targeting entire families. a second-degree murder charge has been filed in the case of a 6-year-old boy who disappeared 33 years ago in new york city. police say pedro hernandez has confessed to killing little etan patz. hernandez worked as a stock clerk in the boy's soho neighborhood. and for the first time ever, a private spacecraft has linked up with the international space station. astronauts are removing some 1,000 pounds of supplies over the next few days. the space capsule, called the dragon, was made by a california company called spacex. >> i'm alina cho in for don lemon tonight. wait until you see what we're working on, cnn saturday night, where most shows dare not to go. an army general speaks out about military suicide. is it tough love or has the military turned its back on vets? wanted -- unemployment busting. >> the time has come for a president, a leader who will lead. >> deficit drop-kicking. >> we will finish what we

started. >> seeker of truth and justice. must look good in spandex or a tie. classified double-secret super powers provided upon hire. and fi . >> and fired for being too hot? >> she was working in a show room for women's lingerie where they sold thongs. >> hear from the woman being called a distraction. all right, we're so glad you're with us. this is a holiday weekend, of course, memorial day. so it's so much more than the unofficial start of summer. it's a time we take to remember america's military men and women who aren't with us anymore, those who died while serving our country. so i've invited kim ruacho to join me here tonight, a military spouse and a mom in a military family. you're about to find out why i invited her. kim, welcome tonight. >> thanks for having us. >> and our focus tonight is a really delicate one, the rising number of men and women in

uniform who commit suicide. last year alone, the pentagon says 278 people just in the army, active of duty, national guard and reserves killed themselves. that is way up from a few years ago. then a few months ago, this man, general dana pattard, now a two-star general, a commander of one of the army's biggest bases, ft. bliss in texas, he post ed these words on a blog after a rash of suicides on his base. "i've now come to the conclusion that suicide is an absolutely selfish act." he went on to say, "soldiers who commit suicide leave their families, buddies and units to literally clean up their mess. there is nothing noble about suicide." kim, i told you she's here because of her military family connection. it turns out kim's husband, a marine corps officer, committed suicide back in 2005. kim, i guess before we get on to the details of what happened

with your husband, i just want your reaction to what general pat pattard said. he has retracted his comments, saying he was frustrated at the time. but those comments are out there. what is your reaction? >> yeah, i mean, i was really sad to hear the comment. you know, it's too bad, because if you know about mental health and people who are considering suicide, they are -- the last thing they're thinking about is dumping their baggage. they're really feeling like they are no longer valuable to their unit, they're no longer valuable to their families. they feel like they have nothing left to give and that everyone would believe better off without them. it's a mental health issue and an injury issue, not an issue of selfishness or trying to drop their pack or leave their problems for other people. >> tell me about your husband, john. it's been seven years since he killed himself so tragically. what happened? >> well, you know, it was a combination of trauma and loss and untreated depression.

and in the military so often our men and women are asked to live very are stressful lives with very little sleep. they're separated from their support system, they get exposed to a lot of trauma in their lives, they're asking to sacrifice a lot. and going to seek help is often not seen as a strong thing to do but maybe something that is weak or something that you should avoid. but in my husband's case, when he started to really suffer, he was afraid to ask for help for fear of how that would change the way people viewed him. >> that's right. there's that stigma that we hear so much about. with the military. >> yes. >> i want to play some tape of vice president biden. he was at an event yesterday in washington. you were there. and he made some pretty powerful comments. let's watch. >> that black hole you feel in your chest like you're being sucked back into it, looking at

your kids -- most of you have kids here -- and it was the first time in my career, in my life, i realized someone could go out -- and i probably shouldn't say this with the press here. but it's more important -- you're more important. for the first time in my life i understood how someone could consciously decide to commit suicide. not because they were deranged, not because they were nuts. but because they had been to the top of the mountain and they just knew in their heart they would never get there again. that it was never going to be that way again. >> pretty powerful stuff. kim, what was your reaction? you were there in the room. >> well, i was amazed because vice president biden was speaking to 2,000 survivors who were gathered for a weekend of support around their grief and for him to speak so candidly about his own loss and thoughts and feelings really touched our

survivors and made them feel like they were heard and that people understood their loss. so i was really grateful to the vice president for opening up his heart and letting us know that we weren't alone in our grief and some of our struggles around grief. >> you know, it's been seven years, as i mentioned, since your husband killed himself. i'm curious to know from your standpoint whether you think the military has gotten any better in terms of helping people who come back from war zones and who suffer from ptsd and who might be on the edge. have you noticed a difference? >> well, i've noticed people working really hard to make changes and putting in a lot of programs and doing a lot of different things to try to prevent suicides. and i know that the leaders really care. but we've got to do more. we've got to know that if we're asking our troops to go in harm's way over and over again and to be exposed to all kinds of trauma that people shouldn't have to see as human beings, we

have got to expect them to need psychological care the same way that they need physical care. i felt like it needs to be incorporated in the treatment when they come back, that everybody is expected to have psychological care as well as their physical care. >> kim, i think it's important to note that you personally work with families that have lost loved ones and you have something coming up this weekend, don't you? >> this weekend we have about 100 survivors of military suicide at our event. and then in october, we get about 500 survivors of suicide, and a good grief camp for children, all who have lost someone in the military to suicide. so we band together to support one another and also to provide some hints about what happened and maybe what some of the cracks are and try to help the military fill those cracks. >> kim ruocco, i think it always takes courage to talk about someone you've lost, someone you cared for so dearly. thank you for coming on tonight.

>> thank you for bringing light to this very important problem this weekend. >> thank you for sharing your story. this topic raises so many tough questions. should the military be held ♪ accountable in some of these suicides?t and if so, how? and what about the attitude thad suicide really is selfish?c you know what, it's pretty common and it could be a big part of the problem.ge that's next.li . its microcomb guides hair for its thinner blades to cut close. ♪ great starts begin with gillette fusion proglide. ♪ you get a 50% annual bonus. and everyone likes 50% more cash -- well, except her. no! but, i'm about to change that.

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texas, calling suicide a, quote, selfish act, certainly got our attention. i'm joined by dr. terry miles, psychologist. terry, welcome. and with me here is randy kravitz. he began his career in the jag corps. randy, i have to ask you, a lot of people were asking at what point should the military be held responsible for some of these suicides? is there a legal basis for this? >> shush, it's a good question. i think there's a two-part answer. there's a legal aspect and a moral aspect. legally, i think it would be very, very difficult for a family of a service member who commits suicide to actually sue the military. and the reason is, there's this thing called the farris doctrine. it's based on a case called ferris versus the united states that came out in the 1950s. it basically says when a service member is injured as part of his service, he cannot sue the military.

the military has immunity. last year, a case came out where the family of a service member who committed suicide tried to sue the military. the court said no way. >> but you say they have a moral obligation. >> well, that's the other side of it, and that's a trickier question. as a former jag officer, i can tell you, when you join the military, you know that there's the possibility there are going to be certain stressors, certain dangers that you're going to face that most people in the civilian world aren't going to face. so, as sad as it is for me to say, i think to the extent a suicide is the result of the normal stressors of military life or even the horrors of the battlefield, i don't know if we can hold the military accountable for that. >> terry, i want to ask you this. a lot of people have been asking the question, is the military doing enough to help these people, veterans returning from war who might have ptsd, who are

depressed, they turn to alcohol and maybe turn to a gun? >> well, i think we all need to do more and i agree with the comments that have been made thus far. however, i think the military needs to be doing more. i think we as civilians need to be doing more. i work in the private sector as well as cross over into the military sector. i've taken upon myself with colleagues of mine to say, we need to step up and do more. i call this the dark secret. no one really wants to talk about it. >> terry, do more, but what? what needs to be done? >> we have to diagnose and treat quicker and more accurately. and we're not doing that. what has to change is what we're doing right here tonight. we have to keep talking about this issue over and over again because the stigma, until some of that goes away psychologically in our culture as far as the military culture, that it's not good to admit that you have ptsd, the problem is

not going to go away so we hit brick walls. >> you look at these comments from this general saying suicide is a selfish act. i have to be honest with you, i was having a conversation with friends and families about another case involving mary kennedy, a mother of four who committed suicide. and one person said to me, you know, i think it's a really selfish act. here she was, she's the mother of four, she's leaving her four children behind. you know, isn't that part of the problem, that this is still a common opinion? >> it is. but, listen, here's what we're talking about, the differences. you're talking about the action after the decision has already been made. the whole issue with post traumatic stress disorder is that there's emotional trauma and every trauma needs an exit wound, and if it's not exiting, it stays in our emotional status to the point that it affects our decisions that the act then becomes suicide. we must get in there and treat that and take care of it the way we know we can professionally to

help them treat really the causation of this problem, not just the symptoms of the problem. >> i would imagine that part of the problem too is that you can see physical wounds but you can't see the mental wounds. and they can be hard to identify. >> absolutely. >> randy, i have to ask you, we were talking about this before we went on the air tonight. i think part of the problem too, and don't you agree, is that not enough is being done to help assimilate these veterans back into society? so they're coming home, this is a bad economy, they can't find a job, they're having trouble living with their wives and their children again. and they're getting really depressed. i mean, isn't that part of the problem, that there aren't enough programs in place to help them feel a part of society? >> i absolutely agree with you. i think you're absolutely right. that is part of the problem. that goes back to that moral issue, the question of whether the military is morally responsible for the well-being of our service members. i think they are. to the extent that the military can do something to help these service members and they don't, and they are morally responsible when a suicide occurs. >> when you're looking at

suicides going up, not down, this is a real problem that the military needs to address. randy y yy kravis, thank you ve much for joining us, along with dr. terry lyles. we want to bring you something else. we want to make sure that you're connected to cnn beyond the television set, if you're out enjoying this holiday weekend. go to cnn.com/tv. up next -- wanted, unemployment busting. >> the time has come for a president, a leader who will lead. >> deficit drop-kicking. >> we will finish what we started. >> seeker of truth and justice. must look good in spandex or a tie.

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in fact, it is now the fourth highest grossing film in u.s. history. but guess what? there's a much larger damsel in distress, namely the economy. so can the president come to the rescue? the online site jibjab certainly thought so. watch. ♪ ♪ he's barack obama, he's come to save the day ♪ >> but, in an election year, could the economy be the president's kryptonite? don lemon has more. >> reporter: calling all super heroes. the u.s. economy is in trouble and this means i guess only the nerdy ones need apply. political comedian, speaking of nerds, dean obdalla. and i wouldn't call you a nerd,

anna. a political analyst, anna navara. so here's what the real political analysts, not that you guys aren't. they're saying if you win the economy, you win the white house. dean, you wrote about this on cnn.com. you said not long ago, you thought that president barack obama would come to the rescue, but you're not sure right now. so be straight with me. let's go. don't give me my kryptonite. >> when obama got elected, i thought he was a superhero. i think he's now a mere mortal. i think he knows that. we do need a captain economy or debt reduction dude or put the hulk in congress and do the hulk smash. >> we want to get to other subjects, anna, because i want to talk about romney now. wait a minute, hang on. what kind of superhero or ave e avenger do you think president obama is, dean? >> i don't think he is a superhero. that's the problem. >> so romney swooped in this week as captain jobs.

so let's look at his superpower. >> i can tell you over a period of four years, by virtue of the policies we put in place, we get the unemployment down to 6%, prachz perhaps a little lower. >> a lot of people say romney's cape is all hype, there's no muscle behind it. it's all talk, anna. >> well, you know, i agree with dean. i think part of obama's problems is the expectations he created. he came in as a historical inspirational figure. >> anna, i'm going to do the same thing i did with dean. i told dean, we're not talking about romney. we're talking about obama. i'm not talking about obama. we're talking about romney. >> i don't think romney is a superhero. romney is a businessman. he's a mere mortal who is trying to give it straight and giving some business proposals. i think mitt romney is not creating the expectations that barack obama created four years ago. he's offering proposals, he's offering his business experience. that's what he's bringing to the table.

>> so do you think -- >> and i do think -- i do think that one of the things that needs to change in washington is the bipartisanship. part of the problem we're having with this economy is that you've got two very polarized sides who are not working well together and it's either their way or the highway and that's leading to not very much getting done. >> you make a very good point. because as i -- when i go around the country and talk to people from broadcasting here on cnn or just every day, to hear it on television and to read it in the paper and hear it on the radio, you would think that people are only very far left and very far right. most people are somewhere in the middle and they don't care that much about democrat and republican. they just want the economy to work and they want bipartisanship, so you make a very good point. there's a big middle ground out there that is not really being explored. i don't think their voices are being heard. >> well, we're losing moderate republicans and we're losing

moderate democrats in congress. so the people that are getting elected are certainly more polarized and it's become a more difficult environment. and i do think that obama could have done a lot more to make the environment more conducive to bipartisanship. i've heard complaints from democrats and republicans on the hill, leadership, saying they just don't get calls from the white house, they don't get calls from obama. he doesn't have the tact, the touch that let's say a ronald reagan had, who was having drinks with tip o'neil every week. >> the white house is sort of out of reach, as you said, but also there was a criticism for the bush administration when it comes to the press. there's always something about communication that the bush administration didn't communicate that much with the press and sort of did their own thing. >> all right. so we've seen president obama given the superhero treatment. next his arch enemy, candidate

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all right, just a moment ago we saw president obama get the superhero treatment. now it's his archenemy's turn, candidate mitt romney. >> i'm in fourth grade and i thought it would be fun to ask a question that the candidates weren't expecting. >> one, two, three, four, who are you going to vote for? romney, that's who! >> all right, we got it. hey, how you doing? what's your name? >> ari. >> nice to meet you. >> can i ask you a question? >> yeah. >> if you or a superhero, who would you be and why? >> if i were a superhero, who would i be and why. hmm, let's see. >> not wonder woman. >> thank you. well, i kind of grew up with

superman so i would have to be superman. i think it's leap tall buildings in a single bound. faster than a locomotive. good to see you! >> most of the candidates already asked did say superman. keeping up with our superhero theme, we asked our guests to switch their superpowers. a democrat had to give advice to mitt romney and a republican had to advise the president. as don lemon found out, the answers you get are passionate, to say the least. >> so i'm going to ask you, ana, to switch sides and say you were advising president obama. i want you to honestly think about this. what's his next move? what would you tell him to do to turn this thing around? >> if i were advising president obama in this campaign, i would tell them i think what his advisers are already telling him, which is we've got to talk about anything but the last three years. we've got to go not forward as a

campaign slogan, but rather rewind and restart. give me a second chance at this. it hasn't gotten better, but it hasn't gotten worse, and i think i deserve a second chance. he also needs to hit on the -- which is exactly what he's doing -- likability issue, because if obama has to go on the record, there's just metrics he set for himself on cutting the deficit, the unemployment rate that he hasn't met. so if we judge him on his own measurement stick, he fails. he's got to be judged on something else if he wants to win. >> that's good advice. you don't want to give secrets away from the other side. thank you for doing that. dean, i'll ask you, not that you are a political analyst on the left, but you tend to lean left, right? >> i'm a political comedian. i think i'm superior to most political analysts, but no need to get into that. >> you're a legend in your own mind. >> thank you, don. >> if you were advising romney, what would you tell him? >> drop out of the race, right now, drop out. go back to massachusetts, live a good life. if he wants to win this

election, be honest with the american people. stop being the greatest panderer i've ever seen in my life. this week, romney said if he's elected unemployment will go down to 6%. how? how? give us examples of how that's worked. american people, democrat or republicans, independents, want the economy to get working. show us how it worked. when he was governor, he was 47th in job creation. i mean, there's a credibility issue problem. you said you're going to create jobs. you didn't do it as a governor. how are you better now? quick check of the headlines now. still no firm confirmation of what happened, but it's a horrific scene of an apparent massacre in syria. 85 people killed, dozens of them young children under 10. wi witnesses say syrian forces shelled their village, then killed entire families. second-degree murder charges in the case of etan patz. a man named pa ed pedro hernand

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busted for being too buxom. sorry, lady, you're just too hot to work here. that's what 29-year-old lauren odes says happened to her. she claims that her former bosses in new york fired her, telling her she was just too hot for the office. she's hired gloria allred and both of them join me live now from opposite coasts, gloria from l.a., lauren from new york. welcome to both of you. this is going to be a very interesting discussion. lauren, first to you. you were hired at the office of a lingerie wholesaler. before you were hired, you asked about the dress code, right? why did you do that and what were you told? >> that's correct. anytime i start a new position

at any company, i want to know what the policies are and dress code especially. >> so what were you told? >> i was told basically look around and see what other people in the office were wearing. >> all right. so you claim that your bosses asked you to tape down your breasts, saying they're too distracting. they say you were told to put on a robe to cover yourself. what exactly happened? >> that's all correct information. it was a series of events which ultimately led to me being covered up in a bright red bathrobe. i was given the choice of going out to buy a new outfit or putting on the bathrobe and working for the day. >> what did you think at the time? >> it was preposterous to me, and i was humiliated because i had people asking me why are you wearing this? i didn't understand why they were targeting me. >> at what point were you fired and how were you told you would be terminated? >> before -- i put on the bathrobe first, and then i said, you know what? let me go out and wear a new

outfit instead of wearing the bathrobe. so i went out and during me trying to get a new outfit, i got a phone call saying i was terminated. so i went back there and i wanted to it get answers. so i recorded them saying, you're too hot for this office. you're too fresh looking. you're distracting for the men. so i have all that on recording from my phone and pictures, obviously. >> gloria, i want to talk to you. we're looking at some outfits that you did wear at the office. you were there for how many days? >> a week. >> we should make clear that cnn has contacted the company and they told us no comment. gloria, i have to ask you, what are they telling you? obviously you've been in touch with them. >> well, actually, we have not been in touch with them. >> oh, you haven't? >> we did file a gender and

religious discrimination charge on behalf of lauren, with the united states equal employment opportunity commission, and they will then need to respond to the eeoc because we've asked the eeoc to open an investigation. but we will be providing the recording that lauren made which corroborates her claims to the eeoc. and then the company will have an opportunity to respond. >> you've covered a lot of cases in your time. ever seen anything like this? >> well, actually i have. and i think it's wrong and it's really important because a woman should not be terminated from a job because an employer may think her breasts are too large, that she is too attractive or that men might be concerned that they couldn't resist her. and lauren alleges that she was told that it was a safety issue because of the way that she looked that men might not be

able to resist her. that's ridiculous. and it's ridiculous that she was told that she needed to tape down her breasts to make them look smaller. women don't need to do that in order to keep a job, and no one should even suggest it. >> gloria, later on we'll have a longer discussion about this, but i wonder, do you think this would ever happen to a man? is there a double standard here? >> well, i really don't think that it's likely that it would happen to a man, that he would be told that he's perhaps too attractive for the job, that women wouldn't be able to resist him. maybe it would happen here and there, but, unfortunately, i get a lot of complaints from women that that is exactly what is happening, that they're either not getting a job because they're considered too hot, in a sense, or that somehow they're being demoted or not getting a

promotion on account of it and sometimes being fired on account of it. and you know what? if the men have a problem with the way a woman looks, it's the man's problem and a woman should not be punished. >> lauren odes, gloria allred, thank you both for joining us. >> thank you very much. >> i talked about that alleged double standard. we're going to ask a man the same question, next. stay with us. who do you think i am, quicken loans? [ spokesman ] when you refinance your mortgage with quicken loans, you'll find that our rates and fees are extremely competitive. because the last thing you want is to spend too much on your mortgage. one more way quicken loans is engineered to amaze. ♪ are you guys okay? yeah. ♪ [ man ] i had a great time. thank you, it was really fun. ♪ [ crash ]

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attorney gloria allred is back with us and joining us is dean obeidallah. gloria, your client says she was fired for being too hot. my question for dean is, and we were talking about this before the break, is there a double standard here, dean? would this have ever happened to a man? >> actually, i was fired three times for being attractive. i will probably never be back on cnn after tonight.

no, of course it's a double standard. i used to be a lawyer, the women there felt a lot of pressure to the to be too flashy because they get taken less seriously if they're too pretty. it's the opposite for men. good-looking men tend to move up the ladder much quicker. people gravitate to them. so it is unfair. there is a double standard and it's unfortunate. you should be judged on the merits of your work, not on how attractive you are. but attractive men and women do make more money. studies have shown that. >> taller people, better looking people, certainly men make more money than women. >> i apologize. >> gloria, i know you're fighting for your client, lauren odes, and that you believe very strongly in her story, but isn't there something to be said for decorum? aren't there unspoken rules that you should dress appropriately in your job? and isn't it possible that she wasn't dressed appropriately for her job? >> well, i do think it is fair for employers to have a reasonable dress code.

but lauren contends that she was told that, in fact, there wasn't a dress code, just look around, see what others are wearing and dress accordingly. some people were wearing kind of athletic attire, she alleges, and some were wearing more business attire. we showed what she wore. it was perfectly appropriate for her job, which was doing data entry and coordinating the shipment of samples. she was sitting off in the corner not really having much interaction in the office with anyone else. so i do think she was dressed appropriately for that job. now, if the orthodox jewish male leadership of the company or ownership, if they were not comfortable with that because they think that a woman should cover up and that's because of their religious values, well, they have a right to their beliefs, but they don't have a right to impose their beliefs and practices on those employees. it wasn't a synagogue. it was a workplace. and by the way, she is a jewish woman and she didn't believe in

having to cover up in a way that maybe they believe women should. >> dean, i'm curious to know what your take is on all of this, having heard the case. >> i think men are weak, to be honest with you. we're weak creatures, easily distracted by attractive women. i'm not kidding. at one law firm i worked at, they actually hired secretaries middle-aged and less attractive, they told us that, to have less distractions for men working there. it's unfortunate to think women won't be hired because thair attractive. what kind of world do we live in here? >> what would you have done if you had an employee who dressed like that? >> i don't think -- i'm not in a position to hire anybody. i'm a comedian at this point. but i met her. i don't think there's anything inappropriate about what she was wearing. if there is a dress code, it should be laid out at the outset. when you're starting your employment relationships. and the young lady did ask, what should i wear? she adhered to what they wanted and then they changed the rules midway. that's unfair to her. so i think, gloria, it's a great

case. she knows better. i think she has a great case. >> thanks, dean. >> it's a lovefest. >> if it's a man's problem, maybe put the blinders on the man so he doesn't look sideways at the woman, don't punish the women. >> yes! i agree with you. >> gloria allred, dean obeidallah, appreciate your comments on this. are you ready for a new sport in the olympics? it's like gymnastics but instead of parallel bars, there's just one bar. it's actually really more of a pole, you know. so can you imagine this as an olympic sport? they're trying.

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>> it's not what she's becoming. she's becoming wife number one. this time i am really in love. >> like you've never been before? >> this time he's really in love. dean obeidallah is back with me. and connor, good evening to both of you. i would hate to be one of his ex-wives. has he finally found love? >> he has a history with drug addiction and he's clean and sober now. so in a way he's explaining those past romances saying i'm sober now. i'm clear-headed. but they're both adults. she's only recently one, but whatever makes them happy, good for them. >> so you're cutting him a break. what about dean? >> if i can stand up and give him a standing ovation. are you kidding me?

he's 64 marrying a 24-year-old. there's 64-year-old guys at home dying for this moment. 54-year-olds, too. look, she's happy. she's not a hostage. it's a woman who wants to marry him. that's when you get when you're a rock star. when i'm 64, i don't get that. but when you're a rock star, you get that even at 64. >> but the reverse is never true. you never see an older woman marrying a younger man. rarely, rarely. now we want to talk about the pole dancing. the federation of pole dancing, yes, there is one, wants pole dancing to be included in the 2016 olympic games. all right. dean? >> i completely support these young ladies' dream to be in the olympics. >> of course you do. >> why should you deprive these young ladies who are lean and worked out a lot to go into the olympics and get a gold medal. they should add a champagne room to the olympics. you can meet them.

>> connor, i'm thinking you would watch this, connor? >> not that i've ever seen it before, but theoretically i might. >> of course not. >> i believe they prefer the term "vertical gymnasts." which is a whole website. in the scheme of olympic sports, there's ice dancing, curling, synchronized dancing. there's a lot of skill involved. >> yes, okay. >> but the difference is there's not a club in the valley where they watch curlers take off their clothes. unfortunately, there is for pole dancing. >> yes, a little bit of difference there. connor, dean, we thank you very much. how american are you? one way to find out is take this u.s. citins here's one question -- which pie is the most american pie and which is the least american pie? we'll have the answers according to conan, next. [ tires squeal ] then we turned the page, creating the rx hybrid. ♪ now we've turned the page again

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>> i'm not reading it. >> i'm afraid i might have to read it to figure out what people are talking about. >> all right. dean? >> for me, i don't think men will read it because women, you have a thing we don't, it's called imagination. so you can picture things happening in the book. if there's no pictures, we don't get it. we're just visual creatures. that's what we are. that's why it doesn't appeal to men. >> there you have it, the final what would you do if your child had an incurable disease? and a doctor offered you a miracle. >> i went home that night, and i cried my eyes out. because i knew that somehow we had to do this. >> the hope. the hype.