margarita if you were once told that you would be a mother of many children, you would believe yes, i believed, because my husband and i always wanted a big family. the only thing that i, of course, did not think or dreamed that the family would be so big.

my guest is a mother of many children, she raised 48 children, for all this arithmetic, a long life of sleepless nights, experiences of tears. and, of course, boundless love without her, nothing would have happened. my parents are the educator of the family home, like a mother by vocation, margarita kundikova. margarita good morning. you raised 48 children. i didn't confuse anything. the figures were slightly wrong already in the family of 50 children. that is, in the fall we took two kids. a girl who was abandoned by the former guardians of six years and a boy of four

more. and how many children do you have now 10 children? yes, this is already a dream comer. it's just that every uh year someone graduates me. last year. the boy entered minsk to study as a teacher of labor and drawing, and this year he will be a thirteenth grader. these are the kids that i took babies, all three and two ninth graders. wow, what's your age gap? how do you manage? how many of you have lived all the time, so to speak, probably in such families as mine to properly educate the first generation. and then, um, they somehow look at each other and help each other. not only are my children very friendly, but you are more than once , grandma, how many grandchildren you will have, too , 35. and in general, i think, probably,

the most important thing in my life is not what kind of children i raised, as how children for myself. namely, what i raised mom and dad for their kids? well , in my opinion, they grew up wonderful mothers. and where did it all begin? how did you decide to have your first adopted child? i was on the courses in the courses of managers. and we were taken to an orphanage, that is, i am dysfunctional children, although before that i had already worked for 10 years in a kindergarten. well, there was no such concentration , such a childish pain, the pain was the usual normal family. i didn't have to. uh, my teaching activities meet precisely with such children, and somewhere through there was a telethon for six months. the first one was the soviet union and about orphans about how they live, uh, in orphanages, boarding schools, orphanages

. and then the children's fund. it was just 35 years ago that such a form of education appeared, the family orphanage, it was all so new. i oh, no matter what kind of children i take. uh, when they say how many children you have left the family, they don't come out like that. they remain with me, that is, we remain a family for them. and someone is closer to us, but you know that when they usually say, here they should that's all here to come everything that was. that's how it is in the native in the native family. i always say, i did not take children for myself. i took children for children to help them get settled in life. you need to be realistic one child immediately gets used to the other very hard to endure. especially children. because i have different ones. parents just tragically died. uh, someone left in the maternity hospital. he did not know the family at all,

so the children are different for each child, a different approach is needed. and for me the main thing is not what will be. he gives me there to rush to me into an embrace. for me, the main thing is that he is not lost in this life, so that he can find his place in this life. margarita is your husband. uh, always kept you conspiratorial about everything, huh? i have the best spouse in the world, because, well, first of all, we have been together since childhood, i was 13 years old, he was 16 years old and since then. this year it was 43 years old. uh, officially how we got married and 48 years old, how we are just friends next to each other, so without him, probably, there would not be such a family. he has golden hands. he can make any repairs, he profession builder therefore taught the boys everything. now you have a lot of parenting experience. that's when you started

it must have been very difficult, but what was the most difficult? because of what the most tears were shed, it was difficult in general to start not so much education there. how much the soviet union developed was everything and when there were no cash payments for several months. probably, that's it, if the first years, that's it, it's more. and so, as i did not know what pitfalls are when raising orphans. i i perceived it all, as if the boy was pissing at the age of 16. so, we just got a boy who pissed everything, as it should be, that is, the slim ones had no illusions and were not going to let the child down. to the ideal, invented by me or someone for me. i took the child. that's how he got me so i loved him. with all its shortcomings at all,

but to roar yes, roared into the pillow when something didn’t work out for you. this is what i think, well, like any normal mother, i would like everything to be and be young. well i already have three i had my own children when i took the money. you already had three children. i have worked in kindergarten for 10 years. but, how did the adaptation go, how did your children accept the adoptive ones, there must have been some conflicts of jealousy. well, i'll tell you one case. here, even she was 3 years old, she had pigtails and i brought a girl of six years right from the orphanage. she had a bald cut, almost bald, and here she came to her family. and here the bows are hairpins, all braids. she came at night. well, i just made it. you only cut off one braid of the most therefore, well, that's even

it was so. here is elementary. well, nothing, well, we talked, well, they said that such braids of the daughter would not necessarily grow too, they made a haircut, pigtails, they still lie somewhere around me, of course, that's why, well, they reacted to the receptions in such a way. well, dasha was 3 years old, and the boys were six and five for them, and i took children of the same age on purpose, like them, for them it was a wonderful company where you could play naughty together. here you are to him not very strong friendship is still among themselves, because there are five of them at the same time a man of the same age, only he was a boy. e for about a year, the brother had two sisters. he was different. well, i just collected. families of four, three from

different orphanage boarding schools. eh, all of them, but they were very friendly and played very well together. now, after the summer of 20, it turned out how the cat was parachuted here, only now it turned out, but with all the people it was possible, uh, to establish contact, or still there were those who could not become a member of your large family, let's say that there are children who were very attached to biological parents are very attached and there. well, there were none. that's right. the attitude is like a mother-daughter, there were good friendships. i allow all biological parents to come to come, please communicate, but i believe that normal good

human friendships. they are very expensive. it is not necessary to impose on a child in order to force him to fall in love and love. i just have to clearly understand that this is a child, he has already come with his luggage. especially if the child is already a teenager, why to break it? why impose i'm just a good friend, but there were cases when your adopted children returned, uh, all of their biological parents were a girl. uh, she returned to her biological family to her mother , probably a couple of months before her eighteenth birthday, she is an adult now, for example, there, uh, messing around with them, they make her work and pay. there , for the sake of this, they can even return the children, and there it was just that my mother took a good relationship with her, my adopted children studied with her

children. that's all, so we had common interests about common problems. therefore, well, there was one such case, and what kind of relationship do you have with the biological parents of your children, there is no offense, and we have very good relations with the biological parents. there are parents who have been coming to our house for decades. that is, they do not take the children, because they honestly say, we are afraid to break loose. we do not have such conditions. we can't. e in this vein to educate them and yes, what you can give, i'm afraid to just break loose. and then it was only to you again they will not get. and how then is it wonderful i don't blame anyone. i don't say anything bad about anyone. i'm not up for doing it. as they say, i did not walk in their shoes. i have not been in their life situations happened and you

will not encounter grateful relationships from outside, but close relatives of children. you know, somehow it didn't happen. no, somehow our grandparents and grandparents somehow developed such human relationships, good kind-hearted and biological parents. maybe because i treat them like a human being and never condemned them. wings the door has never set a single child against them, so they see that the children are always open to them with their souls well-groomed , so there was no such thing as saying that you didn’t do it that way. here you are, maybe because i am open to them and my house is open to them.

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it on belarus 24 tv channel. they came to belarus to build their lives and do everything for the development of the country. i am very glad that i have been working in brest for 4 1/2 years. i hope that i will work here for some more time, because the plans are huge and they do not end, they only increase. yes, this is my workplace every day, uh, i come and start cutting my best work myself. uh, the way i see it, that's the job. royal gate, of course, i fell in love with brest with all my heart and soul. i feel at home here. watch in the program a look at belarus on our tv channel. any business needs a system. what is the order in your

family? what time does the day start? who prepares who does the homework with the children, so that the daily routine is systemically necessary, a good day begins with a charge, that is, mom got up , woke everyone up, uh, eat. uh, that's it, for breakfast for dinner, the part prepared from the evening. we have many, many years. every day there is a charge, then after the charge the children have breakfast , put things in order in the house in their rooms and go to school. mom prepares dinner, goes through the rooms, corrects where, what is necessary somewhere from the age of 14, we definitely learn, some have talent. cooking they hard they strive to be included in this process early, yes, that is, by the ninth grade, if

the child enters somewhere, he knows how to fully bake pies, cook any first course, second course, meat dishes by the eleventh will make any seaming. there's already a cake. there's already something complex all sorts. there are all sorts of baking mushrooms in the dough in pots. then we have our own small workshop of four. e sewing machines bed linen, mending it, please, dad's workshop with various. e of the tools with the simplest machines very door to fix the taps, that is, to the release of the child from e, in life. they already have some stock of knowledge and skills. is it true that every day in your family, huh? and dedicated, well , to some area of ​​art, tuesday of the elements, wednesday there is painting. and we also

need every evening every evening it is necessary for my mother to get sick, in general, what was not for this every evening. we read books aloud to every tea party for evening reading, there is always something to bake for tea. for this there is a struggle, who will be at this tea party. and who offers books on children offer one queue, one i, if there is a good film in this book, then we watch the film before that, we read you or dreamed of a story. first read the book and watched the movie discussion. and so we love yes poems, and it's true that you have your own mini-park, who lives there different types of various decorative chickens. their breeds, well, that's all for children, children, we had and still have mostly rural ones, and for

them it was necessary, as i remember, to bring a boy. in winter we took away, and in spring we plowed the ground under the ridges. he so uh, came so bent over and took the earth in his palm. he says, my god, how it smells. at home it smells like grandma smells like this, so this is everything for them, that there is not only a chicken that lays an egg. well, and a peacock, which for beauty and for the soul, and the children bring. e brings homeless animals home. well, we have something with reconnaissance dogs, well, we would have cats, well , we try to attach dogs, then in good hands, because, in my opinion, everyone tries to have their own pet and i say, children. i can't because i can't stand 15 cats. is it true that you have, uh, home theater

, which plays will you win? basically, we do themed birthdays for us, for example, we celebrate every child’s birthday yes, but then for autumn birthdays , e. targets for a frog. the main mother was a frog. the main thing is mom, she participates everywhere. uh, each of us is not just realized, uh, we have new year's new year was greeted by aliens. we met primitive people indians. and now, whoever does not strive, we sew costumes. we're thinking of a scenario. we have actors and actresses. well, if someone at this time has adult children, or someone ran into us from adult friends

, all participants will not pass the focus. if you had come at that moment, you would have jumped with us too . and who is directing these events? well, who is a mother with older children, if very talented children who write poetry write short stories, for their son we sit down. well, mom understands that also knows how to do it a little, so we all sit down together and that's it. we do it margarita what do you do on saturdays? you have weekends and i don't. on saturday you know it's the sixth day. i like how the school works now, how it works now. we usually as soon as some new exposition in the museum. we are usually at the museum, because on sunday there is more preparation for school on monday. we are in the museum, we are on excursions we are in the forest and the children are at various

events at school at night at the museum in a must we go to all exhibitions, that is a day when you do not need to do homework, when you can all get together in the forest to go camping. margarita what principles of upbringing do you adhere to, how strict a mother are you ? what is severity, but a democratic mother, that is, mom can understand mom can let go of the boy. in extreme cases, the boys all sit under the window on a bench. mom periodically yes peeps out. yes, that is, i believe that it should be strictly reasonable love should be reasonable kindness should also

be reasonable everything should be moderately harmonious so that there are no distortions or such suffocating love or suffocating severity. everything should be harmonious, where there should be strictness, where there should be kindness, education should also be flexible. flexible gif ah, how do you encourage kids? what are the impact measures? apply for misdemeanors, and depending on which, of course, yes, well, i can deprive the computer, i can pick up the phone for the punishment to work , the child must know what he is losing, if the child is constantly punished, he will not care. well, all the same, he doesn’t do anything, it’s all the same everything is bad. everything will be punished anyway. therefore, the child should be fine, but this is what is needed, what needs to be done already so that i am already in front of my eyes. and by the way, you were often

called to school for the faults of the children. rarely, but aptly, there are such children who are so fur coats, but the most interesting thing is that the boy who delivered a lot troubles in precisely when at school the teachers constantly called me. we beat there. he is now learning to teach you. he will be the teacher of your older children who are already grown up and have families of their own. is it possible now to maintain the atmosphere of a large friendly family, when everyone takes care of each other, it helps, i think that, after all, basically. it was the family that took place precisely with its such a friendly atmosphere , love, support for each other, that is, older children. they despite the fact that they have their own families, they constantly call and communicate. they come

as far as possible. what professions are they? chosen? what have they become? the profession is completely different, many teachers are psychologists , speech therapists, defectologists. builders, what an important necessary profession girl now studying in medical college in the medical business, uh, veterinarians cooks salesmen. well, here is your son zakhar. he followed in your footsteps. yes, he went and he also has adopted children, adopted children are all and, uh, his wife yulechka is mine. daughter. here is the reception. that's just julia got a profession that now helps me a lot in life in a family with such children. she got she graduated from maksim tank in minsk, she is a speech therapist defectologist. and if the children who

well, grew up, er, left and rarely communicated with you, there are such children who came to us at the age of 17, for example, these are adults, that is, they left. well, the most interesting thing is that they left, and only then by the age of 40. they needed so much family communication when they became mom dads, but this is very little. these are children, mostly, who came to the family very late. there with all my desire to change something. you just can't keep up here, physically, purely in time, the child becomes so, uh, so significant , that is, you, but then it turns out, when time passes, they understand that we were significant in their fate in one of their interviews.

you said that the main principle of your family is that no one owes us anything, what did you mean, i really don’t like it when children are waiting, for someone to give them something, for something, for something they got it for free, that is, we have the principle that every person should build his own future for himself. yes, you can. they can support you once or twice, but in the end you are an adult self-sufficient person and you must achieve everything in life yourself, if such principles are laid down, then life will develop. well, if you constantly look back at what someone owes you, then life will not work out, because it's easy to help a kid when you realize that he still can't do everything there, well, still a teenager, well, you go out into the life of a young man just go out there somewhere support somewhere. well excuse me already. i

i think somewhere after twenty years you take full responsibility for your life. otherwise , it will be up to 40 years old sissies and screaming. everyone owes me it shouldn't be that he would be recommended to prospective adoptive parents. what would you warn them against? the most important thing is to accept the child as he is, do not adjust the child for yourself, do not build illusions, do not adjust him to some standards that you think will be right, love them as they are. and with age, over the years, the negative will be e smooth somewhere the child will understand where you yourself will understand, but the most important thing is to accept the child as he is. if you are not ready to do it, then it is better not to take it. our program is called the meaning of life

for you. what is the meaning of life children you have devoted your life to, it is very difficult for his noble cause of raising children. i wish you health, strength and boundless love. the meaning of margarita kundikova's life our secret is very simple. we just know how to communicate on normal parity relationships to determine our position and develop tools to strengthen our society your ability to communicate your thoughts. this is one more drop that sharpens the stone and which creates

not only the international system, but it shows what it should be in the future, but no external influence. it cannot be productive if there is internal unity, if people are confident in the future, if they have stability to keep. multiply we have our backbone that you have not lost in the nineties. we did not scatter it around, perhaps because we took a specific course objectively, do not miss it on belarus 24 tv channel

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