 3 years old. well, sugar, can go to bed. yes and this is the transfer of responsibility in accordance with age, the older the child becomes appropriate acceptance, even if he is wrong, i love you. yes, here, uh, i saw this and that, but i love you. all the same, you are there for me and this is the department, and help is when it’s real, well, a person cannot. well, then he fell a little child, he lifted him up, or he needs help. e sorry, he hit the kid. yes, i'm sorry for that. well, yes, it really hurts you, so this is about helping. it's different two poles, where uh? well,

very codependent people. they just somehow twisted everything today to our company to join the artist elena bogorochenko, who knows firsthand what codependency in a family is. the subtle nature of the teacher-artist elena bogorochenko played a cruel joke on her when elena gave birth to her first child. she was afraid to even approach him busting fear. she plunged headlong into family life and raising a child, but completely forgot about herself, thanks to a long work on herself, elena was able to regain her life. today she is ready to share her story. hello , tell me how did you feel about it. i am i will say that i am a mother of three children, and in fact i remember myself at the time when

my first child was born. was so long-awaited, i was so anxious about it that i remember that it was even some kind of insanity. yes, when my baby was lying in the crib, and he slept well , ate and slept well. and even listened to whether he was alive? and i couldn't eat. i could not calmly just relax when he sleeps. i was constantly included, uh, in endless care, and thereby. i am so i tormented and tired myself that i no longer had any strength left for anything at all, and even afterwards. here is what was said about the bottom. i felt like i didn't exist anymore. uh-huh so i began to understand that the problem is somewhere in the depths of me. this is where i started taking care of myself. e, she turned to a psychologist, began

working with a psychologist, went through trainings and now seeing herself as the one that was before and which is now, it really was such a deep codependency, and it didn’t appear out of the blue. i also come from some kind of family and this is such a codependency that is simply passed on from generation to generation and often people perceive this as the norm, what is this such a deep love? to your children and what is normal? i love my child so much. i care about him so much that i do not let him take a step without my care without my inclusion. here is lena when it came, the very moment when you realized that oh, in my opinion, this is already a problem. how old was your child or a month old? and by this time i had already had a third child, but wow you realized so late. ah, well,

awareness doesn't come. here such simply at once, as illumination. i just felt that it is very difficult for me in the state in which i am, that i have endless guardianship over children. moreover , i want to add that being a teacher myself, working with children. especially with the children who come. it's first class there. i also turn on such a mother in relation to these children. and i noticed on myself that i turn on other people's children in the same way in the evening, when i come home already. i understand that i have strength in general like this no, i began to fall into some difficult states. emotional some such depressive. i just couldn’t understand why what was happening to me, after all? all, all, well. yes , nothing, it was not that, mm external

factors would unsettle me. it's just inner emotional, this endless self-giving. so, i realized that the problem is not in the world around me, not in the work that i do a lot, but somewhere inside me, that i need to leave something for myself. i want you a to recall a wonderful couple from soviet cinema, but on martyakov vyacheslav tikhonov and they had a son at the age of 40 died, died of an overdose of drugs and alcohol. uh, tikhonov is older, of course, in all his fault, but, well, he said to mordyukov, you didn’t finish watching . you yourself are to blame, she herself felt that she really did not. all that could be here, perhaps, it's time to think about what kind of parents? we want to become for our children, do not switch. we continue to analyze the topic of codependency in the family and invite you to take part in our

conversation of the next guest, hieromonk, agapy goluba, which has long been helping dependent people and their relatives. good afternoon father of agape. tell us how you help. first of all, everything that i help people realize that there is a problem, but for example, if a woman comes who repents that she does not have swans of children, she is constantly breaking out on her husband somewhere. that's what a lot of irritation of anger accumulated from her. uh, and it's noticeable her face is tired like this, exhausted and leading questions and help to find out what the family has about green problems. often related to addictions or other dysfunctions. i carefully suggest that, perhaps, the state depends

not because it is so bad. but you are simply exhausted, give yourself to other people without a trace and lose yourself, that you have become, like a discharged battery. here's a laptop for example, here you just don't make sense love because you haven't subscribed. and when a person realizes this and accepts, then it is possible to help in fertilizing the spiritual relationship. i'm with god to normalize let's say so and send to specialists. i'm still not a psychologist. and children are psychologists, psychotherapists. usually you need either a group of helpers, such as alanon or an adult child of alcoholics, that is, in any case, at first it is such a time in the soul yes , to share your problem with a person who is ready to listen to you in particular with you. and then you, with a kind word and the right advice, send somewhere something like this, yes, they feel that i have some kind of mental problems. here you are basking in sins . fire. anger, too much annoyance at people who should love,

like a real family. actually. i hate myself. and once upon a time, how sins are obeyed and explained that they are just a sin, it’s more likely that you have some roots of this reason, we’re starting to sort it out, then often here we are, uh. then we stay after the service. i have a separate office for receiving people. we, i spend such consultations there sometimes work as word of mouth . people come already even to eat before, namely, direct towards me and then, uh, we have such lively conversations. that's what you said about that the main thing is to identify the reasons, and what are the most common reasons for such codependence in the family? eh, there are different ones, but as one of the rays, grigory grigorovich, a bazhenka, said. we all come from childhood, or rather, from adam and eve , it was born there. the first childhood - when shame is a feeling, disunity is visible, uh, everything,

it distorted relationships, and then under the growing, as they say, there are probably no healthy births that are absolutely happy 100%. uh-huh, there are families that are somehow working on themselves, probably developing somewhere spiritually mentally, but there are those who go down. that's my job, just here to help. here, uh, here come out of the dive. let's say. so, probably, a little bit began to rise back up. i suggest that right now we look into the dark room and hear the story of marianne how she got hooked on this codependency. not all addiction started before i was born into some of my father's parental families. well, according to my fantasies, to a lesser extent from my mother.

during grandpa and grandma's wedding, grandpa cheated on grandma that very evening. well, for me it's like some. well, really, a little unhealthy unhealthy start. family life and relationships in general. although, in principle, then it was the post-war period. and, probably, it was somehow there, maybe more the norm, but today, thank god, this is no longer the norm for my parental family for me. and i feel for today my consciousness and the fact that i realized that this is, well, something is not normal. i probably didn’t even when my parents were arguing. and when they got divorced, i was somewhere hmm 9, uh, weighs probably yes, somewhere like that a and grandmother lived next to us. mom left with me, my sister was already older , she left, and my father went with me to my grandmother

, where my grandmother poured something on him from the window so that he would leave. well, in general, everything was not very healthy, and once i got my father out of the noose. that is, just like that, i accidentally walked there from school. before, he came there from work, and i just found him with a noose around his neck, and then, as if hmm, for me, just some kind of breathing, trembling emptiness. if today, well, some adult language to translate some kind of sensation of the explosion of the world, that is, like this. probably from that moment on, it just became not the norm for me, that is, it feels like even, probably, i was not in the family. well, that is, some kind of my presence has already become impossible. that's how i suspect this

today, and a strong injury. i had to go into rescue. and in many things there, yes hmm well, for example, there, i don’t know to control where he is yes and come and tell my mother. yes there, what is he doing there, what is there, but for himself? naturally, i still remember that i constantly caught his mood. yes, what is his level of aggression, the level of intoxication. or is he just talking, although hmm on an adult head today. i have very warm feelings for my father, but at that moment, what about my kind of childish head, right? it was more of a family rescue. well, and, accordingly, the father was that bad person who destroyed the family, or what?

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alcohol, apparently, which is also present in this family. here's an interesting codependency. it occurs more often in families where there is alcohol and drugs, or it is absolutely not an indicator. this is not indicative. in fact, it’s just definitely ours, well, the community can see it, yes, it’s bad alcohol addiction. well, such obvious dependencies, yes, dependencies, where the family is, and it is already being said there, yes, something is bad in the family, but there are also hidden ones. and where there is violence physical sexual happens when relatives of violence. oh, and the most one of the hidden invisible psychological emotional abuse, when parents or well

, as we said dar- or aggressively shout at the child, swear, criticize, or vice versa is cold? comes from contact with a child and that's psychological abuse. and this is what causes it. uh, that hidden codependency. well, that’s what passes into adulthood, then e is transferred like this. yes, the hero said that she had come to this devastation, the realization at what childhood her age, when she was faced with a situation with a father’s injury, to remove. this is very sad. it's very tragic indeed. but emotionally it is also closed, like a family and safely. everything is fine. visibility. these can be excellent students, in fact, and now there is a very big trend teenagers, anorexia. well, this is body weight

loss, on the contrary, body weight increase. and it's uh, but if it's in teenagers then uh, that's a question. parents, what happens in the family, when i worked with such families, then with children i start as teenagers. uh, i immediately had a question for my parents. so you said parents should not sin on a child. somehow get away from it. and i, frankly , if my child did something wrong there, i can do it like a mother. sorry and self- reign. maybe not quite right , or vice versa, when i'm in a bad mood. i think it's better. i will not approach you, otherwise i feel now, you will get all my emotions, but it's normal. yes, this is some kind of healthy is unhealthy. and when healthy, when i came, i, well, something happened to me. i am a man, yes, you are talking about any i am a man. well, i feel now that i am angry, yes, and i say so, yes, here i am,

please, i am. well, do not come, i'm in the room, now i'll rest. calm down guys you are my loved ones. you are nothing. uh, well, i need to calm down myself, that is, i need to stay by itself. and here is the importance that i am not angry with you, but i am, well, now in such a state, because i have such events, and i or i will tell you later, but i love you. with a comma uh-huh but let's add. yes, yes, here is your story. uh, she says that your children know that you love them, that's what it is, and there friends are the same , maybe, but you don't feel it there. no, treason, no, it's alcoholism. no, there is no drug addiction and violence. maybe even, well, there are petty soilings, some petty crafts, petty ridicule some interests, but simply no time. here children are magic to the emotional world of a child, and he

feels abandoned, that is, jambs, sneakers you have over god as they say, don't disturb us here, uh, hospitality of coldness. but even then, in fact, from man is eternal. thirst for love. i am human. it's just god's scripture. here god is love, then i, as it were, god there is a need to both enrage and be loved. but if i don't get this as a child, mine. the vessel of love, how hot there is such a famous specialist, it is empty, then i am forever still love, but i don’t even know its taste. where is she who what is any field to taste. and then i constantly get poisoned by some sorogats. i am always hungry and hence the problems, co-dependent or dependent relationships. maybe i was listening to svetlana and agapi's father, and a picture appeared in my head, and such a professional picture, because i work with children and they bring children to me, of course, from prosperous families. well, so-called, yes. when do children

start drawing? and reflect their inner world on paper. it is like an illustration of what happens to them. i'm certainly not a psychologist. i have been working with children for over 15 years for a very long time. and sometimes when i look at some topic, sometimes they can draw just some bunnies or a landscape there. i just see in this in color in the plot such a colossal one. loneliness and i immediately have a question what is happening there, and what is in the painted bunny? maybe even a concern? well, lena said about the color? yes , the color scheme, the bunny, can be generally black. suddenly it suddenly got dirty. yes, you are asking a question here. yes what is it bunny? well, what are you, well, if he says dirty, yes. and what can be developed here,

too, and what got dirty. and what are your feelings ? yes, plus a bunny, maybe. e, like, a bunny, but a monster bunny uh-huh, that is , huge in volume yes, the scale involved in a bunny, what, uh, a bunny, is not a bunny? yeah, but from and here then specialists work, yes , psychologists, where do they start asking. well, how do you feel, but what is it about, well, where is it? where did you feel this way somewhere? you saw, that is, various questions leading, based on the child's answers, find out more questions . where does it come from, he might mention. and this is me there, uh, suddenly insight there is this intersection. and this, it turns out, is there, oh, someone scared me there, yes, this is this cowardly hare. what are you afraid of? and, the bunny can still portray itself. eh, it's me, a bunny,

it turns out, i understood, it's still such a big deep work, a psychologist from therapy is a wonderful option, as a way of helping, the father of agape. and i will add. yes, probably . here is one of the most common topics.

and i somehow intuitively somehow just asked this kid here is about five. draw your family without clues. so i just asked to draw intuitively. here nastya woka drew. i'm showing them. look what is the possibility of money already, how much hidden conflicts you have, in fact, yes, you are hiding in this child. we love you, go for a walk, if you love, then let's play together, if you love to take a walk, and our relationship is likely to swear, most likely a child. here, he cannot express a feeling of emotion, and therefore they turn into psychosomatic diseases and at the same time, here you are yes, to help the child take a goal hmm and messi came people are trying to somehow reconcile me with each other here the doctors are at the roots,

most likely, but your child’s problems. unfortunately, at that time, i didn’t lack just a heroic epicentre at all, and at the same time i didn’t know specialists who could be targeted and therefore help so that i could not fully be able to this family. that's what we regret, then i try, uh, to be friends with psychology, psychotherapists, educators, because, so that when a person became attached, boris became from minsk to send to someone specifically. yes, it's certainly a lot of work. and this topic of relationships and parents is also very important. i don’t know if you know such a great movie actress, judi dench, she achieved a lot in cinema, but, really, the role of the mother, i somehow didn’t succeed at all, and judy found out about her daughter’s pregnancy when she was already on the eighth month, perhaps, she never said anything in an interview, and the relationship with her child, but in one from the early ones, she nevertheless said that she

really was not the best mother, that she had lived all her life and dala in the theater, but grandmother was engaged in raising how family relationships developed in the life of our heroine from a dark room, we will find out very soon. we are talking about co-dependent families today and again, returning to the story from marianne from the dark room. about some, again, i repeat today, awareness of the codependence of the parental family. eh, i felt it. probably when uh died mama i was 12 years old. and i became instead of her. well, that is, such a small adult hostess, given the fact that we lived in a country house. we had

tomato beds. as i remember now, i grew seedlings. it was somewhere, probably a piece of 40 tomatoes. well, it was a lot, yes, and there, from the flask, and, probably, once, uh, i didn’t fire, and they just withered, i remember my such anxiety. good? then my aunt worked there somewhere. i gave him something to pour, the tomatoes lived on, but this is an incommensurable responsibility that i was given, of course. well, there, i don’t know the soup there to heat the stove. yes, there somehow, uh, bring firewood there, well, that is, some generally abnormal things, and then my father also gave me a salary in my hands. well, here i am, and

i have to endure years and i have a salary. and for me, of course, now it's just some kind of shock things. i represent there. well, here it is. i then moved to another city after the ninth grade. to my aunt, but uh, what was the main injury in 3 years? i had time great well, i think, of course, the main one hmm not the question is in relatives, but in relatives it was, but in my father, who, uh, does not take responsibility for himself, the changed situation. he handed it to me, of course, while the responsibility was on him, he preferred to drink. and it's not like it's some kind of drinking, it's also, uh, it's normal to bring someone into your house. and now

i remember such a case when one night i open my eyes, a neighbor sits and looks at me. they've been there for 13 years. i sleep. and here is the opposite face. i've been there for a very long time today. yes, this story is probably scary here the fear that there ever lashes, that is, the safety of the responsibility on was completely completely absent in my life and then there was an adult who had to do it. i didn’t transfer it to my family, of course, not by such a serious algorithm, but i, for example, always bothered me how much to drink. my husband is exactly the same as bothering me. how much will he drink? my father, his father's mood depended on this, and it depended on it there. well, i'm security. yes, this is exactly the kind of

thing. i started to crank and in myself, although my husband was not an alcoholic, for example, some things when my personal control turned on. well, when it was just possible to harass there. where, when, why, why don’t you civilize there, and here it’s just constant tensions. i don't know there, probably everyone can e start e hoot. i don't know, to be more precise. well, the truth is, when they hold you there at gunpoint, this is actually what i did, and there, and the third one for the child , you need to put it like this. it needs to be like this. but it shouldn't be different here if i left, so i ah, leaving the child to her husband, that is, completely ah, did not understand that an adult person can take his responsibility just like i didn’t see an adult person, although my husband is a completely different person. some echoes of your

story, when, as a little girl, you had to become an adult mistress of the family. yes? of course, right now i have some kind of picture right in front of my eyes, i remember that ah, i had to go there almost from the first class with a list to the store and bring some bunch of products that were needed and even make some decisions, what's the change here, what else can i buy home, what the family needs uh-huh, there is already being, there a little girl. i had to take responsibility for the production there. hmm food. eh, look is again responsible for my brother, for whom i am younger and from me it was already asked from me, as from an adult already. although, it's all a small difference was there in 3 years, this is your relationship. they were reflected not only on your

children, but on your husband in yours, too, somehow here the story that i began to control my husband. i thought that i was the main one to tell you how to do it. do you tell your husband what to do? well, now, of course, i behave differently, because i understand where the root of the problem comes from in general. but i uh certainly understand that i also had such control that my husband had to come home from work by a certain time, and i immediately began to worry why he was not there. and where did he stay? and what happened, although in fact, he could just meet some acquaintances there or go to shop. or there to linger in the queue, but this is the mechanism of endless inclusion in another person. yes, he was present in the same way as with the lessons of the children, he constantly had some kind of control that he received. e, is it well prepared, but this is no longer my area of ​​\u200b\u200bresponsibility if this child is no longer a first grader. now my son is already a teenager, and he does it on his own. he

studies not for me, but in order to gain some knowledge and apply it further in life. how great that elena realized everything, changed her structure and her thinking, but there are people who still ca n't take either this step or don't know how to help their loved ones, we have questions. e from the internet, which svetlana will draw for you. i have not been drinking for 8 months, but my wife constantly controls me, calls a hundred times a day, checks bags. i'm not studying, to be honest, i got it. that's how he writes. here again, grab a bottle. how can i explain to her that i changed? well, i'll say i sympathize with him. he has changed, but she still does not understand. she needs this. maybe more time dependent. here these he is not about fears. she is not recovering. well, how much is he recovering there. well, if he, for example, in the community, really, uh, or work there with specialists or in the community of

anonymous alcoholics, for example, and he has already taken the steps, he moves there and realizes uh, here uh. well, you know before that i can i uh it turns out, he is the fastest not an authority. it's all the same for his wife to try to find authoritative people. which may not try to try to convey something. maybe the curator of that group? where does he go? well maybe the group can be specialists, if he was, well, there was a problem with alcohol, but there are narcologists, yes, psychologists working, that is, even in the center of state that uh? well, honey, let's go. come on, because, well, something 's getting bad for me. here i take care of the family, that is, well, us about our relationship. i want us to be fine. he can offer. e. well, how far will it go? i do n’t know, yes, and here, uh, maybe there will be such

an option when a person wants to recover , he will have to leave the family uh-huh well, because it will be a choice or start drinking. indeed, because everything is already gone, but she doesn’t hear e, doesn’t accept her, she lives in her state. it 's really cool there. well, in quotation marks cool kills. i can no longer tolerate my husband's drinking, but leave him. i'm afraid he'll be completely lost without me. what to do? hmm that's about it , uh, you know how to do it. well, what to do? this is right. she can't leave. why because the emotion depends on him, yes, and she, what do i get from the fact that i start to save him? yes, enjoy the fact that without me the world will collapse the world, yes, that's all, i'm a god. yes, if here, probably, the father will add my phrase. yes. here, by the way, this is why i’m just doing it, but in fact there is a violation of the first commandment of the law of

moses. i am your lord god, otherwise i am full of feeder, which i am irreplaceable, which remains in the buffer between god and man. letting god act in the lives of these people and the second commandment, do not die for yourself, and in odessa he just gave a sacrifice to which finances bring health, if relationships with friends friends and much, much more. and therefore , people can even pray a lot to submit notes for health there, come to monasteries there to read some kind of slander there, but there is no trust in god and the second time these commandments are violated very importantly, that is, there is a religious exodus distortion of the spiritual sphere. and here is my task. it's my job to help people figure it out. it is in this that they are deceived into this trap. and the final question, if i worry about the baby all the time.

the child is 4 years old so that luke is not stepped on. the stairs did not fall, did not let go. it's okay. and then my psychologist friend said that i was an anxious mother, well, i agree with my psychologist friend, because this is what i said about how a child learns to walk, yes, give the opportunity to fall. how does he know it's not safe? he will understand only when he hits, well, of course, there are boundaries. yes, there is from the stove or something, but there is when you can give the opportunity or that hot iron, well, you can’t make it hot, but it’s warm there. caution well, that is, with the awareness of an adult positions. and as far as it can safely. and then what? yes, what will happen to you, and here, too, give the child the opportunity to make mistakes, and mom puts everything under the arm. well, every time a child. a child, of course, here it gets into a dependent relationship or dependent on

freedom and gets into dependence, as the mother of one of our repatriates at the center with alcoholism said about the diseases of excessive motherhood. by the way, but sometimes excessive fatherhood. yes, there are dads, exactly the same. they likely, yes, you know, by the way, actor michael douglas surely you know such a the father has never been himself says that he raised his son poorly, perhaps that is why in 2010 his son went to prison for excessive drug use. and uh, other disgrace that he did when his son was in prison. dolgos was even glad about it, at first. he admitted that he was a really bad father. and, secondly, he said that this is an opportunity for him to come to his senses and not die. this is now, of course, the son, how relations developed in the family of our heroine, we will find out very soon. every musical

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test their knowledge and intuition. aleksey hello, is this question difficult for you or not? it is difficult for me, but i do not understand the topic, so i was guided by my instincts along the corridor, folding behind it is the first first will be before the cambrian cambrian folding. yesterday, the rivers were repeated by the yefim, and the candiera just remembered the gum - these are those who are in venice instead of a taxi, you can say, where is the logic and this is the worst guys, because that the correct answer to this question is no, because, it turns out under the beard dim let's do something with the wires of light bulbs. well, that is there so to speak, what we have in the chest. who else managed to guess, but did not have time to get ahead of ksenia but the third round, guys, clever fellow. i didn't doubt it, watch the intellectual entertainment show. i know on our channel. today we are talking about

addiction in the family. whether our heroine of the dark room managed to jump off this hook, we will find out right now the most serious crisis. he was when the second child was born. just started leaving for the night. you see, alcohol is more than normal, and when i didn’t know it, i didn’t see it. and when it had already reached such a climax, when some kind of danger threatened him, but i understood this was a completely different person, and these two stories didn’t fit in with me, what was happening there, but i got them

to psychotherapy, and and for many things that happen in my family, i took responsibility for myself, that is, i appropriated my part to myself. well, this is control control with alcohol. uh, impossibility to understand that a person is an independent adult and has the right to somehow experience all that, well, so some of their own difficulties. how? how does he want, if he sees fit not to put, uh, there family relations of some kind uh? important there some moment of his life is something to force. this doesn't make sense either. and even more so to save, as you really wanted. i actually did it. yes, there is somehow to say to teach that in life there is a friend of friendship something else. well, look how good it is. well, it's kind of persuasive. well, if you don't want it, then you don't need it, you don't need me necessary. yes, i suffer from it. no, it

hurts. but if you don't care so then i'd rather survive this pain than i'll prolong it there, i'll do it. well, i didn’t really like the expression to suffer, it’s easier than deciding to experience pain and end it. here, in fact, probably like this with the help of huge support. i probably did, among other things, the support of people close to me, who did not tell me how i needed and what i needed to do, but simply listened to me. husband or said that this is how he sympathizes and quietly. we then went to family therapy, and these things of sticking in dependent relationships, when i can not be with you, but also without you. i can't be either, but they

began to resolve. well, when i became freer there, yes, react to what, well, he walks. maybe you know that's how it's supposed to be. well, i have nothing. yes, i didn't do anything on purpose. i already understand that i didn’t do anything, i did n’t control it on purpose, i didn’t look. it's just that for me it became some kind of indicator that a person is ill. and i have nothing to do with it. he somehow survives it. yes, and then it became freer outside became calmer. calmer to him, he seemed to have the right to experience his difficulties, as he sees fit and the problem with alcohol, respectively, relations in the family are developing. actually , as disputes developed, some kind of conflicts with some kind of something there, but with everyone so different, yes, and good, and there somehow. if you polarize, yes, it is good and bad

completely different stories. m-m somehow, but for sure. and i can definitely say that it became possible to simply be and live and breathe in them. that is, these are some two adults who are anew. uh, they look at each other in all things. yes, that's the story. such is the completion, such is the path, but you are exactly like specialists and people who have experienced all this for themselves. can you give good advice on how you can jump off this codependency hook in your family? well she said how she applied. well, she obviously reached the bottom when she turned to, uh, a psychotherapist, but if, uh, at least, well, a psychologist to a psychotherapist, but at least start with the fact that, well, again, this is about

what to study this literature about what is it? how? it's about me? yes? a and uh further these self-help groups, and he's in yes, well, he's uh, where can i, well, get support. here, as she says, it was enough for me that they just listened to me and she was gone. they evaluated her , accepted her feelings, and that's what a person lacks, so that even you just speak and get out of this state of loneliness. here is this terrible state of co- dependent and as if she already has a status. god get down that i'm not god uh where to look for help seek help, but further, of course, work. well, some heroine she has a lot of injuries from her story, working with a specialist, i definitely work here, those riddles, probably, it’s important, yes,

to listen. yes, i. let me, e, personally, uh, i'm afraid to give a ready-made recipe for everyone, it 's probably impossible, and each of me still lives life differently, different methods. so i try to refrain from the soviets in absentia. that is, i just need a person who can work live, and not through someone, but in any case. here's another psychologist said great, but from my point of view. i recovery begins with the three most beautiful words in the world please help me, please, when i wake up prepare help to understand that i am not god, i am not perfect and ready to raise help, and then he can, she, of course, somewhere sometime some will be found. elena the father of agapi said

the three most important words, and from you, solely from your own experience, the three most important recipes. how to jump off? i was listening and i immediately came up with such a thought, again to myself, and i am very much in life creativity helped, being a creative person i have been painting and drawing in general since childhood. this is exactly the place where i could redirect all my experiences so that i don’t get involved in another person, namely in creativity and hmm. i think that if a person has some kind of favorite thing, that he likes a hobby, and it can certainly distract in addition to psychotherapy, of course, work on oneself, but distract from these thoughts that dominate a person and draw him into this entire addiction. this is the first tip, two more

important from my own experience. well, i certainly also began to read literature and listen to lectures. i started, and hmm switches more to the body to my body that i am. here is my body, that i am not only my thoughts and inner experiences, that i also have a body. and i feel it, i started doing physical education. i started to walk, and then i started to run and feel that i have the muscles of the leg of the arm, and this is one piece of advice, turning into the last one. and in order to run for a reason, i included lectures on codependency. and when i listened, i thought, well, this, of course, is not about me. this is for my mother to listen, it would be to listen. there was someone else and at some point, when i ran some distance and stopped and realized, stop. lena, it’s all about you, and from that moment my work began, yes, it’s time to turn

to yourself, listen to yourself and start changing something in order to jump off the hook of co-dependency, you don’t need so much, first of all, look away from others to yourself and begin to know your own, not someone else's world. there lurks, so many interesting things with you. katerina was, see you. belarus 24 here every day is filled with interesting events of the country of the world , details from eyewitnesses and direct

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june 1 international children's day in belarus takes 35th place in the happy childhood rating, which includes 137 states, the child population is almost 20% of the total number of belarusians. one in five is brought up in a large family. a lot of attention is paid to prevention, family problems, as a result of the last during the five-year period, the number of boarding schools decreased by 2.5 times institutions were developed that replaced guardian families ; social protection first of all, this is the right of the child to live in his own family, that is, to preserve the family. a family for each

such child, and as i said, the number of deprivations of parental rights for this the same period also decreased significantly by 23%, that is, parents to a greater extent retain their right to raise their children themselves. infant mortality. we have 2.6 x 1,000 live births and there are still indicative he on secret mortality. that is, this is the number of children who died before the month. and here, uh, according to the indicators of the neon mystery of mortality. we, uh, are among the eight most advanced countries in the world. also, our country is one of the few who save 3 years of maternity leave and 11 types of benefits related to the birth and upbringing of children. belarus is ready to increase deliveries to the pskov region of passenger cargo road-building, municipal and agricultural equipment, as well as elevators , the possibility of cooperation was discussed

in a videoconference the day before by deputy prime minister of belarus igor petrishenko and the governor of the russian region in general, the results of the last year are characterized by positive dynamics of trade turnover between belarus and the pskov region increased by 45% from june 1, a number of innovations come into force in belarus so that belarusians will be sent a single notice to pay taxes on real estate and land transport. today is also the last day to pay income tax on the basis of the submitted declaration of income received in the previous year. this applies to those who over the past 5 years have received income from the sale of more than one house, parking lot, garage land, as well as more than one summer cottage or office apartment to pay tax needed by those who received income from abroad based on the results of the calculation of tax returns, almost 25,000 citizens received a notification

for a tax surcharge. the total amount of tax is attached to the additional payment of about 90 million belarusian rubles. payment can be made in various ways, you can repeat it by contacting the bank. you can pay to the post office on your own through erip, including through the internet banking of a mobile bank, that is, remote service methods. in addition, the list of innovations and the unified system records of those vaccinated against coronavirus. starting from june 6, the database will contain information about the personal data of the vaccinated phone number of citizenship and information from the passport, in addition, there will be detailed information about vaccinations thanks to this innovation, it will become easier for belarusians to travel. in belarus, the final exams of the first started instead of feta, eleventh grades were taken, they need to pass tests in four subjects, two written russian or belarusian languages ​​​​to choose from mathematics and two oral histories in belarus, a foreign language for ninth-graders is three mandatory written dictation exams in belarusian and russian.