9 4 5 it's good that a friend used natalia's services no, her friend is not married. the fact is that she works in a beauty salon and has few clients. one of them advised her. we will check this, so by what phone did you call natalia, do you know? i wrote it down on a piece of paper, but i forgot it at home. it turns out that you went to the house of the qubit for the first time and did not even take her phone number, just in case. yes, i forgot that this does not happen to you.

are you familiar with valery milovoy? of course, you gave her the phone number of natalya poddeznaya a yeah, his client left me the client's last name , remember? you are my entrance yard, i don’t even remember everyone in the face. so how is your aunt doing? i haven't seen for a long time. well , let him recover. thank you. bye.

say that this girl asked you from natalia well, yes, she forgot the apartment number. but can you describe this girl? ah, pretty, young in a black cap. she was very nervous. i left. here all this happened without me. i came only in the evening and found out that there was some kind of horror with natalya. well, on this day you saw someone else, but for now didn't leave. there was a man. but i did not have time to see him in a blue jacket, and it seemed to me that he was descending, just from the third floor. he was in a hurry, and then i met this girl. well, how is the clock? they were simply transferred by

skipping the battle. here is the broken mechanism. you should always explain to customers how to work with the old mechanism. i see. why are you so thoughtful? this woman alone was killed, and i saw her yesterday. they say that a murderer has appeared in the city. they say, well, don't worry about it. why don't you have me worry? am i under warranty? i am always with you and i can start to see you off again if you let me. yes, i am going now. good afternoon i have a question for you. i need to

find out what kind of record this is. and find out what melody on it can help? well, i don't know. the central part is missing. it is difficult to say exactly what is written on it, but you can try to glue it together. you know, we have one master, a unique one needs to be shown to her, let's go and you can find out the melody, let's try lera look. and you? familiar

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waxwing a songbird of the passerine order among the birds familiar to our lands they look after the amur guests flocks of bright noisy waxwings grazing on mountain ash immediately catch your eye attracts attention, their spectacular, beautiful crest and exotic color gray-pink plumage, black wings with stripes of bright yellow and white and red patches on a short tail, yellow edging on the neck. black spot near the eyes, black arrows in general, nature tried to be small, the size of a starling, the waxwing looks moderately elegant, but not black. for such a bright plumage among the people, these birds are called cockerels and parrots, there are other nicknames for waxwings and for

their characteristic tuft they are called khokhliks in england high-winged. these are bright red shiny records, reminiscent of burning wax in america, it is known, bohemian, resurrected for americans several centuries ago, bohemia seemed to be a distant edge of europe to which they flew whistling, and in our country in belarus, the waxwing was given the melodic name ammialushka. it was because of their addiction to mistletoe berries, but as for the main name that this bird was called, its interpretation is associated with singing, a gentle murmuring trill whistled, similar to the sound of a flute. between by the way, in our region this corydalis can only be seen in the cold season, and that’s all, because even the snowy expanses of belarus for waxwings are a conditional south, the main habitat of waxwings is

coniferous mixed birch forests of the northern regions of eurasia and north america in russia they live in the taiga including the forest tundra. it is there that the waxwings nest, and they prefer to spend the winter in places where the climate is milder and there is more food. that’s where friendly flocks of unusual birds appear in belarus in autumn, and with with the advent of spring, they again go north. so for them, belarus is a place exclusively for wintering, our ancestors cannot say that they were happy with the appearance of waxwings. for some reason, it was believed that they carry a plague of great frosts and other misfortunes. in fact, with the onset of cold weather, birds just move around. in search of food in the summer, the diet of waxwings is quite rich in their native places. they feed on berries, fruits of plants , tree buds, insects, but in winter, birds become involuntarily vegetarians. yes, and you have to roam not so much because of the frost

how many because of hunger? waxwings real glutton eat very quickly, swallowing the berries whole and not even chewing, so part of the fruit is excreted from their body undigested word they are considered useful distributors of plant seeds. it is the berries that the male brings to his chosen one as a wedding gift, which is somewhat reminiscent of a bouquet for the candy period for people, however, next year everything will change and the waxwing will find a new partner with whom he will go to the main habitat. there from may to june. the couple will build a nest since this is a responsible business, crested birds will be very careful to see them at this time, it is very rare, for about 2 weeks the female incubates the eggs, the male during this period takes care of the daily bread with the advent of the chicks, food will become common tasks for feathered parents, it will take only 2.5

weeks, their offspring will become practically independent swing, they will go on a par with adult birds. returning to their native lands, they will create their own new families. prelus verstyli is, of course, interesting and unusual. bright noisy birds are perceived as an unexpected gift that not only surprises, but also gives a good mood. what destinations are now open for us and under what conditions where you can fly to today

, the still open direction of turkey and the direction of egypt, that is, for two years, our tourists traveled to these destinations and today they can travel and indeed there are already some indulgences, when there are no longer such strict rules for arrivals in a particular country, so there is still a direction that with a transfer also through turkey, we can talk about sri lanka near the united arab emirates and many other destinations. today we are working on and reorienting ourselves to such countries, which, for example, near water, abroad, we are talking about the russian federation, the cis countries, this is georgia armenia, because we have always been of particular interest to our tourists from belarus, and today we are also working and with uzbekistan and kazakhstan, and i think that

for our people these countries are not yet completely open, it’s not too late, and therefore, but for our tourists have the opportunity. uh, in general, this season to visit and see the sights of the culture of these countries. but there is something to offer to belarusians who do not want to leave our country, and indeed such a percentage of belarusians, and today it is large and if we are talking in comparison, for example, with 2019, then in the twenty-first year, domestic tourism increased seven times and those are some serious numbers. and uh, if we are talking about the republic, then there really is something to see and many belarusians over the past 2 year of the pandemic. belarus discovers them for itself from a new side, but because in each region there is something interesting and different from another region, and over the past 2 years, a certain trend has emerged.

e, which, for example, was of great interest and demand. foreign guests often come to us. a if compared with the period before the pandemic, of course not, but nonetheless. we are celebrating today. uh, the process of increasing the number. especially since the opening of the border with the russian federation, i am now talking about the land border, and therefore what uh, w. in general, mostly people in the pandemic period. eh, they preferred to rest, but they are few in number. yes, this is individual tourism. this is tourism by private car, therefore, when opening land transport, and booking processes. we already see today. hmm , not only the borders with the russian federation are open long in advance, but also the visa-free zones. and this is cropping the region, the grodno region and according to statistics. we note that the countries, uh, the neighbors really come to us and it should be noted that it is also open

and without visas through the zone of the airport of the city of minsk if you have a constant desire to control and save others, you are afraid that your child will go astray. although, while he is still in kindergarten, you probably got hooked on codependency, how it manifests itself in the family and where to look for a way out with this, we will try to figure it out today. hello, the problem is somewhere in the

depths of me, the bunny, maybe even black. suddenly, unexpectedly, got dirty in sports, or how to protect yourself from this evil spirit. i don't know, they deceived fell into this trap. i am i felt like i didn't exist anymore. help give a magic wand. i have another body. and i feel it, i have it myself. today we are talking about codependence in the family and our guest is svetlana yarumchik, who works with relatives of dependent people and conducts trainings and seminars for them. hello svetlana. please tell us in what case under what circumstances people contact you and what happens at your trainings, mostly

people who have such a concept. uh, addicts hit rock bottom. yes, they hit the bottom as? well, they are co-dependents, they don't drink, but emotionally their psychological state is already in such a day at such a limit that, well, they don't understand. yes, what to do and, well, of course, hmm, it's mostly they somehow find out there through acquaintances. and they come with a request, help so and how do you help? well they are with a request help give me a magic wand. do it on 1 2 3, and so that i recover and so that my loved one is still dependent, if the family is dependent exactly where there is an addiction, too, somehow. uh, i didn’t recover at all, but at first he recovered even when i was still working in psychiatry. this is about the fact that when

e calls with a woman, he says, hello, i 'll come. eh, i'll bring you the baby. and i say, i don't work with children. he was an adult narcologist, and she has a pause, and my child, uh, 28 years old, and i have a pause, and i say, i say, what is your problem? yes, your child. we drink, they do it to mom. you drink too. yeah. well, she doesn't. well, and this is direct, even here in how a person says, already the merger is no longer the area of ​​responsibility of my and my adult son, and not child. that's in the process, of course training. there they are precisely created, and in that context, rus- first tells about the dependence of different types of dependence on the family, but on the family system. where do we all come from, and further on

that the psychology of the victim is negative thinking, which is codependently present, but what is helplessness, uh, what is border control? how to arrange and finish? in general, he values, i have about myself , and of course we accept ourselves and our loved ones. well, first of all, should you your trainings come to all participants of this system or maybe? someone alone, well, you know this system. yes, if the family is also a system yes, a mini-system, and if you take, uh, for example, associations with watch mechanisms. yes, it’s complex, there are a lot of non-isms, if one screw, uh, the mechanism breaks, accordingly, everything is after itself, if it is repaired, everything is restored, and here at least if at least one participant has already come, uh, will take the

path of realizing what is happening to him - that's not what starts to work. and from my practice of work i can say that everyone can some systems move more slowly, some move faster. well, the movement will go to the whole system. uh, the family is in recovery. e. well, each of the seven systems goes their own way, but it's very cool. if everyone goes, uh, they will start studying trainings for specialists, yes, uh, with and there, if there are small, small children under 18 years old, then there is this family consultation of this self-help group. that is, this whole system is involved. but if at least one, then this is a start. we asked the residents of minsk and guests the capital, when care turns into dependence, what do the citizens think we will find out right

now, perhaps when this concern is not particularly paid attention, that is, there is a lot of it. you want to give it more, but the person does not accept it. and you want to give it even more, you give it, and you already become obsessed with this care, probably, somehow some mental deviations begin. it seems to him that he is actually saving someone, but in fact he is simply from reality from the fact that he loves seven today. yeah they try to take care of the other meet some of your needs. that is, there is still, for example, failures at school. he comes and let's take care of everyone at home, at least some success, such as having it. although they may not be there, or here parents of their children are there, there they make amends for my stroke moments there, then it turns out when he comes, uh, a man of 40 years old with his mother. here, and she says to the extent, please, there panties and care greatly affects a person and

a person should well, show support to the maximum of his care. i think addiction this is really what is being said. they said, well, everything is on point. yes, the audience is all about the dependent relationship in the family. and here, when in the position of rescuers that is, i know what it says about the fact that a person is codependent. he starts to do for another what he can do himself, i’ll throw sugar in your tea, stir it, how many three spoons i stirred. e. well, excuse me. well, already a child and at 3 years old. well, say sugar, maybe it's better to put it? yes and this transfer of responsibility in accordance with age. the older child becomes the corresponding transmission. uh, more freedom transfer of responsibility, but at the same time

acceptance, even if he is wrong, i love you. yes, here i saw this and that, but i love you. doesn't matter. you are for me and this is the department, and help is when it is real, well, a person cannot. well, he fell a small child, he lifted him up, or he needs help. e sorry, he hit the kid. yes, i'm sorry for that. yes, it really hurts you. that's about help it's different two poles, where uh? well, very codependent people. they're right here somehow everything is twisted today to join our company , the artist elena bogorochenko, who knows firsthand what codependency in a family is. the subtle nature of the teacher-artist elena bogorochenko played a cruel joke on her when elena gave birth to her first child. she was afraid to even approach him

busting fear. she plunged headlong into family life and raising a child, but completely forgot about herself, thanks to a long work on herself, elena was able to regain her life. today. she is ready to share her story hello elena. tell me how you felt about it. i will say that i am a mother of three children, and in fact i remember myself in the period when my first child was born. was so long-awaited, i was so anxious about it that i remember that it was even some kind of insanity. yes, when my baby was lying in the crib, and he slept well , ate and slept well. and even listened to whether he was alive? and i couldn't eat. i could not calmly just relax when he

sleeps. i was constantly on. e to endless care, and thus i exhausted and exhausted myself so much that i no longer had any strength left for anything at all, yes, and er later. here is what was said about the bottom. i felt like i didn't exist anymore. uh-huh so i began to understand that the problem is somewhere in the depths of me. this is where i started taking care of myself. e, i turned to a psychologist, i started working with a psychologist, i went through trainings and now seeing myself as the one that was before and which now it really was such a deep codependence, and it’s not appeared out of the blue. i also come from some kind of family and this is such an addiction that is simply passed on from generation to generation and often people perceive this

as the norm, what is this such a deep love? to your children and what is normal? i love my child so much. i care about him so much that i do not let him take a step without my care without my involvement. damn it, and when it came, the very moment when you realized that oh, in my opinion, this is already a problem. how old was your child or a month old? and i have to at this point, the third child was already born, but wow, you realized so late. well , the conscious one does not come with me. here such simply at once insight. i just felt that it is very difficult for me in the state in which i am, that i have endless guardianship over children. moreover , i want to add that being a teacher myself, working with children. especially with the children who come. it's first class there. i also turn on such a mother in

relation to these children. and i noticed on myself that i turn on other people's children in the same way and in the evening, coming home already. i understand that i have such strength in general. no, i began to fall into some kind of difficult state. emotional some such depressive. i just couldn’t understand why what was happening to me, after all? all, all, well. yes , nothing, it was not that, mm external factors would unsettle me. it's just inner emotional, this endless self-giving. so i realized that the problem is not in the world around me, not in the work that i do a lot, but somewhere inside me, what i need keep something for yourself. i want to remind you about a wonderful couple from soviet cinema but on mordyukov vyacheslav

tikhonov and they had a son and died at the age of 40 , died of an overdose of drugs and alcohol. eh, those, she is older, of course, he blamed nona mordyukov for everything, he said, you did not finish watching . you yourself are to blame, she herself felt that she really did not. all that could be here, perhaps, it's time to think about what kind of parents? we want to become for our children, do not switch. they draw inspiration from their loved ones places. well, chicks are quiet. no, the fuss of their life story is simple and at the same time bewitching, i didn’t eat fish,

until i got married and even married the former 18 liter of it, i ate it, but we all cooked we all prepared a plot for two years in such a picturesque place on the river bank. here is my russian bath. i love the bath. well, for the guests for the guests, too, a bath. and this generous earth attracts everyone. we now have a lot of young people, many children, and in the summer all the grandchildren gather here and come to the village sings with childish hair about how modern politicians live, see the project of the same name on belarus 24 tv channel. brain training is considered successful if you used not only knowledge, but also, oddly enough, intuition, as far as i remember

mistakes here. no, that is, under the beard. and we have an assumption rams, rams to our ram we will return. yes? what acid is contained in kefir 1 2 3, i need an answer, my friends. well, how is it? that's fun. or, as they say, they managed to figure out a blow with scissors, what they ask and how they answer. i figured it out, but i'm not sure it's the right answer. how many points will a team score in basketball if its player makes a free throw, test your erudition together with the heroes of our intellectual projects on belarus 24 tv channel. we continue to analyze the topic of codependency in the family and invite

another guest, hieromonk, agapiy goluba, to take part in our conversation, which has long helped dependent people and their relatives. good afternoon father of agape. tell me what your help shows up. uh, first of all, i'm helping people realize there's a problem. uh, for example, if a woman comes who is trying, that she does not have the love of children, break loose on her husband all the time somewhere. that's what a lot of annoyance is anger. accumulated in it. eh, and it's noticeable your face is tired like that, exhausted and leading questions and help to find out that there are certain problems in the family. often related to addictions or other dysfunctions. i am careful to suggest that perhaps

condition depends not because in such bad. but you simply exhausted yourself, giving yourself to other people without a trace and losing yourself, that you have become, like a discharged battery. here's a laptop for example, here you just don't have resource love, because you didn't fuel it. and when a person realizes this and accepts, then it is possible to help in fertilizing the spiritual relationship. i will normalize with god, let's say, and send it to specialists. i'm still not a psychologist, but one psychologists psychotherapists. usually, either groups are needed by the most assistant, such as alan or adult children's alcoholics, that is in any case at first it is such a time in the sincere yes to share your problem with a person who is ready to listen to you in particular with you. and then you have a kind word and the right advice. direct somewhere like this, yes, they feel that i have some kind of mental problems. here are the sins of the sins of fire anger, there is too much irritation with people who should love,

sort of, like the whole family. actually. i hate myself. and once upon a time, how sins are obeyed and explained that it’s not just a sin, it’s rather perhaps you have some roots of this reason and start to disassemble then often here we are uh. then we stay after the service. i have a separate office for receiving people. we, i spend such consultations there sometimes work as word of mouth. people come not even to confession, but directly to meet me, and then we have such lively conversations. so you said that the main thing is to identify the reasons, and what are the most common reasons for such codependence in the family? eh, there are different ones, but as one of the rays grigory said grigorievich bazhenka, we all come from childhood, or rather from adam and eve, the first dysfunction was born there, when there is a feeling of guilt , disunity, uh, that's it, it distorted

relationships, and then under the growing, as they say, there are probably no healthy childbirth absolutely happy 100%. yeah, there are families that somehow work on themselves, probably, somewhere they develop spiritually and mentally, but there are those who go down. that's my job, just here to help. here, uh, here come out of the dive. let's say. so, maybe a little. so i climb back up. i suggest that right now we look into the dark room and hear the story of marianne how she got hooked on this codependency. if the addiction began before i was born from some parental family of my father. well, according to my fantasies, to a lesser extent, my mother. during

grandpa and grandma's wedding, grandpa cheated on grandma that very evening. well, for me it's like some kind. well, it's true, a little bit unhealthy healthy start. family life and relationships in general. although, in principle, then was post-war. and, probably, it was somehow there, maybe more the norm, but today, thank god, this is no longer the norm for me for my parental family, and i feel the peak of my consciousness today that i realized what it is, well , something is wrong . even, probably, not when my parents had scandals, when they got divorced, i was somewhere um 9. e weighs, probably, yes, somewhere like that a and grandmother lived next to us. mom left with me, my sister was already older , and my father went with me to my grandmother.

he came, there his grandmother poured something on him from the window so that he would leave. well, in general, everything was not very healthy. and once i got my father out of the noose. that is, just like that, i accidentally walked there from school. he used to come home from work, and i just found him. a noose around the neck and then, as if hmm, for me, that's just some kind. what a breath, quivering emptiness. if today some adult language translate some feeling. the explosion of the world, that is, like this. probably from that moment on, for me it just became not the norm, that is, the feeling that even, probably, i was not in the family . well, that is, some kind of my presence has already become impossible. that's how i

suspect today severe trauma. i had to go into rescue. and many things there, yes hmm well, for example, there, i don’t know to control where he is yes and come to tell my mother, yes, what is he doing there? that the word is there, but for myself, of course, i still remember what constantly caught his mood. yes, what is his level of aggression, the level of intoxication. or is he just talking, although hmm on an adult head today, i have very warm feelings for my father, but at that moment, and my own kind of childish head. yes, it was some kind of family rescue. well, and, accordingly, the father was that bad person who destroyed the family, or what? they also talked about alcohol, apparently,

which is also present in this family. here's an interesting codependency. it occurs more often in families where there is alcohol and drugs, or it is absolutely not an indicator. eh, it's not suggestive. actually, just certainly our community it is seen it is, yes, it is bad alcohol addiction. well, such obvious visible ones, yes, dependencies, where in the family and they already say it there, right? something in the family is bad, but it is also hidden e where there is violence physical sexual happens when relatives of violence. oh, and the most one of the hidden invisible psychological emotional abuse. when parents or well , as we said, or aggressively shout at the child, swear, criticize, or vice versa, they coldly leave contact with the child and this is psychological violence. and this is what causes it.

uh, that hidden codependency. well, that’s what passes into adulthood, then e is transferred like this. yes, the hero said that she realized this devastation at what age of her childhood, when she was faced with a situation with a tramp dad to take off. this is very sad. it's very tragic indeed. but emotionally it is also closed. the family seems to be doing well. all is well. visibility. these can be excellent students, in fact, but now there is no such big trend for anorexic teenagers. i, well it's body weight loss or conversely, body weight increases. and this is, uh, but if it’s for teenagers, then uh, this is a question for parents, what happens in the family, when i

worked with such families, then i start with children as teenagers, and immediately there was a question for parents. so you said parents should not, but address the child, there somehow move away from him. and i, frankly, if my child did something wrong there, i can do it like a mother. sorry and mount. maybe not quite right, or vice versa, when i'm in a bad mood. i think it's better. i will not approach you, otherwise now i feel you will get all my emotions. well, that's okay. yes, this is some kind of healthy, there is a non-storing one. and when healthy, when i came, i, well, something happened to me. i am a man, yes, you are talking about every person i am, but now i feel that i am angry, yes, something is there, yes, and i say, so here i am. i just don’t come close, i’ll rest in the room right now. calm down guys you are my loved ones. you are nothing. uh, well, i need to calm down myself, that is, i need to be myself. and here is the importance that i am

not angry with you, but i am, well, now in this condition, because i have such such events, and i or i will tell you later, uh, but i love you with a comma. uh-huh, but let's add. yes, yes, yes, here is your story. uh, she's talking about what your kids know to love. that's the thing, and there friends are the same , maybe, but it's not felt there. no, cheating is not alcoholism. and no, there is no drug addiction and violence. maybe even, but there are small soils. squirrels are some kind of crafts, petty ridicule of some interests, but there is simply no time. here, if the magic of the emotional world. he feels abandoned, that is, kostya sneakers you have a laptop, as they say, don't bother us here, uh indifference coldness. eh, here and then, in fact, from a person there is an eternal thirst for a swan, because a man is a brass. god's

scripture says i am and about this god is love, then i, as it were, for god there is a need to enrage and be loved. but if in childhood i don’t get my vessel of love, like a hot ampere such a well-known specialist he post, then i am forever still love, but i don’t even know his bite. where is she who what is any field on taste and therefore i am constantly poisoned by some surrogates. i am always hungry and hence the problems, co-dependent or dependent relationships. so i listened to svetlana and agapia's father, and a picture appeared in my head, and such a professional picture is so, because i work with children and unconditionally brings children from prosperous families to me. so called, right? when do children start drawing? and reflect their inner world on paper. it's like an illustration of what happens to them. i'm certainly not a psychologist. i just have been working with children over 15 for a very long time.

years old. and sometimes when i look at some topic, sometimes they can draw just some bunnies or a landscape there. i just see in this in color in the plot such a colossal one. loneliness and i immediately have a question what is happening there, and what is in the painted bunny? maybe even a concern? well, lena said about the color? yes , the color scheme, the bunny is already, maybe even black. suddenly it suddenly got dirty. yes, you are asking a question here. yes what is a bunny? no what are you, well, if he says dirty, yes. what can be developed here? too, and what got dirty. and what are your feelings ? yes, plus a bunny, maybe. e, like, a bunny, but a monster bunny uh-huh, that is, in terms of volume, huge yes, the scale involved in a bunny, what kind of a bunny? not a bunny? uh-huh and

here then specialists work, yes , psychologists, where do they start asking. well, you kind of feel it. and what is this about? well, where is it? where did you feel like this somewhere? you saw, that is, different questions, leading, based on the answers of the child, more questions, finding out hmm where is it from, maybe he will mention. and this is me there, uh, suddenly insights, there is this intersection. and this, it turns out, is there, oh, someone scared me there, yes, this is this cowardly, bunny. what are you afraid of? and, the bunny can still portray itself. eh, it's me, a bunny, it turns out, i understood, it's still such a big deep work , exactly the situation, and therapy is a wonderful option, as a way to help, father apel. and i will add. yes, probably, here, uh, one of the frequent topics. only he is drawn to the monastery. it

spoils the eye. believe from the eyes of education. there may even be two formations. here they spoiled us, they climbed, and how to protect themselves from this evil spirit and they start there all the daughter-in-law, near the mother-in-law, or how he is at work or someone else is blamed. well, i remember a few examples when i was still younger, but already worked in this area of ​​addictions, but a family arrived in which the child was often sick, but the doctors could not find anything without opening. well, our eyes are to blame, of course , that's what to do and just hit, just right on me, uh. yes, the family was not religious at all, uh, but other than that i ask no one drinks. i do n't even smoke, but they say. here is the mat mine swears. well, everything is fine, and i somehow intuitively somehow just asked this child about five. draw your family without

clues. so i just asked to draw, so i drew on these. i'm showing them look how i called nothing. but how much you have some kind of conflict we actually have, yes, this child is hiding. we love you, go for a walk, if you love a person, let's play together, if you have a walk relationship. and ours will swear, most likely, and child. here he could not express the feelings of the fathers, and so they turn to psychosomatic diseases and at the same time. here you even, in order to help a child, they took a rumble from work. uh-huh and the place these children arrived with their illness. families are trying to somehow try on each other. that's the root cause, most likely, uh, your child's problems , unfortunately at that time. i didn't generally lack just heroic competence. and at the same time, i did not know specialists who

could be targeted and, therefore, wash that i could not fully understand this family, as if we regret it, then i try, uh, to be friends with psychological psychotherapists and teachers, because when a person becomes attached to minsk, in practice to someone specifically. yes, it's certainly a lot of work. and this topic of relationships and parents is also very important. i don’t know if you know such a great film actress, judy denche, she achieved a lot in cinematography, but it’s true that the role of the mother, i somehow didn’t succeed at all, and judy found out about her daughter’s pregnancy, when ta was already in her eighth month, perhaps she never said anything in an interview, but her relationship with her child, but in one of the early ones she nevertheless said that he was really not the best mother, that she had lived all her life and spent in the theater, but grandmother was engaged in upbringing how family relationships developed in the life of our heroine from a dark room, we will find out very soon. we

will tell you about the unique miraculous icons, therefore, turning to the minsk miraculous icon with a prayer. holy virgin, believers try to arrange their lives. according to the commandments of god and mother. god answers our prayers. let's get acquainted with the history, the greatest shrines of belarus, it survives by how the church lives with the power of god, the power of christ, and indeed during the great patriotic war. the temple was open. e for prayer for worship. divine liturgy began to be celebrated in it even after the war. temple gradually began to restore let's talk about the power of the faith for

which there are no territorial boundaries and language barriers of god if we want to know jesus christ, we must read his word and live by this word. most importantly, we will help. to find answers to various questions of the spiritual life that the human race needs now, of course, first of all, it looks inside oneself by a miracle, it probably consists of when a person begins to change, watch spiritually, educational projects on belarus tv channel 24 meters of belarusian music, never did not boast of his talent, but in the depths of his soul. he knew what he was worth. yes, i'll still have papers. i'm not a professor for you, that's all. and what do you think, as a result, he spat and left the conservatory with amazing facts, from their life

and work after himself he left such a biological background. i came to work in the ensemble. and i realized that everything is in order there, because oleg molchin is present there, these songs that the world should know should know , and these are the songs that glorify our belarusian song culture, watch the belarusian composers project on our tv channel. we speak today and return again to stories from marianne from the dark room about some. again, i repeat today the awareness of the codependency of the parental

family. i felt. probably then when my mother died i was 12 years old. and i became instead of her. well, then there is such a small adult host that there is what we lived in a country house. we had rags, they have tomatoes. as i remember now, i grew seedlings. it was somewhere, probably about 40 tomatoes, no, there were a lot. yes, and there are sverdyshki and up once, uh, she left. well, i didn’t burn them and they just withered. i remember mine anxiety okay? then my aunt worked there somewhere. i gave him to me, and something to climb tomatoes from lived, but this is an

incommensurable responsibility, uh, which was handed to me, of course. well, there, i don’t know, cook soup there, heat the stove there. yes, there somehow e bring firewood there, well, that is, some generally abnormal things, and then also my father gave me a salary in my hands. well, i have such a salary, and for me, of course, now it's just some shock things. i represent there. so well, like this, yes, i then moved to after the ninth grade in another koethe city, but uh, what is the main injury rate in 3 years? i managed to get a good one. e. well, i think, of course, the most important thing is not the question. in relatives. wow in relatives was, but in my father, who, uh,

does not take responsibility for the changed situation, he handed it over. to me, of course , at that time the responsibility was on him, he preferred to drink. and it's not like it's some kind of drinking, it's also, uh, it's normal to bring someone to your house. and now i remember, here is such a case when i one night i open it, my neighbor is looking at me. they've been there for 13 years. i sleep. and here is the opposite face. i've been there for a very long time. uh-huh like today, yes, this situation is probably that terrible fear that could ever be dreamed of there, that is, security responsibility was completely completely absent in my life and here is an adult who had to do it. well, it was transferred to my family, of

course, not by such a serious algorithm, but i, for example, always worried me how much drink up? my husband is exactly the same as bothering me. how much will drink. my father , his father's mood depended on this, and it depended on it there. well, i'm security. yes, this is exactly the kind of thing. i began to crank in myself, although my husband was not an alcoholic, for example, some things when my personal control turned on. well, when it was just possible to harass there. where is that, when is there why why don’t you do it there, and this one is just constant stressful. i don't know there, i guess everyone can uh start hoot. i don't know, to be more precise. well, the truth is, when they hold you there at gunpoint, this is actually what i did, and there, and the third one for the child, you need to put it like this. it

needs to be like this. but here it shouldn’t be different, if i left, then i, uh, leaving the child to my husband, that is, completely ah, i didn’t understand that an adult can take responsibility just like i didn’t see an adult person. although there my husband is a completely different person. some echoes of your story, when, as a little girl, you had to become an adult family hostess. yes? of course, i’m right here right in front of me with some kind of picture to drink with my eyes , i remember that ah, i had to go there almost from the first class with a list to the store and bring some bunch of products that were needed and even take some deciding what to change here, what else i can buy home, what the family needs yeah, there is already being, there a little girl. i

had to take responsibility for the production of food there. e look again responsible for the brother, for who is younger than me and from me it was also asked from me, as from an adult already. although, it's all a small difference was there in 3 years , this is your relationship. they affected not only your children, but we, your husband, also somehow have a story here that i began to control my husband. i thought that i was the main one to tell you how to do it. do you tell your husband what to do? well, now, of course, i behave differently, because i understand where the root of the problem comes from in general. but i certainly understand that i also had one control that her husband should come home from work by a certain time, and i immediately began to worry why he was not. and where did he stay? what happened, although in fact , he could just meet there in some acquaintances or go to the store. or there to linger in the queue, but this is the mechanism of endless inclusion in another person.

yes, he was present in the same way as with the lessons of the children, he constantly had some kind of control, what did he get? is it well prepared, but this is no longer my area of ​​​​responsibility, if this child is no longer a first grader. now my son is already a teenager, and he does it on his own. he studies not for me, but in order to gain some knowledge and apply it further in life. it's great that elena realized everything, changed her structure and her thinking, but there are people who still can not take either this step or do not know how to help their loved ones, we have questions. e from the internet, which svetlana will draw for you. i have not been drinking for 8 months, but my wife constantly controls me and calls a hundred times during the day he checks his bags, he sniffs, to be honest, that's enough. that's how he writes. here again, grab a bottle. how can i explain to her that i have changed? well, i'll say i

sympathize with him. he has changed, but she still does not understand. she needs this. maybe more time dependent. here he is not about fears. she is not recovering. well, how much is he recovering there. well, if he, for example, is in the community, really, uh, or there is work with specialists or in the community of anonymous alcoholics, for example, and he has already gone through the steps, he moves there and realizes uh, here uh. well, you know before that i can i uh it turns out, he is the fastest not an authority. it's all the same for his wife to try to find authoritative people. which may not try to try to convey something. maybe the curator of that group? where does he go? well, maybe the group can be specialists, if he was, well , there was a problem with alcohol, but there are narcologists, yes, psychologists working, that is, even in the center of state, eh? well,

honey, let's go. come on, because, well, something's getting bad for me. here i am i care about my family, that is, we care about our relationships. i want us to be all right. he can offer. e. well, how far will it go? i don't know, yes, and here, uh, maybe there will be an option when a person wants to recover, he will have to leave the family. uh-huh. well , because he will have a choice. or start drinking. indeed, because there is no diuretic anymore, and she doesn’t hear e, she doesn’t accept her, she lives in her state. it's really cool there. well, in quotation marks cool kills. i can not do it anymore endure her husband's drinking, but leave him. i'm afraid he'll be completely lost without me. what to do? well, it's about, uh, you know how to do it. what should i do? this is right. she ca n't leave. why because the emotion

depends on him, yes, and she, what do i get from the fact that i start to save him? yes, the pleasure of the fact that without me the world would collapse. yes, i am god. yes, if that's probably my father's phrase. yes. by the way, this is why these people are just doing, but in fact there is a violation of the first commandment of the law of moses i am the lord god yours, and that is full on the semid feeder, which i am irreplaceable, which remains in the buffer between god and man. letting god act in the lives of these people and the second commandment, not dissolving his idol, and in odessa he just gave a sacrifice to which health brings finance, if relationships with friends are girlfriends and much, much more. i and therefore people can even pray a lot to submit notes there to get healthier, there. come to the monasteries there to read some kind of akathists there.