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a special look at a special country. she ran from above. start september 16th on d, w. age. sex is a pretty complicated business in mexico. the country is all about passion and temptation. yet there are many taboos after a party, it's rarely a case of your place or mine and many couples prefer to use a love hotel. as i am, i know they even have menus for sex toys. right next to the corner of the of the ones for a bigger macho man has come under attack, willing to day want more than just a traditional role. they are fighting for change. that's my sincere wish is the day

to will conquer the world and fight for the dreams. mexicans love sex, but they like to keep it hidden, going back and forth between the traditional and the modern. ah mexico city. the angel of independence towers auspiciously above the capital. the megacity represents everything which is mexican, a blend of folklore and progress. lovebirds, kaboodle on every corner. public displays of affection raised no eyebrows here. but there is a reason these intimate moments do not take place in private. 2 who's done yet? aconia and jennifer woodyard. they have been together for

a year now. both of them make a living from singing like here in this restaurant. this is how they met and fell in love. a few such strong passion when i'm together with him not just sexually. it is real love. i love everything about him the way he does things, his voice, the way he looks his eyes. i think he's wonderful. he is 30 years old. she is 20 and they both still live at home with their parents. this is usual in mexico often until a couple mary's. 2 partly out of tradition and also because money is often tight, many incomes are low, and during the pandemic, it was hard for them both to earn money. when work is over, they can't say, let's go back to my place or yours. staying overnight at the partners,

families taboo and sex is completely out of the question. mister holland, of course we want to be together, but her home is very nice for us and neither is mine. my mother can be a bit difficult. we can't do much alone. we can't even watch a film together given up in the columbus don't meet again to morrow. weekend nights in the city for wild, fun, loving, and colorful lobbies love. and it's lavishly celebrated in mexico's capital. there seems to be no sign of any taboos. i mean, but i i it's mexico's colorful, modern side, celebrating sexuality ah,

dominion. and yet he felt like it a bit quieter though. one of their favorite places is a park. they can be alone here, far from the eyes and ears of their parents. but that was last. i live in an up eliquis lay. we was sitting together in the living room watching a film. suddenly i heard no sound from my mother's room, just got another quote that she turned down her television, so she could hear what we're up to. nonsense is this, he is up put it up. so that's, we don't really have any privacy cancer lather, tandoori, or possibly that even if we had a big house with the room where we would not disturbed. it's still a question of respect him. a unit from one, it's

a cultural issue. the duke is come up with my family is there was this, could my mother is the key is i wouldn't feel comfortable saying numbers in tacoma . you need to work out to open this thing with it. done. years feels as long as you live with your parents, you should respect their rules, their sensibilities, and their taboos. love that a me is there more of the idea of them catching me, having sex fills me with dread puzzles. oh, you get a lot of scorn. it or comment slide yeah, stuck on there are other places for that out there that he's and get a room if you want to do that, but i so i study them what they list, what are your own parents or even friends say it was me. must bother this little must validus disease in amigos. meta so young people are supposed to have sex in hotels. this couple goes to one regularly when they're feeling amorous. but they're a bit too embarrassed to show us their favorite hotels. as i am my nose,

no, there are many. is full sex toys. i put them right next to the condom. i lost the us. never as good it. totally clear that. and a very curious have you on which is in missouri. i was really excited. the 1st time for them all. wow. i thought wow, i love chamber. fabulous. hey, how fun! good deal were not one of them at least i know he can swim now. oh, the capital is teeming with love hotels. no one can see exactly how many there are, but there are lots with a price range to suit anyway. love hotels are in

such high demand that they provide a good business for some people. out a leo best case is a designer for a special kind of love hotel minute. but the fact if i'm here is the entrance, it's very discreet, rather, very private in here directly, you can see the prices of but if you didn't see last night costs between 30 and a 100 euro's yeah, that payment is made directly at the entrance. and if that didn't work, no one can see from outside who is entering the hotel in what bill. everything is discrete in, but i'm with kate. we enter and park here and the doors close automatically. what you've been. you're basically already in the hotel. some we've been looking out a you has already designed over 50 hotels from dugan for that by the you. with ru service, you can order food or drinks or even sucks. toys condoms, la lube, a little bit of everything comfortable. if, if, if then when the waiter comes, he puts the order in here, tells you, it closes it,

and the customer on the other side takes the order out if it input quantico. second, okay, the whole process is completely discrete. you don't see each other had one then not have in a little audio is convinced a happy sex life makes for a happy society. to this end, he is created very esteemed areas, all created to stimulate desire eat la la. like i said, i have yet that i feel i eat the fuel. the shower is open. so you can explore voyeurism in exhibitionism a and don't if you ask her partner the shower while you watch delicate the fuel, you spine on them, but and they put on a show doors, piano, eat, represent photo reflexion. the idea obviously works. it looks like a wet and satisfying pool party took place here they got big. oh, not big one. only one of my regular customer says she want an uprising and mexico

if to close the love hotels for 3 days, then you'll have a revolution. or said luis boscus and his girlfriend cut and bina, are regular customers in love hotels. they're not short of money. and have their own apartment, but they find the change of scenery stimulating. j. v. ask him if he come, he with a feeling of wanting to really enjoy it. it's no ordinary night at home. we also enjoy each other's bodies. but he, you have a certain extra day. it's something i love coming to the when i'm in a love hotel, it brings out my in a corner start animal a few more relaxed and more in the mood for something special, but not the same old retain. did not it most say was him putting all they are very impressed with their room. it creates a few options for an interesting afternoon if that or need openings didn't love this couch is deeper than usual below me. nothing but it changes the angle picked

up yet in certain positions. the angle of your patton's pelvis is really important . it feels different. and this thing makes it easier if you don't need extra pillows or anything, is that the point was the mood is just right. please, if there's only one factor getting in the way. it's time for us to go. but it was nice meeting you take care, we're going to have fun now by a few kilometers away from the capital. an exciting day is beginning. franky hurry up, it's getting light. i'll have you pack your baggage everything, but yet that's good. it's the daily morning rush for nancy ortiz. she's preparing a quick breakfast and helping her daughter they sheena with her braids. nancy is

a strong woman, a law graduate, a single parent, independent. this makes her different from many other women. and often traditional mexico school has just started after the coven pandemic, into that he is happy. she has big plans for her future. did oh yes, i went to be a surgeon. make a few. ok. yes, i don't. i connect, you know, to he now you can do anything you want in life with him. this where you have to work really hard to achieve your drains. but, but you can do anything and showed the world when women can do anything. that is so much got buses it nancy would make any sacrifice to let her daughter grow up in a fair society. mexico is still far behind. men have special rights as that a sheena has noticed every isn't as well as some parents say, you don't have to clear the table. you're

a boy. you have to wash the dishes because you're a girl. that's not ok. isn't that should teach children that every one is the cause, but again, went back to day at school. there's a festival for theodore marcos, the day of the dead. but joyful celebration and mexico, nancy and most other parents prefer to accompany their children to school here and now caused by. there has been a lot of violence lately, especially against women or game. would you give me very unsafe on the street? sometimes if so many women have disappeared. william wentworth, when this, when you go out, you see photos unused about women who haven't come home in some parts of our neighbourhood. you even hear about murders school and then also does we be? must boys ask abby though they just as he knows now about 9 underage women disappear per day and mexico. that's $3200.00 a year. almost 2000 women were murdered in the 1st half of 2021. over

$500.00 cases were officially famous sites. murders of women motivated by jealousy, possessiveness, or massage. any nancy's freedom as a woman has not been easy to achieve. her family is deeply conservative. she is paid a high price for not marrying, and enjoying sexual freedom. her father is disgusted and relatives avoid her. no was if you need what, when people say it's the 1st thing you hear about our reputation. it's a heavy burden for us women today. the more partners you have better, the more you are condemned. not well yet. it's different for men and they're allowed to talk about it openly. they brag and celebration with their friends imperialistic. a woman can't do that. they don't. um. okay, no. this high school was the turning point for nancy. she was the 1st in her family who fought for the right to study. here she was inspired with new ideas, feminism and equal rights. a woman's destiny, children, church,

and kitchen was not for her. she took part in student protests and became a rebel with me. but my father was ashamed when people asked him about it for a 2nd. he thought of his daughter's reputation. guessed that she was here with all these young people. what i meant than his biggest worry was that i had surely lost my virginity with 200 men. but he said awful things about me that i was worthless. whiska your general been you know, the new school year is just beginning off for these young women. high school already seems like normality, but in mexico, women's education is still often deemed a waste of time. nancy spontaneously. cheers on the class with the schools battle cry. mood you i am very moved to see them here with all their dreams when you hagi, when they had been ill at their age and i was so nervous it's

a crucial moment in their lives with us and says, my cynthia wish, what is the day to will conquer the world and fight for those drains. things get even more emotional for nancy later when she meets her family at home. i me, said's is a construction manager in mexico city. his work is in a classic mans world. with him, i me sums up the dominant idea of what makes a good real man in this environment. his daughter, we have a very traditional image of the man here as the breadwinner. the protector of the family who watches over his own, told me in the dark side of the strong protective man, is much small and often used word in mexico. each colleague here knows one and can tell their stories,

but none of them believe that they themselves are mucho's. i pay my brother almost killed his wife out of jealousy. he hurt her and went to jail for it. i told him you are crazy. this is evil. so hopefully your jealousy is not acceptable. and so that's how it happened. jaime would admit today that he was a macho to what he had cheated on his wife. countless times had a major affair on the side for years and got into fights with men. laura, and like went romulus to day at the age of 64, like when i am in therapy. see, do you want me small, bessie said he, i had to recognize that i had chosen to follow the traditions to an ard and the toxic rules of my parents. this toxic us responded. hi me is undergoing macho therapy with therapist ricardo. i yon ricardo works with men convicted of

violence against women and men who recognized that they have a macho problem. ricardo is doing all he can to bring about change in mexico. i own going from me, so you're not going to be. yeah, i'm convinced that change is it possible and that we have a chance to banish machismo in our country. i end up with that for us men to banish it from within the for by if it has a negative impact on our lives to reflect the some info on the sorry, the in a group meeting, the therapists analyze the different aspects of machismo. what is defined as violence, all who encourages it? how should it be stopped with the goal of the organization? hen. this is to prevent violence and achieve gender equality. there's still a long way to go. in the syndicate case. so no a, we are told that sex is only penetration and that we need to have a huge erection and be ready to conquer her any time will

a c america article i suppose he'll photos of it is full of this pressure means you can no longer perform was as if it were you climax too soon? oh no, and then you blame you? pardon? on equal luncheon break? close by him. good boy. i have i know they say my cheese moore has something to do with believing that you are better than everyone else. of believing that you have to be better. this comes from one's upbringing, religion and the media. this feeling of superiority can lead to violence against women, even during sex, helping them. my patient says, i come home and i want to have sex. i don't care whether you are asleep or tired and your body belongs to me. a story that that's how it is and pornography to both of them. we pass on this behavior generation after generation for it. no golden. nancy is doing the final shopping for

a special family reunion. the single mother has to work, do the shopping and take care of her daughter. but athena's father, like so many men in mexico, took on 0 responsibility. men have always been told that they are better than women in the family, verify that they have the freedom to choose whether they want to take care of their child or not. they can simply shift their responsibility. haven't even hardly any men in mexico are willing to use a condom. if they find it repulsive is that about people? normally the mentality is changing a bit. idabel mozambie unbelievable. but usually it's the woman's responsibility. not moment. this won't have any help to day for generations. or meeting for lunch. nancy's daughter, grandma rosalia, and had eliza you've up at nazi's mother. esperanza had enough water for once. the

men aren't present. so the women can talk freely about sex a taboo for grandma rosalinda navina. when i was young, nobody talked about it and we did not. we were told to keep quiet. i am. the subject was off limits is a 100 and off a plan. is that not that because i'm not out there, but she never talk to me about it. and i never asked her method, i went to neighbor, fred, vice and because she already had children, so i could ask her. but my mother, no, i never asked her for the hyena, it sounds like something from another world. 2 william brazil, my mother told me the facts of life as a child, it was, it was a totally normal topic. i mean, well, it was normal for me, but, but for many others it's not only because they're brought up differently because many families aren't the same. oh, issues that were never broached before are now coming to the table one,

go yeoman's dre you. when i started menstruating and i told my mother, she got very angry, tall. no, thank you one look at, but i don't know what was wrong with her, but she was very angry with me. yes, i remember that any of you. i don't know why i was like that may be because no one had told me and i had to go through it alone. i explained it to my son some time later. he is 3 years younger than nancy lost. i don't know. i explained it to him, but i should have explained it to her. i said, lewisburg case, get like a boy. i select nickaligha for grandma go said leah, a woman's place is in the home and taken care of her husband and children as her daughter. i did, i did but still, i delight us. husband started a 2nd family on the side in mexico. they call it the big house and the little house

. yeah, i got, i got and i am the big house here. we also call the wife the cathedral and the women they have on the side. all the chapels, alaska feed does so life. okay, to get the in, in upper la give boy, alaska. he brought her home with him a little. i guess he wanted me to meet her and my mother in law too late and he told me i'm together with this woman and the baby is my daughter. i love it. i could have killed him when that movie quite been ment. okay. that got met and feel hooked with no garbage. i never expected it from him, but his brothers did the same with that model. is it all mean with is certainly gone. it's pretty common here in mexico. there was some out. it didn't happen to me not because, or maybe i just don't know about it. and we got america. them are low. say, you know, to this day, men still have different rights than women,

the sons and her at the house and farm, and are supported by their father. while the daughters are dependent on their husbands, i sped on, soc and other lied. i had to ask for permission to go to work. he. oh, but i think a lot a warrior when his son comes into the world. he's the pride and joy. but if it's a girl it's typical in mexico. he, when a girl is born it's oh, it's a girl. oh, good with a boy. it's wow why celebration had reminiscing is often bitter. sweet, sometimes painful, but i never received love, not as we are a more good grandma give her blessing to either later today. if she left her unfaithful husband he put on his yeah. j m william, my father said it's very bad and

a sin to leave your husband was august is a daughter, quarrelled with her husband and he threw her out of florida. my father said he was sorry, but he would not take her back in lieu of it. i went on there, i found that tough. she laid it's something bad happened to my daughter and she ran away and came home with eleanor. it would not be right to turner away. nobody but women take time to feel their pain. but none of them think things can or will go on like this. and mexico i may as a one to one session with his therapist can be cognitive today to banish the inner macho that almost ruined his marriage. but middle, gotta jo, them on that. i'm just, i demanded

a lot of sexual things. and if i didn't get what i wanted, and i took it as a good reason to get it somewhere else, a little better will scuttle signal to love. but out on that to cover it up hill, i told my wife she was crazy. it says you're crazy. you're dreaming, it's your imagination oyster looks, but no less. he added those 2 front that he can all go. oh well i me couldn't handle the guilt anymore. and with his therapist has learned to take responsibility. what, okay, for those hotels, him and as you know, i was deeply sad for 2 or 3 weeks when i realized what a violent person i am, go mole nap. it's on that belinda. yes boy, you'll. it'll gone up as allah will, except the other. i saw yesterday, he's proud to say he did not fight with his neighbor, even though the neighbor attacked jaime. oh, and go the way is actually your land response would be react, confront,

defend in the day, but you can let that happen. it, bingo. i have the opportunity to choose not to repeat old behavior behavior that has hurt me and others so much. oh, hi may wishes all men knew about this therapy. he thinks he's come a long way. it does post on us. but at home he encounters a different reality. he sent a lot of ego thinks that his father's generation or all hypocrites, by any normal study, i don't little i don't like living in a country where 11 or 12 women are murdered every day. he missed you so those and knowing that about 90 percent of all cases go unpunished, expulsion to discuss a that killing boy. the less think a 100 of you guys always complain about violence, but you're the 1st to use it. and she telling us you have to respect women and then

writing the look at these chicks sending round all these pornography all a table and on the la sheila's boy, eda mitchell. they now i can say to those guys, stop sending me stuff like that is on my before i didn't dare i just didn't dare. schools are also a big problem. they don't practice what they preach. the old la la la, la, la, la la, everything to do with sexuality or sex, or lull, is seen as a sin list icon. she open and you are supposed to repent. do you because it's something bad. your stomach, no. k, a yo yo's, he's in my school. there were teachers who went out with middle and high school girls direct one knows the sequel dad yelled the paper. one that's not right. okay . said close. thought went on when you mean that they had sex with underage girls, but it was what my school was sleazy like that to every one you about it. but no one said anything. yeah, no, the stuff in the corner, there's a clear deficit between how it looks and how it really is between the sexes.

ah, mexico, it's the day of the dead. for nancy's family, a loving remembrance with no anger when they make their dad's favorite meal. so their soul can rejoice when they come to visit nancy's view of the future shopping into focus as she contemplates the past. like today we have the power to change what we don't like and on us for today and forever. ah, ah ah oh, up to date. don't miss our highlights. the d w program on line d w dot com, highlights closely with

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