you may have noticed lately that the gop is working overtime to make the lives of trans people more difficult than their lives already are. the gop wants to kick trans people out of bathrooms, sports. >> 31 states introduced legislation. >> the military. doctor's offices. >> anti-transgender health care. >> and trans women especially are under threat at all times. >> was shot and killed on an east dallas street saturday morning. >> then those of you who know all that's awful call trans people brave for putting up with it. trans people don't want to have to be brave. they just want to be. this week we are talking to black trans women in dallas, texas, about trying to just be. ♪

>> i'm back in dallas, y'all. yay! while we often think about the black trans community being in big cities like l.a. and new york, we need to see that black trans folks are everywhere. even in a state like texas, where 70% of the population identifies as christian, and not just easter/christmas christian, megachurch christian. that is exactly why it's important to be here in dallas because despite everything, the black trans community here is out, proud, and insisting on living their best lives, whether you like it or not.

>> so here is the word. ezekiel 37: 1-14. the hand of the lord came upon me and brought me out of the spirit of the lord and fed me down in the midst of the valley. and in that valley was full of dry bones. listen to what they said. our bones are dry. our hope is lost, and we ourselves are cut off. goodness, gracious. don't i know something about that? as a woman of trans experience, don't i know something about that. jesus. >> preach, preach. >> i was reared in a very spiritual household. my dad was a bishop. my mother was a pastor. all i knew was church, and i grew up in a pentecostal

background. we went to church seven days a week. as a p.k. kid, as they say, a preacher's kid, you're going to do something in the church. so 12 years old, i felt the call to minister. oh, but when i was 16, the scriptures looked different. even, you know, at that young age. then my life was blessed, you know, to basically live outside the norm. >> this is the bible belt. >> yeah. >> i don't know if this is the buckle of the bible belt, but it's pretty close. home of the megachurch. >> yeah. >> when you say pentecostal, that is like one of the very -- i don't have to tell you -- fiery, brimstone. >> yeah. >> you're going to -- can i say hell in a church? >> what the hell? >> you're going to hell. if you don't live like this, you're going to hell. >> yeah. and i was 16, you know. i was a child, you know. being in a strict household, parents very well known, but, yet, that was a decision i could not walk away from. it was life or death.

and so by the time 16 came, i wake up, as my mother would say, and now she has a daughter. >> and how did your family respond? >> oh, it was a challenge, you know. they didn't know what to do. of course at that time this was 24 years ago, almost 25. there was no terminology. so they used to mix, you know, gender identity with sexual orientation. so, you know, it was always about, you know, i'm running around being gay. so it was very difficult for me to even advocate, to educate my parents. i had to withstand, you know, the rejection. i had to withstand, you know, if i don't get my life right, you know, you're going to hell. you know, god didn't make adam and steve. he made adam and eve. i'm like, god made everyone. i don't understand that context that you're putting. >> you know, a lot of the churches here in dallas, around the south, around the country have a version of christianity

that is heteronormative. >> yeah. >> even if there's women ministers, they are still participating in the patriarchy. >> yeah. >> then you step in there and preach. does it always go well? is it ever a challenge? >> so at the beginning, it was a major challenge. i will say that i am very church-trained. >> i can feel that. you speak the language fluently. >> yeah. so when i show up and i walk in, by the time i do the drop mic, it's like, oh, when are you coming back? i'll be glad to come back because there are some people that want to learn. they want to take a closer look at that book. i don't believe those scrip turz was there for us to keep interpreting them the same. the scriptures allow us to be convicted. it allows us to be corrected. it allows us to be encouraged. it allows us to grow. >> you just invoked the bells. >> wow. >> you summoned up the holy

ghost. >> i can take this two ways. thank you, lord, for the confirmation or, oh, no, we're going to have this conversation. this is god's doing, and i'm very blessed. so i'm not going to have the conversation god made a mistake. i want my community to be bold enough to understand that god intended for them to be here in existence. that's why they were created. and they were created for a purpose. then the other piece is those that are looking outside in that we're trying to recruit as allies, love your neighbor as yourself. >> i'm pretty sure that's in the bible somewhere. >> that is in the bible. >> it doesn't say your cisgender heteronormative -- >> no. there was no terminology such as that. no! >> it just said your neighbor. >> your neighbor. >> whoever is next door. >> whoever is next door. >> in their fully realized form. >> the kingdom of god is going to be diverse, and i think it's important for us to accept that and let us move on together. [ bells tolling ]

>> you got too good again. the bells never ring when i'm talking. i must not be saying good stuff. i'm trying to say some good stuff, but the bells like, no, no, no. >> it's kind of crazy to me that we live in a world that privileges folks based on how much they fit in. >> mm-hmm. >> sometimes you are not supposed to fit in. >> uh-uh. >> sometimes you are supposed to be that big glittery ray that's just like, hey, y'all are boring, you know? >> this is one place. you can come up here any way you want to. >> pocahontas crow and ncx created house of rebirth for black trans women who don't have a home or can't go back home.

a place that is part clubhouse and part sanctuary. >> i notice in here, it's filled with clothes and not just like serviceable clothes. like beautiful clothes. clothes to make you feel better and feel like you can go out into the world. >> right. >> like clothes are such a big part of a person's, i think, transition too. i think it's a beautiful time to be able to figure out what your style is. >> oh, to experiment with, as you said, in the midst of some sort of transition, you may not know what it is until you see it. >> people don't think about folks' comfortability going to shop, you know? are you going to get help? is somebody going to say, hey, maybe you should try this one. this might fit a little bit better. there's so many things that i think people take for granted. >> here's just a small sampling of things you don't have to

worry about if you're cisgender. being verbally or physically abused. stranger asking about your genitalia. having to go through a psychological evaluation in order to receive basic medical care. having to endure laborious conversations about pronouns when your dumb uncle who you know understands but simply refuses because uncle maga wants to be an asshole. >> you identify as a cis. >> yes. >> i think being a black cis guy, there's a responsibility, i think, that's there when we start talking about someone else who we might have a little privilege over. >> yeah. >> and i certainly sprexperienc that privilege, i'm very used to and excited to be course corrected. i know i know more than the average person, but that doesn't mean i know anywhere close to enough. >> what do you know that's more than the average person, kamau?

>> i can say cisgender and know what that means. when the person's gender identity matches the sex everyone assumed they were at birth. easy. >> that puts me in 1% of people. heteronormative. a system that teaches us that heterosexuality is the normal and natural way to shall. what else do i know? non-buy nar i. gender identities that are neither male nor female. >> can you say them no the correct format? >> yes. >> you know what's so funny? i've worked for this organization, and the h.r. lady, bless her heart. she's like maybe 60-something. she's like, hthey. i'm so excited that you're here. they are a really beautiful person, and i'm really excited about them. and i'm like i'm standing in front of you. >> hi, they. >> yeah. it was cute, though, you know? i guess it was like effort.

effort matters more than i feel like sometimes just none at all. >> cisgender heterosexual men like myself, there's the idea like if i'm not hurting anybody, if i'm not killing anybody, i'm doing enough. obviously we can do more. what can men like me do better? >> let me ask you. >> yes. >> what do you feel like the cisgender heterosexual man role is? >> i think the hardest thing to do is to tell other cisgender heterosexual men to shut up, to not let them, quote, unquote, locker room talk go. obviously there's things that could be southeaeen as harder, it's easy to think i'm not going to get involved in this. >> because it's not locker room talk. it's violence. >> people getting killed. >> it's violence in that when we're able to laugh at somebody else's humanity being like taken away from them, that wasn't the physical act of violence, but it was the precursor to the physical act of violence because it's on okayed in the minds of the person who might go and do that thing or the minds of the

person who has a child who might go and do that thing. it's simple for you to reach out to your homeboy and be like, hey, that wasn't cool that you did that right there than for me to do it. >> right. >> mm-hmm. >> than for pocahontas to do it. it does matter, like, not only that you are not harming anybody, but also that you're proactively, like what we say, like being anti-racist, you know. >> this turned into, like, an intervention, which i appreciate at, i'm not mad. >> this conversation needs to be had. >> absolutely. >> i ain't the letting you off the hook easy type.

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knew that i was not the person that i was born genetically. i knew that. i knew that there was something different. i began my transition in '64. i went to college, and i came out with a nursing lvn license. so i was able to -- >> get that money. >> yeah. well, you know, you had to do something. >> of course, of course. >> to pay for those neiman marcus dresses. so i worked as a nurse. >> so at the hospital you worked at, you were -- >> at the hospital, i was sharon. >> okay. >> and undressing, going back home with my family. >> oh. that's got to be stressful. >> it was. it was very stressful. i thought it was really, really time for me to be me. >> yeah. >> i ended up in seattle, and a friend of mine came to visit. she had a nightclub act. she was a snake charmer, and she

left, and she left the snake. she said she was going to come back and get them. but i had this 12-foot anaconda and 6-foot boa constrictor in my guest room. long story short, i ended up with the snakes. >> uh-huh. >> and developing my own nightclub act. yeah. ♪ i'm really working all over the country. >> wow. >> and i'm lady shonda, the snake charmer. and now i'm opening for acts like mary wells, the bar-ks. >> whoa. >> ike and tina turner. >> ike and tina turner. >> it was really an interesting few years of my life. so from that point on, my life

was my life, you know? >> you could be who you were everywhere. >> yeah. yeah. but i didn't want the entertainment thing anymore. i decided to move to the bay area. ♪ that's like '76 maybe. >> it's on and poppin' in the bay. >> yeah. >> there's still black folks in the bay. >> oh, it was -- hey. so i just loved it. it was everything. >> yeah. >> now we're into late '70s. at the time, we did not know what it was, but the aids pandemic was about to hit. >> oh, yes. >> and that began my activism. now there is a large lgbt community here in dallas. but unfortunately they have a

lot to do in terms of equity for the trans community. >> mm-hmm. >> there's a divisiveness in the lgbtq community. i love my brothers, but they forgot who made this -- this -- this comfort level that they experience now, who made that possible. >> mm-hmm. >> they forgot. >> like so much of history, the lgbtq+ liberation movement in large part has been whitewashed, maybe white gay man-washed. trans activists such as marcia p. johnson and miss major griff ingracie are key figures who play vital roles in the organizing that activism that was happening before and after stonewall. >> history shows and has proven that the people at the forefront

of the movement were black trans women. we were the ones who were arrested, who got beat with those clubs. we were out there fighting for rights for our brothers too, for our sisters. >> mm-hmm. mm-hmm. >> it wasn't about just us. it was that we were tired of our community being treated as third-class citizens. >> while things have certainly changed since ms. sharon's generation, black trans women are still fighting for their rights. and in the 21st century, if you're going to fight, you might as well have a podcast. >> welcome back. if you're here for the first time, this is the third episode of all for one. >> the topic for today is dating. >> when we started, it was really important to me that we created content that wasn't just for us but other people who may not be in the community could relate to it and gain something

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tell me about malaysia growing up. >> oh, it's hard when people ask me that because i raised a son. i raised pierre to the age of 18. i felt like she was gay growing up, you know, but she kept denying it and kept saying that she wasn't. so i never would have thought trans. i didn't see that. >> so when did malaysia tell you? >> one day we was coming from the store, and i was going to drop her off somewhere. she said, oh, by the way, i'm going to live my life as a woman now. and i almost wrecked my car. i said, well, how the hell you going to do that? >> i love the fact that she was in the back seat like a child. >> she got out of the car. she slammed the door because it was just a heated argument. by the way, can i have my birthday party at your house? and so on her birthday, she had a birthday party at home. she came in full -- >> oh, so she came to her birthday --

>> yes. i everngaged for a little whiled i had to go lay down. i come from a christianity background. as a parent, that's stuff you don't talk to people about. >> so how did you come to terms with it? it seems like now you -- >> it took a while. we had a roller coaster relationship. >> mm-hmm. >> she had this thing where, mommy, you got to start calling me malaysia. i'm like, no, pierre. she would be like, i don't like that punk, that boy. i'd get angry when she'd say it. >> talking about pierre, as if pierre was a separate person? >> right. ♪ >> you know, when you have your child, they tell you, congratulations, it's a boy, it's a girl. you're healthy and perfect to me. but to her, she wasn't, and that bothered me. like what is it in you that you don't like about yourself?

as though we was having this tug-of-war, and she would stay away because she felt like i wasn't respecting her. and so i started missing my baby. this is my child. i love my child. so i would pray, am i missing something? explain that to me because my child's sexuality is this. i can't hate or not love my child. so i started yielding, like, okay. you want to be malaysia, i'll kal call you malaysia. >> but come home. >> right. >> hey, trey. hey, boyfriend. ♪ >> tell me about malaysia out in the world, out in the culture. >> she already had her platform on facebook because she had this thing she called story time that used to get on my nerves. >> let the brakes down. and we let the brakes down.

anybody looking for a transgender wife? >> malaysia was full of life. she was a character. so she just always would record herself going live, just talking. >> hilarious. it was crazy how many people would be on their live watching her. >> you like this ombre. it was an accident too, bitch, because i put a little filler and i don't feel like wiping it out, right? i grabbed my lipstick and i just leave the middle part clear, and i had an ombre. >> malaysia gave her this confidence. pierre was timid, shy. sometimes i'd be like, i can't believe it's the same person. >> being trans, when you finally just accept who you actually are and you live in that, you leave behind all the timidness, the shy, the scariness. you be who you are. sometimes that offends people. don't nobody why it does, but it

does offend people. >> in april 2019, the world witnessed the violence trans women faced for simply existing when a video of malaysia being attacked and beaten in a parking lot went viral. >> everybody in the world could see exactly how it goes, how trans women are looked at in the community. most people don't really get to see what actually happened. they just hear about it. >> and then malaysia had the press conference, right? >> uh-huh. >> this has been a rough week for myself, the transgender community, and also the city of dallas. >> i just felt like, just lay low, you know. just figure things out. >> which i think she kind of felt that way too. she didn't want to be the voice for this. she didn't want to be the face of the girl who got beat up on. >> yeah. and there's a lot of pressure. black folks in general, we get abused or brutalized, that pressure becomes the new face of the movement. >> this time, i could stand

before you, whereas in other scenarios, we are at a memorial. >> i had a phone call early morning. i think it was like on a -- it was a sunday. it was monday morning. >> just one month later, malaysia was shot and killed in another hate crime. >> i had so much angry when malaysia passed. i was angry at malaysia. i got angry at god too. i just kept trying to make sense of it. but bringing stuff to my remembrance, our malaysia would tell me all the time, everybody knows, she will always say she was willing to die for her respect and her transition. she said there's so much in it.

it angers me to say it now because i was just like, are you nuts? but it's like, you know how jesus came here and he knew what his purpose was? >> mm-hmm. >> so i just feel like when i look back at it, that was part of what she was supposed to do, to open doors. a lot of people have been beaten, killed, so i'm going to turn it into something positive. >> and that's the malaysia booker foundation, where families with transgender kids can go for much-needed guidance and support. >> people get so caught up with the trans, but it affects the family as well. my baby girl, like she took malaysia's death so hard. she really breaks me down because i see how much it affects her. at the funeral, she had said, i had a brother that i love. >> i grew up with a father who i loved, and i was later introduced to malaysia who i loved. that was my sister, and she

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trans rights now! trans rights now! trans rights now! >> malaysia booker's assault and subsequent murder was a wake-up call for many to the violence the trans community and specifically trans women face every single day. here in dallas, malaysia's murder was the final straw.

>> malaysia had a big part in all of our lives. the community is not that big, and she was like a big part of our community. malaysia was my grandbaby, so i was just like, after malaysia, it was like, this is way, way too close to home. niecy was like, come on, pocahontas, you have to do something. i was like, girl, let me get through this. let me get through this. you don't have a second. so we created a space. >> yeah. it was like on the heels of malaysia being killed. >> mm-hmm. >> this house is personal, really personal to me. >> when i look at my baby, it's like all my gay children, i realize if i don't do it, who going to take care of them? i ma id it to 36 years old, and what i can give y'all to help y'all to where we're not out here getting killed anymore? >> the significance of pocahontas making it to 36 is important because the average life expectancy of a black woman

of trans experience is 35. 35. that's because the violence they face comes in all forms. >> sometimes there's a law there to protect you, and sometimes there isn't. i can point out every day the way that the law fails people, and specifically people who are literally at the margins. >> that's why we don't trust the law. that's why we don't go to the law. the law doesn't protect us in that way. >> diamond styles is the executive director of black trans women inc., a national nonprofit that is focused on advocacy and positive visibility. ava torres smith carrington is an attorney focusing on systemic trans discrimination. >> if you are a black trans person and you apply for a job and get it, and you experience discrimination and you're just kind of like out of luck. okay. you lost income. let's talk about housing discrimination. >> there are currently 21 states with no housing anti-discrimination laws to

protect trans people from being unfairly evicted or denied housing. >> you could go to a shelter, but then in some places, you're not guaranteed access to that shelter. >> i've been through that where i couldn't go to a women's shelter. i couldn't go to a men's shelter, and i couldn't go to the lgbt shelter because i wasn't hiv positive. >> so here we're starting to connect the dots, right? you have employment. you have housing. you can't even get to a shelter. the one thing i always like to think about is public accommodation laws. >> these laws protect lgbtq+ folks from being unfairly refused service or entry from places like restaurants, movie theaters, hotels, libraries, health clinics, and hospitals. and guess what? 23 states don't got 'em. >> now you're pretty much getting erased out of society. then you're more likely to be involved with law enforcement. then there's a possibility of you going into the criminal legal system, and you can also experience discrimination in that space. >> so it's obviously against the

law to commit violence to another person. it's obviously against the law to commit violence against your partner. how has the law failed trans black women specifically? >> if i'm getting beat up by my boyfriend in my apartment, the police can come. he can actually weaponize my transness and say, that's not even a woman. that's a man. >> mm-hmm. >> you can fight him back. and so now his response to my violence can be something totally inappropriate. he could leave and this man kills me or continues to beat me. >> mm-hmm. >> you haven't done anything in regards to protecting me in a domestic violence situation. >> so i think the way that you got to do the work is work from the point of, like, who is actually experiencing the most violence? who is actually the most oppressed? who is actually denied the most opportunity? and working from that point is how you make sure that everyone can live and thrive in a society that feels a little bit more freer.

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it's really important that people who need condoms get condoms. especially in the trans community, being so heavily and disproportionately impacted by hiv. >> she provides health services to hoig risk groups within the trans community where all too often sex work is the only means to survive. >> some people think people are doing it by choice. this is the industry they choose to be in. but, no, people are in this to survive because they don't have another skill set. they may not have had an opportunity to finish high school, to go to college. they may not have had the opportunity to get that internship or to start that job that could have put them on the right track. >> being trans, doors might be close to you that would be

opened to other people. and very simple doors. if you want a job at that coffee shop, that door might be closed to you. >> yes. >> there are many things that many of us take for granted. >> yes. >> if enough of those doors are closed to you, you end up having to do survival work. >> trans people are people. we bleed the same. you know, we cry the same. we laugh the same, and we deserve to live without fear of discrimination. >> you knew when to hit the wind machines because your hair was doing that while you were doing that speech. >> maybe somebody would say, oh, i like that hair i'm listening to her. >> you know how it is. >> the neighborhood doesn't feel as welcoming. i have heard stories of black trans women being put out of clubs and being discriminated against. but you know this is a place you

can go to and you don't have to worry about that. >> it is about to be lit. what's up, naomi? how are you feeling today? >> being able to come here and just let my hair down, i mean, i get to just be me, naomi or naynay. >> how did you come together? >> i joined the scene november of 2019. they were the fem queens of the scene. >> how does gay family get formed? and why is it necessary to call it out as family. you can say, this is my friend. this is my mentor. >> it started in the '70s. a lot of people were put out of the house. you know, they were put out of homes. you had people who have been in the scene longer who would literally have to take people in to their house and i'll take you under my umbrella. i'll make sure you have a place

to live. it really started as that. >> she helped me through the avenues when i was in college and going through that. we had a house with -- it was so many of us. and she took care of everybody. she made sure everybody was where they needed to be. it's your chosen family. >> we all know that family isn't always a dna thing. it's also an i see you thing. but we don't all know having to find a new family because our bio family, the culture at large and the laws kick us out. that's how it is when you're trans, but especially a black trans woman. these family bonds they form are strong and beautiful. we all need more family like this. family who loves us, sees us and

fights for us. hopefully i can be the new cousin. hi, welcome to all of our viewers here in the united states and all around the world. thank you for joining me. you are watching cnn. i am robyn curnow. joe biden on his next stop, and a look on tap in brussels, and benjamin netanyahu's 12-grip on power comes to an end. the u.s. government looking into a possible leak at a chinese nuclear powe