membership includes 155 countries and seven territories. and robert mugabe can't visit a lot of them. maybe because time dubbed him the world's worst dictator. he's under a european travel ban. that's right, tourism o organization is hoping a man who can't travel will promote tourism. >> i'm donny deutsch sitting in for piers. i'm really pumped about our guests. first up, a man a really admire. >> this is matt lauer, okay, l hello. i'm matt lauer on "today." so cool. look at this. i'm going to ask him which is more cut throughout, the race for the white house or the morning tv wars. >> the show is not where i want it to be right now. >> you look good up there. >> a house call from america's favorite doctor, dr. oz.

he's giving me results of the test i took today. now i'm going to find out what we need to do to change our health. >> if someone you cared for what putting in their mouth what you put in your mouth, what would you tell them? that's the answerio you have to give yourself. >> and only in america, the typo that has gone viral. good evening. i'm not piers morgan. i'm donny deutsch, filling in for piera, and tonight, i'll turning the tables on the best in the business. matt lauer is going to answer my questions. you sure you want to do this? >> i have a lot of opportunities to get you back on my show. you be nice, be kind. think before you leap. >> by the way, you do that all the time. i have never seen you take shots at any other guest as much as you do me. >> you're easy. you're easy pickens. when you sit on our show, you sit between two opinionated

ladies and throw yourself out there, and you do it on purpose, knowing you have a target on your back. >> i'm going to embarrass you. because after that, we're going to bust on each other. when i was running a business, i said, you can tell by a company as soon as the elevator doors open. that's the way the "today" show is. you walk onto the set, everybody is nice. the energy is up. and there's something in the walls, and this is what people don't know. it's because of you. let me finish that. i need to pay you the compliment. >> am i going to get a word in? >> absolutely not. the way you treat every crew member, please, thank you. no hierarchy. that doesn't represent on many sets. >> i appreciate that. i take it as a huge complement, i don't think i'm the person who started it. when i got there, it was that way. think about the dynamic. you're asking people to wake up at ungodly hours. the crew members are getting up

at 1:00 in the morning, getting there at 2:00. they have done a full day's work by the tie i get there, get my makeup on, and get pampered on air. why wouldn't you say thank you and please to those people? and when you talk ability the way we treat other people who come through the "today" show, you're asking people to give you a moment of their time and come to our studio and give you their insight on a subject. i just don't understand treating people differently. and i think it's not only, i hope it's not only the way we treat people when they come to the "today" show but when you meet people on the street as well. i get a lot of people who come up to me on the streets just as you do. and sometimes i'm with my family and sometimes with my friends, and the way i have always viewed it is the way it was taught to me. taught to me by the way by people like brian and tom brokaw. those are your customers. if you had a tire store and somebody would come to you on the street and talk to you about tires, you would give them the time of day. >> you know the business, you're the exception. >> it's the way i was brought

up. >> you're nice. >> thank you. >> seriously, you and i have talk about this. you have a big responsibilities. to me, your job on television, your specific job is the most personal with viewers of anybody. you get america up in the morning. you really do. you lend the day to them. that's a big load, a burden. >> it's been made apparent to me when people approach me or talk about it. i have been around brokaw, for example, when people come up and say i watch you on the news or get my news from you. when they come up to me or ann or al or natalie or anyone else on the morning shows, they say, i start my day with you. it's a subtle difference, but it's a big difference. no question about it, what they're saying is they're giving you that moment of their day when it's most important. they have been asleep. they want to know that the world hasn't disappeared and they want to know what they're going to need to get through the day. it's a vulnerable time of the day. it does take a certain approach.

i try to bring that to the table. >> the alarm goes off at 4:10. >> 4:08 and 4:07 and 4:10, my eyes open up. i'm a pure creature of habit. i hate it, to be honest with you. and my eyes more and more open up at 3:10 and 3:15. >> you're getting dressed and putting on the barb solafter shave, what do you think? what do you literally say, are you thinking about what am i going to do with the kids or are you fashioning the show in your head? >> i think about what has changed. i went to bed with one show. i knew what to expect based on what happened by that time of day. i can guarantee while i was sleeping just like america was sleeping, the world changed. it may change in little ways, in big ways. the first thing i want to know, and i have checked out on my iphone, how is my workload going

to change. what segments did i think i was going to do are no longer on the show, and what is new? how am i going to approach those? who am i going to talk to on the staff, who am i going to get my information from, what websites do i have to go to? the interesting thing about my day, and i think it may not be the same with a lot of other jobs is when the alarment goes off at 4:10, i have to get mentally intune right off the back. i don't have a large amount of time to kind of ease into it. the day starts pretty quickly. >> a little inside baseball for people, the segment i do, we get the segments, the topics the night before. invariable the next morning, they change. you're changing them, and i watch you. it's interesting. during the commercial break when we're sitting there, because i'm watching you because it's what i'm doing now and obviously, not to be -- i'm watching what you're doing. you're going over everything.

you're not what's up next? you're teeing it up. this is one segment out of two hours and you never stop it. >> clearly, the show moves quickly. the segment you're talking about is the segment i probably put more work into on any given week that any other because it's got five topics within one segment and my job is to tee it up for you guys. it's funny the way you say i tee it up. i say, here's the topic, and in as few a sentences as i can deliver, i want to hear what you have to say. then i have to understand where you might go so i can follow it up and refocus you. you in particular because you tend to get off the subject a lot. i'm trying to figure out where you might go with this and what follow-up question viewers would want to hear. and i think those subjects, they either live or die in the first 30 seconds of them. >> i can tell when i'm setting a subject up and looking at your eyes and looking at nancy, at starr, if that is going to live

or die just by the interest level in your eyes. >> let me challenge you. i see you in that segment. you're bietding your lip -- >> it's not my job to give my opinion. you try to lure me into that. >> what would be wrong -- once again, i'm not saying your political views. i see you, you're biting -- you want to, what would break the rules if matt lauer engaged? >> it doesn't and i do. i -- by my follow up questions, i say, i think you're missing a point. one of the comments you made the other day was about chris hayes who made some comments about fallen soldiers who saying that we don't necessarily have to call them all heroes. if i start to hear your comments and hear nancy's comments and i don't think you're sticking to the point that i think is jermaine and important, i will jump in there, and i think viewers buy that if they listen carefully, will know how i feel about it. >> i think that's a general rule

of thumb. i do try to stay down the middle, yet over the course of time, if people watch the show, and more importantly, listen to t they're going to know where i stand by the questions i ask, how i ask them, or don't ask. >> i'm going to ask you for each person, you're going to give my one word. >> word association? >> you know the classic story about that, bryant gumbel and yogi berra. he said, goingy, i'll give you the name, you give me one word. he said, mickey mantle, he said what about him? >> bryant gumbel? >> two words, consummate professional. two other words, best friend. >> katie couric. >> extraordinarily talented. i'm breaking the rule. >> pain in the ass, though, right? >> no, i get along with her really well. it wasn't as easy when we worked

together. we had our fantastic moments and moments where it was tense, but she's without a doubt one of the most incredibly talented people i have ever met and to this diwhen we're in the same room together, we make each other laugh. that's the nicest comp lnt. >> she's got great energy. she lights it up. >> and she's always thinkb about what can happen next. when we get together for dinner or lunch, katie has 1,000 ideas for subjects, for shows, for the way, the things she wants to do in her life. >> meredith vieira. >> wow, it's going to take more than a couple words. also remarkably talented. the most real person i have ever had the pleasure of working with. i hit it off with maeredith the moment i met her for the first time. i knew that not only would be enjoy each other's company on

air, but we would become true friends and that's been the case. i adore meredith. >> how about al roker? >> exactly the same guy off the air as he is on the air. i know i'm breaking all the rules here with one word, but oftentimes, young people, i hate to sound old and say that, but i get a lot of people who are starting out in the business who come to me and ask me for advice. one of the people i bring up is al. a lot of the young broadcasters will say who should i pattern myself after? i say you shouldn't pattern yourself after anybody, be yourself. the whole thing that makes people successful on the air is if they can get in front of the camera and when the red light goes on, they're the same person off the camera. al is that guy. he's the same person off camera as on camera. >> mike fox gave me advice, he said, they're going to know anyway, be who you are. >> when is hard sometimes. with that comes the idea that

you have to then take the criticism. it's not like we're actors playing a role. if tom cruse goes out and plays a role and people say, i hated the character. they're hating the guy he's playing. if you or if i go on and we do a television show, and we're being ourselves and people say, i hate matt lauer, then they hate me. >> ann curry? >> the biggest heart in broadcasting. incredibly talented. but again, feels, cares, is concerned about other people more than anyone else. >> when we get back, i want to know how matt lauer became the matt lauer, but first, someone has a question for you. >> what would i ask matt lauer? does he ever wish sometimes when he's sitting there with ann curry and al roker, he can get as drunk as hoda and cathy lee lee do in the fourth hour?

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>> my job is to protect the country, matt. i'm going to within the law. >> there are people who praebd last year at this time would have placed a bit that you might not even be around. >> i would support that, sure. >> a comeback at 25, how to you do that? >> it's crazy. >> those are some of matt lauer's greatest moments. you were getting a kick out of it. >> a look back at some of the things, the tom cruise thing became larger than life. and it's just one of those moments where a live interview -- it was a taped interview, where you knew that something was going to get enormous amount of attention. >> as it's happening because you just sat there, what's going through your mind? you see the biggest star in the world kind of become unhinged. what's going through your mind at that moment? >> let him keep going. i think the idea there was to not rise to the level of energy that's he had, to try to remain

calm and try to keep making what i thought was a very simple point. also at the same time, giving enough rope that it continues. you don't want a moment like thereat to come and go in 30 seconds. you realize you have someone at a moment where he's going to give you things you don't expect to get. and so the idea is to not take too much advantage of it, you don't want to do something -- >> don't exploit it. >> don't explight it, but also want to find out something about tom cruise that you didn't know before. it was one of those moments that kind of lived in infamy and we have gone beyond that. and tom realized that it wasn't perhaps his best moment and he has been incredibly gracious after that. >> i want to go to one moore clip. this is your opening day for matt lauer. >> for the hairpcut. >> young unj new. >> special monday morning for matt lauer. one more time, let's play it

back. >> this is "today" with katie couric and matt lauer. and matt lauer. >> yeah. >> i think the take away for viewers at home is that's what waking up at 4:10 in the morning does to you. >> you look like phoenix. you look better now though. >> that's an out of body experience. i look at the tape, i don't remember it. i don't know who that guy was. i only know that he was panicked as to what he was getting into, taking over for bryant gumbel. sitting next to this incredibly talented katie couric. that was a nerve-racking time for me. >> the thing that you're best at, if i go back to the interview that made you, not that made you, but made big news when you had hillary on and were asking her about the scandal,

monkackalu icica lewinsky. is there a method, what is the -- >> there are many different ways to get results, and there is the iron fist, there's the velvet hammer, and there's the way you would do it if you were at a cocktail party, in someone's home, or if you ran into someone in a restaurant. very few people walk up to someone and go right between the eyes. i don't think that's a method that yields great results. i have always felt there's a way to ask a question. it's not beating around the bush. it's putting a question in a way that people say, this makes common sense. i know where he's going. i know he wants to ask. if you have jim mcgreevey on and you think how could he think he would get away with what he was doing. when you have hillary clinton and you need to ask her what she knew and how much she knew about monica lewinsky. when you have lindsay lohan and

you have to ask if she's clean and sober, sometimes the direct approach is fine, but sometimes you have to show you care about them as a human being before you go in for what would be considered the kill. i don't consider myself someone who goes in for the kill, anyway. >> tough questions, you do ask. afterwards, you missed a question. >> it happens every single interview. >> if you were going to pick one, the one, you know what, how did i not ask that? >> normally, it's there. it's there in terms of what i want to get to. a lot of times it's a time restrient. a lot of times the interview goes in a direction i didn't expect it to go. i say back to the people going into the business, the worst thing you can do, and you know it well because you're doing it right now, no, i'm kidding -- >> i'm never thinking about the next question. >> the worse thing you can do is go in with an agenda and a set schedule of questions.

these ten questions, because then what you're not doing is listening. you're not letting the interview become organic and go where it needs to go. i don't ask the question i really wanted to ask because i found something else that interested me at the moment and perhaps i ran out of time. >> we're going to come back. when we come back, there $25 million question, what made you stay with "today." did we just answer that, by the way? there are a lot of warning lights and sounds vying for your attention. so we invented a warning.. you can feel. introducing the all new cadillac xts, available with the patented safety alert seat. when there is danger you might not see, you're warned by a pulse in the seat. it's technology you won't find in a mercedes e-class. the all new cadillac xts has arrived.

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truth be told, i was developing an idea for a new show where viewers could tune in and see someone they know lose a little more of their hair right in front of they eyes. i thought, i can stay here. this is my family, i love this job, i love working with you guys. i'm excited. >> that's matt lauer's big moment announcing he was going to stay. does the hair bother you? >> it did in the beginning. it started to.

now i can't do -- i don't want to say happier, but i never think about it. i don't own a comb or a brush. i comb my hair with a towel, and no, i think it's taken so much of a weight off my shoulders, it's something that i just -- it never crosses my mind. it doesn't bother me one bit. >> $25 million a year. >> right. >> four years, i'm going to do the quick math, $100 million, that's a lot of money. what do you do with it? that's real, like a serious chunk of dough. so now, you have always been very wealthy. that's crazy wealth. so, change in thes, think about things? >> first of all, i have not heard anybody come up with the right amount. so that number gets out there and i'm supposed to answer it as if it's fact. >> don't apologize. >> i would never apologize for it. it's not fact. and so a lot of things were written during the whole contract negotiation period or the decision to stay.

i think 2% of what was written was true, and the number has never been true. so, you know, it wasn't about the money. i promise you. i did not stay at the "today" show because of money. there are other ways to make money. as i said in the clip, i really do love the show, and despite the fact the alarm clock goes off at 4:10, and it's brutal, i still like getting out of bed. i think i have fed off the company trough at nbc for a long time and been the benefactor of great success there. times are hard eer there right now. it's been well publicized. the show is not where i want it to be right now. the ratings are not -- >> what do you want to do? >> make it better. i want to reinvigorate the show in some ways that perhaps we have let up on in the past couple years. so to leave now seemed like leaving when work needed to be done. i think it would have been a lot

easier to leave if we were soaring to new heights, but the competition is tougher, and as a result, it didn't feel like the right time to leave the people, mostly the behind the scenes people, that i spent almost 20 years of my life together. >> we had a dinner, money didn't come up once. money didn't come up. >> in this business for some reason, they are very generous with people like me. and so it's a matter of degree, how happy do you need to be? i have always been happy. i have been happy when i made not a lot of money and when i have made more money. it's not about how much more money you can make. it's not about that. it's about wanting to leave the show in a really good place. although i think it's in a good place, it could be in a better place. >> you have been on top 17 years. "gma" had a couple wins. how does that chinj when you come to work? >> it lights a little bit of a fire under our butts.

no question about it, the competition, and i don't mean them in particular, the general competition, the fact that the environment is more competitive, has our full attention. it has my full attention. you know, i take responsibility for it. when people start to write articles about what might be wrong with the "today" show, point the finger at me. i have been there the longest. it's my responsibility. i truly feel that way. that's why i stick around, because i think there's more i can do. i can do it better. i still learn something every single day. and so, you know, i want the responsibility of trying to make it better and trying to get us into a better place. >> interesting, you just supported my opening thesis, at the end of the day, you're like a leader. what you did, buck stops with me, not everybody does that. so kudos to you. >> if they're willing to give you the credit for things over a peer yod i'd of time, you have to say, i deserve a lot of the

blame when things aren't going the way we like it. >> politics, you have interviewed both obama and romney. why is the selection not capturing the same interest? something about it that is -- >> it's a little a victim of the last election and the last kind of experience that america had with barack obama and that entire wave of enthusiasm that swept a portion of the voting population. i think there was such excitement among a certain segment of voters last time that it's impossible to repeat. he can't repeat it. he's a repeating president with a record to run on. and mitt romney, he's been doing this for a long time. he's been running for president for the better part of 5 1/2, 6 years now. i think it will gain traction in the fall. it's hard to get really juiced up about the primaries and then with the incumbency, and i think come the conventions which we're

gearing up for in august, there will be an urgency that takes hold. >> let's say you're moderating the debate and get one question at each guy. one question to say it all, i know it's hard to come up with that, but where would you as a guy, you want to know one thing from romney, one thing from obama. what comes to you? >> the thing that people out there want to know is do you understand how tough it has been and is out there on main street? i think there's been a lot of criticism of mitt romney perhaps some of the things he's said that lead people to think he may not get that. and i think there's been some criticism from barack obama that he has seemded above it and a bit aloof and has lost a little of that connection. donny, for the first time in my adult life, and i have been through a lot of these economic do downturns as a 54-year-old man, this is the time where i personally note so many people

who lost their jobs. >> people our age. >> people our age who are struggling, and people in my family who have lost their jobs as a result of this. i think all any of us really wants to know from our leader who is going to lead the country for the next four years, is do you get it? do you understand the pain? >> do you think both of these guys get it? >> i hope they do. it's important they do because if they don't, i don't know they're going to be able to come up with solutions. congress doesn't seem to be able to come up with them. i think we want real empathy. someone who can take their jacket off and talk to real people and say i understand your problem and i'm going to set out to fix it. it's easy to say it. much harder to do it. >> interesting that they have the same problem for different reasons. i want to take the last 40 seconds to sum you up to the audience. you're about as devoted a dad as there is. there's an airport in the hamptons. i was there, and you were there, not flying in or out, but with your son, just watching planes

come in and out. i don't know a guy more devoted to their kids. if you want to say one kid to your kids, they're watching you at home and couldn't care if you're on teefrb or not, but you want to say one thing to them, one important message that you say to their kids? >> all the stuff we have been talking about on the show matters a little, but they matter a lot. that's -- i want to be defined by what i do from 9:00 to 4:0010 the next morning, not from by what i do from 4:10 to 9:00 in the morning. a gentleman. >> up next, dr. oz and two of my favorite subjects, sex and food. in that order.

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let's bring in dr. mehmet oz. >> mike, who is a medical student. >> who corrected me four times. >> he's part of our medical unit. a crack group of folks who are the arsenal for us. they come up with great new ideas on how to talk about health. this 15-minute physical is something we did all over the country. you partner with a medical institution, and our goal is to diffuse the bombs. >> take me through, what happ happened with me. >> i'm going to walk you through and expand it to everybody walking through. the big message is not just telling donny deutsch what his numbers are but that america realizes with a few bits of information, you can take away the risks of dying from some of the preventables.

i have your results. >> get the kids away from the screen. >> the number one thing we ch k checked because it's the number one thing that ages are us, blood pressure. it's like a fire hydrant squirting away the teflon lining of the arteries. your blood pressure ideally would not be hypertension, 140 over 90. it would be 115 over 75. the high member is how much force is hitting the arteries. the low number is when you relax, how low it goes. yours is 110 over 72, which is perfect. >> perfect, see mom, nothing to worry about. 1 for 1. >> second thing is the finger stick we did on you. usually one time, is your blood sugar. it tells you if you have glass shrapnel, sclieping that dellical lining. if it's more than 125, it means

you're diabetic. 80 million americans are diab diabetic or prediabetic. if we solve that, we solve the health care problem. >> these are all caused by obesity. if 80 million have diabetes or prediabetes, 80 million have high blood pressure, we're left with a problem that is mortgaging our future. donny deutsch's number is 81. perfect-ish. >> i'll be home soon, honey. that's not mommy, by the way. >> your cholesterol number was so good that there was no need to infractionate it, under 100. those are great numbers. the reason, before you leave the show -- there you go, one, two. >> go ahead. >> the reason to cut through the other shenanigans that your numbers were so perfect is you're not overweight. that's probably the single most important message i am going to

deliver today. if you think it's about being hotter, being cooler, it doubles your dementia. it dramatically increases the chances of cancer. we can reduce cancer, and it increases heart disease. your waist size, which should always be left than half your height. >> okay. >> was 33 inches. >> okay. >> your height is you're 5'10". five times 12, divide it in half, 35 inches. if you keep it below alphayohal height, don't trust your belt size. >> the problem in america is america is fat. until we solve that problem we we're solving nrb nothing. i know you tyke loo talk about sex because it's a way to stay healthy. and i struggle through this area. first of all, you say you have an amazing sex life. but your wife is gorgeous.

what is the key, 26 years you said? you have four great children. what makes your sex life great. i'm genuinely curious about that. >> first of all, lisa is the brains of the family. >> we know that. >> i do love her dearly, but sex is not just an element. i think sex is important to any relationship you have with the partner in your life. i think it bonds you. i think it's unique oxytocin release. >> i don't want to hear about the oxytocin, i want the stuff. what do you do? >> it's not that it burns the calories off? do you know how much it burns off? >> 100? >> 23. it takes two minutes. it's not much. the reason that lisa and are able -- the reason that so many couples remain intimate, you have to reinvent the relationship. and it's very core. >> everybody says that. what does that mean? i'm not looking for graphic

details, but when you're a couple, you know what pleases each other, you get into a routine. what does that mean? role play? what does that mean to reinvent the sexual relationship? >> it involves all of it. from the moment you get married you have to begin challenging yourselves on that. listen, when you get married, as a guy you want exactly what you married. i mean, she is what you desired. what you went after. then she starts to change. >> as the guys do also. >> no, but it's different with the guys. but the woman married the guy who she thinks he can become. and he won't change usually. and they're kicking you, trying to change to the man they think you can become. so you're automatically moving away from each other. the beauty of a relationship, conjugal relationship,you mold each other. that has to happen sexually as well. you have chemical handcuffs on. for the first five, six, seven years of your life. that made sense a thousand years ago. you have to be chemically bound to each other. >> i want to break it down to real -- i want to take you out of doctor now and be a friend for a second.

if i was saying, doc, it's stale. i'm not married, but hypothetically, i love my wife. i'm not that turned on anymore but i don't want to leave her. what do you do? if you broke it down to real things. do this, fantasize about other women, ask her what turns her on. give me some stuff. >> role playing helps out. but you have to ask each other, what is it that i'm doing that works for you, what doesn't work? that's a difficult question to ask when you're about to be intimate. that needs to happen in a cold moment. not when you're in the heat of the engagement. what am i doing that works for you? very precisely, help me figure it outs. most guys don't recognize the simplest thing about improving the female orgasm. you know, you don't get that in medical school. there are classes that are taught on this. >> what's the one thing that the guy at home should be taking home from this? >> most women have the equivalent of a g spot and you have to excite that part of the female anatomy. you can't just go -- >> i have to take a break. we'll find out more about the g spot according to dr. oz and

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we are back with the great dr. oz. and talking about a very critical thing for the audience about finding women's g-spot. right here, we have organs when we get to a minute. we can't let the cnn audience hanging. the switch board has been lighting up. if a guy wants to figure it out -- i can't even do this. >> it's not just a button, you don't push on a spot. when the prostate which by the way is very sensitive very well, not created in the female body, those same nerves move said to the front of the vagina. so if you put your finger in, being pretty graphic and sort of going like that that entire area, an inch or two above you -- enter is generally sensitive. about a third of women have never had an orgasm. people haven't spent the time and it takes time like anything in life to learn how to excite each other. for women i have to say something, please, do not trust a guy to do this.

they don't know how to do this. we never learned how to do this. we can't even study our own bodies. if you haven't been able to teach yourself to pleasure yourself, you have to start there. in order to figure out how you can have an orgasm. then you have to take the guy by the hand and teach him how to do it. guy, don't be bashful about this. >> one of things about getting older and having sex, it eases you to have sex. you almost feel insecure, what feels good. there were so many bits i had, so fortunate doing this on cnn and not another venue, because the rails would have come off about nine times. >> and this relates to sex because the most common complaint that i often hear, women say my guy is not interested in me. i say, why not? he doesn't get an erection anymore. that's not an issue of men not being interested. 80% of men who don't have an erection have a cardiovascular problem. the blood is not going there and it's not going to their kidneys or heart or brain anywhere. it's why we're going around the country doing the 15 minute physicals. this is what the liver looks like.

put your gloves on. why is the liver two different colors? why is it can point to the liver. this is a normal-looking liver. it's brown, got some bile in it. these are good things. >> that's an actual liver. doc, that's a human livers? >> all human livers. notice this liver in my right hand, to the left for the viewers, is beige, white. it's something who is overweight. you having trouble with those gloves? >> yeah. >> what kind of doctor would you have been? >> i want to use one hand. >> so this liver is much larger than the normal one. because it's gotten swollen from fat. basically, this person, because they're overweight, obese, turned their liver into foi foie gras. i want you to focus on this because when you see this happen in your body, this liver that's fatty doesn't work well. it may look from the outside, but what the liver does is it

filters toxins. when i can't remove toxins from your body, toxins in the water, the air, cigarettes, alcohol, it doesn't work anymore. now those toxins trip you of you energy. you don't feel good, and they release toxic chemtuals. this is why we have a cholesterol problem in america. what does that cause? >> bad liver. >> the good news is, this is reversible. the liver is one most likely to reverse injury. unfortunately if you don't reverse it, you end up with this problem. this elegant structure here is a human healthy heart. >> a healthy heart. >> it's the size of your fist. >> isn't that amazing? >> isn't this stunning? >> but when you have a liver turned to fat and making bad cholesterol and the same belly fat is causing high blood pressure and problems with diabetes, you get a heart like this. >> oh, my goodness. >> compare these two. >> look at that at home. that's crazy. so somebody -- a healthy person is walking around with this. somebody is actually working

around with this. >> that's why i go so crazy knowing your numbers. if you know your blood pressure, you know this is happening. hasn't happened yet, but it's happening. if you know your blood sugar numbers -- feel it. it's bloated. like this big thanksgiving float meandering through life. there's some things that are knowable in life and some are not knowable. your numbers are knowable. >> very quickly if i want to get from that to the better heart? >> know the blood sugar, and getting rid of the belly fat and not changing by what's stressing you, but how you respond to it. the number two thing, figure out how to get rid of the belly fat which is done by cutting out white foods, white pasta, white sugar, all the things that we know are addictive to us. >> everybody knows this, but they don't do it. you do this five days a week. i guarantee you three quarters of the people are at home going like this. yeah, got it. but they're not doing it. they're not doing it. what do we do? this is going to put this

country under. this is the health care problem. you solve obesity, no democrats or republicans arguing, it's over. is there another button to push? >> i'll give you the big button. i have done over 500 shows now. along the way -- >> great show, by the way. >> thank you very much. along the way we're celebrating one of the shows. we brought on people who had all lost 100 pounds. we filled the audience with them. couple hundred people. i asked them, how did you do it? tell me the secret, because if you can teach me, what motivated you to act differently, then we could share it with everybody. they all gave me the same answer. i thought i would have 100 answers, but they gave me one answer. we thought we were worth it. if someone you loved dearly was putting what you're putting into your mouth, what would you tell them? because that's fundamentally the answer you have to give yourself. you can answer that one question. >> that's the question, are you worth it? dr. oz, you're the man. that was fascinating. up next only in america tonight.

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each night piers ends with "only in america." it's his slice of life here. tonight i have "only in america" my friend would love. in politics as in advertising, it's all about the message. as we see sometimes the message can get jumbled. for romney, it took an embarrassing turn this week. the romney campaign unveiled his new mobile app and would you look at that. that is right. somehow they managed to misspell america. it reads, a better amercia. you would think someone along the way would say amercia is not a country. democrats having a field day, but hey, people in glass houses should not throw stones. look at vice president biden. he's good for gaffes. a few months back, the staff announced he would visit new england. the official press conference said he would be traveling