having sex a little less lately. maybe you are asking your husband to do household chores. we are going to try to get to the bottom of it on valentine's day. hello, everyone. i'm john berman. >> i'm michaela pereira. so glad to have you with us. those stories and more. this is the winter that keeps on giving in a bad, bad way. the snow days, the flight delays, the flight cancellations. they are adding up costing the economy millions, and millions of dollars. >> a third day of jury deliberations in the so-called loud music trial is underway. jurors are deciding right now whether michael dunn killed jordan davis in cold blood or self-defense. dunn is a 47-year-old white man. davis was black and 17. he was shot dead in a dispute with dunn over loud music. it all went down at a gas station in jacksonville, florida, in november, 2012.

dunn faces up to life in prison if he is found guilty of first-degree murder. >> the son-in-law of a couple killed by a package bomb is being charged with planting the device. 49-year-old richard parker lived next door to his in-laws. police say he is the only suspect. investigators say they found a note that may have been attached to the bomb. they are not discussing what that note said or a possible motive. john setzer died immediately and his wife later in the day. oscar pistorius, had shot and killed his girlfriend, one year ago today, reeva steenkamp. these pictures were taken not long before her death. for his part, he said he mistook her for an intruder. his murder trial starts next month. in a statement today, he said, the loss of reeva and the complete trauma of that day, i will carry with me for the rest

of my life. >> we should say these pictures are being provided by someone close to oscar pistorius. clearly a message they want to send out they were a very loving couple. >> we have to take about this major, major accident. a trio of them really that are causing very real problem along the pennsylvania turnpike. right now, eastbound lanes are shut down. our margaret conley is trying to make her way through the traffic. she joins us by phone. margaret, you are trying to wade your way through the traffic. another big concern is emergency trying to get there. >> reporter: there were many injuries. so far, no fatalities. we were, our team, headed east on the pennsylvania turnpike towards new jersey.

there are three accident areas right around where we were, exit 343. the accident was at exit 350. 12-20 vehicles were involved. that's the estimate right now from the state trooper. they have investigators on the scene. we are probably not going to get the exact numbers until this weekend, saturday or sunday. the second accident area was westbound between 351 and 343. two to three cars with involved in that accident, about 10-15 miles behind us was another accident. a medvac helicopter came in and pulled out one person. that injury is nonlife threatening. we did see a local report saying that five of these injuries are hospital trauma cases. now, where we were, we were headed eastbound on the other side. we saw ambulance taking off in the opposite direction. we had official cars trying to squeeze by. everybody was trying to pull over so they could get by on our side. we were asked to turn around.

we made our way out of there. the larger trucks aren't going to be able to get out of there as fast as we were. there could be a three or four-hour delay for them. >> we are getting remarkable live pictures right now of yards, miles, endless traffic jam. that appears to be at least one of the accidents that took place right there. you can see those cars simply smashed together. over the last week or so, we have seen other pictures of people walking around giving up. that was because of the weather. in he sense the weather, the stoor storms we have had in this part of the country, any sense that had to do with these accidents. >> i asked the state trooper about that. there was snow, power outages, ice, rain. he said, no. right now, these accidents are not attributed to weather. he said, these accidents were

caused by irresponsible drivers, people driving too fast and following too closely. i called him back and asked him again if weather is a factor. earlier this morning, there was some ice on the roads. it accident happened around 8:00. everything melted down. he stands by that. there is going to be an investigation this weekend. that's when we will get more information. >> we are seeing more of these pictures. >> it seems to go on and on and on. many of the cars look like they were involved in accidents. some of the cars just stopped. margaret conley, thank you so much. you may not be going anywhere for quite some time. >> emergency crews aren't going to be able to get through this. cars going the wrong direction and being spun around. some fender benders. some far worse. >> it doesn't appear be to the weather that caused this mess but the weather has been making huge problems for a lot of people up and down the east coast.

let's talk about what the storm is doing to the economy right now. all the planes, all the travelers holed up at airports or hotels, all the businesses that can open because people can't get to work. >> the parents that stay home because their kids aren't in school. the places that can't do business because they have lost power. the list of loss goes on and on and on. >> believe it or not, there are some winners in this frozen stand still. we are all over this story. we've got reporters on the scene. rosa florez at laguardia here in new york, alison kosik of the new york stock exchange. >> rosa, let's start with you. flight cancellations, this has been a bad winter for travelers trying to fly anywhere. we are talking 1,000 flights so far canceled already today, right? >> you are absolutely right. thank goodness, micayla and john, for these little things, phones and computers. we all get those notes saying, oh, yeah, by the way, your flight has been canceled or

delayed. we don't see a lot of people at airports like we did back in the day. folks stay home once they know their flight has been canceled. we are talking about 1300 cancellations around the country and 1600 delays. now, the delays here at laguardia airport according to the faa, that's about an hour and seven minutes. it is not too bad. if you look at misery map around the country, laguardia is at number five. we were at number six earlier. we are rising in the misery map. if your love is in the air, then that's probably a good thing considering all of the flight cancellations. john, micayla. >> a misery map. that's the first time i have heard that. >> thanks so much, rosa. she was on the side of the road looking at the traffic and now she is at the airport talking to people who can't get anywhere by plane. thanks so much. let's turn to alison kosik on wall street.

this whole week seems to be a wash for a lot of businesses, september maybe hotel bars. >> i hadn't thought about that. you have to pay to get the driveway shovelled. >> snow boots doing real well. when you think of storms that come this big, business comes to a virtual stand still. it affects the economy big-time. jetblue says $30 million off the first quarter profits. you are likely to see more of the same. you think about this trickle-down effect. workers are losing money if they had to call in or call out. they don't have any money to spend. people aren't shopping. you have mcdonald's, whole foods, g.m. ford, walmart. we are also seeing this hiring slowdown. a big problem is you are seeing people not necessarily going out looking for jobs. your not seeing companies hire for jobs during this time as well. one more big problem. you know what today is. today is valentine's day,

micayla and john. the super bowl for florists. not a great time for the weather to be hitting in such a strong fashion. some florists telling us all their deliveries have made it because the weather is getting better today. we have also talked about pro flowers. this place has stopped taking orders in the region. it is reaching out to customers to warn them deliveries might be delayed. one other place we talked to you real fast. 1-800-flowers have dubbed this operation love storm. >> i'm a silver lining person. at least you don't need extra refrigeration for the flowers. we know they are delicate. thanks so much. happy valentine's day, darling. hopefully, things are looking up soon weatherwise.

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at this hour, good to have you back. the ceo of nicole miller, bud konheim. he says, those upset about income inequality here are rich by global standards. he said that middle and lower income americans should be grateful they don't live in china or india. >> we have a couldnntry level, poverty is wealth in 99% of the rest of the world. >> the figure is even bigger than that. i agree. >> here we are incredibly wealthy. >> here it is, money is all over the place and the guy that is making eo, my go

maki making, oh, my god, he is making $35,000 a year. why don't you try that out in india. any place. the guy is wealthy. >> the message, if you are making $35,000 a year is, you're rich. >> move to india. although, the commute to new york or chicago can be a drag. >> the fact is, most people in this country are doing okay. the most people that aren't doing okay, they have at least a safety net to help them. but there is a whole lot of people in this nation that are falling through the cracks, having to make tough decisions about which bills are going to be paid, if they are going to make their mortgage payment. it is just so the unfair that he makes a comment like that. >> a lot of people who want to do better are finding it difficult to do that. >> would you like another outrageous comment. >> give it to me. >> remember the venture capitalist that compared vilification of the rich to the holocaust. tom perkins wrote a letter last

month saying, i would call attention to the fair lels of fascist nazi germany on the war of its 1%, the jews name to war on the rich. >> now, he says the democracy should be based on tax brackets and income. >> the tom perkins system is, you don't get to vote unless you pay $1 of taxes. what i really think is, it should be like a corporation. buy $1 million in taxes and get 1 million votes. how is that. >> joining us now is heritage foundation chief economist, steven moore. good to have you with us. what do you make of perkins tax comment? >> i think it was a silly thing to say. i'm not serious how he is being there. i do agree a little bit with what he was saying. one of the problems we have had

in the united states over the last 25 years is a smaller and smaller share of americans are actually paying any income tax. i do agree we should have a country that people who vote should pay some tax, even if it is a very little amount. so everybody has some skin in the game. that's not talking about taking the vote away from people. it is changing our tax system so that everybody is paying at least something. i think most americans would probably agree with that. here is the point i would make about the comment by these two ceos. there is some truth that we are blaming a lot of the problems that the middle class and lower income people are facing, specially people in poverty and rich people. the people in the top 1%, 2%, 3%, they are the people that create the jobs and sign the paychecks. it doesn't help poor people to try to tear down the rich. what we want to do is have people climb the economic ladder rather than pointing our spears at people that have been successful. >> it doesn't help rich people

to tear down the poor either. >> snathat's a good point. >> there has been an interesting discussion about whether everybody in the united states should pay some kind of taxes. that's a separate argument than saying what perkins admitted was an outrageous comment but he didn't apologize for it, which is that rich people should have more votes. he is saying that rich people aren't just worth more economically but somehow worth more as americans, worth more from a moral standpoint there. i think that's what bothers people so much. >> that's offensive, i agree with you. i'm not going to defend that statement. >> look, i do think people who are rich for the most part, people that have done it the right way by start ag business, working hard and pulling themselves up by their boot straps and employing people. that's people we should hold up as to what we all aspire to be. the idea they should get more votes than the rest of us, as a member of themile cla middle cl

try not to be so offensive. >> you look at this statement he made comparing the 1% to the holocaust victims. he comes out and says something outrageous and gets some laughs in the forms where he is speaking. he doesn't really ever apologize to that. is he a man of a certain age thinking he can say whatever he wants. he has all this money. nobody cares. >> i don't know him personally. i know when i worked at the "wall street journal" as of a month ago, we didn't agree with everything in his letter, by any means. we wanted to publish that letter because it was provocative. i think we often remember that tearing down the rich and saying the problems with the poor are there are so many people like bill gates and tiger woods and warren buffett that are making money, i find that be objectable. there is a war against the rich, at least politically. we have a good piece in the

"wall street journal" today that shows that actually people, if you took all the money from the rich people, all of their money and gave it to the poor, you would still have a lot of poverty in this country. what we have to do is raise people up. >> nevertheless, joe biden says that he wants to keep the focus on income inequality. it is very much an international discussion with pope francis talking about it too. steven moore, thank you so much for being with us. please, come on back. >> you have to focus on mobility. >> we will talk about that another time. remember the childhood lesson you were taught. you don't need to pull billy down to make yourself feel better. it is the same kind of idea. >> tom perkins doesn't know much about little billy is the problem. it is third, day three of jury deliberations in the so-called loud music murder trial. jurors are now deciding whether michael dunn who killed 17-year-old jordan davis, did it in cold blood or self-defense.

we are going to speak to two attorneys straight ahead.

this just in to c inn this hour. the official report of what was going on with jonathan martin. he left the team after a pattern of harassmentes, taunts, bullies from another player, mostly richey incognito. attorney, ted wells, who did the official investigation for the nfl and the dolphins has issued his report. let me read you a little bit

about it. he says, the report concludes that three starters, richey incognito, john jerry and mike pouncement, were involved in a pattern of harassment against not only him but another assistant trainer. it said, martin's teammates did not intend to drive him from the team or cause him any lasting emotional injuries. they say there was harassment but it may not have been meant to cause any lasting harm. steven ross, the dolphins owner says, we have just received the report and will review it. we felt it was important to take a step back and thoroughly research these serious allegations. as an organization, we are committed to a culture of team accountability and respect for one another. we will look into this a great deal more and keep you updated throughout the day.

today is day three of deliberations, the so-called loud music murder trial. jurors are now deciding whether the defendant, michael dunn, is guilty of first-degree murder in the shooting death of 17-year-old jordan davis. >> dunn said he opened fire in self defense after an argument over loud music at a gas station in jacksonville, florida. >> two cnn legal analysts and defense attorneys joining us right now. we have danny cevalos and paul callan. we are watching this jury and the fact that they are deliberating. does this indicate either unit that this could potentially be a hung jury. >> i'll jump in. the questions in asking us the evidence is not unusual at all. i am sure that paul would agree. jurors are curious. they don't understand why evidence wasn't introduced. they have questions. the lawyers know why certain

evidence didn't come in. no one ever tells the jurors. you often get questions about, hey, can we see this or can we take a look at this transcript. this doesn't surprise me at all. it doesn't lead to a conclusion this is a hung jury. >> these are not professional legal minds like the two of you are. these are a jury of their piers. >> reading the tea leaves of their questions. you have to understand, lawyers, when we try these cases, these questions come out and it is a good question for the prosecutor or a good for the defense much. the lawyers try to read the tea leaves. it is tough to read them. i'll tell you why. sometimes you will get a question. it sounds like you are losing the case. for instance, the jury will come out and say, scould you recharg us on self-defense. the prosecutor is going to say, oh, my god, we are losing the case. sometimes there are two hold-out jurors and the rest of them are trying to say, just listen to the judge's charge one more time and you'll know we are right. shortly there after, they come

in with a verdict. don't get too into what a particular question is as an indicator of verdict. it is not always an easy thing to predict. >> they want to look at the video from the gas station and some evidence as to the trajectory of the bullet. they wanted a letter written from the defendant which outlined the case and they wanted something that actually raised my eyebrows a little bit. they wanted an easel, a white board easel. that made me wonder, we never know for sure what goes on in the jury room. could this be an activist jury that wants to start drawing die agrams and start charting their course. >> paul hit it right on the head. don't marry yourself too much to the meaning of a particular question, because the ultimate verdict may be totally opposite to what you concluded based on

that question. >> let's go to the white board. that's an interesting question. i don't know if i have seen a jury ask for a white board like they have here. here is one of the things that dunn said on the witness stand. he said that when he saw this gunpointing at him a gun pointing at him and was about to open fire, he was aware his girlfriend might have been behind him coming out of the convenience store. he is trying to put out of the jurors minds, not only was i defending myself but my girlfriend. where was the car? was the girlfriend really behind him? does all of this make sense in terms of the trajectory. it is a great question. i would be diagramming this stuff myself if i were on the jury. >> thank you so much. we will be watching and waiting for that verdict to come down. >> thank you so much. >> ahead of this hour, it is kind of spring iish in sochi, i why in atlanta. it seems a little weirder than

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we've certainly been talking an awful lot about weather and how extreme it has been from snow and ice, not just in the north but in the south. and the extreme cold from the polar vortex that made anchorage seem like a tropical paradise. >> you have all been watching the olympics. the winter olympics. where is the luge? where is the bobsled? look at these guys. i wish they were wearing a luge outfit maybe instead of what they are waiting right now. the united kingdom is getting

hammered by flooding there. >> there is only one man to talk about. chad meyers. we have been talking about extreme drought, extreme flooding, extreme lack of snow. what's going on? >> we have the jetstream going up too high and going down too lie. a normal day, the jetstream goes right across the united states, it is called zonal flow across the time zones. that's when you get a normal day. how many normal days do we ever get? you get a 70-degree day and a 40-degree day. average them together, you get 55. we had 70 and 40 and never did get normal. going to get more and more severe as we move ahead. here is what's happened this year. the positive phase of the arctic oscillation. the jetstream should be going around. the arctic jet should be going

around, across and through the polar regions. it has been dipping down. this is our polar vortex we are talking about a couple of weeks ago, way down here. that gave us the cold air. it also gave the west coast a very warm air. it has been 10 degrees above normal everywhere across parts of california. there is the next part of the up and down. it is going up here through parts of europe and then back up to the north and then back down here. so sochi is right there, 5-10 degrees above average. sochi is the same latitude as casper, wyoming. we are talking about the big ski resorts in jackson hole. they certainly don't have the snow that jackson hole does. >> chad myers, your the man to talk to. >> when we go on to this news we just got in, we now have the results of an nfl independent investigation into the miami dolphins bullying scandal, let's get right into it. joe carter joins us from

atlanta. you had a chance to go over the report. the report is really long. 148 pages. it just came down. i do have some of the highlights in this. this is something that the nfl has been waiting to hear from. we have been wanting to know what happened with the richey incognito, jonathan martin bullying incident. basically, over the course of 2013, ted wells was assigned to this investigation as an independent investigator by commissioner roger goodell. some of the findings he came back with that i think are the most surprising. he had a couple other people on a consistent base harassing jonathan martin. john jerry in connection with ric richie incognito. it wasn't just jonathan martin but an assistant trainer and a

younger offensive lineman. they are referred to as player "a." there is not a name to the assistant trainer. it said martin was taunted on a persistent basis with not only sexually explicit remarks but also racially charged, racially slurred, racially derogatory language on a consistent basis. this was the subject of him leaving the team abruptly in 2013. the report also says that martin was so stressful on him that it was consistent with contributing to his mental health issues. two different times in 2013, he said he considered suicide. another important point that i found to be important is that we have on derred whether or not the dolphins knew about any of this, whether or not the front office, the head coach was in any sort of position to cover it up or they had to even had asked the players, why don't you

toughen up jonathan martin. here it says that coach philbin in the front office did not know about the harassment and that martin never reported the abuse to the dolphins organization. two points that got cleared up, they didn't know about it and he never reported it. the dolphins do plan to improve the team's work place conduct by putting groups in place like the conduct committee with several former dolphin greats like coach chew sha, tony dungy, jason taylor, curtis martin. 148-page document. trying to go through, it is a lot to read through. >> we are going to have much more right here on cnn. >> ahead at this hour, it was the tights, the super tight high-tech outfits. they were supposed to give american speed skaters an edge at the olympics but could they actually be slowing them down. we'll tell you what's causing all the concern coming up next

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the u.s. and the netherlands, tied for second each with a dozen. including four gold. no country has won as many gold as germany. props to germany. seven gold medals. >> there was a country that wasn't on there, belarus. also, the nation of canada miraculously not there by some reason. >> nbc says it will make olympic tv history when meredith vieira takes over the anchor chair in prime time. the first woman to ever solo anchor the games in prime time. regular host, bob costas, is fighting an eye infection. this has been going on for a long time now. >> the timing is miserable. turns out that team usa might have outsmarted itself. american speed skaters are wearing these specially designed, high-tech, made specially for the team suits. they are supposed to give the

competitors an edge. a design flaw may be slowing them down by creating drag. no american speed skater has finished higher than 7. shani davis, favored to win, finishinging eighth. under armour says it is committed to providing team usa with the best possible gear. mach 39 is the most scientifically advanced and rigorously tested suit ever featured in olympic competition. it bears noting. they never got a chance to race in those suits. that's a big deal for those olympians. that's a tool for them. >> it seems bonkers to me. >> luckily, some of them did ship some of their own race suits. >> they are frantic to get this fixed because the competition is not over. >> let's go to the other ice-skating sport in a different type. it is taking a center stage at sochi olympics. we want you to meet some really cool girls from harlem in new york who are just as passionate about the sport. >> what they achieve on and off the ice is truly amazing.

they might never have had the chance except for the woman you are about to meet. she is our first cnn hero of 2014. >> i love the crispy feeling of the air, the sound of my skate crunching on the ice. skating relieves me from everything. i just want to fly. i just don't want to stop. >> i heard there were some girls that wanted to figure skate in harlem. growing up, i was a competitive figure skater. i knew that skating wasn't a diverse sport. there was not access for kids in low income communities. they were so eager to get started. i began teaching them. it was really inspiring to me. now, we serve over 200 girls a year. the best part about skating is that it gives you qualities that you use the rest of your lives. they gain discipline, perseverance. they fall down and get back up

and learn they can do that in anything. it's a building block. >> skating is great but education comes first. >> before they even get on the ice, this he have to get their homework done. they get tutoring the minimum of three afternoons a week. > >> algebra was not my best subject. i failed it. miss sharon hired a special tutor. now, i'm doing way better in school. >> we want girls to believe and know they can be anything they put their hearts and minds to. >> it is not all about skating. miss sharon is teaching us to be the best we can be in life. >> a great lady said, the secret to her success was timing and opportunity. sharon is giving these young women one of those ingredients. great opportunity. >> they said it is not all about skating. it is so amazing what they are

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all right, ladies, let's talk. you say you want your man to do more housework, how about the dishes, some vacuuming.

would it kill you to clean the bathroom? a new study finds all of that could actually hurt your sex life just a little bit. >> so this study is a real study, actually appeared in a so sociology journal, getting life in a "new york times" article written by lori gottlieb, couples therapist. also joining us, an expert in erotic intelligence. and also the author of the book "mating in captivity." >> lori, let's talk with you, my friend in las vegas los angeles. is this for real? don't we want men to help out around the house? happy wife, happy life. isn't everybody happy? >> we absolutely want them to help around the house, so men are not off the hook. what the study found, if men did more feminine chores like dishes, laundry, they had sex 1.5 fewer time per month with their wives than if they did masculine chores like taking out the trash or fixing the chore.

>> so not only do we need more about erotic intelligence, more about math. this is getting more and more complicated for dudes here. you know, i get mixed messages here, speaking on behalf of all men everywhere. what are we supposed to do then? >> i think that it's not just about getting seduced by the statistics of sex is actually a very good idea. and sex does not just get measured by frequency. it also gets measured by quality and connection and pleasure. so what i would say for men, in the realm of the domestic, keep doing more. keep going to this legaltarian idea. allow yourself to have fatherhood in a way that most fathers never had. in the form of the erotic, know that what ignites desire is not the same as what fuels love. the domestic and the erotic are not one and the same, and play by different rules. >> maybe there is something to that, lori. you can sound off on this. the separation between church

and state. you know, let's try and keep things, you know, divided. we don't worry about trying to be sexy when we're vacuuming to begin with. if we just separate these things and find equal ways to contribute to the household, and then we also keep things healthy in the bedroom, then everything works out. or am i just looking through rose-colored glasses here? >> well, i think you're right. i think that people need to have equal respect and equal power in a relationship. but how that plays out doesn't need to be the same. so equality doesn't necessarily mean sameness. and especially in the bedroom, a lot of people as i talk about in the article, are a little bit confused about well, if we're going to be in a 50/50 marriage, what does 50/50 sex look like? >> let me ask you this. i'm extremely uncomfortable talking about this right here. >> welcome to america. >> welcome to america, thank you. are we all better off talking more about this? >> look, i do think that we're better off having healthy, rich, complex conversations about sexuality that don't just turn

into smut or sank timony. i think many people do not talk much about sexuality and especially with the person they're having the sexual relationship with. i think if we don't look at sex just as something we do, but as a place we go, inside ourselves, with another, then you begin to look at sexuality as an expression of who you are. and then it becomes a very different way of talking about sex than what do you want to do, where do you want to touch. >> the specifics. >> yes. >> thank you so much for contributing to this conversation. lori gottlieb from los angeles. seems a perfect kfgs for valentine's day, no? >> and it is valentine's day. we want to leave you with a final thought here. if you watch cable tv, which by definition you do, don't make me get all meta here. >> oh-oh. >> you have undoubtedly noted this commercial on tv, including on cnn. >> guys, this valentine's day, size really does matter. so if you want to score big points with your valentine, go big with the big hunk of love bear from vermont teddy bear. this guy is a four and a half

foot tall pile of awesome. >> all right. this is is the vermont teddy bear company trying to sell for valentine's day. see if you can understand what their publish message is here, right? subtle, right? wrong. it's not subtle at all. it's like what i like to call a single entendre. the clear pitch, if you give the gift of vermont teddy bear equals sex, either for you, the teddy bear or maybe both. i'm not judging. advertising is a very good thing for our business, and i would not look a gift horse in the mouth or in this case a gift bear or gift porn bear. >> oh, my goodness. >> i'm wondering what we're supposed to be left with as viewers. is this weird, sexy, or, again, both? not judging. >> i think you might have checked off all of the boxes, as did your commentary and cable rage. >> tweet us @thishour. >> thanks so much for joining us. >> i'm john berman. "legal view" with ashleigh

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