the home for saving google india's tell stories of creative people and innovative projects around the world ideas to protect the climate and boost green energy solutions by. the series of global $3000.00 on t.w. and online. there we have the brand new edition of the 77 percent africa it's great for helping with us my name is bruce amani i'm stepping in for today's show so let's get into it. the show is all about love from romantic love weddings adultery and passion we explore the cries of love. let me every way being.

with social. skills and all the love and care about the south. on your feet into one of them now is life. wow what a program now take a look at. this wedding in south africa so much pork and glamour right i don't want to know how much it cost for some people weddings like these are a dream come true for others it leads to countless sleepless nights simply because of the cost so what is the price of love with a different couple kept on south africa give us their take on the. for many couples it is the pinnacle of their relationship a big fat wedding this doesn't come cheap i'm old and susan from kipped all know the couple my big last year with 700 people. for me

it was my dream and. why planting. getting married like courtney doing is in the family for me was not an option. i really wanted. was just trying. to find some. kind of provide for. susan and spencer the equivalent of $5500.00 u.s. dollars on the a big day with food and duck all being the biggest expense that's 4 times the average monthly income in south africa in order to pull of the wedding they planned 3 years in advance we decided to start early and try to break down expenses pick up it in a month check it people who are helping us and. grateful

for your faith just savings ethic and the support of friends help them realize the a big dream they see. for other couples a big wedding isn't a dream but a nightmare they feel pressure to hold a big wedding but want to break with tradition like when the little and honey. there was no way for us to actually be able to afford all of that honeymoon overseas white wedding planners know it so we had to look at it and be like. is it really worth it if we invited so many people for the tried and the white wedding so we decided we can have a small thing with family right that does not even coastline. and then we can go on a honeymoon because this is basically about us not about the whole community you honey and her husband only spent around 400 years or less on their wedding with their money deceived they paid

a deposit on the car and travelled to thailand for their honeymoon but how did the our friends and family react you don't want to know. my mother had had her own dream wedding cause i'm the 1st one to get in the 1st one took to get married in the family she didn't put the wedding venue and her own expense she put the whole date and everything so when you call and say we actually don't want to do that so upset everyone. but i had to stand up and i had to say this is what we want and what you want to is what we want is how we want to do and i think they came around after one second round. in the end the families enjoyed the budget wedding no one felt study had missed out on anything honey and one gets advice is to stick to what you can afford after all a wedding it's not about everyone else but about a bride and a group. in

a lot of places around africa money isn't just spent on the wedding itself in my region in kenya. this is the typical price for a bright dozens of cows so thousands of euros already being spent before the russians even begin but how over the top should a wedding. if it can money mate with young couples in that a slum in tanzania find out what they think. how much should one spend on a wedding well here in tanzania the answer could be as much as it takes and the cost of that could be super high including costing people their marriages and their lives but why is it that in this particular country it seems that it is debt that is holding people together we're going to find out from my lovely panel here and we'll begin with doyle who actually you got married 2 months ago so how high is the

cost of weddings in this country i don't know because everybody maybe had. bought my own marriage course almost see the $15000.00 almost $15000.00. ok i'm not married and i've never. been to my wedding but is this the average cost of weddings $15000.00. no no. it's not the average it's not the minimum is not the maximum because it could go even twice or thrice even 4 times that for just to pay for what ok there's a lady who had lifted her hand at the back please come and speak to me a lot of money goes to the friends to their venues venues here are very costly then we go maybe to the m c u 2 coast so i go see those i am seeing here he will be a very good example ok so let me ask the mc because you've mentioned him he's a very very popular mc here in tanzania when he walked in everybody oh and he's.

was he expensive yes i am ok so he's good and he's expensive but it's all right if you can afford him you hire him but i wanted to find out a wedding is becoming bigger and bigger even and people are getting poorer and poorer. and human as a slave killer significant of course is a fine idea as it will ponder was about. to know when you're going up on a be. your. own i was. using. horses as a pond and you yes weddings have always been expensive so what is the main difference between past generations and this one people west yeah i saw a wedding of my friend with these maybe he had a wedding planner and i also want to how they're waiting planned ok can somebody explain to me which one is more important is it the wedding or is it the marriage

let me speak to sebastian by the way sebastian and anastasio are a couple and today is that the new vestry yeah thank you. for choosing to spend it here debating 1st of all did you get pressure for the wedding is what we're hearing here reflective of what you experienced absolutely normal or it's supposed to be by your own cost but if you are you cannot do that you go to the nearby network and you ask like give me support so if you go to a parent and say hey daddy and mommy i want to marry and i don't have enough money please prepare for me a wedding of course they'll call their friends and this friend so contribute and from there they will start does continue to contribute back to their family and this is the biggest problem but i call it a liability of the family because after your wedding you start receiving calls come to this committee come to this pay this and some of this member you don't even know them ok so so far we have established that weddings are important for legacy for cultural reasons i'd like to go back to noel because i want to ask you do you feel

that you put your friends through a baton by asking them to contribute to your wedding. different to nor because you know according to our culture. we have tending so helping each other i want they contributed to you also you have to pay back because one of my college to say the process of marriage you see needs in lots of money don't forget about the big door young turns on a bright i mean the price of world debate back to the patents of the woman the money is very big they can dilute to give you to me knows there is a big but then you are left because of the culture and traditions we hear winton's anya ok so the wedding day is just the tip of the iceberg but before that these dollar we that needs to be paid there are all these ceremonies that we talked about and it's just a let me come back to you the simple answer for me would be well don't show up for your friends' contributions or contribute what you can why have weddings a toll if you can't afford it and if it puts people in debt yeah it's indeed

a challenge because if you one show up to someone's waiting people and show up when yours it's also the issue that your parents or you relatives would want to show off to the france because they have been contributing to others. the end of the day even the contribution that comes you won't even enjoy that money you have because they get you they will come to eat their money and if they've contributed a $100.00 so then and they come their food is not good for their complaint for any of us so you are getting nothing out of that money but at the end of the day you have a lift with that so let me invite the people to just answer a question for me do you know of couples or have you lost friends because you did contributes a certain amount of money oh it was ok you know like you think as many are waking up right now they do not want to have weddings that they cannot afford but we have our parents there will tell you that you must have this wedding because i contributed to 50 weddings and yeah they have to contribute to your wedding as well but in the end of the day what we don't realize is we have people attending our wedding with our folded heart sometimes i contribute but i go there really really

angry and why do i have to pay for your happiness very well i just want to find out how do people end up paying for these debts golden. yes some dates are endless the dates unless they're always endless and from my perspective a client might come and if she comes or he comes with family friends or. uncles and aunties and they contribute personally their you should know that you should expect that they're putting an expectation to them and they show that i am committing to this so that it gets done so that when my child or i get wed you're supposed to commit the same ending expects that do we contribute as much to education health care or is it just exclusive to the same people that they were putting pressure to the wedding they're not ready to hear from you or from men about us anything that does not relate to the celebration they want to contribute to the only things that they are sure they're going to eat they're going to be into

the community to make sure that the money's finished people are not being are you agreeing ok so when it comes to the important issue like a school fees somebody who's sick nobody is actually putting pain to that you know i want to find out how we stop this cycle you have an answer already let's come to you. i'm going to have a wedding so i'm trying to make it simple so as i don't want people to contribute so i can control myself and then. people really come with it and then after that they won't ask me for contributions so ok let's hear from you can see this couple have lasted for 9 years but the wedding was very simple so you don't have to give in to peer pressure and get into expensive debts just because you can have a wedding that doesn't even give up the best experience you can have and that's how we wrap up this debate i think we can all agree that we've learnt a lot this is quite a bit of fun thank you so much for watching. that's

really interesting let's talk real for a moment we all agree i think a lot of money is nice but when the going gets tough all the money in the wild will never bring you true love of course. last a lifetime even without expensive winnings if you'd like to watch the longer version of that debate be sure to check out our you tube channel. and now it's time for our love expert. how do you say goodbye to a loved one. it's a tough question for anybody and it gets even tougher when your loved one is married to another woman it sounds a bit like a soap opera but it's the reality for one of our viewers in touch with let's hear carl's take on how to navigate through these jungle of emotions hello there and welcome to the spread a safe space where we get to discuss everything sex and relationships but those of you that have been following and tuned in and sending in your e-mails thank you for

those of you that we want to send in your e-mails that we can answer your questions the e-mail address is provided below our e-mail today comes from rose and she said hey cows my name is rose i'm in a bit of a tricky situation i've been seeing this married man for 3 years now and we've been living together for one recently he got sick and his health is deteriorating the doctors have said he doesn't have long to live and i'm worried i may not have the opportunity to say my goodbyes i have a 4 year old daughter from a different relationship but she grew up calling him dad and knowing him as her father i would like for her to have closure i know he loves me and if he could he would let his family know that seeing me is important i just want to be able to say goodbye and not cause any drama in his family what should i do rose my darling this is such heartbreaking news knowing that your loved one is leaving their physical body and not having any control of it it must be hard on both you and your daughter

and i know it's a sensitive subject with the other family and i can imagine that they're not being very accommodating but here's my advice to you just remember that everyone is grieving friends family everybody is going through grief and loss so as much as you do want to say your goodbyes we just need to figure out the right way to go about it if you've been together for 3 years i believe that the sun. body close to him that you might know and get along with this could be a cousin a sibling or even a good friend reach out to them and ask them if they can talk to the family directly to allow you your moment or you could go directly to his wife there is a possibility that if you tell how deeply you are hurting that she would allow you these moments just remember be kind with everybody including yourself as for your daughter the loss of her father is going to affect her as she grows so it's very important to give her the support she needs at this point if you can seek the

professional help of a child therapist to help in this transitional period the one place you are sure to bump into his family is the funeral emotions are going to run wild and there will be children who require stability so go with a friend you do need support this is a terrible situation understandably but know you are loved carry that with you going forward and then everything you do including raising your little one do in love and constantly remind her of the great man her father was from we can get by what an amazing and tragic story the things we do for love on to our next report is a boat a different kind of love you're going to meet skills to children in the seat of. here's the thing given league on the streets himself when he was a child so he knows what it is like how tough it is and how lonely it is a little short these kids want love and respect. these kids should

be in school however it's did they spend every morning collecting released they live on the streets of toggles capital. collecting trash is one of the main ways for them of making a living. oh. i have been doing this for 3 years but i don't like it i would like to study to become a painter and have my own business model. iran and 7000 children live on the streets of the west african country they all have their own reasons why they are homeless for some it's an issue of poverty and insufficient resources causing them to make great and when they try to return home down hoped i actually got it. i tried to go back home once every 3 months to see if someone there would take care of me but nobody wants to take me in many of the children

feel ashamed and that's why they wish to remain anonymous the lack of a social safety net for kids in togo eats them painfully unprotected i got wrong sometimes i sleep in the market other times i sleep at the same place where i said the ways i am right i will get along. social worker kevin understands what these children are going through all too well. when i was really young i also spent some time living on the streets for a while it was a really difficult time because the streets are not a place for children and now i feel sad when i see these kids on the streets because they remind me of the dark moments in my life it brings back lots of memories but i also know that this is not the end for them we can help people to leave behind their lives on the street cenotaph in the. village

are sorted out. kevin is the founder of health international an engineer that promotes children's rights and helps to reunite them with their families in addition to assisting them with daily issues on the street kevin wants to work to ensure a better future for them in the long run. this is the welcoming center which we call d.n.r. that means well being here else international we provide a safe space we are situated where these children lead their lives on the streets as you can see we are right in the middle of the ghetto but here the kids can come together and find people who care about them who very near. helsa international was created in 2012 and relies on private donations as their main source of funding the ngo has 2 safe spaces in which also provide health care

to our own 20 kids each day. but the main medical conditions that we encounter here are injuries like cats and wounds caused by accidents in the street without a followed by the this is related to lack of hygiene my life and finally there is also malaria. biologist sam every morning the safe space time into an alternative school the children come here to learn how to read and write and also get to enjoy various social activities such as painting dancing or sports not we have a vision for 2050 and it starts now with us implementing ways to provide these kids with access to education and also to involve your families so you won't find them living on the street anymore kevin and his team will continue to tackle the issue of homelessness among young people and hope to help these teens find

a fresh start because today's children are tomorrow's future. what an inspiring and kind hearted man for next reports we are staying in west africa and hoping to cost when you figure takes us on a journey of discovery by brand and buzzing city where he was born and raised enjoy . the romance of hi hello everyone i am limb on your feet they also call me commander i'm an artist comedian actor and singer i'll introduce you to my home town that is called obvious joy an r.v. caused. a big john is the 6th biggest city of africa around 5000000 people called economic powerhouse of ivory cost their home. wherever. there are years when money. they ivorian superstar causes is especially here at the palace of

culture a hot spot for ivorian. in. the carriage in the lively trade field district in the south of the city that fear has room for more than 5000 spectators ph of groups bands and comedians from all over the country playing here among them of course money what are you go guys the palace of culture i love it that's my whole life that's why i do my shoes because it's the only place big enough to bring together all my fans tonight all those people who love me to come and love to share moments of humor to share the atmosphere with me the palace of culture it's like that it's in my heart i love it. john is one of the fastest growing economies in africa and the cultural sector is also benefiting from this exciting boom just then money grows on you rick perry only one.

this is especially the case during the rainy season when most people visit big shows in places like the palace of culture to see like lemony and come rain or come shine he always remains positive even at the cheeky girl and her husband's like this it nourishes us it brings us cool so it's good yes and look there are some pretty women as well. what are chamma in white and kariya after a lemon fix studied business management he started working as a professional soccer player but after an injury he dedicated himself to a totally new field entertainment now when he isn't busy performing on stage he called music in a studio in the neighborhood of. this and this is where i make my musical arraignment when i release new trucks this is where i find my inspiration this is

the studio you come and see just follow me. his speciality is a music style from ivory cost that combines caribbean music with more traditional dancehall sound. but even the gratis performances have to come to an end go. go go. ok thank you very much for coming to see me in cote d'ivoire in abidjan and for letting me show you the places i love so much see you soon over there isn't just misspelled abidjan now that entertainment. looks like my kind of place sadly the end of the short hoping jaded as much as i did let's keep in touch if you have any feedback or story for us write to us at 7 to 7. thank you for watching out this is from tanzania with

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