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in the united states. their parents are sitting in jail. we're live in florida with the very latest. plus, he's no more than 30 years old and has the power to launch a missile from north korea. we're going to take a look at the life of kim jong-un including his passions, james bond, basketball, and how he passed up two older brothers to rise to power. this is "cnn newsroom" and i'm suzanne malveaux. we begin with the breakthrough in the gunfight on capitol hill. two senators, a republican and democrat, have now reached a deal on expanding background checks. across the network today we are taking a closer look at this issue this is at the heart of the gun control debate. part of our coverage guns under fire cnn special report on background checks. as you know, the debate over stronger gun laws started with the tragedy in newtown, connecticut. 20 children, six teachers, educators, gunned down. since then the momentum for new

laws has actually slowed. but a new cnn/orc poll shows overwhelming support for expanding background checks. 86%, almost nine out of ten, favor tougher background checks. senators who came up with the compromise say this is a good place to start. >> the bottom line for me is this, if expanding background checks to include gun shows and internet sales can reduce the likelihood of criminals and mentally ill people from getting guns, and we can do it in a fashion that does not infringe on the second amendment rights of law-abiding citizens, then we should do it. and in this amendment i think we do. >> the nra issued a statement saying expanding background checks at gun shows will not prevent the next shooting, will not solve violent crime and will not keep our kids safe in schools. well, this undermines -- this really underlines rather the extraordinary debate that is

taking place. because in new jersey today a 6-year-old boy is dead after a horrific accident, this is where it happened, two boys playing around while their parents stood by. and somehow one of the boys just 4 years old got his hands on a rifle and shot the other boy dead. pamela brown is following this story from new jersey. and this is why everybody's talking about the gun debate. this is why people are so passionate about this. when you hear another story, something like this happening here, i mean it begs the question how did something like this even happen? >> you're right, suzanne. in fact, this second incident like this just in the past few days. and what you just asked there is exactly what investigators are looking into right now still waiting for the answer to that question, suzanne. 6-year-old brandon holt was pronounced dead last night in a new jersey hospital a day after being shot in the head by his 4-year-old friend.

new jersey authorities say the two friends were playing in a yard in toms river, new jersey, monday night when the 4-year-old went inside his home, picked up a .22-caliber rifle and discharged it accidentally hitting 6-year-old brandon in the head. the children whose families live in the same neighborhood we're told were about 15 yards apart at the time of the incident. authorities say the younger boy's mother called 911 to report the shooting. at this point authorities are not saying who owned the gun or speculating on how that little boy got a hold of it. as mentioned, this is the second incident in the u.s. in recent days involving a 4-year-old fatally shooting another. in tennessee during a family cookout last weekend the nephew of a sheriff's deputy picked up a loaded pistol from a bed as his uncle was showing off his gun collection and fatally shot his wife. in that case officials are saying charges will not be filed. authorities in new jersey haven't filed any charges yet, suzanne, but they say the investigation is ongoing. >> so how do they sort this out?

i mean, how do new jersey authorities figure out who is going to be held responsible? >> you know, it's tough to imagine, suzanne, a 4-year-old being charged. but according to legal analysts, that could happen. but typically the legal standards used in a child involved is what's in the best interest of the child. it's more likely however that the little boy's parents could face charges of endangering the welfare of a child if the parents kept a loaded firearm unlocked and accessible in that home. that's an offense punishable up to three to five years in state prison in new jersey. suzanne. >> so, do we know with prosecutors are they typically charged? i mean, do they charge in these cases like this? >> prosecutors rarely bring such cases because you really have to weigh the pursuit of justice with compassion here. with the recent shooting incidents involving minors, some legal analysts saying it's time

for prosecutors to file charges against parents who don't secure dangerous weapons in their homes. >> pamela, we appreciate it. guns, it's the third leading cause of death for kids between the ages of 5 and 14. and of course this begs the question, what about the parents? do they need to do more? later we're going to talk this hour about what parents can do, if they can do anything, to keep their kids safe. and the idea behind background checks on gun purchases, well, this is pretty simple to keep guns out of the hands overpeople who shouldn't have them including mentally ill. most don't know what is involved in the process, how easy is it or difficult to actually get a gun? chris cuomo, he walks us through it. >> i'm looking for home protection shotgun. >> okay. i'm going to bring you down to our shotgun section. >> seems simple. but there's more to it than you might think. every purchase from a licensed

dealer requires a federal background check. >> are you under indictment? no, have you been convicted of any felony? no. 27 personal questions including criminal and mental health history, all requiring government confirmation. add potential state and city laws, thousands across the country, and it could feel like an obstacle course. >> there's a background check for the rifle. if you live in the city there's the rifle shotgun card. if you have a pistol -- >> reporter: but this pails in comparison to the pain the nation felt on december 14th in newtown, connecticut. the most vulnerable victimized. cnn's latest poll shows people want it to stop. calls to do something resulting in demandspanded background checks despite the fact they wouldn't have stopped the newtown shooter. >> we know that background checks can work, but the problem is loopholes in the current law

let so many people avoid background checks altogether. >> gun control advocates want all gun sales, not just those by dealers, subject to background checks. >> this background check law that we're talking about is enforcing the law. >> colin goddard works for the brady center to prevent gun violence. he is a gun violence victim, shot four times at virginia tech six years ago. >> how are you supposed to know if someone's got a felony record? how are you supposed to know if someone's got a restraining order or dangerous mental illness without doing a background check? you supposed to look at them really hard? >> gun rights advocates fear checking all sales could lead to a national gun registry and maybe confiscation. the larger concern, making it harder to buy a gun lawfully may not stop massacres and handgun violence. before owning this long island gun store, owner mike was a police officer for 11 years. in your experience as a cop, did that hold true? >> in 11 years i've never had a

legal pistol licensee use his gun in a crime. >> gun control advocates say the nearly two million people denied guns is proof of effectiveness. >> most of those people turns out were not on prohibited lists. most were false positives, name looked like somebody else, records that were incomplete. >> the first thing you have to do is take the system you have and get it fixed and make it work. >> mike says the big issue isn't the law but enforcement. >> if somebody comes in and they're hell bent on buying a gun, we let them fill out the form, and they fail. and then in a perfect world i'll call firearms and catch the person. >> that's the big catch, right? >> would make the safest state in the union if they were enforced. >> in my case, the system worked. after25 minutes of completing forms and waiting for approval, i had my shotgun. thank you very much. >> wow. chris cuomo joining us live from new york. so, chris, you got the gun pretty quickly there.

there are folks who say, look, you know what are we going to do abts addressing some of the problems when you talk about mental illness or the fact that some of these existing gun laws don't really enforce them. do they address that in any way these gun owners expanding these background checks? could that do anything to kind of solve some of the other issues out there? very, very important. >> arguably, suzanne, one has nothing to do with the other. the check is a good idea. if you want to do checks, obviously check as many different types of sales as possible. but remember this, it is an odd situation where our first step what we're saying is the most important fix is to go after the good guys, people who want to buy guns lawfully. a big part of the resistance here is not only do we already have extensive checks as you saw in the piece, and that doesn't even include state and city and other municipalities that put on checks, but that most crime is done within a legally obtained weapon. so you want to hear about how we treat the mentally ill, notd just those who are looking for

guns, but those who just need to be treated because that's what we saw in sandy hook. a kid who was known to be sick who wasn't getting help, what do we do about that? it's expensive. a lot of health care companies won't give you the help you need. what about enforcing criminal laws as they stand today? the biggest deterrent to gun crime, suzanne, is to put people who use a gun unlawfully in jail. >> all right. chris, thank you. appreciate it. and of course the first lady's going to be addressing that as well. michelle obama, she is joining now the white house push for tighter gun control. today she's in chicago. she's at a luncheon all about reducing violence among the city's young people there. the violence in chicago, i mean, unbelievable hitting close to home for the first lady. this happened back in january, a 15-year-old hidea pendleton shot and killed just days after performing in the inauguration in washington. shooting happened just blocks from the obama's chicago home. she's also going to be at a school rocked by violence. the statistics in chicago are

sobering. 535 people killed last year that was up from 433 back in 2011. and the school where the first lady is visiting, 29 current or former students shot this year. this is what we're working on as well for this hour. the president just releasing his budget including raising taxes on the rich as well as smokers. going to break down those details up ahead. plus, have you ever waited for what seemed like an eternity for you meal wondered where your waiter went when you need a drink to be refilled? well, it might not be their fault. we've got five ways you could be delaying your food. and a huge surprise for a canadian family that's been struggling financially. this is what a $40 million happy dance looks like. we gave people a sticker and had them show us. we learned a lot of us have known someone who's lived well into their 90s.

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going to hurt, who's going to help? >> it's big, you're right. boxes and boxes wheeled in there, suzanne. as you know, it's really a mission statement for the president. these are his priorities and how he thinks the family budget, if you will, the american budget the books should be run. there's infrastructure spending in there $50 billion in infrastructure spending. there's a tax on wealthy -- higher taxes on wealthy hedge fund and private equity managers. there's a minimum wage increase. there's a host of things that appeal to and actually enfinfure the right and left here. the goal here they say stabilizing our deficit over the next ten years or so. when you look at what that chart looks like, you can see the budget deficit is the size of the economy very, very big. and then it levels off about 2015. that's what they say this projected budget would do, suzanne. >> christine, talk about this concession made to republicans.

this has to do with the way that inflation is measured and how it would impact older people. >> that's exactly right. it's kind of a budget wonky change in how they would calculate cpi, that's that annual consumer price increase people get in their social security checks. here's what it would look like. the basic measure of inflation, recalculate it so people would have a smaller check. seniors ultimately would have a smaller check that would reduce the deficit, but it would also reduce what seniors bring home in their checks. and that has been something that enraged progressives and people on the left who do not want seniors to come home withless money in their check. the white house says, look, we have made important, important safeguards for disabled people on social security, for people who are the very poor, the elder -- the very poor eld lerl people. see people 80 would take home about $894 less each year.

85, $1,100. and by age 95 it would be $1,600 less each year. this is something progressive people on the left and senior groups don't like at all, suzanne. >> for a lot of people that's a lot of money especially when you're on a fixed income. thank you. appreciate it. >> you're welcome. democrats, republicans, they are trying to find some common ground when it comes to gun laws. >> we have an agreement on an amendment to prevent criminals and the mentally ill from getting firearms and harming people. that's extremely important for all of us. >> so sounds like lawmakers could be inching towards a real deal. but is the nra going to jump on board? we're going to take a look at guns under fire up next. hoo-hoo...hoo-hoo. hoo-hoo hoo. sir... i'll get it together i promise... heeheehee.

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senate likely to begin debating tomorrow new gun laws after two senators reached a deal on expanding background checks. wolf blitzer's joining us live. wolf, this is not the kind of universal background check the obama administration had wanted or had been pushing. this is very limited. it is a watered down version. is this the best that the president thinks he's going to

get? >> probably, if he can get it. it's by no means a done deal, it's a done deal, suzanne. it's got to get through the senate and then house of representatives. let's see what happens as far as amendments are concerned, what kind of nra-type amendments might be attached that would turn off the other side, the gun control advocates. but you're right, it doesn't include all of the universal background checks, the expansion that the president, so many democrats really wanted. but this is a compromise by two moderate members of the senate. both of whom have good records with the nra. pat toomey and joe. we'll see if the republican gets this. he's not going to get the other stuff he really wanted, the high capacity ammunition clips, he's not going to get anything on the military-type assault weapons, but this is a step as far as the white house is concerned in the right direction. but it certainly doesn't go as far as he would have liked. >> does he think it's going to

get anymore cooperation that he can move forward or push this? this is pretty limited in scope. >> yeah. i don't think he's going to get much more than this. not just because of the republicans, but in the senate for example there are a whole bunch of democrats including some democrats from sort of gun states, if you will, up for re-election in 2014 or reluctant to go further at least limited expansion of background checks they don't want to deal with the ammunition, with the magazines, they don't want to deal with the assault-type weapons, at least not now. so i suspect this is about as much as you're going to be able to get despite the overwhelming majority of the american public that wants a lot more, you've seen all the polls, suzanne. our viewers have seen them including our brand new cnn/orc poll, almost 90% of the american public would like really tougher background checks, universal background checks but they're going to get something we suspect but not anything close to what the president actually wanted. the loopholes that will still be in there will be pretty

significant as far as person-to-person sales are concerned. >> and, wolf, very quickly here, we've seen the first lady. she is in chicago today. i imagine that that is pretty significant that she is now stepping into an issue that is seen somewhat as controversial or at least up for debate when you talk about how far you're going to push gun control. now, the first lady is now stepping into the fray. that's rather significant, i think. >> i think you're right there. and i think it's important she's going to her hometown of chicago, which has been plagued by gun violence over the past year, several years. and we all know the number of gun deaths in chicago has been going up. the mayor rahm emanuel trying to do something about it, but it's difficult with the gangs and the ability to be able to go elsewhere and purchase guns, if you will. she's going to get into that. not just talking about health related issues and exercise, she's getting in a highly charged issue of gun control in the united states. i agree with you this is significant for the first lady

in this second term to be doing that. >> absolutely. wolf, thank you so much. of course it's in her hometown of chicago just blocks away where a young girl was killed. join us at 5:00 eastern today. this is a one-hour special it is on guns. wolf blitzer's going to talk to senator diane feinstein as well as larry pratt with gun owners of america. the parents who allegedly kidnapped their sons, fled to cuba, now behind bars. coming up, how the u.s. and cuba came together to bring these kids home. two years ago, the people of bp made a commitment to the gulf.

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some time. 14 people were wounded at lone star college. two of them are hospitalized in critical condition. police say the weapon was a razor utility knife. two fugitives accused of abducting their young sons and sailing to cuba, well, those are the parents. they're now sitting in a jail in florida. cuban officials put josh and sharon hakken on a plane to the united states just after a cnn crew spotted their boat in havana. victor blackwell is following the story from tampa. so, victor, first of all, tell us, these are the parents. they don't have custody of the kids. they took them to cuba. they've now been brought back to the united states. what kind of charges do they face? >> well, there's a list at least half dozen for each of these parents including child neglect to false imprisonment, kidnapping. and we should say that they could spend the rest of their lives in prison on just the kidnapping charges. and there has been a development in just the last 90 minutes or so. there was a federal charge involved here. we've learned that that federal charge will likely be dropped in

the interest of streamlining this all of course connected to what police say was that kidnapping a week ago. now, when you talk about parents kidnapping their children, that begs the question why didn't they have their children in the first place? that goes back to june of 2012 when police say that there was a disturbance at a hotel. they went to the hotel. the hakken family with the two boys were there. there were drugs, alcohol, guns there. joshua hakken was arrested because of the drugs and guns. and they say that he says they were on their journey to armageddon, they feared for the children's lives. and those children were taken. they have not had them since. and one day before the alleged kidnapping that is when they lost their parental rights, suzanne. >> and how are the kids doing today, victor? >> well, we've heard from the sheriff that they're doing well. and he said that they're doing well physically, medically of course when you go through this type of ordeal the question is are there psychological scars.

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so today we told you about two incidents that happened this week both of them involving little boys just 4 years old with guns that were not locked up. a 6-year-old boy in new jersey and a woman in tennessee, they would be alive today right now if the guns that killed them were kept out of the hands away from children. so want to get into this further. of course we've been asking what about the parents, right? do the moms, dads, do they have a responsibility? should they know if their kids are around guns? and how do they even find that out? well, christine romans, she's in new york and she's a mom. and kyra phillips from hln's "raising america," a mom too. i know your twins, i've seen them, adorable. what do you do, kyra? what is the responsibility? i assume they go on play dates. >> oh, sure. >> do you ask if they have a gun in the house? >> absolutely. and i'm so opinionated about this and so outspoken about this. you know, they are my children. i worked hard to get those

children. i'm worried about their safety every moment of their lives. and if they are going to be with another family, i have no problem saying, do you have a swimming pool? do you have guns? if you do have guns, do you keep them in a safe? do you have a trampoline? what kind of backyard do you have? i am -- do you have an malignants, a dog? i have no problem because not every parent is the same way. and i may be -- i'm on my kids all the time. i know what they're doing. i'm big on safety. but i don't know that other parents are like that. >> you have this long laundry list, are there parents who meet those qualifications? >> we're not going to let your kids come over to our house then because you are way too paranoid. absolutely. they respect me for being so straightforward with those types of questions. for parents, i know not every parent is comfortable asking those questions and a little more timid, but there's a way to do it softly. you can kind of throw it into the conversation. so, i'm curious, how do you feel

about gun violence in our country? >> absolutely. i want to bring christine into this conversation. you have young children as well, pediatricians, should they be asking the kinds of questions kyra's talking about if there are guns in the home, they certainly ask about whether or not there's peanut butter and things kids are allergic too. >> with any child you go to the doctor -- with an 18-month-old i think it's 18 months where they give you the big safety speech and say open your sink, your child will be killed by the drano. a child is curious. anywhere they can pull open a chair and open a cabinet, they will get whatever is in there. you hear all this, but it's interesting. in florida there was this big contentious case where it was outlawed for pediatricians to ask about gun behavior in the household. and that was eventually overturned. a big, big fight. lawmakers say they are under pressure not to ask the questions and others who are d adamant about it.

i guess i'm going to have to have a contract when i go to kyra's house, but i will say we are paranoid about a lot of things. modern parents are paranoid about a lot of things. but when you look at the statistics, a lot of these gun-on-gun violence with little children especially happens in your own home and happens mongramon mongreltives. there's also your own personal gun safety. >> we hear about these extreme cases. they do seem extreme. a 4-year-old killing another child or even a parent in these situations. do you think that the parents should be held responsible? >> oh, heck ya. it's their guns. i mean, the kids are in their home. of course they should be held responsible. and, you know, on the note of the doctor, our doctors ask us about our sexual habits, they talk to us about our weight, they lay into us about what we're eating. >> drug and alcohol. >> absolutely. for goodness sakes, they should tell us, you know -- they should talk to us about child safety. not every parent thinks about

guns in a home. if they're not familiar with guns, they're not going to think little johnny goes over to robert's house that guns may be in that house. >> yeah, christine, weigh in real quick here. >> more families have guns than have dogs. that's a statistic we just found from the nationwide children's hospital. more guns than dogs in america, pets in america. so you think about it that way, we don't ask these questions. i think newtown has changed that. look, a colleague today told me it would be offensive to ask someone if they had guns in the home. it would be like asking if they had a pedophile in the family. it's not really the same. newtown has changed everything. we're asking more questions because we're worried and because we've changed the way we think about -- >> we need to ask those questions, christine. thank you so much. kyra, i will baby sit. i've baby sat them before and i will bring the checklist, okay. >> i don't worry about you. i do not worry at all about you. i would let my kids live with you if i needed to.

>> i'll borrow them, how's that? >> that's a deal. >> of course, you can follow kyra. she continues to tackle all these issues when she talks about "raising america," her show airing weekdays on hln. it's not often, but on occasion there is bad service we get at restaurants, cold food, slow service, even a long wait. well, the first one we blame, sometimes it's the waiter turns out it could be your fault. how you're sabotaging your own night out up next. c

celebrity chef cnn show host anthony bourdain traveling to places he's never gone before to sample the cuisine. this sunday his premier on cnn's show "anthony bourdain parts unknown" he heads to myanmar a place where few westerners have gone. shares borders with bangladesh, china and thailand. we had a chance to speak with bourdain last hour about the experience. >> just two years ago speaking to a western journalist would have put you in prison for an in indedeterminant amount of time. i was stunned how eager people were to talk to the camera, how frank they were with us, how freely they spoke. that's something very unusual in a situation where freedom of speech is such a recent thing. >> tune in to "parts unknown." that is this sunday at 9:00 p.m. eastern. join anthony bourdain and his crew as they travel to myanmar, colombia, libya, peru as well as many other countries. and for those of us of course

who like to dine a little bit closer to home in the neighborhoods instead of myanmar and libya, there are five things that disgruntle servers actually would like us to know. five things that the waiters say we do to sabotage our own meals. so there's a blogger who's out there who says, look, you're doing it to yourself if you have slow service, bad service, yes? >> yes, indeed. you know, we cover service in restaurants a lot and it's amazing how many people are possessed of the notion that food just magically happen and it's the pesky server getting in between you and your food. so we reach out to smart bloggers and smart workers like this man who calls himse-- he a for water for the whole table when one or two people want it. also gives away if you say you're ready to order and just sit there like, ho hum. i think we're all guilty of it at some point. also, you have to know your child's limits.

and don't press them to tell the server what they want if they're really too shy and not ready to, just order for them. also not listening to your server. so frequently he comes across tables where everybody is texting, on the phone and he has to repeat the specials three, four, five times. that gets really frustrating. also it helps tremendously if you ask for your separate checks at the beginning of the meal rather than the end so that doesn't impede your leaving the restaurant. >> he's right on so many points there. i went out to dinner last night and i wasn't really ready and i said come to the table and it took a long time, yes. i guess we all guilty of some of these things. you had a chance to actually ask -- you talk with e-readers about it whether or not they thought it was their own fault or the waiter's fault. how did they see it? >> we did. but i think this is skewed by a fair amount of service people weighing in. at least 43% of people were willing to cop to the fact that they might have had a role in it

at some point or seen somebody else do that. 34% of people agreed that, you know, you have to work with the waiter to get your meal out. 20% were just not having it saying that it's always the server's fault, the customer is always right. >> yeah, i like talking to the waiters too. i mean, i guess that takes more time as well. >> well, that's because you're a good human. >> it's all part of the experience of going out to dinner. cat, thanks so much. appreciate it. if you'd like to see more on this go to the website eatocrisy. he's young and the youngest world's head of state. what makes kim jong-un kick and who has the most influence on the north korean leader. we have a look at the family drama up next. er way. but your erectile dysfunction - you know, that could be a question of blood flow. cialis tadalafil for daily use helps you be ready anytime the moment's right. you can be more confident in your ability to be ready.

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north clea expected to test fire missiles at anytime and there could be multiple launches. the u.s. and other countries are preparing for all possible scenarios, many people have their eyes on the trigger man. we're talking about kim jong-un, the north korean leader's rise to power sounds like a made for tv movie. but knowing more about him could give us a better understanding of what he's capable of. we look at kim jong-un and the family. >> reporter: how did we end up

with such a young dictator, menacing the world. it is a twisted tale of a third son, born to kim jong-il's mistress. kim jong-un was reported to have been pampered as a young man. sent to boarding school in switzerland, developed an affinity for james bond and the nba, hence the recent dennis rodman visit. he spent virtually no time in north korea's army when his father elevated him to a general's rank in 2010. that was one of the first signs that kim had leapfrogged his two older brothers. why? on the eldest, kim john nam, believed to be about 41. >> he made the mistake of taking his playboy lifestyle abroad and arrested by the japanese police in 2001, trying to go to tokyo and disney world. the japanese police spent hours and hours with him. which means the cia and other intelligence services learned a lot about him. >> reporter: analyst mike green says kim john nan is a gamler, speaks to journalists too much for the family's liking. >> they can't kill him but can't

let him run the country. he's not a reliable vehicle for the cult of personality for the stalinist propaganda. then the mysterious middle brother. local media showed this photo claiming it was him at an eric clapton concert about two years ago. >> he is somebody who was reportedly effeminate, timid, did not have much political interest. >> reporter: just as enigmatic, the young woman reported to be kim jong-un's 20 something wife, apparently a former singer. could she have any influence over him? >> is it possible she'll say what about the north korean people what about the starving people? >> maybe. but that's not the environment she grew up in. >> reporter: that background helps experts try to figure out what kim jong-un is thinking now. >> what is your best take on his calculations now, what he's thinking? >> the aim is to rattle us and frighten us and the chinese and the south koreans and distract us from implementing security council sanctions and other pressure on the north. >> reporter: green, who dealt with north korea on the national

security council, says kim may also be trying to compensate for the fact he's so young, 29 or 30. analysts say he's got to show strength with the military. >> he's trying to look as a young man of 30 in a confusion society where age is respected as tough, and so that's his way of looking to the generals like he's in control. >> reporter: but he may lose control if he can't produce a male heir. his wife will be counted on for that, to solidify a dynasty that some say is on shaky ground. there were reports late last year and early this year that she had been pregnant, may have been given birth to a daughter, but nothing solid beyond that. brian todd, cnn, washington. tonight at 6:00 eastern, wolf blitzer will devote an entire hour to the crisis in north korea. tune in for a special edition of the situation room. that is 6:00 p.m. eastern. justin timberlake, queen latifah, cindy laupelauper, a fo performed at the white house

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