and i would do every and anything to make sure it's restored. i need to rebuild because we are a family. nothing counts so much as family. ♪ ♪ -- captions by vitac -- www.vitac.com >> larry: tonight dr. laura exclusive. she shocked the country with her repeated use of the "n" word on her radio show last week. >> listen to a black comic and all you hear is [ bleep ], [bleep ], [ bleep ]. >> larry: the first time since then she'll tell the world why she did it, what she was thinking. she's got a big announcement, too, it's seconds away. and then kathy griffin.

big supporter of same-sex marriage. what does she think of the fight over proposition 8? anything funny about that? find out next on "larry king live." >> larry: good evening. dr. laura schlessinger is a syndicated talk radio show host -- if i had to tell you, you are on another planet -- a "new york times" best-selling author and no stranger to controversy. last week stirred up a storm when she used the "n" word 11 times on her radio show, she was speaking with a black female caller who said she was becoming resentful of her white husband being what she called racist comments by his family and friends. here's a brief excerpt from that conversation, and we'll get right into it with laura. watch. >> how about the "n" word, the "n" word? the "n" wood's been thrown around -- >> black guys use it all the time. turn on hbo, listen to a black comic. all you hear is [ bleep ]. i don't get it. if anybody, if anybody, without

enough melanin says it, it is a horrible thing. when black people say it, it is affectionate. it's very confusing. >> larry: doctor, always good seeing you. >> thank you. >> larry: before we get to the announcement, the one thing that you said was interesting. you said on hbo, black comics use the "n" word. >> rap music. >> larry: but, jewish comics can kid jews. hispanics, george lopez kids hispanics all the time. gay comics kid the gay situation, it is okay. but not okay when the non-"n" person uses it. >> i was trying to make a point to help her about what i felt. because that -- about her hypersensitivity. and in general in america our hypersensitivity about race instead of us feeling more like, e. pluribus unum, and i made it poorly. i upset some people, offended some people. i hurt some people. and within 15 minutes, which is

what i had to finish the hour, i took myself off my show for the rest of the day because i was so upset because i realized i had blown it. i didn't help her, you know, by making that point. and, you know, that -- about 8:00 that night, i had sent an apology that i was going to do in the morning on my show to laradio.com. so, it wasn't until 48 hours later that there was a media brouhaha about it and i had already policed myself and apologized. and said i was sorry. >> larry: do you realize it is okay if blacks want to kid blacks or make fun of themselves but it's not okay for this lady, a white person, a white person, to use the word? >> i always tell people on my show to do the right thing. i thought i was freeing to be helpful. i was trying to make a philosophical point. but i was wrong and i apologized. and there are people who won't accept my apology. and they have their own reasons for that. i feel bad for that. but, my listeners heard my being

contrite, being remorseful, being sincerely apologetic, because it is not my nature to go out of my way to hurt people and get on with things. >> larry: so you are still regretful? >> sure. anytime you do something wrong, you should be regretful. >> larry: what are you here to tell us tonight? >> well, i am here to say that my contract is up for my radio show at the end of the year and i've made the decision not to do radio anymore. the reason is -- i want to regain my first amendment rights. i want to be able to say what is on my mind and in my heart and what i think is helpful and useful without somebody getting angry, some special interest group deciding this is a time to silence a voice of dissent and attack affiliates and attack sponsors. i'm sort of done with that. i'm not retiring. i'm not quitting.

i feel energized actually, stronger and freer to say the things that i believe need to be said for people in this country. >> larry: you are giving up the one area of your fame? >> oh, my dear. i write books. i have blogs. i have my website. already but people think dr. laura, they think the radio talk show, right? >> this is the era of the internet. >> larry: so, you are going to do internet stuff? >> yeah, i am now. >> larry: why is your freedom of speech denied on radio? because people can criticize what you say. >> when i started in radio if somebody said something that they didn't like, they argued with you. now they try to silence you. wipe out your ability to earn a living and have your job. they go after affiliates. they send threats to sponsors. >> larry: that's their right, too. >> yes, but i don't have the -- have the right to say what i need to say. my first amendment rights have been usurped by angry, hateful

groups who don't want to debate. they want to eliminate. so that's why i decided it was time to move on to other venues where i could say my piece and not have to live in fear anymore that sponsors and their families are going to be upset, radio stations are going to be upset, my peeps, as i call them, are going to be upset. >> larry: did you tell your syndicate today? the people who syndicate you? >> ten minutes before i came on -- >> larry: this show. you just told them? >> right. >> larry: what did they say? >> there was no need how to do this. >> larry: who syndicates you? >> i said this isn't a matter of need. >> larry: were you going to have a new contract? >> yeah. we've added five stations this week and added sponsors. this is not an issue of i'm losing anything. you and i were anointed in the top seven of the most important radio hosts in america. i just got nominated for a marconi, had great ratings.

this is not an issue of hiding, running, or collapsing or quitting. >> larry: if you have added sponsors, although we get, this group that was after you, media matters -- >> that's their job in life. >> larry: they said motel 6 stop advertising, netflix, onstar, advanced auto parts. if you added sponsors. >> i have added sponsors. >> larry: where have you lost freedom of speech? you can say what you like. they can criticize. >> you are missing the point. >> larry: i am? >> living with the constant fear of affiliates and sponsors being attacked is very distracting. it's -- it's -- the list that you just made, i didn't even know about that. i knew about motel 6. i didn't know about the rest of that. i expected it to happen. these companies are in business. they're supporting their families. supporting other families. they don't want to be in the middle of controversy. they want to be doing their business. it's not a matter of them

necessarily agreeing with the special interest group, it's a matter of them wanting to skirt the problems. >> larry: who is the special interest group? >> like media matters and some of the other groups that have lined up to decide i should be silenced because they disagree with my points of view. i never called anybody a bad word. i was trying to bring, and obviously it has become a national discussion now. i was trying to make a philosophical point, and i made it wrong. but i wasn't dissing anybody. i was trying to make a point. and for that to say, i should be silenced is the reason that i'm saying to you i obviously am losing first amendment rights. >> larry: you agree, though, that's a horrible word? >> yes. i policed myself. you know, i don't know of too many people who have apologized before they were told you better apologize. i apologized because i knew what i had done was wrong. i didn't wait to be threatened. i took responsibility for what i did.

and to imagine that there are people who refuse to accept an apology because they have an agenda and would like me silenced is -- i'm done with that. i'm just done with that. i want my voice out there. i feel freer and stronger than ever to be doing that in all the different venues i have. i am pretty excited. january i am coming out with a book called "shark attacks -- surviving shark attacks on land." it's about betray and revenge. i think the whole thing is interesting. but i've got so many things upcoming. i'm not going to be silenced in this way. >> larry: how many years have you done that show? >> i've been syndicated for 17. 16 of those, the top-rated female, and i've never been out of the top five. right now i'm number three of the most listen-to talk show hosts of america. and i am -- just ready to take on the next level. >> larry: your last show is new year's eve? >> december 31st.

but i think i'm on vacation. >> larry: when will your last show? >> just before christmas. i guess. >> larry: you will come back? >> of course. >> larry: thank you, laura. dr. schlessinger is chucking it. good way to put it. [ female announcer ] there's complete.

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she called to deal with rese resentment about comments that were made by her husband's white friends and family. >> how about the "n" word? the "n" word's been thrown around. >> black guys use it all the time. turn on hbo and list fon a black comic and all you hear is [ bleep ], if anybody without enough melanin say it, people get upset. but when black people use it, it's affectionate. >> larry: thank you for joining us. what has gone on since all this ruckus? how have you reacted? >> it has been really crazy, but i've been given a lot of support. i want to thank everyone who has spoken up and just supported me through all of this. it's just been amazing. the feedback i've gotten has been very positive, so thanks. thanks, everyone. thank you. >> larry: the point that dr. laura was trying to make that blacks use the word, comedians

use the word on hbo, that did not resonate with you at all? >> no. because i was calling to get advice about my relationship. i don't care -- you know, it's not okay to use the, period. but i was calling dr. laura to get advice on my relationship. >> larry: why didn't you just hang up? >> that would have been rude. i honest -- my mother taught me better than that, and that would have been rude. >> larry: are you -- were you a dr. laura fan? are you a regular listener? >> i was a regular listener for -- for a while, for about five, ten years. i would listen to her every day in the car, you know, to and from wherever i was going, but i was a huge fan. >> larry: why did she call you jade? >> i like the name jade. i didn't want to call and give my real name.

i mean, that's something -- i just -- i wanted a little privacy. i didn't think that this two blow up like it did, but i like the name jade, and i'd used it before when i'd called. >> larry: oh, you'd called before? >> yes, sir, i have. >> larry: in the past had she been helpful? >> she was helpful. i mean, there were some things i didn't agree with, but i still listened to her. >> larry: let's listen to more of last week's on-air call between nita and dr. laura. this excerpt comes from the end of the conversation. listen. >> i can't believe someone like you is on the radio spewing off the "n" word and i hope everybody heard it. >> i didn't spew out the [ bleep ] word. [ bleep ] [ bleep ] [ bleep ]. >> everybody heard it. >> yes, they did. >> i help everybody heard it. >> they did and i'll say it again, [ bleep ] [ bleep ] [ bleep ] [ bleep ] is what you hear on h -- why don't you let me finish a sentence? >> okay. >> don't take things out of context. don't naacp me.

>> i know what that means and i know it came from a white person and i know the white person made it bad. >> all right, thank you very much. thank you very much. can't have this argument. do you know what, if you're that hypersensitive about color and don't have a sense of humor, don't marry out of your race. >> larry: what did you make of that, nita? >> every time i hear it, i am shocked. i'm stunned. i'm confused. i'm hurt. i was a longtime listener, and i did not expect to hear that at all. i called for advice about my relationship with my husband. and that was it. and as you could tell by the tape, she was very angry. i couldn't get a word in edgewise, and i just -- i was embarrassed. and i was -- i was a fan, and i just -- i was hurt. i was really hurt. >> larry: you're married to a caucasian, and his friends would -- what was the problem

you were having? what did -- what did he or his friends say that bothered you that you felt the need to call in? >> you know, it was the stereotypes. and i'm the type of person, it takes a lot for me to get mad. i'd been putting up with the stereotypes for a long time, and finally you get tired of it, and you think, okay, is there another motive? the questions keep getting, they're worse, and i'm just sick and tired of the stereotypes and the "n" word had -- not in that particular -- >> larry: what were the questions? >> why do black people talk the way they do. stuff like that. why do you sag your pants? and i didn't -- i don't do any of that. so, i just, the generalization of -- >> larry: what does your husband? i get, they generalize. what does your husband say about all of this fuss? >> he has been very supportive. he loves me very much, and i love him. he's been very supportive through this whole thing. he cannot believe this happened

as well, too, because i didn't even tell him i'd called dr. laura. >> larry: wow. >> i wanted to try to fix the problem, you know, and call her and get the advice and then try to fix it myself, but he had no idea that i had even called the show. >> larry: what about his friends and family, those who you had said had been making these kind of remarks? have you heard from them? >> no, i have not. i have not. however, the neighbor did -- i take that back. the neighbor did apologize. he apologized the next day, and i accepted his apology. >> larry: as we said, dr. laura was a guest on this show last tuesday, we asked her back tonight, she declined, but she did issue this statement. i'd like to tell jade i'm sorry. she called me to ask for my advice and help, in giving my answer i not only didn't help her, i used words that offended her and others. and i'd like to say again, i'm sorry. nita, are you -- do you accept that apology? >> this was from last night?

she said this last night? >> larry: she -- i think she said it today. we -- we -- >> today. >> larry: she said it today. >> you know, the incident happened last tuesday. i think if she were really sincere about that, she wouldn't have waited ten days to nine days later to apologize. and i will still say if she were not caught, she probably would have gone on probably like it never even happened. and media matters when they reported the story, because what originally happened -- when i went back to listen to the tape to make sure i heard what i heard, it was gone. the tape was gone. and this is a live streaming system, website, and it was completely gone. and then i started trying to figure out where is this tape, and that's when i found out it surfaced on friday. but i don't accept her apology, because she still thinks it's okay to use the "n" word, she said things about interracial relationships. >> larry: nita, thanks for appearing with us. we appreciate you taking the

time. >> thank you very much. >> larry: nita hanson. >> thank you, sir. >> larry: she made the phone call. kathy griffin is ahead. she's here to talk about proposition 8. something tells me she probably has something to say about dr. laura. stick around. aspirin to treat painengthr plus an alertness aid to help you get off to a running start. try bayer am - the morning pain reliever. heartburn that keeps coming back? then you're ready for new zegerid otc.

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>> larry: we rush with kathy griffin, who is the actress, best-selling author, emmy-winning star of bravo's "my life on the d-list." by the way, that's up for an em emmy. >> it deals with prop 8. >> larry: you visited an lgbt center for teens. here's an excerpt, watch. >> if you could each one of you say one thing to that person who voted for prop 8, meaning against gay marriage, what would you say to that person? >> i think i'd say to them, well, thank you for denying me

the ability to write whoever i love now, thank you. >> yeah, for taking my civil liberties. >> yeah, thank you for taking away that. >> i would say, who are you to deny somebody their happiness? >> larry: why are you so strong on this topic? >> because i think it's a civil rights issue, you know, and it's interesting when -- i'm not going to call her dr. laura, because i don't have proof, i'm just going to say laurie. when laurie schlessinger was here, and she was talking about special interest groups, which i think she meant the whole african american community, this is a civil rights issue, i'm immersed in the gay community and i tour this country all the time and i meet many, many gay couples, straight couples, and i think it's honestly no different than interracial marriage, and it's shocking, because people forget that within my lifetime, in my generation, you know, it was illegal to have a mixed-race

marriage, and when i think about that, i think, oh, it must have been a century ago. it was 1967. >> larry: right. >> i think the ruling yesterday will prove to be on the wrong side of history. on the other hand i think it's probably good it will go to the supreme court, because i get nervous with let's let the states decide, because if you're married legally in california and you cross the border and you lose your rights. >> larry: but this is a conservative court, the supreme court. >> yes, that makes me very nervous. i'm not a fan of the supreme court. i don't trust them. i didn't enjoy the last president. >> larry: how about those who say marriage is a sacred thing between a man and a woman, it's about procreation? >> well, it's not. because first of all, the divorce rate is high, and i say that as a bitter divorcee, and i have unusual stance, i'm pro-gay marriage wr marriage, but i think heterosexual marriage should be banned. >> larry: but proposition 8. >> we learned when it became

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to silence the gay community. put them on hold. well, we have to think about this more. let's decide in december. so the duct tape simply represents the gay community, not really having a voice. that's really what this debate is about. is prop 8 is about gay marriage being equal for everyone as opposed to civil unions or well we're going to give you some rights and the 14th amendment isn't about some rights or some equality. we don't get to pick or choose. >> larry: what is the essential difference between a civil union and marriage? >> what i didn't understand is that civil unions and marriage, there's 1,100 different rights that you don't get under a civil union, and that if you cross state lines, that's what makes me nervous. so, let's say that it's legal in massachusetts, but then you cross state lines and then you're not recognized and then your partner, god forbid, goes to the hospital and you can't visit them because in this state we don't recognize you as being married. the bottom line is i really think most americans, especially younger americans who are voting, need to know that they should go to congress.org, a nonpartisan site, let their representatives know that this

is an important issue to them. and basically you are not going to get my vote unless you are on the right side of this issue. >> larry: a recent cnn/opinion research poll shows there is a big difference how younger and older americans regard same-sex marriage. 58% of those under 50 think it is okay. only 38% over 50 think it is all right. >> right. but that -- what's different about that? i mean, that happened with race relations and every kind of civil rights. and you know one person who really, i thought articulated it well was, when we did the prop 8 episode of "my life on the d-list" there were some things that i learned that were really great. number one, i met with al sharpton. he is quite an out there character. but he is a very bright guy. you know hem very well. when he was able to articulate so well how it is a civil rights issue then i was able to go back to my heterosexual friends and say this isn't really such a gay thing, i know you think it is just i know a bunch of gay people, but it's really a civil rights issue.

also when i interviewed as you saw in the clip there, 18, 19-year-old lgbt, lesbian, gay, bisexual transgender kids kicked out of their homes because they came out to their families. they didn't have a roof over their head just because they said i'm gay, i'm bisexual, i'm lesbian. so they weren't aware of stonewall or matthew sheppard. they were frying to keep a roof over their heads. and so getting them to go to their first rally in sacramento was a really big deal. because the these younger people need to know they have a voice and a vote and it will be heard. >> larry: were you surprised that the three-judge panel didn't allow the marriages to take place? >> yeah, i was disappointed. i think -- like i said -- i think judge walker will reflect upon this and see that he was on the wrong side of history. but i also like to think that there is optimism and then, when it goes to the supreme court, obviously that's going to be quite a debate. >> larry: is it? >> well, it's not the jimmy carter years anymore.

so, things are very different now. and obviously those of us immersed in the gay community and believe in civil rights of all kind, we are really hoping and pulling for president obama to do the right thing. and i think it is obviously -- he is under a lot of political pressure that this could be considered political napalm. i think your polls show, i don't think president obama is going to lose an election over this. i am kind of optimistic that a lot of people, sort of not on their radar, as opposed to maybe 20 years ago they thought that you could catch gay, all that stuff. >> larry: an executive order throw out don't ask, don't tell. he wants congress to do that. you think it's a cop-out? >> yeah, it is a cop-out. he knows it. they know it. >> larry: couple other things before you leave us, kathy? are you brokenhearted over the fact that first levi and bristol palin got together? >> you are really going there. if you are going to pull a diane sawyer, i would like the fuzzy

lighting. because i didn't know you were going to just cut my heart out on this show. >> larry: when he announced he was back with her. >> i'm glad you can't say her name. i can't either. something like a vacuum cleaner brand. yeah, i have been dumped. it hurts. >> larry: he is not with her now. >> don't play games with my heart. as the backstreet boys would say if i can quote them again. stop playing game with my hearts. >> larry: it changed. now he is not with her. he fathered a child with someone else. >> okay. you don't get me, all right? >> larry: i don't. >> all right. levi johnson ripped my heart in pieces. you are just sitting there cold as ice. i was this close to living in the white house. if i had been first lady or whatever i would have been if i kept, sleeping with levi johnston, i would have made gay marriage legal. >> larry: but -- >> let me tell you, gay guys like him. he is hot. >> larry: you could have been the first lady of the mayor of a city. >> i think that could still happen. let me tell you, that could happen. we are going to gay up wasilla.

it will be one stream of me officiating gay weddings. i was supposed to go officiate a gay wedding after this. i am disappointed. gays have to wait. >> larry: one other thing on levi. have you called him? >> i'm doing something called the rules. i think dr. laura, or whatever she is now, big internet book writer, would agree that there's a lot of possibilities out there for me. >> larry: you've don't think she is a doctor? >> i wouldn't go to her for a pap smear. >> larry: on that note -- >> what? >> larry: thank you for joining us again. >> always a pleasure. >> larry: always funny. kathy griffin. >> don't look suspicious like you regret this booking. >> larry: we'll debate proposition 8 next. for strong bones, i take calcium.

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>> larry: welcome back. stephanie miller is a progressive talk radio host of her own radio show. she came out as a lesbian last week on her program, and she supports, of course, same-sex marriage. bishop harry jackson joins us from london. senior pastor of the hope christian church, he is the chairman of stand for marriage and he opposed same-sex marriage. dennis prager nationally syndicated talk radio host of his own program best-selling author and he opposes same-sex marriage. and pamela harris, the san francisco district attorney, she's the democratic nominee for

attorney general of california, and she supports same-sex marriage. stephanie, quickly, why did you come out? >> why do you assume i am for gay marriage? i might be afraid of commitment, you don't know. i think everybody knows, laesrr that rush limbaugh married another woman a little while ago. if i could not have the one man to complete me, there was no other choice. >> larry: you finally decided to. >> yeah. >> larry: good choice. >> why are you opposed to two people who want to share a life together, being together? >> i'm not. i'm opposed to one thing, only one thing, and that's the redefinition of marriage. i've don't think every society in history, including ours, every religion, every secular society was evil, hate filled and had it wrong when they defined marriage as a man and a woman. that's all that any of us are opposed to. we want gays to be happy. we don't want them ever harassed. they are created in god's image just like a heterosexual is.

however, redefining marriage means that from now on, gender doesn't matter. man, woman, whoever you marry, that doesn't matter. that has never been the case. no one ever advocated it prior to now. and all we ask is to keep marriage as it is, male/female. >> larry: what's wrong with that argument? >> it belies the very basis of the founding of this country we said in 1776, we are going to assume and treat all people as equals. it's a fundamental american value. it's about fairness, it's about fairness under the law and under the constitution of the united states. >> larry: bishop jackson, why isn't marriage a religious issue, why shouldn't marriage take place in a church or a synagogue and everything else be a union? why does the state involved in marriage? >> i think it's an historic issue, larry. i wish the state weren't in it.

but the reality is that the state is in it. therefore, there are sociological ramifications that we have to take into account. and i believe that camilla is dead wrong. there is no place in the constitution that says that something like marriage is a foundational right. it's something that society has always decided that she had the right to determine what is best for the long-term, ongoing nature of our society. >> larry: all right, stephanie. what's wrong with that argument? >> well, quite seriously, larry. this was a very personal decision for me. i've been out to my friends and family for many years. i didn't talk about it on the radio. i'm a very private person. as you know, my dad ran for vice president with barry goldwater. very conservative, catholic. i spent years thinking they would judge me. i judged them. when i came out to them they couldn't be more loving and supportive. it is a critical time in a critical civil rights struggle i think in our country.

it is incumbent upon me or anybody else to put a human face to it say it is your sister, your favorite radio host. it's your brother. i was inspired by shelly wright, my friend, my favorite country singer, who just came out. that takes courage. i think it is a time when you need to say, i am not going to keep cheering gay rights from the sidelines, i will step onto the battlefield and be part of it. >> larry: do you think you are fighting windmills? do you think it is coming, because interracial marriage was the law until 1967, a black couldn't marry a white, and made similar arguments that you make? >> no, not at all. no, no, no. i know. but they're not similar. i will tell you why they're not similar. there is nothing in common between race and gender. this is a massive confusion of all advocates of same-sex marriage. i respect them. some of them i actually love personally. i know, they're in my family. but it is dishonest to compare race and gender.

no one of different races is different. i am identical to a black to a yellow to a red. i am not identical to a woman. there is no comparison. we have men's rooms and women's rooms. we do not have black rooms and white rooms. we once did. and that was evil. it is not evil to separate sexes. it is evil to separate races. this is a massive act of confusion. that is sown, not deliberately. race and gender have nothing in common. >> larry: how do you answer that? >> i just think that it is absolutely getting around the very, very fundamental and basic point, which is that we have a country that we believe in based on everything that we said we are when we were founded, which included that all people are equal and should receive equal protection under the law, and that is what is so fundamentally important about the ruling by judge walker, which is that the constitution of the united states says that people should not be treated differently because of sexual orientation essentially.

the constitution of the united states says explicitly that we are entitled to equal protection. let all people be free to marry. it does not -- it does not have anything to do with the difference in the sexes. of course, there are many books that have been written about that. of course there are differences between the sexes. >> so there's no comparison -- >> but the point is that people should not be deprived of their basic constitutional rights because of their sexual orientation. it's a very simple point. don't take rights from people. >> dennis, it is the same in the sense that it is separate but equal. i don't understand how you cannot say that's the same thing, to say we are going to -- oh, we let black people marry white people, we're not going to call it marriage to, like, your real people, it's separate and equal, it is not america. it is not constitutional. >> are you saying, then, that since the inception of the united states or of the constitutional, we have done something evil by having marriage as man/woman?

>> i'm not -- this is like any other civil rights battle. we did not used to let women vote. we didn't let to used let black people marry white people. if you look at the poll out here in california, if you want to go to polling, people in california are for gay marriage now. you are going to be on the wrong side of history, dennis. >> they voted against -- >> larry: let me get a break in. let me get a break. hold on. >> we don't use mob rule. we don't let people do mob rule. >> larry: let me get a break. hold it, guys. hold it. let me get a break in and i'll ask bishop jackson how society would be harmed if gays could marry everywhere. quick correction, by the way, scaththy griffin realized she misspoke during her segment. she said judge walker was on the wrong side of marriage. he was the judge that ruled in favor of same-sex of marriage. scaththy meant to say he's on the right side of history. more debate after this. tdd# 1-800-345-2550 what if every atm was free?

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>> larry: how would society be harmed? is society harmed in massachusetts because gay people

can marry there? >> i think so. first of all, the right to vote is an essential civil rights. my father was threatened at gun point by an out-of-control state trooper because he weighed in on this issue of voting. so we're trumping one group's civil rights in the name of civil rights. there's something backwards there. number two, i think it's about the kids. you are not just changing marriage, you are changing everything that relates to marriage and therefore, heather has two mommies is being taught in schools around the nation and it will fundamentally change how we view the world. and i think that some parents don't want their kids to know these things at such young ages. in washington, d.c., thirdly, on the gay and lesbian agenda right now, is a desire to legalize prostitution in our city because they say that gays, lesbian, transgender kids are going to be discriminated against. where will it end?

so, when we say yes to same-sex marriage, we have all these unintended consequences that come behind it. i think this is a case, larry, of a minority impressing and imposing its will upon a majority. i've had death threats. there have been all kinds of crazy things. and i just don't think it's fair. and i just don't think it's fair. what happened today with laura -- >> larry, i think it would be a mistake -- >> hold on. i want everyone to get the same time. kamala, you answer this one. >> it is a mistake to suggest that when you give rights to one group you are taking rights from another. it is not a zero sum game. >> no. >> the reality of it is we have said as a country that we believe in fundamental fairness, which means equal rights for all. to take -- to give rights to this group of people who want to marry is not to take rights from anyone else. it's just to do the fundamentally fair and right thing and it's the thing that is

based -- the basic principle that was the foundation of our country. fairness, equal rights. >> but it fundamentally changes the institution. it's not giving rights. it destroys marriage as wean it. >> it doesn't take anything away from the institution and we know that. >> it does. >> no, no. it gives other people the protection of that institution. it gives other people the ability to have a legally recognized bond where they have a life long commitment with each other. and there should be room in our country for the belief that people do fall in love and want to create a commitment between themselves that is recognized by the law. when they want to do that we should give them that right. >> dennis, you're the same gender as a gay man. >> that's entirely right. but that's not the issue here. let me ask a question to the two women. which same sex marriage -- by the way i'll ask a question.

let me answer you about massachusetts. i'll tell you. the largest single institution in adoption in massachusetts history has been the catholic church, catholic charities. they are now out of it. they have been kicked out because prefer a married man and a woman to be an adoptive couple to two men or two women. so i ask the women a question. do you believe that there is any difference in having a father or not having a father or having a mother and not having a mother? is it identical to you, two mothers, as a mother and a father or two men and a mother and a father? is it identical? you have to say it is or you agree with me. >> i'm happy to answer that. >> hold it. >> they are out of the adoption business. >> most kids end up in foster care because some straight couple somewhere screwed up, dennis. >> it doesn't answer my question. there are straight couples that are beautiful. there are straight couples that are ugly. i want an answer to my question.

is catholic charities, kicked out of massachusetts in the adoption industry because they prefer a man and a woman as parents. do the two women disagree with that? >> i think there is a point that has to be made here. i am a career prosecutor. i specialized for a long time in child sexual assault and child abuse cases. i created the first child abuse unit of my office in the history of the office. and i'm going to tell you something. what's most important, what is fundamentally most important for a child to become a healthy and productive adult is that they are raised by loving parents. and whatever form that loving parent takes on -- >> okay. fair enough. >> i'm supporting that. i'm supporting that because we have so many children who are in the foster care system, in the juvenile delinquency system, who had a heterosexual parent and a couple. >> okay. >> married couple who could not take care of that child. the issue for me is not the sex of the parents.

it's going to be how they raise that child. >> let me jump in and say what else is hurting kids and one of the other main reasons i did this. a dear friend of mine was the home coming queen in high school, came out and lost all her friends. she works on the suicide hotline for gay kids. there is a gay kid tonight watching in iowa that's going to kill himself because he thinks no one else is like him. there is a teacher who takes pepsi cent pepto bismol because she thinks someone is going to ask what she did that weekend. this is important. they are not alone. >> you didn't answer if it matters if you have a mother. >> hold on. i'll come right back. [ male announcer ] if you've had a heart attack caused by a completely blocked artery,

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kamala harris, what was your question again for dennis? >> whether he believes that it is -- that the issue for a child is more important whether the parents are heterosexual or homosexual couple versus whether the child is being raised in a loving home where they are being supported and nurtured so that they can become the productive human being and adult we want them to become. if you have to take it on balance, i think most reasonable people would agree that what is most important is that child, if the focus is truly on the child that that child is raised in a family where they are loved. >> let him answer. >> i fully agree. so now i'll ask you a question. >> okay. >> you have a loving male/female and you have a loving male/male or female/female.

you have a child to give for adoption. would you flip a coin or would you prefer the male/female? all of them are loving, kind, and good. >> i would never engage in that simplistic an assessment when you're talking about you have three -- >> wait a minute. you asked me a question and i answered. why is that simplistic? >> i would need to know more and any person who deals with children -- >> okay. >> i'd want to know if there are siblings in the home. i'd want to know whether -- >> okay. i'll get another word in. hold on. all right. bishop jackson, do you think it's coming anyway? do you think you're going to lose this fight? >> no, i don't think it's inevitable. i think the issue that we're dealing with is because it's not inevitable these guys are yelling, screaming, fighting. they know that in the affection two and a half years i believe this issue will be