right according to the scripts , olga shpilevskaya, the chairman of the belarusian union of women and dmitry shevtsov, the general secretary of the belarusian red cross society, are visiting our studio today, today is an extremely pleasant occasion to meet, and the country is hosting a week of parental love, but it seems to me that this is like with any other holidays victory day independence day parental love is such an eternal concept and children, probably, always need it. and how modern are parents now? parents who are chasing career earnings able to find time. and in general, let's take this most anything, there is love. children, you can definitely chase it, you can not be at home for a career, even 24 hours a day, but you need to love the child unconditionally, because the child feels the parent's love very much. love does not mean that mom should hold him by the hand. there 24 hours a day. this means that he must understand that he is unconditional, but immersed in this parental love, and then he will open himself to his parents, and then he will to answer them the same then he will feel protected, and therefore, it seems to me, despite the modern conditions, despite the fact that we all

run, no one canceled parental love, even, maybe, it is necessary. you need to triple it, probably, that's just in this situation, when, well, really. our children need our love more than ever last year, and a new holiday has been legalized in belarus. where are they father, how much he is in demand always tells you that mom is the main person in life, how important in general how much our society is ready for such a holiday. well, you know, if it was introduced, then society is ready, of course, for this holiday. i treat him absolutely calmly and inertly. and there is well, good. yes, i, to be honest, somehow you don’t even forget your workload. what are holidays, because hmm, thank god, but we don’t have that gender equality, that is, the degree to which they are trying to position it in the west, and therefore we men are used to giving a holiday to a woman, therefore. here,

when there is, when there is march 8, a holiday, when there is, uh mother's day - this is a holiday in fact , when we always congratulate women not only on these holidays. but this is especially when you give flowers, congratulate your colleagues. this , probably, gives real men more pleasure than just celebrating father's day . i don’t even know, i’ll add that it’s good that he doesn’t have this gender equality, you said it right, therefore, in our women, they give love to men, and why do i need what exactly according to initiative of the belarusian union of women, namely, we became the initiator for us to have such a holiday. father's day continues like this, really i wanted, like, uh, something to give you thanks, what happened, in the end it turned out such a week of parental love worries that starts with the mother ends with the father in fact, right because ah, there is no holiday. this does not mean that we must have it there. celebrate everything, right? eh, that's it,

you said it right, eh, we have a very a good, parental week, when mom starts and ends with dad, and we understand that the family in the republic of belarus is in fact, as it is written in the constitution, the union between a man and a woman. this is the most important thing, of course, i am the fruit of society, well, a cell of society. now we have touched upon the topic of gender equality, inequality, the traditional values ​​of the republic of belarus are certainly supported, but, nevertheless, there is still an influence. yes, some other values. and what do you think, has it shifted now? such a stereotype, well, they used to bring up a boy, like cars there are tools. yes girls are dolls there, pink dishes for a boy in autumn have now shifted and is it good that it is shifting? here is the concept that a girl is not only a kitchen children yes a boy is not only prey, as is now with this one. yes, i don’t know, it seems like nothing has

shifted in my family, but i have two sons, so i don’t know how girls are brought up now, but in any case, i have a very big difference of 10 years between children and that the first child me played with boyish toys, and there with toy soldiers. and the same for the second one. we are the same son , despite the fact that the age of informatization has already stepped, far ahead, which is impossible. this is how strictly to divide gender roles, no one divides them. children themselves choose, if he grows up in a normal family, then, probably, he chooses what to play with. if dad is dad, then the son, of course, he loves mom, but wants to be like dad, so he will play with cars from soldiers. i don't know from a gun to run with the guys down the street there or with toy guns to play some games on bicycles to drive knees down. it's all right. children should go through this and

grow normally and actively, and it seems to me that it doesn’t even matter what they play with. true, because boys grow up to be good cooks who are in the kitchen. well, just the gods in the kitchen, who can cope, it is absolutely clear that now, as it were, such an age of progress, when technology facilitates the female lot. yes, because we do not stand there do not clean. uh, on yes and the dishwasher wash, so we have more free time. we can do some other things, or maybe some things that were not typical for a woman before , there is nothing wrong with that , no matter what children play, it is important how they grow up. now, for example, i’m very happy that american cinema, like european animation, is especially leaving our market, and it’s good, because what they show to children now, when transgender people appear there in snow white or there, but there must be some kind of couple gay in any cartoon. i'm not talking about the youth film or anything else, it's something that affects the subcortex. yes, and no matter how we raise children when they are sitting in this. the subcortex is affected and they consider it and they consider it to be

normal, so, i don't want our children to think, this is normal. i want them to understand that we are traditional orthodox people and , uh, so that they soak up the good and kind cartoons that we always watched, yes, the engine from romashkovo is the same. well wait everything whatever, so, well, will we again face criticism that we restrict censorship to imports and so on, for god's sake, let them criticize, if they want to criticize for this, let them criticize. i believe that this is not criticism, recognition 100% agree. and you know, uh, there should always be censorship, but only it should be reasonable censorship. yes, there is no need to reach the level of despotism. here it is impossible. i'm right. and the only way no, well, censorship should always be, because we now understand that e part of the sites, thank god now the developers are not only the country as well . he starts to block, because,

frankly, i'm scared when my child at 6-7 years old gets on the internet, and everything pops up , of course, violence and sex and drugs and everything pops up. now, thank god, this is being blocked, so censorship should always be due to censorship. normal children grow up as normal, respectable people. still does not limit by 100% here is such an aggressive propaganda and western non-traditional family values. and what to do with it? this is the very example that we must set, how to limit and explain to the child that yes. it's there, but it's alien. we are parents and we must explain what is good and what is bad. remember, little son came to his father and asked the baby. what is good and what is bad, that is , we parents always play the role of those people who lay these life guidelines in our children, if parents really love their child. if he is an authority for him, then i not parents for him will be without pre. conventionally, he doesn’t care, so that we don’t try to

invest from him there. from the outside, he will still rely on the opinion of mom or dad, because he believes that they are the main ones in the family. yes, this is them. uh, those from whom they take an example, and therefore here are our correct conversations with them. hmm ban censorship. yes, but, probably, you need to endlessly talk with children, endlessly talk and endlessly explain to them, answer all their questions, endlessly explain. i want to tell you to emphasize the role of grandmothers, because that now i understand for sure that i will be a good grandmother, because my mother was young, and it seems to me that i was not able to invest and explain everything, and now i’m trying somewhere there already, an adult 22-year-old, some daughters to explain things that i didn’t lay down and i for myself i precisely determined that when i have grandchildren, i will not regret not a second of time to explain, to explain, but to show to convince, so that globally some values to lay in them, which then no one can in any way with the words of my mother who uh when? and i asked once. i say, uh, mom, why are there grandchildren yes

, there are my older brothers and sisters? i say why do you love them so much, we were constantly strict . she says, i didn’t understand then how much you need to love, so censorship comes with time - it doesn’t mean a ban, uh, that’s all. taboo this. no. we should, uh, tell the children if this exists, we should tell that there are some non-traditional, and the relationship between the sexes there, and so on there, it is not unnatural. this there is a disease. this is a mental illness, in fact , and these are the things we have to tell. and most importantly, because the child looks at the family, if the family has normal human family values, if in society, and not tolerance of this kind of perversion that exists in everyone, yes, for god's sake, for god's sake, i always say about it, well, no. which is easier to say, i always say that

this is still a mental disorder and illness, so it must be treated, including here, and who wants to imitate. well, for god's sake therefore, e, you know, i always say that if in the family dad or mom, there smokes drink beer, or other alcoholic beverages, then it will be very difficult for the child to tell that it is harmful and convince him, using the example of his beloved parents, that this is normal, so here we must understand that if there are normal relations in the family, if the parents love each other and love the child, then he will naturally understand that such things exist somewhere, but this is unnatural. that's all. we just have to explain correctly to the child, what is it with childhood? well, that's it, they said about the disease, because with regard to the accusation, it is really impossible to be completely intolerant of this, because we will now intimidate everyone and say so. well, you just can't do it. if you're like this even, maybe some kind of complete remember, how would the violence here. well, it's easy for parents to understand that if we notice some

things, well, we notice some inclinations. yes, it is necessary not to say in time that a well is and is. it 's good. this means that this is normal, and we will continue to live like this in the right way . treat the disease in time to notice this and ask for the help of specialists in order to see how this thing can be straightened into normalcy under maximum conditions. you see, therefore, here both teachers and parents should also be very attentive to their children in order to understand some things in time, accept and understand what to do with it, do not give up, do not say that this abnormal should become normal . and in general, yes, i don’t see, yes, or, in general, everyone lives like that in the west and this is generally considered there, the cooler is promoted very aggressively. as far as it is on the normal life of society, but literally pushed by everyone in any case, and they understand that now it is normal to have a traditional family life. you don't nurture values ​​anymore, so they go right through

cartoons through teen movies where it's absolutely normal through uh politics that the child has to choose the gender. who said it? it's definitely something. sorry pervert and mentally ill person, yes, that's it or a group of people, that's why this is aggressive is layered. we know why this is being done. yes , this is done to destroy entire civilizations of entire countries, including entire societies, so this is a long-term policy, so we should not get involved in this. we have normal human values. we talk a lot about them in the new constitution - this is written down and we discussed it with the whole society, thank god. we accepted these things. to the whole team of our country. well, what is, of course, there is no need for any aggression towards these people. yes and absolutely not. and i always say that if it does not concern me, and he likes it or she for god's sake. if they are in life, as you wish, the most

important thing, yes, most importantly, do not layer. it is not necessary for me that the minority be absolutely aggressive. after all, i don’t tell on every corner, uh, about mine. eh, family values ​​i don’t go with a poster, i don’t go there, i don’t tell, i don’t position. they are at work nowhere, so live a normal life. your free time is your free time. and how do you feel better? this is how you live. most importantly, do not broadcast it to society and you don’t have to make yourself into something. yes , you don’t have to plant yourself into some kind of incomprehensible marator, that since i’m like that, probably everyone, but somewhere they discriminate against god for the sake of live and work together with everyone.

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we were just talking about ideal families, where parents love each other, parents love children, but in belarus the problem of divorce is probably one, and in the family business, one of the most acute and in fact very often collapses. this is the same connection when a child communicates with parents, yes, adults turn on different techniques, and manipulations, and so on. but as hold on, how to solve this problem? in general, is it possible to solve this problem, but in general, adults should understand that divorce and a child should understand that divorce is not a process of depriving him of parental love, there are a lot of examples when people get divorced, but at the same time they remain great relationship with children. and the father is in the family and the mother is in the family. yes, they do not live together, so there

were circumstances, it happens differently. yes, or maybe it's for the best, because we remember when people often saved families. eh, well as if for the sake of it being full-fledged and at that time they beat each other there, threw tantrums there and it’s not clear, then where is the child morally, huh? is it easier to grow and is it good? yes? here it is important that parents do. it is deliberately careful not to harm your children. and i will say that i, for example, also got divorced very early, my child was 5 years old, but she was not deprived, neither father nor mother, a bad word about my father never sounded from my mustache, because, well, as it were it was my decision and his was the decision that we kind of parting, so here. it seems to me that it all depends on how wise adults are, how carefully they treat their child, how much they love him and how much they understand, how important it is for a child, and to grow up in exactly the parental unfortunately, not everyone understands this, maybe the state needs it, i don’t know some kind of program. and how is it. how to

make a person happy? what law to write? what program to create? yes, people have different characters, they seem to live in such love, such a married couple, gorgeous and baby. everything is good with them, then they found some kind of scythe on a stone, but they don’t get divorced. right down to cutting the tv. yes you look at these things. you understand that those people have become each other, just some kind of natural enemies of the savages, and then the manipulation of the child begins. i won't give you a child. you won't see him at all. uh, at best , 2 hours there on the weekend, you can do something better for someone, but the child will grow up, he will understand that he was artificially limited in his father's love. yes, the family broke up used, and then he nothing good will come of it. maybe he will even say these things to his mother someday, so we must understand that you said it right. yes remain in everything people did not work out for you love, stay, just good friends. and most importantly, never

polish a child, the child must understand that his mother loves him or his father also loves him, sometimes families need the help of a competent psychologist to discuss so that they understand what this situation is, even if the psychologist does not help save the marriage, then in all cases, he will make sure that these people remain good friends for a long time and continue to communicate. even having it other families. i 'll add more. i want all adults with you. just respect the rights of the child. we must understand that a child is not our property, not our toy, it is a person with his own rights and this person has. let even a little one have the right to have the same mother's love and father's love. if you want your rights to be respected when you get older, your children respect the rights of the child. in this case, again, there is a second side here, juvenile justice, which is so developed in europe and which they also tried on us, but hmm i won’t say what to impose, but suggest we call it as much as we

need it, you know, well, i want tell you hmm from my point of view, not a lawyer, i immediately tell the doctor - this is nonsense. eh why? because, in our country, a slightly different, uh, path has been chosen. we have a state to protect the rights of the child. we have such a thing as children left without parental care, who, uh, takes care of states. children are in a socially dangerous position when the state knows that there are families that need to be reviewed and looked after by the social security police, teachers and doctors. all over the world. we are looking. yes, this is, probably, juvenile justice, when we take care of the whole world about a child. they are what dad or mom gave a belt to a child because he is not good, but you know used this very authoritative method. and i

experienced a very short method of presenting information on myself. eh, the same sometimes. necessary i don’t use it anymore, but, but i used it on children, you understand, there’s nothing wrong with that, because the child must understand that he did badly, he will be punished and it’s not necessary to beat him , but to explain. yes, well, if you need to take it by the ear, pat it there or there, figuratively speaking, that's the most important thing. we must understand that we will do it. and as a censure of the act that he did not in order to beat him up, so that this child would be physically hurt, but, but we collide, especially in the united states and in europe, including me, mom and dad scolded me, or there is a manipulation to understand when the child understands that they don’t buy something, they don’t give him, and he starts. yes, and he begins to manipulate

his parents. i will call now, i will say that you are beating me, the police will come and take me away. the child himself does not understand these things, but he does not return to this family anymore, and he went on to foster families. so you tell me where this child is better in his natural family, where his mother gave birth? yes, where they were connected together with the placenta by the umbilical cord. yes, where dad, together with childhood, did not sleep at night, helped raise this child. yes, he is somewhere, maybe there either mom or dad went a little too far in terms of punishment or something else, or censure or a new family that just took this child like a kitten, how they will raise him there, what he will be raised by a child, then, uh, receives severe psychological trauma, which, among other things, are revealed in those facts when he then eighteen years old comes to school and makes a colossal tragedy of human casualties. these are also the consequences of these things, a deep

psychological trauma, i agree in general, but as far as justice is concerned, there is such a moment. after all, they are withdrawn not only from uh, families that lead a social way of life. there is also an item for low-income families, that is, imagine from low- income, families of perfectly healthy families, from which children are taken away from a good mother and father for subsequent transfer to prosperous families, in general thus the institution of the family is destroyed. in my opinion. yes, when a child is not attached to a family, when he understands that he can grow up here and there and somewhere else, and these children who are not attached to a family, who do not have, but in the face of mom and dad, uh, people whom they trust unconditionally. yes, they become so very, but manipulated, because they do not have authorities. they have the authority of all the adults who raised them at one time or another. and in general they become without authority. and then they lend themselves very well. manipulation, so here is such a moment and at the same time. here, juvenile justice is good, but in the united states, in some states, the death penalty for minors is retained. they

can go to jail for life. we do n't have that. even, in principle, yes, so here, well, it seems to me that we have some of our traditional moments. i also say no lawyer. and as a person who looks from the outside, they must be adhered to, we do not need to plant something from the outside that is, as it were, traditionally unacceptable to us. we are we talked about the fact that we are raising children who need it all over the world, we are helping the social intimate state. but this is the trend for us to have many children, which has been for quite a long time. it is going on now or we are crying to the europeans. this is the decline in the birth rate. in general, they have already talked a lot, probably about the fact that benefits support for families with many children are not in everyone, but in some cases it plays a completely different role. yes, that is, the opposite. i give birth, there on the fourth fifth i will get an apartment, agree such cases, after all, there are also large families from large ones in this bad. so that's the bad thing about it, if the family understands that they can't save money in order to get an apartment

to buy an apartment, yes, they give birth to a third child there. the fourth child gets an apartment. yes, yes, it provides benefits to the state, and they understand that they have one problem. one of the most important problems has become smaller. they have blood over their heads. and what's wrong with that is absolutely normal understand? i myself am from a large family. i am the fourth in the family. yes, even before it was absolutely normal and absolutely ordinary, but then it was the 20th century. now the 21st century is urbanization, and it-technologies are the internet and e, now, of course, stereotypes have changed. now. uh, all or a similar number of people have a career in the first place, so we, according to statistics, e note that the first marriages became late, and the first children became later. yes, there the birth of a second child already over 30 is far from it. yes, which has

never happened before. and the level of education is completely different. and the ambitions are completely different and life dictates these things, therefore, naturally, one or two children, but still. we see that there are absolutely sufficient families who have a business there or occupy some responsible positions. and they have three four children and five children already, three of them are not having many children, somehow they are gone. well, for me. this is a large three children - this is actually a great feat. and most importantly from the point of view. uh, statistics - it's not depopulation. this, on the contrary, is the development of step forward. that is, there is already a replacement of generations, because two children are not reproduction yes, this simplicity is in place. and one child is the opposite, a rollback. yes , therefore, we must, and the state is doing a lot. why not? this is how we encourage. yes, please express children. there are three, four

five. there's as much as you want. how much health will allow you? and, uh, desire, well, the state takes care of you and a lot, and the parental captain has this children's capital, and uh, support for families and support for these children and those with many children, including the state, stimulate yes. uh, paternity leave yes, and uh, maternity leave, including to take care of a child there, anyone can go and dad and mom, that is, the state supports all these things and do not be shy about it, some say yes. for the sake of the apartment, we are such thank god and thank god, so i absolutely agree about the 21st century. in fact, in the twentieth century there was a cult child of the xxi century. unfortunately our youth. this cult of children is going away. when we created families, we understood that the next step should be the appearance of a child. now young people replace children with cats and dogs. it's true why. because the child binds to the place the child does not give the opportunity to go

somewhere freely to do what we want. well, somehow, all this is turning, that is, a child, they feel these regrets. yes, to some of their, uh, family circumstances. and it has to go. we must change this, because in fact we are then going with you to the fact that our young people will stop giving birth altogether, therefore, the more benefits there are, the more we will this is to say, the more specialists in schools talk about the fact that there is a cult of the family, there is a cult of children, that children are happiness and children. it 's great. they are the children of these obesity. and what, you don’t have to be afraid while you don’t have a home, because many people are postponing. here i am, first there is housing, then a career. well, it doesn’t happen with housing and a career goes away, health goes somewhere, a woman’s native age. he walks strength in order to fully educate these children and give them the necessary attention, so everything is fine on time. thank you very much for a very interesting conversation. i hope that the week of parental love will allow us to look at our families again and make the right decisions. thank you thank you

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