multitasking steve, the modern man, because if we do too much, we paid it all wrong. we mess things up, risking brain damage. so let's stop this self sabotage, humans and multitasking watch. now on youtube, v. w documentary, the hello and welcome to the 77 percent. my name is edith commodity and i'm coming to you from the heart of ne ruby in the special edition of the 77 percent. we're going to talk about love relationships. and of course, talked break. we'll find out what attracts people to each of us with nice, that's especial spock. we'll hear how fox says like money and power planes relationship and well the reason

is i know who wants people to express themselves most of your sexual orientation. so we know that money can complicate things in a partnership like when love or sex are used as an exchange for money. we're talking here, of course about splunk says, black says or so the mommies and daddies. so we want to stick a closer look at the blessed a bless the culture, specifically in south africa. and some young women opened up to us about the experience. i felt wondering though this next report discusses dependency and relationships and sexual violence. when she started his studies 23 year old in the plunder tumble from the widow was struck by the expensive looks clothing and excessive shopping. hestetler classmates enjoyed to friends with so cold sleigh queens who depend on richmond to maintain the last stop. they introduced her to her own less than

a wealthy married man who was more than 20 years senior to this c p we get the cd, right prostate. but the gifts did not come for free and tumble, soon discovered that she need to perform sexual status. this is when she started having 2nd thoughts, you know, like doing what do you want? this is kind of just felt like i was the invited into, i'm sorry, says, but type of prostitution. but then now i have to now make do with whatever just comes by just because of the the fact that she wants to slice that she wants. she wants soft lice, lavish, no luxurious,

a soft pull to struggle to survive in a society with money and how a concentrated in the hands of miss tumble is some man even believe money gives him the right to control a woman's freedom. 46 road modular villa kazi has 3 mistresses. he does not allow them to work, leave the house without his permission or are in a cell phone woman that easily tend to. so we need to control that. they need to be in your finger tips. here's a re i like for, for me i was really hot. i went to school so that they can have money as a tentative power. i can control and that is behavior not entirely undermined his girlfriend's right to self determination seems a little concerned to be the kazi, both he and his friend claim to pay that girlfriend's around 400 years each cuz people mock long ago. this is pure business. i mean, that's the whole point. so let me know what we,

what we do is we take care of women. then they what, what do we get into tennis? loved, that's all. that's all, nothing else. so your insights don't use the 6 um, being taken care of just someone making you feel special in a recent sound afternoon, health of a one in 10 young women reported to have had transactions that this is a massive problem that says also jackie, pulsing. we meet the also in an up market hotel in johannes, from what say as well known as the book, which spills the beans on the blessing and bless the culture so much say experience with fluid borders between transactional sets and she's been traveling to this hotel. yeah. i remember that

as a young girl, she ran away from a violent time and became involved with a very wealthy man, a few months into that relationship. he took the on a private to us with the politicians, businessman and mistresses, being trapped in the middle of the ocean. she had no choice but to enjoy being raped multiple times. it can be changed. it like this. in a hot, if administer wants to buy, you still buy you regardless of who you stating in the group. so even if you're dating the wall, is that in the group taken change, you also have business deals because administered after traumatizing. yes. i'm on the same manage to escape the garage, so the chief little girl wishing to merge the book, not her experience, is a warning that the world of glamour that we see on our phones and internet platforms is sometimes fun from the actual social media gives us an invasion of to

fix it, comforts that to be expected. and people will that, that solutions and you don't even know that just to get a headset district in front of us. what are the many other things you have to do? just for the one in the back in so which will be because he meets his girlfriend will be late tomorrow. he wants to buy her a new hand back, which is nice, but it's not early enough for the luxuries she has a baby and needs some money to buy the basic necessities to pay rent at. she's well aware of the dependency she fine so. so it's said that as young calls have to sleep with all the guys and pretend is this the old you okay with everything just because i don't hear chances of subs that you don't the 0 percentages of getting

a to do anything and everything to good. tell you what it says sits in time with a post credit economy in charges and then the unemployment rate of the 60 percent. the outlook for these young women is bleak. being blessed becomes a basic way of survival and the female body and objects that can be both and thought it. but of course not all relationships. so this complicated and well money often plays a role. it's all fine about simplifying, like who gets to pay for the bill and the dates. so we wanted to know what your experience as well and for this, we went to millennium fox, you know, just i split views and it comes to going no big deal. some guys the, the, i guess on the issue leg so much wrong. so this. yeah, yeah, look, well yeah,

so you're not able to provide for different times where you want to have more than you think the most expensive place and you want to go to and then by time you're going to, you can like this one is of rise on that i got, how much is good? i mean you are calculating your, you know, if you back home because it actually can afford the newest you to waynesville to someone. and i couldn't finish the food and it was like, you must finish. it tells me all right, it's like almost finished. you really nice ones because a red flag like how will you tell me i must finish conclude because this way more than bang i and i have no idea how it would be if somebody forced me to finish my would because they were paying for the bill but you know what dating aside, we also wanted to find out what attracts people to each other and what makes relationships work. so here's what you said. one thing that draws in sonya eve, i knew the picture like right on egypt as

a respect i. so i saw the she was bianca, it's the model. and basically i was just updating the scenario. i guess there was a huge increase of my life. she was always there for me just of what the need the time that i've never had such stuff was ever in my life. he's on this. let me just see on next to me. and when advisors role, he do apologize. that the most amazing part of it's really interesting to me. she was always a good sort of, i mean for doing this, you're about me, you're about me and even sure you're about money runaways. and when he asked me what that was like for that kind of that, why didn't you that can there are a 1000000 different ways to love. and who you choose to love should really only be a method for you and your partner much in life. this isn't always the case, your family friend, society and even national laws. can you tell me?

were you kind of cons, have an intimate relationship with, as well as, who are you kind of identify as i'm talking about the l g, b to q plus community? we still faces discrimination as well as defamation, and attack by both states and society all around africa. so let's start off by unpacking gender identity and sexual orientation and what the less essential we s o sip and relationship experts cause to break it down for us. hello there and welcome to the spread a safe space where we get to discuss everything, sex and relationships. today we have a question on gender and sexual diversity. the question reads take as, as a pass, i'm trying to be a better l g b t q plus ally. i'm finding it hard to understand all the new language around agenda sexuality in 6. is there a way you can simplify it for me? so i can better understand how to conduct myself in spaces where i meet diverse

groups. i'd really appreciate it. thanks. let's start by creating 3 boxes, biological or assigned sex, gender, and sexual orientation. each of these boxes has many subsections, but we'll focus on the most important points. the fast box. biological 6 is what the doctor use is to identify you at best. based on your genet tatum. yeah. most of the time it's either male or female, but there are also cases where one is born with both male and female genitalia, that person is known as into 6. the 2nd box is agenda. gender is a social construct. it's what society throws that you to place you in a binary box of either male or female. for example, the wells and the color pink are set to belong to only girls. where is trucks and the color blue are set to belong to only boys, but not everybody conforms to this agenda. binary gender identity comes from your in a sense of self and may not align with the sex that you are assigned at best. you could

be male, female, both neither or some other agenda. and this could mean for example, that you're not comfortable with the pronouns he or she and would rather be referred to as they or them. for example, the sandbox as sexual orientation. this has to do with the attraction that you have to a person based on their agenda, which can be romantic, emotional, or physical men. and women strictly attracted to the opposite agenda, a known as heterosexual. if you're attracted to some of the same gender, you could be homosexual. if you're attracted to someone regardless of their sex or gender identity, you could be pansexual. keep in mind that this really is just the tip of the iceberg. this so much more to learn about the l g b t q plus community. i hope this has been helpful and i do urge you to keep doing your research online. well informed allies like you are very important. that's it

for me, kaz till next time. good bye. thank you. okay. and if you're interested in learning more about special minorities or just indicates in yourself about sex on the body in general, you can have to instagram page where we have a series this has on just that. now here, return to sex between 2 people of the same gender is to punishable by law. this law has been in place is nice you sexy and results in sexual minorities being harassed and left with virtually no protection from police of the states. in january 2023, a young tenant question designed the l g. b. c. u activist edwin to lowball was to watching widespread, created the for communities. we spoke to some people who are still willing to speak up can yes l g b t q community is on a lot in january 2023 and went to law about a student fashion designer and kate rights activist,

was killed in the canyon town of l darn, it says project death sent shock waves through the community makeup artist dentist and gary felt the impact when, when the news fussed, can you know, like i was not sure what's happened and been and i was like, i really hope it's not about how he had things favor themselves as of late. there's been a lot of hits. um i've been receiving a lot of hips and lots of competitors on entering. everybody's telling me, you know, if you don't take care you end up like and doing dennis was always way that his sexual orientation was not accepted by society. but the online debate about edwin's death has to be generated into an empty out to b t q plus hate campaign. right now they, at the most face kind that changed people. i'm not sure of the safety of that's actually 2 of their sexual orientation. i'm going to, i walk place,

you can simply leaving the house can be a problem then not safe to go outside. you're not sure that shouldn't be safe unless you have security to batch the environment and they and the solution, right? and now inside of beats, run grab was intense. i need to take some time before we get back to our conflict. so if the government came in the lives of hips to add minority to groups, i feel like that's i, i, we feel protected. homosexuality. split a boot and canyon society. but in the life of edwin's death, the l. g, b, t q plus community and the allies, a once again calling for acceptance and the criminalization phase and lots of homophobia. these um, lots of hate sweats, people who was only hating because they exist at you know, they exist. that's it. um i leave,

i'm leaving. i'm jason. the most part so vast because the laws are very similar to those here in kenya. in nigeria, for example, one can get up to 14 years in prison meant for being gain, and in some parts of the country which are ruled by fleming. serial punishments even was nevertheless, there are a few brave people who are standing up for themselves. we meet one of them, the legal space, fashion design, daniel k, who is calling for more respect and acceptance. in conservative nigeria, sam, 6 relationships khattab, who is the host i well for the l g b t q class community like ocean team. and john daniel k has an idea to make it a little friendly with you and to see question brand concave apparel very much, and so just think about so. so in this coming is one of the reasons i hit the

scenario. as i'm done, we're going through so i hit one disrespect to discrimination on 3 oppression. so green up. i always been like bullied on all of that. so i go to read one i found out about to have always been a 1st time i have to stick up on myself. despite the ard, i think it's brand has been welcomed, especially in the l. g. b t q plus community. bold inscriptions like fan isn't weakness, gender, it's fluid. and we can be seen of happening, hung out around legal i think it's quite an innovative and inclusive brand. i've always had a hard time finding. the old stuff fits my agenda expression. but like with this bronze, it's always because i always find one called this time of one, my bronze out and it was sleep. i'm be like, my good. how do you maintain those students stuff and i'm like,

yes. so then there's soak on stuff in minnesota. it's, it's clear to anybody to kind of like, i mean this is in way if, if pushing isn't, is one for the, or the one for the on the thoughts, the need like switch something else sees upright. he's very, very clean from someone else's age. taking this course is really kind of society, really even always fun of things like this done. you runs on online store from his home. he reveals designs on his instagram page. clients can also request designs done. you know them gets across the country is to realize the outward before supervising the ceiling and grunting, experiencing hostility is part of the job, the vision say by the offensive, by some people just come on. and so my business page and just be like, hey, what's up, why are you doing this? is definitely is this again, it's good feel on what's on what's not on. what's the ever,

the thing people don't understand is my brand is not out for the, for those particular presence of my brand before it would, 10 for his friends and customers were having his clothes in steals a sense of pride. 5 was that also includes my son to ask what, while you're in something like this, what does this mean? does it is no right? but then i want to spend my piece of ignorance. so most of the time i see the need to keep them. what's things mean people find the scripts done by regional care? this is me on the line with the message. and while people like then you are fighting from one step to society. many people have their own relationship back to fights, big or small, like clearly and get you. there are kind of like julie and couple living right here and they will be. and while they knew they wanted to put together their families

and friends, well, they took a bit of convincing a narrow b is east of protest. melton port attracted residents from across the continent and beyond. but it couldn't. and capitals acceptance of diversity. that's not always the extent to motus of the heart at the beginning, these was very difficult when my wife go to places and in georgia is amazing and job. it was really low. they used to be very, which stereotype by k u. n. c o, you've come to can to see that our room on from aust coolant and get to a cross cultural relationship. maybe unusual. but like many young people love hosp, familiar applicants, please match what else to i think. yeah, i'll spring to 2 years. how is this fresh from school? he's sweet. talk to me and you know how you said a d t and talking and yeah, i liked his vibe. he liked by why he actually upfront. he told me you're going to

be the model of my kids from a best friends and family. the new couple was bought in love, connection was difficult to accept. i was now telling my friends to know these, that dating, you know, you know, telling a lot of people and then, you know, come often to, yeah, i met this guy, we've been seeing each other and i'm that she's named jane and really was sure they did what do you know about him while do you know his bucko? he'll review today. comments like these were full investigators get to somebody have long since accepted the west african kindle as a member of the fun. but i wasn't always the case when he told me like that i didn't know to wait and see what i can do to leave the as i say it's, i don't 13, anything about the i want you to see for us when he told me that jerry and i was like, what do they do and doing, can i know african go to america or you so that was for me and mind blowing.

another thing that to had was he's mostly okay. and mostly says christian. so he really stays going to, because of i know my sister, i really loved him. so i'm like, hey, we can become listening. eventually the couple chose to put aside the may see is but yet 1000 behind them the path for ahead to us. the said life blend the best of the different backgrounds included in the kitchen at the beginning is to cook a lot for sunday when like i'm visiting. please use to really see like cooking, you know, i guess best day that time he was trying to meet your legs. let me quote for you, my wife, he thought, and you know, to make this to visual of the fried rice over time. i've come to enjoy most of the guarantees. if i'm a guy the from mulkey mall from the low,

from a, from my to get everything. wherever you going from that is a video background, your cultural and you'll age what devices your type it's, it's possible he lets me be me and i let him be. she is walks for me perfectly. and we were just happy with when any of the end of the show, but we have one more issue to talk about so that i can break because liked it or not. that's how some relationship sends me the most. i mean, i can be alone in the show, you must have some experiences of your own. so let's hear them. but it may not be shown these items i may have worked out a little bit. i think i'm the one actually standing up. i'm the interested in the you've given me. yeah. and then they did

this as us. so you just need to go through them or you just have you read log. i basically read your wonderful uh, budgeting this with this thing. it says that a lot of the spots black the i will never forget because uh i invited him on uh which i wait for that particular piece which is for how for like a long as i show up. so i felt very, very glad the day that i believe i always never forget, i get all my trust able to take any for granted advantage of my head. because yes, i meant football. like if i go to the beach all perform well, like my guys are black. okay. what's wrong with you? that's why you why you know, for custody it was wrong or deep dive it out. well, yeah, i'm fine to me. actually, i'm on do my best. i didn't know i wasn't doing the writing on the beach. i did my

bride end of the i ended up losing sight. i didn't get a lot by giving you phone like my trust was taking for granted. so i just have to like, i excuse myself. other relationships them without body to us when this is, is a nice one not to keep in relationship 100 percent. again, opposite extreme to give me an order for me notes like will it be simple? just pick on time again, but i do have high speed and that brings us to the end of the show this week. if you have story is to share with us connected, also, social media, you can also write to us. so e mail is 7 to 7, the dw dot com, and subscribe to our youtube channel. we have you now with, you know, the do by now. a big too good. thanks for watching the uh your bills for the 1st

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