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giving all the love and care of a. comedian. is life. in the fiber of course. wow what a program now take a look at this. this is a real wedding in south africa so much and glamour right i don't want to know how much it cost for some people. are dream come true for others it leads to countless sleepless nights simply because of the cost so what is the price of love with very different couples in capetown south africa give us their take on the. for many couples it is the pinnacle of their relationship a big fat wedding this doesn't come cheap i'm old and susan from cape town the couple married big last year with 700 people. for me

it was my dream in essence i. think why planting. getting married like court proceeding is the family for me was not an option. i really wanted. was just praying that. god will provide for. susan an old spencer the equivalent of $5400.00 us dollars on the a big day with food and duck all being the biggest expense that's 4 times the average monthly income in south africa in order to pull of the wedding they planned 3 years in advance we decided to start early and try to break down expenses bit by bit in a month check it people who are also helping us and when the wedding came.

great for. their faith just savings ethic and the support of friends help them realize the a big dream they see. for other couples a big wedding isn't a dream but a nightmare they feel pressured to hold a big wedding but want to break with tradition like when the lid to end honey. there was no way for us to actually be able to afford all of that honeymoon overseas white waiting to us know it so we had to look at it and be like. is it really worth it if we invited so many people for the site is not and the white wedding so we decided we can have a small thing with family right that does not even cost much and then we can go on a honeymoon because this is basically about us not about the whole community. honey and her husband only spent around 400 years dollars on your wedding with their

money deceived they paid a deposit on the car and travelled to thailand for their honeymoon but how did the our friends and family react you don't want to know. my mother had. i'm the 1st one to get in the 1st one to get to get married in the family the wedding venue and expense to put the whole date and everything so when you call and say we actually don't want to do that so everyone. had to stand up you know i had to say this is what we want and what you want to is what we want is how we want to do and. they came around after one that came on. in the end the families enjoyed the budget wedding no one felt study had missed out on anything honey and one gust advice is to stick to what you can afford after all a wedding it's not about everyone else but about a bride and a group. in

a lot of places around africa money isn't just spent on the wedding itself. this is the typical price for a bride dozens of couse so thousands of euros already being spent before the russians even begin but how over the top should a wedding our reporter met with young couples in that a slum in tanzania find out what they think. how much should one spend on a wedding well here in tanzania the answer could be as much as it takes and the cost of that could be super high including costing people their marriages and their lives but why is it that in this particular country it seems that it is debt that is holding people together we're going to find out from my lovely panel here and we'll begin with the well who actually you got married 2 months ago so how high is

the cost of weddings in this country i don't know because everybody maybe. but my own marriage course you almost see $15000.00 yes almost $15000.00 ok i'm not married and i've never. been to my wedding but is this the average cost of weddings $15000.00. no no. it's not the average it's not the minimum it's not the maximum because it could go even twice or thrice even 4 times that for just to pay for what ok there's a lady who had lifted her hand at the back please come and speak to me a lot of money goes to their friends to their venues venues here are very costly then we go maybe to the m c u 2 coast so i go and see those i am seeing here he will be a very good example ok so let me ask the mc because you've mentioned him he's a very very popular mc here in tanzania when he walked in everybody oh and he's.

was he expensive yes i am ok so he's good and he's expensive but it's all right if you can afford him you hire him but i wanted to find out a wedding is becoming bigger and bigger even and people are getting poorer and poorer and you meant to save get a signal to go in the course of an idea ponder was about. to know when you're going upon a baby who. read. your. i was. using. horses was upon it you yes weddings have always been expensive so what is the main difference between past generations and this one people as to copy yeah i saw a wedding of my friend with these maybe she or he had a wedding planner and i also went to how their waiting plan ok can somebody explain to me which one is more important is it the wedding or is it the marriage let me

speak to sebastian by the way sebastian and anastasio are a couple and today is that a new vestry yeah thank you. for choosing to spend it here debating 1st of all did you get pressure for the wedding is what we're hearing here reflective of what you experienced absolutely normal it's supposed to be your mother by your own quest but if you are you cannot do that you go to the nearby network and you ask like give me support so if you go to a parent and say hey daddy and mommy i want to marry and i don't have enough money please prepare for me a wedding of course they'll call their friends and this friend so contribute and from there they will start asking you to contribute back to their family and this is the biggest problem but i call it a liability of the family because after your wedding you start receiving calls come to this committee come to this pay this and some of this member you don't even know them ok so so far we have established that weddings are important for legacy for cultural reasons i'd like to go back to noel because i want to ask you do you feel

that you put your friends through a baton by asking them to contribute to your wedding. different to nor because you know according to our culture. we have 10 then so helping each other the one thing contributed to you also you have to pay back as one of my calling to say the process of marriage you. don't forget about the big door you aren't on then a brick i mean the price of working to pay back to the bidens of the woman the money is very big of a cunt dilute to give you 2 meet there is a big but then you are left because of the culture and traditions we hear when tongues on your ok so the wedding day is just the tip of the iceberg but before that these dollar we that needs to be paid there all the ceremonies that we talked about and it's just a let me come back to you the simple answer for me would be well don't show up for your friends contributions or contribute what you can why have weddings a toll if you can't afford it and if it puts people in debt yeah it's indeed

a challenge because if you want show up to someone's waiting people and show up when yours it's also the issue that your parents or your relatives would want to show off to the france where they've been contributing to others and at the end of the day even the contribution that comes you won't even enjoy that money yet because they get you they will come to eat their money and if they've contributed a $100.00 so then in they come their food is not good for their complaint for any of us so you are getting nothing out of that money but at the end of the day you hire a lift with that so let me invites the people to just answer a question for me do you know of couples or have you lost friends because you did contributes a certain amount of money oh i was ok you know like you think there is any are waking up right now they do not want to have weddings that they cannot afford but we have our parents there will tell you that you must have this wedding because i contributed to 50 weddings and yeah they have to contribute to your wedding as well but in the end of the day what we don't realize is we have people attending our wedding with our folded heart sometimes i contribute but i go there really really

angry and why do i have to pay for your happiness very well i just want to find out how do people end up paying for these debts golden. you know some dates are endless they're saying they're always endless and from my perspective a client might come and if she comes or he comes with family friends or. uncles and aunties and they contribute personally then you should know that you should expect that they're putting an expectation to them and they show that i am committing to this so that it gets done so that when my child or i get wed you're supposed to commit the same ending expect that do we contribute as much to education health care or is it just exclusive to the same people that they are putting pressure to the wedding they're not ready to hear from you or from him about those anything that does not relate to the celebration there weren't going to

be the only things that they are sure they're going to eat they're going to be into the community to make sure that the money is finished people are not being are you agreeing ok so when it comes to the important issue like a school fees somebody who's sick nobody is actually put in any pain to that you know i want to find out how we stop this cycle you have an answer already let's come to you. i'm going to have a wedding so i'm trying to make it simple so as i don't want people to contribute so i can control myself and then. they don't really come with it and then after that they won't ask me for contributions so ok let's hear from you can see this couple have lasted for 90 years but the wedding was very simple so you don't have to give in to peer pressure getting too expensive just because you can have a wedding that doesn't even give them the best experience you can have and that's how we wrap up this debate i think we can all agree that we've learned a lot this is quite a bit of fun thank you so much for watching. that's

really interesting let's talk really for a moment we all agree i think a lot of money is nice but when the going gets tough all the money in the wild will never bring you true love of course many years last a lifetime even without expensive winnings if you'd like to watch the longer version of that debate check out our you tube channel. and now it's time for our love expert. how do you say goodbye to a loved one. it's a tough question for anybody and it gets even tougher when your loved one is married to another woman it sounds a bit like a soap opera but it's the reality for one of our viewers in touch with let's hear carl's take on how to navigate through these jungle of emotions hello there and welcome to the spread a safe space where we get to discuss everything sex and relationships for those of you that have been following and tuned in and sending in your e-mails thank you for

those of you that want to send in your e-mails that we can answer your questions the e-mail address is provided below our e-mail today comes from rose and she said hey cows my name is rose i'm in a bit of a tricky situation i've been seeing this married man for 3 years now and we've been living together for one recently he got sick and his health is deteriorating the doctors have said he doesn't have long to live and i'm worried i may not have the opportunity to say my goodbyes i have a 4 year old daughter from a different relationship but she grew up calling him dad and knowing him as her father i would like for her to have closure i know he loves me and if he could he would let his family know that seeing me is important i just want to be able to say goodbye and not cause any drama in his family what should i do rose my darling this is such heartbreaking news knowing that your loved one is leaving their physical body and not having any control of it it must be hard on both you and your daughter

and i know it's a sensitive subject with the other family and i can imagine that they're not being very accommodating but here's my advice to you just remember that everyone is grieving friends family everybody is going through grief and loss so as much as you do want to say or goodbye we just need to figure out the right way to go about it if you've been together for 3 years i believe that the sun. body close to him that you might know and get along with this could be a cousin a sibling or even a good friend reach out to them and ask them if they can talk to the family directly to allow you your moment or you could go directly to his wife there is a possibility that if you tell us how deeply you had to that she would allow you these moments just remember be kind with everybody including yourself as for your daughter the loss of her father is going to affect her as she grows so it's very important to give her the support she needs at this point if you can see the

professional help of a child therapist to help in this transitional period but one place you are sure to bump into his family is the funeral emotions are going to run wild and there will be children who require stability so go with a friend you do need support this is a terrible situation understandably but know you are loved carry that with you going forward and in everything you do including raising your little one do in love and constantly remind her of the great man her father was from we can get by what an amazing and tragic story the things we do for love. on to our next report is about a different kind of love you're going to meet who takes care of strip children in the seat of law. here's the thing kevin living on the streets himself when he was a child so he knows what it is like how tough it is and how lonely he decided to

show these kids want love and respect. these kids should be in school however instead they spend every morning collecting least they live on the streets of togaf capital money collecting trash is one of the main ways for them of making a living. i have been doing this for 3 years but i don't like it i would like to study to become a painter and have my own business model. around 7000 children live on the streets of the west african country they all have their own reasons why they are homeless for some it's an issue of poverty and insufficient resources forcing them to migrate and when they try to return home to hope i usually got it. i try to go back home once every 3 months to see if someone there would take care of me but nobody wants to take me in many of the children feel

ashamed and that's why they wish to remain anonymous the lack of a social safety net for kids in togo leaves them painfully unprotected. sometimes i sleep in the market or the times i sleep at the same place where i sell the waste. social worker kevin understands what these children are going through all too well. put it on the hour. when i was really young i also spent some time living on the streets for a while it was a really difficult time because the streets are not a place for children and now i feel sad when i see the skis on the streets because they remind me of the dark moments in my life it brings back lots of memories but i also know that this is not the end for them we can help people to leave behind their lives on the street.

kevin is the founder of health international an engineer that promotes children's rights and helps to reunite them with their families in addition to assisting them with daily issues on the street kevin wants to work to ensure a better future for them in the long run. this is the welcoming center which we call d n a that means well being here else international we provide a safe space we are situated where these children lead their lives on the streets as you can see we are right in the middle of the ghetto but here the kids can come together and find people who care about them who very near. health are international was created in 2012 and relies on private donations as their main source of funding the ngo has to save me which also provide health care

to our own 22. the main medical conditions that we encounter here are injuries like cats and wounds caused by accidents in the street or that you don't get these are followed by the diseases related to lack of hygiene and finally there is also malaria. so. every morning the safe space time into an alternative school the children come here to learn how to read and write and also get to enjoy various social activities such as painting dancing or sports we have a vision for 2015 and it starts now with us implementing ways to provide these kids with access to education and also to involve your families so one find them living on the street anymore kevin and his team will continue to tackle the issue of homelessness among young people and hope to help these teens find

a fresh start because today's children are tomorrow's future. what an inspiring and kind hearted man for our next report we are staying in west africa and hoping to cost when you think takes us on a journey of discovery vibrant and buzzing city where he was born and raised enjoy . those who are there on one suburb or prior hello everyone i am living on your feet they also call me commander merida i'm an artist comedian actor and single i'll introduce you to my home town that is called abidjan ivory coast look. a big john is the 6th biggest city of africa around 5000000 people called economic powerhouse of ivory cost their home. wherever by there yes no money. they ivorian superstar causes it specially here at

the palace of culture. the hot spot for ivorian is if you. look at it in the lively trade feel district in the south of the city the theater has room for more than 5000 spectators theater groups bands and comedians from all over the country playing here among them of course my feet what are you go guys the palace of culture i love it that's my whole life that's why i do my shoes because it's the only place big enough to bring together all my funds to unite all those people who love me to come and love to share moments of humor to share the atmosphere with me the palace of culture it's like that it's in my heart i love it . drive girl. abidjan is one of the fastest growing economies in africa and the cultural sector is also benefiting from this exciting boom just us money

well the new breed i don't know what. this is especially the case during the rainy season when most people visit big shows in places like the palace of culture to see like clementine and come rain or come shine he always remains positive and even a bit cheeky girl you know what i mean it's like this ignoring us it brings us cool so it's good yes and look there are some pretty women as well. what are chamma in white and kerry here after lemon fixed studied business management he started working as a professional soccer player but after an injury he dedicated himself to a totally new field entertainment now when he isn't busy performing on stage he called music in a studio in the neighborhoods of. this and this is where i make my musical arraignment when i release new trucks this is where i find my inspiration this is

a studio. coming. just follow me. his speciality. music style from ivory cost that combines caribbean music with more traditional dancehall sound. but even the gret performances have to come to an end. ok thank you very much for coming to see me. in abidjan and for letting me show you the places i love so much see you soon just missed land i'll be john now that entertainment. looks like my kind of suddenly the end of the show. as much as i did let's keep in touch if you have any feedback or story for us at 7 to 7. thank you for watching.

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