in the future, a sub and lice big cities on the newsletter, 5 minutes and give me a sec phone. the operator who wrote her master's thesis on for potato really to read not to turn on. well, it gets more ridiculous from there. for true list. big german, 3, the hello and welcome to the 77 percent. my name is edith kimani and i'm coming to you from the heart of ne ruby in the special edition of the 77 percent. we're going to talk about love relationships and of course, hot break. we'll find out what attracts people to each of us with nice. that's

especial spock. we'll hear how foxes like money and power planes relationship and well, reason is i know who wants people to express themselves know most of your sexual orientation. so we know that money can complicate things in a partnership like when love or sex. i used as an exchange for money. we're talking here, of course about splunk says black says or so the mommies and daddies. so we want to stick a closer look at the blessed a bless the culture, specifically in south africa. and some young women opened up to us about the experience. i felt wondering though this next report discusses dependency and relationships and sexual violence. when she started his studies 23 year old in the plunder,

a tumble from the window was struck by the expensive looks clothing and excessive shopping. hestetler classmates enjoyed to friends with so cold sleigh queens who depend on richmond to maintain the livestock. they introduced her to her own less than a wealthy married man who was more than 20 years senior to this c p. lily gifts, he doesn't have to do the right policy but the gifts did not come to free and tumble soon discovered that she need to perform sexual status. this is when she started having 2nd thoughts, you know, like, doing really want, this is kind of just felt like i was be invited into, i'm sorry, says, but type of prostitution. but then now i have to now make do with whatever just

comes by just because of the, the fact that you want to slice that you want. you want soft lice. lavish know that various a soft pull to struggle to survive in a society with money and how a concentrated in the hands of mid tempo is some man. even believe money gives him the right to control a woman's freedom. 46 road modular villa kazi has 3 mistresses. he does not allow them to work, lead the house without his permission or in a cell phone may not easily tend to so we need to control that. they need to be in your finger tips. it has a re election for me. i was the other heart. i went to school so that i can have money. i can have power. i can control that his behavior might entirely unto mine

his girlfriend's right to self determination seems a little concerned to be the kazi, both he and his friend claim to pay that girlfriend around 400 years each cuz people mock long ago. this is pure business. i mean, that's the whole point. so let me know what we, what we do is we take care of women. then they what, what do we get into the attendance love? that's all. that's all, nothing else. so it means i don't use the 6 um being taken care of just someone making you feel special in a recent sound options and health of a one in 10 young women reported to have had transactions that this is a massive problem that says also jackie, pulsing we meet the also in an up market hotel in johannesburg from what say as well known as the book, which feels to be on the blessing and blessing. culture promotes a experience with fluid borders between transactional sets and she's been traveling

to this hotel. yeah, i remember that as a young girl, she ran away from a violent time and became involved with a very wealthy man, a few months into that relationship. he took the on a private jewels with politicians, businessman and the mistresses being trapped in the middle of the ocean. she had no choice but to enjoy being raped multiple times. it can be changed. it like this. in a hot, if administer wants to buy, you feel valued regardless of what you stating in the group. so even if you're dating the wall, is that in the group taken change, you also have business deals because administer often traumatizing. yes. i'm not

saying manage to escape the garage, so the chief little girl wishes to merge the book, not her experience is a warning that the world of glamour that we see on our phones and internet platforms is sometimes fun from the actual social media gives us an invasion of to fix it, comforts that to be expected. and people will that, that solutions and you don't even know that just to get a headset go district in front of us. what are the many other things you have to do? just for the one in the back in so which will be because he meets his girlfriend will be late tomorrow. he wants to buy her a new hand back, which is nice, but it's not early enough for the luxuries she has a baby and need some money to buy the basic necessities to pay rent at. she's well aware of the dependency she fine so. so it's said that as young calls have to sleep with over guys and pretend is if the old you are okay with everything,

just because of course, i don't hear chances of subs that you don't the 0 percentages of getting a to do anything and everything to good, tell you what it says sits in time with a post credit economy in charges and then the unemployment rate of the 60 percent. the outlook for these young women is bleak. being blessed becomes a basic way of survival and the female body and objects that can be bush and box it . but of course not all relationships. so this complicated and well money often plays a role. it's all fine about simpler things like who gets to pay for the bill and the dates. so we wanted to know what your experience as well and for this we went to millennium fox. you know, we'll just switch views and it comes to green,

a big deal. some guys the, the scene just gets on the fisher leg so much wrong. so this. yeah, yeah. look, well yeah. so you're not able to provide for different times where you want to have more than you think the most expensive place in the world to go to. and then by time you're going to anything like this one is of verizon that i got, how much is a really good, i mean, you're calculating your, you know, if you back home because it obviously can afford the newest you to waynesville. is there someone and i couldn't finish the food annual like you must finish, it tells me all right. it's like almost finished. you really nice lunch because a red flag like how will you tell me i must finish conclude because this way more than bang i in the i have no idea how it would behave. if somebody forced me to finish my would because they were paying for the bill, but you know what dating aside, we also wanted to find out what attracts people to each other and what makes

relationships work. so here's what you said. one thing that draws in sonya eve, i knew the picture like right on the professor, respect i. so i saw the she was bianca. it's going to model. and basically i was just in the i dropped fits and i guess every day with a huge increase of my life, she was always there for me just of what the need the time that i've never had such stuff was ever in my life. he's on this, let me just see on next to me and run it by his role. he do apologize. that the most amazing part of it's really interesting to me. she was always a good sort of. i mean, oh, don't this, you're about me. you're about me and the decision about money, runaways. and when he asked me what that was like for that kind of that, why didn't use that man. there are

a 1000000 different ways to love. and who you choose to love should really only be a method for you and your partner, much in life. this isn't always the case. your family, friends, society and even national laws. can you tell me where you kind of can't have an intimate relationship with, as well as, who are you kind of identify as i'm talking about the l g, b, 6, you plus community, we're still faces. this coming to shown as well as defamation, and attack by both states as a society all around africa. so let's start off by unpacking gender identity and sexual orientation. and what the less essential we s o sits and relationship experts cause it's a breaking down for us. hello there and welcome to the spread a safe space where we get to discuss everything, sex and relationships. today we have a question on gender and sexual diversity. the question reads take as, as a pass, i'm trying to be a best a l g b t q plus ally. i'm finding it hard to understand all the new language around

agenda, sexuality and 6. is there a way you can simplify it for me? so i can better understand how to conduct myself in spaces where i meet diverse groups. i'd really appreciate it. thanks. let's start by creating 3 boxes, biological or assigned sex, gender, and sexual orientation. each of these boxes has many sub sections but will focus on the most important points. the 1st box, biological 6, is what the doctor use is to identify you at best. based on your genet tatum. yeah . most of the time it's either male or female, but there are also cases where one is born with both male and female genitalia, that person is known as, intersects the 2nd box is agenda. gender is a social construct. it's what society throws that you to place you in a binary box of either male or female. for example, dolls and the color pink are set to belong to only the girl. where is trucks and

the color blue are set to belong to only boys, but not everybody conforms to this agenda. binary gender identity comes from your in a sense of self and may not align with the sex that you are assigned at best. you could be male, female, both neither or some other agenda. and this could mean for example, that you're not comfortable with a pronouns, he or she and would rather be referred to as they or them. for example, the fed box is sexual orientation. this has to do with the attraction that you have to a person based on their agenda, which can be romantic, emotional, or physical men. and women strictly attracted to the opposite agenda, a known as heterosexual. if you're attracted to someone of the same gender, you could be homeless actual, if you're attracted to someone regardless of their sex or gender identity,

you could be pansexual. keep in mind that this really is just the tip of the iceberg. this so much more to learn about the l g b t q plus community. i hope this has been helpful and i do urge you to keep doing your research online. well informed allies like you are very important. that's it for me, gaz till next time. good bye. thank you. okay, and if you're interested in learning more about special minorities or just indicating yourself about sex on the body in general, you can have to instagram page where we have a series this has on just that. now hearing kenya between 2 people of the same gender as to punishable by law. this law has been in place is nice you sexy and result in sexual minorities being harassed and left with virtually no protection from police of the states. in january 2023, a young can impression design the and l g b to q activist. and when she logo was to walk to widespread, created the community,

we spoke to some people who are still willing to speak up can yes, l g b t q community is on a lot in january 2023 and went to law about a student fashion designer and gay rights activist was killed in the canyon town of el darn it. is project death since shockwave through the community makeup artist dennis and gary. so of the impact when, when the news fust can you know, like i was not sure what's happened, evan. and i was like, i really hope it's not about how he had things by themselves as of late. there's been a lot of hits. um i've been receiving a lot of hips and lots of competitors on entering. everybody's telling me, you know, if you don't take care, you'll end up like, and we dentist was always aware that his sexual orientation was not accepted by society. but the online debate about edwin's death has to be generated into an

empty out to be q plus campaign. right now they, at the most phase came that changed the final try of the safety of the sexuality of their sexual orientation. i'm going to be, i walk place even simply leaving the house can be a problem. they're not safe to go outside. you're not sure that shouldn't be safe unless you have security to but the environment and they and decision, right? and now inside of beats, run, grab well, intense or and it will take some time before it gets back to a conflict. so if the government came in the lives of hips to add my notary to groups, i feel like that's i, i, we feel protected homosexuality. split a boot and canyon society. but in the life of edwin stuff, the l g, b, t q plus community and the allies, a once again calling for acceptance and the criminalization phase and lots of

homophobia. these um, lots of hate sweats, people who was only, hopefully the hating because they exist. you know, they exist. that's it. um i leave, i'm leaving, i'm getting some most plus a vast because the laws are very similar to those hearing kenya, in a jury a for example, one can get up to 14 years in prison, mental being gain. and in some parts of the country which are ruled by fleming serial punishments even was nevertheless, there are a few brave people who are standing up for themselves. we meet one of them, the legal space, fashion design, daniel k, who is calling for more respect and acceptance. in conservative nigeria, same sex relationships, khattab who is the whole stay well for the l. g, b, t, q, class community but like ocean, tina john daniel k has an idea to make it

a little friendly with you and to see question brand concave apparel very much and so just think about. so in this coming is one of the reasons i hit the scenario as i'm done, we're going through so i hit one disrespect to discrimination on 3 or press one. so green up. i always been like bullied on all of that. so i go through, read one i found out about to you. i've always been a 1st time a up to stick off on myself. despite the odds, think it's brand has been welcomed, especially in the l g. b t q plus community. bold inscriptions like fan isn't weakness, gender is fluid and we can be seen of happening, hung out around legal i think it's quite um and you know, and inclusive brand. i've always had

a hard time finding. the old stuff fits my agenda expression. but like with this bronze, it's always because i always find what i want because this time of one my brand outs and it will suit them be like, like good. how do you maintain those students stuff on them like this? and then there's a special construct in minnesota it's, it's clear to anybody to come like, i mean, this isn't way efficient isn't, is one for the or the one for the and the thoughts the need, like switch something else sees upright. he's very, very clear from someone else's age. taking these calls course is really kind of society really leaving it always front of things like this. done, you runs an online store from he's home. he reveals designs on his instagram page. clients can also request designs done. you know them gets across the country is to realize the outward before supervising the ceiling and branding, experiencing hostility is part of the job, the decisions they've,

i'd have to answer that some people just come on. and so my business page and just be like to see what's up while you doing this is definitely this is against go serial on what's on what's not on what so ever. the thing people don't understand is my brand is not out for the, for just the origin particular presence of my brand before it would, 10 for his friends and customers were having his clothes in steals a sense of pride. 5 was that was the only weeks my son to ask what? while you're doing something like this, what does this mean? does it is no right? but then i want to spend so most of the time i see the need to keep them. what's things mean? people find the scripts on some of the cases, but i really do not care. this is me on the line with a message. and while people like daniel a fighting for more except as

a society, many people have their own relationship battle fights, big or small. like cooling, get you, there are kind of like julian, couple living right here and they will be and while they knew they wanted to put together their families and friends, well, they took a bit of convincing nairobi is, is tougher test melton, port of trust in residents from across the continent and beyond. but a king and capitals acceptance of diversity that's not always extent to motus of the heart of the beginning. these was very difficult when my life go to places and in georgia is amazing. and jared was really low. they used to be a very which stereotype buying k n c o, you've come to can to steal our movement from aust kula and get to a cross cultural relationship. maybe unusual. but like many young people to love, how familiar applicants we manage what else to i think yeah,

i'll send it to me is how is this fresh from school? he's sweet. talk to me and you know how we started d t and talking and yeah, i like, she's via p like by vibe. he actually upfront, he told me, you're going to pete. the motto light came from a best friends and family. the new couple was bought in love, connection was difficult to accept. i was now telling my friend to know these, that dating, you know, you know, telling a lot of people and then you know, come often to, yeah, i met this guy, we've been seeing each other and i'm that she's a jane and really was sure they did what do you know about him while do you know his background? he'll review today. comments like these with phone investigators get to somebody have long since accepted the west african as a member of the firm. but i wasn't always the case when he told me like that i didn't know to bleed and see what i could not lazy.

i said i don't 13, anything about the i want you to seem fit for us. i mean, when he told me that jerry and i was like, what do they do and doing, can i know african go to america or europe. so that was for me and mind blowing. another thing that to had was, he's mostly okay. and my son says christian, so he really says, going to cause of, i know my sis, i really love him. so i'm like, hey, we become listening. eventually, the couple of chose to put aside the may see is but yet 1000 behind them the path for ahead to us to shed light that blend the best of the different backgrounds. included in the kitchen of the beginning is to cook a lot for send you in like i'm visiting, please use the really, really like cocaine, you know, i guess best the, the time he was trying to, i me, it is like somebody called for you,

my wife he told me how to make this deals dental, the fried rice, overtime i've come to enjoy most of the guarantee she's from guy the from multi mall from the low, from a, from my to get everything wherever you going from that is a video background. you'll cultural, you'll edge, what do i tease your type? it's, it's possible he lets me be me and i let him be. she is walk for me, buffy. and we were just happy with when any of the end of the show. but we have one more issue to talk about that. talk to break because liked it or not. that's how some relationship spends. it may be most, i mean i can be alone in this. surely you must have some experiences of your own. so let's have them read. it may not you've shown steve, and i may have. well,

so i'm looking at i think i'm the one actually that i'm interested in the 3 the you've given me. yeah. and they did this as us. so you just need to go through them. and you just calculated the red flag. i basically read that there was a budgeting this with us and he said that a lot of the spots black the i wouldn't even forget because uh i invited him on uh which i wait for that particular piece with me for how for like a long shot more so i felt very, very glad to do that. i believe i always never forget, i get all my trust able to take any for granted and damage of my head because yes, i mean football. like if i go to the beach all perform well,

like my guys are black. okay. was wrong with you. that's why you why you know, for us to be, it was wrong or keep telling me that well, yeah, i'm fine to me. actually i'm, i'm doing my best. i didn't know i wasn't doing the right thing on the beach. i get my bride, end of the i ended up lose insights. i didn't get a lot by giving the phone like my trust was taken for granted. so i just have to like exclude myself, other relationships, them without our body to us. so since then i one not too deep in relationship wonder present again opposite extremely gave me an order for me notes like for the big thing for the stick on finding it but out of high speed. and that brings us to the end of the show. this week, if you have stories to share with us, connected also social media, you can also write to us. so e mail is $7.00 to $7.00, the dw calls and subscribe to our youtube channel. we have, you know, with, you know, the do by now, a big too. and thanks for watching the,

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