how about taking a few risks you could even take a chance on love. don't expect happy endings. the church. is. in india marrying for love is unusual most marriages are arranged by the parents. she was also very clear that is my only son and i will find that my son my son. had something different in mind the woman of his dreams madea lives in southern germany. along the way they spent 8 years in a long distance relationship and called off the wedding and look if they want to be

able to travel here with out of the south. you know all the states that. it was a shock at 1st i didn't know what we should say about it all and. gabriele is from bangalore in india he came to a group school in southern germany to study at university for 3 months that's where he and mario met mario a new guy would be returning home soon and that a long distance relationship would be madness but love one out over reason chat and support and that i fell in love with his smile right away. we just clicked immediately he was so cosmopolitan so well read and very charming sets on minds. i read you told my friends look at oh she's looking very pretty but i

figured out that she doesn't get to see good forward she doesn't get people she studied didn't go to us so that all goes well but in case she was a cousin i wasn't good but the cop pulled it out of the speech. at the end of the summer gabriele had to return to india the younger. both found themselves separated by 7000 kilometers for years they yearned to be together not knowing where their relationship would take. mario went to visit company out in india and stayed for several weeks she returned the following year and the year after that she dreamed of sharing her life with cumbria but his parents were already looking for a wife for their only son. some 90 percent of marriages in india are arranged by the parents. please keep in mind that you even if you have

a gulf know something please don't bring up there you don't think about mattered because then the one who would be deciding their life for you. gabriele hid his relationship with maria from his parents for 7 years they didn't know he had a german girlfriend. he didn't want to upset his parents who hold fast to indian customs and traditions. she would go to church every sunday and people day would suggest and she would see somebody who is interested in the matter who has a grown up daughter are you interested should be speak to them and so i would say no also then she would send me some pictures or some facebook profiles audit. me the name of the girl and i thought we were going to convince book. a suitable wife would come from the same social class and the same religion. was determined to follow his heart. but a young gabriele skite several times

a week. when you're sad can you hear me. i can hear myself the 4 and a half hour time difference is one problem or not or you get home from work it's 10 o'clock at night in bangalore. you are they. ok. now i'm like i had 2 courses and now i'm back it wasn't an easy relationship because a lot of flames. you know what you need is to directly chat to a person or talk to a person or. things like that holding hands at times and like that and you know always on being on the phone doesn't help and it's not like it's only for some small time you know might be it will go on like this for a year but for once and i'll be there and definitely come to bangalore we can make some plans. it makes things

difficult and then you also start thinking does it really makes any might be a by now here with me next to me to share my problems and only talking over the weekend really doesn't help it's always difficult to have a long distance relationship so guaranteeing 2 more in the biz. but we can skype on the weekend for some more time you can tell me about your 2nd exam also. get under way learn what night. good night. rodeo and gabrielle have decided to take the plunge they want to live together and get married. marty your sister already knows about the marriage plans body has decided it's now also time to tell her parents she wonders how they'll greet the news about a son in law from another country and culture or go madea's mother has always found the idea of maintaining a long distance relationship for years on end rather peculiar. on how because i

just got i told her i didn't really understand it they don't ever see each other how does that even work they can't even have a coffee together they never see each other as a mother i couldn't understand it would seem. all right as you say. we were worried that he wouldn't come here and she would go there for us as parents that would be. you might be 8 on the ball in the sticky hands are always happy when children strike out on their own but that doesn't mean they want to have to travel of 11000 kilometers to visit them. and the thought also struck me oh my god if she has children i might only see my grandchildren once a year then what the thought on this. this isn't actually this last was the need to begin to change naturally friends the inside of them and maria is someone who knows

her own mind and makes her own decisions she won't be talked out of it if this is what she wants then of course she has my support. because i told them i've loved him from the start and that hasn't changed he's the one i want my mr right. apathetic to get this marty his mind is made up she will marry. i was very surprised and i thought to myself oh dear i don't want to have to my mother was worried because there's a big cultural difference between india and germany. in and watches and she worried that he'd move here and wouldn't have a job yet and might be a financial burden on me. but can job heart but i'm also tacitly. in bangalore gabriele had his own problems to contend with marrying for love would mean turning his back on prediction his parents who are devout christians had

always hoped that their only son would see reason and accept a wife they chose for him. they were not at all happy and then mom was really most outgoing in saying that this cannot happen. when people see what lives the want in the world they would also believe you know this cannot happen in the how can you do something like this if you want to miss and language we want to stand out as you were missed and the food your a lot of drama like the mother in both but i think one month and a half. and then everybody crying in the. it is very difficult because in india what happens is you to convince also a lot of people you have known in the north of people some villagers you have never spoken to who would call you up suddenly this is really upset we had upset about this they would see that you have to change your delusion you know the thing about your mom she's praying and reading me she's getting more to do you want her to suffer. the doubts always come up in mine because the

nearly 100 people calling you were really putting steen you were that you know this is not right and i want to speak to you let me give you an invented by. i really didn't believe in the invited system so i was really surprised at how can people live together and be together and and so i always believed that you know you should before getting married get to know a person because it's about your life you want to spend your entire life and if you do the wrong person then either you suffer your life but i was also strong i said that what i want to do i will go by this and i have decided to go by this. gun barrel is visiting germany for the 1st time since attending university here he's planning to ask more us parents for her hand in marriage but he still speaks very little german. i was a little nervous initially because i also had to learn the sentencing judge. we've

practiced the sentence quite a bit and now he just wants to get it over with german isn't easy for him to. get across a little strict specially its daughter might be more careful less to the guy. things like that. and be simple i know i did suspect something was going on maria told us they were coming over and they might have something to tell us. so i immediately thought they wouldn't say that unless they had some sort of plan in mind. as the way the 9. give me. money is parents are still a bit worried about whether a cross cultural marriage like this will work and a little of this is. ok mom up ok mama puppet gabrielle and i want to ask you something you know. hello mama hello papa. i'm here today to ask you

for your daughter's hand in marriage and i hope you give us your blessing. yes but show is that. you. think you can find one you like you mustn't move away. which you have you know because i do still worry that they might move away but as a mother of course i want them to have a lovely future together and a wonderful life with. no gabriele has to go back to bangalore to return to germany permanently he'll need a visa that will permit him to marry he still has plenty of time but getting the beezer poses an enormous bureaucratic hurdles even more than you realise. at home audios organizing the wedding on her own she's been saving up for a while and has taken out a small loan they still have 7 months to handle all the formalities but german

authorities have sent them a checklist of all the documentation they'll need to provide. you know people gabriele has to provide a document certifying that he's not married it's a major hurdle once they've submitted all the forms the regional court will examine them and issue a ruling this fall this weight is the worst possible by far. we submit original documents and don't know what will happen to them months pass and you start to think this just can't be happening like this. before offices. do give. nor we don't do anything of this sort if you are mad you can for example be needed for this. if you get a letter but it's noted if you get be said if you're mad and you have a history of medics then we have a proof of your marriage certificate but if you're not then you don't have anything like that. meanwhile the wedding date is around the corner and gabriele still

doesn't have the visa that will allow him to marry in germany many original documents seem caught in limbo somewhere on the route from india to germany the entire process has stalled. mario and gabriele decided their only hope is to apply for an ordinary visa they spend their time going to government offices and filling out forms. and i had a huge plate discussing the discussions she said go to this office and get better i said there is no office late dad which can give me that i'm single 2 weeks before the wedding is still in india with no visa in sight but hasn't given up hope she's at the hairdresser trying out their style and make up she plans to wear on the big day. because it doesn't come through the wedding won't happen something doesn't even want to think about.

talk through a day like this i think it's fine to blab it up a bit. oh someone's calling of course my sweetheart but. i do. yeah and middle of this thing way out of. it's terrible news. visa application was turned down. the german embassy refused to grant it without even giving a reason. i can hardly believe it. the wedding has to be called off. saw i'm shocked. it's a financial blow to. several 1000 euros a down the drain. the 2 of us were for most of the bill for the wedding. so it's really rough. now.

and forms all the guests at the wedding is off and cancels all the events the church and the civil ceremony the reception. the restaurant owner requires a 50 percent cancellation fee. was very upsetting and also i had resigned from my job at that point of things i didn't know what to do not because the plan was to come. 9 9 9 close friends got their visa and it's too late to cancel their flights they're making the trip. money only cern's to spend the 6000 euros he'd saved for the wedding guests from. those ok and we were really upset that's true and then because there was. how when it happened next hour when the things people still. situation.

their relationship is faced many obstacles for long distance the cultural differences but it was parents who had hoped for a different kind of daughter and. in the end it's the german bureaucracy that poses the biggest hurdle even bigger than the thousands of kilometers that separate them . have been that you know i would not be able to we ever meet. again and things like that so the idea is a soon difficult situation there's a celebration but no groom mario is crushed but tries to make the best of it. one year later gabriella is back in germany and rodeo has another appointment to try out her hairstyle and make up for the back of it. this time they booked a different reception at a different restaurant. you'll be making your entrance from up there we've got the

space outdoors for an operator or you can have it in here we still have to talk to the service manager about how we want to set up the buffet usually we line up the tables in a huge shape. i am going to type that mari is handling the last organizational details with the restaurant manager she wants it all to be perfect. or is hosting all the relatives from india for gabriella's parents is their 1st trip abroad. sending me photos every day that is what we have. at the barbecue exhibit this is. this ok. everything is perfect. dressing up and buying new things. living with maria in her small one bedroom apartment. or yours at work takes over here at home it's a big change for. india we have many people who do this kind of work the

cleaning for example or washing your car. here in germany you do it all yourself i think that's good but sometimes it isn't easy. so. the only problem we have is this apartment is a bit small for 2 people but apart from that i'm surprised by how smoothly it's all going i have lived alone for a while and i'm used to being the boss here at home. and i'm pretty picky about my decor and keeping everything neat and tidy i tell him watch out with that plate and cup. madea is independent and do pinion aided and that takes some getting used to sees that lot and i was a lake bed but now i'm here and i know how to play you know to listen to it or to say what she say to or to do what she says because she's really good with things. gabriele has big plans he wants to further improve his german get his driver's

license and find a job but 1st you marry him or get married tomorrow. governor his parents are on their way to the wedding. it's the 1st time they've traveled outside of india. and now they're here in germany where their only son will be making his new home. he's turned his back on indian tradition and on their plans for his future. they're still very concerned about what the future might hold time you stand. is coming or coming but you. know i mean you gave me a lefty they give me. mine gave them to me. if they don't want to lose their son they have little choice they have to accept god as decision and give the marriage their blessing. you know like

the cub it was friends from india are also here. the church ceremony is about to begin. i think what will the indian guests think about german customs and traditions. because the big day is finally here even oh i'm so excited i haven't cried yet i plan to cry tomorrow morning now i'm worried i might burst into tears now just you know. each had a few days ago gabriele's relatives. we're still in bangalore today they are surrounded by strangers who will soon be family. gathered to say that you know that it's a get everybody up and that makes it such good fun. as friends run ghar approves of the cross cultural marriage it's a challenge for sure it's a hurdle but yet every challenge you take it makes you stronger it makes you more

come together so i don't think the 2nd difficult issues are the challenges and all of them come together with the world cup coming all the fun just the a good time so the more they were caught now the made the point is that so and all you need is love so that's what makes it perfect. sync martin's basilica and his germany's largest baroque church it's rather different from gun barrels family his familiar with from back home. oregon has russian roots and does her best to make the guests from abroad feel welcome gabriella's parents are having to make a major adjustment in india and their daughter in law would traditionally become part of their household and help care for them in their old age that generational contract has been broken.

instead all go well have her daughter and son in law nearby. madia and gabriele have decided to make their home in germany. take this ring as a symbol of your love and devotion give this ring to the groom and repeat after me in the name of the father the son and the holy spirit. in the name of the father the son and the holy spirit. give each other your right hand. after all the difficulties they've had to go through gabriella and mario want their wedding to be a sign of things to come a peaceful and happy life together. and now it's time for the reception.

but 1st comes the wedding portrait very little about this wedding is familiar to gabriele's family. weddings in india are huge celebrations with hundreds and sometimes even thousands of guests german traditions are rather unfamiliar but gabriele sister tabor is enjoying herself. it's kind of different for indians because indians are no good going to believe it's a little open container you know you see each other they love each other. back in india we do not drink with better hands we do not have each other and this is the couple certain things are not that in india but you know when you come to the country you see how generous people are and this is compassion it. doesn't matter.

for gabriele as parents the wedding is bittersweet. after that i'm his mother and he's leaving me 41 sorry have only one sonic. but he decided the 5 keep their. eyes. said to him you can marry maria. might be out but you should settle in india are not possible that was not possible but maria's family is very good i mean yes we will. use. all those challenges that now would in 6 months now we understand each other very well i understand the culture here how it is how things are she understands how my

things work so we don't need to do daily each other you have to take this so she understand i understand so it's going to be smooth from no. mario and gabriele hope that his parents are coming to accept the fact that he married for love rather than tradition. that. tomorrow the newlyweds will start looking for a new apartment. but look for a job. there are signs they gabriele's parents have started to come around the country as mother seems keen to see things work out. you. feel it was me are you enjoying it or do something in the kitchen or cook when she's back to see that there's me all the day all these things so if you take water guns and about what that means you don't as me have you said you live now you will create a legacy of p.c. with kids oh yeah that's right because that is there simply radiant with love and

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