career or family, it's a struggle for a lot of women. it's reassuring that it's simple, but your biological clock on hold. you are about to meet a woman who says that's all a big lie. can women have it all? well, as tina fey's character in "baby momma" explains, it's a choice. >> i made a choice. some women got pregnant, i got promotions and i still aspire to

meet someone and fall in love and get married, but, that is a very high risk scenario. i want a baby now. i'm 37. it's too much for a first date, isn't it? is it too much? >> in fact, according to the cdc, the age of first time mothers increased from 21 to 25. if hollywood is an indicator, it's higher. halle berry. salma hayek and nicole kidman. geena davis had twins at 48. how accurate is all that? we have the author of "the big lie." she says not at all. this is a provocative book. thank you for being on the program. >> thank you for having me. it's exciting. >> thank you.

"the big lie" is a provocative title. who is being lied to? >> i score many lies, one is that women can delay motherhood until they want a child. if they cannot get pregnant naturally, science can help them. are they lies that were told or deceptions? there's not a clear answer. they are the lies we tell ourselves and the lies we grow up with. >> we are surrounded by the culture of women having babies much older. it's on the cover of magazines. you think that's part of the lie as well? people are more willing to accept the fact it's not a problem to delay? we see it everywhere. >> especially in today's society, we prefer the positive spin, the positive image. a goal with the book is people share their stories and balance the optimistic scenarios with the heart breaking ones. the point of the book is not that people won't be successful

having a pregnancy in late 30s and 40s. you have to be prepared so you are armed with information to make better choices. part is the celebrity culture that shows the success stories of women having kids in 30s and 40s. >> there's an optimistic spin put on it. fertility does decrease as a woman ages. as you get older, if you are trying to get pregnant at age 25, chances are 78%. by 30 years old, 63%. by age 40, just 36%. then, at 45 it's 5%. now, again, these are the numbers, the facts. this may not be a surprise to some. you say, is it that women aren't hearing that message or they are choosing to ignore it? a lot of obstetricians will mention it that fertility goes down with age. >> i trusted my doctors. i had great doctors.

after my third miscarriage, i went to a fertility center that the fertility expert sat me down and told me exactly what the statistics are. most women, most men know that fertility decreases after age 35, steeply. we don't know exactly how steeply and i feel like if we have that information we might approach our decisions in a different way. >> you weren't able to have a child? you had three miscarriages you said? >> i had three miscarriages and then my story has a silver lining. even though i didn't have a child, i was able to save my own life. it was there the process of pursuing fertility treatments that i was diagnosed with two different types of cancer. they were caught early enough that they were able to get the tumors. i feel great now. >> i'm glad. you look well. we talked about that during the break. let me ask you because we were

talking about this in my company. everyone has a strong opinion. i said i thought women knew this. they knew your fertility decreases as you age. they may not know the exact numbers. it's something that seems like women and men, for that matter, know. >> there's a euphoria of encouraging women to per sue their goals. itis not that there's a chapter of feminism in the book. itis not that it told us not to be mothers, it said everything we could do aside from being mothers. >> it's a fascinating idea and fascinating book. congratulations. ift's got a lot of publicity. we couldn't stop talking about it. >> i hope it helps people. >> we appreciate you being here. there's a lot of anxiety around this topic. knowledge is power. if you are concerned about fertility, there's a test that tells you where you stand. amy and tim hoffman's relationship was out of the

storybooks. >> we met right after college in our hometown, actually grew up in the same hometown. we got married in 2000. we were dating about three years. >> after the wedding, dreams of some day starting a family. it dnlt go according to plan. after four years of trying, they realized something was wrong. amy went in for a battery of tests including amh. a blood test that can determine roughly how many eggs a woman has left. for amy, the result was shocking. >> the number came back low, which reflected i had a low egg count. >> we are finding that many of these ladies actually have lower ovarian reserve and number of eggs left than anticipated. we are not sure why. we are trying to get more of the young women to get the test done so they would know where they stand as far as being able to have children in the future. >> despite her low test result,

amy was able to harvest her own eggs and go through the process of invitro fertilizization. she is thrilled to be the mom of twins. >> it's amazing. >> she said the simple test could spare many women a lot of agony. >> we think we are invincible and we can all have children into our 40s. for some people it's possible. for most,itis not. >> that test costs about $40. you can do it anytime. you don't have to go off birth control to do it. if fertility is a concern, your annual visit is a good time to talk to your doctor about it. >> the big hits in the super bowl. you probably saw them. i have to say i was stunned by what he was telling me.

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the seattle seahawks returned home to a heroes welcome following the super bowl last weekend. joe nameth made big news, not just for the fur coat he's sporting, but he's currently suffering from injuries from being smashed in the head during his days of playing. >> i have been through some things medically. i have seen some things on my brain that i have had treatment and i have improved.

none of the body was designed to play football. >> amazing to hear that. a guy at that level. i recently got a chance to speak with another former player about the side effects caused by big hits. we have done a lot of reporting on this. i was still shocked by what he told me. this moment, this hit, is painful to watch. >> look how awkwardly his head is caught under him. >> you were knocked unconscious. >> for a minute, yeah. the following week, when i played, i had players on the other team telling me they didn't think i was going to play. they were not understanding why i was playing in that game. >> the next week you are out there playing again? >> yes. >> i mean, that doesn't sound

right. >> doesn't sound right today. >> more than a decade after that hit, he says he's a different man. one who has never revealed to family and friends how deeply that big hit and a series of smaller one that is followed changed him. >> i have done very well of putting that face on. this former athlete has issues. he's thought about killing himself. they didn't know that before. >> is it a hard thing to admit, to talk about? >> yeah. but then there's bad times where i think that it's better if i just am not here, you know what i'm saying? so, it's pretty dark. i cry a lot. nobody sees it, but i'm home alone, i cry a lot. >> hearing about the suffering of other nfl players before they committed suicide, jenkins hears

echoes of his own life. he is convinced he will be diagnosed with the same disease they have, chronic traumatic inpsephology. do you believe you have it? >> i think so. >> it's a few different symptoms, problems with memory, temper or rage and depression. is that what you are experiencing? >> yes. >> all three of those things? >> all three. the benefit i applied for is the neurocognitive benefit. >> he's reached out to the nfl for help. he's been ruled ineligible for the neurocognitive benefit. >> i might be having a migraine. >> he tried turning to the nfl association for help. they won't return his calls. they say when players need help, they support and respond quickly in every case. both the nfl and the players

association in response to cnn calls have pledged to help jenkins. i'll tell you, we wish him all the best. we are going to continue to follow his story on sgmd. two outbreaks in two weeks. what you can learn from those who got sick at sea. no one wants to spend their vacation in the bathroom.

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you know, over the last few weeks we have seen two cruise ships plagued by outbreaks. that got us thinking, who else goes out to sea in mass? the u.s. navy. how come this every seems to happen to them. we asked barbara starr to find out. >> reporter: the u.s. navy prides itself on being ready to fight. whether it's a fire on the flight deck, like this drill on this ship or the ships bowls where they battle an unseen enemy, germs. >> serious outbreaks of ten or 20 individuals being sick are taken seriously and we attack those outbreaks. >> i, united states sailor -- with the 3,000 on board, you

might think outbreaks of illness would be common. norovirus sickened those on a cruise ship. the navy never lets it get to thachlt when it breaks out, sailors are strictly isolated. >> we restrict them to medical or their quarters. they do not go to the food station, galleys and gym. >> reporter: ships are cleaned around the clock. >> we do a cleaning station of the ship. >> reporter: from stem to stern, they sweep, scrub and swab. >> cleaning overheeds to decks. >> keep it clean because cross contamination is a big factor of food born illness. >> reporter: outbreak or not, the galley is inspected by the ship's medical staff constantly

looking for dirt to expired g d food. >> we go through during meal periods, after, while they are cleaning so we know it's safe for the crew. >> reporter: it's military discipline that makes the difference the navy surgeon general says. >> if you have a ship whose main center of gravity is social gatherings, food places, dancing areas and swimming pools, all those thing that is sailors wish they had but don't have on our navy ships, then i think it's much more challenging environment to control the spread of a highly contagious environment. >> reporter: there was a disease breakout early in his career. >> it was about 30 sailors. half got sick. somebody didn't have clean hands, stuck their hand in an ice dispenser and anybody who got ice from that dispenser ended up getting sick. >> reporter: it's something they

work hard to make sure never happens here. >> my colleague barbara starr joins us from the pentagon. you know, it's a fascinating idea, this idea we can learn these things from the navy and apply it to civilians. i wonder, will civilians go for this, it's a different life aboard a navy ship. >> it is. i have talked to a lot of navy people who think no, civilians won't. people save up a lot of money, go on the cruise of a lifetime for the dream vacation. they are not expecting military discipline standards, but the navy's point is, look, there are ways to keep things clean, try and stop the spread of germs. when you do have an outbreak, move very quickly to contain it and contain the personnel. the navy knows it can be done. are people really going to go on a vacation and expect that kind of discipline? probably not. >> when you looked into the

story are you more or less likely to take a cruise? >> i have been on a lot of navy warships around the world. the thing -- i'm going to avoid your question. the thing that impresses me is how clean they are. that mop, pail, broom comes out 24/7 for the least speck of dirt. the ships are spotless because they have to be so the crews can stay healthy and do their jobs in the military. it's a real effort by the u.s. navy around the clock to keep their troops healthy. >> no question. i have seen some of those ships, you are right. it's remarkable what they can do and keep the people healthy. you did a wonderful job of answering that question, barbara starr. thank you for doing this. thank you for bringing that. >> sure. another part of staying healthy is exercise. we had a question. could your gym workout be doing more harm than good? mine was. i'll tell you about it. [ male announcer ] this is kevin.

to prove to you that aleve is the better choice for him, he's agreed to give it up. that's today? [ male announcer ] we'll be with him all day as he goes back to taking tylenol. i was okay, but after lunch my knee started to hurt again. and now i've got to take more pills. ♪

yup. another pill stop. can i get my aleve back yet? ♪ for my pain, i want my aleve. ♪ [ male announcer ] look for the easy-open red arthritis cap. one of the best parts of my job is being part of the fit nation triathlon challenge. i love this because i get to help viewers do something they have never thought of, train for and race in a triathlon. we want it for you as well. look at the new team coming together for the first time climbing to the stop of stone mountain in atlanta. it's a huge step for some of the people in the group. they know they have a lot of training ahead of them. you are going to learn a lot

from them watching their transformation. five things you should never do when it comes to your workout. i come to meet b.j. >> nice to meet you. >> you are going to teach me to do it right? >> yes, sir. >> elliptical. >> it's nice to get warm and sweaty. itis not going to train your body. it won't make you more athletic and there's a lot of repetitive hyperextension of the knee. >> this is a popular machine, the crunch machine to do abs. people want to hit the abs. you flex and crunch. you are loading yourself in a spinal flexion. this movement is going to cause herniates disks and bulging disks. this is common as well.

a leg extension working the quads. the mirror muscles are the ones people want to target the most. the quad is the biggest most impressive muscle. if you look at what's happening here, a lot of load at the ankle. there's a torque on your knee. we are worried about the cart ledge in the knee. look at a better movement to prevent wearing down the joints. you want to slow that down as long as possible for longevity. >> you say a good rule of thumb, if it looks ridiculous, it probably is. >> exactly. the hip abduction machine fit that is bill. the only thing worse than doing this is making direct eye contact with someone else while doing this. >> this machine always scared me. i take care of a lot of back injury and i worry about this. >> you have all this load in this part of the back with it. loaded flexion of the spine is

the best way to blow out your back, fast. >> it is hard to look good while getting filmed while exercising. a special thanks to mens health and crunch gym. that's going to wrap it up for "sgmd" today. time to get you back in the cnn news room with don lemon. hello, everyone. i'm don lemon. you are in the cnn news room. i hope you are paying attention. this is a special edition of the cnn news room. we are working on a lot. escalating tensions. a man is accused of murdering a teenager during a fight over loud music. he claims self-defense. hear today's heated exchanges and the testimony that could be critical to the case.