himon or popping the cherry that subtly absurd forget about that but just a big lie no one can tell from your home and if you're a virgin or not that's just not possible because it can also be a stretch with other things like for example with sport. but still there are these very expensive surgical options to reconstruct the hymen. they say they glue are so your membrane back together. these surgeries are nonsense there's not something like the one shape of the hymen so if nothing has to be broken why should we remove something. some girls also put capsules of artificial blood into their vagina to simulate bleeding. you don't know what's in these rarely creates so they were trying to as a very daily carrot and complex system i don't think it's like we take the. tough

shit with things which could be toxic. so why do some girls and women report leading after their 1st time having gradual sex according to studies it's still about 50 percent in fact the hymen doesn't have many blood vessels it's rather lacerations in the village no wall that lead to high men can bleed if you don't pay attention if you're to quick or to rough or just don't use enough lubrication but actually it doesn't have to the problem is that if everybody is telling you that it's gonna believe that hurt you're not even gonna try to be cautious so just relax because this patient and enjoy it. and don't let guys think they need to play the night with the sword because there is nothing to cut or break. we must

not forget that sex can be a very very nice and fulfilling thing if it's consensual so let's talk about consensual sex what's your experiences in the groups you're talking to. i think the most important part is to remember sex is always consensual if it's not consensual it's not sex that it's rape or. it's something that you have to ask for or you have to get from. so is it just that you have to give permission to others or is it that you have to give permission to yourself that you're ready to have said we have a method called the traffic light we use for the youth it's about if you're ready and your heart and your heart and belly and then your genitals so you ask yourself do i like that person can i trust that person or what are my friends say. is this

person going to hurt me. what does my headset what was my thoughts about this person and if you take a look at your partner is it ok just to watch for the signs that your partner's penis gets hard did you have to ask for consensual or no so we teach the kids that it's important to communicate and always communicate i think there's a lot of times when you have sex where you don't talk that much because you're caught up in the thing but it's actually very important to talk about it and it's ok to say you know yes absolutely. sometimes you're in the middle of it and then you're just like oh and i don't want to have sex anymore and then you just communicate and you're like ok i don't want it anymore and then the partner has to stop because it needs to be consensual so every in every situation both need to agree that ok it's right to sex right now during the whole time you would know say

well in my partnership something is not going on right so i think this is not consensual is there any help i can get from from a 3rd party. there is a lot of advisory places where you can go to. recommend to talk to older ones which do have much more experience and you can for sure just talk to your partner as well about things if you are unclear i'm sure. you can talk to your friends to your colleagues maybe a. minium depends how close you are with the more maybe your cousins someone who isn't but further away there's a lot of possibilities but there is also organisations that specialize and so you can also get professional help if you feel like you've been raped or it was not consensual and i think a lot of people have in the presentation hold the sex life should be in the times

of the into that there's a lot of promote graffiti going on so maybe. it's shaping the sex life a bit what do you think about this in concern to consensual sex it's always difficult because you have these expectations from free and then you have your own sex life and we have a method where we let kids draw a romantic scene on a piece of paper and then we tell them ok. let's make a porn scene out of it so then they're going to draw cameras and lights and everything and then they're like oh no it's not romantic anymore this is not sex and then we say yeah that's exactly it it's just 2 people that are paid to have sex and there's cameramen and there is everything around and it's all scripted but that's not how real sex works will promote a few not only shapes or sexuality it also has side effects like dysfunction so

let's have a look at what an expert has to say on this. and there charlotte has been a couples and sex therapist for more than 25 years and recently her clients have been having new kinds of problems either they feel overwhelmed by online sex and are now no longer interested in it or they've never had sex with a person in real life physics for. the sexuality we experience in the digital world often makes it impossible to have sex within a relationship. as online sexuality is often pornographic. and people get the impression that they can demand a whole lot. they can have very high expectations. but can give very little in return. those who seek her advice often feel sexually

exhausted and. overwhelming technical distraction makes it hard for them to get to know others and flirt. if it doesn't vision and. you can become a bit of an idiot when it comes to seduction if you have the impression that you can have everything. but you only need to get very little in return to commit another human person when you come into contact with a real person and your expectations are very high but your skills are very limited in his eyes as a gun you no longer know how to approach this other person. you also don't know how to get this other person to have sex with you music so. those who satisfy themselves sexually in front of a computer not only risk not knowing how to seduce others but they're also more likely to have trouble performing.

if someone sits in front of the computer and masturbates not just once but several times for him and sometimes for hours. they may still have an orgasm in front of the computer. outside in the real world with a real partner if you want there's so little stimulation that the person doesn't even get aroused when you even young men can have problems getting an erection because the attractiveness of a totally normal woman or a totally normal man is no longer strong enough to say activate the somewhat contaminated brain it was 1st choice to go on to active young. some of and their child's clients are under 20 years old men who are exhausted from constant masturbation and young women who don't know if they're normal if they don't constantly want sex another problem singles looking for a kick with constantly changing partners and couples who are no longer interested in each other. bust up i see it is. what's happening is that the connection

everything that makes up into personal experience gets lost for long we don't feel we don't smell we can't touch and unfasten a lot is missing from this sensation. was. some kind sexuality with one another for support very quickly in the cycle. people drift apart. and each person withdrawals in feel either sexually into the digital world having sex with themselves. or many people leave their relationships and have affairs with people they've met online and. the constant availability of material also needs to over stimulation and relationship stress. these are all phenomena that sex therapists like and they have shot i mean creasing the dealing with. we have

a sense of entitlement that we didn't used to have. we want to experience things that perhaps we've only seen online as you know in pornography. we want to do what we see online in real life we also want to experience these things or so there's more variety before. this can overburden your partner who perhaps doesn't have the same desires and thinks listen you don't want to experience this with me you just want to reproduce what you've seen. just marched in sexual desire can retire. by abstaining from the no graffiti and taking a break from the constant the available online temptation instead spend time with your partner. you. let's recap sex can be a wonderful thing and it can be

a fun thing if you know your wishes and if you respect those of your partner and when you do it do it in real life see you next week until then let's try to stay in good shape. the be. the be. the be.

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stops and sometimes come. this is new news live from berlin and scientists in india accuse the government of ignoring warnings of a deadly new coronavirus varian's advisers blame politicians failures for the devastating 2nd wave of covert 19 now overwhelming the health service also on the program australia gets tough on travelers wanting to return from india even its own

citizens face fines or prison for breaking the rules will get the full story from our reporter. and one of germany's top seaside tourist attractions reopens for a month as a test case can there be safe tourism despite the pandemic. welcome to the program scientists in india are accusing the government of ignoring warnings of the new more dangerous variants of the corona virus a forum of advisers says ministers fail to impose large scale restrictions despite the alerts in march political and religious rallies have since been cited as super spreader events a 2nd wave of covert 19 has left india battling record numbers of deaths and infections. india is struggling as the pandemic 2nd wave

crashes over the country death and desperation are spreading so too is the fear that the government can't stand the surge and end india's suffering. when the cases started rising up i probably had a plan. but turns out they didn't work in the 1st week i understood that the government had no idea they're not prepared for anything that if you don't have it up until later than one hospital forget about all the whatever you need for the entire city or the entire nation and just one example 121000 patients died this weekend when a hospital in the capital ran out of oxygen supply for nearly an hour and a half of one of them in favor of free 3 and fulfilling patients. is the oxygen they need support because babies are to be so cross 50. feet of the increased demand in the hospital. according to lee says it will start punishing

government officials for failing to deliver lifesaving items but it's impossible to give what is not yet available the international community spent the weekend sending supplies grieving loved ones and scientists blame elected officials for the worsening situation they accuse state and federal governments of ignoring medical advice and warnings about variants. we needed through the government. and may we elected leaders are going to go. big change things i don't know i don't know so i'm just hoping you know they stick to their words prime minister narendra modi and his ruling hindu nationalist party may be paying the price for their handling of the virus they suffered an upset in west bengal and failed to make gains in 2 other key state election it's. a sign that most political strength may be slipping as the pandemic tightens its grip

. earlier we asked our correspondents minera dri and ellie about the warning and the government received from scientific advisor us about a more dangerous variance back and mocked portals and that's in this form was early december. while plus we've now as you said they have come up and said they have the you know apple warning to the government and the police chief that actually is going to see it right in a number of cases and that is going to be by and you more. than what we saw. but clearly you have to say that the government did not beat of this or any other critics are saying that all of the government at that and the fact you were the state elections that are the thought which actually came out today and that i mean at the same time we actually saw the really be the agent the r.t.o. the chippie all and i think massive election as in the states they're all up with warrants and basically look at the onslaught of the government allowing logic to

just politicians to keep. cases where increasing. many of our children they are reporting from delhi now many countries have close to travel connections with india but australia has gone further threatening threatening its own citizens with large fines and up to 5 years in prison if they tried to return prime minister scott morrison an ounce of the tough measures after some travelers returned from india through transit countries australia has already has one of the toughest or the policies during the pandemic with strict caps on the number of people allowed to enter. australia has brought in a tough new border security law to tell us more about it i'm joined by g.w. porter joel doll roy joe how unusual is this policy it's believed to be in on preset into the restriction now it was already very difficult for strain citizens to return to their own country with some waiting many months and spending tens of

thousands of dollars for a seat on a rare fly but now it is in fact a criminal offense if you attempt to return to having been in india for the last 2 weeks and you are threatened with up to 5 years in jail and fines of over $60000.00 now other countries which have closed the travel with india still allow citizens to return provided that they have tested and are koren teamed but not a stray there which is extremely cautious for example it's frequently shuts down major cities and locks them down if just one or 2 cases are detected now this policy does actually work however because there are very few active cases in australia and australia has suffered very few deaths during the pandemic however it comes at a cost to those citizens who are stranded abroad so what so they have potential punishment there for people trying to return how many people are affected by this well it's estimated there are around 9000 australians in india at the moment and they're going to be stuck there for at least 2 weeks which is when this restriction

will be reviewed we tracked one of them down a man in sunny jura he went to delhi last year to visit his father. he was ill and sadly died he's now there with his elderly mother he says he fears for their lives and he believes that australia could safely let people back in if they corentin and test we can have a listen to some of his story now. the street that i live on. about 60 to 70 percent of their homes are infected with go it in some cases the whole family is in shock to go it so it's pretty bad there's a feeling of constant fear that we might catch go ahead and get into some sort of ritual situation with health care not being up to scratch or this new rule it's like we feel as if as if we you know it's an unwanted citizens we would like a street in government to take care of us rather than you know make us feel that

we're on what. so desperate plea that is for any chance that someone could challenge the small well several legal experts believe that a breach of international conventions which that which should allow citizens to be able to return to their own country at any time and a group called free and open astray the has previously attempted to get the united nations to intervene without success but rather than being withdrawn the many australians abroad who feel that this law could actually be expanded to include other countries and that it could persist and be used as as some kind of precent for the future thank you very much dulled roy reporting. let's take a look now at some other stories making headlines around the world. u.s. secretary of state anthony blinken has arrived in london for the 1st in person meeting of the g 7 group of leading nations in 2 years top of the agenda is dealing with russian descent from asian british foreign secretary dominic rob says the west needs like minded allies to work together. residents along stance

border with have been returning to their damaged homes days after thousands were forced to flee from clashes more than 30 people have died in a flare up of tensions between the 2 former soviet states a ceasefire now appears to be holding. israel has observed a day of national mourning for the $45.00 victims of a stampede at an orthodox jewish religious festival funerals have been held for the dead including children and teenagers the events were authorized for 10000 people 10 times that were there. for us journalists have returned safely to earth after spending nearly 6 months on board the international space station their dragon capsule touched down in the sea off the coast of florida it was the 1st crew mission run by space x. company on behalf of nasa. one of germany's most popular tourist

attractions is reopening this month the island of the silt in the north sea is welcoming visitors again in a test of whether hospitality can be safe despite the pandemic hotels and restaurants are happy to have the business but some locals fear the return of visitors could put them at risk. idea to have hello and welcome please register with the app so now you're booked. how do you have your test results on tests that you sometimes don't know your phone. data collector and test checker this restaurant owner can only admit guests who have checked in with a contract tracing app and can provide negative carona tests this is some void of money it's a good feeling we're back and we're here for our guests that's what makes me really happy he does of course there are many requirements that we have to fulfill it's taken a lot of work as

a special here our lives because they're getting the moment to understand. the 3 d. i don't think we're more likely to get infected here than at home and stick because we're being cautious and following all the hygiene rules. getting guns and the tests give us a sense of security and of money and again this is the doctor to test the. visitors to still need a negative test no more than a day old to go to a restaurant and 2 days to stay in a hotel room but some residents think district testing strategy alone isn't enough the 18000 full time residents share the island with 62000 beds for tourists and 14000 vacation homes. it really doesn't inspire how will they keep track of 2nd home owners when they rent out their places to friends and family how do we know those people will also be tested the out get out you got on the death wish to test the but they've also helped to offset kind of no one asked

any of us doctors here for opinion mccain began that they should have waited at least 2 months before letting him to respond so that the people who live here and work here can reach herd immunity went off the opposite of a focal point i should not have started until then on that import yet stop and go off and try. a normal temperature in a vaccination record the requirements to stay at a hotel guests with 2 jabs don't need to show a negative test. we've had so many lock downs now i'm using this as a get away from the day to day stress and it's important because we want to get back to normal but for hotel owners the situation is anything but normal. what i would i want to get back to work i want to put up guests for the night and i enjoy it and i also have to get back to making an income everyone's looking at us to see what happens if we make any mistakes they'll point the finger but if it

works we're trailblazers all. eager to get out of the house after more than a year of restrictions germans will be watching to see if it's safe again to go on holiday. in formula one lewis hamilton has extended his lead by winning the portuguese grand prix house and started in 2nd place behind valtteri bottas but the brits passed his no sadie's teammate and held off a challenge from red bulls to claim his 97th promptly went running champion helton is chasing a record 8 title he's now won 2 of the season's 3 races. a pitch invasion forced english footballing giants manchester united to postpone a match against rivals liverpool fans for demonstrating against the club's owners united was among the 12 clubs who attempted to form a breakaway european super league the project collapsed after resistance from

supporters angry fans also blocked the manchester team bus bringing players to the game supporters that want united's owner to sell the club. the german football association wants its president to resign after he compared his deputy to an infamous nazi judge. admits he made a serious mistake but is refusing to step down has been in the job for 2 years the association is the world's biggest single sports federation with more than 7000000 members. one of the world's top selling artists is beginning a message of hope that a post pandemic. age is stalling david hockney has created a giant animated sunrise lighting up london's piccadilly circus the video is also on show throughout may in new york los angeles tokyo and seoul 83 year old paints

a true the artwork at his home in frogs on a tablet. you're watching d.w. news stories is up next here after a short break stay tuned for the last i will i was like an invalid thanks to a company take care of. people in trucks injured one trying to flee to cities in tow more and more refugees are being turned away more to. channelise on a chance to see. these critical meetings to go against demonstrators. people fleeing extreme.