the modern museum center with her question and cultural heritage foundation for play here researchers are looking for answers in more than 5000000 objects souffle challenging to replace part of the history of mankind but only those who know about secret things have a house like this slave auction cultural heritage foundation or limbs treasure trove. of documentary june 21st doubling. in india marrying for love is unusual most marriages are arranged by the parents. she was also that is my only son and i will find someone for my son. had something different in mind the woman of his dreams madea lives in southern

germany. along the way they spent 8 years in a long distance relationship and called off the wedding and look if they want to be able to travel here with out of the south. you know all the states that it was a shock at 1st i didn't know what we should say about it all. is from bangalore india he came to a group school in southern germany to study at university for 3 months that's where he and i met maria knew gabriella would be returning home soon and that a long distance relationship would be madness but love won out over rees 2nd spot in the neck i fell in love with his smile right away. we just clicked immediately

he was so cosmopolitan so well read and very charming said some months. i read it all my friends look at oh she's looking very pretty that i figured out that she doesn't get to see good for she doesn't get people she studied did go to us so that all goes well but in place i she was of course i was and it was tough to get a lot of love to speak which. at the end of the summer gabriele had to return to india the young couple found themselves separated by 7000 kilometers for years they yearned to be together not knowing where their relationship would take. mario went to visit company in india and stayed for several weeks she returned the following year and the year after that she dreamed of sharing her life with cumbria but his parents were already looking for a wife for their only son. some 90 percent of marriages in india are

arranged by the parents. keep in mind that you have a gun for know something please don't bring out there you don't think about mattered because then be the one who'd be saving their life well you. know his relationship with mario from his parents for 7 years they didn't know he had a german girlfriend. he didn't want to upset his parents who hold fast to indian customs and traditions. she would go to church every sunday and people there would suggest she would see somebody who is interested in a manager who has a grown up daughter are you interested should be speak to them and so i would say no also then she would send me some pictures or some facebook profiles audit or tell me the name of the girl and ask me to go and see it convenes book. a suitable

wife would come from the same social class and the same religion. was determined to follow his heart. scan several times a week. when you could hear me. i could hear myself the 4 and a half hour time difference is one problem or not he gets home from work it's 10 o'clock at night in bangalore. were they. ok. how would you know me like i had 2 courses and now i'm back it wasn't any relationship because a lot of fame's. you know what you need is to directly chat to a person or talk to a person or. things like that hold hands at times and like that and you know always on being on the phone doesn't help and it's not like it's only for some small time you know might be it will go on like this for

a year to look for once and i'll be there and if they. come to bangalore we can make some plans yeah. it makes things difficult and then you also start thinking does it really make sense like any might be here with me next to me to share my problems and only talking over the weekend really doesn't help it's always difficult to have a long distance relationship so think more of the busy. but we can scrap on the weekend for some more time you can tell me about your 2nd exam also. ok i'm cool but what can i. get married my. body and gabriele have decided to take the plunge they want to live together and get married. marty your sister already knows about the marriage plans body has decided it's now also time to tell her parents she wonders how they'll greet the

news about a son in law from another country and culture or go madea's mother has always found the idea of maintaining a long distance relationship for years on end rather peculiar. on that one because i just don't know i told her i didn't really understand it they don't ever see each other how does that even work they can't even have a coffee together they never see each other as a mother i couldn't understand it would seem. right that. we were worried that he wouldn't come here and she would go there just for us as parents that would be. you might be a can of all of us the kieran's are always happy when children strike out on their own but that doesn't mean they want to have to travel of 11000 kilometers to visit . and the thought also struck me oh my god if she has children i might only see my

grandchildren once a year then what the thought of this. this isn't actually this last was beginning to emerge naturally friends wish and shout at them and maria as someone who knows her own mind and makes her own decisions she won't be talked out of it if this is what she wants then of course she has my support. because i told them i've loved him from the start and that hasn't changed he's the one i want my mr right. apathetic to get this body his mind is made up she will marry. i was very surprised and i thought to myself oh dear i don't want to have a mother was worried because there's a big cultural difference between india and germany. in on top of this and she worried that he'd move here and wouldn't have a job yet and might be a financial burden on me. hard but i am also touchingly.

in bangalore gabriele had his own problems to contend with marrying for love would mean turning his back on prediction his parents who are devout christians had always hoped that their only son would see reason and accept a wife they chose for him. yeah they were not at all happy and then mom was really most outgoing in saying that this cannot happen. when people see. the work in the word they were also really you know this cannot happen in the how can you do something like this if you want to miss and language we want to understand that you were missed and that food. come over and done but i think one month and a half you know. and then everybody crying in the. it is very difficult because in india what happens is you are to convince also a lot of people you know not of the lot of people from the libyans you have never spoken to who would call you up suddenly this is really upset we got upset about this you know they would see that you have to change your delusion you know the thing about your mom she's playing every day she's getting warned to be you want

her to suffer. the doubts always come up in mine because the nearly 100 people calling you will be putting sting you know that you know who does not write what i want to speak to you let me give you a little bit of why. i really didn't believe in the invited system so i was really surprised at how can people live together and be together and so i always believed that you know you should before getting married get to know a person because it's about your life you want to spend your entire life and if you end up with the wrong person then either you suffer your entire life but i was also strong i said that what they want it is i will go by this and i have decided to go by this. governor is visiting germany for the 1st time since attending university here he's planning to ask america's parents for her hand in marriage but

he still speaks very little german. i was a little nervous initially because i also had to learn the sentencing joke. we've practiced the sentence quite a bit and now he just wants to get it over with german isn't easy for him to. get across a little strict space leads daughter might be more careful less to the guy. things like that. can be simple. i did suspect something was going on maria told us they were coming over and they might have something to tell us. so i immediately thought they wouldn't say that unless they had some sort of plan in mind. i thought a the night. if this didn't need. money is parents are still a bit worried about whether a cross cultural marriage like this will work and the ones that a lot of this is. a came up ok mom

a public gabrielle and i want to ask you something you know. hello mama hello papa . i'm here today to ask you for your daughter's hand in marriage and i hope you give us your blessing. yes but she is that. are you going to serve. this thinking that when you but you mustn't move away. nor would you have you know because i do still worry that they might move away but as a mother of course i want them to have a lovely future together and a wonderful life. knowing gabriele has to go back to bangalore to return to germany permanently he'll need a visa that will permit him to marry he still has plenty of time but getting the beezer poses an enormous bureaucratic hurdles even more than you maria realize.

at home audios organizing the wedding on her own she's been saving up for a while and has taken out a small loan they still have 7 months to handle all the formalities but german authorities have sent them a checklist of all the documentation they'll need to provide. you know he would gabriele has to provide a document certifying that he's not married it's a major hurdle once they've submitted all the forms the regional court will examine them and issue a ruling this fall this weight is the worst part of it all by far we submit original documents and don't know what will happen to them months pass and you start to think this is just can't be happening like this. 24 offices i asked them do you give. nor we don't do anything of this sort if you are for example they needed us for this. if we get a letter but you know to have a good day i said if you're mad and you have

a history of medics then we have 0 proof of your marriage certificate but if you're not then we don't have anything like that. meanwhile the wedding date is around the corner and gabriele still doesn't have the visa that will allow him to marry in germany many original documents seem caught in limbo somewhere on the route from india to germany the entire process has stalled. real decide their only hope is to apply for an ordinary visa they spend their time going to government offices and filling out forms. money and i had a huge fight disguising the discussions she said go to this office and get better i said there is no office leg which can give me a bed that i'm single 2 weeks before the wedding still in india with no visa in sight but hasn't given up hope she's at the hairdresser trying out the hairstyle and makeup she plans to wear on the day if it doesn't come through the wedding

won't happen something doesn't even want to think about. them talk through a day like this i think it's fine to glam it up a bit. oh someone's calling of course my sweetheart. i do. yeah i'm middle of this thing way i want. it's terrible news. gabriella's visa application was turned down. the german embassy refused to grant it without even giving a reason. mario can hardly believe that. the wedding has to be called off. salk i'm shocked. it's a financial blow to. several 1000 euros a down the drain. in. the 2 of us were 40 most of the bill for

the wedding. so it's really rough. now. informs all the guests at the wedding is off and cancels all the events the church and the civil ceremony the reception. ringback the restaurant owner requires a 50 percent cancellation fee. it was many said it was very uplifting and also i had resigned from my job at that point of time so i didn't know what to do not because the plan was to come. 9 9 close friends got their visa and it's too late to cancel their flight they're making the trip any. money who decides to spend the 6000 euros he'd save for the wedding on her dress from. those ok and we would really upset that's true and then

because the worst part was we didn't know how when it happened because when the things people still yet it was really upsetting situation. their relationship is faced many obstacles for long distance the cultural differences but it was parents who had hoped for a different kind of daughter and. in the end it's the german bureaucracy that poses the biggest hurdle even bigger than the thousands of kilometers that separate them . was really scared that what would happen that you know i would not be able to get work and would meet again and things like that so the idea was a little difficult situation there's a celebration but no groom mario is crushed but tries to make the best of it. one year later gabriele is back in germany and maria has another appointment to try

out her hairstyle and make up for the back of it was. this time they booked a different reception at a different restaurant. you'll be making your entrance from up there we've got the space outdoors for an operative or you can have it in here ready we still have to talk to the service manager about how we want to set up the buffet usually we line up the tables in a huge shape. i am going to try that marty is handling the last organizational details with the restaurant manager. she wants it all to be perfect. or is hosting all the relatives from india for gabrielle's parents is their 1st trip across. the. board was every day going to. the barbecue exhibit this is. this ok. everything is perfect. dressing up and buying new things. living with maria in her small one

bedroom apartment. that work takes over here at home it's a big change for. india we have many people who do this kind of work the cleaning for example or washing your car. here in germany you do it all yourself i think that's good but sometimes it isn't easy. and you probably must be the only problem we have is this apartment is a bit small for 2 people but apart from that i'm surprised by how smoothly it's all going lived alone for a while and i'm used to being the boss here at home. and i'm pretty picky about my decor and keeping everything neat and tidy i tell him watch out with that plate and cup. madea is independent and open united and that takes some getting used to sees that lot and i was a late bed but now i'm here and i know how to play you know to listen to it or to

say what she did say to or to do what she says because she's really good with things yeah gabriele has big plans he wants to further improve his german get his driver's license and find a job but 1st he another year more get married tomorrow. god knows parents are on their way to the wedding. it's the 1st time they've traveled outside of india. and now they're here in germany where their only son will be making his new home. he's turned his back on indian tradition and on their plans for his future. they're still very concerned about what the future might hold time is dad time is coming or coming yes i mean he gave me my feet firmly on the. line given to me. if they don't want to lose their son they have little choice

they have to accept god or his decision and give the marriage their blessing. cabrera's friends from india are also here. the church ceremony is about to begin. with and what will the indian guests think about german customs and traditions. the big day is finally here even oh i'm so excited i haven't cried yet i plan to cry tomorrow morning now i'm worried i might burst into tears now just you know. each had a few days ago gabriele's relatives. we're still in bangalore today they are surrounded by strangers who will soon be family. gathered to say that it's ok to get everybody into that nice it's

a good but. governor as friend ryan gar approves of the cross cultural marriage it's a challenge for sure it's a hurdle but yet every challenge you take it makes you stronger it makes you feel more come together so i don't think the 2nd difficulty security challenges and all of them come together with the world cup coming all the sudden just it's going to be a good time so the more they were caught now the made the point is that so far all you need is love so that's what makes it perfect sync martin's basilica and his germany's largest baroque church it's rather different from gabriella's family who's familiar with from back home. oregon has russian roots and does her best to make the guests from abroad feel welcome gabriele's parents are having to make a major adjustment in india their daughter in law would traditionally become part of their household and help care for them in their old age that generational

contract has been broken. instead we'll have her daughter and son in law in nearby. marty and gabriele have decided to make their home in germany. take this ring as a symbol of your love and devotion give this ring to the groom and repeat after me in the name of the father the son and the holy spirit. in the name of the father the son and the holy spirit. give each other your right hand. after all the difficulties they've had to go through garbage pail and mario want

their wedding to be a sign of things to come a peaceful and happy life together. and now it's time for the reception. but 1st comes the wedding portrait very little about this wedding is familiar to grandparents family. weddings and even your harsh and celebrations with hundreds and sometimes even thousands of guests german traditions are rather unfamiliar but gaboriau sister taiba is enjoying herself. it's kind of different for indians because indians are no good going to believe it's inevitable but go take your you know you see each other they love each other. back in india we do not drink with better hands we do not have each other and just as the couple certain things are not that in india but you know when you come to

the country you see how generous people are and this compassion. doesn't battery for gabriella's parents the wedding is bittersweet look after our mother i'm his mother and he's leaving me but only one son we have only one sonic. he decided the 5 year. said to him you can marry maria. might be out but you should settle in india was it not possible that was not possible but maria's family is very good i mean as we look. only. all those challenges that know what in 6

months now we understand each other very well i understand the culture here how it is how things are she understands how my things work so we don't need to do daily each other you have to take this so she understand i understand so it's going to be smooth from no. mario and gabriele hope that his parents are coming to accept the fact that he married for love rather than tradition. tomorrow the newlyweds will start looking for a new apartment. but look for a job. there are signs they gabriele's parents have started to come around to cumbria as mother seems keen to see things work out. feel a bit as we are you enjoying it all do something in the kitchen or cook when she's back to see that there's me all the day all these things so she used

a border fence in about oh that means you know that as we have you settled in now you will create a legacy of peace she would get so yeah it's not just standing there simply radiant with love and happiness and i'm the happiest mother in the world. and improbable romance after all the waiting the tears and disappointments. have made it happen. the book. the book. the book.

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