here, from whom you need to buy shares with denis, so take the packages to the house and wait by the car, like mine. nesmeyanny hello. look what i brought you. what do you call it. in childhood, i would have given, tomochka. we thought with the girl. maybe you want to go to a sanatorium on the volga , a very good place for young people, a lot. i don't want to go to any resort. carry yourself as if you were sick or healthy? let's gather the doctors and let

them examine her, well, from all sides. irony of fate, who is this dad? what a charm, we welcome you, your mother of god. sitting almost naked to you no one to climb. how much are you worth now? i need at least fifteen hours

for you. body your face from memory with a picture i would at least someone else. time let's start in the morning together, to prepare the right breakfast, first of all you need to buy the right products. and, of course, what kind of breakfast without vegetables will we bake? too large size indicates that the vegetable is overripe. it is not worth eating such fruits. let's do exercises on one leg and

take a little. who how much can, and exercises free time doing workouts, i like to play football games. this is an active game. we represent charging football and get useful tips. if there are few muscles, less strength, there will be many muscles, it will be harder to carry oneself, it is important to find some kind of middle ground in which the athlete will be comfortable and will not experiment, because the harmony of taste gives us saturation. watch in we are the breakfast of champions on belarus 24 tv channel. figures of belarusian culture talk about how their fate unfolded. it seemed to me that the people who make the movies are the celestials to make sure i get into the camera department. i decided that first i graduated from the faculty of history, and not share the secrets and nuances of my professional activities. generally. we

are unfortunate people in this regard, not that you can’t quite calmly watch your own someone else’s performance, because you sit in the hall and start to think all the time that somewhere, well, mathematical approaches are so documentary, biographical project, shots of life atmosphere creative even so human this is the first where does it begin? uh, what ensures the success of uh, the pictures, so if this is not there, then, as they say, there will be no movie. i've been here for 25 years, practically. i just want to mind my own business. how long can you bring? watch the republic on belarus 24 tv channel. they detained

a man between sleeping and eating and neighing the soviet circus with a ferry. wow, what's going to happen now? it is necessary to remove it is not me, i feel bad.

well, for those who break our hearts. and then collects. yes i wish i could bang in like that fainting so that the most beautiful girls from the stream groped me. for us, first-

year students for future doctors. do you know who daddy will see? mom, now it’s clear how you entered the institute, that you normally carry all your own, and my dad is a celebrity. and why shouldn’t we bother for our own daughter there, a call here, a call, she was engaged and entered herself. okay, see you tomorrow wait, wait, no one believes in your

pull vitalinka. just blurted out of anger in the bones from school in love. and he likes you. i could not know, i have been with them since childhood in one yard. and now, even at the institute, you yourself know jealousy is such a thing that i never fell in love. don't know. how are you with me it's strange everything goes with this love. i really love one person. he went to st. petersburg to study at mukhinsky. you miss nothing. he 'll be back and you'll be fine. loves another no. i can't love him.

well, you yourself allowed it. yes, but i need to work on this hand now, please be patient a little without grapes. okay? i have almost done everything. how beautiful why

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third turn to the right will be yours. thank you , this is your address. come on, you, when such a man does not ride at all, let's go. just hello hello time don't want me on my knees. let me hug you. well, look, the girl is completely in red. well, for once, we are neighbors to say what your name is. i am varya, and a strict girl is next to

you and yes, very nice. i am slava. this dissolute person, my sister ksyusha andrey georgievich, is the greatest academician, and i will try his right hand, my mother zhanna evgenievna as you understand, the best mother is very pleasant. i'm just visiting. are you not tight? normal, yes, yes. you now directly and to the right the first house.

we haven't seen new neighbors yet. this is such a boy to swing. and what kind of family? so i don’t know the minutes of wheelbarrows they have cool. it's somehow uncomfortable strangers, intrusive well, why that's abroad, when new neighbors arrive it is customary to come to them to get acquainted with the cake,

i saw the movie. okay, i'll invite you. thank you . heard there will be guests. gotta get ready. great thank you very much. and where where is your famous husband denis asked me to convey his apologies, he is finishing the book. we missed him terribly.

i'm in the gdr in canada, everything is probably different there. they eat, they fall in love, they shoot. good evening, you are a doctor. and finish her studies at the medical academy, now she is doing practice. we have

a future surgeon. that's so good, by the way, i even want to get sick so that such a surgeon hit lately, she is very tired. man 3 years older than me. i do not like it, only subtly good. pretty people pretty

well staring and what? you still don't like it, i don't like it at all. listen, but keep your skills to yourself. okay? hello gen, this is karina, this is uncle gena, who returned from the mukhinskoye school. hello dad,

my dears. i want to introduce you, this is karina, my fiancee. if your child is over 40, and you still call him to clarify what he ate for breakfast or resent the fact that he did not introduce you to his new friend. perhaps you are already firmly on the hook of addiction, then you will be interested to know what even the most traumatic events, according to psychologists. they do not have such a detrimental effect on a person’s position in life as the habit

of waiting for someone to decide for him, all his problems are the consequences of overprotection, are diverse, low self-esteem, high expectations from himself and from other difficulties in communication and unfulfillment, a person often does not notice behind him tendency to over- attach. at least, because they just don't think about it. today. you have a unique chance to test yourself for the presence of hyper-custody over your children and is closely related to its dependence on children. do you know who the helicopter parents are, they say this about those mothers or fathers who interfere in all aspects of their child's life, hyper-focused on his protection , control and improvement, family psychologists sound the alarm. indeed, over the past

few decades, the number of such parents has increased markedly, if the trend in helicopter parenting continues, it could destroy an entire generation of children, to what age should take care of their children, and in what questions they can not do without the opinion of their parents with these questions, we turned to passers-by on the streets of our capital. let's find out what they answered. can a child choose his own profession or without parents? it’s impossible to do here, of course, maybe a child is a person, he has to get out himself; everyone influences the choice of a profession; all the environment and parents ; friends and grandparents; not i would say that this is my own choice, because here, too, some adults feel. what is important for them, what is interesting for them to choose a profession, and whether you are dependent on your parents, yes, we are, because i am a student,

as it were, and a participant in the time to work especially. well , it doesn't depend. no, i think it's something of independence, but it's very scary, and whether you're dependent on your children. no, i guess i just really love my baby. yes, what age should you take care of children, you also need to teach them. some little help, but it must be throughout life, that is, some advice, even if it is no longer financial assistance, this is the moment, as they started, they work, that is, and then already. well, maybe there are some difficulties in the physical physical or there economic terms, then why not? why can't you help that after all, children are their own children? these are kids for life. of course. it's one thing to love some kind of right parental love, and another thing to go along all the time and tell the path and direction of movement , saying that only with my consent. you

you can always do you turn to your parents for advice, try with them. i don’t know how to build communication, therefore, in one way or another, if i were asked, everyone is dependent on their parents. i consider this if the child, already in adulthood, asked for this help. and if he doesn’t ask, somewhere adult age, my grandmother said until thirty you need to look after your child. today we are in this topic and will deal with our expert. our guest is a psychologist from the minsk regional clinical center for psychiatry. narcology nadezhda kuryan. hope hello. and until what age do children remain children, and we parents should tell them what to do? where should they go? how to behave or not at all? well , in general, as if normally parents he supports and directs, that is, no directive. ah this indeed here it is important to consider age. yes, because if we remember and there are several main separation moments that occur in the life of each person, for example, if we take the age from one to three, when there is some kind of neoplasm in the

child, that is, at each crisis stage they appear, that is, it is clear that here, in any case, the child will be dependent and natural. we will feed him there , protect him, give him some hints and introduce him to the kindergarten ourselves. but, if we are already talking about adolescents, who have a moment of proference there, then here, of course, if we impose ourselves, we are something directive, then nothing good will come of it, yes, but the next moment, when financial independence occurs, then here, too, as if this adult, it turns out to be an adult, if we endlessly support him with money, then, probably, he is like that. in fact , you won’t achieve anything in your life, how do you understand that you are dependent on a child. i am now trying to formulate for myself, yes, well, there are also several such moments here. if we see them in ourselves, then we can already say that we are dependent on the child. that is, for example, if my child is not given freedom of choice. to be precise, it annoys us, for example, i, a mother dependent on my child and then i will be, for example, i have an adult child, he is 16 years old. yes, and i will be annoyed by any of his choices. that is,

for example, he tells me, i went to the courses of such and such, because i want to do there, for example, in the person of bsu in any case, if i am addicted, even if i agree with this opinion, but i didn’t come up with this, yes, i didn’t tell him, it wasn’t i who told him, but dependent mother dependent parents. well, now we are talking about the mother, she is a controlling mother, that is, the next stage is i control my child. always everywhere send endless text messages. and now it’s generally very convenient to ask, and send me a video. yes, there is a video link somewhere now . here, that is, it will be infinitely control of infinitely some claims of hints. and the unwillingness to let a person break out of this family nest at all, because in the end the dependent mother will feel empty. uh-huh and so just think, you say there is no free choice, but there is a wonderful phrase from the parents. we have lived longer than yours and we know how better. yes, then there is here, it seems to me, from the parents. this is just excessive love, as if the desire

to direct him in the right direction, so that everything in the child's life is good. you know, this is hyper-custody, i don’t know if the hero i want to introduce you to today is inclined towards it, but, firstly, he is a father of many children. secondly, he, of course, loves his children very much. that's how strong are prepared. he does not directly strangle his child with this love and we will find out right now to control it. i invite dmitry to our studio dmitry good afternoon, father of many children how much four kids? wow, they are small big adults, how to take the weather with you year three five eleven? oh well, you have not yet reached such an adult period, when a child already chooses his own profession correctly. you are still protecting and protecting your children more. yes, seriously, yes, the eldest daughter. she. as a matter of fact, a year ago i said i would be an artist. and now he wants to do it. uh, i heard after they supported us, it's very nice to see when the child

develops on his own. and when the child has some kind of desire, especially since this desire is sincere and moreover, she does something for this. here he is at school. jaime, bitches. she likes it very much. yes or maybe it's you just now. at this stage, you're winning. well i'm eleven. here she is doing a little. yeah, and then we will send in the right direction to earn money or lawyers, yes, so that she has a good life all her life. she was secured so that she could afford an apartment. that is, what is an important factor, of course, an important factor. everything is possible, but at this stage we we say with an elastic voice that we are glad that our child has chosen this particular profession. my mother also sent me to all the circles. do you want to sing? oh, you want to play tennis , but when it's time to go to college. i told my mother i want to go to the theater . mom sat down and said that well, you won’t earn money that way. i think we should enter the university of economics. what university do you think i graduated from ?

allow our children. well, it was like being a child, and then, after all, a parental fist, we have it, yes, it happens that such a thing. hope, probably, when addiction is like that , mom, this is also not enough for me, in fact. i can share my story too. that is, i was taught geography biology in my first education, and in my second education a psychologist 100% influenced your mother. of course, my mother said. where will you enter, except for the pedagogical university? you're not going anywhere, you said, my mother. well, here's a normal topic when parents, as it were, we give you our choice, but still, as it were, we direct. i'm just the same , sharing my story. i chose the same one when i was choosing a university , perhaps i wanted to go to the theater but entered an engineer. listen, but you're not engineers now, you still have a creative profession. so i did not become an economist and manager in the field of tourism. and as if yes to my mother, this wish was realized. well, why was it necessary? no one understands, when the son decided to choose a creative profession, there was no attention, how many from parents was? well, then it was not possible to convince. yes it seems dmitry you are lucky here your children do not yet put before

you some important decisions of their own, when should you take it? what kind of measures and some kind of parental control to implement, but here's how dependent you are on your children. we invite you to find out right now by answering a few of our questions. yes, i'm asking for a little test. answer incognito, do not name. eh, correct answer. can't be right answer answer yes or no? our viewers respond in parallel with you at the end of the broadcast. we will sum up, find out your result and find out the opinion of an expert on this matter, and you protect your child from any shocks and constantly regret it. afraid that the child will be offended or angry actively, the head of the child's education. control his interests. leave your child the best piece of the pie, be very worried and worried about the child when you are not around. so, friends, for each positive answer, consider yourself a treat, then by the amount of points received. we and we'll figure it out if you have such an addiction, and now friends. i want to introduce you to another one. uh, a hero, or rather a heroine, she is a mother

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we are talking about dependence on children, how deep into this issue plunged our heroine from the dark room. we will find out right now. the problem is that i myself am the daughter of an alcoholic and my husband, too, the son of an alcoholic , grew up in such a dysfunctional family, as i understood later in our families of parents. uh, there was no healthy relationship, there was no such direct communication, that is, all communication was reduced only to manipulation. let's just say to some categorical demands, or to push through guilt in this way. well, that is, they tried, among other things, to raise their children. it was probably this desire to help save and protect his other beloved child and, well, a simple

example, when the son woke up for school. that is, even at this school age, yes, that is, he systematically disappeared to school, and ah. it was necessary to wake him up to control the brakes. and if i still treated him somehow. he just called from work. he left work earlier for him, controlled that his son began to go to school. and the more we controlled him, the worse the situation was, uh, and everything ended up being the same even now, when the son started it for us. uh, the husband calls him and checks whether he is at work, that is, a man is 23 years old, he has a family, but this is still, and this control does not allow a person to grow up, as i understand it, that is, he does not take responsibility , what is this? here is my responsibility. i have to become a school. that is, if i am late, there will be some kind of punishment. there is a reprimand at school. there is a diary entry or something else, and in this case, when his parents will be, it is very convenient. it is the responsibility to attach to the parents,

that is, but it's not me, it didn't wake me up, for example, that is, well, in my understanding. this was probably the case when we were saving, when we were sorting out some questions for children, where they could grow up and build something like this. here is the foundation, yes, self-confidence. i also believe in myself, because these manipulations that we very often used in the family, including me, uh, when we didn’t say directly what we want, when we indirectly hint somewhere that a person he himself guessed that he felt guilty and did it. they are so debilitating, and people they grow up so infantile and unsure of myself, that this, of course, is very painful, and i did not immediately realize it. i supervised the lessons. i was in control. and where with whom when at what time should he come? i even then i now had five for the sake of children a little less. i had a schedule all the time, i didn’t mention there that she was before someone to

take us to some kind of circle to take someone to pick someone up. well, in general, it was some kind of crazy plan, and i drove this plan myself. i had to do everything perfectly , because yes, and so on, good not enough, if i missed something there, if there are any problems, everything is as it were. i am bad. mom and my mother often pointed this out to me, and you lived with them for a very long time, that is, dads with an alcoholic grandfather and a co-dependent mother, who controlled me in the same way. and it was important for me to please my mother and i’m ashamed to say, but even at the age of about 42 years. in difficult situations, i called my mother and asked, how to do it, that is. i take no responsibility for my life. even at this age she called mom and asked. how to do it? and so. well, like this, if there is something i feel bad about then, even my mother is not to blame. this is not what she advised us. it's not i understand the decision, that is, the probability of taking responsibility. i'm just happiness myself and i 'm learning, yes, that's why the feeling of guilt is very

such, probably the main feelings that i often experienced. now i'm trying to keep track of my feelings. i’m serious about this, i’m working on it because it’s important for this, and when a psychologist once told me that he would try to track during the day when you guilt comes up and it was a nightmare because the list was huge and he said, now pick one of them, there was someone really to blame when it hurt someone. i understood that this was not there, or there was really someone there once, more precisely, in general and in this way. i began to work with this feeling. so, well, it really was necessary to break this whole system in my head and treat children differently. dmitry you control your children whether you do homework with them, see that they get up there on time, especially when the second shift starts at the child's school. it's generally difficult to understand when he was driving,

when he woke up, fortunately, our child goes to the first shift. and interestingly, she sets the alarm herself and gets up herself. here. uh, for me. this very for the most very pleased. and do we do homework with her, but i ’ll say right away that she does the homework herself. well , of course, she asks for help if she needs something, if she feels that she is sagging somewhere in some knowledge, but we have spouses, how not to fit into the rule and don't interfere with homework. if the kid thinks he can do it all, we give her the time to make them herself, so, well, it's hard for me to say we're in control. and although, of course, in some moments we control, because if i say now. no, nowhere, we do not control. i'm like this dad. uh, my wife is like that too and we are a perfect family. well, of course, i will be cunning at some points , we certainly control where we don’t notice it. but as a matter of fact, it is not for us

any there. uh, you know, some kind of force majeure in family. and if you say e is there any breakdowns and psychological or not, but as in every family it happens, but we do not use this as a technique. well, in order for e to control her pathological children, but, probably, we still don’t have this. and you know what i thought. i, too, once decided not to control the lessons of my child. you know how it ended. he graduated a quarter worst of all in the class, then i'm very cool here, which of course i, well, i think he's an adult guy should do everything himself. it turned out that this did not lead to the best results, but still then i had to sit down to prompt to help. but it happens so often in life, or is it just my personal case, when we let everything go to its own devices. you are an adult. make your own decision. and it doesn't matter. at what age is my son, 11, it turns out that the decision he takes the wrong ear. he wants to pierce something else there, he wants to kink himself. well, maybe you still need to go side by side to

tell him badly to let go of the situation. even worse is the norm, where is the pathology. here i am for now for me. i hope the expert will melt the points on this one, because i don’t understand yet, i’m ready to argue on this issue. so, well, i would say, well, actually, well, up to a certain age, you really need to control here, that is, control, which i mean to put in some certain framework, because as i remember, probably maybe years 10 or 15 years ago, once everyone was saying it is necessary to raise children in the japanese system, what kind of system according to the japanese system is it all ? i wanted to bring up in japanese allowed, someone answered you in the old fashioned way, and then after a while it turned out that the japanese system is not what we understand, but this is meant. here's what, for example, if i want to stand still. for example, i want to allow everything, yes, so for a small child in this way i will equip the room so that he can’t get anywhere, he can’t climb where i don’t want to, yes, that is, for example, this is someone where, he cannot be injured, where there are toys, which, for example, he cannot be there either eat something with oneself something there too with

oneself to make a strong control such, and in such a way, as if he had freedom correctly, but at the same time, we limit it to some circumstances determined there. this is the first and second. must be at a certain age, but i think it's at least there until 6:00 before first grade. so just put some certain such barriers. er, that is, let's feel safe not to give him a choice. that is, until a certain age, the child cannot give a choice. because when we offer a three-year-old child there in the store, choose a cap that you like, yes, that is, we can get stuck there, firstly for a long time, but this is not the worst thing, but the worst thing is that a child of this age has not formed , the basic trust in the world has not yet been sufficiently formed. yes , it’s still there, for example, 3 years, when we already went hand in hand with me, or rather, he calmly went, but at the same time a psycho, you’re not strong, he develops anxiety, a feeling of anxiety in order to not there was this feeling of anxiety. we are talking to the child. this is what you wear. here is what you eat. so you go there until a certain age. i'm

also interested. you just gave the example of your eleven-year-old child. dmitry said that your daughter. how old is she , who taught herself? 11 she does her homework herself. from what age does she set an alarm for herself, that is, it’s perfect, but it’s like we hear different stories, right, because in fact it’s all individual. someone develops the psyche faster. at it develops more slowly for someone there, but i can say for sure that when we overcome, when a child and we help him overcome a crisis, for example, three years old. yes, when he went to kindergarten, he made some new friends. here the circle of communication expanded, that is, we must look after all this, but in no case should we impose something of our own there, for example, there, he quarreled. your son had a fight there in kindergarten, some boy, we immediately approach this t-shirt of cream. i'm all that from we protect ours. that is, on the one hand, how would we say to our child. look, i'm next to you, nothing, don't be afraid, on the other

hand. if we continue, for example, there in the first grade we will do exactly the same, then in the end, he will be sure that his mother will always come and she will always protect him, and then in the eleventh grade, well, there exactly. yes, they are the same there, if we dali in the eye and says, you offended my boy there, yes, that is, i think that approximately, when he overcomes, this is the crisis, he goes into school, and then, in fact, it was not without reason that it was invented that the child was on his own there, in my opinion, this is the second grade, you need to introduce children on your own. they are not allowed to go there, but from the second we can help, yes, there everyone can really do something, yes, that is, in the first class, even here, it’s like with you exactly in our society in the first class. he can’t go home, yes, and yet this is due to the fact that there are some statistics. how does the child's psyche develop there after the second grade. really. he can take your backpack to go and when the parents control what happens to the parents is actually anxiety. yes, that is, what we do is we think that we are doing the child better when, for example, we take away his schools. we help carry the backpack in this, in fact, if such a parent is asked

questions, why is he doing this at all. and if you dig into it, then he relieves his anxiety, yes, that is, he is scared he feels bad, if we ask the child, i am more than sure that half of the children in the first grade will say, i will go myself. we all go i will go right, that is, in this case, as if co-dependence with the child, the parent. this is a parent, a person who is very full of his anxiety, many of his anxiety, and he, as it were, outweighs the child and thinks he is uncomfortable, in fact, you need to ask the child a question, are you uncomfortable? dmitry, it would be interesting to know, but this example, which you are now broadcasting to your children, independence, the opportunity to make their choice. and your support for your children is you. the parents were so supportive too. here they are, the root lies exactly there in your family. maybe you, too, left the alarm clock for yourself were excellent students. there was no need to control. well, i would probably say that what is happening now is raising my children, how i am raising them, most likely, compensation for what i did not receive. i'm in my family, please. yes, because in

my family, uh, hmm with my parents, and i didn’t set an alarm for myself. i shifted all the responsibility to cancer dividers. and i felt so comfortable. ah, lessons, of course, i liked to do one lesson, but it's so relatively speaking, loved, i didn't quite make them. yes, but there was a raven counting, and in the window he wrote poems. eh, i played all sorts of toys there, since there were no phones then. we didn’t do this, but there were a lot of other games, and, in the end, when the parents. well, come on, son, check the lessons. uh, hours, there are six in the evening, the lessons are not completed. yes, i did not like to do them in fact . and i was very glad when they left me even more glad when they did not check, they probably thought so that but we will transfer all the responsibility. e your

son. that is, yes to me, and now i’ll take it by the head, as many parents believe, and the child will do it himself. well, nothing like such a warehouse. uh, i have such a character, i have such a temperament, and i did not like to do this no. yes, you say, i did not like my parents, that is, it’s great, probably, they grew up in the soviet past, yes, and my parents had such a soviet upbringing. all right, hands up. that's when you realized that i don't want me to be like this with my children, i want to so trust the cards and tell what dimitri does and why he, uh, is head over heels in raising his children. reveal cards. yes, i have been in the first education for a long time. i am a techie, and according to the second i am a techie psychologist, my parents suggested a profession, of course, for 15 years. i

gave. e work in the mining industry, and at some point i realized that, but i somehow burn out at this job. it becomes less interesting to me, not in such a way that it is generally uninteresting in psychology , it becomes the most interesting for me. eh, what's more, i met my current wife. she is also a psychologist and an astrologer and i love her very much. ah and uh, you know we're together, i can't say i'm alone. but i decided that and so, i will communicate with the children. well, somehow they informed together they decided, but with olesya that, well, in general, it’s somehow important that the child knows. such a hope, probably, will also agree. there is such a technique of choice without choice. yes, that is, here we are. as a matter of fact, or pearl barley. and don't remember. uh, here, uh, the golden key, where the fox pinocchio says so to me

all the same, somewhere you hide your five soldiers, but hide it right there in this one. well, what are you about the same thing, so that the child, uh, thinks that in fact it was he who made the choice. well, of course, we are still a wife, but somehow we create security, because he is children. they actually play. they do not always, but understand where the risk factors are. the fear factor, but we still make sure that children choose a safe behavior pattern for themselves, by the way, friends, here's what you know about guardianship of excessive control over children, and british scientists have proved, namely, that in terms of such indicators as initiative, resourcefulness, and a tendency to unconventional solutions, those whose children in childhood were not limited by excessive supervision are several times ahead of children, the games that, uh, we regulated adults to you, please, overprotection, it turns out to be bad, because the child does not feel his strength in making decisions, this is exactly what happened to the

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tv channel. and we are talking about addictions to children, today we are in our program and we continue to learn the story of the heroine from the dark room, who realized her problem, and how she started with it fight exactly like a blueprint could have been credit addiction, he wasn't an alcoholic, but he staged suicides and helped me somehow with some money and to pay off my loans. he said that was the whole point. i do it for the family. children screamed, mother did

something. listen to him and my soul was torn every time, because i understood that, on the one hand, you are interested in the realized, and from the other, i understood. he really can do something, and i succumbed to these provocations of him. i am paid off some of his debts and at the same time, i was horrified, because five for the sake of the children. you need to grow them. you need to provide them somehow and money. no. i went. yes, two or three jobs to somehow make ends meet. but it didn’t solve the problem, and then by some miracle, i got into groups, i’ve been there for four years, and now in the process, when i was there in this group and my problems with adult children began and, of course, processing works but there are results. i am very glad that there are some changes here the first is such a bright moment, if depending on i noticed with my eldest son when i organized his wedding. and they were

against the girl. i really liked it, girl, everything is not bad, but for some reason i think that this is my function of the organization. why is it so on fire? i wanted to decorate this dining room myself. yes there to choose these dishes. that is, for some reason, even then i didn’t realize that it was none of my business at all, and i got angry when i called him asking, what color will we do? yes, there is a wedding, that is, what color, and what kind of cake to order there? what kind of music what competitions are they? well, we do n't care, he does what you want. i was really offended by how this is so for some reason. they don't help me that much. i mean, i'm here for them . they don't appreciate them, my friend. here they are more, in fact, it was not needed at all. they wanted you and your old son to happen, which is worse, because this is a disk function. it is, unfortunately, hereditary. my youngest son drinks. and when he drinks, he has some period

of inappropriate behavior, when his wife was pregnant, he arranged some kind of suicide too, he could take place, he was completely drunk and cut his veins at some stop. and he bled. i don't know where he found strength and how he called his father. uh, well , he came and took him, barely alive, just. well, and now he calls me the most, my husband also screams panic, it's all because of you. now, if you talked to your daughter-in-law, you would decide everything. well, all the questions it wouldn't be, but now he says, i don't know where to take him, because if i take him to the hospital, then, uh, well it's dangerous for him because then they won't take him anywhere. she works, as they say , a yellow ticket. that is, i am not aware of all these issues. he says i'll bring you. and you sew up thought you're a doctor. you don't even sew up. if it's my own fault, i'll

bring it to you. here he brings me this son. oh , thank god that he cut his hand in the wrong place, but he is very strong. there really needed to be sewn up, and i was shocked. i didn't know what to do. he was barely alive. he was so pale under alcohol. and i was it was very scary, and i didn’t know what to do; the only thing i remembered was this prayer, which is in all step groups. we expect no peace of mind to accept what i am unable to change, courage to change what i can and wisdom to distinguish one from the other. the son did not go to the doctor. he slept off and came to himself. i just bandaged him, treated this wound, scored it and said that it was very dangerous early, huge by some miracle. it dragged on, because young organisms, because i don't know why, probably god. it was whatever. all this incident healed for him,

as it were. i am not a parent yet. your daughter has already become independent at the age of 11. yes, it will develop. like you said to make your own decisions, and at some point you want to give her advice, she will say, dad, you know that i actually make my own decisions since i was 11, so i don't need your advice at all. don't be afraid. no, i’m not afraid of this, because she asks for advice, she comes up and asks when she has something interesting, but it’s another matter when we really we control the child and with these tips, as you know, we put on a backpack with unnecessary stones , these tips are not needed, but in order for the child to actually, a-a come and consult with something, it is very important to give him, and the opportunity to find responsibility for his action or inaction, then it will fit. this is of interest to parents. then the parents, it turns out its significance, understands

that it is necessary therefore, well, if i 'm afraid to say. or no, no, i’m not afraid of it at all, because we have one and a second and third and fourth. well, the fourth is still a small year for him, they are the simplest, you have a professional education. but there are people who really control their children and sometimes it becomes a real problem, but they do not risk turning to a specialist or they think that it is very expensive. everyone has their own reasons, but there are questions on the social network and we have prepared a hopeful list of such questions for you. here is a question such parents of my girlfriend call her continuously and demand to return home when she stays until 11:00 pm my girlfriend 22. she is already an adult, how can i explain it to them really in five third person, yes, that is, the young man cares about the girl, it seems that the girl does not care. well, i don't know what the context is. yes, but if a young man is contacting you, it worries him, and a girl may like the fact that her parents call her, don’t worry, and so on, advised the young man to

understand first of all. actually, he feels and why does he even, what prevents him from these calls, after all. they call him wrong, then there is what happens to him his what need is not satisfied, move on. i have teenage children. i help them with home buildings and introduce them to different circles. they tell me that i care too much about them, but i don't understand what's wrong with that, what's the harm. well actually, i don't know how old the kids are. maybe there are children going to the second grade as teenagers - what age is that? well, rather mugs homework teenagers, it says about undergrowth. yes , teenagers yes, but teenagers, yes, that is, teenagers are included in circles, yes, that is, we we can talk about weird. yes, teenagers 12 years old, she takes and winds up by the handle in a mug. yes, that is, again, in fact, i would honestly feel sorry for teenagers, because i myself have an eleven-year-old son and when, for example, we are walking with him now. at least there are shops or somewhere else. he says get away from me. i say why she tells

me ashamed. i'm something like a kid here with my mother walking by the hand. do not even approach at school, for example, if i already took him there in the second grade , and as if out of habit you kiss child. when you see, he says, get away but don’t disgrace me, mother don’t disgrace me, that is, therefore, i really don’t know what these teenagers feel, but i focus, for example, on my child, probably, they should also be ashamed and uncomfortable. at least, but for some reason they don’t tell her about it and fantasize further, which means, probably, there, as it were, really and in some kind of emotional problem. well, there are some difficulties in the field. that is, they, probably, cannot also be told that they feel something there. or maybe it's to such a degree already you strongly feel that they don't really feel. well, that is what this woman does, really. she doesn't give to her children. well, face frustration. and especially since it's adolescence behind him already. actually , gray ends school and then goes on to adult life at the university. no one, of course, babysits us, but here i would say that this is a very unhealthy situation, because

in adolescence you have to take care of children, but you will agree. weird, i totally agree. the next story is even more advanced. eh, but i even have a personal example. and i study at the institute in minsk, i entered last year. they gave me a hostel, and it seems that i should be happy, but my mother moved in after me, she rented an apartment for me far away and controls my every step. it's horrible. she even left him with his dad because he, well, didn't want to move. what should i do? well, what should i do? here is this personal question, how to quickly convey to mom that mom, i'm already an adult. and you go to your dad. live there, by the way, you know, i'll start what should i do hmm personally, i would well, that's through my experience. i would have found in this resource, actually today. i think it's so cool when mom cooks food there, because there is not enough time. yes, and maybe, i ’ll also say now, it’s very ugly, but in principle, in this case, can i use my mother a little right? that is, let mom hang curtains there to do something else, apparently. yes, that is, here, as it were, really in this situation. i see a resource. well as for,

really e pathological not pathological generally. what to do with mom, then in this case dmitry so i think you will agree with me, surely you work with such situations. here it is worth asking the mother what she will do when she is a daughter, for example, she arrives in another city, what will happen to her mother if she has a relationship with her father, if she has any kind of work there, her hobby , her classes. that is, as i understand it, my mother's life is so focused on the child that she even forgot that she had a husband. that is, this mother is absolutely nothing in her life, except for the child, is not busy, and i can say that there will really be a lot of anxiety for mom when they disperse, if, of course, they ever disperse, but then help, of course, mom definitely needs my son had several large conflicts at school. of course, i am always on his side, and he is my child. i begin to clarify the situation with the title of classmate to the parents of another child. my husband and i fight because of this, because he thinks that i should not interfere. but i'm a mother, how is it

i like the word. i'm a mother. and who, if not me, will protect. for a child, it is also important to understand the context of what and when happens at school, because after all, in my opinion. i believe that even in the eleventh grade , situations can occur that, without the participation of parents, still cannot be sorted out and clarified. unless, of course, she runs after every time. something there finds out, then so again. she does not let the child get frustrated. it should not give him the opportunity to independently resolve conflicts and how as a rule, such people, when they grow up, either a constant feeling of guilt, or most often they can be ridden, because they do not know how to give back. either they can’t then form their social circle, because how would they get used to that, well, they are always in comfort, yes, and here, for example, someone runs into them there , says some unpleasant things to them, and from them from penza their backs. mom, there is no shouting, no barking, the situation is unpleasant for them, it is easier for them to break contact altogether. the more you participate in this. that is here the task of the mother, well, somehow contain your emotions in general, and don’t go to the child.