cost cutting measures and a focus on efficiency affecting quality german cars. when will they lose their sterling reputation? read 60 minutes on d w. lou, what people have to say matters to us. i am. that's why we listen to their stories. reporter every weekend on d. w. hello and welcome to the 77 percent. my name is edith kimani and i'm coming to you from the heart of ne ruby in the special edition of the 77 percent. we're going to talk about love relationships. and of course, hot break will find out what attracts people to each other,

to ignite that special spark. ah, will hear how back. so like money and power plane to relationship with. and we'll meet the designer who want people to express themselves, no matter of their sexual orientation. ah, ah, we know that money can complicate things in a partnership like when love or sex. i used as an exchange for money. we're talking here, of course about sponsors, black says, or sugar mom isn't daddy. so we want to stick a closer look at the blessed a blessed the culture, specifically in south africa. and some young women opened up to us about the experience. i shot wanting though, does not support discusses dependency relationships and sexual violence or ah, ah, when she started her studies 23 year old and

a plunder tumble from sweater was struck by the expensive looks. clothing and excess of shopping. her fellow classmates, enjoying her friends, was so cold, li, queens who depend on rich men to maintain that lifestyle. they introduced her to her own bless, of a wealthy married man who was more than 20 years. her senior he was just c, i'm his clean. we'll begin to live shooting the re prophy know her. but the gifts did not come for free and tumble. soon discovered that she needs to perform sexual faded. this is when she started having 2nd thought, you know, like, doing really want kind of just felt like i was be invited into, sorry,

but type of prostitution. but then now i have to make do with whatever, just come by just because of the fact that you want this life that you want you want last life lavish, luxurious a soft or the struggle to survive in a society where money and from how a concentrated in the hands of men, in tumble is not alive. some men even believe money, give them the right to control a woman's freedom. 46 road modular villa kazi has 3 mistresses. he does not allow them to work, leave the house without his permission or earn his cell phone woman easily 10 times . so we need to control them. they need to be in your finger tips. as we like food for me, i always go into school. so they can make money, i can have power, i can control them that his behavior might entirely undermine his girlfriend's.

right. to self determination seems a little concerned to be causey, both he and his friend claim to pay their girlfriends around 400 years. each for cbo mac longo, this is pure business. i mean that's the whole point. so let me know what we, what we do is we take care of women. then they, what do we get him to turn his love? that's all. that's all. nothing else. so reset. no, yes, sex has been taken care of to someone making you feel special. in a recent south african health survey, one in 10 young women reported to have had transactions. this is a massive problem. it says also jackie. pamela say, we meet the author in an upmarket hotel in johannesburg, but what say is well known for her book, which spills the beans on the blessing and bless the culture, but more say, experienced the fluid borders between transactional sex and human trafficking. i've

read one of you one or 2 here at your, with this hotel a you with i remember old that and with on as a young girl, she ran away from a violent time and became involved with a very wealthy man, a few months into their relationship he took her on a private yacht with politicians, business men and their mistresses, being trapped in the middle of the ocean. she had no choice but to enjoy being raped multiple times. ready you can be changed like this in a heartbeat. if the minister wants to buy you, they'll buy you regardless of who you dating in the group. so even if you're dating the wa, yes man in the group, he can trade you off a business deal because the ministers after 4 traumatize a years,

a mont saint managed to escape the grasps of have lesser. she fled abroad, wishing, wrote a book about her experiences, a warning that the world of glamour that we see on our phones and internet platforms is sometimes far from the actual truth. social media give us an invasion of fiction comfort and luxury expected. and people hopeful that lucia and you don't even know that just to get ahead of this drink in front of us. what are the maybe other things do you have to do? just for that one? it me. back in. so wet ovula cause he meets his gulf ed blades, wilma, he wants to buy her and you hand bag, which is nice, but zima is not early enough for the luxuries she has a baby and needs the money to buy basic necessities. ready to pay rent and she's well aware of the dependency she finds herself in bed as bianco. have to

be sleeping all the guys and you turned it there for you all you okay with everything just because of minute because i round here chances of jobs. you don't, we are the percentages of getting a job on anything and everything to good. what do you, how you invested in time in place with a post curve, it economy in shutters and then the unemployment rate of over 60 percent. the outlook for these young women is bleak, being blessed becomes a basic way of survival and the female body an object that can be bought and bartered. but of course, not all relationships are this complicated and well money often plays a role. it's often about simpler things like who gets to pay for the bill and the dates. so we wanted to know what your experiences were and for this we went to millennial park in a border i spoke to abuse when it comes to going out

o d awesome guys, the das fiendish guess. i'm not like a fish river like before. oh my was 2 if you do, i'm not. well yeah, we are not able to provide for i didn't have been times where you want to have more than to pick the most expensive piece in the water go to. and then by time you can in like this window of reasoning, i like, how much is the deal again? i mean, you're calculating your, you know, your trip back home because i can afford to knew that she took out the someone. i couldn't finish the food annual like you must finishing carol left. all right, like almost finished. you really nice one because in red flag like how will you tell me i was finished. it would be causing swain's more than buying and i have no idea how i would behave if somebody forced me to finish my food because they were paying for the bill. but you know what dating aside,

we also wanted to find out what attracts people to each other and what makes relationships, what? so here's what you said. one thing that draws me so when you have a new dog person likes with respect to me, i saw i saw the issues brianna. you don't mind if i think i was just really i jumped it personally. i guess working with chris love of my life, she was always there for the gist of what that need time like i've never had such support over my life. he's on this. let me just say on this to me. and whenever he is wrong, he do apologize. that the most amazing part of it. interesting to me, she was always with his job. i mean, oh, don't disturb me. you're about me this year. you're about money run away. and when he asked me that was like, like, you know, that why do you like me? and if maybe we can do this issue with now are

a 1000000 different ways to love and who you choose to love should really only be a matter for you. and your partner, but in life, this isn't always the case. your family friend, society and even national laws can determine who you can and can't have an intimate relationship with, as well as who you can identify as i'm talking about the l g b. you plot community, we're still faces this to me, nation as well as defamation, and attack by both states and society all around africa. so let's start off by unpacking gender identity and sexual orientation and what the letter for we ask and relationship, but can break it down for the hello there and welcome to the spread of faith space where we get to discuss everything, facts and relationship. today we have a question on gender and sexual diversity. the question reads, hey kev, as a person trying to be a better l g b t q plus ally,

i'm finding it hard to understand all the new language around agenda, sexuality and sex. is there a way you can simplify it for me, so i can better understand how to conduct myself in spaces where i meet diverse group. i'd really appreciate it. thanks. let's start by creating 3 boxes, biological or assigned sex, gender, and sexual orientation. each of these boxes has many sub sections, but we'll focus on the most important points. the 1st box, biological sex, is what the doctor uses to identify you at best, based on your genital. yeah, most of the time it's either male or female, but there are also cases where one is born with both male and female genitalia, that person is known as intersects the 2nd box, is gender. gender is a social construct. if what society throw that you to place you in a binary box of either male or female, for example,

all and the color pink are said to belong to only girl, whereas trucks and the color blue are set to belong to only boys. but not everybody conforms to this gender. binary gender identity comes from your in a sense of self and may not aligned with the sex that you are assigned at birth. you could be male, female, both neither or some other agenda. and this could mean, for example, that you're not comfortable with a pronouns, he or she and would rather be referred to as they are them. for example, the 3rd box is sexual orientation. this has to do with attraction that you have to a person based on their agenda, which could be romantic, emotional, or physical men. and women strictly attracted to the opposite gender, and known as heterosexual. if you're attracted to someone of the same gender, you could be home with sexual if you're attracted to someone regardless of their

sex or gender identity, you could be pansexual. keep in mind that this really is just the tip of the iceberg. this so much more to learn about the l g b p, q plus community. i hope this has been helpful and i do urge you to keep doing your research online. well informed allies like you are very important. that's it for me, kaz till next time. good bye. thank you can, and if you're interested in learning more about sexual minority or just indicating yourself about sex on the body in general, you can have to instill gram page where we have a c. this has on just that. now hearing kenya between 2 people of the same gender is punishable by law. this law has been in place since 930 and results in sexual minorities being harassed and left with virtually no protection from police of the seats. in general, 23, a young tenant, question design, and l g b, you activist. and when she logo was killed walking,

why fred v. a. the unity with talk to some people who are still willing to speak up can yes l g b t q. community is on alert. in january 2023, edwin to lowball, a student fashion designer and gay rights activist was killed in the canyon town of el dorit. his tragic death sent shock waves through the community makeup artist denison gary. felt the impact ah, when, when the new fact kim, you know, like i was not sure what's happened and been and i was like, i really hope it's not about how he didn't save himself. i've given a lot of hit. i've been receiving a lot of hits and a lot of comparison to anyone. everyone is telling me, you know, if you don't take care, you will end up like edwin. dennis was always aware that his sexual orientation was not accepted by society. but the online debate about edwin's death has degenerated

into an anti l g b t q plus hate campaign. right now, are they at martinez came that 10th people, not sure of the safety of their pictures of the sexual orientation of the place. even simply leaving the house can be a problem. they're not safe to go outside. they're not as sure that you'd be safe unless you have the unity, but they environment and they and the situation right now will be rendered boil in 10th, and it will take some time before we get back to our home. but if the government criminalizing have a web minority group, i feel like that i will feel protected. homosexuality is still at a bu and canyon society. but in the light of edwin's death, the l. g. b, t q plus community and the allies are once again calling for acceptance. mt

criminalization. there's a lot of homophobia. there's a lot of hate to ads, people who, who's only who, who you are hating because they exist. you know, they exist. that's it. i leave, i'm leaving, i'm gay. so plain most of africa, the laws are very similar to those hearing kenya, in a jury, for example, one can get up to 14 years in prison, mental being gay. and in some parts of the country which are ruled by fleming sharia law, punishment even worse. nevertheless, there are few brave people with sending up for themselves. we meet one of them, the legal based fashion designer, daniel k, who is calling for more respect and acceptance. in conservative nigeria, same sex relationships, khattab who is a wholesale wild for the l. g b t q, class community. but like ocean teenager daniel concord has an idea to make it

a little friendlier with you inclusive question. brand case apparel ah very much. it is a think about so, so this coming, this one, the prison, i think personally as daniel quincy. so i had one disrespect discrimination on 3 percent. so growing up, i always been like bullied and all of that. so i got to read more and i found out about what to do. i've always been a 1st time i have to pick up on myself. despite the odd kids brand has been welcomed, especially in the l g b t q plus community. bold inscriptions like fem isn't weakness. jenda is fluid and weird can be seen and happening, hung out around lego. i think it's quite an innovative and intrusive brand. i've always had time finding stuff,

fit my gender expression like with this brand. it always it go get. i always find what i want. accomplishment one, my brands out and it will suit and be like why good. how do you mean 10 days students? but when i'm like yes, then there's a welcome to them in the loop. anybody kind of like, i mean the be the way it person isn't is own but the or the own body and the thought the need, like to switch something sees operating very variable come from. so each thinking just cause the unit kind of society where we leaving, it will always run things like this done, you know, runs an online store from his home. he revealed designs on his instagram page. clients can also request designs. daniel then gets a graphic artist to realize the artwork before supervising the doing and branding.

experiencing hostility is part of the job efficiency by defensive i. some people just come into my business page and just be like what's up, what are you doing? this is devil is this against got you on what and what's not on whatsoever. didn't people don't understand is my brand is not out for the, for just the particular person from the brand. it for every body and for his friends and customers wearing his clothes in steals a sense of pride that are going with my discretion to ask him what, why you were in something like this. what does this mean? you know, right? but then i understand is completely ignored. so most of the time i see it and i had to kid them or what things mean people find the script chunk, but i really do not care. this is me and i love a man with a message. and while people like daniel,

i think from what sceptre the society, many people have their own relationship battle to fight big or small. like who leon gets their attention nigerian couple living like you know, ruby. and while they knew they wanted to be together, their families and friends, well, they took a bit of convincing. with nairobi is east africa, melton port, attracting residents from across the continent and beyond. but i, king and capitals accept terms of diversity, does not always extend to matters of the heart of the beginning. it was very difficult when my wife go to places and introduce oh amazon and job. it was really whoa, used to be very which stereotype by dancing oh, you've come to care to steal our woman from aust cooler and get to a cross cultural relationship. may be unusual. but like many young people to love hot familiar beginners, we've met one or 2 i think yeah. austrian to,

to years. how is this fresh from school? he said talk to me and you know how we say deity and talking and yeah. i liked his vibe. he liked by vibe, he actually up front, he told me you're going to be the mother of my kids for neighbors, friends, and family. the new capos, but in love, connection was difficult to accept. i was now telling my friends, you know, these, that dating, you know, you know, telling a lot of people and then you know, come off and her. yeah. i met this guy, we've been seeing each other, and i'm not his ne jane. like what i sure they j a would you know about him? how do you know his back or he'll leave you today? comments like these will fall on deaf ears, yet. whose family have long since accepted the west african in law as a member of the family. but i wasn't always the case when he told me that i didn't know to believe it. i see what i could not agree the.

i said, i don't want to anything about it. i want you to see me when he told me that jerry and i was like, what is my very doing? can i know africa go to america or europe? so that was for me, mind blowing. another thing that i had was his muslim, ok, and my c says christian. so we really need to say is going to, because of i know my sis, i really love in some like i agree to become mostly. eventually the couple chose to put aside the may 5th, but yeah, dollars behind them, the path for ahead towards a shared life that blend the best of that different backgrounds include in, in the kitchen at the beginning, used to cook a lot for anyone like i'm visiting at please used to really, really like cooking, you know, i guess the day that time he was trying to lose me. like the me cook for you,

my wife. he told me how to make this to the law of the fried rice over them. i've come to enjoy most of the guarantee she's from a guy leave room, mulkey mall from lau from from moto ever dean. wherever you come from that is your background, your cultural, your age. what is your type it's? it's possible he lets me be me and i let him be here. it works for me perfectly. and we will just happy with when any of the end of our show. but we have one more issue to talk about that hot break. because like, you know, not, that's how some relationships and maybe most, i mean i can't be alone in showing you. you must have some experiences of your own . so let's hear them. well,

it may not be shown to be time. i may have walked out in a living have been before i think i'm the one actually i'm not interested in a given me a good deal with us today. so you just a, you just have to do read log in. i basically read the weather bug with article on the this particular the i will never forget because i believe you are, which i wait for that particular please return my call for like a long shot from appeal. i felt very odd that he did that. i believe i would never forget. i get all my trust. yeah. both. just take it for granted. and then it's off my head because yes, i'm a footballer. like you,

bye good to the beach. i'll perform well. like my guys a black. okay. was wrong with you, like why you, why, you know focus to be it was wrong or deep dive it out or? yeah, fine to me. i feel i'm, i'm doing my best. i didn't know. i wasn't doing the right thing on the peach, i get my bride end of the i ended up losing sight. i didn't get a low bike in return like my trust was taking for granted. so i just have to like exclude my thought, the relationships, but out by the it was funny. so since then, i swore not to have any relationship a 100 percent to get out to be extremely careful in order for me not to like pull a big thing for the 2nd timing, but i don't know how it is and that brings us to the end of the show this week, if you have story to share with us, connected us on social media, you can also write to us. so he will is 7 to 7 d, w dot com and subscribe to our youtube channel. we have you now with, you know, the do by now a big so thanks for watching. mm.

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