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thank you for your article i took a faux i think this is my show i know one thing children maybe it's not that i. always norna i didn't want to have children it's just that i've never known that i wanted to have children if that makes sense but i feel really lucky to have been

gone now instead of a 100 years ago if i could be back on 100 years ago not wanting children pretty much my only options would it be to become a a lonely old woman living in a gene chip read how steep in the far east. all be unknown and i would have made a terrible known to really grow up i am alive and i think maybe for quite a long time i wasn't 100 reached aboard grounded place within myself it took a long time to feel ok in being in the world it's ok that i'm here it's all ok that axis. there is so much pressure on women to be a certain thing and one of those very positive roles is to be a mother and

a mother with very caring and nurturing and happy i was told i was to have a child that does a massive pressure for most of us and it turns out it's also a pressure for women who don't want to be mothers because if you don't want to be a mother i suppose that you are seen as less of less of a woman less natural less caring less nice less of a good person country. and generally possibly a bit of a waste of space in the world of the report. i read wants to be from the sixty's and they are people for 3 words to describe women who don't want to have children or women children and the 3 words they came up with were. nancy and. i . at one does they know many of you here agree with this concept of non motherhood

being selfish raise your hands don't be scared they won't have a man of him you know. but ok it imagine if you love being a mother means losing my identity when i'm a mother i stop being mad enough and i become the mother of the mass dartmouth. there you have this is one of the little humans exist to be born grow reproduce and die we want to perpetuate our species or at least perpetuate our genes the other money because when we all die all that we leave behind our children and the genes we passed on. gave me credit not there are women who do not have that biological clock i don't want to have a child because i have doubts i don't feel physiologically that i need to have a child and you seem as if women don't feel it could it be that it doesn't exist. you know i'm rational and there's no such thing as a natural word we create meanings through conventions and codes we've established

as individuals who share a culture a society. we have decided that the word woman means mother and a woman who does not wish to be a mother has to explain herself a lot of us and she's made to feel sooner or later that she's not accepted by the norm or has no place in society well i don't know. i think the overvaluing of motherhood as an institution not of individual mother because i'm not anti mothers i think it's so high at the moment to counteract the fear around what happens if we move women choose not to look. back to the shaming and start. emotionally unstable teachers with little or no understanding of child psychology may have a permanently damage effect upon the growing personalities of the young childless

women do not exist in novels and films as themselves i as women they represent something they nearly always represent bad women well. if you look at fairytales clearly look at snow white arkansas in rocky distinctions if you look at cruella deville you know i don't want to tell nations a bad women evil record by psychotics them in the movies as instant she so we invent result of deviant women oh so who is teaching english class so i think childless women and now hardly their mothers of that as stereotypes i think really what we need to do is we need to bring them to the middle. they will certainly go. with their cattle

feeding cattle to be sitting at night guard in world war i mean the role of the reserve wound i was and i should say it might happen i don't want to deny it but if it will not happen for all the women who don't want to be mothers and it creates a lot of fear within young women because if this is the only image do you have in mind. kids in the vehicle say why would i have to be an olympic champion if i didn't want to be the way you think i might have the ability the talent and if i trained enough from an early age i might become a marathon runner or a limp dick champion gymnast necessarily because but maybe i don't want that doesn't mean the same applies to motherhood i might have the biological capacity to give birth to rear children in bottle but i might even make

a great mother but if i don't want to do that in my life why should i have to concede. if you do know once a child there are certain things that you will have to get used to people saying to you they're men you warn us of cher and she a man yeah so i think it's very tough to say about a small issue you'll change your mind like if we were having a meal together and at the start of stage i said george will think of a fun see i put in it would be ok for someone to say oh you'll change your mind over a big thing like having children you know how do they in your mind better than you so i'm one of the 50 percent of women who don't want children he was always known

not as a no not since growing up so tempting and it was just something that i always knew . just in my early thirty's i began to question and i began to think hang on is it that i'm just missing something on my is part of me lacking and should i develop this part of me and i realize now that with all the pressure coming in the only question pressure that the teeth the naam that's what i should be i should be a mother. we need to hear more people being apologetic about it and not and saying not me not lacking anything i.e. . i might be different to some people last others if i'm. sure many different ways that's ok.

and basically i suppose it's something i've always felt i just didn't think that i'd ever had a biological clock or if i did maybe mine was digital or had to dodge a silly response and. i. saw my living i mean a midwife since 1985 are considering that that's over 30 years. my mother got pregnant when she was 14 i was about 15 at the time and i said to her you know when you give birth i want to be there. when the day arrived the day my brother was born

the midwife instructed me how to take care of him look at that to give him oxygen and place him under the heat in lammers it was such an experience to not just look around but also be a part of what was happening and that's when i did. when i did i definitely tried to become a midwife. this immortal is a i feel very fulfilled in my profession it continues to move me i still get nervous in certain situations if it occurred by the way and being with someone in such a crucial process is reason enough to feel satisfied and happy when there is that face. that is there is very very very big i am already taking it a day soon a bit of a back me she never don't days if the question is why does a woman or a couple want to have a child i'd like to know the answer but let's parents tells me that it's often to keep the bloodline alive or to keep the surname alive. every.

6 but it's all good our parents aware of what i might slim to get i don't think so . i don't think they know. this there's a lot of couples have expectations and when you have expectations based on a fantasy you feel frustrated later mr sears there's a run. around you now. yeah. i've been there and you leave at around 20 i'd say a 25 today the question is not so much if you're going to have kids but when yapping that implies you made that decision because it's your duty. it's. the pressure that society puts on you is what we women internalize them and

experience says maternal instinct. to the mother mother i don't think that maternal instinct exists as a biological fact there are women who simply don't have it as that argument alone should be enough to discredit the whole ideology of a maternal instinct the mother. when i was in the other class there and it was all yeah look i don't know if it electronically where i have ever seen or i came along. or would the 5th but again i didn't want children because in this world everyone is different and not everybody is born to carry out the same role. someone had to be a mother others they had to research and discover a cure for cancer there that is when i was a teenager i knew deep down that i wasn't going to have kids yes that wasn't my role and i think.

they've been looking their fears as if not having children has been a handicap here's why the mothers of pregnant women for example sometimes say to me of course you don't have kids you don't know what my daughter is going through it doesn't own colleges have to have cancer to be a good oncologist now they don't. get a minute i haven't experienced what it's like to give birth myself but i have other resources and skills to make me competent to help others deliver and to be an excellent professional on. the board while you are. wave your arms. all in your own way. that they. do hold out of the east well the you only have to look at the history of women to see to what extent

we're conditioned by a society by culture by our environment or no view on. all fours. in 18th century friends' mothers were advised not to have their babies close by the b.b. credit. to begin to send them to the wet nurse $24.00 or 48 hours after giving birth in the family. women who were part of the bourgeoisie or the upper aristocracy found the thought of breastfeeding their babies disgusting they can only see their reasoning was i am not a cow she. i. don't think your. idea that babies were torn away from their mothers is totally false only that men they were not torn away women were in fact conditioned by this general discourse of society so that was when i realized that if this instinct did exist in humanity it wasn't a very powerful one less that was it but. i

don't think maternal instincts exist i think it's all a question of culture a little boys doesn't suddenly wake you up one day and saying you have to be a mother in. that short amount of has the instinct to protect and care for her baby but it's a survival instinct that all mammals have to go. there is a learning curve is that it otherwise the whole women with breast feed thing wouldn't have to organize campaigns all courses to teach breastfeeding and yes it would just be instinctive the other monkey monceau the only mammals i know that need to be taught how to suckle clothes. until the young.

will happiness there and found that parents happiness. may hit as soon as they have children and and then increased again dramatically once the children had left home. perhaps some still see coincidence there. but. society expects you to be automatically happy as a mother and nothing else counts but of course that's not true or they have to be grateful and same title you shouldn't complain about the negative sides talking about the negative sides of motherhood does not desire to judge you as mentally being mentally sick the meat. the good of the

good food the fish to the birds of the. out. of the. one my book regretting motherhood was released i was really surprised to meet people who were threatening me like if i ever see you on the street i'm going to kill you i'm gonna beat you up you don't deserve your child went as far you in the 1st year after i had released my book that i thought about moving to another country. people automatically turn it into if you will regret motherhood you hate your child but it's not true all the time i knew i loved my child and i don't know why i always had to emphasize that i regret the absurd come stances of being a mother the preconditions it's actually not so difficult to understand.

'd before i gave birth to my daughter. used to be a photographer i'm still a photographer took photos of different countries and with these photos i would program a life and this man having to travel for more than 6 months every year in the 1st 2 years after my daughter was born i continued with my work my daughter was a child that wasn't very complicated but still having a child with you. very stressful situation so i stopped doing these shows because of my daughter i had to change my profession for the. younger then the issue of motherhood has progressed in some ways but there have been setbacks to this.

basically been with it another case of history's pendulum of human death and moments when women have had greater freedom usually when they're needed in the public realm in times of war and revolution economic crisis ecclesial however and when these crucial moments disappear from the public eye we women are always relegated to the home again and i will tell a person and this callback always involves a child being the only home. when my husband was away for work then i took care of my daughter nobody want to ask how do you deal without your husband looking after your child is that ok for you like normal for the people you were looking after the child. when i was away for work and my husband would take care of my daughter he was very often

being asked so how does this work your wife is away is it ok for you can actually look after your daughter properly don't just war. doesn't matter what you are doing as a mother it's never a riot. to look the right wing catholic offensive of the league is this association that developed the idea that women who didn't want to breast feed were monsters. they're the most. efficient and this discourse perpetuated by a tiny group of women we know has gradually reached an enormous audience. this ecological mothering movement harking back to eternal wisdom has extremely

rough consequences for young mothers who want to do everything right and family. seems a very devious way of sending a woman back to the home. to do what we need a family's. sukhumvit do under the guise of modernity it sends us back to the middle ages and that is intolerable sickness or pasta. the expectations are always on the mother's side i was expected to take proper care of my child i was expected to impress upon the proper way so it's not cold i'm the one who have to take my daughter to the doctor i know one who was in charge of picking her up from can never taking her to kindergarten always at some other and nobody expected my husband to do everything and mother is always there like 7 days a week for 24 hours every day and instead of thanking the mother and seeing

what she does people are still complaining what's lacking. in my opinion it's easier to be a father. and i'll feel quite lucky we didn't have any family pressure and i think the fact that as writers we both make a living as writers men are family appear sickly just happy that we're not shooting up heroin in graveyards anything beyond la i thought of a porn is so. but of course. that source feel pressure. for people. in particular the way.

they were allowed to work i have a daughter i had her when i was 19 i got pregnant at 18 i didn't want to have her i didn't plan to get pregnant or become a mother but i was pressured into having her by my partner at the time and my mother and therefore i put their wishes for for mine. i don't call my mother said if you've had your fun right now face the consequences of follow it was sort of a way of paying for having had sex. something like that was. 'd 'd going and i remember i threw myself into the role at 1st yes i wanted to be a good mother i thought i was obsessed because i wanted to make up for having been

reckless. i began dressing like an older woman 'd and i stopped going out i quit doing all the things i liked i stopped gaming and i tried to disguise myself as an adult woman so i'd be respected 'd. i'd like to have changed things i'd like not to have become a mother. gave her up and it's hard to understand how you can regret something that you had no say in. the dormitory or you have a partner he doesn't treat you right or you're unhappy so you leave him because you have a career that you don't like so you just quit it but when you're a mother there's no turning back it's like a scar it's there with you for life. don't fare so i've suffered from

a lot of pressure and anxiety that there's nothing i can do. there's always a catch there's never a situation that makes everyone happy for me. looking at a home for the 1st few years i was absolutely a mother but my studies were the only thing that could save me as they started to take up more of my time my role as a mother dwindled out of necessity. it was impossible to do both things in part i started getting back my identity if i started talking about things on line expressing the way i felt question. with as a result it incited a visceral gut reaction and some people they were rude they judged me there are no safe spaces to question motherhood without people lynching you and i mean charlie i will personally and truly assumed it meant i didn't love my daughter or that i was going to do her harm you. know going on to say i don't think that they understand

it because they're not you they haven't experienced it so wrong area. they don't know what it means. to love a person but not the circumstances that bind you together and. i want to know. some of the muslim element that we've made motherhood seem like this incredibly romantic perfect experience that gives us constant happiness and satisfaction is that but reality is not like that sometimes women want to throw everything overboard. some even question if it was the right decision i'm not it was on time well we're not told about that innocence and it's taboo. or nothing i would like us to stop deifying the mother the good mother the sacred

mother the holy mother. it's more complicated than all that and few of us can say that we've succeeded of there was avoiding me. there home and then for example you can just refuse to pay child support or hire for an hour or how they can work abroad travel not accept paternity and it's absolutely all right but if you're a mother because they crucify you and burn you alive like a witch or stacy it was something unnatural or embassies or if for example i put my career before being a mother i'm judged. were not treated equally in fact men put their career 1st. i mean the label mother really annoys me it grates on my nerves and it sort of

doesn't fit with who i am inside to be a mother. i tell you i love my daughter so it's really complicated because i'd like to have a different font all the mean. and i thought ok there are people who are concerned about the environment they say they recycle and all that but they don't know what else to do. with math when i see they have kids and i want to tell them the 1st thing is not to have kids that are not in

any horse is the most talented person the current situation is totally unsustainable but we're constantly being told that in order to keep consuming this way we'll need 3 more planet earth's. you know where they were i don't think it's selfish to decide to devote your time to yourself your passion your job or to not want kids all of that is respectable i respect people who have kids but it's selfish to decide to have kids as they say they don't see themselves that way they say it's the ultimate act of love the most important thing in my life they say you know i say what i'm with you just said it is the most important thing in your life that's selfishness and that's fine. that we need to acknowledge that fact. if you had the feeling would lead to the country seems to be getting a little crowded yeah right education of the united states is reaching a new hash when you citizen average love and sex. you're

considered selfish if you don't want to procreate even though the planet is overpopulated and when they are not since then there's been a real exchange to fulfill some of those one and when you think down nobody needs more children we're heading for a world population of 10000000000. male men at the same time it's amusing to say that i'm selfish as well because i have 2 kids i'm totally selfish the only for the family where he spent the.

one of our look at the woman who chooses not to have children is not only not sound fish on the contrary she's being exceedingly was sponsible. i don't see at all that having more children is in any way a position to a goods community based on solidarity. i feel i can assert ok i can give my solidarity to other people actually even better if i don't have a leg and then have a child at home to take care of you know. a selfish attitude what actually would be to become a biological mother come to that the generous thing to do would be to adopt. other people. look at ok if they have a i think that's adopting a little boy or a little girl is the ultimate act of altruism we can consider you know relation to motherhood without complaint pointed out in the last.

hour i asked that i thought how many guys i know in charge of communication for the cunto or one organization i love my job because i come from the world of art and there's also a social aspect to my work the way i meant it we design large murals and organizer of an art festivals a large part of our work however is with our education team setting up workshops with people at risk from social exclusion with primary and secondary schools. to talk to us. and i 3 think on that and they think i had myself sterilized when i was 35 just over 4 years ago i relied on free state health care and a method called assured it creates a natural barrier in the fallopian tubes. and i was very nervous when i when. to the 1st appointment i knew there were doctors who sometimes turn down

a woman's request for this procedure so i was afraid they would refuse me but they said that as well where there was no biological reason for it i didn't have children. or not in a horse. so often i thought about the boy and women are treated like minors on all levels of society we're extremely vulnerable in this case because there is no established norm. like well to take that we're entirely at the mercy of the cultural religious and personal opinion of this doctor there should be a protocol in place that they stay medical that they're going to look at all men are treated very differently i don't know any men who have been humiliated or degraded or spoken to in a paternity listed arrogant way when they requested essec to me not a single one of us think for me. and what. i.

thank someone. we hadn't been together for on i told him in passing that i was getting sterilized i knew it wouldn't shock him you know. he knew my views and he's very open minded to you know unless you're saying we have your commitment there throughout x. and what he reacted even better than i expected by you know young woman looking for ya because he accompanied me and before i went to the operating theatre he said i didn't mention it before but it's your body you don't have to ask my opinion i thought it was very sweet. and i can think of another reason which is gradually been reinforced i've discovered more and more works by feminist writers thinkers who explain to what extent motherhood can slave women for me it was another way of empowering myself taking control of my body i choose not to have children while little kid or your equal to many.

well we see the good luck of advertising and the capitalist system have turned children into a niche market the old hit the market has been filled with stuff they don't really need you know parents are under tremendous pressure to buy their children these things that makes them more competitive it's another model of capitalism. if you talk about as popular control or where it is more necessary to have less such children it's actually in the western industrialized countries you know where we do need less such children because we're the ones who waste on the in the gene pool for those on the garbage it's not the people in poor countries who have more children while the trouble before. you want to know one that might define myself as an n.t. you need a list and i believe that humans are

a plague and the worst thing for this planet and for other animals. if you are people having children isn't a panacea but it might improve the situation when one of the 3 plus one he get out more effort is needed but that each person uses resources and produces huge amounts of waste here people say that our family is socially aware we try and avoid plastic and such but 3 or 4 people consume more than one that's what i'll bet on as one of . the. you don't know what you're missing is what people say and i don't think that is sufficient reason not to do something i mean i have never eaten hosses meet beanpole all married donald trump not knowing what i'm missing is no sufficient

reason to do any of those things basically another thing as we've heard another thing people will say to us oh who will look after you when you're old now i didn't know that children were expected to be paid to carry assistance i think if i had children they would be as likely to want to look after me when i'm old as a conservative government will ever another thing people will say yes of all but you would have made to look. now at those quite insensitive i think how do they know that i'm not having children because i can have them and say it to people who've got a chairman illness. you just made to look for the old person. they probably wouldn't. do the things that you got to do is somehow

it can be. in schools or for young people and i'm not living like children with the. astringent good experience and to my great surprise i found i really enjoyed working with take you in the children. i'm not your kind of the propaganda. against mothers against. i'm sitting here. for more and more women will be able to mediate moaners of our lives our bodies our thoughts our emotions and our decisions our factors in our dreams and so i

can't i must not see or hear and tell other women march into a. realm in the real question is is it necessary to have children without knowing why. i woman or father and keep them long before having a child entails such powerful unconscious factors of external pressure that it's very hard to be certain that it was a free choice and this is your. little shit if until more for our society is totally fabricated it constructed close up so we could all be different we could dream of a completely different world. but i don't feel there's one for let's stop having children think about what type of society we want and why we have children let's call a strike

a birth strike. let's stop and think 1st christians on the. phone and then there's we are women and we have a reproductive system that serves a purpose but that is not necessarily a woman's purpose i think the way people 1st then women i don't regret a thing i'm very happy with who i am and where i have is that honestly. i love my profession i love working doesn't help if i'm not happy followers do everything for my child but inside me i'm unhappy because i don't live my dream. you have to be happy and then you can have a happy child a happy children. and i think that the idea of deconstructing the traditional role of women and the family unit is also very important if we're to evolve as a society girl chaos and honestly i think it improves society if we show more empathy more respect and by piano and i think these are positive values with

a lot of positive of. the not often to tornado people don't know your story they judge you without knowing what happened or how you really feel when they only see the outside one of the things that might save me is designing and creating things these are things that i really love garment i'm aiming to. be any woman who wants to have children should have them and you will die but the big question is why should a woman who does not want children kept them in at who's. ringback

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