it is they who are forced, as they say, to live with an outstretched hand, and you have to ask your spouse, who has been deprived of attention and care for at least a year and a half. this is how female nature works all its resources. she spends on a child. well, if the partner understands this, he adopts, relatively speaking, at this moment his wife. if, in this situation, economic violence begins to manifest itself or flourishes, this is hellish hell. what markers should not be ignored? well, the most simple ones, and things are when a man says that here's the amount of money you limited checks, please bring, i'll see what you spend them on such total control. i go to the store and i can't buy myself something. yes, i must definitely consult my husband's husband there. it's not concern, it's

control. if it is systematically you can not do anything on your own, your will is slowly taken away. i don't like what you buy yourself out of clothes. that's what i don't like. you look somehow seductive to others in this men. accordingly, i will walk with you. i will show you with my finger. here's what i'll pay. and what no, well, this is generally a topic. i’m talking now, and right here i have it. well, it’s kind of like how , in general, such stories happen. nightmare everything should be built on trust, yes anyway, then maybe a wallet. let it be common, let it go down, he generally lies in the kitchen in the middle of the table, and in the morning he got up and took it out and went. i had a situation when my first spouse and i merged two capitals into one river, and we knew he clearly had such a salary me like this and now they are generally a small egg, in a

second marriage. i had a situation where my husband was earning much more than me. i also earned and deserved to bring. well, there are some money of your own and look, i brought it. oh, what a fine fellow you are! i put it in a pile. yes, and he i bought a sofa. i bought an apartment, i did this, i bought us a trip. and i'm lucky and already because he earns more than yours. well, you can't see the stream. and here we are in my life there was such a case when we were going to go. e in arabic emirates i tell him, please give me 3,000 rubles. i will buy myself a brown material to the floor, i will sew a skirt for myself and i will go around the emirates in a decent beautiful skirt to the floor. he tells me i won't. i 'll buy you everything there, and suddenly for a second. i understand that i work a lot from morning to night, as all of us and i took and asked him. or maybe my money will be my money, and your money will be our money. he says, can i suddenly understand that, and so it was possible? yes, it could be a beautiful model, sweet

my money. this is my money, your money is our money. my parents live like this and everything is fine. well, if we return to what i talked about earlier, the man agreed to such an adventure, but inside of him something undermines and twists. if there is an internal disagreement, sooner or later, directly or indirectly, it will explode anyway. in my family, i am the earner of the money of my common- law wife. so i don’t see at all, i don’t know how much she earns, where she earns, how she earns. what she spends this money on, i have no idea at all, but when you need, uh , give, uh, money for something, i go, uh, to the safe. e, there open at the top. you know not from the safe, in a previous marriage. she knew. what is the model of the

family budget, the most correct total 50-50 capsule together with an extra stash. and maybe separate let's find out everyone should feel their financial independence from each other and at the same time the whole family, then it should be partially shared at the moment. i'm on maternity leave. so we finance in such a way that it turns out that my husband never gives about it, to be honest, i have never thought about it, in general, the budget needs money. take everyone knows together it doesn’t matter who is bigger, who is smaller , it shouldn’t be such that the wife has her own wallet, we already have our own, and then i think that this is not a family, the husband is already the head, the husband is our head. we all come from a parental wallet. the main strategy is no money. a man is a half-wit or a husband is a miser,

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arrived here in minsk, there is silence. calmness, uh, and the weather is good. foreigners are very friends about life in belarus. they are always there, and they helped me a lot, and they are of great character. i feel very comfortable, sometimes i read my peoples, as i have already got used to. eh, not customary at all. see in the program a look at belarus on belarus 24 tv channel. in this show, athletes you have to relax your muscles and tighten your brain. what is the abbreviation for international football federation? alexander is fifa fifa of course my friends who are surprised? you believe in yourself today, confident in your sports knowledge. i'm sure an intellectually entertaining project.

heading is very fun and fervent, because we, in principle, all liberated people, went. watch on belarus 24 tv channel. if you want to deal with finances, the first thing to do is remember the message and attitudes of your parents. the fact is that our psyche in any situation tries not to strain, saves energy, most of the processes take place outside our consciousness, respectively, it is easier for us to copy the money scenario. kinda, their beliefs to stay on the old stable tracks, rather than trying something new than before. talks about money begin, the

easier and easier it will be to talk about it. you just understand when you ask questions. like yours in your family. mom and dad kept money, and how they talked about it. we can sometimes find out that a person is carrying a projection about money from previous of their childhood experiences. and if mom and dad didn't talk about it. and if the son really had to either beg or, you know, from such a trick, he took it from his father and took it from his mother, put two pockets and went and said nothing. now, if such a cunning, uh, financial, has already arisen from those times, then he will bring this model to his own family. here it is necessary or prestige to say that we will not be like this and adapt to this, your main monetary strategy. she what money love account? money must work money in order to live or money needs to be saved, the main strategy is no money. they are always missing. but nevertheless, i always say something from life for me, the main

money strategy is that my children do not need anything, i want to buy an apartment there, so that my daughter then my son will grow up, he will need to buy an apartment or a house, of course, wants to make money on his own. i don't know if it will work or not. maybe it was me who was spurred on by the fact that we lived in a lack of striving for heights to earn money. maybe i'm doing it wrong. you should not buy, let them all give themselves to spare no money, but you need to boldly. spending a living on a song on an arrangement on a costume for children for grandchildren for a beloved woman for a holiday abroad for a beautiful life, but in order to live beautifully. you need to work very, very hard, which is what capricorn sasha solodukha does to get a negative monetary installation that was not completed once upon a time

sincerely gestalt i. naturally, i don’t even try with my counterparts, then i didn’t succeed in in my captain's, such a concept as a person with delayed happiness, when any vacation purchases are postponed for later, correlates with the model of parent-child relationships. if yes, is it easy to deal with it on your own. i think that it will be very difficult to do it yourself, firstly, because we have a conviction from our parents that money is evil. money spoils a person being rich does not mean happy, and therefore, in order to build your own useful beliefs, you need to spend a lot of time. secondly, many parents, including mine lived with delayed happiness syndrome. for example, my mother, when she had enough money to buy herself what she really wants, she didn't do it. she set aside money in a jar until better times. i respect the choice of my parents,

but for myself decide differently. believe me, you can earn and spend money with joy and without guilt, any woman who talks all the time, then a large normal bed and, in a normal orthopedic mattress, we will tolerate tightening the belt, then we will rest. let's work more now all in all, such men drive themselves into dolyachek, and we see that the bald cub appeared, the knees hurt, the back takes on a lot of stress. and if you don’t skip one-tenth, don’t buy something luxurious, delicious, then money tends to stop, in general, for a long time it was very correct to call it somehow. well, i saved money. i was afraid they wouldn't. i've earned, because we will not spend. uh, let it be on the account or there i don’t know at home on personal. we won’t make any big purchases, and then i somehow changed everything, it. i'm making money right now. i think, yes, and how, but why do i earn in order to live well, well, how would i need money for what in order

to spend it, so i don’t know there, 2 weeks ago i went i had some kind of that's a big amount of money. i think i want a mercedes car, i think. well, now i'll take everything and go and spend it. yes, and figs went with him and bought himself a mercedes. the main thing is that the purchase should not be impulsive dictated. that, again, this happens at an unconscious level, that money needs to be disposed of the brain, of course, will always give a rational reason why i did it, but basically they may lie a completely different feeling . that's a shame, in general, having money money is bad and maybe, uh, it can be. that's just such beliefs that are broadcast either by society, or most often by the family. well, we often come across

such beliefs. there is rich. this is a thief money - this is evil, the second - it may be fear, if in the family, uh, were repried dispossessed there, uh, planted for money. even if it somehow contradicted the law there, then at that time and so on. it doesn't matter if we want it or not. it 's called a skeleton in the closet. such a family history, which directly or indirectly from generation to generation will be different, but transmitted, the third reason is hunger. in the anamnesis in childhood there or somewhere else? well, some kind of financial famine. and then, finally, the dam broke. let me give you some advice. if you dreamed of something strong as a child, well, round off barbie with a designer, and a radio-controlled helicopter satisfy this need. play at home.

close gestalt as yaroslav sumishevsky did, it was 2000, when i graduated from school i entered a college, i was asked to speak at the election campaign, then i still lived when i was on sakhalin. i even remember exactly the amount it was 700 rubles. i got for it i really liked bananas. but it was very difficult to buy them, uh, in my small town in the miner's shop, they were brought and so on once a year, maybe even green. and i really wanted to eat bananas, and i earned spent on bananas. i bought myself bananas and ate along. as soon as the couple begins to openly discuss money matters without hysterics, mutual claims. there are a lot of other things going on in life as well. the sooner you manage to build a mechanism suitable for your family, the better. our money

was put in an iron jar from under the halva of the bank lying in the sideboard drawer. who needs it takes. that's all. like this. how else, and not what he put, and then who is there? mom took it, and where is the money, but there was no such money. that is money is always in the bank. and if only they are not postponed for some kind of purchase, if they are planning to buy something big there, yes, a refrigerator or some kind of tv, there is something like a tape recorder, then yes, my mother put aside the required amount in her purse , it was such a white bag. there were all the documents, the bag lay in encryption in my mother’s tight closet. now, if there was money there, it means that this is money set aside for some major purchase, they are inviolable. and the fact that the bank uses it all. the main thing in such a model is not to go overboard with

the level of claims, when requests are higher than possible, i want to put in a handbag of a well-known brand, like natalia vodianova, i want to want and right now there will be enough money from the bank secretary of the safe. and then what is needed here is to be honest, not selfish, and another situation is when resources and opportunities are opposite. is and your level of claims of gifts of rest in development are not taken into account and so on. in general, a person is widely tenacious, he can afford it. if he has such an opportunity, and a greedy man who lives next to a woman, uh, i don’t think that with any situations. he can get along with her, because a woman requires attention, a woman requires. eh, a woman does not require gifts for comfort. and uh,

it's supposed to be a woman gives they always a woman feel. uh, how generous a man is, open or he is such a box, and that always ends badly in sexual relationships finances. intimacy has a direct connection. and there will be all sorts of different ones, ranging from such traditional habitual headaches to psychosomatic symptoms, when there is resistance to intimacy. such strong, that if it is not possible to legalize the action with them or verbally with words, then the psyche and somatics will take on this task, and then a psychosomatic symptom can somehow be organized. well, some kind of gynecological disease, for example, which well , i'm completely sorry. now i just can't get close to you yet, or there

are some other sores all sorts of different ones, these are not jokes. if your partner, by the way, is not only about men, otherwise today we are all of them well, about women, if a partner thinks scarcely controls every penny, he arranges a scandal because of which he devalues ​​with or without reason. i. by the way, there is an explanation, for example, working on an equal footing with a man and a woman releases a lot of masculine energy. she is not able to be a soft cat to maintain her femininity at the proper level, you need to sit down at the negotiating table. if something does not suit you, be sure to talk, without tears, without anguish, without hysteria. write in advance on a piece of paper. what do you want to talk about, where is the main pain of the claim, what's wrong? what if you're afraid to speak? write a letter to your loved one. call him by the name that was called in the most romantic

time and write i am worried about such and such an issue. i'm uncomfortable with this. let 's try to have a normal conversation. i don't want to swear. uh, no manipulation. it is not a means of achieving peace in the home. i want me not to think inside my head that i didn’t pile up insults there in piles inside. i want you to be open with each other and talk about how we want to go on, to build relationships. sometimes a man gives a car and a woman calms down or re-registers a one-room apartment for her, and she exhales. he says i love you. what are you frozen? why are you scared? and there you are such a provocation adjustable and with this so that she at least a little understands what she will get, if suddenly this person wants to go there to the left, right , up, down to the garage of another woman to her mother from her. uh, sometimes it's different, it's just not impossible to understand, uh, what will you get if you will to part so that all this is all so

mutual understanding. i think it's the perfect relationship. e in the family, when after all the bodies they go in one direction. any situation that happens in our life is not bad, it is not good in itself, and only one thing depends on being able to discern and use the chances that we have taken off to understand.