we declare with confidence that all this is then broadcast in real life, and these fears are absolutely not groundless. maybe even you have heard the story about an american schoolboy who is so immersed in his virtual world that he comes to school with a gun. uh, inflicted there, generally crazy injuries. i just could not draw a line between reality and the virtual world. we have something to think about. we are talking about addiction to computer games today and we will learn the continuation of the story from the dark room of our hero was. that is, it constantly arose quite often there that it was enough to play, it was necessary to get down to business, that is, it periodically arose and, probably, i had a peak when i went to psychological support for alcoholics in 21 novelties. here

, uh, including for myself, as if i understood depending on that this is all roughly speaking, including psychology, then i kind of realized a little. what is the problem and i'm directly told that the type of the simplest way to solve this problem. it's just not playable at all. i kind of can’t put up with it, and i can’t play there i can’t at all, therefore, from time to time i can hang out in it for a month in the evenings, until they freak out again, all this happens. and now i could lose. there all night there from 6:00 am and the next morning. well, i had a self-employed moment. so i just didn’t just call work there or didn’t foresee, i just didn’t do what i had

to do, didn’t go to the customer, then i didn’t work like that, and i didn’t allow the investigation, but psychologically without discomfort. well actually. as a matter of fact, i'm not out of my own discomfort here and came with a family, there was nothing for children. that is, he launched the toy and sat down. it was that i sat eating and thinking how to do anything there, that is, not life. and about the fact that the unloading, that is, there was a difference, that is, there was a distraction , was an adventure, that is, i did not think about the existing life. and i thought about what was the right thing to do well, probably not during the week, but this, well, at the current moment during the day, i could not think about what i was there,

what i needed to do, where i needed to work, when with whom uh what to agree on toys smiled, there for a day and a lifetime and have already done. uh, very often a year and the government deleted the computer back, that is, 1.5 months. i don't play on the computer. for this was 2 months toy. i had it installed. i quietly there 3 pm there to kill time. although there are orders, there are clients and there is work, that is, what can be done really, but if there is work, they make more efforts, then there will be a real achievement. why i don't, i don't know. and now i have a question. yes, i installed the toy, i played it freaked out, i deleted it, right the whole sword from corner to corner. and if some kind of cancellation rule, but then a person comes to you, he says, i'm addicted. i know some

stages. let's limit ourselves to three hours a day today or basically offer a detox. here, uh, what, pavel tells us, is to turn it off and that's it, but in fact, when such an uh comes, such a person, the first thing we determine is what interests him there? that's what i heard about strategies. i would be interested in some such first strategy for him. uh, turned on this process. and what did he want? because there is such a concept what kind of alexander nevidovich kova, uh, mental health, anti-drug attitudes and anti-addiction attitudes. they say that the very first thing is personal identification, the second is the script of life, what you follow the third is your responsibility, the responsibility of your choice and all subsequent actions in your life.

you know, if you ask him. what is your life script? i am sure that he is unlikely to say that in my script i see myself as a person at a computer who only plays. uh-huh that's right and that's it this moment, when he calls, this, what yourness? yes? uh, the next question will be, but are you identifying yourself? you don’t understand with such a person, and then he begins to understand that it’s just to accept everything that happens and work with it, because and so on. it's easy here. what is your responsibility of your choice. this is your choice. you are responsible for him. well, he will say, no, i was carried somewhere. wait, and whoever answers, he understands and the work goes on easily. but an important factor is that he is generally accepts if the situation is a person, yes, i'm already addicted to this. i don't think anything

at all is very important. this is the first step - that's for sure. yes, these cancellations are important. uh, generally give him a direction his direction to find him, then the work goes quickly, because it interests him. him. it is already activated only important to do. the next step. maybe that's why the work that he has does not cause. he has some interest. yes, he says, i know that i have to do things there is money can not earn, but not what he is interested in life. so we have a few questions, as well, that people are embarrassed to ask a specialist personally, but feel free to write to us about it. let's start with the first child in the lessons looking for information on the computer. well, of course, distracted by the game. how can you track what the child is doing while sitting at the goto screen. to the lesson or playing, but you won’t stand above him all the time, squashing on the net. but no, of course, parents should not stand like a

chicken on a net, but pretend that you went there for some reason and see what the child is doing. and so, right? well, that is unexpected. yes, that is, behind some thing that you allegedly forgot, but first you need to sometimes forget this thing. that's what happens most often. if suddenly the parents come. here with such a request, or even sometimes a teenager. eh, maybe such a request, then we, of course, send it to the family, but to a psychotherapist, because there will still be a question here, and families, that is, the neuropsychologist is more engaged in prevention, that is, with these kids. yes, talking to your parents. yes, this is already more work ah, psychotherapists, both children's and adults exactly who have to work with the family. that is, it is necessary to negotiate, but to negotiate and you know, if you study negotiate with a child, respectively, let's say. here you will do it. i'll check everything. you can play the entrepreneurial mindset will

develop in the child. why because he will take actions in order to quickly complete the task there in front of his mother to read and play his games there are a lot of such children in the center a lot and most often this does not work, because children do not know how work independently. and when there are already children at such adolescence, not all of them are ready to agree, if they are not used to self-recommendation, but the parent sits together and tasks and show how to look for this reactivity to show. it 's also like a game, when you look for the necessary files you collect, you get such a common puzzle. to do this together is interesting, exciting. eh, how is information searched for, how is it added, where do competencies come from? this experience always brings results, because they come. i am with them i'm coming back. we sit down and do it right away.

here, we note how active the child is, how interested he is, because you tell these ciphers, these special conditions, how every word is what it means, what meanings it immediately picks up. here are those competencies. yes. what does formula mean? how is it applied? how is he about himself? maybe here is the depth of her touch and immediately the activity of joint activities, about which i spoke, about which she should, when the child is well and the parents are now happy. you know, i think about the entrepreneurial spirit, which andrey spoke to my son. she is there too. he thinks how to do it so that he can quickly, but cheat and so that his mother does not find out. so it's wonderful. do you know why it's great? not even here. the very fact. that, uh, the child learns, at least this is what he will strive for and he will have, accordingly, some

directions. choose it more, i think it's better than uh, there's a baby. well, basically no children at all. well, whimsical there want this want something and when you learn even the tower, bash he already understand that if i do it to me there will be something for it and, well, and accordingly, we want to put strong economic stable countries, therefore, i think that such an approach, yes, on our cover of a prosperous country. and if tomorrow the parents do not have enough money for what the child wants. it doesn't necessarily have to be a financial end anyway. today he’s a sweetie the day after tomorrow, a toy, the day after tomorrow or something, and then what was agreed here, you see, it’s very important to agree and go, well, don’t spoil it here, you need to do everything subtly. i am i think it's the kids here. yes, of course. sometimes it works, but here it is such a fine line that the child does not begin to manipulate this parent and, again, does not become

the main one in the family, that the parents yes, very outwardly, so that if earlier for example , psychologists said that parents are very tough. yes, but this is our time. yes, there, that is, today, on the contrary, there is a modern family, that parents are not parents to their children. and one more question. so i understand that i have an addiction to computer games. if this does not interfere with me, but simply gives me the opportunity to have a good rest. that's independence. but we talked about the signs of addiction, when your balance is broken, yes, between virtual and real. if this balance is maintained, then everything is fine. yes, it's hard for him to understand. you see, the first sign is for us as a denial of this fact that i am dependent, this is the first, and the second here, as it were, a person asks a question. you know , there is such far-fetched far-fetched far-fetched somewhere i heard. or maybe i have one addiction,

well, how would you need to get to know a person and learn about his condition. how does he behave in life only after that do some kind of test, if there is any doubt, here we have released a lot of manuals from the roc for mental health and you can go to our scientific development website about gambling addiction and computer addiction. and there is a site called mental health, and there are our scientific developments. and there are all the tests and, in principle, in the computer. there are the most famous tests, it will take several minutes and a person i will give. maybe u fill out a few tests and still come to a more objective well- known understanding that he seems to be handsome, so today we are talking about addiction to computer games, i propose to find out the continuation of the story of pavel from the dark room. analyzing, i see that

i have never learned how to do it. maybe he just didn’t learn how to work normally, making some long-term efforts to get some kind of result. well, as if everything, life turned out simply, that is, i just finished school, entered the institute, just got married. just an apartment. it's just that the first child the second child is there, well, none there. therefore, adulthood to some extent came there after 35 years earlier, when i already began to think and understand that unfortunately, huh? can this life achieve something that my classmates are classmates with good jobs abroad, that is, good incomes. i

don't have this. i got addicted. here, uh, for myself, i realized for myself that the addiction is the same, that alcoholism, that gambling and those methods that were offered for them to switch a little to myself, well, to change to my group went for quite a long time, probably for three years. uh, i regularly visited dynamic groups there 2-3-4 times a month. uh, with which it was quite difficult to lie to both the group and myself, that is, communication was open and it began to understand a little more what my

problem was there. i was told quite simply there that if you want to tie a herring, then you can’t play at all. i probably couldn't accept it and still can't accept it. for myself a really destructive action games in my life. that's why it's completely tied up, the toy line. i force myself to do it in order to make it work. i see that if i play, then i don't work. here's to even remove the toys. i still can't get it all to work. i can watch movies. i can count the book. i can plant a run alone in the pool will not work. that is, i have a problem with computer games. it's easier, that is,

removed, but i can't start doing what needs to be done. just an unloved job that i want to replace anything. here i immediately have a question for you, as specialists. is it possible to jump off this gambling addiction hook on your own? the latest data says that only 20% can jump off on their own. all the rest require correction, both in groups and individual sessions with a psychotherapist. we need to find something to light it up. and if he goes nowhere, because, well, there are people who have never traveled anywhere further there, nalchik, for example, or i don’t know the angarsk forest there. uh, then the first task - this is clearly his place, of course, i traveled, in general i saw the world, looked and charged with emotions, and then i would think in this silence. in this well-being, the pleasure thought that it really ignites, in addition to computer reality. moreover, he

himself accepts, uh, and understands that she has an addiction. this is the best decision to travel, and sometimes this is a journey, only another. we will know. what game. even in the process of therapy, we learn this approach. what a game and these created oldies all people come there, to this space, and they have a real space connection with reality, and this is weakening. weakening immediately change of picture with the given environment of the sport of travel. well, just a few words about prevention from you, how to make sure that you don’t get hooked on this addiction. but first of all, this starts from a young age. yes, because the child must, first of all, what to do to play and if the child plays in his leading activity, both mothers and parents. oh, and daddies. they are very actively helped to fold the pyramids and that's it, yes, then,

of course a child. instead of repairing a car together, going to football, going to travel together explains, that is, this is a joint action in this joint activity. again, motivation is also developing, that is, in order for a child to come to school with educational motivation, the child must go through all types, and research motivation, which should begin with us at the time of separation. tsii from the mother, that is, already cognitive, and we have motivation , and only after the development of cognitive motivation does the educational one. and if the child he didn’t live it, then he comes to the first class. by adapting and going to a psychologist, my friends made the most important conclusion that, of course, all problems are usually from childhood, so parents play with their children, and i'm not talking about computer games now. if after

work you decide to relax with your favorite game and spent exactly that much time there. how long have you been planning this hobby, but if you have lost track of time and postponed everything for the sake of the game, then you should think about it, but have you fallen into the hook of addiction? live for pleasure, not for it . katerina was with you. see you.

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