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beginning of the 20th century, the greatest russian sex therapist, he brought out several criteria for a successful and happy family. one of these criteria is a joint secret for both spouses. well, this is if both have, but when there is a secret, someone has one. this most likely leads, just the same, to the collapse of the family and the destruction of relationships, and one of these secrets. we will try to reveal in this series. andrey metelsky is a professional psychotherapist and nlp master who knows how to uncover the secret and restore trust. the time of the mystery lies like a heavy concrete slab on the one who carries it, the whole family suffers from this. and today we will get acquainted with one of such carriers of the secret. hello andrei, my husband

's name is konstantin and i have a small problem. we need help, because lately, uh, kostya has become, and coming home from work, very strange, tired. there has been such tension in our relationship, uh. you practically don't talk to him and me it seems like he is hiding something. i would really like to know that u help us please. well olga good afternoon. i saw your video message, i was quite interested. yes, tell a little more in detail what is happening with you. what's going on here i have to introduce myself, huh? once again, my name is olya. my husband's name is konstantin, and what's going on with us, uh, we've had quite such a lot of tension lately. what i don't like the most is that we don't talk. and this makes it very hard for me. i think he is something hides. he has some kind of secret, and i

'm afraid to even assume. which hair on the jacket was already looking for someone else's perfume, i think it's scary to think about it, but i would like to know what is still happening and i need help. and who does your husband work, and my husband works at the academy of sciences. he is a doctor of physical and mathematical sciences, and then you said that the janitor, i thought he works as a janitor, that is, a doctor, yes, but a professor or not? interestingly, not yet, that is, he does not teach. we are waiting for a raise. doctors, in my opinion, are obligated, as far as i know the concepts even so, that is, betrayal, most likely, maybe some other reasons are

related to work, sometimes, not at all, usually returns at 5 o'clock. he's already at home. i mean, i know he's coming home. i am preparing to eat. and we sit down to eat together. and then there is something wrong at all, and he ignores me, but it never happened. we've been together for almost 20 years. and we lived happily enough. i wish it continued like this, there's always a mystery. great, i love solving mysteries, you are ready to hear the truth. i'm ready because i i'm very tired, and i spend so much energy on it, and i really like it all. well, yes, this is understandable. well, if so it seems unpleasant, let the truth turn out to be unpleasant well. okay, i'll take this case. and i will need to install a camera in your apartment. then for now, i'll watch you for a while

. now, when the cameras are filming, you won't know, that is, not all the time, all right, just carry on as usual. and for some time we will meet quite often. will go. thank you for now what. olga wants to find out her husband's secret in order to restore relations. andrey metelsky will try to help not only olga, but also konstantin, who, according to his wife, is now on. the same unbearable burden. the cameras are set and the acting figures are brought to the stage. but no, olga's husband has not yet returned from work, olga's words are clearly confirmed.

hello hello i guess i won't go. i 'll sleep honestly, i'm tired at all kapets. what happened? no, everything is fine, just tired, honestly. well, how to talk to him, and this has been going on for several months. i think, maybe he has some problems at work, but i could tell my wife, it seems to me, well, it's very hard now with him, of course, to me. bone, i hope you will have breakfast with me?

where is closer? where are you in such a hurry? talk. i ran the fat.

but i communicate at work, i need to work, and in the breaks to discuss, who scored what to whom, for now, let's run. well, that's how kostya left. now sit again and wait until the evening for him to hear his displeasure again, but the blessing will come today and you are our family friend, they work together with kostya at the academy of sciences. and by the way, ivan he has already risen to the rank of head of the department. by the way, i had such an idea, maybe he will help our kostya move a little up the career ladder. so we are waiting. the situation is tense konstantin really behaves coldly towards olga but what is the reason for such behavior. andrey metelsky will soon come to them to reveal the problem, but for now a family friend has come to visit. ivan came alone without konstantin with

milk i remember, thank you, i am very happy about this, so that you do without me no, what are you and kostya did you do it without me? it's true, you can relax and have fun. you know how to look after, before meeting with kostya, ivan and i had sympathy. but the couple we didn’t work out somehow. well, it didn’t work out. and now vanya is our good family friend. come on in. oh, so, i see, nothing has changed with you. so what did you want to change, do you come to visit us every day? yes, with your castan

, quick changes, do not wait. oh look, apples. i like it very much. thank you very much with pleasure. you are a very good host. thanks a lot. kostya is not there. i thought you'd come together, he's gone. he left home 2 hours before me. and today we are lucky, he works less. so now you know for a second, he still doesn’t like to stay at work at all. i leave earlier. yes, do not be upset that you are so upset. do you think he's the one out of me? relax, he doesn't have the money for that? although recently i lent him well, well, no need no need to

hug me. well great, the situation is heating up, but it's not going in the direction that i would i wanted to tweak it a bit . hello, i'm not alone here. uh-huh, please come in. as i understand it, konstantin should come soon, right? uh-huh, let's get it over here. the cameras are interesting,

good evening, i'm andrey metelsky. who are you, my family psychotherapist olga invited me to sort out your family situation. so i don't wait. i did not understand what problem you can walk. i don't understand, you have a certain situation, a certain problem. she turned to me, this is some kind of nonsense. not just to me in our transfer the third extra pepper something is not not not necessary. i don't understand, we don't have any problems. you don't want to make contact. well, i don't want to at all i have no problems. i don't understand the situation. okay, you have no problem. it means you are getting divorced. wait. what do you mean we're getting divorced, nobody gets divorced. i don't have any problems, you don't have any. but the way she contacted me. olga, i can assume that you are already losing your wife in practice, that is, she

turned to you. yes, for help, well, you are ready, no, she is for you, no, i love her. that's all i wanted to say well. well, love implies the same, not just words. no, of course, some actions, therefore, since she turned, it means that something is bothering her, something she does not understand , psychotherapists are needed in order to help sort it out. in that situation, that system cannot be changed from the inside, do you understand? you are a physics. you can perfectly understand the system can only be changed from the outside. for this you need a psychotherapist. so for the time being, i suggest we just sit down and discuss something. well, ok. let's try it. well, great. well, look what the situation is, yes, a there is some kind of family, neponyatka. there is some family problem. a usually people turn to a psychotherapist and work with him for a very long time, sometimes for years, since olga turned to us in the program did the right thing, yes, if you watched previous episodes, for example, or they come no, it

doesn’t matter, i’ll explain, then we are doing it in such a way that some family problem can be solved in 3 days. that is, not always very quickly. it 's nice, i warn you right away, but the bottom line is that you should i will not breed with you, some kind of psychological turuses on wheels, right? here we will do it very quickly. why because you are required to complete my tasks, that is, all this will be live, everything will be in some kind of semi-game floor in such a form, well, real reality. yes , that is, you are required to simply carry out my tasks. do whatever you want. the first task well then the first task. tomorrow you will spend the day together. class to work for me, who will? do you have a day off? not a day off, as saturday was saturday

. yes? well, yes, it’s definitely saturday, but there is some clarifications. yes, i will give you a task given by psychotherapists and psychologists. it is quite famous. you will not just spend the day together, but try to remember the period of courtship. god some. well, candy isn't flowery. try to take something from there. well , we'll try it, as usual, women remember, especially female psychology. yes, they are obsessed with small things, so you can rely on olga, wait. thank you. i need you in principle consent everything is fine, it's quite late, so i went. thank you for coming to meet you, not alone once. i won't shake hands. today

our heroes will spend the day together. i hope my task will help to defuse the situation a little and create some kind of such an atmosphere of trust so that olga can talk to konstantin, but olga must have this conversation with certain conditions. and this is the condition. most importantly, in no case not a word about the fact that you suspect konstantin of treason. okay, exactly. i 'll try my best, as if everything is as usual, goodbye. well, here is such a provocation from

me, i warned olga that she would not case, she didn’t speak without me, knowing people, especially women, she would definitely let it slip. and it seems to me that this will make it possible to sharpen a little and divert konstantin's thoughts in the other direction to remove his defenses, because what is happening is simply that konstantin cannot tell some of his secrets. i don't think it has to do with cheating. the problem is that people are not able to solve such situations, no one taught them how to speak frankly in childhood. and what happens in our families. come on, look me in the eyes tell the truth. if a child tells the truth, he gets a strap on the pope, this is how the model is developed what to say tell about your secrets and tell the truth in the family. this is very painful. rain our first

trip to the cinema oh, it was not a movie, but the last row. you didn't give me a look. here, i'm sorry, wait for the phone. hello come on faster, everything is unchanged, everything is fine. yes? yes, then bye-bye. oh, guys, you can't leave, right? today we are preparing a dish papansky papansky folder, so we will cook. here pan or disappeared water boil and you need to send our bulbuda so badly already to salt some water. the first time i meet with such a recipe for grandmother. and then you have to stand and constantly interfere with interfere with interfere. stock up on patience stock up

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last row of tickets. the weather is normal so good that umbrella. tell me why you come home like this from work. well, it's such a beautiful day. why spoil it? let's go for a walk. we have a restaurant ahead of us. after going to the movies, our heroes decided to remember the old days, feel 10 years younger and ride bicycles. the walk was just awesome. i plan to go out with olya every week and enjoy these views gorgeous weather and build life higher and steeper. we had a great time, but i didn't learn anything from kostya. he is silent as a partisan.

come on over here, where the saints are. here we swear no. here is better. come on over here. cool yes class! i like it here too. this is where you see the flag. you are such a wine to me. thank you thank you very much, olle let 's have a drink for today's beautiful day for this beautiful evening. i really like very tasty, generally delicious wine. paul is a chic restaurant here. so tasty here

cook, i tell you. yours also cooks delicious food for you. do you think i'm cheating on you? that is, this whole circus, this is all you thought because you think that i'm cheating on you. these clowns all brought here. yes, i do n’t remember this brain of some kind, who he psychotherapists brought. yes, it's all because of this. i suspect you take. i'm really sorry. we do have a problem. and for this i communicate. only one it's probably me so don't. bye. olya suspects me

of treason. i don't understand, i do everything for her for all years of life. i didn't have those thoughts at all. well, as i expected, olga slept and could not resist. naturally, she let slip about treason. and this is very good, because it allows me not to focus on this particular aspect of the problem, but to set the development of their relationship a little different. even though our heroes quarreled, andrey metelsky knows how to keep the warmth of the family hearth. stay with us. olga and konstantin spent the day together, at some moments they were cheerful and good, but at some they felt misunderstanding, at the end of the day, konstantin found out

that olga suspected him of treason, she apologized, but konstantin was offended by what he would do to solve an unpleasant problem. andrey metelsky today everything is just beginning, give it back to konstantin, it still remains unknown. we didn't order letters. hello andrey mityaevsky's pizza specially with tasks for you miracles. thank you very much for our usual practice. yes thank you very much. very interesting, goodbye. olga today you need to take one of your things whatever husband you want and come with her to my studio by 4 o'clock, you can not say anything and

try not to be late. hello konstantin this is the host. can you talk to me? and what is good, then i will have a task for you so that my wife does not hear. yes? you should be at my studio by 19:00 today. i understood well. why at all? uh, here you will learn well, the only amendment is the only one. well , more precisely, take some thing of your wife with you, agreed. i understand. well , all the best, goodbye. everything is fine, i'm waiting.

my nerves have long become my wife's personal belongings. and if i come to andrey empty-handed, he will not count this task for me.

brought what i asked brought, i brought a comb will go. basically, it doesn't matter.

yes, it's just a materialization of putting a comb on a chair, an ancient ancient technique, still left is called a hot chair. so, imagine it's not a comb. and here sits your husband konstantin and the way he lives here. no. he can’t answer you to object somehow , they accepted to interrupt. that is, he is just listen. you can tell him whatever you want as if he is sitting. good. i won't bother you or i'm better. okay, i

'll try, i'll try. dear, kostya, i am now at a loss. and it is very hard for me. maybe i'm to blame for something, but all these two months have been very hard for me. i don't know what you are hiding. i suspect the truth of you in treason then i really want to know the truth. i am very hurt and sad. forgive me if i'm guilty of something, tell me about it and we'll try to figure it out together. yes, it was very hard. necessary i had to tell him about it before and not use this technique, of course, and i had to come up and say this to him personally. yes, in order to still live through this barrier of fear, because we are afraid of each other, and therefore we don’t talk. this is true. expresses his feelings in direct, not in

indirect speech. she does not attack, but rather plays the role of a victim, sincerely regrets that she suspected her husband of treason. let's see how konstantin will cope with this task hello konstantin are you late? i see that everyone has grown fat this is bullying and aggression. it is protection from the outside world. this is clear. any psychologist will say, okay, you brought the subject. that's the one i asked for, yes, as you asked? i chose a comb, then psychology. there is such an exercise called a hot table, yes, that is, you put your wife's object on a chair. well , purely, how is such an anchor? and imagine that she is sitting in front of you. so your job is just to talk to her. now it's safe, because she is virtually present to answer anything, she can't run into anything

can not interrupt and can speak frankly. yes, if you do not want, she will not know about it, we agreed. basically, all you need is this. uh-huh well, the task is not clear to me . ok then. i'll probably step back a little, so as not to embarrass the close presence. yes, but i will watch. well agreed i'll try okay i don't really understand. what do you call in treason as in your head this me is not invested in my head. why? as i sit and think, how could you, i think about you all the time. and you selfishly you always think only about yourself and i made a decision the last two months. i started working as a home tutor. yes , i understand why, because you have a

dream, the dream to visit paris is your childhood dream. i am unable to work. yes, they make so much money, and that's why i began to earn extra money. and i'm not telling you, because i know you're going to talk me into this, because you want me to have a promotion. well, i haven't been able to yet. well, i wanted to take you to paris so that we could spend this summer as a happy family. and i said that i did it. that's interesting. well, something like this. are you a tutor? it wasn't easy, but yes. naturally, that is, you are a teacher. no, i'm just a tutor. i am a teacher tutor. this is a little different. in fact, different shots come across in the past place led the student in advance.