and i'm there, uh, in general, it was little perceived now after the nineties, 2000s and the present. rather, it is a time of individualism that many hmm began to listen to themselves, and to their feelings and awareness of anger. i think it's now, uh, higher than it was then. it is, of course, my personal opinion and the ability to realize and present it now. i think it's an order of magnitude larger, but on the other hand. uh, if we talk about the minuses, he repeatedly observes a picture from the side when the child beats there mother and says some humiliating things. oh , mother looks out of the corner of one eye. well, we allow him to express himself. well the question is here too. uh, how in general here abroad is this a very thin shell, which, unfortunately, is not always paid attention to is

ignored . what we were taught. don't show your emotions. be simpler, do people reach out to you, smile at all circumstances, no matter what stand on tiptoe on pointe shoes, jump up in front of others and only then will you achieve your goal today a different approach. now, too, for the last one and a half to two years, psychologists have come to the conclusion that they should fight with anger. you don’t need to say hello to her inside yourself to feel. i got angry at something to piss me off in the literal sense and say, hello anger and then you need to think why i got angry, because there are a lot of options, maybe it's the adrenal glands or the thyroid gland. how many women

say that i'm anxious or angry, yes everybody knows. women's menopause, that this time is such a turbulent, maybe it was silent once it was silent, the second time, the third fourth, and for the fifth time, such a breakthrough happens, the dam of prohibitions opens and the person speaks in plain text everything that he thinks at this moment, if you that you ate too much henbane , you are such a well-mannered woman, you never allowed yourself to talk to us in a similar tone, but very often right at this second, when a person burst through, they finally hear anger in a good way - it's like a marker. that is, if anger is something for me this is a signal, either my needs are frustrated, or on my border, someone, uh, climbed in and so on. i can do something about it. to regulate, i can say, you climbed on my borders, move over, and they want it that way or i want it. this is what bothers me. and when there is an opportunity to agree to find a

solution, therefore, well, i would consider anger any emotion, any emotion, it lasts well, if you believe in following 11 seconds and then you yourself decide whether you will continue to be in this emotion or not ? then to yourself answered the question. what is the benefit for you to remain in these negative, destructive emotions? why do you e you decide to be in them at all? great? yes, when even here, in fact, we can decide whether we continue to be angry or we go into some kind of constructive story. aggression, anger , irritation, everyone just reacts to them differently depending on the character in this matter , a lot depends, as a rule, angry people react through anger, creative through

adaptation or sublimation, helpless through impotence. all our feelings can live here in three ways. the first way to live, relatively speaking, is to disassemble yourself as a neighbor. you hit him with your anger expressed your anger, the second way is to sublimate and go firewood for a couple of days, each knee, representing a neighbor, this is the problem and the third way to crush. that is, and the neighbor is so bad at me swears. and i'm good. i didn't even answer my mother. i am a very nice person, but with this completely right feeling never do. what happens in this case is a person firewood toxic substances formed from unlived anger remained in the body. the most

effective symptom that my body chose in response to the prohibition of anger and how such a manipulation were sore throats, yes, that is, from the point of view of psychosomatics, sore throats are one of the most common e manifestations of blocked anger, plus there such my body chose such such share manipulation in it. why, when i get sick, they will feel sorry for me, but they pay more attention there. and this. that's how i want, yes outside, there already after adolescence already and a lot years of marriage. and i won’t say that i had an internal prohibition on anger, but i didn’t know what to do with it, how to deal with it, and i didn’t know how to identify it with psychosomatic diseases and the level of a heart attack. it's a stroke to talk about this directly, because do not celebrate anger is what leads sir. vascular diseases

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warning for a person, how to express this emotion in an environmentally friendly way? let's deal with it again in order to deal with anger needs to be understood, why now our inner mechanism, the unconscious, threw it to us, it hurts us, they don’t hear us. uh, we are in some kind of confusion or trying to achieve some goal. it 's completely different. anger. we greet and understand. so why did you come further in what condition? i'm better at getting things done. i will now speak in raised tones, or vice versa. now i’ll cry or sit on the couch , turn on the tv and ignore everyone, or vice versa, turn around on my heels and run away is also one of the solutions with anger. that is i'm telling you so much right now. what are you saving? yes, i quickly put on my shoes, put on my coat and ran three circles around the house, thought it over and returned, too . i need to breathe in four counts, which

means that by the square i call this breathing according to the waltz. that is, we breathe once, two three subsided, count 1 2 3 in a pause, exhale again 1 2 3 subsided and 1 2 3 exhale literally 1-2 minutes of a resting waltz and you suddenly understand thoughts have become in order. i understood what to do, because most often a person gets angry when it’s not for him. well, i'm not in vain mentioned about forging firewood. that is, as soon as we are angry at something, we have a lot of energy and we can do anything. well, for example, i don’t know, but out of anger, it ’s conditional to always write such cases for work. when everything already seems to be late, in short, there are many such, when energy is added, we do much more than on our own. yes he you know

some women who are angry make him generally fine with him. what do you do when you're angry? i'm here when i'm angry, i walk or sit down and write posts, because just like me, like any public person, i have to be represented somewhere. and i don't like their posad when you're angry. are you sure any coach will say sports anger is military anger, completely different neurotransmitters work without it. that is, there are people who are afraid and worried. yes, adrenaline works for them, it turns white, they lose consciousness when they are wet and there are people who are angry; they work for them, but they turn red. they jump out from behind the trenches, screaming. hooray. these are completely different people and sometimes anger needs to be invited to your life. so that, like a cat, leopold was given about animals, so that he could

disperse all the mice around him. better mice than close ones, unfortunately, they are an ideal object in order to merge the negative more often than others fall under a hot hand. why because it's safe and we know they'll forgive, so we let it happen. we do not allow, when we are angry, to approach the boss and say, oh, you are such a time if we are our job. that directly depends on it. yes, you realize, despite the fact that you have anger there, anger is still some emotions that you can here. but here you can't. it is possible for her relatives, so here are the methods, and in healthy families there are certain agreements, sergey stop the words so stop. i am very angry now. i'm afraid to say bad things to you now, give me time. yes, i'll calm down now, and i'll come to you myself. we will continue the conversation. it could be anything. you can agree in advance in a calm state what it can be, or it happens that you get

so angry that you forget about all the stop words or suddenly emotions flooded in then if he spouse or he tells me, yes, now i'm right here. right here you are, you're annoying me. and this is not good. i know that i love you. but at the moment, this feeling, i feel and i don’t want to tell you. ah, bad words. i 'll regret it later. give me time, a good exercise, which is often used in the same gestalt approach , to imagine an empty table that another person is there and tell him everything that you think about this bad person. now, if there is no possibility, well, at least, it is necessary tell other people that you are in that state. so that others know that now you are not such a fact that they will hear, perhaps they are in such a state, so here it is how it will turn out, but at least you can do it for this. everything and sometimes you already

understand without words? what do you need just like in a fairy tale? yes , first get drunk feed yes, go to sleep put it to bed in general will be gorgeous. and if he had not yet fallen asleep, while here is a woman. maybe everything, if we have a mood, and then he will tell you everything and show you what hurry up the fuss. no need to breed. everything will be alright way to do a few squats until you get out of breath at the moment when here we start to use our time normally. did a few squats. in every sense. children's aggression you used to be the same. it's just that we didn't have mobile phones to record it all well. here they are

very cruelly offended. how bullying manifests itself there were fights and i fought. these moments, of course, well, somehow with horror, more than that remember. i want to. i sat with my eyes downcast and could not say a word important to know. here , according to us, the soul only wins over good with evil, that good people do not get angry and natalia's knots, all the channel people of our parents also taught. as a result, many of us do not know how to get angry properly. natasha, the generation of the nineties is considered to be the traumatized generation; today's teenagers are kinder or

angrier, in your opinion from your professional point of view unequivocally. we are now facing a lot of bullying at school. they became angrier to each other, children, opened their mouths and began to tell their parents the truth, which was previously not allowed in any way to this truth. and not everyone knows what to do with it. most often, they used to take a belt and the desire to tell this truth was gone, but now they don’t punish with physical punishment. this is not acceptable from a pedagogical point of view. nobody can not parents. nobody can't. it’s like, a creature, god’s yes, that is, you need to somehow convey it in this way, if the child doesn’t hear my mother talking to me and the parents go to read now textbooks and watch all sorts of videos on how to educate your own. it’s because, firstly, not everyone is in an adequate state, there are a lot of illegal drugs even at school, and we are faced with the fact that our children

from wonderful families can afford them both alcohol and energy drinks and more of something that really puts off mental imprint. and now there are a lot of children. e confident in their abilities. that is, especially for well-fed wealthy parents. they're already, well, just losing the trumps don't understand, they're chasing on high speed down the street, they are nebraska related to the older generation, there are no authorities. i, if we had films about heroes in our time, yes, that is, we, uh, respectfully treated some kind of idol, it was a happiness for us to meet an astronaut who would tell something there, but our generation. sorry heroes. no, well, very few films are not engaged, well, the prevention of anger. and you? say sergey and compared with the nineties, when there was more teenage aggression. you know

, i mostly work with adults, but sometimes i have to work with children and plus i have my own children. well, i wouldn't say that they are very cruel, it's hard for me. i did not compare, to be honest, well , to notice that something like this is happening with today's youth. i would not say that before, everything was the same. we just didn't have mobile phones to record it all. now i'm sick on such a scale and, uh, this psychological pressure on the victim is so great, because everything is fixed. you see, this humiliation, which can be scrolled day after day to blackmail and so on and so on before it was not. previously, it was possible to leave from some environment there. yes, somewhere there he spent the summer and did not meet his tormentors. all of us have experienced bullying with offensive remarks in

school in one way or another. disrespectful relationships and even bullying and boycotts i communicate with my heroes. that's what i noticed, i'll even ask for time. it was very difficult for them to remember the emotions they experienced, some even had connections, in principle, not surprisingly. i i met studies that said that the consequences of serious child mobbing are comparable, sometimes even more severe, to the consequences arising from domestic violence , all stories, of course, will not get on the air. there are many of them, but with some of them i painted a girl of the eastern plan. she is now jewish then. it was a total disaster. uh, an insult with the name of the patient's last name, when mirzoeva was in the class, it was already just such a transitional age, the fifth grade, moscow, as it were, was transferred to work. i am because the person is so bright. they did

n’t just poison me, even the girls began to wait, and well, there were fights and i fought. and i had a difficult relationship not with my mother. that's what i was exactly because of what was going on in school i. i took pills and wanted to die. i drank a bunch of my grandmother's sleeping pills, they pumped me out for a very long time, not because of love and unhappiness, but because of relationships at school, when i was bullied by psychologist teachers. and right here, everything is so close, well, there is no mother, no matter how much you would like to, anyway, there is this plan, because she wasn't on my side. they arranged for me to boycott everything at the graduation party, in the use of the current use, the final exams at school then were after the tenth grade. yes , only one boy, when no one saw him, he talks to me, yurka secretly in love with me but in front of everyone, of course, they can also

begin for various reasons from differences from the desire to assert their authoritative effect , too, no one canceled, without explanation, without talking without adult support for the child. it 's hard to deal with this here there are several girls there, and one boy here they are strong enough. well, rather, he moved away, probably because of fear, so that i would not get it. and now i remember these moments, of course, well, somehow with horror and pain i remember all this, how can i even admit that this could happen vera and you were subjected to bullying ? yes, i was very plump, but i didn’t know how to wrap myself in the right clothes somehow, very quickly. i

grew up very quickly. this game came to me directly, these are all i have a big size. legs immediately my leg grew right away, and then in the soviet union it was impossible not to buy anything. no, it's just that it was hard to get dressed, that's all. bye. here, well, this iron curtain, which the children, of course, did not open. now, uh, they hurt very badly. me when i was in the fifth grade and the teacher left the class. i was in the first row. we have two girls there, conditional such leaders, stood in front of me and in front of the whole class, began to wet me, that is, to poison me. e, there, er, as far as possible, and they they don’t directly choose the words they said, what kind of i was sitting lower it in your eyes. this is where i want to cry. i sat with my eyes downcast. and i could not say a word, and that is, there was silence at the box office, everyone was listening very attentively.