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look, we all have to admit that on the surface, many cities are basically the same. we like to think that chicago and new york are very different, to a martian, they are just tall buildings, yelling and pizza. chicago pizza is better though. i like cities that are truly different. salt lake city, utah. a mountain paradise, the big thing that separates it, it's the headquarters of one of world's major religions. say it with me. mormonism. who said scientology? mormonism, as lie like to be called, the church of jesus christ of latter day saints, or lds. is under the umbrella of christianity. it isn't treated that way. >> i realize it's different.

>> you can feel fun to make fun of it with no repercussions. you can get rich making fun of it. or richer. they don't care about your feelings if you're mormon. the thinking that salt lake city is lds city is not correct anymore. good tech jobs have people moving there to be a part of the silicon slopes. the skiing attracts all kinds of people to relocate there. >> i'm skiing! yeah. whoa! >> and let's not forget the foot loose effect. the religion that is restrictive does two things. it creates a counterculture and it makes members that who are the not fit in the religion to leave the religion. those add up to having a sizable

lgbtq community. what it's lake to be lgbtq in slc. we got mormons, nonmormons, ex-mormons and this is not meant to be a deep dive on lds. let me quickly drop some knowledge. and dispute two misconceptions. the lds church was founded in the 1920s. in the 1820s. the religion was based on him saying he met jesus and god in a forest and they told him that all the existing religions got it wrong. he found plates that he translated into the book of mormon. and the church moved around to a place where they couldn't be oppressed for they beliefs, including polygamy. they settled in the valley.

home to a tribe. and that valley became salt lake city. the church is led by a president who they believe is a prophet. currently, russell m. nelson who will not talk to us. nobody in leadership wanted to talk to us. they have sensitive to how they have been portrayed in the media. none of the community will talk to us. they are concerned about how they are conceived. and the underwear is called sacred garment, and many of you were taught that a bush caught fire and started talking. one thing that lds does have in common with other religions, it does not the have a great relationship with the lgbtq community. in 2008 they were antimarriage equality happening in california. church leaders told their members to do all you can by

donating your means to tide to keep same-sex marriage illegal. so i donated my time to try to stop them from stopping people from getting married. that hasn't stopped lgbtq people from living here. to find out why i want to talk to someone and i think of someone who is on the surface that is less salt lake city. once you're at the door, you know restaurant is friendly to everybody. >> i feel welcome already. >> hi, how are you? >> this is the owner. sorry, fellas. he's married. not just kind of married. like history books married. >> the couple a the center of the landmark legal case that led to same-sex marriage in utah tied the knot today. >> i now declare them husband and husband. >> not spending time in salt lake city, my brain would not have guessed this would have been here.

flag would have been here. >> we are currently on harvey milk boulevard. it was renamed two years ago in salt lake city. >> i never thought in salt lake city. >> trs it's a very diverse place. >> we have a lesbian mayor. my husband just got elected to the state senate. >> i feel that message is not spread across the country. >> no. utah is seen as a religious state. but the queer culture here is amazing. >> so tell me about the circumstances that you ended up here in salt lake city. >> there was a war between hezbollah and israel in 2006 and i was evacuated here by the u.s. embassy. >> how did it feel? >> it felt scary because i was 18 and i had been here two years and i thought, america's going

to be the place i will go and be gay. i will be out. i will be gay. i will live my life and i was so excited to come here. i fell like a place where i can be free. and that is what you hear as a kid. a country where you can be free, you can be yourself. anything goes. blah, blah, blah and not so most of the time. and i still was able to be out without fearing for my life. that is amazing. >> you came here, i want to go to america to become gay. not only gay, but importantly gay. >> defiantly enough. >> i want to be legally gay. >> yeah. >> and it didn't just make marriage legal in utah. it was in other states. >> in five states. under the tenth circuit court. which is just incredible. it blows my mind. >> that gives you a spot in history, right? >> i suppose so. >> i hope you are hungry. >> i am. i knew i was coming today so i

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not all mormons in salt lake city struggle with how to accept difference. this is a polynesian dance group and thanks to my wife's phd in dance, i can tell you that is not a move in dance. this is features gay and black and latin performers. don't be surprised to see polynesians in utah. one of the tenants of the lds is faith requiring them to travel and recruit. they believe they were polynesians mentioned in the book of mormon who some say sailed. and now utah has the highest per capita of polynesians in the u.s.

people are saying it's people dancing. what's the big deal snnchs we >> want to uphold the traditions of culture. at the same time we don't live on the island. we live here. >> are you mormon? >> i grew up in the church. but i'm not active. we separate it. we separate church and state. >> church and dance. >> church or -- dance is our church. >> the state is utah. dance is our church and we separate it. >> one thing we learned, there a pretty large lgbtq community here. >> we have a very developmented lgbtq plus community. >> let's talk about the letters. >> most of you know about lgbtq. lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender, and there is q for queer. there's more.

ifor intersexually. 2 is for two spirit and there is pan sexual, and gender queer. c for curious. h for hiv. another q. for questions and much, much more. and lots of different people have lots of perspectives, the umbrella term is lgbtq plus. despite that, all exist outside of normative culture. pause if you need to google. >> i run the ball room community here. not ball room but it's a ball. the ball culture. >> there is a ball culture. that's bold. >> yeah, we have battles of

whacking and voguing. and and the new tribers compete in the balls. >> i associate that with hard core lgbtq culture. the thing about that here -- >> that is what i love about salt lake. we exposed enough to have the information but we are bubbled not now have not be oversaturated. we just do things our way. we don't ask permission. we do it. >> this is shawn, you might remember a few seconds ago. a drag performer. and a dee jay. >> we have a great drag community. a great hip hop community. >> what is that? >> the qt pop. >> oh, qt pop. >> i like getting the new lingo. >> do you have a drag name? >> i used to go with aeriala pizza. >> oh, like pepperoni pizza but with nipples.

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gender or homogenize the differences between men and women and satan seeks to confuse gender, to distort marriage and to discourage child bearing. >> oh, boy. >> a mormon will tell with you a smile on your face what you are doing is wrong, and you will go to hell but that's your thing. >> you want to go to hell, you will go to hell. >> this is a barista here. not a mormon here. >> my girlfriend, she's a lesbian, and i'm trans. her parents are very mormon. we went over for thanksgiving. and i was like r they going to get out or be rude. surprisingly they're very nice. and this coffee shop is one of the best openly place. for lgbtq. we have a trans flag and a gay pride flag.

>> i feel safe here. a gendered man and black guy. >> it's funny, a black guy can go in there and i can go in there. you know what i mean? and lds is like all major religions. no matter how ain't lgbtq plus they are, they still have lgbtq plus. members. they are fine with the members. they don't want them to act lgbtq plus. >> i'm a mormon. i am a father of six children and i am attracted to men. the attractions are are not going to go away. they will be there my whole life but i don't feel i'm losing anything in my life. >> okay, not every gay person can or wants to partner up in a mixed orientation marriage.

and the message and it comes through early age and there are the damage it does is clear. are alarmingly high rates of teen suicide in utah. the rate tripled from 2007 to 2013. many think the rejection of the lgbtq members has been a significant factor in the numbers. when your home church stops being your home, what do you do? someone is working on new homes. this is the in circle house. you might not think a rock star like this -- ♪ you make me a believer >> would be determined to make changes in the church. but imagine dragons' dan reynolds is doing just that. tell me about this house right here. >> this is second house put up for lgbtq youth who are primarily raised in mormonism or orthodox faith and they don't

have a place that feels safe for them. if they did, this is one more place that feels safe. >> dan and the cfo of in circle feel committed to creates a safe place for lgbtq youth. >> up stairs is therapy. we have four therapy rooms. they are three times more likely to attempt suicide than any other youth. >> and the number one reason for death for teenagers in utah. is suicide. >> in the state. >> and lgbtq youth are eight times for likely to commit suicide. not accepted in the community. you put the statistics together, and really at-risk group. but the rad thing that circle is doing, it's bringing people together. mormons are good people. they're not looking to be bigoted. they are really good hearted human binges. i am not just saying that because i am mormon and i was raised mormon.

>> he is creates a music festival. called love loud. which celebrates the community. and puts pressure on the church to accept them and love them. and dan has released a documentary. believer, and a film that deals with the crisis of teen suicide and the normon lgbtq plus community. >> it would have been easy for to you step away from the mormon faith. somebody in show business and set their own rules. that's what fame does. and people forget it. >> and mormons will be like, oh, he is used to be christina aguilera, they have like, i think she was born -- one of her uncles was mormon. it's how black people do with blacks. he has a black uncle. he's one of us. what has kept you? >> there are a lot of things i love. it's part of my culture. it makes me who i am today.

and two, i know that mormons will only listen if it's coming from one of their own. we shut the door quick. you don't understand me and shut my door. it's the word out there and bolt it. but when someone's on the inside saying we can do better about this, we're like, you're one of us? you know. >> when did you realize that you had issues with how the mormon faith approached the lgbtq community? >> middle school. sixth grade. it was the first time that one of my close friends i met was gay. i noticed a lot of kids calling him that kid's gay and saying a lot of mean, slang terms. and i don't know what it meant until i asked people, and then i thought, what's wrong with that? and i asked my church leaders and they said, that's a sin. and i said, huh? just because he was born to like and love this person? why? why is that not okay but i still believed in my faith. it was a conflicting thing.

>> i feels every major religion that i can think of, it's still dealing with -- it's not unique to mormonism. >> that is a really good point. and the thing is, mormons are primed and ready to be the leader of the orthodox community that makes the change. they believe in modern day revelation. they believe there is a prophet on the earth today that speaks to god and god speaks to the current times. >> there is not a sense of what happened in the past -- >> yeah, a lot of churches are are like, we can't rewrite the scriptures. and mormonism is like, we write the scriptures. and mormons have three hour church. that's very long. and recently, he got up and said church should only be two hours. and i got the -- my phone was blown up. mom was like, church is only two hours. are you going to come back to church? >> oh, i didn't realize that.

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♪ hanging out with a legit rock star with dan reynolds has been great. that is enough of two straight dudes talking. time to talk to the people dan hopes to help. and this is keenan and nathan. 19 and 20. >> am i the only nonmormon here now? >> nope. >> let's talk about that. >> i fell away from church after i got a lot of backlash from my parents. before even coming out and that just hurt me. and i pushed me away. i respect my parents and their religion. i just can't follow it the same way. >> do you still live with your parents? >> no, i moved out two months ago. >> fairly recently. what about you? >> church was my own personal hell. throughout my teen years. whether it was someone at the pulpit who said something that made me feel uncomfortable or

unwanted. it could have been myself. beating myself up. it's a hard environment. >> your own personal hell. that a lot. >> and the place is supposed to lead to you heaven. >> ha is supposed to be the opposite of that. talk about your relationship to the church. >> i'm a convert of the church. i wasn't born in the church. i had lds friends and i converted. >> when you were investigating the mormon faith, were you out? were you aware that you are gay? >> i'm not gay. >> i'm sorry. >> no i identify as straight but i'm intersex. i was born with certain parts and pieces. but it's interesting. because a lot of people think that intersex and transgender individuals are the same. and they're not. i have gotten a lot of flack, my ordnances.

and the church, what's called annulled. the way they put it, the difference between excommunication, it's a disciplinary action for something you have done run. wrong. and you have done nothing wrong. we are going to annul your baptism and stuff. as if you never existed. it's been hurtful. people cannot -- i can't wrap my mind around the fact they can't wrap their mind around it. i can't wrap my mind around the fact they can't wrap their mind around it. i don't agree with mountains and it's like -- well, the mountains are there. they are always been there, whether you agree with them or not. >> what do you think about your religion? >> i want to be in the church for my family. i was sat down. we heard some things. we heard that you're gay and they heard this other thing. they didn't want to say transgender. they just said, that other

thing. >> do you have friends who are going the mormon route of obtaining from sex or celibacy or dating people like traditional relationships? >> yeah, i respect their choice and i respect them. but despite that, when you're told, we want you here. there's a place for you if you don't marry who you are attracted to, if you are celibate. if you enter into a mixed orientation marriage. or you leave. what choice is that? i think it's a lonely thing to be asked to do and i really empathize with them. i thought that would be my life as well. i thought i would live my life alone. i don't think it's fair to ask a woman to marry me, that she wouldn't be valued the way she should be valued. that relationship wouldn't be as fulfilling as i could be. for a long time, i thought i

would be alone. >> have you struggled with depression and thoughts and do you know people who struggle with those things? >> i have. and a large majority of my friends have. i lost people this year and it sucks. sorry to get dark. but it's not fun. >> no i think it's important for people to hear this. what about you two? >> yeah, i dealt we depression and anxiety. i have been in inpatient services. and people are surprised when i tell them, i tried to commit suicide before. you always seem happy. and you are always friendly and wanting to help. and you always have a smile. depression doesn't look like a dark cloud. just because someone is high functioning doesn't mean they are not dealing with suicide ideation. >> i think a lot of people are in a position, where we wanted to stay. it wasn't something that we

wanted to leave. but it did cause a lot of depression and anxiety for me. which is unfortunate. because i think it could be a place that is uplifting for everyone. >> yeah, religion is supposed to rescue you or help support new moments of need and vulnerability. the not supposed to create more -- need and vulnerability. >> they don't -- >> i feel heat coming off -- what are you think hearing all this? >> the reason we are having this conversation is because it does doesn't affect so many of them. it's easy for them all to say, no this is it. is what i have been taught. they don't have one of their children who has come out to them. things have to change. they just have to change. it's so not healthy, not the fair. i just wish that everybody could be -- take the time to just listen.

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so while the city is changing, obviously the church isn't. so some families are stepping up and figuring i out for themselves. this is max and his mom lindsey. max was one of the first minors in utah to get his gender changed on his birth certificate. did you grow up in the church? >> yeah. we had our records removed two years ago. >> when what is in your records? >> when you are baptized. when your baby is blessed, that creates a paper trail. if i annul that -- i'm no longer, i don't have that on my record forever. >> you have to save yourself. >> no more ticket to heaven. >> our family that is still in, that is painful for them. by petitioning. i said i don't want to be with my family forever. >> wow. in many religions, when you are married, it's till death do us part. mormon families are with each other forever. a fundamental part is that your

soul, including your gender, was created before you were born and continues together with your family for eternity. this is a major reason the church doesn't accept people who change their gender identity. when did you feel there was a disconnect? >> starting in the 9th grade, feeling what is going on? >> you were a ninth grader. >> yeah, and things were not normal. >> i can't imagine how confusing. >> yeah, it's like stumbling around a dark room. >> so how did that process work when you realize -- whatever this quote unquote normal thing was, i'm not. >> i didn't have a word for it. which made it so much more difficult to realize that i was trans because that -- i mean, you have to know what the word is to know that exists. i had no idea that was a possibility. i had an inkling that trans

women were a thing. but i didn't know that trans men existed. i didn't know what it was feeling. that was really hard. i looked up a tutorial. i think the google search was how to make my chest plat. flat. i got results. and it was transmen. and they used the word dysmorphia, which i had never heard before. i had a word to place this deep internal anxiety. and it was my entire body and i figured without trans people were. >> and google is like, welcome. you're in the right place. we have all the information you need. maybe more than you want. >> yeah, a little bit. yeah. >> you're deep in now. >> yeah, i was definitely overwhelming at first. >> what does dysmorphia mean? >> the anxiety and dread that fills if you are the grown up. ground up. it's acute discomfort from things an about your body.

but it's things that not right and it's playing over and over in your mind. >> what do you think of this? >> it seared in my head how poorly i had handle it the first time he came out. i didn't have a context for it. >> i tried to come out nonbinary -- first. that didn't work out very well. >> and he is asked to go by they/them. fro pronouns. and the grammar person in my head is that is a plural and this is not happening. and that is pretty much how i went down. and there started to be conversations. >> who initiated the conversation? >> kind of me. i found a short film online. a french short film and i was like, i can't say these words but maybe i can get someone else to say the words. so i showed my mom the short film. >> did you say, i want to you watch a film about this and it applies to me.

or just watch the film for no reason. >> i was like, hey, mom, watch this. look at this. no introduction. look. >> i stammered out are you a boy? you want to be a boy? and he couldn't even look at me. i just remember his head was down on the counter. he wasn't talking and he just said, my chest makes me really uncomfortable. and i have been doing research and i would really like a chest binder and i said, okay. >> wow, in that moment. >> it's far too point. important. to see i need to pay attention. >> he sent me the link. i ordered them that night. >> that night? >> yeah. >> this is some "a" plus momming right here. it's not give me a night to think about it. let me talk to friends. let me do research online.

>> it was really intimidating and a scary period of time. after he came out on, i was stuck. i was stuck. >> yeah. >> and momma dragons was my lifeline. i took max to a support life support group. max walks off to his group. he's been there before. and there is a mom, and she sees this look in my eye and she's like, come here. you need me right now and she just wraps me in a hug and i just lose it. like, all of them -- the emotion of just trying to just hold it together. >> momma dragons is a group of moms, some mormon or formally mormon fighting for their lgbtq plus children. started on facebook in 2014. they have 2,800 members who provide emotional and educational help.

as families deal with supporting their lgbtq children. >> the momma dragons have been such a great research for me. there are moms that have been through this. and going through this. and support each other and that was my moment where i was able to open up as -- we're doing this. we. our family is doing this. >> what do you think of all that? >> well, i teared up a little bit. because i just remember that day on the drive home, just sitting there and being like, oh, wow. this can actually happen. like are, i can actually -- i can do this. and that was a really good day. i honestly don't know if i would be here without brooke, the mom that showed my mom help. that is scary to me but i am grateful. there are people like that out there. >> there is a lot of gratitude for this mom here. >> yeah, oh, yeah, that goes without saying. >> yeah, goes without saying.

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♪ after talking to max, i wanted to take him to meet my

friends kent and mckay scadlock. >> hi, good to see you. >> they are a father and son i met when shooting an episode in seattle. they grew up in members of the lds church. >> tell me about your experience being here in utah. >> i was pretty much born and raised here. i grew up in the lds or mormon faith. i was outed to my father by my bishop when i was 17. because i got ratted out by a kid i had had sexual relation with in high school and he was getting ready to go on a mormon mission. so he spilled his guts and named nad names. so i got outed to my father, which was quite humiliating and quite scary. when it came time for me to go on a mission, i had to go through the whole church confession thing. their theory was go on a mission, come home, get married, it will go away.

>> wow. it will go away. >> yeah. it will go away, yeah. >> just on its own? it will just sort of leave your body? >> yeah. go on a mission. come home. get married. have kids. you'll be fine, you know? >> my friend was told the exact same thing recently, too. >> they're still saying that? >> yeah. they were just like don't worry about it right now, it will fix it. just keep going with the church. >> really? >> yeah. >> so obviously i came home from my mission, got married, went to school, had three kids. thought i was doing the right thing. whole time knowing i wasn't changed the way they said it would happen and then i got to a point in my life about eight or nine years into my marriage, i felt like i had to tell my wife at that point, which i came out to her then. we stayed together because we had three kids together. after another 13 years after that, i just got tired of being -- living this duplicitous life, because i was, and i wasn't being true to myself, so i just,

you know, i thought i was going to have to have this big reveal with my closest friends and they're like, why didn't you do this ten years ago when we all knew? do you know what i mean? so i came out, but he had already come out in the process. >> oh, that's -- >> so my son came out before i did. >> that's awesome. >> that's great. and also got to be sort of confusing on your -- >> well, it was nice -- so i realized that he was gay in my mid teens. >> this is so weird. >> and i had known since i was 6 years old. >> mmm-hmm. >> but i thought everybody was gay and suffered from same-sex attraction and you just had to suppress it to be a good -- >> oh. >> to be a good religious follower. >> yeah. >> and i suppressed so much emotion up until i was 19, that once i turned 19, i hit the drugs and alcohol. >> oh, yeah. >> super, super hard. >> yeah. >> i mean, the thing is, both of you are talking about when your identity is not accepted that

there is depression and there is, like, a high rate of suicide and those things, you know what i mean? because society is judging you. >> well, i went through a period where i drank real heavily, and there was depression, and even prior to coming out, i was to the point where, unfortunately, and if i told you i hadn't considered suicide more than once, i'd be lying, because i did. i thought this might be easier than going through it. the only person i was outed to at 17 was my father. my dad and i were super close up to that point. that drove a wedge between my -- my father and me. >> mmm-hmm. >> and that lasted until i was in my 40s, until i found out that my dad never -- i thought my dad had shared all that information. my dad kept that a secret until a confronted him with my therapist at age 44. and i wasted all those years having this resentment towards my dad, who i loved and adored,

and it -- sorry. and that's a regret. sorry. >> don't be sorry. don't be sorry. i mean, i'm sorry to bring this up. >> no, it's my story and i'm happy to share it. >> well, i think it's -- >> i just hope nobody else has to experience it. >> i think that's the important thing about -- i was talking with max at his house about his mom. by the way, max has the greatest mom ever. it's important to share these stories. somebody who may be a kid, a person who is older, in a relationship they shouldn't be in, trying to prepped tend to b someone they're not, there is a way through this. i think there is three generations here of identity acceptance, so -- >> yeah. >> my last question is, why stay here? i know it's gotten better, but you know it's really good in san francisco.

>> yeah. >> because there are really good people here. and, you know, when it comes to the lds faith, i don't really regret growing up in the church. only because i shed a positive light, like, the values that i was taught here and the values that a lot of people here have, you know, when it comes to being honest, true, chaste, benevolent and virtuous to your fellow man, which is a common mormon saying, i don't think i would be the person i am today if i wasn't raised in that environment. at the end of the day, like, salt lake city's home for me. ♪ >> to the lgbtq-plus folks out there, you exist, you matter, you're here, you're queer, and

the rest of us need to get used to it. and to the mormons who aren't used to it, let's be clear, this episode is not meant to be an attack on your faith, it's an invitation for you to keep updating the operating system. if you can 86 polygamy then you can fully accept the lgbtq-plus community for who they are. it's the right thing to do because people's lives depend on it. but don't listen to me, listen to one of your own when he says -- >> i have a sneaky suspicion that god believes in love. the following is a cnn special report. america is at war with itself. >> young people openly racist.

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