and already having got into us, it becomes an integral puzzle of life. after all , the secret of music is that it finds an inexhaustible source of expression, where speech is silenced by music instead of a thousand words. margarita if you were once told that

you would be a mother of many children, you would have believed it. yes, i believed it, because my husband and i always wanted a big family. the only thing that i, of course, did not think or dreamed that the family would be so big. my guest is a mother of many children, she raised 48 children for all this with arithmetic, a long life of sleepless nights with tears. and, of course, boundless love without her, nothing would have happened. my parents are the educator of the family home, like a mother by vocation, margarita kundikova. margarita

good morning. you raised 48 children. i didn't confuse anything. the figures were slightly wrong already in the family of 50 children. that is, in the fall we took two kids. a girl who was abandoned by the former guardians of six years and a boy of four more. and how many children do you have now 10 children? yes, this is already a dream comer. just every uh year. me someone enters the graduates. last year. the boy entered minsk to study as a teacher of labor and drawing, and this year he will be a thirteenth grader. these are the children that i took as babies, all three and two ninth-graders. oh, what is your age gap, how do you manage it? how you are missing all the time i lived, so to speak, probably in such

families as mine to properly raise the first generation, and then m-m. they somehow look at each other and help each other. i am very friend. and the children are not only that, but you are more than once, grandmother, how many grandchildren you will have too 35. and in general, i think, probably, the most important thing in my life is not what kind of children i raised, as children for myself. namely, what kind of mother and father i raised for their children, but, in my opinion, they grew up as wonderful mothers and fathers. and how did it all begin? how did you decide to have your first adopted child? i was on the courses on the courses of envious people. and we were taken to an orphanage, that is, i am dysfunctional children, although before that i had already worked for 10 years in a kindergarten. well, there was no

such concentration, such a childhood pain , pain was an ordinary normal family. i'm here to me i didn’t have to meet such children in my pedagogical activity, and somewhere in six months there was a telethon. the first, there was also the soviet union and about orphans about how they live, uh, in orphanages, boarding schools, orphanages. and then the children's fund. it was just 35 years ago that such a form of education appeared, the family orphanage, it was all so new. i would not take any children. uh, when they say how many children of your family you have, they don't come out like that. they stay with me, that is, we stay for them family. and someone is closer to us, but you know that when that's it. usually, here they should be, that's all, that's all that was. that's how it is in the native in the native family. i always say, i

did not take children for myself. i took children for children to help them get settled in life. you need to be realistic one child immediately gets used to the other very hard to endure. especially children. because i have different ones. my parents just died tragically. uh, someone left in the maternity hospital. he didn’t know his family at all, so every child needs different children. different approach. and for me the main thing is not what will happen. he told me there to rush into my arms. for me, the main thing is that he is not lost in this life, so that he can find his place in this life. margarita is your husband. uh, always supported you in everything without talking, right? i have the best spouse in the world, because, well, first of all, we have been together since childhood, i was 13 years old, he was 16 years old and since then. this year it was 43 years, officially, since we

got married and 48 years, as we are just friends together, so without him, probably, so there would be no such family. he has golden hands. he can make any repairs, he is a builder by profession, so he taught the boys everything. now you have a lot of parenting experience. that's when you started it must have been very difficult, but what was the most difficult? because of what the most tears were shed, it was difficult in general to start not so much education there. how much the soviet union developed was everything and when there were no cash payments for several months. probably, that's it, if the first years, that's it, it's more. and since i did not know what are pitfalls in raising orphans. i perceived it all as if

the boy had been pissing for 16 years, which means that we got a simple, pissing boy, that’s how it should be, that is, we didn’t build any illusions and weren’t going to let the child down. to the ideal, invented by me or someone for me. i took the child. that's how he got me so i loved him. with all its shortcomings at all, but to roar yes roared into the pillow when something did not work out. what is it to me shko-nyashka, as any normal mother would like everything would have been young. well, i already had three children of my own when i took the money. you already had three children. i have worked in kindergarten for 10 years. but, how did the adaptation go, how did your children accept the adoptive ones, there must have been some conflicts of jealousy. well, i 'll tell you one case. here, even she was 3 years old, she had pigtails, and i brought a

6-year-old girl right away from the orphanage. she had a bald cut, almost bald, and here she came to her family. and here the bows are hairpins, all braids. she came at night. well, only managed. you only cut off one braid of the most therefore, well, even there was such a thing. here, elementary. well, nothing, well, we talked, well, they said that such braids of the daughter would not necessarily grow too, they made a haircut, pigtails, they still lie somewhere, of course, that's why, well, they accepted, since it seems to me that these reacted in their own way my children. well, dasha was 3 years old, and the boys were six and five for them, and i took children of the same age on purpose, like them, for them it was a wonderful company where you could

play naughty together. you are not a very strong friendship for him until now among themselves, because here there are five of them at the same time of the same age, only a boy would be about a year old, a brother was two sisters. he was different, but that gathered whole families of four and three from different boarding schools of orphanages, uh, all of them, but they were very friendly and played very well together. now, after 20 years, it turned out how the cat was parachuted here, now it turned out, and with all the people , you managed to establish contact, or still there were those who could not become a member of your a large family, let's say, so that there are children who were very attached to their biological parents, very attached there too. well,

there were none. that's it. relationships are like mother -daughter, there were good friendships. i allow all biological parents to come to come, please, yes, communicate, but i believe that normal good human friendships. they are very expensive. it is not necessary to impose on a child in order to force him to fall in love and love. i just have to clearly understand that this is a child, he has already come with his luggage. especially if the child is already a teenager, why break it? why impose i'm just a good friend, but there were cases when your adopted children returned all of their biological parents, i had the only case of a girl, and she returned

to her biological family to her mother, probably a couple of months before her 18th birthday, as an adult it is now, for example, there, uh, fiddling with them there , they force them to work out to pay. there , for the sake of this, they can even return the children, and there it’s just that my mother took me to have a good relationship with her, my adopted children, they studied children. that's all, so we had common interests. oh, common problems. therefore, well , there was one such case, and what kind of relationship do you have with the biological parents of your children, there is no offense, and we have very good relations with the biological parents. there are parents who have been coming to our house for decades. that is, they do not take the children, because they honestly say, we are afraid to break loose. we do not have such conditions. we can't. e, to educate them in this way, and yes,

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establish any business, you need a system. what is the order in your family? what time does the day start? who cooks who does homework with children so that the daily routine is systemically necessary a good day begins charging, that is, mom got up and woke everyone up to eat everything for breakfast for dinner, a part cooked in the evening for us for many, many years. every day there is a charge, then after the charge the children have breakfast and put things in order in the house in their rooms. and he goes to school. mom prepares dinner, goes through the rooms, corrects where. what is necessary, you

have some kind of duty, the medicine will be somewhere from the age of 14, we will definitely study. some people have talent. in cooking , they stubbornly seek to be included in this process. early, yes, that is, by the end of the ninth grade, if the child goes somewhere, he knows how to completely bake pies and cook any first course. the second course, meat dishes by the eleventh will make any seaming. maybe there are cakes. there's already something complex all sorts. there are all sorts of baking mushrooms in the dough in pots. then we have our own small workshop of four. e sewing machine bed linen, fixing it, please, daddy's workshop with various tools. with the simplest hands themselves , repair the door, repair the taps, that is, to releasing a child from e, into life. they already have

some stock of knowledge and skills. and it is true that every day in your family is dedicated to e. well, some area of ​​art, tuesday is the elements, wednesday there is painting. and we also need every evening every evening it is necessary for my mother to get sick, in general, what was not for this every evening. we read books aloud to every tea party for evening reading, there is always something to bake for tea. for this there is a struggle, who will be for this tea. and who offers books in turn, one is offered by the children, one by me, if there is a good movie from this book, which means that we are watching a movie before that, we read it to you and did not dream, that is, we first read it. negu watched the film discussion. and so we love yes poems, and it's true that you have your own mini-park, and who lives there pheasants

of different types, various decorative chickens of various breeds, but that's all for children . we had and still have mostly rural ones, and for them it was necessary, as i remember, they brought a boy. in the winter we took away, and in the spring we plowed up the land of peeps. he's so uh, he came so bent over and took the earth in his palm. he says, my god, how it smells. at home it smells like grandma smells like this, so this is everything for them, that there is not only a chicken that lays an egg. well, and a peacock, which for beauty and for the soul, and the children bring. e home, but brings homeless animals. we have five cats intelligence dogs, well,

we try to attach dogs, then in good hands, because, in my opinion, everyone tries to have their own pet. i say children. i can't because i can't stand 15 cats. and this it's true that you have uh, home theater, what kind of plays do you play? we mainly do themed birthdays for us, for example, we have every child's birthday. great, yes, but then for the autumn traitors, for the spring, for the summer and for the winter, and we, for example, had a fairy tale the frog princess and with her father walked luke carved targets made for a frog. the main thing is mom, the frog was. the main thing is mom, she participates everywhere. uh, each of us is not just realized, uh, we have a new year's new year met by aliens. we met

primitive people indians. and now, whoever does not strive, we sew costumes. we're thinking of a scenario. we have actors and actresses. well, if someone at this time is an adult child, or someone ran to us from friends of adults, everyone participates, it will not pass the trick. if you would come at that moment, you would jump with us too. and who is directing these events? well, who is the mother with older children? there are very talented children who write poetry, write short stories. for them all on we sit down. well, my mother understands that too knows how to do it a little, so we all sit down together and that's it. we do it margarita what do you do on saturdays? you have weekends , i don't. saturday, you know, is the sixth day. i like how

the school works now, how it works now. we usually as soon as some new exposition in the museum we go to the usual museum, because on sunday there is more preparation for school on monday. we are in the museum we are on excursions we are in the forest and the children are on various activities in the school for the night of the museum on a hike. they work for the largest machine-building enterprises of belarus 55. i am not ashamed of my age. i don't look at my age, but i try to work and benefit people , i felt what innovation is in my eyes,

there was a new technique time dictates. uh, move, develop something new , they stop on the spot, it will not be difficult for them to tell about how giants of agricultural machinery are created from scratch, when , uh, components come to us, these are spars. some amplifiers and ramp assembly is yes, a very large adult constructor, and they are being painted there cleaning. this is a beauty salon for the technique project one day, i am very pleased with life , i see a tractor, watch it on belarus 24 tv channel. what did you do? which exploded.

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watch this different on belarus 24 tv channel. margarita what principles of upbringing do you adhere to, how strict a mother should you be ? but with love, so that they understand why this is strict, but a democratic mother, that is, mom can understand, mom can let go to the boy. as a last resort, the boys are all sitting under the window on a bench. mom looks like this from time to time. yes, that is, i believe that it should be strictly reasonable love should be reasonable kindness should also be reasonable everything should be moderately harmonious so that there are no distortions or such suffocating love or suffocating severity. everything should be harmonious, where there should be strictness, where there should be kindness, education should also be flexible. flexible gifs ah, how do you

encourage kids? what are the impact measures? apply for misconduct, and depending on how simple, of course, yes. well, i can deprive the computer. i can pick up the phone so that the punishment works, the child must know what he is losing, if the child is constantly punished, he will not care. well , he won't do anything anyway. it's still bad. everything will be punished anyway. therefore, the child should be fine, but this is what is needed, what needs to be done already so that i am already in front of my eyes. and by the way, you were often called to school for misdemeanors, children. there are children who such it happens, well, the most interesting thing is that the boy, who, uh,

brought a lot of trouble exactly when the teachers were at school, and they constantly called me. we are there now he is studying as a teacher. he will be the teacher of your older children who are already grown up and have families of their own. is it possible now to maintain the atmosphere of a large friendly family, when everyone takes care of each other helps, i think that, after all, it was the family that basically took place precisely with its such a friendly atmosphere , love, support for each other, that is, older children. despite what they have their own families, they constantly call and communicate. they come as far as possible. and what professions did they choose? what have they become? the profession is completely different, many teachers are psychologists , speech therapists, defectologists. builders, what an important

necessary profession girl now studying in medical college in the medical business, uh, veterinarians cooks salesmen. well, here is your son zakhar. he followed in your footsteps. yes, he went to his reception rooms too. children, adopted children, everything and uh, his wife yulechka is mine. daughter. here is the reception. that's just how yulia got profession that i now help a lot in life in a family with such children. she graduated from maxim tank in minsk, she is a speech therapist defectologist. and if the children who well, grew up, er, left and rarely communicated with you, there are such children who came to us at the age of 17. for example, adults, that is, they left. well, the most interesting thing is that they left, and only then by the age of 40. they

needed so much family communication when they became mom dads, but this is very little. these are children, mostly who came to the family too late. there with all my desire to change something. you just don’t have time to become so, so, so significant, purely physically, according to the time period of the child, that is, you, well, then, it turns out, when time passes, they understand that we were significant in their fate in one of their interviews. you said that the main principle of your family is that no one owes us anything, what did you mean, i really don’t like it when children are waiting, for someone to give them something, for something, for something they got it for free, that is, my principle is that each person must build his own

future for himself. yes, you can. they can support you once or twice, but in the end you are an adult self-sufficient person and you must achieve everything in life yourself, if such principles are laid down, then life will develop, well, if you constantly look back at what someone owes you, then life will not add up, because it is easy to help the baby. well, you go out into the life of a young man, you just go out there somewhere support somewhere. well excuse me already. i think somewhere after twenty years you take full responsibility for your life. otherwise, it will be up to 40 years old sissies and screaming. everyone owes me it shouldn't be that he would be advised to foster parents in the future. what would you warn them against? the most important thing is to accept the child as they are, not

to adjust the child.