comforting in the wealthiest country in the world. on w. t w. there we are back with a brand new edition of the 77 percent africa it's great to hugging that's why. i'm stepping in as almost for today's show so let's get into it. this week's show is all about love from romantic love weddings adultery and pure passion we explore the prize.

for. giving all the love and care the things in south. and comedian live on your feet. one of the love is life. wow what a program now take a look at these this is a real wedding in south africa so much and glamour right i don't want to know how much it cost for some people weddings like this are a dream come true for others it leads to countless sleepless nights simply because of the cost so whacked in the price of love with 2 very different couples in cape town south africa give us their take on the. for many couples it is

the pinnacle of their relationship a big fat wedding this doesn't come cheap i'm old and susan from kept all know the couple married big last year with 700 people. for me it was my dream. why planting. getting married like quote reading is the family for me was not an option. i really wanted. was just praying that. god will provide for. susan an old spencer the equivalent of $5500.00 us dollars on the a big day with food and being the biggest expense that's 4 times the average monthly income insult africa in order to pull of the wedding they planned 3 years in advance we decided to start early and try to break down expenses bit of it in

a month and tuck it in the people who are also helping us and when the wedding came . grateful. your faith just savings ethic and the support of friends help them realize the a big dream they see. for other couples a big wedding isn't a dream but a nightmare they feel pressured to hold a big wedding but want to break with tradition like want to live to end honey. there was no way for us to actually be able to afford all of that honeymoon overseas white wedding service now it is so we had to look at it and be like. is it really worth it if we invited so many people for the and the white waiting so we decided we can have a small thing with family right that does not even cost much and then we can go on a honeymoon because this is basically about us not about the whole community you

honey and a husband only spent around 400 years or less on your wedding with a money deceived they paid a deposit on the car and travelled to thailand for their honeymoon but how did the our friends and family react you don't want to know. that my mother had had their own dream wedding cause i'm the 1st one to get in the 1st one took to get married in the family the wedding venue and expense to put the whole date and everything so when you call and say we actually don't want to do that so everyone. had to stand up you know i had to say this is what we want and what you want is what we want is how we want to do it and they think they came around after one that came on. in the end the families enjoyed the budget wedding no one felt study had missed out on anything honey and one gus advice is to stick to what you can afford after all

a wedding it's not about everyone else but about a bride and a group. in a lot of places around africa money isn't just spent on the wedding itself in. america this is the typical price for a bride dozens of cars so thousands of euros already spent before the even but over the top showed a wedding or reporter in the met with young couples in that a slum in tanzania to find out what they think. how much should one spend on a wedding well here in tanzania the answer could be as much as it takes and the cost of that could be super high including costing people their marriages and their lives but why is it that in this particular country it seems that it is debt that is holding people together we're going to find out from my lovely panel here and

we'll begin with doyle who actually you got married 2 months ago so how high is the cost of weddings in this country i don't know because everybody maybe have gone by you but my own marriage course you almost see 15000 dollars yes almost 15000 dollars. ok i'm not married and i've never. been to my wedding but is this the average cost of weddings $15000.00. no no. it's not the average it's not the minimum it's not the maximum because it could go even twice or thrice even 4 times that for just to pay for what ok there's a lady who had lifted her hand at the back please come and speak to me a lot of money goes to the 1st 2 they have a news venues here are very costly then we go maybe to the m c

u 2 coast i go see those i am seeing here he will be a very good example ok so let me ask the mc because you've mentioned him say he's a very very popular mc here in tanzania when he walked in everybody oh and he's. was he expensive yes i am ok so he's good and he's expensive but it's all right if you can afford him you hire him but i wanted to find out a wedding is becoming bigger and bigger even and people are getting poorer and poorer. and human as a slave killer significant of course is a fine idea as it will ponder was about. to know when you're going up on a baby who. read. your. own i was. using. horses was a pond and you yes weddings have always been expensive so what is the main difference between past generations and this one people as to copy yeah i saw a wedding of my friend with these maybe she only had

a wedding planner and i also went to how their wedding planner ok can somebody explain to me which one is more important is it the wedding or is it the marriage let me speak to sebastian by the way sebastian and anastasio are a couple and today is that the new vestry yeah thank you. for choosing to spend it here debating 1st of all did you get pressure for the wedding is what we're hearing here reflective of what you experienced absolutely normal it's supposed to be by your own quest but if you are you cannot do that you go to the nearby network and you ask like give me support so if you go to a parent and say hey daddy and mommy i want to marry and i don't have enough money please prepare for me a wedding of course they'll call their friends and this friend so contribute and from there they will start asking you to contribute back to their family and this is the biggest problem that i call it a liability to the family because after your wedding you start receiving calls come to this committee come to this pay this and some of this member you don't even know

them ok so so far we have established that weddings are important for legacy for cultural reasons i'd like to go back to noel because i want to ask you do you feel that you put your friends through a bad and by asking them to contribute to your wedding. different to nor because you know according to our culture. we have 10 then so helping each other i want they contributed to you also you are subject to pay back as one of my calling to say the process of marriage you see needs in lots of money don't forget about the big door young dons on a bright i mean the price of working to pay back to the patents of the woman the money is very big diluted leave you to meet those there is a big but then you are left because of the culture and traditions we hear when ok so the wedding day is just the tip of the iceberg but before that these dollar we that needs to be paid there are all these ceremonies that we talked about and it's just a let me come back to you the simple answer for me would be well don't show up for

your friends contributions or contribute what you can why have weddings a toll if you can't afford it and if it puts people in debt yeah it's indeed a challenge because if you want to show up to someone's waiting people and show up when yours it's also the issue that your parents all the relatives would want to show off to the air france where they have been contributing to others and at the end of the day even the contribution that comes you won't give any joy that money yeah because they get you they will come to eat their money and if they've contributed a $100.00 so then and become their food is not good for their complaint for any of us so you are getting nothing out of that money but at the end of the day you have lived with that so let me invites the people to just answer a question for me do you know of couples or have you lost friends because you didn't contributes a certain amount of money oh it was ok you know like you think there's any are waking up right now they do not want to have weddings that they cannot afford but we have our parents there will tell you that you must have this wedding because i

contributed to 50 weddings and yeah they have to contribute to your wedding as well but in the end of the day what we don't realize is we have people i think are waiting with our folded hearts sometimes i contribute but i go they're really really angry and why do i have to pay for your happiness very well i just want to find out how do people end up paying for these debts golden. you know some dates are endless the dates unless they're always endless and from my perspective a client might come and if she comes or he comes with family friends or. uncles and aunties and they contribute personally their you should know that you should expect that they're putting an expectation to them and they show that i am committing to this so that it gets done so that when my child or i get wed you're supposed to commit the same in they expect that do we contribute as much to education health care or is it just exclusive to the same people that they're they're putting pressure to the wedding they're not ready to hear from you or from

in about us anything that does not relate to the celebration there weren't going to be the only things that they are sure they're going to eat they're going to be into the community to make sure that the money is finished people are not being are you agreeing ok so when it comes to the important issue like a school fees somebody is sick nobody is actually put in any pain to that and now i want to find out how we stop this cycle you have an answer already let's come to you. i'm going to have a wedding so i'm trying to make it simple so as i don't want people to contribute so i can control myself and then. they don't really come with it and then after that they won't ask me for contributions so ok let's hear from you can see this couple have lasted for 9 years but the wedding was very simple so you don't have to give in to peer pressure getting too expensive that's just because you can have a wedding that doesn't even give them the best experience you can have and that's how we wrap up this debate i think we can all agree that we've learned

a lot this is quite a bit of fun thank you so much for watching. that's really interesting let's talk really for a moment we all agree i think a lot of money is nice but when the going gets tough all the money in the wild will never bring you true love of course. last a lifetime even without expensive weddings if you'd like to watch the longer version of that debate check out our you tube channel. and now it's time for our love expert. how do you say goodbye to a loved one. it's a tough question for anybody and it gets even tougher when your loved one is modded to another woman it sounds a bit like a soap opera but it's the reality for one of our viewers in touch with let's hear carl's take on how to navigate through these jungle of emotions hello there and

welcome to the spread a safe space where we get to discuss everything sex and relationships for those of you that have been following and tuned in and sending in your e-mails thank you for those of you that want to send in your e-mails that we can answer your questions the e-mail address is provided below our e-mail today comes from rose and she said hey cows my name is rose i'm in a bit of a tricky situation i've been seeing this married man for 3 years now and we've been living together for one recently he got sick and his health is deteriorating the doctors have said he doesn't have long to live and i'm worried i may not have the opportunity to say my goodbyes i have a 4 year old daughter from a different relationship but she grew up calling him dad and knowing him as her father i would like for her to have closure i know he loves me and if he could he would let his family know that seeing me is important i just want to be able to say goodbye and not cause any drama in his family what should i do rose my darling this

is such heartbreaking news knowing that your loved one is leaving their physical body and not having any control of it it must be hard on both you and your daughter and i know it's a sensitive subject with the other family and i can imagine that they're not being very accommodating but here's my advice to you just remember that everyone is grieving friends family everybody is going through grief and loss so as much as you do want to say or goodbyes we just need to figure out the right way to go about it if you've been together for 3 years i believe that the sun. embody close to him that you might know and get along with this could be a cousin a sibling or even a good friend reach out to them and ask them if they can talk to the family directly to allow you your moment or you could go directly to his wife there is a possibility that if you tell how deeply you are hurting that she would allow you these moments just remember be kind with everybody including yourself as for your

daughter the loss of her father is going to affect her as she grows so it's very important to give her the support she needs at this point if you can seek the professional help of a child therapist to help in this transitional period but one place you are sure to bump into his family is the funeral emotions are going to run wild and there will be children who require stability so go with a friend you 2 need support this is a terrible situation understandably but know you are loved carry that with you going forward and then everything you do including raising your little one do in love and constantly remind her of the great man her father was from we can get back what an amazing and tragic story the things we do for love. our next report is a boat a different kind of love you're going to need to take skills trips children in the seat of. here's the thing given legal on the streets himself when he was

a child so he knows what it is like how hard it is and how lonely it is it is a little short these kids want love and respect. these kids should be in school however did they spend every morning collecting released they live on the streets of togo's capital money collecting trash is one of the main reasons for them of making the leaving. the our own planet. i have been doing this for 3 years but i don't like it i would like to study to become a painter and have my own business model. i rounded 7000 children live on the streets of the west african countries they all have their own reasons why they are homeless for some it's an issue of poverty and insufficient resources forcing them to migrate and when they try to return home to hopes i usually got in. i try to go back home once every 3 months to see if someone there

would take care of me but nobody wants to take me in many of the children feel ashamed and that's why they wish to remain anonymous the lack of a social safety net for kids in togo eats them painfully unprotected i got home sometimes i sleep in the market other times i sleep at the same place where i sell the waste and run i will go out alone. social worker kevin understands what these children are calling through all too well. put it on an hour. when i was really young i also spent some time living on the streets for a while it was a really difficult time because the streets are not a place for children and now i feel sad when i see the skits on the streets because they remind me of the dark moments in my life it brings back lots of memories but i

also know that this is not the end for them we can help people to leave behind their lives on the street. and he had. been a shot in the arm. kevin is the founder of health international an engineer that promote children's rights and helps to reunite them with their families in addition to assisting them with daily issues on the street kevin wants to work to ensure a better future for them in the long run. he said. this is the welcoming center which we call d n a that means well being here else international we provide a safe space we are situated where these children lead their lives on the street as you can see we are right in the middle of the ghetto but here the kids can come together and find people who care about them who very near. health international was created in 2012 and relies on private donations as their

main source of funding the ngo has 2 safe spaces in the me which also provide health care to our own 22. but the main medical conditions that we encounter here are injuries like and wounds caused by accidents in the street or that you don't these are followed by the this is related to lack of hygiene and finally there is also malaria and. probably does so. every morning the safe space time into an alternative school the children come here to learn how to read and write and also get to enjoy various social activities such as painting dancing or sports not we have a vision for 2015 and it starts now with us implementing ways to provide these kids with access to education and also to involve your families so one find them living

on the street anymore kevin and his team will continue to tackle the issue of homelessness among young people and hope to help these kids find a fresh start because today's children are tomorrow's future. what an inspiring and kind hearted man for our next report we are staying in west africa and hoping over to ivory coast pneumonia fick takes us on a journey of discovery to his vibrant and buzzing city where he was born and raised and joy. for you are there i once i wonder why hello everyone i am living on your feet they also call me commander merida i'm an artist comedian actor and singer i'll introduce you to my home town that is called abidjan ivory coast look. at the john is the 6th biggest city of africa around $5000000.00 people called economic powerhouse of ivory cost their homes. wherever.

they're here slim on your feet the ivorian superstar causes this is specially here at the palace of culture a hot spot for ivorian. in. the carriage in the lively trade feel district in the south of the city the theatre has room for more than 5000 spectators theatre groups bands and comedians from all over the country playing here among them of course my feet what are you go guys the palace of culture i love it that's my whole life that's why i do my shoes because it's the only place big enough to bring together all my funds to unite all those people who love me to come and love to share moments of humor to share the atmosphere with me the palace of culture it's like that it's in my heart i love it. drug.

abidjan is one of the fastest growing economies in africa and the cultural sector is also benefiting from this exciting boom just us new revenue probably only work. this is specially the case during the rainy season when most people visit big shows in places like the palace of culture to see like play money and come rain or come shine he always remains positive even a bit cheeky a new experience like this it nourishes us it brings us to it so it's good yes and look there are some pretty women as well. what's a chamma and watch and career after a lemon fix studied business management he started working as a professional soccer player but after an injury he dedicated himself to a whole telling you feel entertainment now when he isn't busy performing on stage. called music in the neighborhood. and this is where i make my musical

arraignment when i release new tracks this is where i find my inspiration this is a studio. just follow me. he speciality. music style from ivory cost that combines caribbean music with more traditional dance. but even the gret performances have to come to an end go. go go. ok thank you very much for coming to see me. in abidjan and for letting me show you the places i love so much see you soon just misspelled abidjan and now that entertainment. looks like my kind of suddenly the end of the show hoping as much as i did let's keep in touch if you

have any feedback or story and ideas for us writes to us at 7 to 7. thank you for watching out. from tanzania with this truck. of a great weekend by.

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