nothing you buy anymore comes with an instruction manual. [laughter] we get an iphone, and ipad, we're like, where is the book jack then you ask your kids and they teach you. that is great. pay more attention to yourself worse than your net worth -- self-worth than your net worth. participate, don't spectate. have the feelings of victory and defeat, it will make you a stronger person. by all means, keep cold day close to you. as for that number 13, we will be celebrating the schools opening later this year. the one conventional wisdom said was not visible. he won the experts said never who don't. when? september 13, because nine plus one plus three equals 13. happens to fall

in september this year, we will be opening that go on friday, september 13, 2013. you know what i would say? why not? [applause] >> she makes the first speech by sitting first lady, becomes the first president of the daughters of the american revolution, designs her own time and establishes the white house china collection and is the first to have a christmas tree in the white house. meet caroline harrison, wife of the 23rd president, benjamin harrison, as we continue our series on first ladies with your westerns and comments.

9:00y night, live at eastern on c-span, c-span3, c- span radio and c-span.org. of thisre showing some year's commencement speeches by business leaders from around the country. next, arianna huffington at the college-- smith college. , former president bill clinton speaking at howard university. arianna huffington was the commencement speaker at graduation ceremonies this year at smith college in massachusetts. she is the head of the " huffington post" an online news site and blog founded in 2005. this is about 25 minutes. >> arianna huffington. [applause]

thank you so much. thank u so much. numbers of the faculty, devoted fans and friends, and especially the fabulous class of 2013. [applause] congratulations, you have reached the light at the end of the tunnel. fouryou first arrived years ago, i am sure you never imagined that at the end of that, we there would be a lady behind a podium talking to you in a funny accent. [laughter] this accent has been the bane of my existence until, in 1980, i moved to new york from england and i met henry kissinger. he said to me and don't ever worry about your accent.

in american public life, you can never underestimate the advantages of complete and total incompetence ability. [laughter] -- incomprehensibility. [laughter] [applause] i am so grateful to be with you at this very special moment. you don't know it, but i have spent the last few weeks stalking you. [laughter] smith website, your twitter feed, facebook, i canram, tumbler, so get to know you better. here is what i have found. you are fascinating and curious and quirky and asking the big questions, and worrying about the little things. and solving the cosmic riddles and agonizing about what shoes to wear at commencement. [laughter] become aens if you youtube sensation.

[indiscernible] but i can't even pronounce. -- stephanie, i want you to hear her recess pronounced in a greek accent. on entropy and contributions to the chelate effect. i have learned about the three seniors who are part of the basketball team, which made the division iii ncaa tournament area [applause] a historic accomplishment to add to your already -- lots of them for them. -- atoric attachment compos mentis at your store -- accomplishment.

i learned about the many who are first in their family to graduate from college. [applause] like one who began her journey in the dominican republic. before i go any further, because i have been so impressed, i feel compelled to extend to all of you graduating class of 2013, a lifelong invitation to blog in the huffington post. [applause] about your graduation, and about all of your adventures on the next stage of the journey you are starting today. in order to bypass the growing huffington post iraq risqué, i am going to give you right now my e-mail address. .- bureaucracy arianna@huffingtonpost.com.

can send it directly to me and get the password for life. [applause] getting to know you has made me feel very protective of you. especially because i have two daughters who are about your age, college-age kids. it has also made me realize that you don't need ejection -- protection because you are ready to take on the world. theyou have attended center for work and mike, you even have a passport to life after smith. [applause] [laughter] the opportunity to learn things like job interviewing skills, how to balance a budget, cook a healthy male and change a tire. you can consider my speech today a continuation of the passport to let after smith area and full disclosure, i cannot cook and definitely cannot change a tire. [laughter] of life after smith will be

deciding what things you want to put your energy into and what things you don't. meher the big revelation for when i realized that i did not have to complete everything i thought i wanted to do, like learning german or becoming a good skier or learning to cook. i realized that you can complete the project by dropping it. [laughter] [applause] commencement speakers are traditionally expected to tell graduates how to get out there and climb the ladder of success. i want to ask him instead, to redefine success. the world you are headed into desperately needs it. and because you are up to it. your education at smith has made it unequivocally clear that you're entitled to take your

place in the world on equal footing. what i urge you to do, not just take your place at the top of the world, but to change the world. [applause] what i urge you to do is to lead in the third women's revolution. [applause] the first was led by the suffragettes over 100 years ago, when brave women like susan b anthony and elizabeth cady stanton fought to give women the right to vote, among other things. the second women's revolution and theby smith alumni glorious fine. [applause] toria continues to fight expand the role of women in our society. to give us full access to the

roles of power where decisions are being made. is the second revolution still in progress, we simply cannot wait any longer for the third revolution to begin. where iimagine a place would be more likely to find the leaders of that revolution and writer. -- than right here at smith. money and power, success, money, and power is practically become synonymous. but it is time for a third metric beyond money and power. ,ne founded on well-being wisdom, our ability to wonder and get back. [applause] money and power by themselves are like a two legged stool. ,ou cannot balance on them

eventually you will topple over. are and more people toppling over every day. weically, success, the way have defined it, is no longer sustainable. it is not sustainable for human beings, it is not sustainable for the planet. [applause] to live the lives we want and not just the lives we settle for, the lives according to society's definition of success, we need to include the third metric. a president give a speech that was ahead of its time. it was titled, inside the clockwork of women's careers. to me, it is very much a third women's revolution called to arms. she spoke of the need to dispel myths about ambition and success, chief among them the

myth that success and ambition look like a straight line. no big surprise that the image of success created by men would be an long phallic shape, straight line. [laughter] [applause] if we don't redefine success, the personal price they play -- pay will get higher. as the data shows, the price is much higher for women than men. among career women, who have stressful jobs and which poor woman doesn't have to there is a nearly 40% increased risk of heart disease and a 60% increased risk of diabetes. in the last 30 years, as women have made strides and gained in the workplace, levels of stress

have gone up to 18%. another smith graduation speaker, alyssa cook, notoriously told the class of 1954 that their way to the top would be determined by the men they married. ... i want to do her one better and tell you, don't get to the top by marrying someone. a much simpler way is to sleep your way to the top. [laughter] [applause] right now, i imagine the president is thinking she should have edited me. [laughter] sleep intalking about the literal sense. [laughter] right now, the workplace is

absolutely fueled by sleep deprivation and burnout. i actually know of what i speak. in 2007, sleep deprived and exhausted, i fainted, hit my head on my desk, broke my cheekbone and got four stitches on my right eye. that is the beginning of my reacquainting myself with sleep and a need to redefine success. to include our own sense of well-being. even if sleep deprivation is not affecting your health, it is affecting your creativity, your productivity and her decision- making. did you know that the exxon ofdez wreck, the explosion the challenger space shuttle and the nuclear accidents of chernobyl and three mile island were all partially read the result of decisions made on too little sleep?

according to research at walter reed hospital, the only thing that gets better with sleep deprivation is magical thinking and reliance on superstition. [laughter] for those of you majoring in fortune-telling, go ahead and burn the midnight oil. the rest of you, not so much. [laughter] as you can tell by now, i am a major street evangelist. at the huffington post a number newsroom, we have two map rooms. -- nap rooms. [applause] hundreds of editors and reporters and engineers were very reluctant he seen in the middle of the afternoon having a nap. but now, it to nap rooms are continuously booked and we need to offer a third. i must say, the other day i was walking by one of the nap rooms and is set people coming out of the nap room. whatever to myself,

it takes to recharge yourself. [laughter] just please don't tell hr. adding well-being to our definition of success means is that in addition to looking after our financial capital, we need to look after our human capital. my mother was an expert at that. i remember when i was 12 years , a successful greek businessman came to dinner at our home in athens. he told us how well everything was going in his life. my mother looked at him, looking turned out, exhausted, and said to him, i don't care how well your business is doing, you are not taking care of you. your business might have a great bottom line, but you are your most important capital. draws you canny

make from your health bank account, but you just keep on withdrawing. you could go bankrupt if you don't make some deposits. not long after that, the man had to be admitted for an angioplasty. when we include well-being in our definition of success, the change our relationship with time. right now, we are also stressed out about time that every time you look at our watch, it is later than we think. researchers have a term for it, time salmon -- time famine. dr. seuss wrote about it ahead of the researchers, of course. how did it get so late so soon? it is night before this afternoon. december is here before it is june. my goodness, have the time has flown, how did it it's a -- did it get so late so soon? does that feel similar to any one or more likely to everyone? as long as success is defined by

money and power, climbing and burnout, we will never have the time to be able to enjoy that other aspect of the third metric, wonder. a mother who with was living in a constant state of wonder, whether she was washing the dishes or feeding seagulls at the beach or reprimanding overworking businessman machine maintained sense of wonder. delighted at the mysteries of the universe in the everyday little things. whenever i complain or be upset about something, she would say, darlin', change the channel. you are in control of the clicker. the replay that bad scary movie. of thathe gifts attitude to life that gave her was the ability to cut through hierarchy. i remember one night i was living in london and dating a

tory member of parliament, it must've been one of those decisions made on sleep deprivation -- [laughter] dinner at the then prime minister ted heath. ,y mother was in the kitchen and a plumber had to come in and fix some last-minute problem. my mother asked the plumber what he thought of the prime minister. not much, the plumber said. he has not been good for working people. oh, let me go bring him in so you can tell him directly. there wasd not think any problem at all about bringing the prime minister into the kitchen and it is where he sat down and heard a mouthful from the plumber. [laughter] well-being, wonder, and the third w is wisdom. if you look around you, you see leaders in positions of power in politics, in media, and ,usiness, all with high iqs

great degrees, making terrible decisions. is not iq, but wisdom. today, it is getting harder and harder to tap into our own wisdom. toare also hyper connected our devices, our screens, our social media, we are having a hard time disconnecting from the technology and reconnecting with ourselves. evere very old and wise and mcdonnell wrote about her decision to disconnect from all her social media. she will have real social connections in favor of or both superficial technology once will become nearly [indiscernible] of au don't have the head digital company to tell to completely disconnect from technology.

what i am telling you is to regularly disconnect from tech knowledge he, relative -- regularly unplug and recharge to reconnect with ourselves and our own deepest wisdom. [applause] i am convinced there are fundamental truths about human beings. the first is that we all have within us a centered place of wisdom, harmony, and strength. this is a truth that all the worlds religions, christianity christianity, islam, judaism, , hold true in one form or another. the kingdom of god is within. is that we areh all going to spend most of our life not in that place. we keep veering away from that place again and again. in fact, we may spend our lives

off course more than on course. at the huffington post we launched an app called gps for the solul. it gives you a personalized guide that helps to course correct. that snake in the garden of eden, hyper connectivity with technology is so widely that we have to be even more widely and use technology in order to disconnect from technology. [laughter] when we are in place of wisdom, harmony, and strength, life is transformed from struggle to grace. we are suddenly filled with trust come in matter how many setbacks, challenges, and disappointments we are facing. that is a purpose to life is often hidden and that often makes sense only when we look back in our life, not as we are experiencing it.

basically, when we moved to that place of trust and race, we as onee our life suggested, as if anything is rigged in our favor. the tempo well-being, wisdom, wonder and the last element, empathy, compassion, the willingness to give back. the founding fathers wrote about the pursuit of happiness. if you go back to the original document, as i'm sure you all have done, happiness does not mean the pursuit of more ways to be entertained. it is the happiness that comes from feeling good by doing good. many of you already know that. [applause] smithies have given back in countless ways, near and far, working with chinese schools

through the smith china project, spending time in the community with people with disabilities. to bring children in holyoke and using digital storytelling to start conversations about health issues in springfield. as you leave this beautiful campus to follow your dreams and skill great heights in whatever field you choose, i beg you, don't buy society's definition of success. it is not working for anyone. it is not working for women, it is not working for men, and is not working for oliveros -- not even for, the cicadas that are about to emerge and swarm us. it is only working for those who make pharmaceuticals for stress, sleeplessness and high blood pressure. [laughter] [applause]

please don't settle for just breaking through glass ceilings. -- and a broken corporate or political system. leaders are disconnect it from wisdom. change is by going to the root of what is wrong and looking at what we value and what we consider success. there'll be many signposts along your path. very few signposts will remind you to stay connected to the essence of who you are. to pause and to wonder and to connect w