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the hyper sexualized willed but nobody wants to talk about it especially in japan. there's something out of the ordinary on today's curriculum that tokyo's corner and middle school sex education in a country where modesty is a major virtue the approach to teaching young people about weed production is on the conservative side. pull those sexualized manga comics and love hotels are very prevalent here sex education is largely a to boost subject you know nothing i can't talk about it at home when i go there i don't have any older siblings either and. there are certain topics that they don't discuss in depth at school. and when you've done it on the internet there are lots of sites with age restrictions that we manage to get around so we can look at. our . sexuality birth control and abortion topics that people are reluctant to talk

about. paradox the aim of sex education in japan seems to be to explain as little as possible. people are afraid that too much knowledge about sex will lead to a rise in teen pregnancies but many girls get pregnant because of misinformation. as long as sexuality is not being discussed in the family i think it's the job of schools to educate kids about it. but if schooling on the subject is limited young people will remain ignorant about birth control and abortion and vulnerable to sexual exploitation and sexually transmitted diseases. that's why these mothers are attending now mino g.m.'s workshop. she gets right to the point when advising parents on how to cope with their few best since children's interest in sex and graffiti in

a country where many too embarrassed to talk about it. girls are a lot of mothers have problems talking about the subject and they never learned about it themselves when they were young but they would if. the former nurse helps workshop attendees reduce their inhibitions and gain confidence the 1st step is to make them comfortable with the issue in what is a calm and laid back atmosphere. where you get more i didn't know anything when i got my 1st period i thought it would happen just once and then it would be over my family cook traditional red rose for the occasion i had no idea what was going on. thanks to the workshop and an educational card game asako she finds it much easier to teach her daughter about sex so that she is now better prepared for the transition from childhood to adulthood.

that's right we don't cover it in school. but i now understand that it's better to learn about it because if i know how babies are made then i know how i can have a baby. she's now received the orientation that so many 10 year olds in japan have not and yet it's a fundamental aspect of life. and i will now meet see. spear members of the group safely in and in the times of the novel coronavirus it's very important to protect yourself not only during sex but during a talk on the inside so i'm going to wear a mask because i'm treating patients with the coronavirus that would protect myself and protect me that's.

our motto is knowledge is sexy the more i know about sex the more know what i want and what i don't want paul thanks for having me today so let's talk about sex. tell me something about your work so what are you doing in ballard a very group of like 30 to 50 people and we go to a class 4 of us all 5 we are in a class for 4 or 5 hours without the teachers so it's a peer to peer concept like our 1st time is not that much time ago like the teacher's ones maybe. where we're just going to be there for one day so just think about different cultures if you take a look to japan they are afraid that if they have very much 6 education that there will be an increased number of unwanted pregnancy in germany we want to have

a lot of sex education to prevent pregnancy so what's true we think that education is better. when we do the sexual education we're trying to provide their safety for the kids. talk with them about sexual health. pregnancy prevention and i think that is a lot better not doing it at all can you. give me some questions to you 60. question this. if you can get pregnant when you have anal sex we try to like use questions like this to 1st say you can't get pregnant why do you having a no sex. because there is no connection between the anus and literals so you can't get pregnant so it's

a very scientific point of view but i can imagine that there's a lot of good looking inside the classes there absolutely we often laugh too and obviously the kids are like oh no they're going to talk about sex but then usually at some point they're like oh yeah i have this question and i really wanted answered but sometimes kids are just not interested and we always say ok if you want to take part in this you can but you don't have to other it's likely to yeah ok so it's not a typical classroom situation that exactly what about is to do 6 elections maybe diseases is an issue to us there's sometimes the question if you can get it for example if you kill somebody that's hiv positive and we always respond with no you can drink out of the same glass as somebody that has hiv you can kiss that person to get actually viral viral load for

hiv it's going to possibly infect you would need to drink a whole bathtub full of spit or it's kind of disgusting you know we also use this to like working against off positive tarsem there's always some people that are ask oh can you get pregnant or can you get hiv if you swim in a pool that somebody ejaculate in for example and know you care and the same. as you cannot get pregnant from having oral sex for example whether a lot of myths around the topic of sex so let's 1st. look at some of those myths. penis size. is there a correlation between the length of a man's penis and other body parts say his nose. or feet. scientists check that out and know there's no correlation between shoe size and

penis length. does masturbation make you sick it's an astonishingly pervasive myth but researchers say there's nothing to it. during sex and masturbation our bodies increase the production of endorphins and oxytocin. these hormones or natural mood boosters and relieve stress. and regular ejaculation may reduce men's risk of prostate cancer. so when it comes to masturbation there's yet another health benefit. is homosexuality a disease current research shows that homosexuality is not a lifestyle choice and certainly not a disease. of sexual orientation is complex but science suggests that homosexuality has a strong genetic component. one large study found a handful of genetic variants that appear to be linked to same sex behavior.

and those genetic variants could even be important for the survival of the human species. at least one study has suggested that one of the genes linked to male homosexuality is also linked to higher fertility in women. so preserving that gene within a population would make good sense from an evolutionary perspective. so let's talk about contraceptives the situation with the penis inside. vagina what can you use for contraception so there's different ways you can use the ones but give you a perry are for example the condom from a larger female condom well i think nearly everybody is familiar with the use of a condom for men but what about a female condom what is this. the fee might come this fall person have a vagina and your clothes are pushing this down part together and.

yes so this is inside the vagina yeah and why is it better than the it's better because you can decide for all soft tissue that you're not you don't have to depend on the other part. so what else can you use while you can use condoms and a female condom also prevent s.t.r. it's then you have diaphragm this on top of the uterus basically and holds back the sperm and then you have. hormonal contraception so the pill for example or a hormonal implant. or the vaginal ring all of that while this is implanted usually in the arm and then the vaginal ring are inserted and it emits hormones and then you also have

a copper coil the copper coil sits inside the uterus so this is going to be implanted by your doctor and it keeps you relatively safe for about 5 years. for many women worldwide the 1st time puts them under a lot of pressure in many cultures women are expected to enter marriage as a virgin. this so-called time and it's often used as proof for virginity if it's intact let's take a look at the truth behind this thin layer of mystery. isn't this tell an untouched woman is may need time and virginal membrane into. her cherry picked wow what an innocent piece of skin people say this is the sign of a version. than them. along comes the man. armed with his knife. the white innocent the virginal membrane is destroyed

gone forever up bloody long. wake up because this is total nonsense. in real life you never know if you're high and this is why a trance she is a gynecologist. it doesn't even have to be broken because it's not a closed membrane that covers the but china. think about it how could girls even bleed once a month of this was totally closed. the hymen lies somewhere around here at the entrance to the vagina. smore like carrying off a very berry eles thick skin if you have. penetrative sex or you muster of it then it's going to be stretched and if it's not stretched for

a while then it's going to go back to the original shape. it might look like a band of tissue across the center ring shaped like a scene or like a crescent to name just a few possibilities. there are a few girls though that do have a hymen that's close to. it's not so typical of it doesn't happen for a close time and can make problems when men straight because then the blood can go out from the try and up but that's not a big problem you just should think a doctor who's going to open it a little bit and then everything going to be fine. what's important here it's perfectly natural and normal that your hymen has holes and your hymen is always there you don't lose it it just stretches but it stays where it is. so it's total nonsense when people talk about breaking the hymen or popping the cherry but

that's only absurd forget about that but just to be clive no one can tell from your home if you're a virgin or not that's just not possible because it can also stretch with other things like for example with sport. but still there are these very expensive surgical options to reconstruct the hymen ready. they say they glue or so your membrane back together. this arteries are nonsense there's not something like the one shape of the heinemann so if nothing has to be broken why should we remove something. some girls also put capsules of artificial blood into their vagina to simulate bleeding. you don't know what's in these readily creates so the vagina is a very delicate and complex system i don't think it's like. to stuff it with

things which could be toxic. so why do some girls and women report leading after their 1st time having gradual sex according to studies it's still about 50 percent in fact the hymen doesn't have many blood vessels it's rather lacerations in the that you know wall that lead to high men can bleed if you don't pay attention if you're to quick or to rough or just don't use enough. but actually it doesn't have to the problem is that if everybody is telling you that it's gonna believe that hurt you're not even gonna try to be cautious so just relax because this patient and enjoy it. and don't let guys think they need to play the night with the sword because there is nothing to cut or break . we must not forget that sex can be

a very very nice and fulfilling thing if it's consensual so let's talk about consensual sex what's your experience in the groups you're talking to. i think the most important part is to remember sex is always consensual if it's not consensual it's not sex that it's rape or. it's something that you have to ask for or you have to get from. so it isn't just that you have to give permission to others or is that you have to give permission to yourself that you're ready to have said we have a method called the traffic light we use for the youth it's about if you ride the in your heart and your heart and belly and then your genitals so you ask yourself do i like that person can i trust that person or what are my friends say. is this person going to hurt me. what does my headset what was my thoughts about this

person and if you took a look at your partner is it ok just to watch for the signs that your partner's penis gets hard would you have to ask for consent should know so we teach the kids that it's important to communicate and always communicate i think there's a lot of times when you have sex where you don't talk that much because you're caught up in the thing but it's actually very important to talk about it when it's ok to say no yes absolutely. sometimes you're in the middle of it and then you're just like oh and i don't want to have sex anymore and then you just communicate and you're like ok stop i don't want it anymore and then the partner has to stop because it needs to be consensual so every in every situation both need to agree that ok it's right to sex right now during the whole time you would know

say well in my partnership something is not going on right so i think this is not consensual and is there any help i can get from from a 3rd party. there is a lot of advisory places where you can go to. recommend to talk to older ones which do have much more experience and you can for sure just talk to your partner as well about things if you're unclear i'm sure. you can talk to your friends to your colleagues maybe a. minium depends how close you are with the more maybe your cousin someone who isn't but further away there's a lot of possibilities but there is also organisations that specialize in the so you can also get professional help if you feel like you've been raped or it was not consensual and i think a lot of people have been reprinted in whole the sex life should be in the times of the into that there's

a lot of promote graffiti going on so maybe. it's shaping your sex life a bit what do you think about this in concern to consensual sex it's always difficult because you have these expectations from pernod are free and then you have your own sex life and we have a method where we let kids draw a romantic scene on a piece of paper and then we tell them ok. let's make a porn scene out of it so then they're going to draw cameras and lights and everything and then they're like oh no it's not romantic anymore this is not sex and then we say yeah that's exactly it it's just 2 people that are paid to have sex and there's cameramen and there is everything around them and it's all scripted but it's not how real sex works well to modify not only shapes or sexuality it also has side effects like dysfunction so let's have

a look at what an expert has to say on this. and there charlotte has been a couples and sex therapist for more than 25 years and recently her clients have been having new kinds of problems either they feel overwhelmed by online sex and are now no longer interested in it or they've never had sex with a person in real life physics for. the sexuality we experience in the digital world often makes it impossible to have sex within a relationship. as online sexuality is often pornographic. and people get the impression that they can demand a whole lot. they can have very high expectations. but can give very little in return. those who seek her advice often feel sexually exhausted and washed up.

overwhelming technical distraction makes it hard for them to get to know others and flirt. if it has one vision and for quarter you can become a bit of an idiot when it comes to seduction if you have the impression that you can have everything. but you only need to get very little in return to commit another human person when you come into contact with a real person your expectations are very high but your skills are very limited. you no longer know how to approach this other person and. you also don't know how to get this other person to have sex with you or make music so. those who satisfy themselves sexually in front of a computer not only risk not knowing how to seduce others but they're also more likely to have trouble performing.

if someone sits in front of the computer and masturbates not just once but several times for him and sometimes for hours and they may still have an orgasm in front of the computer. outside in the real world with a real partner if you want there's so little stimulation that the person doesn't even get aroused when you don't even young men can have problems getting an erection because the attractiveness of a totally normal woman or a totally normal man is no longer strong enough to say activate the somewhat contaminated brain it was for us or to go to active young. some of entering a child's clients are under 20 years old men who are exhausted from constant masturbation and young women who don't know if they're normal if they don't constantly want sex another problem singles looking for a kick with constantly changing partners and couples who are no longer interested in each other. but stop us here is. what's happening is that the connection does

everything that makes up into personal experience gets lost for one we don't feel we don't smell we can't touch. a lot is missing from this sensation. was. some kind sexuality with one another for support very quickly in the cycle. people drift apart and. each person withdraws the sexually into the digital world having sex with themselves you know 6 weeks or many people leave their relationships and have affairs with people they've met online and. the constant availability of material also leads to over stimulation and relationship stress. these are all phenomena that sex therapists like and they have shot i mean creasing the dealing with. a bottle and if we have

a sense of entitlement that we didn't used to have. we want to experience things that perhaps we've only seen online do you know in pornography. and we want to do what we see online in real life we also want to experience these things once so there's more variety before. us and the impact this can overburden your partner perhaps doesn't have the same desires and thinks listen you don't want to experience this with me you just want to reproduce what you've seen. best match to sexual desire can retire. by abstaining from the no graffiti and taking a break from the constantly available online temptation instead spend time with your partner. you. let's recap sex can be a wonderful thing and it can be a fun thing if you know your wishes and if you respect those off your partner and

when you do it do it in real life see you next week until then let's try to stay in good shape.

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