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some of died because they didn't have medical information all this scares me about what my bio dad reason i may have given his hundreds of offspring. he actually had parkinson's, almost all the time. he was producing kid, my brother david and i meet up with my other brother david, who's been looking into the health risks in my dna. best and i'll show you elsewhere. ok, there it is. hawkinson disease late onset susceptibility to parkinson's disease on another genetic test or another gene. gotcha. that is all these narrative is definitely visa and because he had bargenson. yeah. you guys are really dark stuff . this was the dogs. now the great news here and the gene set this man gave his other than that, it's fantastic, just to talk for crohn's disease was okay. because based on your personal genetics and genetics and environmental and viral triggers,
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you've got to know there should be an annual, medically that's over. i'm finding out that almost all my serbs think that the anonymity of donors is just wrong. now, of course, let emotion continue. everybody has the right to know who their logical parent was . definitely, i think for anybody's mental health, you have to write your own stories is very important for those of us who have been through this experience to any of us down for a moment. that our common genetic background has meaning has significance, would not which we give to it, but which it gives to us. most don't conceive people seem to want the option to know their donors identity. and in the u. k. david and others influence the government to change the law and en anonymity since 2005 kids have the right to know their donors identity when they reach 18.
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in canada, in 2000 and 4th, we persuaded the government to do the same. when people find their fathers or they find their relatives, these are tremendously important stories. and i think they're important for a reason. i think it's a very basic year and then the government changed his mind. the doctors told him there'd be no more donors. and in the u. s. a. well, an indemnity has been standard in the sperm industry since the beginning one. i'll tell i don't have a play with me since the start. everyone thought that the only way a guy would donate sperm is if he could be anonymous, turned out that wasn't true. meet him galaxy. why did you decide to be identified? curiosity, i supposed to start with, but that at some point some portion of the kids would be interested in meeting me and i would be interested, many of them. and so why dod mom, i actually picked,
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she tells me that's what she picked him because his voice according sounded really like sweet. and he said that he wanted to meet the kids. she was, she was raising us thing. i've ever pretended like be like her parent because i wasn't that work right. i didn't take a school everyday tucker at night, but you and your brother are not the only biological offspring that tim has cracked. how many do you have was that i've met? are 701717 told me. here's joe. another one of jim's kids. i mean me every summer, tim rents and cabins by a lake and spends a week with a bunch of his bio kids. and just like in my own family, tim's offspring crossed paths before they knew they were related. i came in close
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contact with my siblings and didn't know air. my like this guy that i worked with was on the same water polo team sawyer boyfriend. on my way, if i had hung out with him, i probably wouldn't met sawyer and not known she was. my sister and danny went to the college. i lived on the campus of so i probably passed him out of all his posts or 2 minutes from my house. all like is your brother, he's my brother. good thing. most of the day. yeah. tim wanted to be found by his offspring. but california cry bank his firm may, didn't want to help is that these rules and things i had to follow to try to get any information. and what was it like i had the bottom line was they said they didn't know if they had my contact information, but they would try that. but you know, call me back and they didn't. and they, they never gave you teams information. now even though he was supposed to be
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identifiable to you. yeah. and basically they taught like, but i could not reach me. and so i called them up and said, lying, i always kept you updated with my phone, my email and my spam mail address. and they chastise me for wasting their time, so it was clear to me they weren't interested in making or facilitating that connection even though all parties wanted it correct me. wow. really more and more donors willing to be identified to their spring once their adults. when the u. k. ended down on emily, the number of sperm donors went up. other countries have also entered the secrecy. some us banks no longer accept new anonymous donors at all. california craven,
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the biggest in the u. s. still has them and they've agreed to talk to me. but at the last minute they cancel and they say they don't want to be part of my personal journey. anonymity means that a lot of babies can be produced from one man by bio visa had maybe 600. but what if there's someone out there with an even bigger family? this is steve shelter. he's a bodybuilder, a psychiatrist. and he used to be in anonymous sperm donor when i was freshman and medical school actually and medical school for me to be as firmed up. so i got started. that's on, i mean, it didn't help you financially. and in medical school, you know, it actually, initially they pay $20.00 a donation, but very quickly, i've raised that $40.00 and how many years do you do this?
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17 years i'll total what my schedule was twice a week, 17 years. but it's not impossible. you could have a 1000 kids or more. yeah, i think about the numbers in my head as possible. how do you feel about that? well, i guess there's some reality into it. i just can't imagine that i've got all these kids out there. so i've never really focused on what the numbers might be. i see what our gods term, and they might be, you know, over the years i've thought about sir, whether maybe some children out there and in prayer i would as cause blessing upon them. again, there's not having met anybody and so recently as just didn't really feel real time at derek. derek value. so actually yeah. how did you find joe? i just got onto several of the websites. the 1st thing that hit me was,
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was to contact him who's kind of what, what, what did you think it was for money? well, you know, everything was figured and all that was going through my head. you, how do you for him? my biological father, my friend, is become a really good friend and a friend of my parents as well. was using a sperm on a difficult decision to you that it wasn't for me, but i'll let jan speak for sale a little bit some somewhat. i want to say more of the, of a pride thing. you know, you want it you, it would be nice to have your own related child there was a bit of a loss. yes. yes. so but you decided to tell us on the truth very was having some medical issues that i'd never experienced or had run in janet's
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family. and so that was probably the reason that we, we told eric so maybe he could do some research. and if you ever found out who's donor they had was, you know, that might help and give him some more insights into his medical issues. so may i ask what they were? i was having some allergy problems that made it difficult to swallow food at some point. and interestingly enough, that was, that was something that after i made a connection with steve at you, we kind of shared and some of these families had that had that problem over the christmas holidays. i actually told steve, i said, well, we'll thank you for making it possible for us to have derek said, i thank you, turned out pretty well and i'm glad you are part of the, the donor program. they're all that effort that the medical community, sorry, went to to keep everybody divided. wasn't actually that necessary perhaps. right.
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and when bob shared this was my response question, is this tremendous? bless me for one god showing me that he honor my prayers. he but hundreds more might be too much of a blessing. and steve wants to find out how many he has. so he's going to talk to one of the doctors he sold sperm to i think there should be significant limits to how many children, any individual donor can syiaa have. that is the word when you're talking maybe hundreds of people that's, that's not good. i do feel there's something wrong about that number being somehow much higher than if it could be natural. this mass production, it makes you feel a bit like you've come of the production line of a factory. how many women could be impregnated by one man. and conceive how many thousands, 2000. sure. yes,
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i can see the problem. yes. is it? it is indeed very steven 0. are you not getting that? and this is as long as you know, we've come to see the doctor at one of the places steve donated in louisville. he's anxious to find out more about his hundreds of offspring. by wash san juan happened upon me about a year ago, a testing mediconnect. he's cuz he's who taught her simulation that prompted me to just ask questions. what was actually she's revived career as a sperm donor. you know, all of this was done in a very anonymous fashion. all of parties were advised that the donor would not know who the couple was and vice versa. you know, the couples on the,
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the peace of mind to know that one day somebody is not going to come up to them and say, and that's my kid and i want my kid back kind of thing. so at that time, we only use medical students and we didn't want them looking over their shoulder for somebody that perhaps then got divorced and wanted to sue the donor for child support or something like that. with donor insemination. some people don't want their child to know with other just regard to an agreement. you know, like i give you permission to tell. it's just coming out. it's popping out of the woodwork. derek has talked about how important this connection is with his dad. and ultimately, if he gets to know me, he'll get another dose of enrichment of this life meeting or dealing with people enriches your life. you don't think there's anything special about the genetic connection. i'm not a psychologist. ok,
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i would, i would say that you would have to study and to see what you're saying intuitively . sounds good when put to the test, it may or may not. i'm not disagreeing, but i'm not fully agreeing with it either. when a person becomes an adult, there are some pretty good reasons that maybe they should know their family medical history. and so i mean from my perspective, i think people should be allowed to know at least kind of at that point. so actually, that's a question i have that. are there any records that might indicate about how come from my donations past in terms of privacy or pers, the answer is no. we did our best for long term to keep the records kept records in a safe even i'm trying to think it was oh,
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7 november that we had a flood in this building which took out 2530 percent of the building including this whole suite and we were out of the building for a well and last some of some of it may actually still exist that we don't put away and yet to come out and sounds like one thing you would like to know from dr. levine would be the numbers that would be nice to know. yeah. that, that would take some going. it would any possibility that steve could find out a bit more of that and see if he wants to make to take the next. we would have to chat about that one day over just taking suburban or something. okay, so yeah, we'll chat about it. i was taken suburban, losing sperm donor records seems to happen
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a lot in this business. so i've gone to colorado to meet wendy kramer. i've known wendy for a long time. she's one of the sperm banks. biggest critics. so good, didn't you? yeah. we went out have long before dna testing, wendy, and her don't. a conceived son, ryan started a website. it was called donors, sibling registry. d, as our parents only know, the anonymous donor by a number on the d as r site spring, can use that number to find other children from the donor with the same number. their siblings and thousands of donors also sign on to match their offspring. that's our tim, the donor and l. a found is these numbers are updated every night. this is how many people we have matched. 17926. so we will hit 18000
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in february. and then 67188 people on the dsr. so that's parents don't, can see people children, the parents are posted and donors, a donors and firm donors. sometimes the donors find that the sperm banks have lied . can you imagine you're this guy and you go, you know, i think the right thing to do would be to make myself available to those 10 kids i was told i might have out there. yeah. and you come to the d. s. r and i know this because i hear from donors all the time who go. okay, just a minute. i just went on your website and it says i have 35 kids. that's impossible . i was promised 10. yeah. well right. of course, this can only happen in a closed anonymous system, which wendy hates as much as i do. donor can see if people are all too often told. you should be happy to be alive. you should be just happier parents want to do so much and it's like book shore. but i also am
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a human being. i have an innate desire to know where i come from and who i come from. so you can't deny that either not with adopted people, but also not with don't are conceived people. california credit bank has no idea how many have siblings ryan has because they have no accurate record keeping. it's preposterous. you can't promise limits when you don't have accurate records. it's impossible, you know, cost money to have accurate record keeping a cost money to update medical records into share medical information. it costs money to have the accurate record keeping that it would take to limit the number of kids per donor. so it takes money to do all of that. and that there are a profit business. they're selling gas meets. it least in the you can, australia, et cetera. there is some regulation. do you think that canada might progress to having some here but they get all their spare me from the u. s. burbank, so what are they going to regulate california cry. oh bank. i don't think so. well,
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they could demand that the sperm be identifiable that yeah, let them try. sure. i just don't see it happening. so you see the way forward is basically people using the dna sides with the help of your website. absolutely. there's nothing else. nobody else cares to step in and provide regulation or oversight. the sperm banks are big, they're powerful. they're wealthy. they have lobbyists in washington, they keep any and all regulation from happening. anytime there's regulation that gets proposed, they put the kibosh on it immediately. it's the fox watching the hand house. we can't change what's happened in the past, but now there is no, absolutely no excuse whatsoever for donors to insist on secrecy. and furthermore, there is no such thing as secrecy anymore. everyone has the right not to be
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deliberately deceived or deliberately deprived of information about essential aspects of their personal history. the trouble is straight couples often don't tell their kids. so david, a lawyer is campaigning for us to have birth certificates with the sperm or egg donors, name as well as the parents. these accurate birth certificates would be available to offspring once they become adults. and in many countries, there is a growing movement from the donor, conceived to end anonymity back in 2004. i was here in ottawa arguing the same with the government refused one of the employees who persuaded the government to preserve don't anonymity was dr. eddie fry. hi, dr. fry. i'm very steven. nice to meet you. to thank you for doing this. the really appreciate it. i can answer your questions or
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concern was there too many people who donated? they did not want people to know that they did. they donated for whatever reason, but they didn't necessarily want to have someone coming and saying you my father or you, whatever. when you decided to preserve the anonymity, because some people might come and do that much as to, to preserve anonymity, it is to protect the rights of the donor just to protect the rights of the tribe. but they don't know how that we don't know how to choice. we didn't have a choice and we were the ones who donated from that choice. yes, and of course the jonah had a choice and the doing that could refuse to do late, in which case a lot of people would not have had access to doing this phone. and so i don't see how anyone can suggest that only one group in a discussion should have their rights observed than the other should have known. the main reason was that you were afraid there would be no more donors if,
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if we ended out on one of the major reasons. because people were very reluctant to come into an age in the 1st race. and many of them when he did so because he knew that their identity would protect, we didn't want to dry up the number of doing as they don't dry up. when the u. k ended anonymity, the number of guns actually went up. i would like to see a system where only donors who are who are willing to be identified to their offspring on the offspring it to be bold enough, should be recruited and that has been shown to work. and if it does work, then why not do it in the future, then if you think you would like to see amendments, you 83 canadians to come up and ask go put our petitions, get a lot of people to sign on to that y m s. and what, no, but i, i will respond to people coming to me in with a petition saying, a lot of us want this to happen. one person is not enough. and, and i think it would be a good idea practically for,
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for the government of canada to get out ahead of this. there is no problem when i don't have a problem with people coming to do that. and again, and then i will wait and see what that evidence says and make my decisions based on not fair enough. thank you. i got some progress and i just start to fries, right? i have to come back again miss as of this. in the meantime, i'm going back to london one last time. my new family loves a party, so i've got them together to hear what they have to say about all this. like the like any family you meet some people you really connect with the 1st person i met in england, david have what we. we make a shelf and i can say we lined up in so in the gable by the end of the evening. and so these guys, incredible, this is really fun. this is amazing. then as you get to know the people, you know, i don't think you like some people,
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but if you like the, just my family and that's the, that's the basic line is the same thing. is this 400 more on the cell? it's actually like 600 or more, when the tests are all complete, we're going to say that one of the forest fungus is just like, you know, we're the ones that fit me and he's only very recently. like in the last 2 years, i went on to some of these don't conceive sort of whatsapp groups and paper groups and, and, and i was really shocked, really shocked and upset to see the really young people talking about how they hadn't been told, you know, people in the twenty's in told the funny we siblings, you know, always differently finding that the doctor would say that mean loans of them. i'm thinking jesus, i always was just off because we were in this, we're sort of the initial phase by noon. but it's actually still going on,
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and that makes me really upset. really, people should know better now, and maybe our parents didn't get better. they should see the end of anonymity surely surely is going to cause pain for those people who chose choose or chose to do something that was deep, can private for me that the real point is that we all have a right to our narrative. we will have a right to our story, and that seems to me just to be incontrovertible. the, to be human, is to have a story. and to have a story, one must have a true story. just saying these, these kids, but they'd be better off, not knowing it's bull. and for someone else to come in and say, but for the convenience of others, we'll just delete that. it is not clearly to argument for historically short. he was simply that donors would not come forward if understanding was that they might be off to the abolition of anonymity. the number of registers from denise went
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up. yeah. and then you will, the industry is making a lot of money out of them quite discussing actually with it so. so i'd like to ask what, what almost like the diesel and nephews but we don't have any really uncles or anything like that. it is. i think it's great because of the young, but i've got a whole lot of times of people and family to be able to stay in contact with and to be able to meet if you're traveling across the globe and everything like that. we have a lot of catching. yeah, exactly. again, and i think, i mean, i met becky, a car on the line. and there is something, i mean, a lot of people in the, in the job by day and people like i get on. but there was something, there was a connection on the guy that was like in some ways i know them all my life and i cannot describe it. and i wouldn't like to say why my. oh, so i felt made saying, given that diary and canada she was, that was sort of not
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a make it female connection. but those connections, every barring that i thought were not. i spent the day with him. we had some quite good last i think. but i wouldn't have had that with any other. i just the experiences i don't know what it is, but there is something there is that there is something last question. this is really the who looks like who you're the you look like you the while i was editing this film, several new siblings appeared on the dna science. special visa as descendants that we have identified. now number 137. and there are plenty more to come as a bit of
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a paradox. it's great to be part of this class. but i really hope that we are one of the less to be huge families produced by anonymous men. and that we can put an end to all the secrets and lies. ah, the news from
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