tens of millions of people take dietary supplements. you may be one of them. you want a shortcut. you want it fast. who doesn't? lately there's one supplement that all my friends have been asking about. i'll have the lowdown in just a minute on that. but, first, happy mother's day. it's an important day, to my mom, my wife. i have three daughters as well. being a mom is a tough job, no doubt. and now there's a new study that says it is just getting tougher. meaning it's more likely to be stressful and demanding for my daughters than it was even for my mom. and it was no picnic, i can tell you, raising me and my brother. so, what is happening? and what can we do about it? well, to start off, i want to show you the morning of one particularly busy mom.

she and her husband both work full time, and they've got four children, all under the age of 6. >> when i get back from the gym, sometimes somebody is in the kitchen waiting for me. i'd love to know if any families really do sit down for breakfast at this time of the morning. come on in. what's the time now? this is india. can you say good morning? this is james. james, say hi to everybody. >> hi, everybody. there's a lot of juggling. there you go. >> i'm going to go and have a shower now. >> all right. open up. rinse. >> hi, how are you? >> being able to divide and conquer is certainly one of the secrets to success. should we get you dressed? >> how's that? it always seems that we're saying hurry up, finish this, get on with that. we need to get a move on. those are your shoes. can you please put them on? >> no. >> off to the races. >> what is all of this in here?

have a good day, you girls. and aston, no spitting. what about milk for lola? jack, your bag is undone. right. please. in you get. we've never been late yet. who is your chaperone today? okay. give me a kiss. as soon as i sit at my desk it's wonderful. you just kind of sit and you go, ah, that's great. >> i am just exhausted just watching that. so we'll talk about this. here with me in new york is cnn commentator and human behavior expert, mel robbins, you know her, and sandra singh lowe,

who has a book out this week called "the mad woman and the volvo, my year of raging hormones." welcome to both of you. i'll tread lightly in this statement. sandra, let me start with you. it's quite a title to the book. where did it come from? this whole juggling act we're talking about, how did you decide to write this? >> well, i'm a mother. i'm a 52-year-old mother of a teen and a pre-tween daughter and i'm menopausal, so all these hormones are hitting at the same time for mothers who are in the sandwich generation i call it, the triple ms, middle-aged mothers in menopause, women feel very overwhelmed right now. and our coping strategies, you know, all the medical advice we get to be honest is cut out alcohol, sugar and caffeine which is what some of us live for in a monday morning. and all the medical advice is always just have more walks, drink eight glasses of water a day. >> do yoga and eat kale.

please tell me why kale is always the magic food, like, all my problems are going to be solved with kale? >> what are you going to -- i mean, what should mothers know on this mother's day? >> what should they know? first of all, here's what i'm telling people. cheryl sandburg wrote that great book "lean in" but if you want to lean into work, you better lean away from the dishwasher. because one of the things that happens for women there was another study done, sanjay, and this is really interesting. 62% of women who were surveyed said even if they could afford help, they still wouldn't delegate because the person wouldn't do it right. so, for all of you at home, that have ever held open the dishwasher and seen, oh, my gosh, they didn't stack the cups right and you've rearranged it or you've refolded the laundry or scolded the kids when they have shrunken a sweater, you are screwing yourself over. so, for mother's day, i invite you all to lower your standards particularly on chores and start to get your kids to help. because the truth is, i have an 8-year-old son, a 15-year-old girl, a 13-year-old girl and, you know, my poor husband, sandra, i was laughing, because the last time i had a hot flash, sanjay, was right on this set on camera, so i'm hoping i don't

have one while we're talking right now. >> let's heat it up in here, yes. >> if my 8-year-old can do a 372-piece lego kit in 37 minutes flat, he can bus the table and do laundry. but it's my own expectations that are making my life miserable. >> that's well put. by the way, have you been to our house, because that's exactly what happens. >> yours? >> that's exactly. >> but i bet you're the one that's reloading. i bet when you're home you kind of like things a certain way. >> sometimes if you don't do a great job you may not be asked to do it again. i'll leave it that way. >> i know a lot of partners don't do a good job, that's it, it's easier. >> it's strategic. >> yes. >> sandra, i saw you nodding your head. you agree with a lot of this. i am really struck by this fact, it's harder, i have young daughters and my mother is

probably watching the program right now, studies show it will be harder for my daughters than it was for my mother in some ways. no disrespect to my mother. but this is challenging work. are we preordained, mel, for this to get harder? >> part of what we're dealing with and i'm sure sandra will agree, when they look at most studies of households 70% are dual-earner households. and until women start to demand the work to maintain a home is shared among everybody that lives in it, we are going to constantly be behind the eight ball in both finding times for ourselves and also feeling, i guess, energized enough to take on more in the areas of our life outside the home. sandra, what do you think? >> i totally agree with that. and i think that there's something of taking on all the problems of the world that women do today. i think, for example, we always get the statistics, man, if kids don't get a home cooked meal every night together around the

table, they will be obese and have diabetes ii and it's up to the moms to do it. and that's sort of another level of pressure on us that we feel, oh, my gosh, that there's somehow the blame that always comes to the mom. we always have the new book, the tiger mom book or french mom book and it always sorts of hits american moms of something else we're not doing. i love your idea of lowering the bar, exactly, on mother's day, stay in bed all day and if somebody wants to give you a mother's day card, maybe you let them in or maybe it won't. because it's up to you to do your own thing. i think with the home cooked meal, roseanne barr used to say in her wonderful sitcom way back when, if my kids are alive at the end of the day of, that's enough. >> has this conversation felt cathartic for you, sandra? >> absolutely. >> i want kale. i'm craving kale she mentioned it so much. >> kale and chocolate and pear with one. i am still laughing because i hear so many women's stories how they're really getting through it and how many women of our age

are putting half of their weight watchers points and putting it into pinot grigio. >> vodka on the rocks has a lot lower point value. i stopped drinking bourbon a lot because it has a lower point value. sanjay is not talking. >> we've gone from kale to calorie-free vodka, we've gone all over the map, but look, happy mother's day to both of you. you are great mothers and it's great for dads to hear the conversations as well, happy mother's to my own mother and my dear wife. appreciate having you on the program today. >> thanks for having us. a lot of people have been asking me about this popular dietary supplement. deer antler velvet, does it work? or could it do more harm than good?

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you may have never heard of deer antler velvet, but you probably will, sooner rather than later. it has exploded in many parts of the world, including right here in the united states. now, despite very little being known about how it works or even if it does work, we found a surprising number of athletes, trainers and doctors who swear by this supplement. deer antler velvet, it's this dietary supplement that a surprising number of athletes, trainers and doctors are turning to. they believe it helps improve muscle strength, recovery and boost energy. it's been used in china for thousands of years, and the premise is pretty simple. a deer's antlers grow fast, more than an inch a day.

could those regenerative qualities transfer over to human beings? >> i dove for a ball and tore my rotator cuff 90% all the way through. >> desperate after his injury, professional ball player adam greenberg turned to deer antler velvet at the suggestion of one of his doctors. how quickly would you feel these results after taking the pills? >> within the first couple days, i knew there was something positive going on. dr. quak called me up and said how were you playing? i said, what do you mean? he said, you don't have a rotator cuff. it's basically nonexistent. >> intrigued by adam's story, his orthopedic surgeon dr. patrick quak decided to start testing this on his own. the first thing he wanted to try and confirm, safety. >> the first 100 we tracked them fairly closely, you know, with, you know, questionnaires, phone calls, to really make sure if there's adverse effects that can come from taking the product.

>> so the 100 patients or so you've followed, you haven't seen any harm from this? >> correct. >> what about benefits? >> increased energy, decreased joint pain and muscle ache and increased recovery. >> the immediate reaction is suspicious, a little dubious about this sort of thing because it sounds too good to be true it probably is all of that. what are you comfortable about saying about this now? >> i think it really boils, like, to we didn't invent this, the proof is in the 2,000 years of use in chinese or asian medicine. >> deer antler velvet is sold in the united states as liquid drops and capsules. it ranges from a couple dollars a bottle to a couple hundreds of dollars. because it is sold as a supplement, not a medicine, companies don't have to prove there's any benefit. so we decided to look into it. combing through dozens of studies looking at the effects

of deer antler velvet on humans. despite the enthusiasm, none of these studies showed a convincing benefit from taking the product. >> heart rate's coming up and everything's looking great. >> only one on strength training showed even a possible positive effect. greg broder was the study's author. >> i had really positive findings but it's so small it needs to be repeated with a large number of subjects before i would say you got to take it -- this is a given. this is absolutely going to help you. >> endocrinologist dr. alan rogel believes any possible effects are due to nothing more than a placebo effect. if i came to you and i said i'm taking this stuff, i feel stronger and faster, what would you say? >> i would say don't take it. that would be easy. >> because it doesn't work. >> yes. >> i'm not going to die from it, but it doesn't work. >> yes, exactly. >> some believers point to something known as igf-1, it is

banned by the world anti-doping authority as a performance enhancing drug. so we decided to test it for ourselves. we wanted to find out how much of the igf-1 is in there when you buy. we bought more than $1,000 of deer abler sprays, drops and powder, 12 different products and then we had them tested at the sports medicine research and testing lab in salt lake city. >> so, i'm testing these supplements for igf-1. >> what we found was somewhat surprising. none of the products had more than a tiny amount of deer igf-1 but that doesn't stop dr. kwok and many of the other doctors we spoke to about this piece who do believe deer antler velvet replaces deficiencies we all have. >> it has naturally occurring glucosamine, concountry to cop kron droitin and hylauronics

aity, substances that happen to be the building blocks of cartilage. >> he was so impressed with the product that he invested in the company. >> this would jump it to the whole next level really, really quickly. >> but even they acknowledge the science is not yet there and this is by no means a magic potion. >> it's not take this and you will be an amazing athlete, eating a noninflammatory diet and putting the right things into your body and take deer antler. >> the last bit is pretty good advice. you can't take this stuff and say it will replace good workouts and good eating. speaking of which, cravings, we all get them. my advice? ice cream. just about any flavor. i've decided to show you some smarter alternatives to some of your favorite foods. it will leave you feeling full without packing on the pounds. yup. all five of you for $175. our clients need a lot of attention. there's unlimited talk and text. we're working deals all day. you get 10 gigabytes of data to share. what about expansion potential? add a line anytime for 15 bucks a month. low dues... great terms... let's close.

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next time you find yourself craving your favorite food, you should know this. you've got options. brad's raw foods, you've seen his kale and veggie chips. he's the author of a new book, "brad's raw made easy." he says you don't have to sacrifice taste or fun to make this work. welcome to the program. >> thank you very much. >> this has been paernl journey for you. >> it really has. going through a process of learning more about foods and how i use foods to lose weight, i lost 40 pounds about six years ago. >> mindless eating is a big

issue. if there are foods around, people will eat it. let's talk about ways you can substitute your cravings. if you have candy around -- >> exactly. go to dates or raisins or gogi berries, cranberries. just have it out, you're going to grab it. >> pasta. >> instead of pasta, use some zucchini that's ground up, put some tomato sauce on it, if you have a pasta craving. >> tastes good. >> it's great. >> chips, this is a big one for people. >> exactly. if you don't want chips, there's always kale chips. >> this is one of the most popular segments you've done. you've turned it into a business. >> it's exploded in the last couple years. >> who would have thought, kale, mainstream. come ford foods this time of year. >> exactly. >> that's a common trap. >> that is a common trap.

try to stay away from that as much as you can and always have good fresh vegetables, guacamole and hummus -- >> these are comfort foods that you can substitute with other z as well. these are water dense, so a lot more food with a lot fewer calories. >> if you're going to eat fat, eat natural fat. it's filling to have it with the veggies, too. >> you get the water up there. thirst and hunger are often confused in your brain. oftentimes if you think you're hungry -- >> drink a couple glasses of water. >> satiate the thirst. that can help. >> i wish you luck with the book. we talk about the problems in this country with obesity. we try to focus on solutions in this program. you're part of that. >> thank you. appreciate that. up next, do you have what it takes to cross the finish line

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>> come on. come on. >> started out with those guys at the beginning of the race. they're a little ahead of me now. hoping i can catch up to them right now. >> tough mudder. >> come on, mudders! >> i got it. >> almost at the end. how are you guys feeling? >> a little tired. >> how about you? >> fantastic. >> it's going to be something to test everyone. every different person has a different -- the nice thing about the tough mudder course is it tests all those things all in one day. >> don't stop. >> good job. good job. what do you think? something you may want to try one day? nice to have producers who do the heavy lifting on some of these stories. the comradery of a group of men,

you saw it there, whether a tough runner or a walk, it's a fantastic culture. grab a friend. get outside. get moving. that's going to wrap things up for me today. "new day" sunday continues with victor blackwell and ana victor blackwell and ana cabrera. -- captions by vitac -- www.vitac.com good morning everyone. i'm ana cabrera in for christine. >> happy mother's day to you. i'm victor blackwell. 8:00 on the east coast. this is "new day sunday." major history in the sports world and some would say for the country when michael sam shattered this new barrier, becoming the first openly gay football player taken in the nfl draft. >> he came with a lot of credentials. first team all american from