somehow i don't like the word i'm a mother. and who else but me will protect my child. it is also important to understand the context of what and when happens at school, because after all, in my opinion. i believe that even in the eleventh grade , situations can occur that, without the participation of parents, still cannot be sorted out and clarified. unless, of course, she runs after every time. something there finds out, then so again. she does not let the child get frustrated. should not give him the opportunity to independently resolve conflicts and as a rule, such people, when they grow up, either a constant feeling of guilt, or most often they can be ridden, because they do not know how to give back. either they can’t then form their social circle, because how would they get used to that, well, they are always in comfort, yes, and here, for example, someone runs into them there , says some unpleasant things to them, and from them from penza their backs. mom, there is no shouting, no barking, the situation is unpleasant for them, it is easier for them to break contact altogether. the farther in this whole area. that is, here mom's task, well, somehow contain your emotions in general , and don't go to the child. indeed, the child is able to resolve this

conflict not every time. i would say that in fact, initially, here, as it were, if we return, in general, to our ended our meeting. i wanted to say everything, but there was no moment that there really should be a dialogue between the parent and the child, and this is being formed. you can, for example, form this when the child goes to first grade and correctly, when the child came from school to ask him, what was there, who is sitting with whom, that is, to be interested so that the child understands that the parents are generally aware of what environment he is in and when it is when from early childhood, let's say the child comes home completely calm and tells his mother i happened, this and that, and my mother, for example, says oh, there, i understand you, there really is such a difficult situation, in short, joins his emotions. they say, and i told you, don’t get in or something else, yes, that is, it doesn’t shut up the child, doesn’t interrupt and then the dialogue continues and when, when it comes, the transitional age, the child quite calmly comes to his mother and tells her everything, then, firstly, the mother’s anxiety is removed. this is me for so long. i show to

this answer to a question. that is, since the mother flies to school, she really does not know with whom the child is studying. what kind of children surround him, who is aggressive, who is kind, who can take his side? can the class teacher influence the situation? that is, for me it's about the fact that my mother does not understand what happened only with my mother, the dialogue is necessary bring or with dad too. well, you just say so often in the program mom mom with mom only mom takes more responsibility. it seems to me that, for example, if we take a theoretical basis, yes, then all the same. well, of course, if this is a full-fledged family, then both of them somehow accept his happiness, but in general, it’s correct that starting from the age of seven, the child is identified with the parent of the same gender. yes, that is, if this is a boy, then, of course, it is important for dad to endlessly be around to demonstrate paternal male behavior, but it is still better for girls to pay attention to their mother and become a mother, because, in fact, they are in a normal, full-fledged harmonious family. that's about the age the child comes after kindergarten and you about the boy. especially. as a matter of fact, it is not needed. because she

was needed as an attendant. after all this, he already takes on a role, dad and dad there says how it’s right to hammer a nail in there, there’s something to do there like a man , and so on. that is, it's about something about your questions. why is mom there why not dad? yes papa do you agree with this agree i will say unequivocally. so i'm listening to you and i think, if i needed a wife, i would need a family psychologist. i would turn to you for help. yes. so i don’t know , natalya vodianova, a well-known model, turned to a family psychologist for help, but she ’s still a mother, for example, she forbids her children to cry, you can only cry if they experienced some kind of physical pain, for example, they hit, but she expresses your emotions. there, screaming scandals, crying in the family absolute you it is forbidden and how we argue. this water man says that you have the opportunity to do anything at all, but the family is wealthy. you can travel. you may want something. you can achieve this, so please, don’t put pressure on us and somehow manipulate us with the help of your tears, so

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today we are talking about dependence on children. did our heroine from the dark room manage to cope with this problem ? i have a family that believes. and when i came to the temples. my children sang in the choir there. i stood there and i was in tears. i thought that i had such a wonderful family, but at the same time there was some kind of incomprehensible feeling inside, something was bad, what was bad. i couldn't figure it out, i started looking. i went first at e. the church is the school of family life, i

went through the theological college of theology, and during my studies there was a lot of christian psychology. she got me very interested. it was really that important. for me, probably, a step where i realized a lot of meaning and revised it and began to behave a little differently in the family now , i remembered the moment that at the stage of meetings with my wife. this was probably the first time i showed up at the border and did not. here, as we say, yes, or somehow use this person. he came and demanded money from me for a trip to the village with his girlfriend. i didn't give it to him. how can you not give it to me? i 'm going to the village with my girlfriend. why don't you give me money if it was just wildness with him somehow. the radio tape recorder of money and then i won’t explain

why i just didn’t give it. and this, probably, was such a first stage when i wanted him to take responsibility for his life in his own hands. and here's what i wanted to say the most important thing is that these 4 years, when i , uh, more or less, already realized that i still have two teenage girls, we can get divorced and we live in separate apartments , and i see how i stayed uh, to communicate with them in a different way, but these messages began. i ask how you want. i see how my girl becomes completely different. that is, they have completely changed for several years. ah, characters. it can be said that they did not become more confident in themselves. i don't know what they want. they know what they they should come to me with hugs. well , we have much more than 100 years of relationship and i'm fine, it remains to remove these manipulations, as i call them? that is, through a

sense of guilt, use the feeling of guilt in order to manipulate, like a child. i practically removed this, but it doesn’t matter that we exist, of course, but i already notice it. i often apologize to them and we divorced and the children became calm. no this atmosphere of scandals. drak uh, warm relationship. i see how they change and i understand that well, ah actually it's cool, because when i realized that i raised my children terribly, let's say, i didn't even convey to them this whole discussion that my life, everything is ruined there. i was in a terrible state. this feeling of guilt covered my head that nothing could be done, and they told me about my friends, the psychologist program said that you can now do this for the sake of your children. here's for those. two girls who stayed with you to live. and you can do it for them and

really. that is, it makes me very motivated me that i can at least somehow act afterward to make them happier more open more free. sometimes i even wonder how independent they are, because this was not the case with the elders, of course, that is, there is a result and i am very glad. what then should parents do if they found that they are dependent on children? here our hero is not in a dark room she said that she worked with herself for a very long time and a lot, but this is her conscious path, and the first step is that should be. well, i want to say a little about this heroine, because she says that she turned to the church. yes, and i think that each of us who at least once went to communion understands how much, well, the priest or who confesses there gives acceptance, it is actually very important to feel. well, a full-fledged person is in society, and what our mother did not give us in childhood, for example, all these dysfunctional families. we don't give no acceptance. they are there

. perhaps even recognition, then afterwards. yes, that is very important in order to feel healthy and accepted, i am needed, and in fact, these are really orthodox psychologists, or even just a priest, i repeat once again. she confesses, he gives this acceptance. that is, he kind of, well, you can say, forgives, or whoever forgives, but i know for sure what happens after. confessions don't feel guilty cause the first step is to go to confession that in fact the heroine did not know what she was worth. i mean, she got over it. there, some kind of hard troubles she had with her husband and she endured him. that is, in fact, she does not understand that she deserves a better life and having gone through all this path, that is, she certainly has increased self-esteem there. she realized that she is significant in this life. she realized that she is strong, that he generally has the right to live on this earth and live well, that is, she has the right to be happy and, of course, when she has such a positive inside

formed, of course, it can also give to children, well, broadcast it further. that's what she says, that she did not want to pass on this pathological scenario to her children there. well, actually, we can say that, of course, she has a positive prognosis, so here you first need to understand yourself, by the way, did you manage to understand yourself dmitry and i again want to return us to the test questions that you answered by us and find out if you are dependent on your children? you remember your answers along with ours we will answer with viewers, but protect the child from any shocks, you constantly regret it. good? afraid that the child will be offended or angry, no, let them merge with her offended. this is the right of my child, but he was offended and angry at you and did not allow it already. yes , well, what happens then. well, okay, well, get angry, here you rest. yes, everything is clear. today my wife and i wanted to

look at good morning, and the children wanted to see cartoons, but we understand perfectly well that these grievances of manipulation will be the next issue, active leader child's education. control his interests. well, no, this is 100%, yes, the story when drawing is a clear proof of this . leave the child the best piece of the pie . never, because he doesn’t need it. better piece of pie. better a piece, dad needs a big piece, says the final question. be very worried and worried about the child when you are not around not at all. i am with you now, not a single child, not a second, not a third, i must say that your spouse is next to them. well, today my wife and i were absent from home until lunchtime. and our the children were super with their grandfather. we didn’t even

worry that, apparently, dmitry was in perfect order. and what should people do if on the other side of the screen they answered all questions in the affirmative. well, again, i’ll start the way i like to start, whether i’m comfortable or uncomfortable, that’s all that happens to me, but also how to predict the future a little, because in fact, there will come a moment when, if with first class, we tie a child’s shoelaces there, then at the university we wo n’t write a diploma for him correctly, you need to, probably still think about it and first of all look. well, if, for example, hmm, there are some friends there who have children to peep, how their friends raise their children, because, well, i’m unlikely to believe there that a whole bunch of co-dependent parents of the world will get together in a flock and all that. this is, firstly, secondly, watching how a child develops, because i can guess. yes? i know for sure that if it is a child who is completely totally controlled by the parents. it will be very difficult for him to establish any

relationship with the children in the class. and, most likely, he will have difficulties, that is, here is an operation for these moments and watch. indeed, in fact, it is relaxed or the child behaves among other people. and in general, what successes does he have. at school in general , in fact, i can say that last year i’ll step back a little, when it seems last year, yes, when there was covid and when all the children were at home and sent only videos to school. how to tell them here a poem, but mine, for example, my child's teacher. she sent the answers of all the other children to the general group, as they tell in a poem there, in fact, there is, well, no end of work, as it were, because the children are all clamped. children are nervous, children are worried, that is, they are afraid to even tell an elementary poem. i mean, that's what i'm paying attention to. i would well at least in elementary school. so naturally, if a child behaves like this and it is clear that he has some kind of anxiety, then something is going wrong, well, wrong and the best way is to help the child. this is somehow, probably, still a little let go. control is not to pinch it in

some kind of framework. my child says the word too, when he tells the verse, he tells me that you are not there yet. mom's in the room, i'm talking great, but you should come in. i 'm afraid. i think why he is afraid, i never scolded him, but of course i want him to speak well, and at this moment i remember. of course, i am a caring mother and should help him learn a verse, but still, sometimes it’s worth keeping yourself in control, realizing that he an adult guy to make his own decision to get these grades and then actually deal with them. yes, i want to support everything that was said here, and my wife and i never control children in our family just because we want them to live their lives and our lives . we all love our children, but sometimes behind this noble feeling, we don’t notice how their souls through peaceful custody of the diet, the training schedule, the choice of circles of friends in the style of clothing and that’s it. it's under the sauce. i know better, who we will get in a few years, an independent person or an impersonal person

largely depends on us. drink children with healthy love, and they will certainly reciprocate with you were alexander kozyrev and katerina bardo see you.

september is the time when a busy international season begins, despite the sanctions, we have already managed to rejoice for arina sobolenko. for minsk dynamo. there is a cautious

optimism in the khl that soon everything will get better in the world of sports as a whole. this is arena hello while you watch the program first half we are completely we failed, plus we still didn’t manage to get out of the attack. dynamo defeated shakhtar in the belarusian classic. into the hands of the current champion the judo federation of the republic of belarus is not disqualified, not suspended from participating in the international arena for the championship. the world is open to whether judokas will go in anticipation of a real planetary forum. this will not only affect our sport and sports in general, but in many other industries around the world in the us, women's football has achieved equal fees to men's. and how does the rest of the world look at this mood. i am the most important this movement is sports olympic day and a half marathon on city day to the athlete captured the center of the capital. the main football

battle of belarus took place under barisov batydin and our classics ended without bate goals against home boris farina, and he could not open the gates of the capital dynamo in fact. both opponents played in favor of shakhtar, who is very pleased with the braking of competitors, the game turned out to be very high-quality hosts. we had the initiative in the first half, but failed to convert the advantage into a goal, in the second half the situation leveled off and a number of dangerous moments. spectators saw both at the gates of the guests, and at the frame of andrey kudryavets 00 we look further behind the outcome of the championship. first half we failed completely, plus we still did not get out of the attack. uh, because , well, we had a little bit of baht and we only used, uh, one flank. we had to expand. well, in this regard, what we probably didn’t succeed with right now is shakhtar leading energetik second, and the participants of the classic slowed down, but after a week.