the how did it all begin? how did a sealed in northern germany become the most theme festival in the world? in 60 minutes on dw would or sports all of our scoring. we say they were about never giving up. sports flies every weekend on d w. the are you a woman looking for the man of her dreams for a man looking for the man? if your dream, or perhaps the man and woman of your 3, perhaps your transgender, or could care less? what sex your partner is. regardless of who you are,

looking for relationships, all have something in common. they can get pretty challenging they can lead to fight conflict and jealousy. despite those drawbacks, most of us want a special someone, findings loving relationships and keeping it today on, in good shape. the it's nice to have friends and family to have a social network, but does it also make you healthier? is it comfortable to eating a balance, diet or regular exercise? research from the 1970s provided some of the 1st science faced clues that is the

study back done, analyze data from almost 7000 people. among other topics. the researchers looked at the effect of social relationships. they compared better connected people with lonely or individuals over the course of 9 years, significantly more of the latter died in those in the socially connected group. a more recent study was more extensive analyzing statistical data from around 3000000 people. and over a much longer period of time, it likewise indicated that mortality rises with perceived loneliness. the researchers said the effect was comparable to that associated with obesity or smoking. what could be the reason do network people simply get more assistance when they will help with shopping. changing bandages or visiting the dr. board does the higher mortality rate have. another reason,

research shows that low lead people have increased levels of the stress hormone cortisol in their bodies and produce fewer immune cells. so maintaining social connections is just as important to good health as diet or exercise. so having friends is good to be a house and dedicated partnerships, usually all to but not always. people who are in relationships are less likely to die prematurely. they can keep the advices more easily. and in general they smoke and drink less. on the flip side, people in partnerships tend to exercise lice and gain weight, especially in the early stages of the relationship. those are still in the market will tend to pay more attention to how they look. finding your dream talk now isn't always easy and it can take time the world wide around one and 3 singles. now use

online dating tools, but they don't necessarily make the potent search any simpler. i wouldn't choose fill it full time regularly. that's like millions of people around the world. maria is looking for love with digital health. online dating is a lucrative business step boom to joined upon. demick. marie has been using data out for several years, but the she, a number of potential partners can be more of a hindrance than a help. as a see, all saw, there's a lot of choice. it's been on has. it's just often overwhelming. i don't know who i should meet, 50 will contact me stumps, files or vendor those files. like maybe you take someone to 2 or 3 days about meeting with them and then it runs out of steam and you just never hear from them. again, you don't have a problem for them, but you can invest old as time and energy and it comes to nothing above all. she's come to doubt the system. does talk so. so the toxic thing about it is that everyone is very interchangeable. let me pull very superficial,

are still not read. it isn't ready to give up on dating apps just yet. until now. all of the 24 year old relationships begun online after 2 months without a date. she's giving it another go to day. rituals help keep a feed on the ground. so just like top of sip of coffee, a little perfume plus the jacket because the weather was so nice today. then if we go on was of the fact most. one day she hopes to finally made the right guy. the constant searching has made her feel even more alone. she has one single wish, but the days run even this column, that's the 5 best case. i'll come home with a smile on my face, and we'll look forward to seeing him again. and if it goes well, he might text back and say he enjoyed the date and we'd like to meet up again. but will this be the last best dates? and maria an hour and a half later. so how did the day go, maria?

i'm actually pretty well. he was a little late, but that's okay. that's kind of like the problem, but she's not installing the app just yet. when to the 1st date, you still have illusions about the past and, but since then you really locked into things. so you only get to know someone back to erupt. and i said on the full date, i wouldn't use the up for now, but it will stay on my phone. and you know, it will find out more on the next date, which will be taking place. you know, chemistry on your date. you might want to try a new tech top trent, the triangle method. imagine a triangle super imposed on the face of your opposite number, a point on each of the eyes. the 3rd one is centered on the mouse. first look in one eye, then glanced at the mouse,

followed by the other. i allegedly, the signal was clear interest to a potential partner. but maybe you weren't looking for the month of your life, more of a casual thing, but not just the one nightstand. something in between. how about a situation here they get along well, spend a lot of time together and or physically intimate. sounds like they've coupled up, but they haven't. so a friendship with benefits. yeah. but more than that, people in a situation ship are not just bodies, but they avoid clarifying whether they're in a relationship is this causes the vast reading of a team to go. i'm just a little more. it's a convenience relationship. all the use elements actually present our sexuality, closeness, testing, and even to some extent go into these activities. but there is no commitment and

they don't make it public. there's also no talk about feelings and no real planning for the future. such a historical planet. it's about enjoying that here and now with each other, but without it leading to something more permanent. so neither a relationship nor a regular friendship kind of in between. so a situation shift i could imagine they would be an option for me. why? because it's all it's casual, it's relaxed, there's no precious bundle kind of been postponed. plus the one should decide what they prefer personally, but i like it when it's more defined. for me, especially on y'alls, probably not for me. it's because i like to know where i stand this device for some box i like the clarity or the mock. that's why i don't think it works and the pennies for misquote kind. possibly some of that stuff again that i don't want to commit to anymore. well, i'm like that myself. i often don't make any decisions,

because then i can, these every single person opens a high con, say whether that's good about all the intend or profiles, at least searches for situation ships where 49 percent more popular then for committed relationships. relationship counselor, martine a movie is also knows about the phenomenon from clients it's gift. so gosh, just how young people have told me they're advertising slogans and targeting the feeling when you don't want to permit. and often these, you don't have to do anything. you can just pick someone up more or less and pasting jim on them for by getting my cough. according to a dating app survey, $1.10 young singles favors situation. chips is communication. the issue, a fear of firm commitment or simply the desire for more freedom. so as i imagine, people don't want to get into obsessive relationships on my mind. you know,

when they're science, you want to leave as many options as possible open. and then i could imagine kind of fearing to talk about that, but sometimes lots of one people don't want to take responsibility for themselves and they're actually much fit. your tone or avoidance is simpler and football. that's a whole some big so good for life id because the times i'm moving so fast leave you don't want to have to rely on someone. you can just hook up with a partner for a little while and then the next one with, with them pop up. so you know, so dependents on one person. and they so opinions from the avoiding typical relationship names can be a relief. we don't have to meet each other's parents or by gifts for every occasion . situations yet just as loose, easy labels for maybe the precursor to something more. in reality, things tend to get complicated. send that so i'm just, it would be to exhausting for me. and i want to know where i stand and what's going on. it's been on a bus the hers. and that's trace in this situation shift feeling surprised quickly,

but they're usually one sided. you can be hurt more quickly because you don't have to same obligations as in a relationship why one person might feel comfortable in this situation. chip setting the other may develop a desire for something more permanent. a constellation that can make someone very unhappy when someone realizes that they're basically being left around on their long lease and their needs and not taking into account at all. well, it looks like this that and then i can only advise that person to hit the brakes immediately depends. there is no point, does have to kind in, in order to work situation, ships have to make both partners happy. otherwise, the relationship without a label is the wrong one. how do you meet that special? someone varies across the world. in the us, a lot of people say they meant the apartment through friends in

a box. where as many chinese men visit a dating school before trying their luck in japan, people apparently prefer looking for potential partners in group settings. and it's also a roommate to when a brazilian the moment suggests the one on one date. she means business in india and many other countries. oranges are often still arranged by parents on pre marital sex is found on it can be hard to find the middle ground, especially when people who have been raised some very different cultures point in love. then things can get complicated lima as the them s doesn't mean decoration is of love and of buying national relationships between 2 people from different cultures who are found that a family in the 3rd country challenging, but also

a very enriching situation. niema comes to me around anita from lafayette. they spend a love in germany. the ask since i'm one of the 1st few months that disclosed you don't even notice the little stuff then seem like i always good with. well, i was feeling good, but after a certain amount of time, you start to notice a few things that aren't familiar. and i've linset locked into them in very direct and, and how does and seems to you that it's been dr. loud. i'm ok the night to talk about the problem directly. he needs to go to web talks this, then we can talk about that 1st you need some drama expression about from will see that a certain collision of to wells, each with different socialization and family structures. fall from a simple situation. i am going to say to the theater that we had it said or full stage, and then he just didn't show up. when i come to sleep so long that i go to ask what he was and he was still in bed this often. as often as the 5th i should have. i

didn't really ever sleep on. i was late and i'm still paying the price for that. um, i work on that, so just basically, i would say that persians or less particular, about time and punctuality over that type of stuff. niema also have to loans and how members of a lot to be and finally conduct themselves is different than in his homeland spots . but i was visiting my mother in law suite and saying good bye um, but if you don't like moments like that, should hudgens hook each other and say a heart felt good bye at this. uh, the stop. see that on the last i, fox, but i just got a note in a couple of people. it is up to them. and that was, that was surprising to me yet. this is, i got some notes in a good way. and when i learnt at some point that it's just coming to practice garden gate, it's totally normal. it just took me awhile to get to it. but since then, it's all been just fine, getting it for somehow the fun, but the names of out sort of fine people is a consensus, right?

there's any place or the right to left or left to right. if i still don't know exactly, that's nice to me. yeah, this is for miss noise. this isn't the way from all receptor when it comes to saying hi, hug. so actually really mad, i'm only when you're really good friends. and you put too much any to fuel putting it on christian the so i can just go in the process of being tournament and open to new things is a prerequisite for anita name is relationship. they also work together to find new rituals for their own family. by bringing together, cherished traditions as a sort of us. yeah. we take a little bit of every single day. we celebrate person. new. yeah. because of the grandparents. but of course, also christmas site, but it's easy because the kids are going got the fox news and it's a big deal in kindergarten. so there are some left in festivals that we also celebrate sending the like mid summer nights, mid some access to something like we do it on the,

on the one hand because it's fun assignments on the other because it helps show how others live and what you can celebrate with the making of a living and trust me, i know that it's not for me, it's a fact. i'm just not as it was. so it makes everything more interesting. it's a children in 3 languages. simple trying to sleep with ending 3 coaches off. i love the stuff comes and willingness to learn that them and see how others live in, but what they do and what i can learn from them. that's the, that's something i hope we can show our children being by itself a that's the other ones i can tell you can fall into the mainland when it never gets boring. it's interesting. well, there's always something new to discover a now sometimes i realize i may have become a bit persian, and my husband has become a bit lot fee and jim and a lot to be in persian gym. and finally, it's not always easy. but there's never a dull moment. even if new life can cause you to feel

like you're on cloud 9, it won't always be plain sailing. reasons for flights often include messiness, punctuality, money, jealousy, for driving style. fighting is just a part of having a relationship, but what's the right way to do it? relationships just wouldn't be the same without some arguments. when opposing opinions collide, some people revert to play ground tactics. if it's coming out loud with some doors and stuff like that, the 1st one is you, i think it's okay to blow a 100 to see him now. and again. it's come to that always depends on how well you have his health under control. whether things remain calm or get a little bit more intense opiates, as any couples therapist would tell, you arguing as part of every relationship. but the crucial thing says is data is learning how to argue, because fighting can also destroy

a relationship. then pauses when covered, say i can't explain myself anymore. i get furious that i feel like your enemy, i graphed you by the um and wants you to sit down some drives the desk and things like that happen often done a relationship with no longer withstand. it clearly there are boundaries that must not be crossed violence for one, but what is acceptable during an argument and what's completely off limits. you can send the starting stuff for me as well as that would be where i say i stop right there. so my view, yes, the other falling asleep is not good, so it needs to come get to pass. so a lot, even an argument has to be disciplined and all the good news is that you can learn disciplined ways of arguing. rules can help like setting a time or sharing feelings is important,

but so is listening and you have to really listen and understand what the other person is saying. it's just kind of incentives of responding emotionally and then look at what they actually want and then throw the right conclusions. just not something that isn't that i'm not saying nothing or just walking away is just a passive way to quarrel. it's not helpful. and we'll just try and then good argument. participants might maintain eye contact. shanella. i don't to run out of the room and leave you sitting alone trying or unhappiness, and zones that you finish showed up. i don't to interrupt you and very important point. i stage the subject of my argument online, describes although it's very normal to argue some couple of say they almost never do it. you know, they've been together for 10 years now and married for 3 of them. so i guess we

just started to feel like it's carlos total, although that's what many people say they want. it isn't always proof of a good relationship. what is that when i hand up my ears pickup and i think some things up mine who blacked it's buried somewhere, was done. then one of them breaks up and says, they haven't really felt heavy at the other side for the last 10 years. but it's never good talked about them. it's important not to cover up conflicts, but showing some good humor and generosity can make dealing with them easier. don't texting just seriously the 1st time it comes up, trying to reflect to my not always with it's but it's good to think about it because you know, it could escalate gene by my answer to i'm going to always lose your cool the money . i'm sure most of the young so the cool head can be good for the relationship

house can praise the veterans who just appreciating your populace of the sides to that you care for me. listen to me or feel that you listen to the kids and a reliable and effect measure to live on time. yeah, that's good for everyone to hear. you mentioned bluetooth and it makes, making up after a fight, easier to learning how to disagree as an important aspect of partnerships that stand the test of time. but what are the secret saga hind, successful long term relationships? there are so many coaches cooks chips and tutorials out there. it's amazing that people still even breakup, but lifelong love is a challenge. how do you achieve it? we asked a couple who should know? i hear you go. did you bring my pill? yeah, of course. being there for each other, having time for one another to 42 years of marriage. that's how gabriela and class

at define the love i've talked you tonight on just the affection the love for each other. yeah. just condos county as well. yes. that's the title. putney is incredibly important. dust is out of and you'll have to be able to spend time together for putting into couldn't pass. story began back in 1973 and they us originally from berlin, presented his aunt in southern germany. she was a doctor, and gabriella was a training and practice. she knew immediately, but it took under the 6 years to make up his mind to good a lawyer, but i was thinking, it's time i got married up my, i have my job. i have to start a family sometime and then i ran into gobby and i said, i'm not letting you go and i have executive team. and i cannot y'all exactly

this fall, any option which phone call? if it was totally spontaneous on each phone that you see here, if you thought it was because i was search and i wanted to be together with him most that didn't mention to some indeed. but with everyday life, things got tough up between work and raising children to become to quarrel with increasing frequency on the questionnaire relationship. bob lost on my soul to go to the points that we were really at the end devoted to this guy talk so much. so that we said we no longer understand each other and there's only one thing to do. split up on the ship's captain. andreas was of sea for months at a time on campus, and i was alone at home with the 3 kids. i simply wasn't enough time, not only for their own hobbies and interests, but also for them as a couple. the son, julian remembers volume of to talk to should officer in the home phone. they were arguing a lot. that's something you noticed as a child,

like when you're already in bed and then hear your parents arguing in the kitchen. i noticed that on top of that whole building a house cost the money and a lot of energy and class ad started schiffwood. but the couple didn't want to just give up. so they went to a marriage counselor. what does that mean? asked her why she'd marriage movie in monica high about it. then she just stared and i thought, oh this is like having your pants pulled down on. then she started to tell him and he said, don't tell me. tell your husband look at him, nodded me. i'm glad to see that toby pilot, the yeah. how in virus thing is that, is it the most is the on show? so i had to look at you sock and tell you why we were a couple also on the, on, on the answer is of course, the 80 something because i love this person. i loved him in your simple realization that kept him family together. ever since. love has many emotional

facets, but partnerships can also have some practical angles. like when it comes to exercise, just as a temp. as we all know, couples who exercise together stay together. that's why i have maybe with me. so now i do a good exercise for app is called the pop not crunches and it goes like this. you sit facing each other and then you hook 2 angles together, laid down on your back. and then you roll off together until you clap your hands with your partner and they go down again. and this is the exercise to go right up. and never forget to smile once you up because like a to your up to partner. and the challenge is the one who stop smiling at the end,

lose the game, use the exercise the so mind to start with 50 reputations at the beginning. if you're getting on well right now, you do a photo wraps and if you're not getting on well right now, so to 100, you know, seriously, safety entails sort of repetitions and, and the beginning is a good benchmark to start with. so get out there and have fun by working out with your partner. see you again next week on in good shape, bye for now. the

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