the source of their inspiration comes up. soul ladies. 5 minutes long t.w. . every journey begins with the 1st step and every language but the 1st word published in the book. nico is in germany to learn german why not learn with him simple online on your mobile and free stuff d w z learning course nikos fake german made easy. hey that we're back with the brand new edition of the 77 percent eddie micah julia so they are we covering a topic that is have all the attention violence against women we'll get into it in a bit. but also coming up on the show we meet women who are breaking the cycle and fighting for their rights. you

know we discussed how social media could help break the culture of silence. in zanzibar some young girls have become he said says india for me by learning how to swim. finally we discover the bustling city of while a coming together plus size model. but before all of that let's focus on the issue of violence against women some women like i do much about from ivory coast are subjected to unimaginable acts of brutality when she was just 13 years old she was forced to marry a 72 year old man by that was just the beginning of him like that this is a story. after him forced marriage. life turned into a living nightmare in a best of rage the husband hacked off her hands.

after their wedding my husband caught me with a machete. and after us he just threw me into the. pool last night he left her there to die with 24 cus injuries on my body and without her hands luckily she was quickly found and received medical aid thanks to a series of humanitarian aid initiatives a limit to how slowly money to recover and i started a new life she went back to school and recently graduated. i'm happy despite my disability and i'm not ashamed of it nor in my afraid of people i've had to find the strength to face them in their looks but that strength

has also helped me to go to school and lend to read and write. and i think. she hopes to one day have course to take on and to be able to continue with his studies she also wants to become an ambassador for the fight against early and forced marriages and domestic violence so. i could use my story and share what happened to me to educate traditional parents about forced marriages and help stop them miles from the ivorian government they knighted nations and very civil society groups have launched initiatives to combat forced marriages unfallen against women but many challenges still remain i am shocked and angered by what she's been through suddenly one 3rd of all ivory and girls are forced to marry we should all learn from the story and gather the courage to say no every woman has a right to decide who they want to marry now as difficult as it is to hear these

stories once and until we find solutions i also want to raise your awareness about sexual violence in monterrey last sunday is a rich survive out working as an activist in the article she's inspiring other women and girls to stand up against. kim been seeking the southeast of the d r c capital kinshasa there's a swathe monolith sunday and her friends go from door to door trying to educate locals about rape they will talk to anyone who's willing to listen. with yes i said damn how all this she going as a 7 what's her name brenda when i was like brenda you see her here when i was brando's age when i was raped. by your liking him on a lot stories unfortunately far from being unique in the p.r.c.

sexual violence is commonly used as a weapon of war a model of how to survive twice a soldier repair when she was told a child later a family member also abused her sexually despite the fact that so many women at the r.c. are victims of rape this to suffer widespread stigmatization if it. was rejected i felt discriminated even ostracized some parents would beat their children because they plead with me i tried to commit to say 4 times i didn't believe in living i couldn't find a reason to stay alive. but at 21 year old decided to turn her suffering into a source of strength. she found it and then forcing my neighbor with him to break the top around rape by telling her story opening she has become a source of inspiration for many. of you know one or.

if a man rapes your daughter even if you take him to court they will release him and he will be back in the streets living his life and you will have to take care of your child to see if it's $100.00. elec the way emmanuelle a tard because that problem of rape affects so many parents i am a hands. on experience and a challenge yes yes have to face have given her a pep course in life she strives to improve the lives of women and girls she hopes that others will join her on her path. for all they have suffered it's inspiring to see how determined they are to tackle this menace but the big question is how can we prevent violence like this from happening in the future we can break the cycle together and yes that includes. our reporter can money travel to nigeria's capital abuja to seek answers in our street debate on how social media

can help address gender based violence. when the mitsu movement began online it started what cannot and will not be stopped a conversation about sexual and gender based violence that movements mushroomed across many parts of the world including right here in nigeria well today we're in a budget and we're trying to find out just how effective is social media in the fight against sexual and gender based violence and you know i want to begin with a lady who actually started a movement here called arrow on me to our own meaning the northen part of nigeria for korea how did it feel when you started this hashed out what inspired you to do it and what was the impact immediately a young girl. came on twitter and she she opened up about her experience of abuse 2 years ago and for me it was just a tweet made out of silly diary but i didn't know it was going to open up you know

a can of worms because what it turned out to be was that people found a safe space in the hash tag so this is sort of the work that you're doing in the north looking at investigating but to clearly gender rules to what effect has cultural contributed to what we're hearing here we have this culture of shyness you know it's kind of like yes it's in things you don't talk about they feel like it's immoral to talk about sex talk about you know how to handle yourself how to protect yourself in rural communities and communities so i used to believe that you know those people because they don't have access to education that's why you know the victims of this but then dario i meet a movement just open my eyes to the fact that even the most educated of us in the society also going through the same things so let's take a step back you're saying that social media opened up the voices of the people who are otherwise silenced mario is very popular now in the global scene she was arrested because of her campaign especially because of this so how bad is

a problem again nigeria people are willing to go above and beyond to silence those who dare to you know rebel to change the norm so there's a lot of danger i guess in doing that personal and otherwise apart from the online attacks who you know that are just never ending death threats. so yeah you know you could get arrested well the rapist might not there are people there in a panic get raped rush rush into a police station and the kind of reception they get you know it's it's another form of trauma right i was in a police station with minors who were raped and the police said she was a suspect and they were dragging her telling her to take of her shoes and they were going to put her in solitary confinement if i get raped or god forbid there's no way i'm going to go to the police station and i'd rather come on social media so obviously by no standards does it sound ok and i was reading that right here you

know there were women who were collected taken to a police station on suspicion of being prostitutes and some of them came up with stories of being raped and your police superintendent said well women are not supposed to be out in the streets anyway how are women supposed to trust you when this sort of behavior has been perpetuated by police officers. yeah. we've had. several complaints right now we have agenda desk they've been going for special training how to receive such cases. in major cities now let's go back to. even to social media until today because. maybe 14 being raped by these 3 men who does she go to she doesn't exists so she goes home price to home doesn't present. this. you're about to get married if you do that it's about you she just gets quite even if you talk to. any confirmations of

people who've been arrested who've lost their jobs as a result of this movement the person that i outed as a rapist got you know sacked from his job as far as i'm concerned that is a consequence that you cannot go anywhere that men are being forced to say oh my god i'm hanging out with this girl today i'm i going to. we have to hash tag i'm i going to be unable to show my face in the mosque and that is a consequence that has to start somewhere but obviously there are limitations to social media and i'd like to hear from a gentleman because i often hear men see that they're now scared what happens if a woman makes an allegation about him online and there's no evidence to support it i guess some people do feel that because of the lifestyle of the lead and because of gray areas and constant and how we communicated sometimes they do feel that threat i suppose but speaking about the limitations of social media certain people in society here believe that social media is not to be trusted the internet is

genuinely a space to be treated with some level of course i want to come to the officer because this challenge is directly affect your work you know when somebody comes and says this is the claim that i made how do you go about collecting evidence when the situation has started online that's why i wanted to mention to them movement is ok but i would advise they get a lawyer you mean to tell me that if i come to your police station and i tell you that my husband has beat me up you'll send me to find a lawyer yeah i would invite a husband is that it is it's a one time affair why should that matter that's what we said back to cultural we like it or not when they look at me straight i'm trying to raise a complaint from him mrs. hope that's one report right so we believe no we have to hear from him. and see if there are evidences on. everything we can work on that's why i want to understand the social media not everything brought out

there is actually true so as a rule of thumb you do not believe the victim unless they're witnesses and often gender based violence happens in isolation they usually no witnesses any kind of crime the 1st one is the confessional the 1st one everyone we have to go around and find out how and why when and we ok i really want to talk about solutions what needs to be done even from 20 down to an individual's level. so the conversation as sure as the limitations of social media which is that we can highlight a problem but you need systems to prosecute but when people know that when they commit a crime they can get away with it because prosecution rates are really low so you understand that this is a reflection of a broken system we have to be able to you know understand the gaps that exist in

our society and beyond awareness and you know beyond the laws you know they need to be implemented for them to work thank you so much i have to admit that it has been very tough very very tough the things that was said here were not expected but i'm glad that we're winding up to the sound of the maghreb in the background hopefully the prayers will cleanse over our societies so that we can speak of something much lighter and much better thank you for watching from a buddha. now about was a very engaging debate no one should go through any form of abuse in silence situations should take accusations of abuse more seriously instead of shutting a woman down let them speak up. now for a longer version of history debates go check out our you tube channel i look forward to reading all your comments and suggestions now let's dive into our next

story about overcoming gender inequality this one has something to do with swimming hold on just stay with me or do they live on an island most girls in zanzibar can't swim city had she decided she wanted to fix this problem but before she could start teaching the girls she 1st had to convince the appearance to let go of age old customs and let your daughter just dive into the crystal clear waters of the indian ocean. zanzibar with its crystal clear water sandy beaches and the gentle ocean breeze draws many people to its shores for a swim. but while many young men get to enjoy it in the water it is not the case for women in this conservative part of africa. when. when i was a young girl it was normal not to know how to swim when i grew up i felt ashamed to

see men swim yet i could not. be pushed hard and was very persistent today she says women teach our basic lessons like how to properly use a life jacket start in the classroom. later on all girls who told a burqini and head to the ocean. when i began swimming the community thought i was wasting my time and viewed me as strange and. were not expected to swim. but have peoples life sabina nor the importance of being able to swim. well the 1st day. i was very happy because i had never swim before my friends were so happy because the also i didn't know how to swim. but he said.

you know wants to swim and i said yes i want to let. him in. if our teachers had not x. people to train as it will be dangerous because not many people know how to swim. a terrible occasion made conservative parents change their minds nobody worried about sea accidents until tragedy struck in 2011. they overloaded m.v. spice island a ferry sunk killing about 200 people most of the victims were women and girls who did not know how to swim and that was when the government that's when a group of 9 young women and men here started their punches soon project that included calles one of it's found this was. really one of the good son at the beginning it was really challenging to teach girls as one of the founders of the

soaring initiative i had to set an example by beginning with my own daughter then another founding member also allowed his daughter to go for training. sabinus father was also reluctant at 1st but now he is very proud of his little girl. and the ferry sank i saw the need to not oppose my kids from learning to swim but in the old days girls did not swim much so when this initiative was introduced i was excited and had to enroll my children. city hodgy and other punji have trained 5000 girls had women so far and they hope the country may need. those ladies i could do with some refresher courses like. now let me take you away from the sandy beaches of zanzibar.

on the opposite side of the continent the city. we meet another powerful woman estelle it to me isn't one to shy away from her curves plus size model she's all about support and self love and body positivity in this week's my city said went she takes us around her hometown. and joy. hello my name is and. i mentor printer and. them going to show you my city welcome to the other. is the largest city in comics and an economic hub that would be revived separates the city from the industrial zone. while exports is the largest in central africa and also surprise neighboring countries like china. there was born here. inspired by the city's entrepreneurial

culture she started up her own business. so well thank you i know it's a very lively city a city that moves a lot of the young people here have a strong interest in europe in fighting spirit you can see young people everywhere setting up businesses and shops dualla is coming home mainly foreigners come here to buy goods and sell them abroad it's a very fascinating. if you step out on to do alice treats the city fumes like one big market at every corner that people set includes shoes you name it. and as one of africa's major football nations course has a market score not dedicated to come to ruins national team. i don't. know what you must remember that people here in kuala i'm very passionate about sports especially football that's why these my. where we are right now mainly

has football geniuses from the national team many of the national players also come from douala many where born here in they grew up here for example the football top a top goalscorer i don't i do you know me. in the evening and still keeps busy with her own share of sports. to wind down she heads to the park because she comes here about 4 times a week to train and stay fit for her modeling career. i don't have those who leave after a long day's work it's normal that you want to decompress i love coming to this pack for that it's free and there are a lot of young people here who come here after work school so now you have seen a few images of i hope you liked them and we hope to see you here one day the way

you have for style. for the rest of us maybe it's time to be the city your visit. thanks estelle for showing us around so how old were you when your parents gave you the sex talk was a conversation comfortable for you or that if he'll a bit awkward i was definitely awkward but let's talk about that this one is for all the parents who may be watching our sex and relationship experts cause is back to share her thoughts on pasta beer renting and sex education. hello there and welcome to the spread a safe space where we get to discuss everything sex and relationships if you would like your questions answered please be sure to send us an e-mail our question today comes from a new parent and it reads i cast thank you for creating spaces for us to open up my question for you is i'm raising a little boy who is currently only

a few months old and i want to know when should i begin to think about having sex positive conversations with him i know it's really early right now but i can't help but want to raise my child better than i was raised where there were no conversations about sex. what do you suggest is the right time thank you so much for that question sex positive parenting is a conversation i'm always happy to have in fact i've had it separately on my podcast the spread let me start by saying congratulations on your little boy you are already doing a good job you're doing right by him and trying to provide a better life so let's get to the root question firstly there is no age too young to teach and learn from our children even young infants are able to give non-verbal cues on what they like and don't like and this is how we can tell if they're comfortable this is a good opportunity for you as a parent to learn about your child's boundaries as they grow and you can begin to have conversations about where they don't like being touched for example maybe they

don't enjoy being told having their hair touched or being hugged we get so wrapped up in trying to make sure our little ones make a good impression on guests or off friends that we don't stop to think about whether some of these actions are actually making our child uncomfortable sexuality is a spectrum and one of the most important lessons from the get go is consent unfortunately this often gets left out when we start to learn about sex and sexuality so this should be how you start to have your sex positive conversation allow your kids to set their own boundaries as your child gets older make sure conversations about sex focus more on the importance of pleasure don't raise them to fear their sexuality or feel ashamed of it many of us have inherited our parents' feelings of fear and shame when it comes to sex and sadly some of us are now spending the better part of our lives and learning this of course it's important to have age appropriate conversations about sex with our children so you don't need to worry about explaining concepts like intercourse at such

a young age we can start by allowing them to explore their own bodies and decide for themselves what feels good while also giving them the space to change their minds as they grow just as we have in our lifetimes and continue to do keep in mind as you continue to learn you will grow and so will your kids be patient with them and also with yourself you are already a wonderful parent keep it up i hope you found this useful from me can get by. thanks as always for your very informative response guys it's not time to wrap up this show but thanks a lot for joining us and please connect with us we always glad to hear from you just write us at 77 a d w dot com if you have feedback or even any story ideas and what better way to take you into the weekend with some hot afrobeat for my home country gotta you know how we do it yes katie and chrissy out west bank catch you on our next episode of

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