the fewest to questions. we smarter ones for us. psycho causes monster waves. how powerful are your thoughts? we can control our thoughts which makes us very powerful. questions about the universe and the rest were series. 42, the answers almost every thing this week, often w hello and welcome to the 77 percent. my name is edith commodity and i'm coming to you from the heart of ne ruby in the special edition of the 77 percent. we're going to talk about love relationships and of course, talk break. we'll find out what attracts people to each of us with nice. that's

especial spock. we'll hear how fox says like money and power planes relationship and well the reason is i know who wants people to express themselves most of your sexual orientation. so we know that money can complicate things in a partnership like when love or sex are used as an exchange for money. we're talking here, of course about splunk says, black says or so the mommies and daddies. so we want to stick a closer look at the blessed a bless the culture, specifically in south africa. and some young women opened up to us about the experience. i felt wondering though this next report discusses dependency and relationships and sexual violence. when she started his studies 23 year old in the plunder tumble from the widow was

struck by the expensive looks clothing and excessive shopping. hestetler classmates enjoyed to friends with so cold sleigh queens who depend on richmond to maintain the last stop. they introduced her to her own less than a wealthy married man, who was more than 20 years senior to assist sci fi we get the cd, right prostate. what the gifts did not comes with free. tumble, soon discovered that she need to perform sexual status. this is when she started having 2nd thoughts, you know, like doing what do you want? this is kind of just felt like i was the invited into, i'm sorry, says,

but type of prostitution. but then now i have to now make do with whatever just comes by just because of the, the fact that you want to slice that you want, you want soft fly slab. the snow, luxurious a soft pull to struggle to survive in a society with money and how a concentrated in the hands of miss tumble is somebody. and even believe money gives them the right to control a woman's freedom. 46 road modular villa, cause he has 3 mistresses. he does not allow them to work, leave the house without his permission or are in a cell phone woman that easily tend to. so we need to control that. they need to be in your finger tips. as a re election for me, i was the other night, i went to school so that i can have money. i can have power, i can control that his behavior might entirely undermine his girlfriend's. right.

to self determination seems a little concern to be the kazi, both he and his friend claim to pay that girlfriend around 400 years each. for simple mach longo, this is pure business. i mean that's the whole point. so let me know what we, what we do is we take care of women, then they what, what do we get into tennis? loved, that's all. that's all, nothing else. so it means i don't use the 6 um being taken care of to someone making you feel special in a recent sound afternoon. health of a one in 10 young women reported to have had transactions that this is a massive problem that says also jackie, pulsing. we meet the also in an up market hotel in johannesburg from what say as well known as the book, which feels to be on the blessing and blessing. culture promotes a experience with fluid borders between transactional sets and she's been traveling

to this hotel. yeah, i remember that as a young girl, she ran away from a violent time and became involved with a very wealthy man, a few months into the relationship. he took the on a private jewels with politicians, businessman and mistresses, being trapped in the middle of the ocean. she had no choice but to enjoy being raped multiple times. it can be changed. it like this. in a hot, if administer wants to buy you build value regardless of the thing in the group. so even if you're dating the wall, is that in the group taken change, you also have business deals because administer often traumatizing. yes. i'm not

saying manage to escape the garage, so the chief little girl wishes to merge the book about her experience. a warning that the world of glamour that we see on our phones and internet platforms is sometimes fun from the actual social media gives us an invasion of to fix it. comforts that to be expected. and people will that, that solution. and you don't even know that just to get a headset go district in front of us. what are the many other things you have to do? just for the one in the back in. so which will be because he meets his girlfriend on the legs. he wants to buy her a new hand back, which is nice, but it's not early enough for the luxuries she has a baby and needs the money to buy the basic necessities to pay rent at. she's well aware of the dependency she fine so. so it's said that as young calls have to

sleep with over guys and pretend is if the old you are okay with everything, just because of course, i don't hear it. chances of subs that you don't the 0 percentages of getting a to do anything and everything to good tell you what it says sits in time with a post credit economy in charges and then the unemployment rate of the 60 percent. the outlook for these young women is bleak, being blessed becomes a basic way of survival and the female body and object that can be both and thought it. but of course not all relationships, so this complicated and well money often plays a role. it's all fine about simpler things like who gets to pay for the bill and the dates. so we wanted to know what your experience as well and for this we went to millennium fox, you know, just i split views and it comes to green,

a big deal. some guys, the, the scene just gets on the fish like so much to the wall. yeah. yeah, look, well yeah, so you're not able to provide for different times where you want to have more than you think the most expensive place in the world to go to. and then by time you're going to anything like this one is of rise on it. i guess how much is good? i mean, you're calculating your, you know, if you back home because it obviously can afford the newest you to waynesville is if someone and i couldn't finish the food annual like you must finish. it tells me all right. it's like almost finished, you really nice ones. it has a red flag. like how will you tell me i must finish people because of these ways more than bang i in the i have no idea how it would behave. if somebody forced me to finish my fluid because they were paying for the bill, but you know what dating aside,

we also wanted to find out what attracts people to each other and what makes relationships work. so here's what you said. one thing that goes on is if i knew the picture like right on egypt as a respect as so i saw the she was bianca, it's the model. and basically i was just updating the scenario. i guess maybe there was a huge increase of my life. she was always there for me just of what the name, the time that i've never had such stuff was ever in my life. he's on this, let me just see on next to me. and when and by his role he do apologize. that the most amazing part of it's really interesting to me. she was always a good sort of, i mean to doing this, you're about me, you're about me and you just you're, you're about money runaways. and then he asked me what that was like, boy, thank you and have that. why don't you that can there are

a 1000000 different ways to love and who you choose to love should really only be a method for you and your partner much in life. this isn't always the case, your family friend, society and even national laws. can you tell me where you kind of can't have an intimate relationship with, as well as, who are you kind of identify as i'm talking about the l g, b to q plus community, which 2 faces this to me, that shown as well as defamation. and the test by both states as a society all around africa. so let's start off by unpacking gender identity and sexual orientation. and what the less essential we s o sits and relationship experts cause it's a breaking down for us. hello there and welcome to the spread a safe space where we get to discuss everything, sex and relationships. today we have a question on gender and sexual diversity. the question reads take as, as a pass, i'm trying to be a better l g

b t q plus ally. i'm finding it hard to understand all the new language around agenda, sexuality and 6. is there a way you can simplify it for me? so i can better understand how to conduct myself in spaces where i meet diverse groups. i'd really appreciate it. thanks. let's start by creating 3 boxes, biological or assigned sex, gender, and sexual orientation. each of these boxes has many sub sections but will focus on the most important points. the 1st box, biological sex, is what the doctor use is to identify you at best. based on your genet tatum. yeah . most of the time it's either male or female, but there are also cases where one is born with both male and female genitalia, that person is known as into 6. the 2nd box is agenda. gender is a social construct. it's what society throws that you to place you in a binary box of either male or female. for example,

dolls and the color pink are set to belong to only the girl. where is trucks and the color blue are set to belong to only boys, but not everybody conforms to this agenda. binary gender identity comes from your in a sense of self and may not align with the sex that you are assigned at best. you could be male, female, both neither or some other agenda. and this could mean for example, that you're not comfortable with a pronouns, he or she and would rather be referred to as they or them. for example, the sad box is sexual orientation. this has to do with the attraction that you have to a person based on their agenda, which can be romantic, emotional, or physical men. and women strictly attracted to the opposite agenda, a known as heterosexual. if you're attracted to someone of the same gender, you could be homeless actual, if you're attracted to someone regardless of their sex or gender identity,

you could be pansexual. keep in mind that this really is just the tip of the iceberg. this so much more to learn about the l g b t q plus community. i hope this has been helpful and i do urge you to keep doing your research online. well informed allies like you are very important. that's it for me, gaz till next time. good bye. thank you. okay, and if you're interested in learning more about special minorities or just indicating yourself about sex on the body in general, you can have to instagram page where we have a series this has on just that. now hearing kenya between 2 people of the same gender as to punishable by law. this law has been in place is nice you sexy and results in sexual minorities being harassed and left with virtually no protection from police of the states. in january 2023, a young can impression design the l g b to q activist. and when she logo was to walk to widespread,

created the community, we spoke to some people who are still willing to speak up can yes, l g b t q community is on a lot in january 2023 and went to law about a student fashion designer and gay rights activist was killed in the canyon town of old darn it is project depth sen shockwave through the community makeup artist and it's in gary. so of the impact when, when the news fust can you know like i was not sure what's happened, edwin and i was like, i really hope it's not about how he had things by themselves as of late. there's been a lot of hits. um, i've been receiving a lot of hips and lots of competitors on entering. everybody's telling me, you know, if you don't take care, you'll end up like, and we dentist was always aware that his sexual orientation was not accepted by society. but the online debate about edwin's death has to be generated into an

empty out to be q plus hate campaign. right now they, at the most phase came that changed the final 2 out of the safety of the sexually t of the a central orientation. i'm going to be, i walk please. you can simply leaving the house can be a problem. then not safe can go outside. you're not sure why that shouldn't be safe unless you have security to batch the environment and they and the solution, right? and now inside of beats, run grab was intense or, and it will take some time before it gets back to a conflict. so if the government came in the lives of hips to add my notary to groups, i feel like that's i, i, we feel protected homosexuality. split a boot and canyon society. but in the life of edwin stuff, the l g, b, t q plus community and the allies, a once again calling for acceptance and the criminalization phase and lots of

homophobia. these um, lots of hate sweats, people who was only, hopefully the hating because they exist at you know, they exist. that's it. i leave, i'm leaving, i'm jason, sorry. most parts of africa, the laws are very similar to those hearing kenya in a jury. a, for example, one can get up to 14 years in prison, mental being game, and in some parts of the country which are ruled by fleming. serial punishments even was, nevertheless, there are a few brave people who are standing up for themselves. we meet one of them, the legal space, fashion design, daniel k, who is calling for more respect and acceptance. in conservative nigeria, sam, 6 relationships khattab, who is the holster weld for the l. g. b t q class, community butler,

goshen. tina john, daniel kentucky, has an idea to make it a little friendly with you and to see question brand concave apparel very much. and so just think about. so in this coming is one of the reasons i hit the scenario as i'm done, we're going through. so i hit one disrespect to discrimination on 3 or press one, so green up. i always been like bullied on all of that. so i go through read one. i found out about that to you. i have always been a 1st time a up to stick off on myself. despite the odds, think it's brand has been welcomed, especially in the l g. b t q plus community. bold inscriptions like fem isn't weakness. gender is fluid and we can be seen of happening, hung out around legal i think it's quite a new way to and inclusive brand. i've always had

a hard time finding. the old stuff fits my agenda expression. but like with this bronze, it's always because i always find where i want this time of one my brand out and it will suit them be like like good. how do you maintain those students? stuff on them like this? then there's a special construct in minnesota. it's a split, anybody to come like, i mean, this isn't way efficient isn't, is one for the or the one for the and the thoughts the need like this, which something else sees upright. he's very, very clean from someone else's age thinking this call, cause you need kind of sustainability even always fun of things like this done. you runs an online store from he's home. he reveals designs on his instagram page. clients can also request designs done. you know them gets across the country is to realize the outward before supervising the ceiling and grunting, experiencing hostility is part of the job, the vision. so by the offensive,

i think it will just come on. and so my business page and just be like steve, what's up while you doing this is definitely this is against go serial on what's on, what's not on what so ever. the thing people don't understand is my brand is not out for the, for those particular presence of my brand before it would, 10 for his friends and customers were having his clothes in steals a sense of pride, my boss, and also includes my son to ask him what, while you're doing something like this, what does this mean? go to the snow, right? but then i want to spend is qualified for yourself. so most of the time i see the need to keep them. what things mean people find the scripts on some of the cases, but i really do not care. this is me on the line with a message. and while people like daniel a fighting for more except as

a society, many people have their own relationship backwards to fights, big or small, like cooling, get you. there are kind of like julian, couple living right here and they will be. and while they knew they wanted to put together their families and friends, well, they took a bit of convincing. nairobi is east of protest, melton port of trust in residents from across the continent and beyond. but a king and capitals acceptance of diversity. that's not always extent to motus hope your heart means was very difficult when my life go to places and in georgia is amazing. and jared was really low. they used to be a very which stereotype by dancing oh, you've come to can to steal our movement from aust kula and get to a cross cultural relationship. maybe unusual. but like many young people to love, how familiar applicants we manage what else could to i think yeah,

i'll send it to me is how is this fresh from school? he's sweet. talk to me and you know how we started d t and talking and yeah, i like to provide p like by vibe. he actually upfront, he told me you're going to beat the motto. light came from a best friends and family. the new couple was bought in love, connection was difficult to accept. i was now telling my friend to know these, that dating, you know, you know, telling a lot of people and then, you know, come often to, yeah, i met this guy, we've been seeing each other and i'm that she's a jane really was sure they did what do you know about him while do you know, is barker, he'll leave you today. comments like these with phone investigators get to somebody have long since accepted the west african as a member of the firm. but i wasn't always the case when he told me like that i didn't know to really see what i could not lazy.

i say it's, i don't want 3 anything about the i want you to see for us when he told me that jerry and i was like, what do they do and doing, can i know african go to america or europe. so that was for me and mind blowing. another thing that to had was he's mostly okay. and mostly says christian. so he really stays going to because of i know my sister, i really loved him. so i'm like, hey, we can become listening. eventually the couple chose to put aside the may see is but yet 1000 behind them, the passport ahead to us the said life, the blend, the best of that different backgrounds include in, in the kitchen at the beginning of the cook. a lot for sunday when like i'm visiting please use to really he like cocaine, you know, i guess best the, the time he was trying to,

i me it is like somebody called for you. my wife. he told me how to make this deals dental. the fried rice overtime i've come to enjoy most of the guaranteed issues. if i'm a guy, the rule mulkey mall from the low, from a, from my to get everything. wherever you going from that is a video background. your cultural on your age, what devices your type it's, it's possible he lets me be me and i let him be. she is walk for me. perfect. and we were just happy with when any of the end of the show. but we have one more issue to talk about so that i can break because liked it or not, that's how some relationship sends me the most. i mean, i can be alone in the show. you must have some experiences of your own. so let's hear them. but it may not be shown, steve, and i may have worked out

a little bit. i think i'm the one actually standing up. i'm not interested in the you've given me. yeah. and it just means a lot of us. so you just mean you just have the red flag. i basically read it. there wasn't a budgeting this with this and it says that a lot of the spots black the i wouldn't even forget because uh i invited ag on uh which i wait for that particular piece which is for how for like a long as i shop more than enough so i felt very, very glad to do that. i believe i always never forget, i get all my trust able to take any for granted and damage of my head because yes, i mean football. like if i go to the beach all perform well,

like my guys are black. okay. what's wrong with you? that's why you why you know, for us to be was wrong or deep dive it out. well yeah, i'm fine to me actually i'm, i'm do my best. i didn't know i wasn't doing the writing on the beach. i did my bride end of the i ended up losing sight. i didn't get a lot by giving phone like my trust was taking for granted, so i just have to like i exclude myself, other relationships them so that our body is less than that. so this is a nice one not to keep in relationship wonder present again opposite extremely gave me an order for me notes like for the big thing for the stick on finding it but out of high speed. and that brings us to the end of the show this week. if you have story is to share with us connected, also, social media, you can also write to us. so e mail is 7 to 7, the dw dot com and subscribe to our youtube channel. we have you now with, you know, the do by now. a big too good. thanks for watching the

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