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. their task is not to succumb to provocations to boldly move forward. we gathered around the table and he straight up stood up and said. well, of course, i don’t support you in this, but i wish you good luck. well, i remember it very well. it is, of course, me and still lives. there may be some resentment. this is how he reacts. and what? and what are you in the forest, what are you doing there, and what, and how, and you walk with an ax, they chose a non-standard occupation for themselves, and therefore they are often in the spotlight, somehow it was scary i think, well, like me will be with men. they won't listen to me. it was just like that, what oh. no those men will not go. what can you tell me? well, that is, uh, it

feels like i'm not doing a pedicure, something else. i used to be very shy in general and go back and forth and communicate with people, but i have to deal with my complexes. actually. well, to make me feel better. well, i believe the most important thing at work at any job. this is to work as a close-knit team, where you can rely on people in a project about those who dared to break stereotypes with themselves, watch on belarus 24 tv channel. everything changes very quickly, time goes by imperceptibly minutes days. we never have enough time to stop and think about those who are waiting for us at this particular moment.

those without whom we will be so lonely on this earth, it's time to say, you know, mom, i miss or listen, dad right now, without putting it off for later, you need to say, i'm here, i'm around. appreciate the time you spend with your loved ones. if you have a constant desire to control and save others, you

are afraid that your child will go astray. although, while he was still in kindergarten, he probably got hooked on codependency, how it manifests itself in the family and where to look for a way out with this, we will try to figure it out today. hello, the problem is somewhere in the depths of me , the bunny, maybe even black. suddenly, unexpectedly got dirty in sports, or how to defend one's strength. i don't know, they were deceived into this trap. i felt like i didn't have any. help give a magic wand. uh-huh and i feel it, i have it myself. today we are talking about codependence in the family and our guest is

svetlana yarumchik, who works with relatives of dependent people and conducts trainings and seminars for them. hello svetlana. please tell me which case under what circumstances people contact you and what happens at your trainings, mostly people who have such a concept. uh, addicts hit rock bottom. yes , they reached the mark. well, they're co-dependents, they don't drink, but emotionally their psychological state is already in such on such a day at such a limit that ah, but they don't understand. yes, what to do and well, of course, this is basically, they somehow find out there through friends and well, and they come with a request, help in this way and how do you help? well they are with a request help give me a magic wand. do it on 1 2 3, a to i have recovered and so that we are still close, if

the dependence of the family exactly where there is dependence , too, somehow. e, i didn’t recover at all, but first with the un recovered. and when i was still working in the psyche of narcology, this is about the fact that when e calls with a woman and says, hello, i will come. eh, i'll bring you the baby. and i say, i don't work with children. she was an adult in the deck. and she says a pause, and my child, uh, 28 years old and a has a pause and yagly, i say what kind of problem do you have with your child. we drink, they do it mom. you drink too. yeah, well, she doesn't. well, and this direct one, even here in how a person says, already the merger is no longer the area of ​​responsibility of my and my adult son, and not a

child. that's in the process, of course training. there they are precisely created, and in that context, rus- first tells about the dependence of different types of dependence on the family, but on the family system. where we all come from, and then about the fact that the psychology of the victim is negative thinking, which is codependently present, but what is helplessness, uh, what is control borders? how to arrange and finish? in general, i have values ​​​​of myself about myself, beloved and unconditional acceptance of myself and my loved ones. well, first of all, should all participants in this system come to your trainings or can only one? and? well, you know uh this system. yes, if the family is also a system yes, a mini-system, and if you take, uh, for example, associations with watch mechanisms. yes, he

couldn’t do much there, if one screw mechanism breaks, respectively, everything is behind him, if everything is repaired is restored here at least if at least one participant has already come, uh, will take the path of realizing that something is wrong with him and begins to act. and from my work experience, i can say that for each system, someone can move more slowly, someone can move faster. but already the movement will go to the whole system. uh, family get well. uh, well, each of the seven systems goes their own way, but it's very cool if everyone goes, uh, they start studying trainings for specialists, yes, uh, with and there, if there are small, small children before the age of 18, that is, this family consultation of this self-help group. that is,

this whole system is involved. but if at least one, then this is a start. we asked the residents of minsk to the guests of the capital, when care turns into dependence, what do the townspeople think we will find out right now, perhaps when this care is not particularly paid attention, that is, i really, really want to give it more, and man does not accept it. and you want to give it even more. you give and you already become obsessed with this care, probably when some kind of mental deviations in people begin. it seems to him that he is actually saving someone, but in fact, he is simply running away from reality from the fact that he will have everything today. yes, they are trying to close some of their needs by caring for another. that is, there in general, as for example, failure in school. he comes and let's take care of at least some progress at home, such as in this place. although they may not

be there, or here parents of their children are there, there they make amends for my stroke moments there, then it turns out when men come in 40 years old. with mom. here she says to the extent, please, there support panties and care greatly affect a person and a person should well , show support to the maximum. i don't think that addiction is really what they say. they said, well, everything is on point. yes, the audience is all about co-dependent relationships in the family. but when in the position of a rescuer, that is, i know what it says about the fact that a person co-dependently begins to do for another what he can do himself, i will tea you i’ll throw sugar, i’ll stir it, how many three spoons i stirred. e. well, excuse me. well, already a child and at 3

years old. well, sugar, maybe it's better to put it? yes and this is the transfer of responsibility of conformity with age, than the older child becomes conformity. transferring more w freedom transferring responsibility, but at the same time acceptance, even if he is wrong, i love you. yes, here i saw this and that, but i love you. doesn't matter. you are for me and this is the department, and help is when it is real, well, a person cannot. well here he fell baby small, he lifted her up, or he needs help. e sorry, he hit the kid. yes, i will regret it. well, yes, it really hurts you, so this is about helping. it's different two poles, where uh? well, very codependent people. they are just somehow twisted to join our company today , the artist elena bogorochenko,

who knows firsthand what codependency in a family is. the subtle nature of the teacher-artist elena bogorochenko played a cruel joke on her when elena gave birth to her first child. she was afraid to even approach him. overcome fear. she plunged headlong into family life and raising a child, but completely forgot about herself, thanks to a long work on herself, elena was able to regain her life. today she is ready to share her story. hello , tell me how did you feel about it. i will say that i am a mother of three children, and in fact i remember myself in the period when my first child was born. was so long-awaited so i was in awe of him that i remember what it was

even some edge of insanity. yes, when my baby was lying in the crib, and he slept well , ate and slept well. and even listened to whether he was alive? and i couldn't eat. i could not calmly just relax when he sleeps. i was constantly on. e into endless care, and thus i exhausted and exhausted myself so much that i no longer had any strength left for anything at all, yes, and er afterwards. here is what was said about the bottom. i felt like i didn't exist anymore. uh-huh so i began to understand that the problem is somewhere in the depth of me is. this is where i started taking care of myself. e, she turned to a psychologist, began working with a psychologist, went through trainings and now seeing herself as the one that was before and

who now it really was such a deep codependence, and it didn’t appear out of the blue. i also come from some kind of family and this is such an addiction that is simply passed on from generation to generation and often people perceive this as the norm, what is this such a deep love? to your children and what is normal? i love my child so much. i care about him so much that i i don’t let him take a step without my care , without my inclusion. damn it, and when it came, the very moment when you realized that oh, in my opinion, this is already a problem. how old was your child or a month old? and by that moment my third child had already been born, but wow, you realized so late. ah, well, awareness does not come. here such simply at once, as illumination. i just felt that it is very difficult for me in the

state in which i am, that i have endless custody of children. and moreover, i i also want to add that being a teacher myself, working with children. especially with the children who come. it's first class there. i also turn on such a mother in relation to these children. and i noticed on myself that i turn on other people's children in the same way in the evening, when i come home already. i understand that i have such strength in general. no, i began to fall into some kind of difficult emotional state, some kind of depressive ones. i just couldn’t understand why what was happening to me, after all? all, all, well. yes , nothing, it was not that mm external factors would throw me off track. it's just inner emotional, this endless self-giving. so i realized that the problem is not

in the world around me, not in the work that i do a lot, but somewhere inside me, that i need to leave something for myself. i want to remind you about a wonderful couple from soviet cinema, but on martyakov vyacheslav tikhonov and they had a son at the age of 40 died, died of an overdose of drugs and alcohol. eh, tekhanov, older, of course, in all his fault, but, well, he said to mordyukov, you didn’t finish watching . you are to blame, she is also to blame i felt like i didn't really do it. all that could be here, perhaps, it's time to think about what kind of parents? we want to become for our children, do not switch. we continue to analyze the topic of co-dependence in the family and invite our next guest, hieromonk, agapiy goluba, who has long been helping dependent people and their relatives, to take part in our conversation. good

afternoon father of agape. tell us how you help. first of all, everything that i help people realize that there is a problem, but for example, if a woman comes, who tries that she doesn't have swans of children to break loose on her husband constantly somewhere. that's what a lot of irritation of anger accumulated from her. uh, and it's noticeable her face is tired, so exhausted and leading questions and help to find out that there is a family, certain problems. often associated with addictions or other dysfunctions and carefully suggest that, perhaps, the state is dependent not because it is so bad. but you simply exhausted yourself, giving yourself to other people without a trace and lost yourself.