decision. but in the back of your mind, you know, in the back of your mind you go, in ten years from now i think i could save that guy. >> wow. i've been thinking about all of this since medical school nearly 20 years ago. many of the people you met tonight simply wouldn't have survived. instead, they are cheating death. as medicine moves forward more and more of us are going to cheat death as well. i'm dr. sanjay gupta. thanks for watching. >> larry: tonight, queen latifah. like you've never seen her. >> where's the camera? come close. >> larry: the music and movie superstar confronts ageing in

hollywood. >> good, lar. >> larry: the wake-up call that saved her. >> using alcohol to numb whatever emotions i was dealing with. >> larry: and why her personal life is nobody's business. >> don't go there, larry. >> larry: i'm not. she's a role model who's real i. enjoy just being me. i don't freed to be queen latifah the brand 24 hours a day. >> larry: queen latifah for the hour is next. on "larry king live." >> larry: queen latifah, grammy winner. oscar nominated actress. entrepreneur, philanthropist, great talent and author of a new book "put on your crown: life-changing moments on the path to queen-dom" with us for the full hour. always great to see her. tell me about this title. what do we mean by "put on your crown"? >> first of all, thank you for having me here, larry. >> larry: you're welcome. >> i feel like every woman is a queen, and we should be treated it's a such and we should, you know, sort of request that sort

of treatment from others. so putting on your crown is really like accepting the fact that you are a queen. you're a great woman. wherever you are in life, just keep on that path, and so for me, sometimes as women we forget -- we forget that about ourselves. so putting on your crown is sort of reminding yourself that, hey, i'm a queen, and i can do what i want in this life and the tick take it -- >> larry: this is a how-to book? >> actually more of a conversation. just a conversation that i'm having with the readers, sharing some of my experiences and how, you know, went through certain life-changing moments. whether they were positive or negative, and how i responded to those situations, and just continue to move on through life. >> larry: written any particular age group? >> no. i think it's for maybe teenage girls through 65-year-old women. you know? because it's about those moments, and i'm 40 at this

point. so i'm sort of in the middle. i find that we need inspiration all through life, and self-esteem is something that you don't just get a self-esteem card that lasts rest of your life. sometimes you have to reminded and maintain that high self-esteem to do things that really encourage you to be in a positive place and surround yourself with positive people and that kind of thing, so -- >> larry: you write that sinatra's "i'm going to live until i die" great song. a lot of people recorded it. >> yes. >> larry: it's your anthem. right? >> it is. to me, life is for the living. you know? it's about living every moment to the full, as best you can. >> larry: that's hard though. isn't it? >> it is hard sometimes, but to me, it's a goal.

it's a goal, if you will. i try to keep it in mind. whatever i do, i try to make sure i have a good time doing it, that i enjoy it and that i get every full moment out of everything that i do. >> larry: you right, frankly, in the book about being molested as child. that had to change your -- how old were you? >> 5. >> larry: that doesn't leave you, though, does it? >> no, it doesn't. >> larry: so how do you apply it? being a queen one day? >> i mean, luckily, my parents really just raised me to be that way, and they didn't know. and it took me to lose my brother to actually tell my parents what had happened to me. because once i lost my brother lance, it was -- >> larry: how old was he? >> he was 24 at the tile. i was 22. >> larry: what happened? >> motorcycle accident. we rode motorcycles. yeah, he had a motorcycle accident.

but after that, we were very, very close. so after that happened, i jut couldn't hold it anymore, and i told my mom, and she was devastated, because -- >> larry: did they know the party? >> yes. >> larry: that's more devastated i. was scared to tell my father, because i'm like, my father's going to kill him and i don't want to do that, but i had to. i had to let them know what i had gone through. so that they could understand maybe more of my mindset, and freed myself of that burden. you know? enough, carrying it for too long. >> larry: you write about being broke at one point. >> yeah. >> larry: you were broke broke? >> maybe not quite broke broke. >> larry: how close to being broke broke? >> well what had happened was, i it over invested in my company, and just poured money into it, and really didn't pay attention to what was coming in and going out. i was relying on other people to take care of things for me. i wasn't signing my own checks. doing the work but i wasn't paying attention to the dollars and how they were flowing in and out from my personal expenses to my company expenses, and, you know, we just were investing in this dream. we were -- these kids who had all of these ideas and all of this ability, this drive, determination, able to create things and make things happen, but, you know, we never went to business school. so, like, certain things that we just didn't do right, and i wound up with a big tax bill that was due, and i had paid all

of these bills for all of these things and i didn't have the money to cover it. so i was kind of broke. and -- just talk to my accountant and figured out obviously, we will to negotiate with the irs. get on plan to pay off these, you know, payment plan. >> larry: you were good about it, though? >> they were agreeable. pretty agreeable. they worked with us fairly well on it and i was able to kind of knock it out, but the shock you have a $1 million bill to pay with the irs and it's not there is like, oh, my god. you know? it freaked me out. >> larry: all of these thing. you're close to your brother.

his loss took you so into darkness, people thought you'd never come back. later you're broke. how can you put on your crown? >> because that's what it's about. it's about those moments that happen in your life. those times, those things that happen in your life and how you respond to them. it's not just about what happens. it's about your response to it. so the response is not to lay down and die. you know? to just take it. response is to challenge it. to fight back. to fight through. to fight through it. and these are very difficult thing. i mean, just reading the audio book for this book really -- i mean, just reading a chapter about my brother, i was in tears in the studio reading this thing, because it took me right

back to all of those, you know to that whole experience, but you know, god is good. i'm going to tell you that, larry. god is good, and god really brought me through that, because it was a very, very difficult -- it's the most difficult thing i've been through in my entire life. to lose someone that you are so close to -- i remember, like, my hands got weak. i lost the strength in my hands. like, i couldn't make a fist. we're fighters in our family. we like to wrestle and have fun, but i lost the strength in my hands. i was like, wow. we were that close that i'm losing, that i became weak, but you know, he's an angel, and i have many people praying for me, and i was able to kind of get through it. >> larry: you're very candid in this book. we'll talk about that when we come back. ♪ not tylenol. not aleve. nothing lasts longer than advil. pain relief that lasts. one more reason to make advil your #1 choice. loves to tell everyone how drivers can get discounts up to 40 percent. your neighbors -- your neighbors can tell you, too. they're probably some of state farm's 40 million drivers. so talk to them. then call a state farm agent like me.

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>> larry: "put on your crown," the book, terrifically talented queen latifah. always great to have her with us. you also write about a dui accident that led you to a wake-up call about alcohol. >> boy. >> larry: were you addicted? >> no, no, but i think -- you know, when you do what we do for a living you're in entertainment, in the spotlight, and you have to carry, wear a lot of hats, and you -- i think at that time i was just maybe using alcohol to numb whatever that i was, know, whatever emotions i was dealing with, whatever i was exhausted about, and i just didn't pay attention, and it kind of like a -- god just pulled my skirt a little bit and said, wake up, girl. get it together. you know? >> larry: did you have to go to court? >> i didn't actually have to appear in court.

i did have to go to court to deal with it, but for me, more importantly it was about paying attention to my own emotions and my own feelings and the things i'm dealing with and not to use alcohol as something to mask anything else but really get on point. pay attention. and i thought about -- and i'm so thankful that -- that i had that wake-up call, because i thought about all the times, you know, all the people who, you know, are killed in drunk driving accidents, and i was -- i could have -- it could have been a lot worse. it actually wasn't a dui. it was reckless driving. i was not actually impaired but i was over the legal limit. it made me think, that's not responsible. that's not the right thing to do. wake up. get it together. you know? i'm fine with checking myself when i'm not doing the right thing. >> larry: do you think maybe i should read this book. do you think lindsay lohan can get it together? >> i think anybody who has an opportunity to have treatment for an addiction, and she obviously has some addictions, that she's dealing with, can

bounce back from it. but it can take years. you know? i have a lot of people in my family who have dealt with substance abuse, and some of them, it took 20 years, but they did get it together eventually. but you have to deal with that as a disease. as an addiction, not just as -- here's a wild party crazy girl. you know, this is just a human being dealing with an addiction and you have to look at it like that. if they get the proper treatment and are able to really face it, then i think anybody can overcome. >> larry: in this day and age you're candid about many thing. you don't discuss your personal life. >> no, larry. don't go there, larry. >> larry: i'm not, but how do you protect in this day and age 24/7 internet, how do you protect any kind of privacy? >> how do you protect it? >> larry: i can't. you can't.

you walk down the street. they take your picture. why? >> you know, the thing is for me, i don't read all of the blogs and i'm not media hungry like that. i don't have to look at myself online every day. i live my life. you write about my life. you write about what you see. i share with the public the things that we should share. we should share music -- >> larry: it's nobody's business. >> share my music. let's share that. let's share films. let's share that. let's share thoughts about positive things. let's share those thing, but what happens in my personal, personal life is my personal business. >> larry: the public has a know it all list and kind of expects things? >> i think they do. i mean, it's become a media frenzy, to you know, kind of feed on people's personal lives,

and some people put their personal lives out there. they like to share all that with the public. >> larry: that, i can't figure. >> i'm not that person. i'm happy being, you know, just locked. when i'm off -- when i walk out of this studio, i'm just dana. i enjoy just being dana. i don't need to be queen latifah, the brand, 24 hours a day. >> larry: who came up with that queen did? >> i did, thank you. yeah. i'm pretty good at coming up with things like that, larry. >> larry: one day sitting around, i think my name were be queen? >> this is going to sound kind of crazy, but i was 8 years old and my cousin brought this muslim book of names over. and each name had a meaning to it. so when i read the name latifah, it said delicate, sensitive, kind, nice. and i was 8 years old, but i was big for my age. i was usually like the biggest girl in class, but i was a teddy bear on the inside. i was al of those things. delicate, sensitive, kind and nice. i thought to myself, that should be my name. i know, i'm 8, but this is where my brain went. latifah became my nickname when

i was 8. when i started rapping and it came time for me to decide what my professionally known name would be, my lawyer asked, what would you like to professionally be known as? i kicked a bunch of things around. i didn't want to be emcee latifah or all of these different monikers you could put on, but i thought, queen. my mom raised me to be a queen. queen. queen latifah. i asked all my boys. that he thought was cool, so i went with it, larry. i went with it. >> larry: good move. we'll be back with the queen. the book is "put on your crown," right after this. [ female announcer ] sometimes you need tomorrow to finish what you started today. for the aches and sleeplessness in between, there's new motrin pm. no other medicine, not even advil pm, is more effective for pain and sleeplessness. new motrin pm.

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queen latifah. ♪ you? and i did it my way ♪ sing jazz in the shower no one woman should have this much power ♪ >> larry: back with queen latifah. the book, "put on your crown." this is guaranteed best-seller, of course, you wrote this. you recently hosted the b.e.t. awards.

>> i had a blast. >> larry: singing chris brown, a tribute performance, michael jackson's "man in the mirror." >> becoming very emotional. >> larry: you later said, he needs to be forgiven in connection with the abuse thing with rihanna. why does he need to be forgiven and some thought he was not sincere. what's your overriding thought on all this? >> for me, being there, and seeing that performance, i think he was completely sincere, number one. and i'm sure many things were going through his mind. number one, it's a michael jackson tribute. so just to the hear michael jackson's music and to see the dance and feel that energy was one thing that was already happening, but i really -- i really feel like he was also, you know, taking responsibility for what he's been through, and he's a young guy. i mean, how long we going to beat the guy up for? i mean, they both moved on. both accepted what happened. he's paid the penalty, and hopefully he's learned from it,

brut he's young. he needs an opportunity to learn and grow. i'm not saying he was right by any means. like i completely disagree with any man putting their hands on a woman, ever, however, people when they're young and emotional, they need to learn how to deal with their emotions, and especially if you've grown up around abuse, it's something that is, you know, you've seen, and you've -- you know, accepted it, or you desensitized to it to some degree. so now it's time to get more sensitive to it. to really never do it again and learn from it, but, i mean, at some point we can't keep chris browning him to death. you know what aye mean? >> larry: during the b.e.t. awards queen latifah changed costumes many time. putting on outfits he wore for various movies and tv shows. ♪ first name queen, latifah, covergirl features ♪ >> i would like to take this moment to thank ron artest.

no, no, no, no. not for winning the championship but for introducing me to a psychiatrist. ♪ walk it out, walk it out walk it out, baby ♪ >> going to an awards' show, that's a bad idea. >> relax, homey. i just want to get this picture right quick. smile! >> oh, okay. >> please welcome, welcome to the tenth anniversary of the b.e.t. awards! >> larry: you've gone up and down weightwise. changed clothes a lot? >> yeah. i lost weight during that show, changing all those outfits. i was exhausted, but i had so much fun and it was kind of fun having a little walk through time. no, weight's good. >> larry: were you a basketball player as kid. right? pretty good? >> i was pretty good.

i wouldn't say i'm a superstar, nothing like that there, but i think i was pretty good. >> larry: and craig robertson coaches oregon state, believes people reveal their true character on a basketball court. >> i believe that. i love playing organized sports. it taught me a lot. taught how to be a team player. taught me how to sacrifice. how to share. how to celebrate and how to compete. how to be composed. one of the things my coach always drove into our head was composure. composure. composure. so all of these things that i learned playing basketball i was

able to take into life, into this career, you know. how to be composed under pressure. you can't shoot a movie without 150 people. you know? they're all there. we all make it happen together. so that teaches you how to be a team player. i freed to work with you, costumes, wardrobe. hair. lighting. grips. everyone has to work together. so a lot of those lessons you definitely can take into life. >> larry: queen play add diehard basketball fan in her recent movie "just right." here's a clip. >> you must be talking about randolph versus mlk, 1993? sophomore year scored 23 points in the first half. another 32 in the second half. 18 rebounds, 10 assists, 9 steals breaking the high school record for double digits in a single game. i've been a basketball fan since before i could walk, so -- >> larry: quite a love scene in that movie. >> easy, larry. >> larry: no. was it -- with 150 people around, was it hard to do it? >> you're not allowed to have 150 people around doing a love scene. >> larry: what? two cameramen? >> oddly enough, that was -- that was like a day off for me. i mean, because i produced as well as acted in this film. so i was wearing a lot of hats through the whole movie, and that day, when we had to shoot our love scene, i just asked common. i said, common, you got me? he's like, i got you.

i said, all right. let me relax and the just be a lady. you know? handle this woman right here, and he had me. in between him and the director center, who made sure everything looked right, i felt quite comfortable. >> larry: the book is "put on your crown." what's it like to be a brand? queen latifah will tell us, ahead. and when it does, men with erectile dysfunction can be more confident in their ability to be ready with cialis for daily use. cialis for daily use is a clinically proven, low-dose tablet you take every day, so you can be ready anytime the moment's right for you and your partner. tell your doctor about your medical condition and all medications and ask if you're healthy enough for sexual activity. don't take cialis if you take nitrates for chest pain, as this may cause an unsafe drop in blood pressure. don't drink alcohol in excess with cialis. side effects may include headache, upset stomach, delayed back ache or muscle ache. to avoid long-term injury, seek immediate medical help for an erection lasting more than 4 hours.

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the phone ♪ i'm not trying to be i just worry about you, baby ♪ somebody get at you wrong ♪ >> larry: we're back, the book, "put on your crown," the guest, queen latifah. dana owens in new jersey. ever feel queen latifah has taken over, that you are a brand, and that's a big word these days? a brand. you're coca-cola. >> i'm coca-cola, pepsi and them. let me get my soda on. no. queen latifah outgrew me years ago, and i remembered it. i remember i was 24 years old. i was doing "living single" and i had a record out, and so many things were happening. all of these articles and covers and -- i was like, this is way beyond who i am. this is now gone to a whole new level.

and which made me even more so want to just be me. to stick -- i mean, i still have the same energy i had since the beginning, over 20 years now. we've known each other since high school. i still work with a lot of my friend who i've known this high school. so i have real people around me. who can pat me on my back when i'm doing good and smack my hand when i'm doing something naughty, and it just keeps me more grounded. queen latifah become a phenomenon in a sense, but

underneath the queen is just locked. that's what people really get from me, and they feel like, when people approach me on the street they just feel like they could hug me. you know? like they know me, and they say that to me. it's just because i'm still me. underneath all that huge, queen latifah business, it's just -- >> larry: did you ever miss not being known on the street? not being famous? >> i remember losing my anonymity. especially growing up in new york. well, new jersey, but i hung out in new york a lot. you know? you could go to new york and just be anyone you wanted to be. you could disappear into 8 million people, and could you change your name, or wear a different outfit and -- >> larry: did you ever miss some of that? >> i do miss it, but, i mean, i've been doing this a long time. at some point you just get used to it. that's why, like i said, it's really important when i'm off, i just get to relax and do normal things, and not be in a spotlight. i don't crave it like that. i don't craveomthgske that. ô do intoea terlo. arm iik right things in their life. the right -- number one, i think god can do all things.

so -- and people praying for you means something. and i think he can overcome whatever challenges he faces. i think underneath all of that, i think maybe he lost his self in there, along the way, and he just has to get centered again, and i think he gets that. so why not? >> larry: you mention god a lot. have you always believed? >> yeah. >> larry: in the darkest days? >> yeah, i have, actually. >> larry: ever doubted? >> doubted, no. questioned, yes. but for me, i think god is much bigger than what we can see in our minds. i think it's okay to be angry sometimes, or to be sad, or to shout or question, but i think the most important thing is the faith to know that you are covered, and you'll get these answers when the time is right, and just to know, just to have that faith. even though you can't touch it or see it or things aren't

exactly how you want it at the time, you just have to know it's going to happen. he's got you. he's got you, larry. you stay strong, brother. you stay strong. >> larry: i'll try. not always easy. jennifer hudson co-starred with you in "the secret life of bees" suffered the murder of her young mother and brother. and young nephew. you reach out to her? >> yeah. >> how's she doing? >> she's doing great. when i see her, she is doing great. she is a strong, amazing woman, and what a tragedy, but i think she has god, and he'll see her through, you know, that's where i'll leave that. >> larry: when you think of you first, what -- are you a singer, actress, entrepreneur? queen latifah, what is the occupation on the diver's license? >> daughter. daughter of rita and lance. i think i started daughter.

i'm a sister, an aunt. i'm that friend. i'm all those things before i become a rapper. >> larry: are you the glue of the family? >> i don't think i'm the glue. i think there's a lot of glue in the family. we all keep each other together. >> larry: ever go back to newark? >> yeah. that's where my family's at. so i have to go back. i have to go see my family and friends. >> larry: now you're going have the nets and a new soccer stadium. >> i know. the soccer stadium looks amazing, too. >> larry: betty white was in the movie "bringing down the house" that you did with steve martin. one of the funniest movies ever made. ever made, "bringing down the house." did you have fun doing that? >> i had so much fun doing that movie, it makes no sense. and betty white, that's my girl. ♪ i'm going to love you, love you, love you ♪ >> mandingo? >> reporter: what do you make of her? she's a queen.

>> exactly. i cannot stop watching her on "saturday night live." i keep pulling it up online. i'm like memorizing scenes. she is so funny and i can't wait to see her new show. i hope it's just a big smash hit. >> larry: the whole thing was the snicker's commercial in the super bowl, brought her back. >> i mean, she got tackled. >> white, come on! >> it's hilarious. betsy great, because she's not afraid to laugh at herself. she doesn't take herself seriously. it's the people who take themselves seriously that look kind of ridiculous. [ man ] this is bailey's favorite time of day. mine too.

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>> larry: queen latifah, of course, 1 a jersey girl. we'll get her take on how reality tv is treating her home state. her book is "put on your crown." we'll be right back. ♪ i was into everything wild asking for him to take me away ♪ so, so far away ♪ i don't want to feel no sorrow ♪ ♪ take me away >> larry: okay, queen, your state is now a reality tv sensation. "the jersey shore." "the real housewives of new jersey." there's a tendency to make fun of it. the middle state between new york and pennsylvania. >> i know. we found out we got that cozy little spot there. >> larry: how do you feel the

way jersey is being imaged, if that's a word? >> jersey has always been imaged in a weird way. you know? you from jersey? okay. what exit? associated with mobsters and stuff like that. >> larry: very bad somewhere out there. >> i know, but new jersey is a great place to live, and we have given some of the best talent to the world. from jack nicholson, john travolta, to jerry lewis to frank sinatra. you know what i mean? >> larry: not bad with that one. >> the fugees, to -- we have something about us that i think -- we just have this thing and we're able to move around the world. everywhere i go, i seem to run into somebody from jersey, and they seem to know that -- we all seem to know we're from jersey, for some reason. >> larry: do you mind the reality shows? >> i mean, it's just a reality

show. aren't they all reality shows? >> larry: what, are they cheap? easy to put on. >> i don't know, larry. whatever you say, man. whatever you say. you tell me. >> larry: i don't understand at all. >> people like watching other people's lives. that's just what it is. this was predicted to happen a long time ago, and now it's here, and people just really are fascinated by watching other people's lives. i think, you know, shows like "the real housewives of jersey a" entertaining. i did mike the situation, lives like ten minutes in jersey. ever get a flat. call me. i'll come fix a tire. that's how we do. that's neighbor lady, you know? >> larry: a lot of prejudices in the town? >> prejudice in america, of course, you run into prejudice. when the cab doesn't stop for me and stops for the white guy, that's prejudice. that's racism. >> larry: that would drive me nuts. >> it -- it's hurtful. it drives you nuts, but you don't let it break you. you know? we strong. resilient people. we are not going to let something break us. you just bounce back. you find a way. you find a way. and, also, we try to build bridges to combat that. that's why, music, i love making music. music is universal. when i first started rapping people thought hip-hop was a fad. it's going to die. it's ruining the people, the kids. don't let your child listen to this. now you got people rapping all around the globe, in every language. >> larry: my kids. when you started, when you started, were there female rappers? >> a lot more when i started

than there are now. less now, less out playing records on the radio, but i think there's going to be a resurgence. i think the pol is on for more hip-hop. if you don't have the balance, then there's something missing. >> larry: how does it feel to be that's why, music, i love making music. music is universal. when i first started rapping people thought hip-hop was a fad. it's going to die. it's ruining the people, the kids. don't let your child listen to this. now you got people rapping all around the globe, in every language. >> larry: my kids. when you started, when you started, were there female rappers? >> a lot more when i started than there are now. less now, less out playing records on the radio, but i think there's going to be a resurgence. i think the pol is on for more hip-hop. if you don't have the balance, then there's something missing. >> larry: how does it feel to be 40? >> feels pretty good, larry. >> larry: is 40 the old 30? 60s the old 50?

>> i don't know. people can keep -- >> larry: some people put an onus on 40 and life begins at 40. 40s middle age. >> you know, my grandmother inus owens, god bless her, passed away at 94, and when i tell you her spirit was that of a 19-year-old, at 94. i just never looked at age the same way. i never freaked out when i was 30. i don't have this done. i don't put time limits on when i have to do this. i'm going to do this at 25 and that at 30, because life is change. it changes. and what happens along your path is what happens while you're going there. so you can't just limit yourself. what happens if you don't meet that deadline? do you just fall apart, or do you push through it and keep going? or do you figure out a new thing? a new plan. so, for me, like, i always hung out around people that were

usually about four years older than me. and they made life look so interesting and fun, that i've never looked at age as being something that you had to behave a certain way. to me, it's about how you feel inside. and how you live your life. so -- 40's good. 40's good, lar. >> larry: you'll be around a long time. we're going to ask when we come back if it's true characters she plays in films cannot be killed off. we'll ask if that's true. don't go away. it's a little bit of nature... a little bit better. and nature approves. granola nut clusters from nature valley.

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>> larry: some of your early movie, the book "put on your crown," et guest queen latifah, you were killed off. is it true there's now a death clause in your contract, that queen latifah cannot die in a film? >> no dying allowed. anymore. >> larry: is that true? >> i did. kind of a joke, but -- excuse me. i think i just died too well. on camera. >> larry: supposing you get -- supposing someone gives you a great script. a phenomenal, this is oscar stuff. you were nominated for an oscar -- you got to die? >> i might be flexible. >> larry: there's a death scene?

runs about 8 minutes. just you, into the camera. >> wow. 8 minutes. where's the camera. push in. come closer. come. closer. >> larry: don't. ever turn down a role that you regretted? >> no. no. nerve her that happen? >> never turned down a role and regretted it. i usual buy go on my gut. >> larry: your mom, wrote part of a chapter called "love." why is she thinks close -- why are you so close to her? >> my mom is just like, she's just like my best friend. like, there's nothing that i can't talk to her about. there's nothing that she can't talk to me about. >> larry: a lot of mothers and daughters divide along the way. you know that's true? >> it's true. like, because girls, we act up. mama's want to spank us. no. but my mother and i, we've never had that relationship. even when i was being rebellious or challenging, or questioning certain things, i still had respect for my mother, and i knew that i could rely on her.

she's always been there, and i think my mother, she's an artist. she was an art teacher. she's an art -- she's a creative person, and she fed so many parts of who i am. she was fascinated by my brother and i. like, she spent a lot of time with us, and watched us, and allowed us to do things to discover who we are and encouraged those things as opposed to forcing us to do one thing and limiting us and so i mean, even my friends, my friends love my mom. they all know they can talk to her. my mother has a soothing voice, dana, and then i'm good. >> larry: do you think you'll be a great mother? >> i think i will. >> larry: want kids? >> i'm pregnant. just playing. no. calm down. you thought you had the scoop. >> you would be a great mother. >> i think i will be a great mom and i am planning on doing that.

>> you are doing a movie in chicago with kevin japgs and vince vaughn. i don't nimagine this is a serious drama. >> i am definitely going to die. it's going be hi lars. just our rehearsal was so much fun. >> what's the tight "snl." >> tentatively titled chee ed c. vince is so spontaneous and quick witted and is dead funny. >> i know. i have it so good. >> he must be a wonderful corrector to work for. >> it's hard for me. when i'm around him dr. >> he's opie. >> stars still get star struck. i grew up watching him.

and i watched how amazing a director he became and what kind of great films he made. i'm very honored to be able to work with him. >> was it tough to be nominated and lose? >> no. i mean i made a lot of money after that. >> getting yours. >> i got paid, larry. no. it was great to be nominated. it's a small club. everybody doesn't get nominated for an oscar. i was with a great group of people. it was a chicago sweep. i was part of a great film. everyone fired on all pistons on that movie. o have the opportunitie came to me as a result of being nominated in that film, the weekend of the oscars when chicago was out, bringing down the house was the number one movie in the box office so it made $37 million. there is tom, denzel, merril.

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♪ >> allen: the book "put on your crown" we will have a reading from it in a moment. what do you think of lady gaga? >> i love her. she isxtremely talented and she shook things up a little bit. and she worked really hard to get where she is. i like that. >> this is from "put on your crown." >> this is, you know, if i ran it through the 19-year-old

version. if i ran into a 19-year-old version of myself, i would just tell her to live full out. i might also tell her to go ahead and have a few babies and not worry about the timing of it. but mostly i would tell her that she is stronger than she thinks and is she shouldn't doubt herself on her path. i would say do you know who you are? guess who you get to be? and guess what? you even get to lose weight. you good. and is just keep doing your thing. celebrate. walk tall. wear your crown with pride. >> how should we use this book? >> how i really feel. i am not preaching to people. i am -- this is really more of a conversation about my path through life. and is i found by sharing true things about the ups and downs and how i responded to them, i

found that people can share that. maybe someone can skip something i am going through. or if they are going through something maybe they will find some of these words separational. why not give me back. why not share among ourselves some positive vibes. and maybe a view tools to get to where you need to go. or maybe if you have been stuck in a rut, shake it up a little bit. shake it off. and try try again. just keep novembering forward. >> on chicago you looked like you were having so much fun making that movie.

>> doing musicals is at least six weeks of rehearsal. but i love that. you know? i live for that. o be in the hands of ro marshall who was the most gracious and incredible director. to see, especially at that time i wasn't quite where i am now in terms of status. so to see katherine zeta jones, humble. renae, humble. in the hands of this guy. everybody checked their' goes at the door and said what do we have to do? and we worked so hard. >> have you seen the show on broadway? >> not yet. >> you still haven't seen chicago? >> chicago? oh yeah. >> did that affect the way you played it? >> no. my momma is a completely different momma. i