or w mines or sports, all of our scoring we say there about never giving up sports flies every weekend on dw, the walking down the hallway at school used to feel brian, here with dread. today he visits schools voluntarily. but for 12 years school was a living nightmare was done by the candidate. if i look for any reason to hurt you with a said it would be seek, it might be the way you look when you're not clever. you are off with your clothes or your taste. we're not going to be stuck. there can be

a 1000 reasons. so i needed more people to know what none of them should be a reason for bullying and at school they left the schools are meant to be a safe place for children where they can receive an education grow in their personal development and learn to interact with others, but when children are excluded and bullied, their lives can become miserable. according to the united nations, one and 3 children experience some form of bullying, often leaving lifelong scars the brain. he now works as a volunteer getting workshops designed to prevent bullying. most of them are in spain. today he's out of school in the tiny,

neighboring country of in dora by magic errors. and i'm going to tell you about my book that i published and it's called beating, but not defeated. the ago i experience bullying at school, but it was don't know because that's one of the 3 parties that's not the victim and the rest of it then we had with the observer. this became a head. i saw the upset about a, an upset by the i p observer causes just as much damage as the aggressor, i would say, even more because they're just looking on and not getting help. i part of the initial part from the observer. who do you think needs the most self confidence? that is the victim. that'd be the, the victim by okay. why what? okay. why, what? okay. no. because we shouldn't let the things other people say a sink this. so of course they can hurt, is the industrials, but mostly because you have to develop a sense of self worth and incidence like that culture. forget if people call us names, it needs to go in one ear and out. the other thing. what's your name?

jody. do you agree with jody by me right. brian is 23 years old and lives 30 minutes from barcelona. he spent most of his childhood here, including 4 years at a local school. could they either on the, on the for a long time i just thought bullying was normal. you know, that goes to quincy. if you experience it for a long enough, if you start to believe everything they say about, you know, ethan. so it took me a long time, for example, to be able to look my girlfriend in the i. so 1st and then there was the terrible fear of the social situation. life isn't that the fear of giving a presentation, appearing in front of lots of people in different policy blocks. i panicked at the clock that someone might make eye contact with me, so we don't have to be spoke on the

every day. he still walks past his old school his memories of that time are extremely painful. the 1st time you look for can see the movie. i never knew the reason why they leave me alone. all they want it was to give me a hard time because of my i hope because of the way i looked. yeah. but it's ok, but that's why they singled me out together. i can assist in my last years here at this school were physically the most difficult. when on the last my support this, i don't know if he's a comment hockey method on that they threw me down the stairs, thinking about them, they rammed dependent to my handle and then into my net, or nobody thought they'd be, be right there in that building said the sink and the gymnasium, confusing. he and i remember they surrounded me so i couldn't get away any, any more people this. how are you asking me about that image is still fresh in my

mind. nothing. what will you be? so why don't we 1st come to my memories of this place are terrible. brain was born with strip business, where the eyes don't properly aligned. it's since been corrected, but the harm he suffered as a result of the boeing still affects him today. because there are people who unconsciously react and looked behind them as they passed by me for just a 2nd. that just really hurts me because i know they've noticed something going on with my eye and that has an effect you meant for someone to see brian change schools 3 time on. but the bullying never stopped. he got support from close friends and his parents, but not from the school itself. and i would like it a big daughter to stop the bullying. the director of one of my schools advise me just to get back to defend myself. we see that based on the focus wasn't on talking about it. when he gets of the situation. he favored more regression. be over

talking to the level of brian saw power listened, alone played by self doubt. and he assumed he was somehow to blame. a typical response i can well you don't see feeling that may be thought, why go to a place where they be be up instead of me and threatened me. but i don't know if it just didn't make sense. fun with that is under that kind of psychological stress. you end up thinking. i ended up thinking that the best thing would be for me to take my own life near the house. the foundation bullying seemed frontera or bullying without borders. estimates $1.00 and $4.00 children are harassed at school, and cyber bullying continues outside of school. of the group says bullying kills $200000.00 children and teenagers worldwide. each year. the

2 years ago, jose manuel lopez and maria jose lopez lost their daughter kira. they're convinced that it was bullying at school that drove their daughter to her to the well, if you don't get over that, you can't work through the death of your child. it's in comprehensible. i don't know if the we will react differently to me. the photos are like is that i can now breathing. and i looked at a photo and it takes me back, allowing me to relieve those moments. momentos. i remember how sexy we were see the. we was so lucky to have a daughter like kira. oh no. the

this is, this is my daughter q as room to be will is i say hello to her every day in the morning and the evening. if we buy cookies or other things that she liked, we put them here for her. so you still are going, this is her nicholas. she wasn't wearing it and all the photos since, because she didn't fit in at school. if this happens now, she fits into a small earn credit and that's how it is. my beautiful daughter is no more than was telling me that sometimes i speak about her in the present tense, sometimes in the past. so she's still there. whom do you

pay? if i had to choose between my life now and never having had keira, i would still have chosen to have had keira on may 19th, 2021. kira took her own life. they found her in the stairwell. she was 15 years old. okay. yeah, i see now, let's see. i think she was trying to protect us at the end. they put the 102 way of doing that was not to tell us everything that was happening to be able to, i guess, to see if she could cope with it. so i think something must have happened during that final day. can you never know what it was good for a better time was kind of when she just couldn't bear it any longer. you know, put on us know they blamed here a school clay here,

padre amount of ed in barcelona, where they say she suffered severe bullying. as parents, they contacted the teachers repeatedly, asking them to put a stop to the bullying. back in 2019, they sent this letter to the school detailing years of suffering. stacey, right? some early childhood. she was called names and left out for maybe she suffered both psychological and physical abuse when the literacy and when they told her she would die next week. to collect the data. yeah. when they pushed her down the stairs, when the levia, when they pass off the pony child and all who in the classroom in the data. and when they destroyed her school bags called her names and loss to every day of the spain, schools are required to record all cases of bullying. there's a fixed procedure for when and how schools are required to act. and when bullies

have to be reported here is parents say like many, they underestimated how quickly bullying can escalate. basic years time here was marked by systematic oppression and exclusion. enabling the school will not be was absolute. health required procedure was not as he had to. i don't understand his failure procedure. they say changing schools wasn't an option for kira. then during the pandemic, the classes were divided up into groups, and keira was separated from her friends. they asked if their daughter could switch groups, but say the school rejected the request. us and obviously they told kira that she was the problem. can they tell us, is that a game in the game friday? she was the one that needed to learn to integrate into the cloths. kira died believing that she didn't fit in because that's what she was told at school every time we complained about bidding jose willis and she said good bye to his friends

who she was very fond of. she wasn't a lonely child, but they convinced her she was even though that wasn't a problem. for a teenager, that's a terrible thing. so, but oh no less than this w. 9 days after care is death, an email appeared in the school app on her phone. it was sent from a computer at her school. the subject line was death. the message di i've seen other than the and the police found out it was a student from her class, but the boy just said he sent the e mail by mistake for you. i wrote you personally, i don't believe that we don't have any. what's going on with central research suggested that it was a kind of bullying that continues even after death. the school denies all wrong doing. in tears case, they say there is no evidence she was bullied, and therefore no connection between events that happened at the school and her decision to commit suicide. curious case shock to the country in her local area,

graffiti and posters, so serve as a constant reminder the spain has a bullying problem, the worst and all of europe, according to the group bullying without borders. akira school still more cases have been reported to maria. jose lopez is on the way to see her neighbor, carmen. yep. s. she's opened a new boutique in the area. maria wants to find out how carmen's daughter is doing . she goes to the same school is kierra and was reportedly also bullied. herman keeps precise records of every thing her daughter has experienced at school writing e mails, keeping a diary and notes. and she's reported it to the authorities. this one on this, these phone is these. these are reports of panic attacks. so and these are all the emails that i found the see that this was somebody else give me

a few. i wrote down every day with this. something bad happens c o with and nothing happened. oh, the bullying experienced by her daughter was apparently so bad. carmen reported the perpetrator to the police, even though he's a minor. so like other parents, she says the atmosphere in the school promotes rivalry, and bullying is accept them and it's exactly the same. putting the same story. 2 bedrooms. yes. they tell the school about the physical and psychological abuse that the daughter is suffering in. the school just denies that to be sick. a says the door for was the problem and they refused to do anything about. is he not the kind of, i don't know, i knew the color cordell's. carmen appealed directly to the education authority that up to the pressure on the school. and the case was beneficially documented since then things have ease somewhere. but the experience has left her daughter suffering from depression and,

and eating disorder. she's receiving psychological treatment. after the death of their daughter, kira all jose manuel and maria jose could do was filed a lawsuit in the criminal proceedings that followed they in the birth luna, city council appeared as joint plaintiffs. but in the trial, the district court ruled that it couldn't be established beyond doubt that the school either as an institution or individuals at the school drove keira to commit suicide. the case was discontinued and then in october 2022 here, his parents appealed against that decision and the case was passed to the regional court. but just sitting around and waiting was too difficult. instead, jose manuel began working to protect other families from the same fate, to joint forces with the parents of children who have been bullied to try to establish an anti bullying law that provides better protection for children. they

collected 230000 signatures and met with the spanish education minister, but twice as many signatures are needed to initiate legislation. the my daughter has died is my major a promise and i owe it to her to keep that promise. i won't give up. not till we're done until justice is done. the funny way i have to keep going. it's what's keeping me alive. yes, i owe her that sort of liver. to roy. he's planning to take part in a demonstration, calling for a nationwide anti bullying law. one of the organizers is brian, who he's arranged to meet the fellow there. how are you a good that? hi. how are you? the document. okay. so the ones when i lane so that wasn't specifically want to law against bullying and schools that weren't binding for the entire country casual for

you. or do we have to insist on that? and we will get the political leaders to listen to us. i know we can get this past, i'm confident of it. they want a set of rules for following up on cases that applies to every school and every part of speech. because the education system is failing so badly, we need to make sure these cases are seen and the action is taken. but we have a long fight ahead of us going through that more time. when i get the next stop for brian is a school near barcelona. once again raising awareness of how serious bullying is he's accompanied by the catalonia and police as he gets booked for courses like this once or twice a week. his goals are prevention and understanding, both the victims and the perpetrators are children. brian encourages the victims of bullying to speak out, but only 10 percent dare to raise the alarm. see?

yes, quite a bit. starting in the 4th grade, they started saying mean things to me. i am. so you see i have a problem and have epilepsy. and they started saying things like, oh you poor thing, for example, for they started talking behind my back. it's been handled since a service, you know, but it's still happened providing adequate support for the children and combating bullying. works better in some schools than others. it's up to the school to create a climate where bullying can't take root the color, do you send em and goal in on dora books, brian regularly for workshops. they can't emphasize enough how

dangerous bullying can be given. and when family is very bad about the test, she'll need more time than adults to work through it. once the some sense guys remains, i gotta simply call them cuz basic make sure that no one in the house school ever suffers from this corner. but don't mean that you're not going to want to friend or classmates. let me go and do you need to be really, really, really observant? maria joseph pascal is convinced the workshops are having a positive effect. she's been running the school for 3 years now. she has 20 years of experience as a teacher and psychologist she says that bullying exists in every school and that it's important to put a stop to it right from the start. because once it takes root, it's almost impossible to stop most definitely because so the basic approach is to ensure that the students, teachers, and other stuff

a paying attention. when could they be there? every incident that arouses suspicion has to be put on record and most. we also do our best to teach empathy. we can't allow any student to you to be treated badly. no, nope. i say model. she says that every school has critical areas that are difficult to monitor like locker rooms, bathrooms and stairwells. so calls are growing in spain for more video surveillance and schools to better protect children. like many schools, this one has installed cameras for the outside, but they're not currently authorized indoors. so if there's less outcome or is need to be the students and the teachers themselves, enough and the she wants the school to be a respectful environment that strengthens children's social skills. a place that

teaches every child to celebrate their uniqueness. rather than being ashamed of it, the the meanwhile, jose manuel lopez is on his way to a meeting with his lawyer. the regional court has rejected their appeal. they need to discuss what to do next. the, their lawyer, powell and our bona is not giving up. legally, their only option now is to pursue a civil case. i don't know. there's nothing of hard evidence to pin it down. so i thought, you know, send a fax to preschool bullying for a criminal case. a sample for school. i mean,

they've been out they've waited more than 18 months for our court ruling. the new trial could take up to 2 more years to put the so if you can, we demand compensation here. my wants a maximum, but i mean, not for myself. see if i know if we win anything, i'll donate to charity video something either, but wasn't ultimately the children aren't to blame either. they're just the children because nobody's someone needs to be accountable for the mistakes that were made. because after everything that happened to my daughter is dead, and that has to have consequences here. legal expert jordy, neeve of renewal has followed care his case from the start. he says, bullying is always difficult to prove in a criminal case and believes civil proceedings have a greater chance of success. and on the, on the, for the civil case, all the parents can expect this money. nothing more. because there's a one not, of course that's not just us, but at least it's something solid going on. and perhaps more importantly, that can cause the school to take better measures in the future to prevent such

things from happening. what is provided that the school is indeed found to bear responsibility? 70 west, i suppose. i suppose he points out that cure his case has attracted nationwide interest. he believes that even though the criminal case has been discontinued for now, it will continue making waves. they don't issue or not really, it doesn't mean that something might not turn up in the future, but it's so that's what a court order to professional discontinuation. they look on otherwise. if it had been believed that nothing more could be found, the proceedings would have been closed definitively leave it in a letter sent to all parents, the school presented the situation somewhat differently. it said the proceedings were concluded. and so it was x that i knew that same start a letter from the school states that the investigations have been permanently concluded to go through this kind. it's not true, the court said exactly the opposite of the thing that i will save you. the version portrayed by the school was also spread by parts of the spanish media. in

may 2023. it was time for the protest around $350.00 people march through barcelona . among the many who had lost or almost lost a child, at least or grandson, they marched together with brian. he met and jose manuel a little password to the seat of the cattle and government where they delivered their message to the education minister. is to come by and look at the photos this can't be allowed to continue. if you're not capable of doing anything make way for someone who is their pain has turned to anger. the regional school authority is remaining silent. unwilling to reveal if the bullying protocol applies to cure his case, to the general director responsible for the area on a cheat, feebler is remaining tight lipped, claiming the criminal cases on going,

even though it's been provisionally discontinued. because i told them before this case is an a criminal investigation. so we can't discuss any details. the authority is also said to have investigated the case and found the school was not in any way responsible for care and stuff. jose manuel and maria jose miss kira every day as they feel they've been left to fight on their own . they no longer expect any support not from the regional school authority and certainly not from the school itself. bryan says only when government and society gets serious about tackling bullying. well, he's stopped fighting. he believes there's still a long way to go. something he regularly discusses at his hometown radio station without. hi, how's it going? let's get started then to be that it's a lot to me is that the most important thing to me is to encourage victims of

bullying not to keep quiet, but to reach out for helping them get okay. because what most often kills is the staying silent, and then it's the hiding and feeling small. i think it's up on it's not for united because that's what gradually shuts you down and consumes you. ok? i said, i want to ask your dad and your mom, your teacher, i can't for other people for the help that you need. and that is how you like it to him. if he does in a similar course or the it's the 1st warm evening of the year and the beaches are filling up in martha luna lopez family came here often walking along the beach together degree for their daughter. kira comes and goes, the nature of their priest might change,

but it never goes away. they hold on to precious memories. like these, the she had such a love to the beach, young one. in this, the 1st rays, sunshine appeared intricate. he asked the 1st thing she wants to do, since she was this morning, was to get her feet would get off the beach was a source of joy for her on summer was the time she enjoyed it. the most b choose kiera. the heres parents can't just remain still, they support each other. electronic the tv is launching

a civil proceedings is the right way to go. the right way to help the school, the parents of bullies and the authorities to account as i know, we will not let this go. so if you want to see they need to pay for the damage. we don't want to just assume because of my daughter's death cannot have been insane. but let me find a way to get out of my list. here is never, far from their minds. her death has shaken many in spain and drawing attention to a previously unseen danger. how bullying can destroy lives, the

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